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Dr. Dem Mina Mamaat, RPsy , LPT, MS Psych, MAED

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CHILDREN ARE LIKE MONKEYS… MONKEY SEE, MONKEY DO.

VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN

“An act of gender-based violence that results in, or is likely to result in, physical, sexual, or psychological harm or suffering to women, including threats of such acts, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in public or in private life. It encompasses all forms of violation of women's rights, including threats and reprisals, exploitation, harassment, and other forms of control.”

STATISTICS

SINO SI GABRIELLA?

SINO SI DIEGO SILANG?

INSIGHT FROM THE FILM?

VIOLENCE KNOWS NO GENDER.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention have released a new report in regard to schoolyard bullies; kids that bully at school may actually be experiencing family violence once they get home.

ISSUES AND FACTS ABOUT VIOLENCE The Violence Study says that: • Violence against children is never right. • Violence against children can be prevented. • Adults are responsible for upholding children’s right to protection.

CHILDREN AND YOUNG PEOPLE EXPERIENCE VIOLENCE IN FIVE DIFFERENT SETTINGS OR PLACES

• At home

• In schools or educational settings

• In institutions such as orphanages and children’s homes; and in prisons or other detention centers

• In the workplace

• In the community.

REASONS WHY MUCH VIOLENCE REMAINS HIDDEN • FEAR: Many children are afraid to report violence, especially if the person who has hurt them is more powerful and could harm them again.

• STIGMA: Children may be afraid that if others know about the violence, they will be blamed or isolated.

• BELIEFS ABOUT VIOLENCE: Sometimes violence is seen as a ‘normal’ way of dealing with things.

REASONS WHY MUCH VIOLENCE REMAINS HIDDEN • IT IS NOT REPORTED: Sometimes children and adults do not trust the authorities, or sometimes there are simply no authorities to go to when violence should be reported.

• IT IS NOT RECORDED: Even if violence is reported, there is often no record kept, so that no one knows about the problem.

WHAT TYPES OF VIOLENCE TAKE

´ VIOLENCE AGAINST VERY YOUNG CHILDREN: This can cause long-term health problems and even death. For example, people may not realise that shaking a baby can lead to brain injury or death.

´ PHYSICAL VIOLENCE: Most physical violence against children does not lead to death or long-term injury. It is often used to try to make children behave. Harsh treatment and punishment occurs all over the world. But children say they would rather be disciplined without physical or humiliating punishment.

´ EMOTIONAL VIOLENCE: Often families use emotional violence as well as physical violence to punish children. Insults, name-calling, threats, isolating or rejecting a child are all forms of violence.

´ NEGLECT: This means that families do not make sure that children have everything they need to grow up safely and healthily, and do not protect them from dangers. Girls and disabled children are most at risk of neglect.


´ SEXUAL VIOLENCE: Children are forced to have sex, harassed or touched in ways that make them feel uncomfortable, mostly by men and boys in their families.

´ EARLY MARRIAGE: 82 million girls across the world get married before they reach the age of 18. Many are much younger and are forced to marry older men. They may then face violence, including forced sex.


´ HARMFUL TRADITIONAL CUSTOMS: Some traditional customs involve violence against children,

for example:

• female genital mutilation (cutting girls’ sexual parts).

• scarring, branding, burning and other painful ways of decorating the body.


´ DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: Many children witness domestic violence in their homes, usually violence between parents.

u Such violence can affect how children feel, how they develop and how they deal with other people throughout their lives.

u Where there is violence against women in a family, also there is often violence against the children.


PSYCHE!

WHAT FACTORS LEAD TO A “VIOLENT BEHAVIOR”

AGGRESSION refers to a range of behaviors that can result in both physical and psychological harm to yourself, others, or objects in the environment.

This type of behavior centers on harming another person either physically or mentally.

It can be a sign of an underlying mental health disorder, a substance use disorder, or a medical disorder.

Aggression can take a variety of forms, including: ´ Physical ´ Verbal ´ Mental ´ Emotional

TYPES OF AGGRESSION

IMPULSIVE AGGRESSION

´ Also known impulsive aggression is characterized by strong emotions, usually anger.

´ This form of aggression is not planned and often takes place in the heat of the moment.

EX: When another car cuts you off in traffic and you begin yelling and berating the other driver, you're experiencing impulsive aggression.

TYPES OF AGGRESSION INSTRUMENTAL AGGRESSION:

Also known as instrumental aggression is marked by behaviors that are intended to achieve a larger goal.

Instrumental aggression is often carefully planned and usually exists as a means to an end.

EXAMPLE: Hurting another person in a robbery or car-jacking is an example of this type of aggression.

Factors That Can Influence Aggression BIOLOGICAL FACTORS:

´ Men are more likely than women to engage in physical aggression.

´ While researchers have found that women are less likely to engage in physical aggression, they also suggest that women do use non-physical forms, such as verbal aggression, relational aggression, and social rejection.

Factors That Can Influence Aggression ENVIRONMENTAL

FACTORS:

´ How you were raised may play a role.

´ People who grow up witnessing more forms of aggression are more likely to believe that such violence and hostility are socially acceptable.

Factors That Can Influence Aggression

´ PHYSICAL FACTORS: Epilepsy, dementia, psychosis, alcohol abuse, drug use, and brain injuries or abnormalities can also influence aggression.

What to do if you are a victim of a violent person?

HOW TO DEAL WITH VIOLENCE

It’s not your fault. ´ People who are abused often

downplay the situation.

´ They “normalize” the abuse and think that their experience is normal, or that it’s their fault.

´ Do not accept, deny, normalize the situation, or blame yourself.


“IT ONLY HAPPENED ONCE” IS NOT AN EXCUSE.

´ Once is one time too many.

´ When someone becomes abusive, that means he/she has lost control of his/her better senses.

´ There’s no telling when he/she will flare up again.

´ If you witnessed an abusive act, this is worse as it means that the abuse has probably been going on for a while. Report it right away.


Stop wearing a mask. Tell someone.

´ Tell someone about your pain. This person can be anyone you trust — your friend, relative, colleague, neighbor, family.

´ Just talking to someone can give you clarity and the power to act on the situation.


CALL THE POLICE.


´ CALL A DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE.


´ LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP.

One can stop the seemingly endless cycle.

C ULTIVATING A CULTURE OF PEACE

“Be the change you want to see in the world.”

Mahatma Mohandas Gandhi ~1869-1948~

SOME PRINCIPLES OF NON-VIOLENCE BY MOHANDAS GANDHI

As long as people accept exploitation, both exploiter and exploited will be entangled in injustice but once the exploited refuse to accept the relationship, refuse to cooperate with it, they are already free.


A person and his/her deeds are two distinct things. Hate the sin but not the sinner.


“Non-violence is more powerful for converting the opponent and opening his ears which are otherwise shut to voice of reason.”

“Two wrongs will not make one right.”


Resolving and Transforming Conflict

Empowering women by inculcating PEACE

Speak softly Speak sweetly


Choose to be kind rather than to be right.


One of the prime purpose in life is to people.

IF you cannot help them, at least do not hurt them.

Dr. Dem Mina Mamaat, RPsy , LPT, MS Psych, MAED

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