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Young MovesThe Magazine For GAME CHANGERS
Volume 1, Issue 8
FEBRUARY 2020
Love, the Indian Way
Affair & After
Valentine’s Day???
EDITORIAL BOARD
PHOTOGRAPHERS
INSPIRATION
Shri Guru Pawan Sinha Ji
EDITORIAL ADVISOR
Dr. Kavita Asthana
Dinesh NishadAditya Ojha
EDITORIAL COORDINATOR
Palak Aggarwal
Mayank Vij Abhishek Sharma
GRAPHICS
Navita Ahuja
YOUNG MOVES
A magazine for Future Leaders, World Peace, Culture and Development
YOUNG MOVES
A magazine for Future Leaders, World Peace, Culture and Development
August 2019 Volume 1February 2020 Volume 1
Kripi Singh
ILLUSTRATOR
03Ignited PensValentine’s Day???
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Ignited PensAffair & After 10
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Game ChangerDynamic Diksha Deo
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RecipeHara Chana Mithai
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02Editorial
All about LOVE
ContentContent
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Ignited PensLove & Health
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Rishikulshala
Ae Mere Watan Ke LogonShiv & Mahashivratri
Ignited PensEmotions of Love
Ignited PensPolitics of Love 15
18Ignited PensBiology of Love
26YAM ConnectsFriends from Denmark
31Ignited PensMarriage; The Cause of Divorce 35
Ignited PensLove, the Indian Way
Ignited Pens Love in Teens;
What Youth thinks about Love?
Palak AggarwalEditorial coordinator
Editorial
All About LOVE...
We are in the middle of the “Month of Love” as per Americans and as youth says, “Love is in the air.” Taking this Love forward, we at Young Moves will be exploring different aspects of Love in this issue. The experience of working on this edition is very different from all previous editions because this time, Love and how different people think about it created a sort of revelation for us. We hope the same journey for all our readers who are in for a rollercoaster-like journey of Love in this issue.
In recent times, India saw an increase in the craze towards American Valentine's Day and there has been a rise in the commercial value attached to it. There are big hoardings and clever marketing techniques to promote the product used during “Love week.” We wanted to know if something similar happens around the world and got opinions on the same. So, the first article is on the traditions of Valentine's Day in different countries around the world. What follows next is a compilation of the opinions of youth on Love and what they think of it. We further discuss the goofy love affairs of teenage and consequent breakups in the article 'Affairs & After.' We further bring different aspects of Love like Politics, Biology and Emotions of Love in order to see how Love works in different contexts. This is followed by insight from two budding psychologists about how Love affects one's mental health. The issue also covers the causes of Divorce in the marriages these days and finally, explains Love, the Indian Way.
This time we interviewed a young inspiration, DikshaDeo who has worked extensively in the field of computer science and hardware. She is an Exceptional Woman of Excellence 2019 felicitated by Women Economic Forum. This issue also uncovers some facts about Shiv since the festival of Mahashivratri is around.
The issue brings forth opinions of people from different fields, belonging to different parts of the globe and with different opinions. They all come together on the common ground of “Love.”
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Editor's Note: All of us would have heard something like “Love is in the air” around this week. All of us would have seen excessive advertisements around Love, chocolates, flowers etc. Well, a lot of people, especially youngsters, celebrate Valentine's Day in India. We were curious about the celebration of this day in other parts of the world and so, the team of Young Moves conversed with people around the world about Valentine's Day.
Valentine's Day???Compilation by: Palak Aggarwal
Cardiff (South Wales)-Sunny Lewis
I'm from Wales and we don't really celebrate Valentine's Day, instead, we celebrate St. Dwynwen's Day on the 25th of January. It's pretty low-key, we just tell our partners how much we love them and maybe give them a gift or bake something for them. It's just one day of celebration. That too, it's very
low-key. We don't have seven days of celebration.
Nice, France-Emilie Corsiero
We d e f i n i t e l y c e l e b r a t e Valentine's Day. From flower shops to bigger stores, we see "Promo St Valentin" with cute gifts "for her/him". And the closer we are from the D day, the more we see these decorations. But in my opinion, people seem to be less concerned about Valentine's Day, the traditions are
to offer flowers/chocolates to your beloved and it is a good motivation to eat outside. But it seems like people of my age (20) aren't much stressed about it.
Vinay Kakkar in conversation with European friends
Due to the nature of my profession (Travel business), I speak to many Europeans about it and all of them say that it's not their culture. This has come from America just like Halloween, Thanksgiving and other days which are slowly being marketed to get infused with local culture and become part of it and start getting celebrated as festivals. So, the multinational brands which run flower shops or confectionary/chocolate shops are doing promotional activities to infuse this in Europe as well.
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Pennsylvania, USA-Courtney
The ideal Valentine's Day for most people here is to go on a date with their significant other. They give each other flowers, cards, chocolates, and spend time together. Many people who do not have a significant other can be seen posting things online about being single and/or being sad, but other single folks like to go out with friends and family to simply spend time together. Of course, there are people who just ignore the holiday and go on with their day, but everybody knows about Valentine's Day whether they celebrate it or not.
Dubai, UAE-Tripti & Saurabh Maheshwari
Dubai, the world's tourism capital, offers Valentine's Day activities ranging from inexpensive getaways to exquisite dinners under the most romantic set-ups to a yacht ride to live musical performances or concerts. As the city houses people from more than 200 nationalities, the options for them are equally diverse
and rich in experience. For instance, a romantic candle-light dinner with your loved one under the sky with panoramic and serene views at high-end restaurants and hotels or on a private yacht ride can easily cost anywhere between $500-$1,000. Some places also offer match-making activities for singles. On the other hand, there's also a recreational centre that offers an Anti-Valentine's day package which allows you to smash things such as glasses, TVs with your ex's name on it or any gifts which were given to you by them.
However, in our opinion, the celebration of love shouldn't be limited to one single day. It should be appreciated even in the smallest of gestures in our daily life. Moreover, it should not simply be confined to your partner but extended to love in all forms which include family and friends. We also believe that this day is promoted solely as part of the marketing and sales strategy so that gifts and other romantic activities can be charged at elevated prices.
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New York State-Scarlett
I would say Valentine's Day is one of the bigger commercial holidays we have. There are hearts and flowers in almost every store you go in. I'm sure for some people, it's an excuse to show someone you love and you care about. For example, my parents usually go on a date every year, and such. Personally, my viewpoint is fairly limited, since I've never had a relationship, but Valentine's Day is also infamously seen as a day where everyone feels bad about being single. Most of what I hear about Valentine's day from friends is them whining and feeling sorry for being alone.
Shreya Upadhyaya in conversation with friends from Denmark
Valentine's Day is an American concept and isn't popular in Denmark. It is not considered to be the basis for the commitment in relationships. It is rather a Joke or hype in the market, which provides the flower sellers, bakers and gift
shops an opportunity to mint money. Such ignorance is bliss. The people in Denmark are unaware of the existence of such days. The advertising, media houses also use it as a way to earn by using attractive posters in shops, thereby creating an economic dependence on the day. The belongingness to a nation where earning and individualism begins at an early age, there is hardly an attraction towards such hype in the market, as there isn't any rationality and logic in the concept. The trip to India seems to be an entry into the upside-down world where things differ a lot, people get fantasized by such imaginary concepts.
Georgia-Srijamya
Georgia, country which potrays the love of nature, celebrates the day of love, valentine's day with full enthusiasm. The day of love can be seen celebrated not only among youngsters but also in adults. The acceptance of love is celebrated with "cha-cha," Georgian pomance brandy. The modern capital of Georgia, Tbilisi, is more felt to be fallen in love on this day. The "peace bridge" spreads more peace and love between couples. The "sulfur bath" in old Tbilisi is more crowded with couples for relaxation bath. The whole city of Tbilisi celebrates the day of love with a big fireworks on the top hill park "Mtatsminda park". The "chocolate fair" and "bouquet fair" is remarkable place to visit during the week of love for finding world's best chocolates and flowers from round the world. Last, but not the least, all the acceptance of proposals are celebrated with fun and merriment with the Georgian d a n c e " K i n t o u r i " a n d "shalakho". There are other forms of Georgian dance which portrays different emotions and stories.
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Rajni Goswami in conversation with Niwa and Yoshimi- Valentine's Day in Japan
Rajni: What do you think about Valentine's Day? When did it start in Japan or was it always celebrated there?Yoshimi: It started during the 1960s as a campaign for a chocolate manufacturing company. The company encouraged women to buy chocolates to give away. It wasn't very popular in those days. Around 20 years later, in1980s, it became popular with women giving chocolates to men. It is more popular among teenagers, especially Junior High schools and elementary schools, where the girls gift chocolates to boys. Miwa: Basically, a woman prepares some chocolates. She also prepares a letter.
Yoshimi: Yes, she prepares chocolates and a love letter, proposing the man to marry her. The man doesn't have to respond immediately.Miwa: There's something called “White Day,” exactly a month later.Yoshimi: Yes, the man waits till 14th March when he can respond positively or negatively to the woman's proposal of marriage.Miwa: On the White day, the man gifts the woman--- like a return gift.Yoshimi: The man usually gives some cookies or marshmallows on White Day. If he doesn't accept the woman's proposal of marriage, he will refuse that day. However, he will still have to give some gift on 14th March. So this is Valentine day's culture in Japan.However, mothers also give chocolate to their sons, sisters to their brothers and daughters to their fathers because they are males. A mother's main concern is how many chocolates her teenage son has got. She gets worried if her son doesn't get chocolates. However, if he gets many chocolates, she's very happy. There are two kinds of chocolates---- favourite chocolates and duty chocolates. While favourite chocolates are only for lovers, duty chocolates are for friends, brothers, sons, fathers and co-workers.Rajni: Do you just celebrate for one day or you have one-week-long celebrations?Yoshimi: No! It's only on one day, just Valentine day, in Japan.Rajni: Do the women just buy chocolates or make them.Yoshimi: If the woman really loves a man, she will definitely make the chocolates herself and present them to her lover along with a long love letter to propose for marriage. Recently, the feeling of the festival is changing. For example, a man has to give double the value of the chocolates he receives. If he receives chocolates worth 1000 Yen, he has to give cookies worth 2000 Yen on White Day. The woman is gradually becoming greedy. I think it's very unfair on a man to give double the value. Many Japanese males have started considering this as sexual harassment because they have to pay double. The woman can also give to her co-workers at the office. Then the men give a gift on White Day, 14th March. It depends on the case. Sometimes they get together and give a collective gift to the woman or sometimes give individual gifts. Rajni: You mean to say the men are apprehensive of this day? Is it okay for a man to refuse after a month?Yoshimi: Yes, because some women have the intention of extracting more and the men despise it. And, it's perfect to refuse the woman's proposal even after a month but he certainly has to gift. Recently, a trend has started where a woman gives chocolates to a woman friend. Rajni: Does a man, too, give chocolates to a man on White Day? Yoshimi: It's a very rare case but a woman giving to a woman is becoming popular. Rajni: Do the people go overboard in celebrating the Day? Yoshimi: Not so much: But the place looks more like Christmas Day with the colour red being used everywhere. That's how Valentine's Day is celebrated in Japan.
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Irvine, CA, USA-Prajal Trivedi
Valentine's Day in America means more than just celebrating with your significant other. In school, kids celebrate this day with other kids and their teacher. They exchange Valentine day cards with each other, and present gifts like chocolates cookies and cupcakes to their teacher as well! Even Adults celebrate this day with their closest people, exchanging similar cards which would have cute and small messages like 'You're the
best mom!' or 'You're the sweetest grandpa!'. A heart-shaped box of chocolates is also a typical gift. When it comes to celebrating with your significant other, bookings are made very early, like a month ago. This includes restaurants, experiences and holidays. Gifts depend on the seriousness of the relationship, anything from chocolates and small jewellery to rings! Importantly, people have fun. People often celebrate this day with their pets too. It is a day to celebrate our appreciation of the important beings in our lives!
Editor's Note: After comments and insights from such diverse lots of people, belonging to different parts of the world and different professions, it became clear that the level of commercialisation of such days that is persistent in India is nowhere else to be seen. It's easy to bring in such days and festivals in India where the youth of the country easily accepts them in the name of modernity. This becomes more problematic when we accept other traditions but reject our own in the name of modernity. Our festivals have their own reasons and scientific logic behind their celebration, they aren't just some baseless days of celebration. It is our responsibility as the youth of the country to find reasons behind things and then accept or reject them. It is also our utmost duty to preserve our culture and celebrate it.
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Our parents grew up singing this and now, thanks to a remix, our generation is also singing along with this tune while also being dramatic about Love. When it comes to love, Bollywood has built high expectations and unrealistic dreams in the hearts of teenagers and youngsters. A majority of them have watched at least one typical romance drama and have hoped for something similarly dramatic in their lives. The thrill and the emotions of love, as shown in movies, are enough to make anyone drool in love.
Love puts rose-tinted glasses on everyone who falls in it and changes the way one perceives things around. The world is painted in pinks and reds and there's love everywhere in the air. It's the time when one's beloved is the only person existing in the world. It's the time when one can't stop their goofy smile from reappearing on their face. It's the time when the dreams and stories of their beloved keep them occupied. It's the time when one's playlist is full of love songs to be played on repeat. It's the time when one feels lonely when their beloved isn't around. And, this is what Gen Z calls “Love.”
What begins as a “feel good” exchange of glances, chats and smiles, lovey-dovey Bollywood music, butterflies in the stomach and that ever-lasting, dreamy smile on the face moves on to long sessions of overnight chats, cute dates, raging hormones, closeness, developing trust, bonding, physical gratification and ultimately turns into a nightmare of a breakup. This wasn't what you expected! Right? It
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was going in such a smooth and lovely manner. Why even talk about breakup or any such negative thing? This is because it is the reality. The world doesn't work on the principles of Bollywood. Not all stories are with a fairytale-like happy ending in this world.
The tough times that we're living in, with technology at our disposal and thousands of distractions available to divert our minds, the lives of teenagers and youth have become very lonely and superficial. Sometimes, the extent of this superficiality is such that everything a person does is to post on Instagram. Some of our lives have become limited to only that visible on social media. This creates a kind of pressure of performance on our generation, where we have to be up-to-date, trendy and “cool.” This includes having the perfect outfit, perfect skin, perfect car, perfect accessories, perfect room, perfect house and even a perfect partner. The pressure of performing a perfect life is such that people have forgotten how to live happy and satisfying lives and they are just running behind the lives on display. The need to have an affair with someone of your age is a part of this lifestyle.
I've seen so many teenagers in 6th or 7th standard, barely grown up, talking about love affairs during their classes and giggling and shying and glancing here and there. The topic of love is so stigmatised in our society that teenagers only think of it as romantic love between a couple. Any other form of love is not
Affair & After
Palak AggarwalEditorial Coordinator,
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“Pyaar bina chain kaha re? Yaar bina chain kaha re?”(Where's the peace without love? Where's the solace
without my beloved?)
love for them. This creates unnecessary ruckus and curiosity in their lives, leading them to take uninformed steps without sharing with or consulting their families. The after-effects faced are not only emotional but mental and sometimes, physical. Along with this, they get distracted and put their careers on stake. In the time of their life where they need to learn more and play more, they get dragged into unnecessary drama and trauma.
Another case of this budding love is that of college students and adults who seek emotional validation and physical gratification because they find themselves incapable of self-dependency. The need for depending upon someone else is such that youth forget they are complete in themselves. This results in them indulging in careless relationships which are on and off, full of emotional trauma and toxicity. The aftermath of these relationships is rarely consensual or mutual. One or the other person actually carries the baggage of their failed relationship and the emotional trauma. This might go to the extremity in cases where people decide to
end their lives or destroy the other person's life with violence. Not only do the people in that relationship suffer, but their families also suffer. This happens especially in cases where the girl gets pregnant and the family is left to deal with it. While pregnancy might be a choice for some, it's a burden for others because it affects every aspect of a girl's life.
It thus becomes the duty of our parents and elders to talk about such stigmatised topics like Love which should not actually be a taboo in our society. Love needs to be normalised and all kind of love should be brought into the picture. A person should love themselves and consider it love. They should love their parents, siblings, relatives and call it love. They should love their nation and call it love. They should love the human in every person and call it love. Why should we limit love, one of the most beautiful feelings in this world, to mere romantic or physical love? It's much more than that and when the human inside us will love the human inside others, this world will be a better place to live in.
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DikshaDeo is the Founder, CEO &
Head of Software Engineering at
INCUBSENCE and serves on its Board
of Directors. She is a renowned
technology and motivational speaker
and has given 300+ talks and counting.
She is an Exceptional Woman of
Excellence 2019 felicitated by Women
Economic Forum. Diksha is a Mentor of
Change, Atal Innovation Mission, and
NITI Ayog to transform young students
into Entrepreneurial Adults. She has
10+ years of experience. Prior to this,
Diksha held several roles in many
i n t e r n a t i o n a l a n d n a t i o n a l
organizations. Diksha holds a Master of
Computer Application degree and a
Bachelor of Computer Application
degree from prominent Indian
Universities. She won many prestigious
awards during her Masters inclusive of
Best All-Rounder.
Dynamic Diksha Deo; An All-rounder Achiever
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When other kids were crying in mom's lap, Diksha at the age of 3 started coding on COBOL,
and Pascal. BalJyoti Scholarship was conferred to Diksha by an internationally reputed software
giant when she was just 10 years old. Not only this, she scored 98% in class 12th, thus Diksha was
facilitated by C.B.S.E as a scholar. She started solving complex Industrial Engineering problems
at the age of 16 and was challenged by Foreign borne organization to solve complex engineering
problems consecutively allowing her to evolve as a mature human brain.
Palak: Who do you give the credit of your talent to?
Diksha: That's a very very sweet question. First of all, I would say that talent is not something which someone else can give you. It is developed by practice, but all of us need support systems. For me, my mom and dad have been the greatest support system. They are always by my side whenever I'm down or demotivated, but I also feel that if you want to do something, have that courage. So, talent is nothing but hard work, passion and perseverance to become something.
Palak: What was the inspiration behind doing the work that you're doing?
Diksha: I love both my fields- Computer science and dance. According to me, both of these fields are art. As far as your question is concerned, Computer science is everything for me. I always ask “Why?” because it shows curiosity and “why” will help everybody in becoming a talented person because the more you ask, the more knowledge you gain. So, the inspiration for me is my inner courage and the wish to bring India to the top level. It is my dream to bring India to a level where every kid works in
electronics, hardware manufacturing. I don't want the marginalised kids to stick to just polishing shoes or other menial jobs, I want them to grow. Till when will we use the products from China? My inspiration is not to become an entrepreneur, I am a changemaker and just a medium to take India into the best position. I want India to lead in hardware and be the best. This dream of mine doesn't let me sleep at night. My inspiration is to give back to society.
Palak: I'm very inspired by this because our Ashram works on the same principle of working for the nation and giving back to society. My next question is about your Guru. Who is your Guru?
Diksha: My Guru according to me is the eternal power- eternal shaktithat one has inside them. The soul within me is my Guru. According to me, my parents, you and many other people who I come in contact with are all the means to work on my aim. Generally, we call this eternal power as Allah, Jesus Christ, Sai Baba etc, but they are all one- OM. So, this eternal power is my guru and my soul has found its purpose for which, I'm thankful to that power.
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working simultaneously in different fields. I don't see fusion in terms of a dance form, I see it as being good in multiple things and learning more. Why stop when you can learn 'n' number of things?
Palak: What is your opinion on the youth of India?
Diksha: I think construction is very important and for that destruction is also very important. I think youth is learning things now and understanding that they are wasting their time on social media. Youth loves to go out, they love to communicate and hang out with people. So, I think that social media which earlier made us handicapped is not restricting us anymore. I know that the power of Indian youth is such that we can become a global leader. We just need to realise our power and work within the country. Why are we so attracted to foreign universities when our own institutes are top-notch? We just lack marketing. So, I believe that the youth are understanding and they are on the right track.
Palak: How do you synchronise between work and service?
Palak: What is the change that you wish to make through Incubsence, your company?
Diksha: I think Incubsence is just the first base. There are many things associated with it that I have in my thought process. We have Incubsence foundation, an orphanage, adopting kids, but I'll stick to the vision and mission of Incubsence here. The mission is to create hardware production in India. Everywhere, it is written “Make in India,” but it is only in theory. I want to see the practical application of this “Make in India” as a product in front of me. My mission is to make India a superpower in electronics, ahead of the USA and China.
Palak: What is the change that you wish to make through Bharatanatyam?
Diksha: So sweet, very close to my heart. I started dancing when I was very young. Dance taught me one important lesson which is applicable in every field and that is patience. It has taught me that the show must go on. Sometimes while giving a presentation, your clicker doesn't work, but you have to buckle up and your show must go on. Also, when you see Bharatanatyam and Hip-Hop, Hip-hop is loud. It's okay to be loud, but Bharatanatyam is the representation of the Sanskritic culture. I also have a dream that Hip-hop is good, but why don't we accept Bharatanatyam and our own culture? India has so many dance forms including Kathak, Kuchipudi etc. and we should embrace them.
The mudras and the gestures of Bharatanatyam provide me with a level of calm and serenity that nothing else can provide. They give us poise and help us in evolving as a human being. I've learned culture, patience and poise from dance which made me evolve as a human being. Dance has taught me to never give up and keep trying.
Palak: What are your opinions about fusion in Bharatanatyam?
Diksha: People talk about fusion in the wrong sense. Here, I'll look at it from a different perspective where fusion is about being an all-rounder and
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Diksha: I don't have to manage anything because it is in my heart. My work is what I live, it's not in my timetable. My passion is to serve kids and for them, I don't need to prioritise or put them in my diary or Google calendar. It's just something that I love. The moment I wake up, the thought of servicing kids comes to mind. It's in my soul, veins and heart. I don't want my name, but I want to change some per cent of people's lives. For each product that my company sells, 5% goes to these kids. I also want to adopt an orphanage, I don't want to build a building, I want to put my heart and soul into it.
Palak: This issue of Young Moves is based on 'Love.' What are your opinions on love?
Diksha: When I meet a lot of people, they tell me that I look young and ask me if I am married. I only
answer one thing- I'm married to my goals, married to my passion and married to perseverance. Love is a sacrifice for me. The love for your nation, for your parents, for your life, for society, for your goals and dreams. The need for giving to my people is love for me which includes pain and sacrifice.
Valentine's Day is just a trend. Youth needs to engage themselves in gaining knowledge instead of superficial relationships. Knowledge is the new trend. That'll help them in growing personally and then, serving the society.
Physical love is mortal because our body is mortal. The soul instead is immortal and one should love the soul within.
Palak: Thank you for such a wonderful interview. I'm sure the youth will be very inspired by you and the example that you've set.
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Humans, throughout history have done various horrible and absurd things in order to achieve position, power and control over the masses. The various tactics used for this are what we called as politics. Humans have not even spared pious feelings like 'love' in order to achieve their political purposes. Today, we will be going to explore the politics of love with real examples.
Love is a mental and emotional state in which a person thinks of a specific person as a part of themselves. And, when someone becomes a part of you then love becomes unconditional. So, just by making someone fall in love you can have access to the power to control that person. One simple condition for this is that you need to make the other person believe that even you share the same emotional feeling for him/her. And with one person in love and the other acting of being in love, just to complete his/her political objectives like religious or ideological conversion, is what we call as “Politics of love.”
A major trait of female gender is that she prioritizes love above anything else. On the other hand, the male gender prioritizes love, possessions, power, position, physical needs accordingly. Because of this, the female gender becomes more vulnerable in these cases. Love Jihad or Romeo Jihad is one of the best examples of this form of politics. In India, it is a highly debated and controversial topic to be discussed. Several Hindu and Christian outfits have that some Islamic allegedoutfits, in order to convert the religion of young women of religions apart from Islam, are recruiting young Muslims. They direct these Muslim youth to lure women of other religions. Then ask them to marry them with a condition of religious conversion to Islam. Innocent and inexperienced young women
fall in their trap. After some years of marriage, these Muslims abandon women.
Although women are vulnerable, they are not always the victim. Even men are made fools like this. Christians are very famous for Missionary dating. One of the missionary datings which got exposed The Family International. was It was originally named Teens for Christ. They used a method called “Flirty Fishing” in which female members of the missionary used sex appeal for religious conversion. David Berg, the founder of this missionary, was of the opinion that this was by far the most efficient method of religious conversion. The data from The family international suggest that this practice of “Flirty Fishing” had affected more than 2 lakh people.
So, it is clearly visible that this politics of love is not only played on a domestic level but also on an international level. Some religious outfits are using emotions of innocent people to change their belief system for their benefit. One wonders how low can a human go?
Love, nowadays, is more of a trend than reality. Youth is more interested in showing-off of their love affairs. These trends make it simple for others to deceive innocent people, especially women. We all need to open our eyes, make people aware of what sorts of traps that are being laid down. We should not be ignorant about the situations which look small today. Tomorrow they may become the cause of our end. There is a famous saying, “love is blind,” but the reality is that we can choose whether to open our eyes or remain blind. So, don't be blind, be attentive and aware. Your attentiveness and awareness may save you and many others from falling into traps like these.
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orgasm and is likely the reason for the feeling of a strong bond after intimate time. Therefore, it is also called “cuddling hormone.” Without oxytocin, we would struggle to feel the bond that is important for a long-term relationship. A big credit goes to the shot of adrenaline the feeling the warmness in couples when looking in each other's eyes. Sweating in palms, shallow breath, dilation of the pupil are all because of the shot of adrenaline.
Hearing from the experience of lovers that “my sleep vanished and I lost my appetite in their love.'' this all happens under the influence of dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin. These hormones increase heart rate and brings loss of appetite and sleep and play a big role in attraction. Dopamine makes a person “feel good.” Serotonin changes the way we think and behave in front of our loved one. There is no difference in the amount of serotonin in blood in a love-struck person and an obsessive-
compulsive disorder patient and therefore, we can
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LOVE... The ever-existing phenomena to live freely in this world. It has always been the field of interest for philosophers and poets. Love encompasses a range of strong emotions and mental state. It has a range of meanings from one relation to another like the Love between mother and son, love between a disciple and guru, love between husband and wife etc.
Game of neurochemistryMany times, there is a signal from visceral that
there is no harmony between us and the outside world. There is a gut feeling of something going wrong and we may or may not ignore our gut feeling. Biological imperatives are the needs of living organisms required to perpetuate their existence; to survive. Love is also an important part of biological imperialism. It is very common to hear peoples' experience “when I saw them for the first time, the time got paused, everything was blurred and only they were visible. My heartbeats started racing and I felt that they are the only one” and here comes the role of neurochemistry when we see someone desired and our pupils dilate under the influence of hormones. The cells of our body are bathing in the chemistry of love.
Oxytocin hormone, the hormone of attachment, is not only responsible for bringing a baby in this world but also for the attachment between two people where love is budding. This hormone is released both in men and women at the time of
Biology of LOVE
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conclude that the reason why we feel the urges to meet our lovers again and again at the beginning of a budding relationship. Therefore, it's all the chemistry of hormones which makes sense to the statement ''love is a drug.'’
Now, the male hormone, testosterone and the female hormone, estrogen have a vital role in infatuation which is the first step of budding love. Pheromones, a particular body odour is also an attracting phenomenal factor in the first step of attraction. When we think which part of the brain is more influenced by love, it is the limbic system which is under the association of hypothalamus which regulates the body's hormonal secretion, basal nuclei and thalamus.
Love is crucial for existence in this world as a human is a social creature. The chemical game of fear can shut down the growth of body, growth mechanism of the body and can make a person isolate from the outside world which would eventually lead to disease and illness. It is a remarkable fact of science that 1% of human health is associated with genetics but rest of 99% of human health is associated with lifestyle and psychology of love and fear. So fall in love and you can rule your life and don't fear otherwise your game is over.
The behaviour of the brain on loveThe effects of love on the brain is strikingly similar to the
effects of a drug on it. Functional magnetic resonance imaging [fMRI] makes possible to watch what happens in the brain when a person is subjected to an external stimulus, a thought, movement, emotion or anything else. It makes simple in the mapping of the brain's reaction to things like physical attraction and lasting love.
The study explains- Intense romantic love activates striatum which has nucleus
accumbens - a region of the brain that is often referred to as the “pleasure centre.”
Intense romantic love also activates the insula, a region of the brain that assigns value to pleasurable and life-sustaining activities to make sure we continue engaging in them.
According to a large scale study, researchers published that sexual desire and long-term love both activate the nucleus accumbens but only love activates the insula. Nevertheless,
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people in love can and often do appear obsessive and addicted, especially in the early portion of a new romance. This happens because of the neurochemical rush that gives a feeling to stay in the relationship for a long time.
The only real problems with the “addictive
nature” of love are that some people may find themselves seeking the rush of infatuation over and over, never progressing to the deeper, long-lasting stage of actual love which can lead to bad behaviour.
Love and motivationTrue love brings ''goal-directed state'' and
confidence with motivation for life goals. The psychological impact of true love is so strong that it can make a person reach the highest level of success. Here brings a true story of renowned poet and saint Goswami Tulsidas, who was a devotee of Lord Rama and wrote the pious epic Racharitmanas in Awadhi dialect.
The success of this saint was only his true love for his deity Rama and his wife. Once his wife said to him, ''Swami, the way and the extent you love me and my soul, this love if shifted towards your deity would make you real devotee and bring you a real soul-searching with your God.'' This was a turning
point in his life and rest is the history.
Love has immense power and if realised and worked in the right direction can bring prosperity not only to oneself but also to the world. Love is a frequency which could impact not only the living but also the dead.
Keeping the fires burning Some of us may have committed ourselves to the
fantastical notion that romance is just an act of spontaneous combustion. But, it's time to ditch the myth. It's a myth that these things should just happen spontaneously and that there is something wrong with the relationship because you are not all over each other every minute, as when you began the relationship. The truth is that you have to put in time and energy and make a conscious effort to sustain the relationship and passion. Healthy relationships r equ i r e r egu la r communica t ion . Bas i c communication with a partner on a daily basis is important to continue connecting on an emotional level.
Predictability can also dampen desires, so couples should strive to keep a sense of adventure and surprise alive in their relationships. People can let their partners know how much they love them by the little things they do every day.
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Ingredients:
Since the festival of Holi is around and India will be
celebrating it, the usage of green chickpeas is very
common at this time. Green chickpeas are also used in the
fire of Holika. It is very nutritious and healthy for the
body. Thus, we bring you a sweet dish composed of green
chickpeas.
Hara Chana (Green Chickpeas)-
300 g
Ghee (Clarified Butter)- 100 g
DeshiKhaand (Natural
Granulated Sugar)- 100 g
ChhotiElaichi Powder (Small
Cardamom Powder)- 1/2 tsp
Chiraunji ( Buchananialanzan)-
10 g
Khoa (Condensed milk form)-
200 g
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Hara Chana is a good source of protein as well as carbohydrates. It is rich in B-vitamins, which help your body use carbohydrates, protein and fat
from food. Half a cup of green chickpeas provides half of the phosphorus and about a third of
the iron and magnesium you need daily, supporting your bone, blood cells, muscles and nerve function.
It is rich in both soluble and insoluble dietary fibres. The soluble fibre in it helps stabilize the blood sugar levels, while still providing a
steady supply of energy.
● Grind the Hara Chana (Green Chickpeas) finely.
● Heat Ghee (Clarified Butter) in a heavy pan.
● Roast Hara Chana (Green Chickpeas) in the Ghee (Clarified Butter) until it soaks and finally leaves the Ghee (Clarified Butter).
● Add DeshiKhaand (Natural Granulated Sugar), Khoa (Condensed milk form) and ChhotiElaichi Powder (Small Cardamom Powder) in the heavy pan (Kadhai) and mix it for 5 mins.
● Take a round platter, apply Ghee (Clarified Butter) in it, so that the sweet mixture does not stick to the platter.
● Spread the whole mixture evenly on the platter.
● Refrigerate for 4 hrs and cut it into several pieces.
● It is ready to serve.
Method:
Benefits:
● Eating too many chickpeas may cause intestinal gas and indigestion.
● One must not eat raw chickpeas as it may contain toxins.
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LOVE is a term that does not have a strict meaning attached to it. The definition of love depends on various factors such as the age of a person, their culture, and nature of their relationship with their counterpart, etc.
The Indian society has always been adaptive of western trends as well as culture. Though love that has been specifically defined by our religious texts does not always mean a sort of romantic love but varies in every other situation. The idea of love in its true essence may be described as a selfless feeling in oneself which wishes all the happiness and well-being for one's counterpart. For instance, a mother's love for her child is one kind of love which still holds its truthfulness.
As per the definition given in the Oxford Dictionary Love is “A very strong feeling of liking and caring for somebody/something, especially a member of your family or a friend,” but modern-day love has lost its true essence. Coming to the western concept of Emotion through this Oxford definition, it does not have a clear meaning. It can be said that the English language stands incapable of explaining the true essence of emotion.
It is often believed that Evolution of society leads to the betterment of every aspect of human life but does it actually mean that the definition of love and its essence has also evolved?
The answer, according to me, is “No.” The concept of love has not evolved but people now have a degraded sense of understanding it. As a result, the emotions of an individual affects them in such a way that it creates a negative impact on his/her mental health.
Human emotions are very fragile and very changing. One moment, it seems that emotions are everything and the next moment, you are simply empty. The modern-day people are incapable of handling their emotions due to which they are unable to figure out as to where to invest their emotions. Investing Emotions in a relationship may lead to an improved degree of love but the investment of intense emotion into a wrong person or relation can inculcate a huge negative impact on the emotional well-being of a person.
In today's world, people live a life full of stress wherein they lack emotional support and become
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EMOTIONAL LOVE OR EMOTION OF LOVE:
AN INTERNAL ANALYSIS
Love should be like breathing. It should be just a quality in you – wherever you are, with whomsoever
you are, or even if you are alone, love goes on overflowing from you.
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unstable in the long run. They constantly search for emotional support in order to regain their stability. Whenever this search becomes the foundation of love, the true essence is lost from the beginning and we call it On the other hand, “Emotional Love.”Love can be followed by emotional dependency (which can be referred to as ) “Emotions of love”but not vice versa.
In the former case, as soon as the need of
emotional support gets away due to any reason, the other person who has invested a huge amount of emotions in a particular relationship (not necessarily being a relation between a couple) will have to deal with all the dire consequences which may include an emotional breakdown. This type of relationship between two people is common in today's society but it does not yield good results. Whereas in the latter case, where love is followed by emotional dependency, the relation will always prove long-lasting because the foundation stone for this case will always be selflessness and wish for the well-being of the counterpart.
It has been said by various saints that one cannot love anyone else until and unless they love themselves. They have to first generate love in themselves. Since one has to be emotionally sound in order to inculcate love within oneself, therefore while dealing with the modern-day problem, one has to be conscious about the investment of their emotions. They should invest their emotions in limited relations such as their mother, father, siblings, children, wife, etc. Though people get easily attracted towards emotional love and get broken, they'll have to reserve themselves for “emotions of love” in order to inculcate their as well as their counterpart's well-being.
As per Sanatan concept, Sringara is the base
of human love. The passion that two individuals so relentlessly search for all their lives is through a sense of Sringara. Sringara is the act of involving emotions, of inculcating true and genuine feeling for the other person, which is an ideal state of love that can rarely be found on earth these days.
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Love is magic… isn't it? Well yes, it is magic while also being an act of will.We, humans, like being in love and we celebrate it. Love means different for all of us. It is something which is an individualistic and personal experience and the very primary aspect of love is to love thyself which is many times ignored. When individuals are able to love themselves, that's when they are able to love others around them.How is love related to our mental health? Well, the bond of love or the feeling of being in love or being in a healthy relationship has numerous positive effect on our mental, as well as, physical health. When speaking about coping strategies to deal with depression, stress or anger, Love helps a great deal in helping individuals to adapt and cope better with the situation. The feeling of safety, security and being connected allows individuals to pull through tough circumstances more efficiently. When we are in love, we sense an overwhelmingly strong desire towards another person. This desire is persistent, important, and hard to overlook. With love, comes an intense feeling of desire, affection and euphoria. Encouraging one another to be involved in loving and supportive relationships can potentially help to overcome common problems successfully. Love allows a person to feel a sense of belongingness, this state of belongingness helps individuals to be content and help them in moving towards the hopeful side of life and allows one to deal with difficult emotions. Studies show that those who are in a healthy relationship show lower levels of depression, anxiety and self-consciousness.
There have also been various studies that describe: loving embraces several neurotransmitters and hormones in our body, which in response involve mix of dopamine, oxytocin, vasopressin, and serotonin and alteration in brain areas. These are known to play a role in the growth of trust. This foundation of feelings of pleasure is a reward to us. While sometimes, the feeling of pleasure is quite rewarding, there is a thin line between “love” being positive and addictive. When love is addictive, it is an emotion full of hormonal current. In simple terms, addictive love is harmful, stressful and difficult to deal with. Falling in love activates the same system in the brain as cocaine addiction. Love for some people gets too distractive such that while doing something important, the thoughts/ feelings of euphoria distract them from their day-to-day tasks.Love works differently for everyone. But the fact is it can work for everyone, an individual trying to or going through a mental condition may need unconditional love in order to live a normal life. Well, with love comes a lot of healing and positive aspect towards leading life. When passing the love to someone you love don't forget to love yourself first, because once we love our self, we love our life, and after we love our life, life becomes meaningful and rewarding. As soon as we begin loving our self, we will notice that we no longer feel doubtful, hopeless, or like something is absent in our life and as there is nothing wrong in putting ourselves first.We talk about mental health, when we risk on how it
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LOVE & HEALTH Love and Mental health
“Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart and the senses.”
- Lao Tzu
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A human being is surrounded by emotions, which help us in understanding the Homosapien race and their surroundings. We name such emotions as love, hate,
jealousy, happiness, anger etc. Each emotion has its beauty and it changes according to the situation we feel it in. If the situation is
positive and rewarding, we might feel the positive impact of it and if the situation is unfavourable, there is the feeling of negative emotions. For example, getting a card from a friend makes us happy and when that same friend does not talk to us, the feeling of sadness surrounds us.As we are in the month of February which, in the western world, is called as the month of love, we would try to understand “What is Love?” but from the neurobiological point of view. OXYTOCIN is called the love hormone which sometimes also act as a neurotransmitter along with other hormones such as dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine. “The butterflies in the stomach,” racing heart etc are the results of norepinephrine and adrenaline.All the happiness, which comes when a person is in love, is because of the neurotransmitter serotonin,
which helps in elevating the mood. This is the same neurotransmitter, which is secreted when a person hugs someone or eats chocolate, as chocolates increase the levels of endorphins, which help in lessening of pain, stress and serotonin, which is an anti-depressant. As each of our deeds put a positive or a negative impact on our physical, mental, spiritual health, we will further try to understand the impact of love on our mental health.We all love one or the other person in our lives. Different kind of love has a different kind of classification. Some say it's parental love, some talk about siblings love and few define it as romantic love where there are companionship and intimacy. As every relation has ups and downs, love also faces the same. When our significant other provides us with love, warmth and care, there are positive benefits like increasing work productivity, increase in confidence, better self-esteem etc. However, when this relation has a downfall, the person only feels negativity, low self-esteem, low confidence, negative view of self and even the extremities of having disorders like depression, anxiety, body dysmorphic disorder, adjustment disorder and having a dependent personality,Concluding with a simple thought: love each person in life but do not let anyone become your oxygen.
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is constructed and remodelled, we should perhaps talk more about love because love has positive effects on mental and physical health, so spread the love around. Let's focus on loving ourselves and others because love heals.
So, love and let love.
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Denmark & India; A Cultural Exchange Conversation arranged by Vinay Kakkar
In search of peace & knowledge of India, students from Denmark came all the way to Paavan Chintan Dhara Ashram. The following pages capture the day through photos.
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Love in Teens; What Youth thinks about Love?
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FairytaleOnly in movies
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When asked about Love in one word, several youth answered:
Ishan GargEngineering Student, Delhi
Teenage couples are a very common thing now, almost every other teen is in a "love" relationship. As a person ascends from childhood to teenage there are many physical as well as psychological changes in him. New hormones are formed and they affect the body and mind drastically. Being high and new on these hormones they confuse lust with love. Their knowledge of love is mostly from romantic movies and books. And they
confuse this attraction towards another person as love. Both the persons being controlled by hormones denies to think rationally and just go with the flow of these hormones. Proper counselling and education must be given to the teens, so as to make them aware of the situation of theirs, telling them the difference between love and lust, thus saving them from the worst.Along with this, at this age, the mental state of a child is very vulnerable. The issues are new, the experience is less, result; the child becomes alone. They seek to escape. A boy seeks in girl and a girl in a boy or in the same gender. In India, we have spirituality for that, but the western world is still deprived of this gift. But alas, that many of our Indian teens in the unfortunate mentality of copying west have been deprived of this wonderful gift too. They think it to be trendy and fine, further increasing the complexity in life with the nuisance of "love" relationships. Though the experience teaches a person, but only if they want to. They are just small children new to this world, alone, vulnerable, uneducated, unable to judge between right and wrong. The parents and teachers must come to the rescue of these children and give them a safe environment where they can freely express themselves and get a solution back. Teenage is a crucial time of life and parents and teachers must learn to let the child be free and at the same time creating a safe
Jaydeep PatelStudent, Chennai
Love means knowing that no matter what, you have someone to count on. It's unconditional and makes you feel good on the inside. You can trust the person you love and are comfortable around them. It's like your heart tells you that it is good for you. Love never hurts or makes you cry your eyes out. It's very gentle and warm. You never give up on the people you love.
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Shubh UtekarEngineering Student, Vadodara
“Love”... The term cannot be defined within boundaries of words. In the recent era of materialistic world, Love is the driving force which keeps us together in a safe environment.
Love is not only a way of expression but also a sense of responsibility towards the ones around you. Your dedication for work, a father's affection or a sports-persons hard work to achieve his goal every aspect here is love.Let's not confine it in a book or poetry every living creature in one or other manner express their feelings, care and bore their responsibility. Today it's easy to say or find 'love' but most difficult part is to understand what it takes to really uphold it and nurture with all your 100%. Today we find love from movies, series, and other media but does it really show how it should uphold and move ahead with? No … and sometimes it's not really what you are taught in a book or poetry rather the real-life experience along with responsibilities is our sole teacher.Being a teen falling in love and claiming it to be “Love,” I'm afraid that's not the truth it's the journey which you travel to find out care, responsibility, decision making not only for yourself but the ones around you! Along with this, it teaches you to be a family where everyone is knit in a knot and under the roof of what we define “LOVE”!!!
Gehna KapoorLiterature Student, Delhi
It feels weird and out of place to talk of love when one sees frequent violence and hostility around oneself. I think it is Love that makes people uncaring about others as love restricts
people. A person can be biased, partial and hostile towards another if the latter has hurt someone that former loves. While Love teaches us to care about someone, it also tells us to not care about others. Compassion, on the other hand, means that one is not only able to tolerate others' misfortune but also feel with them. Psychologists say that mammals are born compassionate; that compassion is a primordial quality that has helped human beings evolve. The reason why we see voyeuristic tendencies in society is because we are taught to love a few instead of feeling compassion for everyone. We can recognize these seeds of compassion in ourselves if we separate ourselves from the power structures that force us to care about fewer people. By being compassionate subjects, we can try to bring about a larger upward movement which can force the leaders to be compassionate as well because then they will have to cater to the needs of compassionate and caring subjects.
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ShreyashTripathiCommerce Student, Delhi
Contrary to the old age perspective of "love," it is safe to say that the present generation has come up with an absolutely nugatory explanation of the word love. To the youth of today, love is nothing but a means of overcoming their loneliness. It is never a conscious decision for these people to unite with a person who can add meaning to their life. Instead, these people are competing in a race wherein one has to force their feeling
on the other person in the name of love. As a result of such a mindless decision, most of the youth today end up being depressed. In a nutshell, it can be concluded that the youth of today is totally deluded when it comes to loving a person.
Janvi DesaiStudent, Gujarat
Love is like a guiding force of this universe which binds everyone of us together. Today we have generalized the idea of love only towards the opposite gender, but love is something beyond words and is needed in every sphere of life. A selfless care of a mother towards her child, soldier's love for his nation or an absolute devotion towards God it is present everywhere. For me love is where there is purity, honesty and
selflessness. Let's not consider comfort, convenience and needs as love. It has to be unconditional and without expectation of anything in return. We all need to spread love and kindness as much as we can. But above all the most important thing to do is "Being the source of love in one own self".
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Hitanshi GayakwadFashion Student, Delhi
I researched for my college project concerning the ideas of youth on love. I asked some people around my campus to give me a single word definition of love according to them.Most people my age have a distorted perception of love which only revolve around sex, lust, and other physical aspects. People my age, also tend to say that the concept of "love" isn't real because of the toxic
relationships that they have either been in or heard about. They immediately associate the idea of loving another person with that of Valentine's day and superficial things which make them want to puke.
So, these were a mix of tragic and goofy views on their responses to what love is. These answers made me conclude that youth tend to have a twisted view of "love." They assume it as unrealistic or rare to find. Why is this? Why does it seem so difficult for youth to view "love" as having a deep affection for someone?I believe that it's because of the society they are growing up in. Youth love consists of an array of casual texts and hookups. The idea of expressing their love for someone verbally or through cute little gestures like chocolates and flowers is deemed foreign to this generation. My generation has become numb to what it truly means to love someone.
Of course, youth is aware that love is a variation of intense feelings towards a person. They know that love is a passionate form of affection that doesn't waver. They know that love is when you care about someone so much that when they're gone you not only miss them but feel like a part of you is missing. They know that love is real. They know that love exists. But when immediately asked to explain, they forget that love is a universal concept that should be understood as a deep caring for another person. It's not a "gross" term that causes you heartbreak, it's a part of you which young people today are failing to understand.
Now, don't get me wrong. Not all youngsters need to be informed of the precious definition of love. I did receive some definitions of "love" that were completely accurate and tear-jerking. I'll leave you with some of these beautiful responses- “Love gives us positivity,” “it's the togetherness that makes us feel full,” “the family that protects us and gives the strength to become a good person,” “it's the faith in God which makes us a better being,” “it's the faith in self that keeps us going,” and “love is that loyalty and honesty in any relationship which makes us complete.”
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Since we got your attention with our catchy headline, now we want to discuss a serious issue of modern India: Increasing divorce rates. Is increasing divorce rate a good or bad sign? What are the causes of increasing divorce rates? What are the solutions to this problem? Before we answer these questions let's see the history of marriage.
History of marriage in India:In the pre-historic era, there was no concept of a
family or a relationship like marriage. During the period of hunting and gathering; just like many animals; even humans hunted in groups. This loosely organized kin consisted of several males and females; these males-females mated with each other and produced offspring. As humans steadily moved towards agriculture, the relationship between men and women also became more stable. Gradually the concept of marriage emerged in our society.
Centuries later Vedas were compiled in India. Vedas were human's first organized book. During
the Vedic period, women enjoyed all the privileges. Around 62% of Vedas were written by women. Every woman had the right of “Swayam-var” that is the liberty of choosing one's husband. The exalted status of women continued during the period of Ramayana and Mahabharata. In this period, the Indian social outlook was quite open-minded. Polygyny/Polyandry was acceptable in society.
But after the Mahabharata period, people started misusing this system. Women were exploited in the name of religion. The sacredness from marriage was disappearing. Then came Sage Shwetketu. Seeing the society around him, Sage Shwetketu was quite upset. He was determined to bring social reforms. He established new rules of marriage. He banned polygyny/polyandry (other than exceptions like political matrimonial alliances in the cases of kings and rulers). He brought a renaissance in the social moral values. With his persistent efforts, he was able to save the institution of marriage. This is the beauty of India, our sages are our scientist, social reformers, warriors and much more.
The following centuries witnessed various ups and downs in the institution of marriage. But more or less till the 10th century AD, the overall social structure, women's condition and marriage relations were mainly good.
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The above-mentioned situation happened in India in the medieval period. In the medieval period, India witnessed innumerable invasions. These invasions continued for centuries which resulted in the birth of various social evils and thus ultimately the situation of women in India degraded miserably. The impact is still visible. The situation of women in South India and North-East India is much better than the situation of women in North India. One of the major reasons for this is that North India faced more onslaught than rest of India. The reason for discussing the status of women is because the issue of divorce cannot be seen in isolation. It has to been seen at society's holistic level.
India finally gained independence in 1947 after enduring foreign rulers for many centuries. Post-independence in the decade of 1950s the revolutionary Hindu Code Bill was passed in the parliament. It gave women property rights, outlawed polygamy and allowed partners to file for divorce. In the year 1976, this law was further amended allowing divorce by mutual consent.
But political freedom and social reforms
are two different things. Even with these political/legal changes social attitude towards women did not change much. In a society where women had no right in choosing their partner; divorce was a luxury they could never afford. Thus divorce rates remained low in the next few decades after independence.
Changing times and changing equation:But in the last few decades, Indian society
witnessed a sharp rise in divorce rates. Following are the main causes of increasing divorce rates:
Change in social attitude towards divorce: Earlier marriage was considered a sacred bond and divorce was nothing less than a sin. Getting divorced was a social stigma not just for the couples, but also for their families. Thus couples were forced
Now before going further, we need to
first understand how societies become
patriarchal or matriarchal. Whenever
a society remains peaceful for a long
time, then society becomes a female-
dominated society. When there is
lasting peace in any society then dance,
music, literature and other art forms
flourish in that society. Women have an
important role in all these, therefore
during this period, society tends
towards matriarchy. This was the case
with most of the Indian subcontinent
till 10th century AD. But during the
phase of insurgency, invasion and war,
the social aspects change. Wars can
continue for years and even decades, in
most cases it is not possible for women
to stay away from her family and
children for such a long period. Thus
during this period, men play an active
role in society. And if such a situation
continues long then the society
gradually transforms into patriarchy.
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(mostly by their families) to stay in unhappy marriages to maintain the family's reputation.
Generally, women suffered more because the male-dominated society expected her to 'adjust' (in many cases physical/ emotional/ sexual violence also). Due to such social conditions, divorce was never an option.
But in recent times, the social outlook towards women and divorce is changing. Gradually the society is accepting the fact that a woman is not a 'property' of her husband. Due to increasing education level, media awareness, celebrity divorce stories and lifestyle change, the stigma of divorce is waning. This is encouraging many couples to come out in open and opt for divorce.
Also, earlier many women continued in the wrong relationship for the sake of their children. But today the concept of a single mother is getting accepted in Indian society.
Women Empowerment: Many people claim that the rise in divorce rates is sign of women empowerment in society. This is true but not completely. Today more and more women are getting educated. These educated women don't want to restrict themselves to childbearing, cooking, cleaning, washing and other household chores. The idea of house-wife or home-maker is disappearing; today women aspire to succeed in their professional domain.
Thus working women is a rising trend in
India. A few decades back once married; a girl was at the mercy of her husband & in-laws. If abandoned then there was nobody (including her own family) to take care of her. Financial insecurity restricted many women from seeking a divorce. But today working women are not just financially
secure but also are better aware of their rights and legal aspects. With education and financial security, women gained the empowerment to walk out of a toxic relation thus contributing in higher divorce rates.
Declining Moral Values: In India marriage is a sacred bond whose foundation is based on love and morality. But morality is slowly declining in this sacred relationship. In India, marriage is considered as a union of two souls, but today marriage is getting limited to physical, social and economic union.
In young couples, love is getting replaced by lust. Perhaps that's why extramarital affairs are growing rapidly in our Indian society. Today we are living in such a society where relationships begin very fast and end even faster. “Love at first sight and break-up at first fight”, “My way or the highway” such thinking is increasing among us. Virtues like commitment and adjustment which are essential in any relationship, are disappearing from marriages.
One should not give up self-respect for any relationship. But one should also not give up a relationship for self-ego. But these days many married couples are unable to distinguish between self-respect and self-ego.
In Indian marriages, moral values like trust, loyalty, love, commitment, flexibility and selflessness are getting replaced by lust, impatience, rigidness, greed and ego. These moral crisis in our personal lives are adversely affecting the institute of marriage and thus increasing divorce.
Youth and Marriage: Today, Indian youth
prefer personal freedom and space. They think that it is only their right to make decisions for their lives. So they hesitate to
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marry, thinking that marriage will limit their freedom. This is resulting in increasing live-in relationships. Also, there is an increasing trend among many youths that instead of getting married they prefer to adopt a child and live as a single parent. Many cases of pseudo women empowerment are also on the rise, where girls marry rich men for the sake of their money. Their only focus is on the huge amount of divorce alimony. Thus the youth should realize that it is not always man's fault in the relation. And, in divorced cases, it should not be concluded that the woman did not have the qualities to handle the relation. Youth should not generalize or stereotype.
Marriage is a bicycle; both man and woman are its two-wheel. This cycle can only move ahead if both wheel coordinate and move together.
Indian problem needs Indian solution:We discussed the problem of divorce. Now let's
discuss the possible solutions. The women empowerment which we read above is the western definition of women empowerment. In the west, making a woman academically qualified and financially competent is empowering her. But this
definition is not completely true. Around the world, you will find millions of academically qualified and financially competent women who are victims of domestic violence at home, sexual harassment at the workplace and much more. But these women lack the courage and determination to come out of such a vicious cycle.
Whereas the parameter of women empowerment in India is different. Women empowerment in India comprises value-based education and decision making freedom. If a woman has the power to decide whether she wants to become a home-maker or wants to work, then it is women empowerment. Even as a homemaker, if she has her consent in all the decisions of the house, then it is women empowerment. And all this is possible when Indian value-based education is promoted in society. Only with such values-based education and spirituality can we bring harmony in the institute of marriage.
Virtues like compassion, love, loyalty, sacrifice are essential for making any relation strong. Strong relations will make strong families. Strong families will make a strong society. And a strong society will develop itself in a strong nation.
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LOVE – This combination of four alphabets has an ocean of meaning hidden inside it. However, when mentioned in the month of February, especially amongst urban youths, they start smiling, giggling, shying and what not. It only means finding a peer in the surrounding, pair up and start a new session of romance, dating, going to movies, long drives in very expensive cars, roaming around hands-in-hand. Generally, it's limited to non-nuptial relationships while you are studying/working and it might mature to tying up a nuptial knot, but that is not very common.
This newly created definition of love seems to be a bi-product of the globalization of the Indian market. The concept of Valentine's day was introduced to Indian society a few decades ago by global corporations with youth as their target market. It's not only 14th Feb which is the day when you should buy a lot of gifts to someone you might be attracted towards, but it's also the whole week prior to this day where each day is dedicated to a product like chocolate, flowers, gifts and the list is endless. Further, it's a bit strange that after this “big day” there's a whole week dedicated to rituals that slowly break the relation which was built earlier this month and finally the last day of this week, that is, 21st February is called “Breakup Day.”
So, the strategist/product developer who created this event, which begins on 07th Feb, made it reach its pinnacle on the 14th of February, and then slowly ends by the next week so that the
product does not have a long shelf life, is perishable and needs to be re-ordered. Isn't this interesting?
Due to the nature of my profession (Travel business), I speak to many Europeans about it and all of them say that it's not their culture. This has come from America just like Halloween, Thanksgiving and other days which are slowly being marketed to get infused with local culture and become part of it and start getting celebrated as festivals. So, the multinational brands which run flower shops or confectionary/chocolate shops are doing promotional activities to infuse this in Europe as well.
Love– Does it means physical attraction? If that was true, almost every living creature would have fallen in love during the reproductive time of their life cycle. It also makes me think – Why do people fall in love? Can't they rise in love and attain higher levels?
Does 'Love' mean choosing a person based on
their looks, social status, and economic status or on similar parameters? If not, then love definitely has a wider meaning and choosing a partner for dating, choosing a partner based on their physical appearance, choosing a partner based on their wealth etc. should not be included in a meaningful word like “Love.”
Let's find out what love means in our culture. So,
LOVE, the Indian Way
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let's see what is Love– The Indian way.
Love– This could be a relationship between a mother and her kids, a father and his kids, or vice versa, amongst sibling, towards one's ideal in life, one's love and affection for spiritual parents, their love towards one, love for the nation, Dharm, society etc.
So where does the confusion lie? Are we able to differentiate between LOVE and attraction, infatuation or crush, dedication, passion, lust, confusion, illusion etc?
Being one of the oldest civilization, we need to take some reference from our history and from our icons. putting extreme efforts so Goddess Parvatias to find as her soul mate in each life. Was Shiv jithis love?
Let's look at the Ramayana era and pick a few instances- forcing King Dashrath to Queen Kaikaisend Lord Ram to exile and carbonating his younger son . Was this love of Kakayi Bharattowards her real son Bharat, or was it just over-ambition of getting her son to the throne?
getting ill and finally losing King Dashrathhis life due to the shock of going to exile. RamWas it his love for his son which made him lose his life or was it his decision of keeping his words and also creating an example for the society, which consumed his health and finally took his life?
getting married to in Swyamvar. Sita RamCan that be defined as love?
going to exile with her husband – Was it Sitalove or was it her duty?
meeting and then helping Hanuman Ram
in everything that occurred in Ram's life. Was it love or was that Bhakti, or dedication or passion?
Let's look at the Mahabharat era and pick a few instances- Was it love or responsibility of parents which made and Vasudev risk their life but Devki got safely to Nandgaon?Lord Krishna
Was it love or need of the nation which made Radha risk her life and made her way from Mathura to Vrindavan to help in making Krishnaa strategy to end the evil empire of Kansa?
Let's think of – Whose love Bhakt Prahladfor divinity did not let him get off the path of truth.
Let's think of – King Harish ChandraWhose love towards did not let him make truthany compromise in his life no matter how many hardships he faced.
Let's think of – Who dedicated Meera Baiher life in Bhakti.
Let's look at Mughal era – Was it love for the divine and their community or just expanding their following which made many Sikh gurusgiving up their whole life and even ending their life to save ?Dharm
Let's look at the British era - Was it love for the nation or just a random choice for all those freedom fighters who sacrificed their life for the nation?
Was it the passion of getting of freedomBritish rule or greed to grasp the power which led Bhagat Singh to choose to get arrested?
It's so loving to think that we live in an independent nation which allows us to live our life and choose our preferences the way we want.
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That makes me love my nation. Love could be towards your family. This could be conveyed by building up yourself into a healthy, able, aware and informed family member who becomes the apple of the eye for the whole family and makes all of them feel proud and loving towards oneself. Love could be towards nature. This can be conveyed by preserving nature. Love could be towards humanity. It could be conveyed by serving humanity and helping the needful.
Conclusion- The corporates will, of course, have a strategy of looking at any potential consumer as their target market. However, India as a nation needs to define how things should shape up and how their culture, society and civil ization picks this comparatively new “festival” which uses the word “Love” and how and when this word should be used. We also need to make sure that while doing their business promotion, the money-making machines do not tweak with our emotions, culture and our overall thought process towards relations.
OPINION
Hindus have not limited the love just to get the physical pleasure instead it is considered a divine quality, which is the means for achieving the highest objective i.e. achieving God himself. Indian thoughts don't bound love to just male and female, it talks about love with all. When a person develops a love for all creature, then only the path of bhakti starts.
The love which seeks only sexual pleasure is Taamsik. The love which seeks God himself is Saatvik. Indian culture has divided life into four ashrams, which are Brahmachari , Grihastha, Sanyaas, Vanaprastha. The aim and goal of youth and students are to follow brahmacharya and obtaining knowledge. And when a person enters a grihastha life, his aim is to earn money and start a family. Then sanyaas and finally vanaprastha which leads to moksha.
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Shiv ji is an ocean of knowledge. Even before Einstein, Shiv ji told us that imagination is more important than knowledge. Shiv ji talks about the hypothesis which marks the beginning of the research. Shiv ji says that we start to become like our imagination and what we think about ourselves. Shiv ji developed many knowledge theories of dhyaanabout the above-mentioned point. Shiv ji is the root of all religions, as he talks about the beginning. He doesn't talk about ways of praying. He talks about the beginning of humans and the beginning of the universe. That's why he is the root of all civilizations and the root of this whole world. The life of Shiv and his presence is mentioned in every religion and their texts in some form or another. He is known at every place geographically which today are formed into 'different political boundary.' Why is he mentioned as such in every religious text?
Content Inspiration: ShriGuru Pawan Sinha Ji
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Editor's Note: We'll be celebrating MahaShivratri in the month of February, so it is best to bring out some aspects about Shiv ji and mysteries revolving around him and to know the truth about all the mysteries. It's not an easy task to understand the Gods, Devis and Devtas of the Indian culture. This has given birth to many misconceptions. Some doubt praying while some put question marks on God.
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Around 15,000 to 20,000 years back, when Devis and Devtas first stepped onto land, Earth was in ice age. That time Shiv ji made Kailash- the centre of the earth, his abode. Vishnu made the sea and Brahma made riverbank their home. According to Puran, below the mountain, where Shiv ji resides, is 'PataalLok', which is the home of Vishnu ji. Above the aasanof Shiv and beyond the atmosphere is 'SwargLok', and beyond it is 'Brahma Lok'. The knowledge in puransis also accepted by scientists today. According to scientists, Tibet is the highest ground on earth. In earlier times, there was sea around this area and when the sea slowly started to get back, the land started forming and life started to spread just like this.
In the beginning, Shiv ji started promotion of life in this area. That's why he is also known as “Adidev” (first God). He is also known as “Aadish” because he is “Aadinath.” The word “Adesh” is formed from “Aadish” only. Even today when Nath sadhus meet each other, they say 'Adesh'. Besides Shiv ji, Vishnu ji and Brahma ji also worked on the formation of life and it's nurturing. All of this together made Earth habitable and increased the population of Devta, Daitya, Daanav, Gandharv, Yaksha and humans. To understand this, we have to go back to the times of Mahabharata. It is believed that until this time, Devta used to reside on earth. After this everyone went to their Dhaams. After the beginning of Kalyug, Devtas were left living only in the deity form. Thus, only their idols were worshipped. Devtas- Shiv and Shankar are actually God Shiv, they are also known as Rudra. Rudra of the Vedic period and his various forms are discussed in detail in the Purans. The one who is called as Rudra in the Vedas is known as Shankar and Mahesh in the Purans. Shiv ji was there even before the 'VarahKaal'. The story of that Shiv is different. He is known as Mahadevand Devaadhidev.
There was always a quarrel between the Devtas and Daityas. Whenever there was a looming danger on Devtas, they all would go to Devadhidev
Mahesh. Along with daityas and rakshas, devtas also challenged Shiv ji many times, but they all were defeated and had to bow in front of Shiv. That's why Shiv is known as “Devta of Devtas.” He was also the favourite God of daanav, bhoot, devta and pishach. Daanav, bhoot, devta, pishach are different kinds of humans, they are not mere imagination. When humans were forming, they went through many forms. Then only we came in the form of Homosapien.
It is said that the giant humans, which were created by Brahma ji, were defeated by Shiv ji himself. Scientists have claimed to have found skeletons of about 20 to 22 feet. Skeleton found in India, is generally believed by people to be of Ghatotkach, son of Bheem or of Bakasur. According to Hindu dharm, there used to be people of this huge size in Satyug. Later in Tretayug, these species became extinct. According to Purans, there were species of daitya, daanav, rakshas and asura in India, which used to be huge. Along with these skeletons, inscriptions have also been found. These inscriptions are in Brahma lipi of that era. It is believed that in these inscriptions it is written that, Brahma ji created these species, for establishing peace in human civilization. These people were really strong and they could even uproot a tree just by their hands, but then they started misusing this strength and started fights within themselves and started to challenge devtas. In the end, Lord Shankar destroyed them to save the earth. Lord Shiva has a bow 'pinaak'. This bow was really strong; just one arrow of this was used to destroy three cities of Tripurasur in just one shot. After the era of Devis and Devtas, this bow was given to Devraat. In yagya of Daksh, when a part of yagya was not given to Shiv ji, he became angry and he decided to destroy all devtas by his bow. One vibration from this bow made the atmosphere of earth dangerous. His anger was controlled after many hard attempts. Then he gave this bow to devtas. Devtas gave this bow to Devraath, the forefather of Janak. This bow of Shiv was safe with king Janak. The huge bow which Shiv
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himself made, couldn't be lifted by anyone. But Lord Ram lifted it and broke it while tying it.
The Chakra of Shiv is considered a small but powerful weapon. Every Devi-devta had their own chakras. The name of Shiv Ji's chakra was “Bhavrendu.” Very few know that the Sudarshan chakra was created by Shiv ji. After its formation, it was given by Shiv ji to Vishnu ji. Vishnu ji gave this chakra to deviParvati whenever needed. Parvatiji gave this to Parshuram. Lord Krishna got this chakra from parshuram. Lord Shiv had many weapons (ashtra-Shastra). He gave all his weapons to devtas. Shiv ji is the inventor of many weapons. He kept a trident with him, which was very accurate and deadly. Some visionary people say that trident sets free from daihik, daivik and bhautik pains. Pinaaktrishool (trident) embedded with sat, raj, tam powers is a very powerful weapon. Proton, electron and neutron are in the base of this weapon by which this weapon produces a particular vibration. Along with this, it is very deadly, something like today's 'weapons of mass destruction.' Similarly, Shiv ji has a pashupastra with him. This is a very deadly weapon, with which he rehabilitated many daityas.
Shiv used to wear a snake around his neck. There are many delusions regarding this. Shiv ji had an attachment with the naagvansh. Every one of the clans of naag used to live in the Himalayan region of Shiv. Naag clans used to follow shaivdharm. Anantnag of Kashmir was the abode of naag clans. Naags had 5 clans in starting. Their names were as follows- Sheshnaag, Vasuki, Takshak, Pingala and Kankortak. After sheshnaag, there came Vasuki, who became servants of Shiv. It is not so easy to understand Indian culture and traditions. What happened was that science and faith moved together and they got so tangled that both of them became unclear. Now we'll talk about a scientific fact related to Shiv– 'The third eye.' Whenever we see Shivling there is a shape, like an eye put upside down. This third eye is very attractive. This third eye is very important.
Whatever about Shiv is given in Vedas, is used to tell about the third eye of Shiv. We see a partially opened eye in the pictures of Shiv that is what we call as the third eye. Now, let's understand this scientifically. It is around 1.5-2 cm above eyebrows, between forehead. There is an organ, at this exact spot, it is known as the pineal gland, and this is known as the third eye. This contains a hormone, melatonin. This hormone is so powerful that this provides terrific intelligence to a great sadhak. YogShastra has mentioned this by the name of agya chakra. Agya chakra is the centre of all energies in our body. All our consciousness and discretion is created here. French philosopher Reeves considered this the centre of soul and source of all spiritual energy.
Let me tell you one of the oldest stories of the third eye. A man was born from Brahma, who was very handsome, had aligned teeth, very beautiful eyes, body smelling like saffron. That person asked Brahma ji upon greeting, “Brahman, what's the reason for my creation?” Brahma ji replied, “Son, you'll use 5 arrows made of flower to attract men and women and do the Sanatan work. You'll secretly enter the heart of people and promote the Sanatan dharm. Due to his kaamroop, rishis (scientists) named him kaam. His work used to make people madmast (drunk). That's why his second name is Madan. He is also known as darpakkandarp. He is also known as Kaamdev.
Daughter of king Daksh, which he named Rati, was given to Kaamdev and then king Daksh returned to his kingdom. Rati and Kaamdev did their work and lived happily. The conditions of heaven became bad. A rakshas named Taadkasur gained control of heaven and became Indra himself. This made the life of devtas very hard in heaven. Devtas tried to defeat him but they failed. Even the chakra of Vishnu didn't work, it went to his throat and became his necklace. Devtas complained to Brahma ji. After listening to them Brahma ji said, “my boon has made Taadkasur so powerful. Now even Vishnu ji and Shiv ji can't kill
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him.” Devtas became very sad upon hearing this and said to Brahma ji “give some way. Otherwise, heaven will be destroyed like this and Devtas will lose their qualities.” Then Brahma ji said, “Devtas, the only son of Shiv can defeat Taadkasur. But this is only possible when Shiv ji is married to a Sati reincarnated (who in this birth is born of Himalaya and Menaka).” Devtas said, “Shiv is meditating, so this is very hard.” This idea stuck in devrajIndra's mind. He evoked Kamadeva. Kamadeva appeared. Indra pleaded to him, “Lord Shiv is doing penance in the Himalayas, so how will a child be born? If the child is not born then how will Taadkasur be killed? If he'll not be killed then devta and heaven will be destroyed. So, kaamdev, please develop the urge in yogeshwar Shiv.”
Kamdev obeyed Indra and along with his wife Rati and friend Vasant, went where Shiv was doing penance and used his arrows. This disturbed Shiv's penance and he felt attraction towards Parvatiji. This made Shiv very distraught and he searched for the culprit. Kamdev, standing on his left side was about to shoot the second arrow. This made Shiv ji very angry. Then from the forehead of Shiva where his third eye is situated, a lot of heat generated which incinerated Kamdev. This created chaos in devtas. Rati fainted and when she came in senses, she started mourning. Upon watching this, devtas said to rati that take the ashes of Kamdev to Shiva. He is very merciful, ask him for the revival of Kamdev. Rati did the same. She started to pray to Shiv for the revival of the Kamdev. Shiv ji being very merciful and innocent, forgot all his anger and gave a boon of the complete revival of Kamdev by lord Krishna and Rukminiji. Kamdev will be in the heart of every human, till the end of the earth, and Shiv ji went away after saying this.
Now you must be asking, how Shiv ji generated so much heat from his third eye? A lot of you must be thinking, that Shiv ji is God and he can do whatever he wants. Let me tell you one thing here, that in Shastras, Shiv ji is not just considered lord but, ‘Shiv
ji is considered to be a very huge sadhak. A yogi who is always meditating and by this extreme meditation he opened all his chakras and kundalini. When Shiv ji incinerated Kamdev, he was in Samadhi and had concentrated all his energies. And this energy came as heat from his third eye.’
Now let's understand how we can concentrate all our energies into one point and open our third eye. Dhyaan is the easiest and best way to open agya chakra a.k.a. third eye. This is a very long process. In this process, the sadhak tries to stabilize his chitta by meditation. When a sadhak starts this process, he feels the energy in between his eyebrows. After a long practice, the sadhak clearly sees this energy point. Then whenever sadhak meditates, he moves in the whole universe by these energies. This is known as the opening of the third eye. Now let's understand the science behind it. The place between our eyebrows, where tilak is applied, is the centre point of our consciousness. Behind this point is the pineal gland. The pineal gland is in the centre of both parts of our brain. This is the part of the brain which is single, rest all are in pair. Biologically, pineal gland grows only till the age of two, after that its growth stops. Whoever's third eye opens, their sexual thoughts start to die. Melatonin is a hormone, which doesn't let sexual thoughts grow. And that is why as soon as we enter adolescence, production of melatonin reduces. And that's why the opening of our eye is not completed. By meditation, we can increase the production of melatonin and thus open our third eye.
Now you must be starting to realize that opening the third eye is not some miracle, it is a kind of sadhana. Our devidevtas didn't use to do miracles, they used knowledge to do big things, which we pass as a miracle and connect it with some stories. That's why we are not close to our God, because we think them to be different, and push them away from ourselves. If we are part of God, then we must have powers of that part. We can even use those energies. Even, people in modern times used them. There have
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been many such big rishis. If you create even a little vibration in your agya
chakra by a lot of practice of Samadhi, then you get so much control of your life that you can give curse and boons. You can control your distortions. You'll know past and present. Your decisions will give positive outcomes, you'll be able to work efficiently with very less sleep. We enter a new dimension upon the opening of the third eye and agya chakra. Whatever we see with these two eyes, the third eye shows us a completely new dimension. This is the probable meaning of the third eye on Shiv's bear. Which are represented as chakra in tantra, because they don't have a particular shape, there is only one
point of energy. Scientific studies have shown that the colour of our skin and hair is decided by melatonin. It's also shown that there is a chemical named serotonin which is responsible for the origin and development of intelligence in our brain.
The third eye, whose science you just learned, must be practised by you. Believe in your God, believe that God has given you powers. You just have to be like God. You have to walk on his path. You have to be a merciful, soft and hardworking person. Then only you get such siddhis and then only you get peace, health and fame. This is the knowledge India has.
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RISHIKULSHALA
All the children dream,
But not equally.
Our affluent peer dream for toys, chocolate and golden gleam,
But we dream for some love, care and self-esteem.
Childhood is the happiest phase of one's life,
But we are mimicking an adult's life.
No proper meal to eat, no clean water to drink,
We are living in a world without any sync.
We wish for a bright and knowledgeable future,
Which will glue our dreams together like a suture.
Education will give our thinking a different appearance,
That will help us drive away all our ignorance.
No matter how dark and bumpy our life will be,
We will surely be the change this world needs.
Be our guide, be the light in our life,
To drown the darkness of this heavy night.
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Swami Vivekananda Ji always believed that it is the youth of a nation who can
bring about a revolution. If you are suffering from a problem, it is you who will take
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The world needs a revolution, everybody knows it and says it but, why don't we
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