The Joy of Marriage
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Transcript of The Joy of Marriage
What is happiness? Happiness is temporary
Happiness is based on feelings
Happiness depends on external factors.
What is Joy?
Joy comes from the Lord and you can still experience joy during trials and suffering
Joy is permanent and eternal because it is based on our relationship with Jesus, who is our everlasting source of joy.
Joy is true satisfaction that comes from internal factors. It is the fruit of the Holy Spirit in our hearts. (Gal.5,22)
Do you still have JOY?
How can we have joy in the midst of difficulties, trials, suffering?
“Consider it all joy, my brothers, when you encounter various trials, for you know that
the testing of your faith produces perseverance.” (James 1: 2-3)
…it is the gift that comes from
God, when we are living the sacrament of marriage,
during all the stages of our married life.
• It increases our….• well-being• physical desire for each other.
• It gives us…• happiness• energy• positive attitudes towards one another
“This one, at last, is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
This one shall be called ‘woman,’
for out of man this one has been
taken.”(Gen 2: 23)
FALLING IN LOVE is a gift from God…. because it is the moment when you decide to commit to spend the rest of your lives together.
You desire this feeling forever….
This second stage tends to be the most difficult because it is when couples experience the greatest disappointment and fall.
The higher the expectation the greater the fall….
This is the moment when “happiness” ends and we need to FIND Joy! The JOY is WITHIN US!
“So also you have sorrow now, but I will see you again, and your hearts will
rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you.” John 16:22
During this third stage we begin to feel frustrated because you want to change your spouse…you realise that we are different from one another.
We want to change the other because we believe that “MY WAY” is the right way.
You demand for the other to acknowledge that you are right.
The LORD God said: It is not good for the man to be alone. I will
make a helper suited to him. (Gen 2:18)
Haven’t you read the scripture says that in the beginning the creatorMade people male and female?... (Matthew 19,4)
• Your spouse can be your teacher or your enemy
• You can choose to learn from one anther or to run away from one another…..
• This is the time where divorce and separation take place.
Not all couples arrive at this stage.
Because they gave up in the previous stage…they have lacked patience with each other….they lost the “happiness” and couldn’t find the “JOY”
Acceptance requires openness to the other in order to listen to what the OTHER wants to communicate TO me!
• This requires DIALOGUE
• It requires GENEROUS LISTENING
• We need to accept that we are different but COMPLEMENTARY…we NEED ONE ANOTHER!
“Rejoice with joy that is inexpressible and filled with glory, obtaining the outcome of your faith, the salvation of your souls” (I Peter 1:8-9 )
During this last stage there is more peace and harmony. You start "liking" your spouse again. You have a shared history.
You feel proud that you've “weathered the storms”.
You appreciate your partners sense of commitment to making your marriage last.
• You feel more secure about yourself as a person and you begin to appreciate the differences between you and your spouse
• You value the difference and you feel enriched by one anther.
“I pray they will be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you, so that the
world will believe “ (Jn 17:21)
“Yes, I know what plans I have in mind for you, Yahweh declares: plans for peace, not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11)
“Well done, my good and faithful servant. Since you were faithful in small matters, I will give you great responsibilities. Come, share your
master’s joy.” (Matt 25:21)
“Everyone who listens to these words of mine and acts on them will be like a wise man who built his house on rock. The rain fell, the floods came, and the winds blew and buffeted the house. But it did not collapse; it had
been set solidly on rock.( Mt. 7:24)
“The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart
trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart
shouts for joy!