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An investigation of the
conceptualisation of romantic
love across South Africa:
A cross-cultural study
by
KETY PAVLOU
Thesis
Submitted in fulfilment of the requirements for the degree
DOCTOR LITTERARUM ET PHILOSOPHIAE
in
PSYCHOLOGY
in the
FACULTY OF HUMANITIES
at the
UNIVERSITY OF JOHANNESBURG
Promotor: Dr. Hilton Rudnick
Co- Promotor: Professor Alban Burke
October 2009
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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
I am deeply indebted to the following people:
My parents, family and friends for their love, support and encouragement.
My supervisor Dr Hilton Rudnick who has been a generous and supportive academic
mentor. His insights, guidance, encouragement, support and sense of humour have,
without question, made this a better study.
Professor Alban Burke, for his statistical input and big picture thinking.
Dr Deon de Bruin for his invaluable assistance with the data analysis.
The psychology honours (2008) field workers for their assistance in gathering data.
And the participants who filled out the questionnaires.
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SUMMARY
The purpose of this study was to add much needed information to the body of
knowledge as regards South African intimate relationships, by looking through the lens
of social and cross-cultural psychology. The study set out to investigate the different
and nuanced ways of loving and conceptualisations of romantic love across the four
broad cultural groups in South Africa. Although romantic love is by and large accepted
as a near universal experience, it is said to vary as a function of culture. Western /
individualistic and collectivistic romantic love was considered. South Africa‘s
multicultural rainbow nation seems to exhibit both individualistic as well as collectivistic
modes of loving amongst its four broad cultural groups, with Black and Indian/Asian
conceptualisations of romantic love seemingly being tied up in culture bound
collectivism, whereas White and Coloured conceptualisations of romantic love are
apparently tied up in culture bound individualism.
The study initially explored various theories of romantic love which have been
developed within the Western canon. These included 1) Freud‘s intrapsychic
foundations of love, 2) Fromm‘s humanistic and sociocultural view of love, 3)
attachment theory and its genetic, biological and interpersonal viewpoint of love, 4)
interdependence theory / social exchange theory and its emphasis on the economic
nature of an intimate relationship, 5) the components of passionate and companionate
love, 6) Sternberg‘s triangular theory of love and his social constructionist theory of love
stories, 7) evolution theory and its focus on explaining how romantic love, mate
selection and mate preferences is shaped by inherited biological and genetic make-up
and finally 8) Lee‘s six lovestyles. Special emphasis was given to Lee‘s colours of love
theory which consists of a typology of lovestyles. These were employed as the central
tenet to establish intersections, parallels and differences amongst the types of love.
Thereafter the study investigated the nebulous construct of culture through Hofstede‘s
five dimensions of culture. Differences between nation, ethnic groups and race were
clarified and South Africa‘s four primary cultural groups were explored. Finally the study
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reviewed the literature on how romantic love is conceptualised across culture with
specific emphasis on the central dimension of individualism and collectivism.
This study‘s primary focus was to: 1) establish the validity and reliability of the various
instruments used (Romantic Beliefs Scale, Relationship Questionnaire Scale, Love
Attitude Scale and the Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire) when applied
to the South African population; 2) the levels of endorsement of individualism and
collectivism in each of the four primary cultural groups (Black, White, Coloured and
Indian/Asian) in South Africa; 3) the differences and commonalities in the ways of loving
- love experiences, love as a basis for marriage, love as a basis for the maintenance of
marriage, romantic beliefs, attachment styles and lovestyles - that emerged as mediated
by culture in South Africa when comparing these four cultural groups; 4) the possible
gender differences in a) the overall South African sample, b) by gender and race, and c)
gender within race; 5) the influence of socioeconomic status on the ways of loving; and
6) the intersection between lovestyles and the ways of loving utilising the overall South
African sample.
Total romanticism in the Romantic Beliefs Scale; avoidance and anxiety in the
Relationship Questionnaire Scale; eros, ludus, storge, pragma, mania and agape in the
Love Attitude Scale; and individualism and collectivism in the Auckland Individualism
Collectivism Questionnaire were found to be reliable and factorially valid for the South
African population.
Unanticipated, homogeneous results across the four broad cultural groups in South
Africa were observed on both of the instruments that were employed to measure
individualism and collectivism (The Auckland Individualism Collectivism
Questionnaire and Hofstede‘s (1994b) Value Survey Model). The author suggested
three possible explanations. In addition, perhaps these unexpected results are
suggestive of the impact of globalisation and possibly these results will steer
researchers to reassess previous ways of categorising – culture, race, ethnic group and
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nation – and instead begin to consider categorising according to social class and
socioeconomic status.
Overall the four South African cultural groups are relatively similar across the love
measures. The three most fully endorsed lovestyles in all four cultural groups were eros,
agape and storge. The Black, White and Coloured groups endorsed eros as their
dominant lovestyle, followed by agape and thereafter storge for the White and Coloured
groups, and storge and thereafter agape for the Black group. The participants in the
Indian/Asian group endorse agape as their dominant lovestyle, followed by eros and
storge. The most significant differences, upon comparing cultural groups, appeared
firstly, in the importance of love as a basis for marriage where South African
Indian/Asian participants were significantly more likely to marry someone whom they did
not love, while White participants were significantly less likely to do so; and secondly, in
lovestyles where: 1) the Black participants were significantly more ludus than the White
participants, 2) the Indian/Asian participants were significantly more pragma than the
White participants, and 3) the White and Indian/Asian respondents were significantly
more agape than the Black respondents. Synthesised results and details of each of
these cultural groups are discussed in the thesis.
With regards to gender it was found that South African women were significantly more
likely to be in love than South African men while they are also marginally more likely to
be more romantic than their male counterparts. Upon examining the gender differences
in lovestyles it was established that men endorsed agape and ludus as their dominant
lovestyles, whereas women endorsed eros, storge and pragma as their dominant
lovestyles. South African men were found to be significantly more ludus than South
African women while South African women were significantly more storge than South
African men. Race by gender differences and gender within race differences are treated
in more detail in the thesis.
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It was found that the higher the participants‘ socioeconomic status the more likely
they were to marry someone they loved. In addition, participants from the lower income
group were significantly more likely to employ a dismissing attachment style.
When investigating the intersection between lovestyles and the ways of loving utilising
the overall South African sample, interesting findings emerged. Individuals with an eros
lovestyle were the most likely to be in love at the time of the study. Individuals with a
ludus lovestyle were significantly less likely to be in love at the time of the study than
any other lovestyle. Individuals with an agape or eros lovestyle were significantly more
likely to marry someone whom they love than those with other lovestyles. The ludus
and pragma participants were significantly less likely to marry someone whom they love
when compared with participants with other dominant lovestyles. The researcher
observed no significant differences between the lovestyles and the importance of love
in the maintenance of marriage. The more romantic individuals were, the more eros
and agape they were and the less romantic an individual the more ludus they were.
Individuals with an agape lovestyle were significantly more likely to be romantic than
individuals with a storge lovestyle. In the South African sample it was observed that
individuals with the passionate eros lovestyle were significantly more likely to display a
secure attachment style and significantly less likely to experience a dismissing or
fearful attachment style. Individuals with a ludus lovestyle were significantly more likely
to possess a dismissing or fearful attachment style and were significantly less likely to
display a secure or preoccupied one. Individuals with a mania lovestyle were
significantly more likely to have a preoccupied or fearful attachment style and were
significantly less likely to adopt a secure or a dismissing attachment style.
In conclusion, it is argued that the study has not only arrived at significant findings but
also identified useful perspectives for future research.
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
CHAPTER 1 ...............................................................................................................................1
INTRODUCTION, RATIONALE AND RESEARCH AIMS ...........................................................1
1.1 IMPORTANCE OF THE TOPIC ......................................................................................................... 1 1.2 DEFINITION OF MAIN TERMS ......................................................................................................... 2
1.2.1 Love ..................................................................................................................................... 2 1.2.2 The South African socio-cultural context ............................................................................. 10
1.3 RESEARCH AIMS ...................................................................................................................... 12 1.4 CHAPTER OUTLINE .................................................................................................................... 14
CHAPTER 2 .............................................................................................................................15
PRINCIPLES AND THEORIES OF WESTERN LOVE ..............................................................15
2.1 INTRODUCTION ......................................................................................................................... 15 2.2 FACTORS THAT NURTURE ATTRACTION, LIKING AND LOVING ........................................................... 19
2.2.1 Proximity ............................................................................................................................ 19 2.2.2 Similarity ............................................................................................................................ 20 2.2.3 Reciprocity: Mutual liking .................................................................................................... 22 2.2.4 Physical attractiveness ....................................................................................................... 22 2.2.5 Conclusion ......................................................................................................................... 24
2.3 FREUD‘S CONCEPTUALISATIONS OF LOVE .................................................................................... 26 2.3.1 Brief background ................................................................................................................ 26 2.3.2 Freud’s theories of love ...................................................................................................... 28 2.3.3 Relevant post-Freud psychoanalytic contributions ............................................................... 42 2.3.4 Criticisms ........................................................................................................................... 47 2.3.5 Conclusion ......................................................................................................................... 48
2.4 FROMM‘S THEORY ON THE ART OF LOVING ................................................................................... 51 2.4.1 Brief background ................................................................................................................ 51 2.4.2 Love versus isolation, alienation and separateness ............................................................. 52 2.4.3 Development of love ........................................................................................................... 54 2.4.4 Five types or objects of love ............................................................................................... 56 2.4.5 Love’s disintegration in Western Society ............................................................................. 57 2.4.6 Practice of love ................................................................................................................... 60 2.4.7 Criticisms of Fromm’s theory of love ................................................................................... 60 2.4.8 Conclusion ......................................................................................................................... 61
2.5 ATTACHMENT THEORY............................................................................................................... 64 2.5.1. Introduction .................................................................................................................... 64 2.5.2. Infant Attachment ........................................................................................................... 65 2.5.3. Adult Attachment ............................................................................................................ 73 2.5.4. Criticisms of attachment theory ....................................................................................... 87 2.5.5. Conclusion ..................................................................................................................... 90
2.6 INTERDEPENDENCE THEORY ...................................................................................................... 92 2.6.1 Interdependence theory or social exchange theory ............................................................. 92 2.6.2 Investment model ............................................................................................................... 94 2.6.3 Investment model extended ................................................................................................ 97 2.6.4 Equity theory ...................................................................................................................... 98 2.6.5 Criticisms ......................................................................................................................... 101 2.6.6 Conclusion ....................................................................................................................... 101
2.7 PASSIONATE AND COMPANIONATE LOVE ................................................................................... 103 2.8 TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE AND LOVE STORIES ..................................................................... 105
2.8.1 Triangular theory of love ................................................................................................... 105 2.8.2 Love socially constructed .................................................................................................. 107
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2.8.3 Love as a story ................................................................................................................. 107 2.8.4 Conclusion ....................................................................................................................... 113
2.9 EVOLUTION AND LOVE ............................................................................................................. 115 2.9.1 Introduction ...................................................................................................................... 115 2.9.2 Romantic love and evolution ............................................................................................. 118 2.9.3 Male and female mate preferences ................................................................................... 121 2.9.4 Criticisms of evolutionary psychology................................................................................ 129 2.9.5 Conclusion ....................................................................................................................... 132
2.10 LEE‘S LOVESTYLES ................................................................................................................. 134 2.10.1 Introduction .................................................................................................................. 134 2.10.2 The lovestyle typology .................................................................................................. 136 2.10.3 Lovestyle combinations................................................................................................. 141 2.10.4 Research and lovestyles ............................................................................................... 142 2.10.5 Conclusion on lovestyles .............................................................................................. 152
2.11 THE LOVE THEORIES‘ POINTS OF COMMONALITY AND AGREEMENT ................................................ 154 2.11.1 Intersections with eros .................................................................................................. 159 2.11.2 Intersections with ludus................................................................................................. 161 2.11.3 Intersections with storge ............................................................................................... 164 2.11.4 Intersections with mania ............................................................................................... 166 2.11.5 Intersections with pragma ............................................................................................. 168 2.11.6 Intersections with agape ............................................................................................... 170 2.11.7 Conclusion ................................................................................................................... 172
2.12 CONCLUSIONS ON LOVE THEORIES ........................................................................................... 176
CHAPTER 3 ........................................................................................................................... 180
CULTURE ............................................................................................................................... 180
3.1. CULTURE ............................................................................................................................... 180 3.2. HOFSTEDE‘S FIVE DIMENSIONS OF CULTURE .............................................................................. 184
3.2.1 Individualism versus collectivism ...................................................................................... 185 3.2.2 Power distance ................................................................................................................. 190 3.2.3 Masculinity versus femininity ............................................................................................ 192 3.2.4 Uncertainty avoidance ...................................................................................................... 195 3.2.5 Long-term orientation versus short-term orientation .......................................................... 197 3.2.6 Summary of Hofstede’s cultural dimensions ...................................................................... 198 3.2.7 Criticism and limitations of Hofstede’s cultural dimensions ................................................ 201
3.3. NATION, ETHNIC GROUP AND RACE ........................................................................................... 202 3.4. SOUTH AFRICA‘S GROUPINGS .................................................................................................. 205
3.4.1. African cultural group .................................................................................................... 207 3.4.2. White cultural group ...................................................................................................... 210 3.4.3. Coloured cultural group................................................................................................. 211 3.4.4. Indian / Asian cultural group .......................................................................................... 213
3.5. THE IMPACT OF GLOBALISATION ON CULTURE ............................................................................. 215 3.5.1 Introduction ...................................................................................................................... 215 3.5.2 Distinguishing factors of globalisation ............................................................................... 215 3.5.3 The cultural uniformity debate ........................................................................................... 216 3.5.4 Consequences of globalisation ......................................................................................... 218 3.5.5 Globalisation in South Africa ............................................................................................. 219 3.5.6 Conclusion as regards globalisation .................................................................................. 222
3.6. CONCLUSION ......................................................................................................................... 222
CHAPTER 4 ........................................................................................................................... 224
CULTURE AND ROMANTIC LOVE ....................................................................................... 224
4.1. INTRODUCTION ....................................................................................................................... 224 4.2. LOVE ACROSS THE INDIVIDUALISTIC AND COLLECTIVISTIC DIMENSION ............................................ 225
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4.3. ROMANTIC LOVE CROSS-CULTURAL RESEARCH FINDINGS ............................................................ 228 4.3.1. Love as a basis for marriage ......................................................................................... 229 4.3.2. Romantic beliefs and attitudes ...................................................................................... 235 4.3.3. Attachment patterns...................................................................................................... 238 4.3.4. Lovestyles .................................................................................................................... 240 4.3.5. Other ways of romantic love .......................................................................................... 246 4.3.6. Love and money ........................................................................................................... 248
4.4. IMPACT OF GLOBALISATION AND CULTURAL SHIFTS ON ROMANTIC LOVE......................................... 249 4.4.1. Introduction .................................................................................................................. 249 4.4.2. Cultural shifts ................................................................................................................ 250 4.4.3. Globalisation and love research .................................................................................... 256
4.5. SOUTH AFRICAN LOVE............................................................................................................. 258 4.5.1. Love attitude and values ............................................................................................... 259 4.5.2. Love and marriage ........................................................................................................ 262 4.5.3. Marriage statistics in South Africa ................................................................................. 268
4.6. CONCLUSION ......................................................................................................................... 270
CHAPTER 5 ........................................................................................................................... 273
RESEARCH METHODOLOGY ............................................................................................... 273
5.1 INTRODUCTION ....................................................................................................................... 273 5.2 SAMPLE................................................................................................................................. 275 5.3 MEASUREMENT INSTRUMENTS ................................................................................................. 275
5.3.1 Biographical Questionnaire ............................................................................................... 275 5.3.2 Love as a basis for marriage ............................................................................................. 276 5.3.3 Romantic Beliefs Scale ..................................................................................................... 277 5.3.4 Relationship Scales Questionnaire ................................................................................... 278 5.3.5 Love Attitude Scale........................................................................................................... 281 5.3.6 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire ........................................................... 282 5.3.7 Values Survey Module ...................................................................................................... 283 5.3.8 Bem Sex Role Inventory ................................................................................................... 284
5.4 RESEARCH METHOD................................................................................................................ 285 5.5 DATA ANALYSIS PROCEDURES .................................................................................................. 286 5.6 ETHICAL CONSIDERATIONS ...................................................................................................... 287 5.7 CONCLUSION ......................................................................................................................... 287
CHAPTER 6 ........................................................................................................................... 289
RESULTS AND DISCUSSION ............................................................................................... 289
6.1. INTRODUCTION ....................................................................................................................... 289 6.2. DESCRIPTIVE STATISTICS ........................................................................................................ 289
6.2.1. Demographics .............................................................................................................. 289 6.2.2. Love experiences ......................................................................................................... 292 6.2.3. Love as a basis for marriage ......................................................................................... 294 6.2.4. Love as a basis for the maintenance of marriage .......................................................... 294 6.2.5. Romantic Beliefs Scale – romantic beliefs ..................................................................... 295 6.2.6. Relationship Style Questionnaire – attachment patterns ................................................ 296 6.2.7. Love Attitude Scale - lovestyles .................................................................................... 298 6.2.8. Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire ....................................................... 299 6.2.9. Hofstede’s Value Survey Model .................................................................................... 300
6.3. FACTOR ANALYSIS .................................................................................................................. 302 6.3.1. Romantic Beliefs Scale ................................................................................................. 302 6.3.2. Relationship Scale Questionnaire ................................................................................. 308 6.3.3. Love Attitude Scale ....................................................................................................... 311 6.3.4. Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire ....................................................... 318 6.3.5. Conclusion on factor analysis ....................................................................................... 324
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6.4. RELIABILITY OF INSTRUMENTS .................................................................................................. 325 6.4.1. Reliability of Romantic Beliefs Scale ............................................................................. 325 6.4.2. Reliability of Relationship Questionnaire Scale .............................................................. 325 6.4.3. Reliability of Love Attitude Scale ................................................................................... 326 6.4.4. Reliability of Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire .................................... 326 6.4.5. Conclusion on reliability of instruments ......................................................................... 327
6.5. INDIVIDUALISM COLLECTIVISM .................................................................................................. 328 6.5.1. Auckland Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire by race .................................... 328 6.5.2. Auckland Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire by gender ................................ 329 6.5.3. Auckland Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire by race and gender interaction . 332 6.5.4. Conclusion on Auckland Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire.......................... 336
6.6. LOVE RESULTS BY RACE, GENDER AND THE INTERSECTION BETWEEN RACE AND GENDER ................ 337 6.6.1. Love experiences by race and gender........................................................................... 337 6.6.2. Love as a basis for marriage by race and gender .......................................................... 343 6.6.3. Love as a basis for the maintenance of marriage by race and gender ........................... 351 6.6.4. Romantic beliefs by race and gender ............................................................................ 363 6.6.5. Attachment styles by race and gender .......................................................................... 367 6.6.6. Lovestyles by race and gender ..................................................................................... 374 6.6.7. Race and gender conclusion ......................................................................................... 398
6.7. LOVE RESULTS BY SOCIOECONOMIC STATUS .............................................................................. 404 6.7.1. Socioeconomic status and race .................................................................................... 404 6.7.2. Socioeconomic status and gender ................................................................................ 406 6.7.3. Socioeconomic status by race and gender .................................................................... 407 6.7.4. Socioeconomic status and love experiences ................................................................. 411 6.7.5. Socioeconomic status and love as a basis for marriage ................................................ 412 6.7.6. Socioeconomic status and love as a basis for the maintenance of marriage .................. 413 6.7.7 Socioeconomic status and romantic beliefs ....................................................................... 415 6.7.8. Socioeconomic status and attachment patterns ............................................................ 416 6.7.9. Socioeconomic status and lovestyles ............................................................................ 418 6.7.10 Socioeconomic status and love conclusion ................................................................... 420
6.8. RESULTS OF LOVE MEASURES AND LOVESTYLES ........................................................................ 421 6.8.1. Love experiences and lovestyles .................................................................................. 421 6.8.2. Love as a basis for marriage and lovestyles .................................................................. 422 6.8.3. Love as a basis for the maintenance of marriage and lovestyles ................................... 424 6.8.4. Romantic beliefs and lovestyles .................................................................................... 426 6.8.5. Attachment patterns x lovestyles ................................................................................... 432 6.8.6. Conclusion – love measures x lovestyles ...................................................................... 442
6.9. CONCLUSION ......................................................................................................................... 443 6.9.1. Descriptives .................................................................................................................. 443 6.9.2. Factor analysis and reliabilities ..................................................................................... 443 6.9.3. Auckland Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire ................................................ 444 6.9.4. Hofstede’s Value Survey Model .................................................................................... 445 6.9.5. Love experiences ......................................................................................................... 445 6.9.6. Love as a basis for marriage ......................................................................................... 446 6.9.7. Love as a basis for the maintenance of marriage .......................................................... 447 6.9.8. Romantic beliefs ........................................................................................................... 448 6.9.9. Attachment Styles ......................................................................................................... 448 6.9.10. Lovestyles .................................................................................................................... 450 6.9.11. Love measures and lovestyles ...................................................................................... 451
CHAPTER 7 ........................................................................................................................... 454
SUMMARY CONCLUSION AND RECOMMENDATIONS ...................................................... 454
7.1 INTRODUCTION ....................................................................................................................... 454 7.2 CONCLUSION BASED ON THE REVIEW OF THE LITERATURE ........................................................... 457
7.2.1 Validity and reliability of instruments ................................................................................. 457
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7.2.2 Individualism-collectivism instruments............................................................................... 458 7.2.3. Love measures ............................................................................................................. 466
7.3 LIMITATIONS OF THE CURRENT STUDY ....................................................................................... 508 7.4 RECOMMENDATIONS – FUTURE RESEARCH ............................................................................... 510 7.5 CONTRIBUTION OF THE STUDY.................................................................................................. 511 7.6 CONCLUDING REMARKS ........................................................................................................... 512
REFERENCES ....................................................................................................................... 513
APPENDIX A – FINAL QUESTIONNAIRE PACK .................................................................. 562
ANNEXURE B – PILOT QUESTIONNAIRE PACK................................................................. 580
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LIST OF TABLES
Table 2.1 Attachment style, caregiving and sexual mating 75
Table 2.2 A process model of adult attachment formation 77
Table 2.3 Summary of Hazan and Shaver‘s (1987) study 81
Table 2.4 Hendrix‘s psychosocial stages and maladaptive strategies 87
Table 2.5 Sternberg‘s (2000) love stories 108-9
Table 2.6 Lee‘s lovestyle colour classification 135
Table 2.7 Lovestyles and personality correlates 145
Table 2.8 Lovestyles and gender 149
Table 2.9 Measures of love associated with the three major attachment styles 151
Table 2.10 Summary of models of love and their corresponding love types 157-8
Table 2.11 Possible intersections between types, patterns, strategies and styles
of love
174-5
Table 3.1 How problems of social life are solved by culture 183
Table 3.2 Value dimensions 184
Table 3.3 Individualism index (IVD) values for 50 countries and 3 regions 188
Table 3.4 Power distance Index (PDI) values for 50 countries and 3 regions 191-2
Table 3.5 Masculinity Index (MAS) values for 50 countries and 3 regions 193-4
Table 3.6 Uncertainty avoidance Index (UAI) values for 50 countries and 3
regions
196
Table 3.7 Long-term orientation Index (LTO) values for 23 countries 198
Table 3.8 Summary of values of Hofstede‘s cultural dimensions by country or
region
198-
200
Table 3.9 Top three and bottom three country values on Hofstede‘s cultural
dimensions
200
Table 3.10 South Africa‘s rank and values on Hofstede‘s cultural dimensions 201
Table 3.11 A schematic comparison of the Western and African views of the
person and worldviews
209
Table 4.1 Measure of ‗Love as a basis for marriage‘ correlated with Hofstede‘s
(1991) Individualism Index
231
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Table 4.2 Responses to ―If love has completely disappeared from a marriage I
think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and start
new lives‖
232
Table 4.3 Responses to ―In my opinion, the disappearance of love is not a
sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as
such‖
233
Table 4.4 Erikson‘s eight stages of development 254
Table 4.5 Average percentage age 50 and above per population group and
gender, 1995-1999
269
Table 6.1 Frequency distribution of age 290
Table 6.2 Frequency distribution of race 290
Table 6.3 Proportions of religious orientation 291
Table 6.4 Frequency distribution of social class growing up 291
Table 6.5 Frequency distribution of current social class 292
Table 6.6 Frequency distribution of answers to the question: What is your
current romantic relationship status?
293
Table 6.7 Frequency distribution of answers to the question: ―If you have been
in an intimate relationship in the past, how long was your longest
relationship?‖
294
Table 6.8 Frequency distribution of answers to the question: ―If love has
completely disappeared from a marriage, I think it is probably best for
the couple to make a clean break and start new lives‖.
295
Table 6.9 Frequency distribution of answers to the question: ―In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage
and should not be viewed as such‖.
295
Table 6.10 Romantic belief descriptive statistics 295
Table 6.11 Frequency distribution of romantic beliefs 296
Table 6.12 Descriptive statistics of attachment patterns 296
Table 6.13 Frequency distribution of attachment patterns 298
Table 6.14 Descriptive statistics of lovestyles 298
Table 6.15 Frequency distribution of lovestyles 299
Table 6.16 Descriptive statistics of Individualism Collectivism dimensions 300
Table 6.17 Scores on the dimensions of the Value Survey Model 301
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Table 6.18 Romantic Beliefs Scale correlation matrix (item) 303
Table 6.19 Romantic Beliefs Scale KMO and Bartlett's test (item) 303
Table 6.20 Romantic Beliefs Scale total variance explained (item) 305
Table 6.21 Romantic Beliefs Scale component matrix (item) 306
Table 6.22 Romantic Beliefs Scale total variance explained (factor) 307
Table 6.23 Romantic Beliefs Scale factor matrix (factor) 307
Table 6.24 Relationship Scale Questionnaire KMO and Bartlett's Test (item) 308
Table 6.25 Relationship Scale Questionnaire variance explained (item) 309
Table 6.26 Relationship Scale Questionnaire component matrix (item) 310
Table 6.27 Relationship Scale Questionnaire rotated component matrix (item) 311
Table 6.28 Relationship Scale Questionnaire total variance explained by varimax
rotated principal components (item)
311
Table 6.29 Love Attitude Questionnaire KMO and Bartlett‘s test (item) 312
Table 6.30 Love Attitude Scale total variance explained (item) 312
Table 6.31 Love Attitude Scale component matrix (item) 314
Table 6.32 Love Attitude Scale total variance explained by varimax rotated
principal components (item)
316
Table 6.33 Love Attitude Scale rotated component matrix (item) 317
Table 6.34 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire KMO and
Bartlett‘s test (item)
318
Table 6.35 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire total variance
explained (item)
319
Table 6.36 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire component matrix
(item)
321
Table 6.37 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire total variance
explained by varimax rotated principal components (item)
322
Table 6.38 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire rotated component
matrix (item)
323
Table 6.39 Reliability of Romantic Beliefs Scale 325
Table 6.40 Reliability of Relationship Questionnaire Scale 326
Table 6.41 Reliability of Love Attitude Scale 327
Table 6.42 Reliability of Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire 328
Table 6.43 Individualism collectivism descriptives determined by race 329
Table 6.44 Individualism collectivism ANOVA determined by race 329
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Table 6.45 Individualism collectivism descriptives determined by gender 330
Table 6.46 Individualism collectivism ANOVA determined by gender 330
Table 6.47 Individualism descriptives determined by gender and race 332
Table 6.48 Individualism Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by
gender and race
333
Table 6.49 Collectivism descriptives determined by gender and race 334
Table 6.50 Collectivism Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by gender
and race
335
Table 6.51 Crosstabulation by race and ―Are you currently in love with
someone?‖
337
Table 6.52 Chi-Square Test by race and ―Are you currently in love with
someone?‖
337
Table 6.53 Crosstabulation by gender and ―Are you currently in love with
someone?‖
338
Table 6.54 Chi-Square Test by gender and ―Are you currently in love with
someone?‖
338
Table 6.55 Crosstabulation by race, gender and ―Are you currently in love with
someone?‖
339
Table 6.56 Chi-square test by race, gender and ―Are you currently in love with
someone?‖
340
Table 6.57 Crosstabulation by gender within race and ―Are you currently in love
with someone?‖
341
Table 6.58 Chi-square test by gender within race and ―Are you currently in love
with someone?‖
342
Table 6.59 Crosstabulation by race and ―If a man or woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in
love with him or her?‖
344
Table 6.60 Chi-Square Test by race and ―If a man or woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in
love with him or her?‖
345
Table 6.61 Crosstabulation by gender and ―If a man or woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in
love with him or her?‖
346
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Table 6.62 Chi-Square Test by gender and ―If a man or woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in
love with him or her?‖
346
Table 6.63 Crosstabulations by race, gender and ―If a man or woman had all the
other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were
not in love with him or her?‖
347
Table 6.64 Chi-square test by race, gender and ―If a man or woman had all the
other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were
not in love with him or her?‖
348
Table 6.65 Crosstabulations by gender within race and ―If a man or woman had
all the other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you
were not in love with him or her?‖
349
Table 6.66 Chi-square test by gender within race and ―If a man or woman had all
the other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you
were not in love with him or her?‖
350
Table 6.67 Crosstabulation by race and ―If love has completely disappeared from
a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean
break and start new lives‖.
352
Table 6.68 Chi-Square Test by race and ―If love has completely disappeared
from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a
clean break and start new lives‖.
352
Table 6.69 Crosstabulation by race ―In my opinion, the disappearance of love is
not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be
viewed as such‖.
353
Table 6.70 Chi-Square Test by race ―In my opinion, the disappearance of love is
not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be
viewed as such‖.
353
Table 6.71 Crosstabulation by gender ―If love has completely disappeared from a
marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean
break and start new lives‖.
354
Table 6.72 Chi-Square Test by gender ―If love has completely disappeared from
a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean
break and start new lives‖.
354
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Table 6.73 Crosstabulation by gender ―In my opinion, the disappearance of love
is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be
viewed as such‖
355
Table 6.74 Chi-Square Test by gender ―In my opinion, the disappearance of love
is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be.
viewed as such‖
355
Table 6.75 Crosstabulations by race, gender and ―If love has completely
disappeared from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple
to make a clean break and start new lives‖.
356
Table 6.76 Chi-square test by race, gender and ―If love has completely
disappeared from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple
to make a clean break and start new lives‖.
357
Table 6.77 Crosstabulations by race, gender and ―In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage
and should not be viewed as such‖.
357
Table 6.78 Chi-square test by race, gender and ―In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage
and should not be viewed as such‖.
358
Table 6.79 Crosstabulations by gender within race and ―In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage
and should not be viewed as such‖.
359
Table 6.80 Chi-square test by gender within race and ―In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage
and should not be viewed as such‖.
360
Table 6.81 Crosstabulations by gender within race and ―In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage
and should not be viewed as such‖.
361
Table 6.82 Chi-square test by gender within race and ―In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage
and should not be viewed as such‖.
362
Table 6.83 Romantic Beliefs descriptives determined by race 363
Table 6.84 One-way ANOVA: Romantic Beliefs determined by race 364
Table 6.85 Romantic Beliefs descriptives determined by gender 364
Table 6.86 One-way ANOVA: Romantic Beliefs determined by gender 364
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Table 6.87 Romantic beliefs descriptives determined by race and gender 365
Table 6.88 Romantic beliefs Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by
race and gender
366
Table 6.89 Crosstabulation by race and attachment style 368
Table 6.90 Chi-Square Test by race and attachment style 368
Table 6.91 Crosstabulation by gender and attachment style 369
Table 6.92 Chi-Square Test by gender and attachment style 369
Table 6.93 Crosstabulations by race, gender and attachment style 370
Table 6.94 Chi-square test by race, gender and attachment style 370
Table 6.95 Crosstabulations by gender within race and attachment style 371
Table 6.96 Chi-square test by gender within race and attachment style 373
Table 6.97 Lovestyles descriptives determined by race 377
Table 6.98 One-way ANOVA Lovestyles determined by race 378
Table 6.99 Multiple comparisons lovestyles determined by race (Tukey HSD) 378
Table 6.100 Lovestyles descriptives determined by gender 385
Table 6.101 One way ANOVA lovestyles determined by gender 386
Table 6.102 Eros lovestyle descriptives determined by race and gender 390
Table 6.103 Eros lovestyle Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by
gender and race
391
Table 6.104 Ludus lovestyle descriptives determined by race and gender 392
Table 6.105 Ludus lovestyle Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by
gender and race
392
Table 6.106 Storge lovestyle descriptives determined by race and gender 393
Table 6.107 Storge lovestyle Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by
race and gender
394
Table 6.108 Pragma lovestyle descriptives determined by race and gender 395
Table 6.109 Pragma lovestyle Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by
race and gender
395
Table 6.110 Mania lovestyle descriptives determined by race and gender 396
Table 6.111 Mania lovestyle Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by
race and gender
396
Table 6.112 Agape lovestyle descriptives determined by race and gender 397
Table 6.113 Agape lovestyle Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by
race and gender
398
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Table 6.114 Summary of significant findings by race, gender, race by gender,
gender within race and race by gender interaction
402
Table 6.115 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and race 405
Table 6.116 Chi-Square Test by socioeconomic status and race 405
Table 6.117 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and gender 407
Table 6.118 Chi-Square Test by socioeconomic status and gender 407
Table 6.119 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and race by gender 408
Table 6.120 Chi-Square Test by socioeconomic status and race by gender 409
Table 6.121 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and gender within race 410
Table 6.122 Chi-Square Test by socioeconomic status and race 411
Table 6.123 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and ―Are you currently in
love with someone?‖
412
Table 6.124 Chi-Square Test by socioeconomic status and ―Are you currently in
love with someone?‖
412
Table 6.125 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and ―If a man or woman had
all the other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you
were not in love with him or her?‖
413
Table 6.126 Chi-Square Test by socioeconomic status and ―If a man or woman
had all the other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if
you were not in love with him or her?‖
413
Table 6.127 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and ― If love has completely
disappeared from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple
to make a clean break and start new lives‖
414
Table 6.128 Chi-square Test by socioeconomic status and ―If love has completely
disappeared from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple
to make a clean break and start new lives‖
414
Table 6.129 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and ―In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage
and should not be viewed as such‖
415
Table 6.130 Chi-square Test by socioeconomic status and ―In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage
and should not be viewed as such‖
415
Table 6.131 Total romanticism descriptives determined by Socioeconomic status 416
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Table 6.132 One way ANOVA: Total romanticism determined by Socioeconomic
status
416
Table 6.133 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and attachment style 417
Table 6.134 Chi-square Test by Socioeconomic status and attachment style 417
Table 6.135 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and lovestyles 419
Table 6.136 Chi-square Test by socioeconomic status and lovestyles 419
Table 6.137 Crosstabulation by lovestyles and ―Are you currently in love with
someone?‖
421
Table 6.138 Chi-square Test by lovestyle and ―Are you currently in love with
someone?‖
422
Table 6.139 Crosstabulation by lovestyles and ―If a man or woman had all the
other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were
not in love with him or her?‖
423
Table 6.140 Chi-square Test by lovestyle and ―If a man or woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in
love with him or her?‖
423
Table 6.141 Crosstabulation by lovestyles and ―If love has completely disappeared
from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a
clean break and start new lives‖
425
Table 6.142 Chi-square Test by lovestyle and ―If love has completely disappeared
from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a
clean break and start new lives‖
425
Table 6.143 Crosstabulation by lovestyles and ―In my opinion, the disappearance
of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not
be viewed as such‖
426
Table 6.144 Chi-square Test by lovestyle and ―In my opinion, the disappearance
of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not
be viewed as such‖
426
Table 6.145 Total romanticism descriptives as determined by lovestyles 427
Table 6.146 One-way ANOVA: Total romanticism as determined by lovestyles 427
Table 6.147 Multiple comparisons: Total romanticism as determined by lovestyles
(Tukey HSD)
427
Table 6.148 Correlations of romanticism and lovestyles 431
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Table 6.149 Lovestyle descriptives as determined by attachment style 433
Table 6.150 One-way ANOVA: Lovestyles as determined by attachment style 434
Table 6.151 Multiple comparisons: Lovestyles as determined by attachment style
(Tukey HSD)
435
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LIST OF FIGURES
Figure 2.1 Two-dimensional, four-category model of adult attachment 83
Figure 2.2 Rusbult‘s Investment Model 95
Figure 2.3 Commitment and relationship maintenance mechanisms 98
Figure 2.4 Sternberg‘s (1988) Triangular Model of Love 106
Figure 2.5 Lee‘s (1976) colour wheel 135
Figure 2.6 A tentative integrated model of romantic love (1) 156
Figure 2.7 A tentative integrated model of romantic love (2) 178
Figure 3.1 Vertical, horizontal and oblique forms of cultural transmission and
acculturation
182
Figure 3.2 South African National Population Estimates, 2008 206
Figure 4.1 A tentative integrated model of romantic love (3) 272
Figure 5.1 Two-dimensional: anxiety/self-model and avoidance/other-model;
four-category model of adult attachment.
280
Figure 6.1 Two-dimensional: anxiety/self-model and avoidance/other-model;
four-category model of adult attachment with excluded area
297
Figure: 6.2 Proportion of samples‘ dominant lovestyle 299
Figure 6.3 Romantic Beliefs Scale screeplot (item) 305
Figure 6.4 Romantic Beliefs Scale screeplot (factor) 307
Figure 6.5 Relationship Scale Questionnaire screeplot (item) 309
Figure 6.6 Love Attitude Scale screeplot (item) 314
Figure 6.7 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire screeplot (item) 320
Figure 6.8 Means of individualism as determined by gender 331
Figure 6.9 Means of collectivism as determined by gender 331
Figure 6.10 Gender x race means of Individualism 333
Figure 6.11 Gender and race means of Collectivism 335
Figure 6.12 Race proportions of those who would and would not marry someone
they did not love
344
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Figure 6.13 Proportion of males and females who would and would not marry
someone they did not love.
345
Figure 6.14 Means of total romanticism score as determined by gender and race. 366
Figure 6.15 Proportion of Black samples‘ predominant lovestyle 375
Figure 6.16 Proportion of White samples‘ predominant lovestyle 375
Figure 6.17 Proportion of Coloured samples‘ predominant lovestyle 375
Figure 6.18 Proportion of Indian/Asian samples‘ predominant lovestyle 375
Figure 6.19 Means of eros lovestyle as determined by race 381
Figure 6.20 Means of ludus lovestyle as determined by race 381
Figure 6.21 Means of storge lovestyle as determined by race 382
Figure 6.22 Means of pragma lovestyle as determined by race 382
Figure 6.23 Means of mania lovestyle as determined by race 383
Figure 6.24 Means of agape lovestyle as determined by race 383
Figure 6.25 Proportion of male samples‘ predominant lovestyle 384
Figure 6.26 Proportion of female samples‘ predominant lovestyle 384
Figure 6.27 Means of eros lovestyle as determined by gender 387
Figure 6.28 Means of ludus lovestyle as determined by gender 387
Figure 6.29 Means of storge lovestyle as determined by gender 388
Figure 6.30 Means of pragma lovestyle as determined by gender 388
Figure 6.31 Means of mania lovestyle as determined by gender 389
Figure 6.32 Means of agape lovestyle as determined by gender 389
Figure 6.33 Socioeconomic status as determined by race 406
Figure 6.34 Attachment style and socioeconomic status 418
Figure 6.35 Are you currently in love with someone by lovestyle 422
Figure 6.36 ―If a man or woman had all the other qualities you desired, would you
marry this person if you were not in love with him or her?‖ as
determined by lovestyle
424
Figure 6.37 Means of total romanticism as determined by lovestyles 429
Figure 6.38 Mean of eros lovestyle as determined by attachment style 439
Figure 6.39 Mean of ludus lovestyle as determined by attachment style 439
Figure 6.40 Mean of storge lovestyle as determined by attachment style 440
Figure 6.41 Mean of pragma lovestyle as determined by attachment style 440
Figure 6.42 Mean of mania lovestyle as determined by attachment style 441
Figure 6.43 Mean of agape lovestyle as determined by attachment style 441
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CHAPTER 1
Introduction, Rationale and Research Aims
1.1 Importance of the topic
―Everything that lives, lives not alone nor for itself‖ (William Blake)
Harlow (1958, p. 673) states that ―love is a wondrous state, deep, tender, and
rewarding‖. Hendrix (1995) agrees and adds that human beings have an unconscious
and powerful yearning to be in a committed love partnership with another in order to feel
whole and fulfilled. People feel happy, alive and at peace with the world when they are
in love and connected with another (Hendrix, 1995). The lack of an intimate relationship
makes individuals feel disconnected, valueless, hopeless, powerless, immobilised and
estranged (Aronson, Wilson & Akert, 2005; Hendrix, 1995). It is this yearning for love
and connection with another that places intimate relationships at the core of human
experience and central to our being (Brehm, Miller, Perlman & Campbell, 2002; Freud,
1930; Hendrix, 1995; Myers, 2002). Berscheid and Reis (1998) assert that research
confirms that the primary reason individuals seek psychotherapy is because of
distressed relationships – mostly familial or marital. Researchers that study human
happiness have found that people consider close relationships of primary importance,
meaningful and essential to their mental and physical well being (Berscheid, 1999).
Studies reveal that love is a significant predictor of positive emotions, satisfaction and
happiness (Diener & Lucas, 2000; Myers, 2002). Therefore, by improving our
understanding of romantic relationships and love we create the potential for improving
relationship function and in turn the mental and physical well being of the individual.
Lampert, (1997, p. 8) says ―Love is one of the most intense, dramatic, powerful
experiences known to humans‖. Humans seem to have an innate need to seek and join
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with a mate in love and connection. This seeking, joining and union is done in many
different and diverse ways.
Most researchers and theorists agree that romantic love is a near universal experience
(Buss, 2000; Freud, 1930; Jankowiak, 1995, Jankowiak & Fischer, 1992). Cho and
Cross (1995, p. 306) caution that although ―love and romance are thought to be
universal experiences……the ways that these experiences are framed and established
vary widely across cultures―. The way love is defined, experienced and the process of
finding and selecting a romantic partner differs around the world (Aronson et al., 2005).
Much research has been conducted recently in order to unravel the intricate complexity
of intimate relationships across cultures. These efforts have enriched our knowledge as
well as provided divergent perspectives across cultures on the nature, types and
function of love. Despite the ever mounting body of worldwide research, more research
is required on love and intimate relationships and particularly in Africa and South Africa
where there is a dearth of empirical knowledge.
Before proceeding with the body of the study it is important to briefly define the two
main concepts.
1.2 Definition of main terms
The two primary terms that will be defined are 1) love and 2) the socio-cultural context
in which South African‘s find themselves.
1.2.1 Love
―One word
Frees us of the weight and pain of life
That word is love.‖
(Sophocles)
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Intimate relationships are characterised by a greater degree of knowledge, caring,
interdependence, mutuality, trust and commitment in relation to the beloved than when
compared to others (Brehm et al., 2002). Although not all of these characteristics are
required for intimacy to occur, the most satisfying, rewarding and meaningful
relationships do tend to have all these characteristics (Fletcher, Simpson & Thomas,
2000).
People create intimacy, belonging and connection with others in a variety of ways and
love spans a variety of relationships – parent/child, brother/sister, and friend/friend. It is,
therefore important to emphasise that this study will focus exclusively on adult romantic
relationships. In addition, there are various stages in a romantic love relationship. This
study is primarily concerned with the beginning stages of romantic love and the criteria
individuals across South African cultures use, to go about finding and selecting a love
partner.
Romantic love is passionate, powerful, intense and mysterious. Romantic love is also
―multidimensional or multicomponential‖ (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1989, p. 792) and this
makes it particularly difficult to define and measure. Haslam and Friske (1999) purport
that there are numerous types of intimate romantic relationships - they are complex and
come in infinite shapes and sizes. Hendrick (2004) agrees and says there are many
diverse forms of romantic love, aspects to romantic love and influences on romantic
love. Therefore numerous layers and dimensions exist in the complex dynamic of
interacting with the opposite sex on a romantic level. In addition, love is not
static…being true to its nebulous and complex nature, romantic love seems to evolve,
metamorphose and change within relationships and over time. Brown (2005) suggests
that the meanings of romantic love ideals are not consistent over time and argues that
romantic love ideals are mediated by ‗conditions of modernity‘ (e.g. individualism and
sexual stratification of society) and by religious, political and philosophical influences.
This ever changing nature of romantic love - within a relationship and sociologically -
adds to complexity of attempting to make love knowable. There are multiple theories,
conceptual models and principles that endeavour to make the intricate complexity of
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romantic love known. However, thus far, there does not seem to be one overarching
theory or model that has incorporated all these various, diverse and sometimes
conflicting models, theories, concepts and understandings of love. Perhaps this is not
possible because love is, by its very nature, multifaceted and to gain a holistic
understanding of its character perhaps requires investigation using various lenses.
Theorists and researchers explain romantic love in different ways and focus on different
aspects of love…
Freud (1930), the father of psychoanalytic thought, said that the most intense, happy,
pleasurable and central human experience is love and loving. He cautioned that
although love and loving comes naturally to humans, achieving happy romantic love
was fraught with obstacles, for example: resolving the infantile psychosexual stages
(which include resolving the Oedipus complex), detaching from the old (parental) love
object, overcoming narcissistic love as well as developing tolerance for one‘s feelings of
love, hate and ambivalence.
Fromm (1956), a dialectical humanist, postulates that love is based: firstly, on one‘s
capacity to love and secondly, learning about the true nature of love and its mutually
interdependent components of: care, responsibility, respect, understanding and
knowledge. He says that ―to love someone is not just a strong feeling – it is a decision, it
is a judgment, it is a promise‖ (p. 51). Fromm (1956), like Freud, differentiates between
mature or healthy love and immature or neurotic development of love. Fromm (1956)
was one of the first to highlight the link between culture and love. He suggests that the
individualistic, Western capitalistic and consuming way of life may thwart the
development of intimacy, love relationships and mature love. He proposes that the
Western capitalistic culture and its individualism counterpart foster the development of
immature love by its excessive focus on acquisition and self interest.
Rubin (1970), a pioneering love researcher tells of love‘s intensity and its components
of attachment and caring for the beloved. Walster and Walster (1978) distinguished
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between the intense and powerful passionate love and the steady companionate love.
Davis (1985) highlights the qualities that characterise love: trust, understanding, mutual
support, caring and passion.
Bowlby (1973, 1980, 1988), the founder of attachment theory, and Hazan and Shaver
(1987) suggest that the way adults love romantically is based on their early experiences
and primary attachment relationships with their caregivers. Early attachment theorists
suggested there were three primary attachment patterns that emerged from different
caregiving: secure, anxious-ambivalent and avoidant (Ainsworth, Blehar, Walters &
Wall, 1978; Hazan & Shaver, 1987); whereas contemporary attachment theorists
believe there are four core attachment patterns: secure, preoccupied, dismissing and
fearful (Bartholomew, 1990; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994a, 1994b). Even so, they all
agree that, via internal working models set in childhood, each attachment pattern
determines how the individual will love romantically (Ainsworth et al., 1978;
Bartholomew, 1990; Bartholomew, Kwong & Hart, 2001; Bowlby, 1973, 1980, 1988;
Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b; Hazan & Shaver, 1987, 1988).
Interdependence or social exchange theorists do not talk about love‘s intensity and
passion instead they explain romantic relationships in terms of interpersonal economics
- a balance sheet. They believe that people evaluate their interactions and relationships
according to perceived rewards, costs, outcomes and comparison levels (Kelley &
Thibaut, 1978) and that the quality of alternatives to relationships determines the
individual‘s commitment to the relationship which in turn determines the stability of the
relationship (Rusbult, 1980). Clark and Mills (1979) differentiated between exchange
relationships (based on interpersonal economics) and communal relationships (based
on altruistic motives). Clark (1984, 1986) and Mills and Clark (1994, 2001) suggested
that communal relationships generally govern long-term intimate romantic relationships
and are characterised by being responsive to the other‘s interests and needs.
Sternberg (1986, 1988) suggested that love consisted of three components: intimacy,
passion and decision / commitment. Later Sternberg with his colleague Beall postulated
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that the nature of love was socially constructed - that love and the emotional experience
of love, is culturally and contextually defined, constructed and bound (Beall & Sternberg,
1995). Still later Sternberg (1995, 2000) refined his concept of love from being purely
socially constructed to the idea of love as a ―story‖ - that love is personally constructed
within the individual‘s cultural milieu. A post-modern view adds texture and further
understanding to Sternberg‘s stories of love. Post modern and social constructionist
theorists believe that memories, thoughts, notions and conceptions of love are birthed
through social exchange and are mediated through language (McNamee & Gergen,
1992). Thus implying that an individual‘s perception and experience of love - one‘s love
story - changes with a change in language and renews itself in dialogue (Anderson &
Goolishian, 1992; Hoffman, 1992).
Evolutionary psychologists like Buss (1988, 2000, 2003, 2004) believe that love is not
complex and mysterious but instead an evolutionary developed adaptive psychological
mechanism, strategy and talent that ensures the best possible mate selection. Buss
(2000) concedes that both genders rate love as the most important quality in selecting a
mate. But he goes on to say this is only because love is an indispensable and universal
cue for commitment - commitment of parental resources that aims to guarantee optimal
reproductive success of the couple‘s offspring. Mellen (1981) adds that most human
beings are born with a genetic capacity for attachment and love to ensure survival.
Jankowiak (1995, p. 4) describes romantic love as ―any intense attraction involving the
idealization of the other within an erotic context‖. He adds that romantic love has three
primary psychological processes: emotional attachment which includes the desire for
complete acceptance by the other; subjective idealisation and positive illusions; and
erotic stimulation - sexual attraction and physical intimacy. Levin (2000) suggests that
love is an abstract concept and that love means different things to different people. He
says that although researchers have not, as yet, settled on one definition for love, he
suggests that love can be ―conceptualized as an affect, an attitude, a behaviour, or a
judgment or a cognitive decision‖ (p. 119).
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In sum, it may therefore be said that, love is broadly characterised by a combination of
behavioural, cognitive and emotional components, with different theorists and models
emphasising different aspects of those components.
The heady romantic love in the initial part of a potential love relationship, however, is
not all bliss and ecstasy; it also has its shadow side of desolation and devastation.
Freud (1930) suggest that the attainable love object can bring happiness and bliss but
that the unattainable love object can bring inconsolable pain and despair. He describes
love as: ―I am, of course, speaking of the way of life which makes love the centre of
everything, which looks for satisfaction in loving and being loved….we are never so
defenseless against suffering as when we love, never so helplessly unhappy as when
we have lost our love object or its love‖.
Perhaps it is because love has within its power to evoke extreme happiness and bliss
as well as extreme unhappiness and misery that it has had such a turbulent history. It is
evident that romantic love has existed for eons and across cultures: love poems from
ancient Egypt, love tales, poems and operas from ancient China, the Mahabharata of
ancient India, and the Hebrew ―Song of Solomon‖, to name a few (Shaver, Morgan &
Wu, 1996). However the perception, understanding and importance of romantic love
has changed over time. The ancient Greeks and their fellow Europeans believed that
being passionately attracted to another was a type of madness, an insanity and that it
was vulgar to love one‘s partner too passionately. Plato, the Greek philosopher,
believed that the purest form of love was platonic love, the non-sexual love of one man
for another man (Brehm et al., 2002; Coontz, 2005). In ancient China love was reserved
for illicit, socially disapproved relationships. Similarly France, 12th century, reserved the
purest form of love for adulterous relationships. During the same period, knights
devoted themselves, in a noble quest of unconsummated love, to a married aristocratic
lady (Brehm et al., 2002). In ancient India, love was seen as a disconcerting, antisocial
act and nowadays in India passionate love is often seen as a threat to family structure
(Coontz, 2005, 2007; Levine, Sato, Hashimoto & Verma, 1995; Sandhya, 2009). In the
Middle Ages marriage was an institution that served political and economic purposes
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(Brehm et al., 2002). Sixteen century Christian church believed that loving one‘s other
half was only just better than ‗unmarried fornication‘ (Coontz, 2005). ―In most cultures of
the past, it was inconceivable that young people would choose their spouse on the
basis of an unpredictable feeling like love‖ (Coontz, 2005, p. 58).
After the Middle Ages people started to believe that although passionate love was
desirable it was generally damned and doomed (Brehm et al., 2002). It was only in the
seventeen and eighteen centuries that Europeans started to believe that romantic love
could end happily. Nonetheless even then, romantic love and passion for one‘s spouse
was not a widespread and acceptable notion – it was the exception rather than the rule
(Brehm et al., 2002). Love only started to become the basis for building enduring
relationships, in Western culture during the late 1800s (Coontz, 2005; Gergen &
Gergen, 1988). It was around this period in history that people started to believe that
love and romantic passion could lead to happiness and could be fulfilling and rewarding
(Brehm et al., 2002). Rebhun (1995) postulates that the change of love and marriage
through history was because of the change in the script of the role of the lover (love as
a provision for marriage and the suitability of actions as declarations of love), rather
than people not having the aptitude or preference for love. Today in the Western world,
the belief that people marry for love is widely accepted. Brehm et al. (2002) suggest that
economic prosperity and the tendency towards individualism has allowed for the
possibility of love as a basis for marriage. This assumption, that passionate and
romantic love is the basis for marriage, was not and still is not necessarily the rule in
non-Western cultures around the world (Xiaohe & Whyte, 1990).
Although cross-cultural researchers concur that romantic love is a near-universal
phenomenon they also highlight that the way love is understood, made sense of,
experienced and the expectations of romantic love differ widely across cultures. Thus,
the complexity and multidimensionality of love is further complicated by culture – love
varies as a function of culture (Landis & O‘Shea, 2000). Researchers have established
that in collectivistic societies, it is often the wishes of the family and group that play the
pivotal role in the choice of a long term partner whereas in individualistic societies
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romantic love is the crucial factor in the choice of a long term partner (Dion & Dion,
1988, 1993b; Levine et al., 1995). Love in the Western view is ―seen as explosive,
romantic and illogical‖ (Goodwin, 1999, p. 61). In contrast, love in the African or Eastern
view is ―seen as a strong binding force that brings individuals together‖ (Goodwin, 1999,
p. 61).
Lee‘s (1976) conceptual model of love is not only a very prominent and rich approach to
the exploration of love it is also grounded in research – Western as well as cross-
cultural research. Lee (1976, 1988) explained the multidimensionality of love by using
the analogy of colours. Although he believed that the numbers of colours of love are as
many as the possible combinations and mixtures of different colour, he presented a
lovestyle typology which consists of six core lovestyles: eros, romantic, passionate love;
ludus, game-playing love; and storge, friendship love; mania, the possessive,
dependent love; pragma, logical, "shopping list" love; and agape, the all-giving, selfless
love (Lee, 1976).
Cho and Cross (1995) outline a number of excellent reasons as to why Lee‘s lovestyles
may serve as a valuable starting point for cross-cultural research on romantic love.
Firstly, not only is it able to integrate diverse theories of love but it is also describes
diverse love phenomena. Second, Hendrick and Hendrick (1986, 1990) developed and
validated the psychometric properties of the Love Attitude Scale (LAS) (Davis & Latty-
Mann, 1987). Third, several researchers have confirmed, developed and refined Lee
typology of love and researchers have also confirmed the LAS has been a valuable
scale in measuring love in various cultures ranging from American, Mexican, Brazilian,
British, Swiss, French, Portuguese, Russian, Japanese, Chinese, Angolan,
Mozambican and South African culture (Cho & Cross, 1995; Contreras, Hendrick &
Hendrick, 1996; Dion & Dion, 1993a; Goodwin & Findlay, 1997; Hendrick & Hendrick,
1986; Kanemasa, Taniguchi, Daibo & Ishimori, 2004; Murstein, Merighi & Vyse, 1991;
Neto, 1994, Neto et al., 2000; Pavlou, 2005; Rudnick, 1997; Sprecher et al., 1994;
Sprecher & Toro-Morn, 2002).
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Not only is Lee‘s colours of love a valuable starting point for cross-cultural research on
romantic love but it also seems to encompass less extensive theories of love. Perhaps
Walster and Walster (1978) would see their passionate and companionate love in Lee‘s
eros and storge. Exchange theorist may recognise pragma as their conceptualisation of
love and Clark and Mills (1979) may identify agape as exemplifying their communal
love. Attachment theorists may see eros typifying a secure attachment, ludus an
avoidant or dismissing attachment pattern and mania as an anxious-ambivalent or
preoccupied attachment pattern. Lee‘s (1976) theory on the typology of love is therefore
fundamental to this study and will be explored in more detail in chapter two. Chapter two
of the study will also examine various other pertinent theories and principles of love in
order to locate and position romantic love and Lee‘s typology of love.
1.2.2 The South African socio-cultural context
South Africa is a melting pot of different and interfacing cultures. It is made up of diverse
African and international cultures and its four primary population groups are: Black,
White, Coloured, Indian / Asian. South Africa has a full range of religious sects and
while South Africa has eleven official languages, a much larger variety of languages are
spoken. Although Black Africans (the Nguni, Sotho-Tswana, Tsonga and Venda people)
make up the majority of the South African population they are not culturally, ethnically or
linguistically homogenous. Nonetheless, Black Africans have a great deal in common in
terms of history, background, culture and descent and the study will primarily focus on
an overall African perspective (Avis, Pauw & van der Spuy, 2000; Viljoen, 2002a;
Mwamwenda, 1999; Rudnick, 2002). Similarly the White (the English and Afrikaans
people), Indian/Asian and Coloured (mixed-race people) groupings in South Africa are
also not culturally, ethnically or linguistically homogenous, even so they too have
common grounding and for the purposes of this study they will be treated chiefly as
three broad and separate groups. Therefore, even though South Africa is a melting pot
of cultures where blurring of cultural boundaries is occurring due to acculturation, this
study aims to establish the heterogeneity between the four broad cultural groups
(African, White, Indian/Asian and Coloured) with regard to the conceptualisation of love
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(Berry, Poortinga, Segall & Dasen, 1992; Matsumoto, 2000; Viljoen, 2002a, 2002b;
Segall, Dasen, Berry & Poortinga, 1999).
It is important to clarify that culture is an ever changing, nebulous and ‗fuzzy‘ concept
(Hofstede, 2002). This may be even more pertinent in South Africa where interfacing
diverse cultures are impacted on by acculturation, cultural leaking and blended world
views due to globalisation - thus possibly compromising cultural groups as distinct
entities. Although the study is not naive to these complexities the four broad cultural
groups (Black African, White, Indian/Asian and Coloured) are nonetheless a useful
starting point to investigating and distinguishing how each cultural group loves and if in
fact they love in culturally distinct ways. It is for these reasons and for reasons
discussed in the literature review under section 3.3 that race and culture is used
interchangeably and that race is used as a proxy measure for culture.
Jankowiak and Fisher (1992) claim that intimate, romantic love is virtually a global
phenomenon. However, as alluded to before, the way an individual experiences,
expresses, remembers and what one expects from love is mediated and a function of
culture (Levinger, 1994). Culture consists of behavioural products of others who have
come before and values, language and a way of life that will be followed by most in that
society (Segall et al., 1999). Thus culture shapes the person‘s views of the world as well
as their ideas and expressions of intimacy and love (Smith & Bond, 1998). Cross-
cultural researchers assert that love has an ethnic face and that love is mediated by
traditional beliefs, local conditions and outside influences (Cho & Cross, 1995; Goodwin,
1999; Jankowiak, 1995; Jankowiak & Fisher, 1992; Smith, 2001). This sentiment of
universality versus cultural distinct love was also recognised by Triandis (1994, p. 72)
"any theoretical construct of some generality in social psychology is likely to have both
etic [i.e., universal] and emic [i.e., culture-specific] aspects". It follows therefore, that in
order to gain a greater understanding of love, culture will need to be examined.
A highly influential and fruitful approach to the exploration of culture is Hofstede‘s (1980)
theoretical construction which delineates four dimensions of culture:
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Individualism/Collectivism; Power Distance; Masculinity/Femininity; and Uncertainty
Avoidance. Hofstede and Bond‘s (1988) research yielded a fifth cultural dimension:
Long-term Orientation / Short-term Orientation. These five cultural dimensions are
useful as a conceptual framework. They will be outlined in greater detail in Chapter 3.
Researchers have found that the individualism versus collectivism dimension has
proved to be particularly useful in studying psychological phenomena.
Triandis (1995) defines individualism as ―a social pattern that consists of loosely linked
individuals who view themselves as independent of collectives; are primarily motivated
by their own, needs, rights and the contracts they have established with others; give
priority to their personal goals over the goals of others; and emphasize rational analyses
of the advantages and disadvantages to associating with others‖ (Triandis, 1995, p. 2).
Persons who hail from individualistic societies are concerned with the ‗I‘ and ‗me‘ and
consider themselves to be autonomous (Triandis, 1995). Collectivism, individualism‘s
polar opposite as a construct for representing culture, is defined by Triandis (1995) as
―a social pattern consisting of closely linked individuals who see themselves as part of
one or more collectives (family, co-workers, tribe, nation); are primarily motivated by the
norms of, and duties imposed by those collectives; willing to give priority to the goals of
these collectives over their own personal goals; and emphasize their connectedness to
members of these collectives‖ (Triandis, 1995, p. 2). Thus, in stark contrast to the
individualistic emphasis, which falls on ‗I‘ and ‗me‘; persons who hail from collectivistic
societies emphasise the ‗we‘: where duties and obligations to the group may override
personal goals and preferences.
1.3 Research Aims
Cross-cultural research in social psychology is scarce and the scarcity is especially
problematic in the area of romantic love. The aim of the proposed research study is to
add, through the lens of social and cross-cultural psychology, to the pool of South
African knowledge on intimate romantic relationships. Of the many aspects and stages
of love, this study aims to tease out and investigate the cross-cultural differences of the
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initial stages of love and mate selection across the four major cultural groups (i.e.
African, White, Coloured and Indian/Asian). A prolific approach to cross-cultural
research and in romantic love research in psychology is the dimension of individualism -
collectivism (Goodwin, 1999; Hofstede, 1994a). Researchers suggest that the African
and Indian/Asian group will reflect collectivistic cultural values and beliefs and that the
White and possibly the Coloured group will reflect individualistic cultural values and
beliefs (Hofstede, 1980; Mkhize, 2004a; Mwamwenda, 1999; Triandis, 1995; Viljoen,
2002a).
Most cross-cultural research on romantic love utilises a student sample. Perhaps the
reason is because according to Erikson (1968) the developmental crisis‘ that arises
from the interaction between genetic development and social influence in adolescence
and young adulthood are identity and intimacy. This naturally leads to strong
preoccupation in interpersonal relationships. It is for this reason, that university students
from the four major ethnic groups will be compared to one another. In addition, this
student sample is by definition grappling with the initial stages of romantic love and
mate selection, which dovetails neatly with the objectives of this study. The research will
be done by utilising various love and cultural measures. These instruments, measures
and scales will be used to explore how love and romantic relationships are
conceptualised by young adults across the four South African cultural groups.
The central question of the proposed study is to explore the cross-cultural differences
between ways of loving across the four cultural groups. The study will seek to
investigate this by establishing the cross-cultural differences in 1) love experiences, 2)
love as a basis for marriage, 3) love as a basis for the maintenance of marriage, 4)
romantic beliefs, 5) attachment styles and 6) lovestyles. Gender differences, as a whole
and within cultures, across the six ways of loving will also be explored. The intersection
between these six ways of loving will be investigated using the overall South African
sample. In addition, the influence of socio-economic status on ways of loving will be
investigated. How the four South African cultural groups map to the individualism
collectivism continuum will be explored. Finally, the study aims to determine whether the
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South African sample‘s ways of loving are comparable to international cross-cultural
research findings on ways of loving.
The significance of the study is threefold. Firstly, it will add to ‗how South Africans love
across cultures‘ research pool, a field thus far largely neglected by psychologists. This
will aid in closing the gaps that exist in current knowledge of South African loving.
Secondly, the study seeks to further the psychological understanding of South African
cross-cultural love nuances, needs and experiences. Thirdly, it may suggest avenues of
therapeutic intervention in couple counselling situations. This may be especially useful
for therapeutic implications in South African communities when considering the urgency
for intervention required to avert and manage the HIV / AIDS pandemic. In addition, if
selecting a mate is one of the most important decisions an individual makes then the
study may add to the understanding of the epidemic of failed marriages. Finally, the
results of the study may be compared to the results of the many similar international
studies, thus adding the South African voice of love to the international body of
knowledge.
1.4 Chapter outline
Having briefly outlined the two main concepts of the literature review, the study will now
explore these two concepts in greater detail. Chapter two will explore the existing
literature on Lee‘s lovestyles but in order to contextualise Lee‘s lovestyles, various
theories and principles on love will be surveyed. Thereafter, chapter three will probe
culture, South African culture, the four South African ethnic groups and the effects of
globalisation. Finally, chapter four will investigate the intersection between love and
culture. The research methodology will be outlined in chapter five. The results of the
study and the discussion of those results will be reported on in chapter six. Chapter
seven will conclude the study.
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CHAPTER 2
Principles and Theories of Western Love
―Voi che sapete che cosa e amor
(Tell us you who know if this be love)‖
Cherubino in Mozart‘s Figaro
2.1 Introduction
Love has been the domain of authors, musicians, poets and philosophers until recently
when psychologists have attempted, via numerous models, to demystify the complexity
of romantic love relationships: the how, why and what happens when people love one
another. Love and the study of love, is wonderfully diverse – theorists, researchers and
scientists approach it from different theoretical perspectives, orientations and
epistemologies. Therefore the perspectives, central insights and empirical evidence
gleaned regarding the phenomenon of love are often vastly divergent because they
emphasise different processes, developmental paths, causal factors, components and
outcomes. Such diversity tends to produce an abundance of rich, multifaceted
information. Each key insight can be viewed, metaphorically, as a piece of the larger
puzzle. Therefore, instead of taking an ‗either - or‘ stance this study attempts to take an
inclusive one. And, as with completing a puzzle, the more pieces that are found to fit,
the clearer the picture of the overall puzzle becomes. In other words, the study aims to
gain a cumulative and expanded understanding of love as well as to identify the points
of agreement between these unique perspectives in the hope of illuminating more and
more parts of the romantic love puzzle.
In deciding how to structure and organise this chapter various possibilities emerged –
by making use of common factors, or epistemologically or perhaps chronologically. In
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order to demonstrate the increasing complexity of the historical arc on the subject of
romantic love, it was decided to structure the love literature utilising a chronological
sequence. The researcher will therefore take a historical walk through the love literature
in the hope that through each key contributor‘s unique lens a part of the overall puzzle
of romantic love will be elucidated. The key puzzle pieces and their unique views on
romantic love that will be examined are: Freud‘s (1905, 1914, 1915) intrapsychic views
on love; Fromm‘s (1956) humanistic and sociocultural vision of love; the attachment
viewpoint (Bowlby, 1969; Ainsworth et al., 1978; Hazan & Shaver, 1987); an
interdependence / social exchange standpoint (Clark & Mills, 1979; Kelley & Thibaut,
1978; Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001; Rusbult, 1983); Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988, 2000) social
constructionist angle; the evolutionary perspective (Buss, 1988, 1999, 2003, 2004) and
finally Lee‘s (1976) typology of love – colours of love: lovestyles.
In the beginning of the 1900s the first person in the discipline of psychology who
attempted, via scattered writing over four decades, to explain the intrapsychic
foundations of love, was Freud (1905, 1914, 1915). Thereafter there was relatively little
research or theoretical development as regards love in the field of psychology until
Fromm (1956), who explained his theory of love in his book The Art of Loving. Fromm
(1956) explores a humanistic and sociocultural view of love. He outlines ideal or
mature love and indicates how society either allows for the development of mature love
or hinders it. Freud‘s (1905, 1914, 1915) and Fromm‘s (1956) conceptualisations of love
were both primarily based on observation or case studies rather than on empirical
evidence garnered from scientific research. This is not to say that their claims are
in/complete or in/correct – many have applauded and many have maligned both. Even
so, this does not mean that they did not provide powerful and useful insights for
understanding the puzzle of love.
From the late 1960s, attachment theory became an important theory through which to
understand love. Attachment theory, from a genetic, biological and interpersonal
viewpoint, highlighted how attachment patterns set in infancy are carried through to
romantic attachment in adulthood (Bowlby, 1969; Ainsworth et al., 1978; Hazan &
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Shaver, 1987). These authors propose that infants are born with a genetic and
biological tendency to bond and attach with their caregivers. In addition, they claim that
parents are genetically and biologically prepared to respond, bond and care for their
infants. Attachment theorists also contend that the early interactions which an infant has
with caregivers create ‗internal working models‘ of relationships. These unconscious
models inform the child, and in time the adult, with respect to the level of support,
empathy and trustworthiness they can expect from significant others; which in turn
exerts a profound impact on what they expect from romantic love relationships (Hazan
& Shaver, 1987).
The late 1970s and the period into the early 1980s witnessed a number of different and
key theories developing concurrently to explain romantic love. Firstly, the
interdependent theory / social exchange theory (Clark & Mills, 1979; Kelley &
Thibaut, 1978; Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001; Rusbult, 1983) emphasised the economic
nature of an intimate relationship and theorised that human beings are interpersonal
accountants who calculate the profits and losses of interactions with their beloved.
Secondly, Lee (1976) did not focus on trying to explain how human beings come to love
romantically; instead he focused on types of love. He developed his prominent theory
on the colours of love typology – lovestyles in the latter part of the 1970s. Thirdly,
Walster and Walster (1978) examined the character and components of passionate
and companionate love.
During the late 1980s two primary theories emerged to explain love. Firstly, Sternberg
presented his triangular theory of love which focused on components of love that
when combined yield different types of love; he later introduced his social
constructionist theory of love stories (Sternberg, 1986, 1988, 1995, 2000). Secondly,
evolution theory (Buss, 1988, 1999, 2003, 2004) emerged and researched how
inherited biological and genetic make-up shapes and explains behaviour in romantic
relationships – for example, mate selection strategies, gender specific mate preferences
and patterns of childrearing.
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Although Lee (1976) developed his colours of love typology in the 1970s, his theory is
not only a pivotal part of the study but has also yielded fruitful research on romantic love
cross-culturally; it will therefore comprise the last element of the literature review. In
conclusion, all the theories will be compared, contrasted and points of commonality and
agreement will be identified using Lee‘s (1976) lovestyles as the central piece of the
overall romantic love jigsaw.
It is important to clarify the stage of the romantic relationship lifecycle on which the
literature discussed will focus. According to Reis and Rusbult (2004) there are four
romantic relationship stages: 1) attraction and initiating relationships, 2) developing
relationships, 3) maintaining relationships and 4) deteriorating and dissolution of
relationships. The literature review, and indeed this study, is primarily concerned with
the first two stages.
Prior to beginning to identify the above central puzzle pieces it is important to
contextualise the theories of romantic love: this will be achieved by briefly outlining the
factors that are concerned with the first stage of the romantic relationship lifecycle:
factors that nurture attraction, liking and loving (Rubin, 1970).
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2.2 Factors that nurture attraction, liking and loving
Rubin (1970), a pioneering love researcher, found qualitative differences between loving
and liking. He said that liking entailed assessing another person‘s level of likeability,
maturity, responsibility, and flexibility. Love, he said, is much more intense than liking
and is characterised by attachment to and caring about another person. A plethora of
research has been conducted since Rubin (1970) and it has yielded the primary factors
that nurture liking and loving: 1) proximity (Berscheid & Reis, 1998; Griffin & Sparks,
1990; Zajonc, 1968); 2) similarity (Berscheid & Reis, 1998; Byrne, 1997, Katz & Beach
2000); 3) mutual liking (Backman, 1990; Curtis & Miller, 1986; Kenny & Nasby, 1980;
Swann, Stein-Seroussi & McNulty, 1992) and 4) physical attractiveness (Berscheid &
Reis, 1998; Buss, 1998; Cunningham, 1986; Cunningham, Barbee & Pike, 1990;
Feingold, 1990; Regan & Berscheid, 1997).
2.2.1 Proximity
Researchers agree that proximity is one of the most powerful predictors of interpersonal
attraction (Griffin & Sparks, 1990; Myers, 2002; Zajonc, 1968). People are more likely to
become friends and or lovers the more they see and interact with one another
(Berscheid & Reis, 1998). This is also known as the propinquity effect (Aronson et al.,
2005). The vital element of interaction is how often people‘s paths cross – functional
distance (Myers, 2002). According to Zajonc (1968), even if one initially feels positive,
neutral or slightly negative towards a person, after one experiences frequent and
repetitive exposure to that person, one will usually rate him or her more positively. He
calls this the mere exposure effect. Research points to the fact that familiarity generates
fondness, liking and attraction (Griffin & Sparks, 1990; Zajonc, 1968).
Aronson et al. (2005) suggest that nowadays in the world of computer mediated
communication, functional distance and propinquity are defined by a person‘s computer
screen. According to Ben-Ze‘ev (2004) online relationships combine features and
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elements of distant and close relationships which culminate in new and unique types of
romantic relationships. He describes the paradoxical nature of and opposing factors that
operate in online romantic relationships as: 1) detached attachment or ―detattachement‖
– emotional closeness, and physical distance and separation; 2) distance and
immediacy; 3) anonymity and self disclosure; 4) lean and rich communication; 5)
continuity and discontinuity and 6) marginal physical investment yet considerable
mental investment. He argues that it is these contradictions and the uncertainty they
create that make an online romantic relationship less stable and more intense.
According to him individuals in online romantic relationships attempt to enjoy the
benefits of both close and remote relationships while evading their defects and flaws;
thus reducing the price of social relationships. Cohen (2001) reports that although
marriage is only one indication of a successful online match, not even one percent of
online daters married.
2.2.2 Similarity
According to researchers, although proximity increases familiarity, which leads to liking,
more is needed to stimulate and grow a budding friendship or romantic relationship.
They present similarity as an answer. Aube and Koestner (1995) describe similarity as a
mutual fit between two persons‘ attitudes, beliefs, values, personality, background and /
or interests. It follows that if two people‘s opinions and personality characteristics are
similar they will like each other more. Research findings support this: the desire to
convert an acquaintance into a friend or a romantic relationship is awakened by
similarity (Berscheid & Reis, 1998; Byrne, 1997). Burleson (1994) reports that people
who are friends tend to share a similar interpersonal communication style and possess
similar levels of communication skills. Similarities in interests and experiences also fuel
a budding friendship (Kubitschek & Hallinan, 1998). Self-enhancement theory proposes
that people seek partners who view them as favourably as possible while self-
verification theory proposes that people seek relationship partners who view them as
they view themselves (Katz & Beach, 2000).
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Similarity is important, not only because of a mutual fit between people, but also
because of the positive reinforcements they offer (Aronson et al., 2005; Michener,
DeLamater & Myers, 2004):
i) Individuals usually make negative inferences about someone who disagrees
with them on important issues whereas positive outcomes are usually
experienced when interacting with an individual who holds similar attitudes.
ii) An individual‘s own view of the world, characteristics and beliefs are
validated by someone who is similar to them and who holds similar views and
beliefs.
iii) An individual will like a person who shares similar attitudes because he / she
will expect the person to like them as a person as well.
Therefore the want to be liked, the need to be validated and the conclusions a person
reaches about a like-minded person all heighten the attractiveness of that like-minded
person.
Brehm et al. (2002) clarify that even when it seems that opposites attract, the situation
is not as it appears. According to them, similarities operate in subtle ways. Firstly, they
suggest that matching is a broad process and is dependent on individuals matching
different assets (beauty, youth, health, wealth, talent and fame) with others who
possess similar standing in the interpersonal market. Secondly, they contend that
discovering similarities, and uncovering perceived similarity and dissimilarity, takes time.
Thirdly, at times individuals appreciate dissimilarity in a partner if it is complementary to
the individual‘s actions and helps them in reaching their goals. These authors conclude
that perhaps it is dissimilarity that humans avoid rather than the attraction and
importance of similarity.
Overall it seems that birds of a feather flock together and that similarity is much more
rewarding than opposites because similar partners are not only more likely to
understand each other‘s needs and wants, but are also more likely to satisfy them.
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2.2.3 Reciprocity: Mutual liking
Mutual liking stimulates and promotes a friendship or romantic relationship. It has been
found that there is a strong correlation between a person liking someone and the
perception that that person will like them in return (Backman, 1990). This self fulfilling
prophecy often results in reciprocal liking. In an experiment it was found that a person
will behave in more likable ways if they think they are liked (Curtis & Miller, 1986).
Another study demonstrated that a person‘s liking for another does predict the other‘s
liking in return (Kenny & Nasby, 1980). In other words, one‘s liking of another actually
increases the probability of reciprocated affection. This is particularly true for people
with a positive or moderate self-concept (Swann, Stein-Seroussi & McNulty, 1992).
2.2.4 Physical attractiveness
Myriad studies demonstrate consistently and pervasively that looks do matter. Although
both sexes are responsive to the attractiveness of the opposite sex, males value female
attractiveness more than vice versa (Feingold, 1990). Recent studies, however, report
that both sexes rank physical attractiveness as equally important and highly desirable
(Regan & Berscheid, 1997). Consistent with the biological explanation, research has
found that men, universally, prefer young, healthy, fertile women; while women,
particularly women who are less educated and who exercise less control over
conception and family size, prefer men on the basis of their material resources (Buss,
1998; Kasser & Sharma, 1999). This echoes the evolutionary stance which is discussed
in more depth later. Nonetheless, despite the fact that males and females place different
importance on a partner‘s physical attractiveness and material resources, research has
found that both sexes seek the same qualities in romantic partners: dependability;
emotional stability; warmth; kindness; a pleasant, amiable, agreeable personality and
being liked in return (Buss 2004; Sprecher, 1998).
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There are shared standards of beauty and attractiveness both within and across
cultures (Cunningham, Roberts, Wu, Barbee & Druen, 1995). Women with large eyes, a
small nose and a small chin, prominent cheekbones and high eyebrows are rated as
attractive by men (Cunningham, 1986). Men from diverse cultures find women whose
waist is 30 percent smaller than their hips, the most attractive (Singh & Luis, 1995). Men
with large eyes, prominent cheekbones and a broad chin and a broad forehead are
rated as attractive by women (Cunningham et al., 1990). Langlios and Roggman (1990)
merged a number of individual facial photographs into a single composite facial image.
The composite face was rated as being more attractive than any of the individual
photographs. They extended the experiment and found that the more individual faces
that were merged and averaged, the more attractive the resulting composite face was
rated. It was found that the ‗averaging‘ of faces produces a face that is familiar,
symmetrical and typical. Cowley (1996) concurs with this finding and suggests that as
the symmetry of a face increases, so does its attractiveness.
Other researchers suggest that it is not only symmetry that is important, but that
familiarity may be a vital variable in explaining interpersonal attractiveness too
(Berscheid & Reis, 1998). Little and Perrett (2002) found support for this in their fairly
recent research. They established that individuals preferred faces which most
resembled their own and accorded higher ratings of attractiveness to a photograph of
their opposite-sex ‗clone‘. People exhibit a tendency to pair up with someone who
displays a similar level of physical attractiveness to them; this is known as matching
(Feingold, 1988).
Research reports that humans automatically adhere to the ―what is beautiful is good‖
stereotype and that they tend to ascribe desirable traits to beautiful people (Ashmore &
Longo, 1995). Beautiful people are perceived to be more likable, better people, well
adjusted, friendly, happier and more socially skilled (Eagly, Ashmore, Makhijani &
Longo, 1991; Etcoff, 1999). People from individualistic cultures tend to include traits
related to personal strength while those from collectivistic cultures tend to include
integrity and concern for others in their ―beautiful‖ stereotypes (Dion, Pak & Dion, 1990).
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Researchers from the evolutionary perspective believe that every human being is an
evolutionary success because their ancestors not only survived until reproductive age
but also because the former have reproduced successfully. These researchers reason
that people rate symmetry as well as physical attractiveness positively because it is an
indicator of health and thus reproductive fitness (Mealey, Bridgstock & Townsend,
1999).
2.2.5 Conclusion
In the Western world love relationships are brought about by attraction between two
individuals. In sum, researchers have found that the determinants of attraction are
concerned with the circumstances and situation (proximity, frequent exposure),
individual attributes and evolutionary forces (physical attractiveness, similarity, and self-
concept) and the individual‘s behaviour (mutual liking, as well as conveying liking). It is
therefore important to report on the aspects of attraction and the factors that nurture
liking and loving: 1) proximity, 2) similarity, 3) mutual liking and 4) physical
attractiveness, as this deepens understanding of those factors which contribute to the
possibility and encouragement of love. It must be borne in mind that these factors may
not apply to non-Western cultures where attraction is not as important as it is in most
Western cultures. For example, in cultures where an arranged marriage is a common
method of initiating a marriage these factors may not be applicable and / or certain
factors may assume more importance, for example, similarity in terms of religion, caste,
social standing.
Although it was necessary to briefly review the factors that nurture attraction, liking and
loving, this study is less focused on the pragmatics of meeting a mate than the
mechanisms of the feelings of love for the beloved. In an attempt to analyse the
complexity of love, the how and why of loving romantically, and the types of romantic
love, the study will now consider the intrapsychic view of love; this will be followed by
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discussions of a humanistic view; an attachment perspective; an interdependence /
social exchange view; passionate versus companionate love; the triangular theory of
love and its components as well as a social constructionist standpoint; an evolutionary
perspective; and finally the typology of the colours of love: lovestyles.
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2.3 Freud‘s conceptualisations of love
2.3.1 Brief background
Sigsimund Scholomo Freud was born in 1856 in Freiberg, Moravia into a middleclass,
non-religious Jewish family and died during 1939 in England (Gomez, 1997; Meyer &
Viljoen, 2002; Miller, 1962). Apart from the first three years of his life and the last two,
he lived in Vienna (Miller, 1962). At the late age of 82 he immigrated, with his wife and
six children, to England because of the threat of World War II and more importantly of
Nazism (Meyer & Viljoen, 2002).
There was an age gap of twenty years between his parents; and his mother, Amalie,
was his father‘s third wife (Meyer & Viljoen, 2002). Although Freud had older half-
siblings from his father‘s previous marriages, he was the eldest of the eight children of
his parent‘s marriage (Gomez, 1997). He was the centre of attention in his family and
his family pinned their hopes of success and recognition in a predominantly Gentile
environment onto him (Gomez, 1997). Freud enjoyed a close and intimate relationship
with his mother but experienced his father as authoritarian, strict, cold and at times
hostile (Meyer & Viljoen, 2002). Freud grew up in a period when Austria was in political,
cultural and economic turmoil and transformation (Gomez, 1997).
After qualifying as a medical doctor in 1881, he practised for 45 years as a neurologist,
psychiatrist and psychoanalyst. In 1882 he became engaged to Martha Bernays and
finally, once he was able to financially support the two of them, they were married in
1986 (Miller, 1962). They had six children. Ten years after their marriage, Martha‘s
sister Minna, who had not married, moved in with the Freud family, where she remained
for most of her life. There is a long, ongoing debate concerning whether Freud and
Minna conducted an intimate relationship (Maciejewski, 2008). According to Gay (1988,
p. 16), "almost from the moment Freud took a passionate interest in Martha Bernays in
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April 1882, he was drawn to her younger sister Minna, intelligent, lively, and caustic. He
wrote her intimate, amorous letters".
One of the most complex thinkers of this time, Freud revolutionised modern
understanding of human functioning. Yet his collected works are not seamless. Maddi
(1989) for example suggests: ―He wrote a great deal, changed his mind often, and left
many loose ends where he could not decide among theoretical alternatives‖ (p. 43). His
theory is subjectively based and is considered to be essentially a conflict model where
the individual is caught between forces between which he or she is required to find a
balance (Gomez, 1997; Maddi, 1989). Gabbard (2005) explains conflicts as powerful
unconscious forces that seek expression but are kept in check by constant monitoring
from opposing forces. Man is ontologically conceptualised by Freud as deterministic
and a system of biological drives and instincts. He postulates that instincts are
unchanging, inherent and common to all humans. He believes that an individual strives
to maximise instinctual gratification and pleasure, and minimise pain, punishment and
guilt. An individual‘s instincts are selfish but she or he is dependent on the group; since
society is inevitably in opposition to the individual‘s selfish instincts a conflict exists
between her or him and society (Corey, 2005; Gomez, 1997; Maddi, 1989; Meyer &
Viljoen, 2002).
Freud‘s epistemology is summarised as explaining:
a mental phenomenon as an outgrowth of conflict driven by the life (eros) and
death (thanatos) instinct;
that mental life consists of conscious and unconscious levels;
that the mind consists of the id (biological component: instincts and drives), the
ego (psychological component: mediates between the demands of the id, the
constraints of reality and the pressures of the superego) and the superego (social
component: internalisation of ideal parental and societal standards);
that ego-defense mechanisms operate unconsciously and deny, or distort, reality
in order to prevent the ego from being overwhelmed by easing the anxiety that is
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produced by the conflict between the demands of the id, superego and society;
and
sexual development (Gomez, 1997; Maddi, 1989; Meyer & Viljoen, 2002).
Freud‘s later work does start to include the importance of relationship with others as
well as internal relationships (Gomez, 1997).
The methodology of Freud‘s theory is exemplified in the application of his theory via
the various modes and techniques he used in the analysis of the individual: the
neutrality of the analyst, free association, analysis and interpretation of resistance,
dream analysis and interpretation, analysis and interpretation of transference and
countertransference (Corey, 2005; Gomez, 1997; Meyer & Viljoen, 2002). Some argue
that while highly comprehensive and interpretive, the methodology of Freud‘s theory is
not considered empirical by contemporary standards.
2.3.2 Freud‘s theories of love
Although Freud developed and refined his many revolutionary and original concepts,
techniques and theories of psychoanalysis over a period of more than four decades; this
study will only briefly reflect on Freud‘s scattered writings concerning the subject of love.
Freud was reluctant about decoding the secrets of love and was even apologetic about
infringing on the territory of poets (Freud, 1910a). Even so, Freud attempted to make
sense of love by continually revisiting the subject in his writings and deliberating and
arguing various hypotheses (1905, 1910a, 1910b, 1912, 1913, 1914, 1915, 1923, 1930,
1931a, 1931b). Martin Bergmann (1987) in his book ‗The Anatomy of Loving‘ suggests
that Freud‘s musings on love may be organised into three primary theories of love: 1)
infantile origins of love, 2) love and narcissism and 3) enduring love and ambivalence.
Below, the author has utilised Bergmann‘s (1987) outline of three theories of love to
explain Freud‘s scattered writings on the subject.
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2.3.2.1 Freud‘s first theory of love: Infantile origins of love
Freud‘s (1905) first theory of love was a derivative of his theory of infantile sexuality.
Freud postulated that sexuality begins in the years of infancy (1905). He argued that
infant sexuality is pregenital and begins in sexual zones like the mouth, lips and tongue
(oral stage) and the anal sphincter (anal stage). He believed that nursing not only
fulfilled the function of nourishment but that it was also pleasurable, and that this
pleasure persists into adulthood in the form of foreplay, for example, kissing and oral
sex.
Freud (1905) postulated that sexuality takes on a form in infancy that is different from
adult sexuality. For him infantile sexuality: 1) is bisexual (the infant is not concerned
about the love object‘s sex); 2) is polymorphously perverse (i.e. the child has a number
of pleasure zones e.g. oral, anal, etc); 3) is incestuous (i.e. the infant is attracted to the
first love object and is familially indifferent); and 4) that non genital sexual pleasure is
possible. Freud suggested that the infant is required biologically as well as culturally to
undergo a long, arduous and complicated journey to convert infantile sexuality into
normative adult sexuality. In contrast, he characterised normative adult sexuality as: 1)
heterosexual, 2) non-incestuous and added that 3) sexual pleasure is derived genitally.
Van Zyl (2009) contends that the individual undergoes a journey of cultural
appropriation, which is partially biologically driven, to convert infantile sexuality to adult
sexuality. This journey is difficult and fraught with stumbling blocks that can thwart the
conversion process of infantile sexuality to normative adult sexuality. Should this
conversion process fail, this limits the child‘s capacity to develop what Freud terms as
―happy love‖ in adulthood (Freud, 1905). Embedded in this conversion process is the
process of resolving, what Freud called, the psychosexual stages. Freud (1905)
suggested that if these stages are not resolved then this likewise limits the child‘s
capacity to develop ―happy love‖ in adulthood. Freud‘s (1905) five psychosexual stages
– 1) oral, 2) anal, 3) phallic, 4) latency and 5) genital – and the potential effects of a
developmental arrest at each stage are briefly described below:
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Freud (1905) advocated the notion that infant sexuality started with the oral stage (0 to
18 months). The psychological conflict at this stage is: a) one of excessive pleasure
versus dependency – as these children may be overly dependent, needy and reliant
and may want to be over-nurtured and b) one of an urge to bite versus parental
restrictions – these children may be antagonistic, quarrelsome and verbally scornful.
The second stage of infantile sexuality is the anal stage (18 months to 3 years). It is
during this stage that the child derives pleasure from either expelling faeces or from
retaining faeces at will. Parents, through toilet training, attempt to instil the ability of self
control in the child, and this may result in many conflicts: a) children who are sloppy,
wasteful, extravagant and dirty have developed too little control while b) children who
are never messy, clean, compulsive, fastidious, overly rigid and neat have developed
too much control.
The third stage of infantile sexuality is the phallic stage (3-5 years). It is during this
stage that the child discovers his / her genitals and the fact that they can be a source of
pleasure. Freud asserted that this was also the stage of sexual awakening and that the
resulting desire is directed outward towards the parent of the opposite sex. Freud
(1925) suggests that the little boy child lusts after and wants to penetrate and possess
his mother with his penis. His father is perceived as a hindrance, a rival and competitor.
As a result the child experiences the conflicting feelings of both loving his father and
wanting to eliminate him. This is the essence of the Oedipal conflict: the child loves,
but is competing with, the parent of the same sex. The desire to eliminate or kill off the
father is projected onto the father and the child begins to fear his father‘s rivalrous
retaliation. The child experiences fear of castration or castration anxiety. In order to
avoid real castration the child decides to symbolically castrate himself: he gives up hope
of possessing his mother sexually and starts instead to identify with, rather than oppose,
his father. This is the beginning of the resolution of the Oedipal conflict and the phallic
psychosexual stage of development in a boy. Part of the resolution of the Oedipal
conflict is the forming of the superego by internalising the retaliatory father.
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Although the female Oedipal conflict (and male Oedipal conflict) has attracted much
criticism (Stoller, 1976; Torok, 1970) and is deemed to be unconvincing it is important to
outline how Freud (1925) made sense of it. Although Freud acknowledges his
bewilderment and struggle to explain female development, he nonetheless attempts to
do so. Freud suggests that the girl initially takes her mother as her first love object but
subsequently when the girl realises she does not possess her own penis she blames
her mother for her lack and imagined loss of a penis, and she falls victim to penis envy.
As a result she turns to her father as her love object and for him to provide her with a
penis, but this is taboo: hence she makes do with an alternative – her wish for a child
from her father replaces her wish for a penis. According to Freud (1905, 1925), because
the female child feels that she has already lost the prize she has no strong incentive to
give up her desire for her father and internalise the prohibiting voice of the parent. Freud
(1925) suggested that this is why females possess a less developed and weaker
superego when compared with males. Freud does not manage to offer a plausible
explanation as to why the girl, having spurned the mother, turns back to identify with her
(Johnson, 2006). Freud (1931a) himself acknowledges that his theories on female
sexuality remain incomplete and argues that perhaps women by their very nature do not
allow for completion.
The resolution of the Oedipus complex occurs where the child assents to the concept of
the same sex parent, saying: ―eventually you will have your own pleasure if you give this
up for now……and if you model yourself on me and grow up to be like me…….then you
can get a mommy / daddy of your own‖ (Van Zyl, 2009). Freud (1905) warns that if the
same sex parent is not a strong enough rival (as may be the case when the parents are
in an unhappy marriage) then the child has no incentive to identify with the same sex
parent, and he or she may remain fixated in the Oedipus complex. An Oedipal fixation
may lead to neurotic illness or a predisposition to disorders in sexual development.
Contemporary psychoanalytic thinking differentiates Freud‘s explanation of the Oedipus
complex as the positive Oedipus complex and suggests the existence of the negative
Oedipus complex. The positive Oedipus complex is characterised by a libidinal longing
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for the opposite sex parent and the wish to be rid of the same sex parent, whereas the
negative Oedipus complex is the libidinal longing for the same sex parent and the wish
to be rid of the opposite sex parent (Gabbard, 2005). A fixation on either the positive or
negative Oedipus complex may lead to difficulties in the individual‘s intimate adult
relationships (Gabbard, 2005). Although it was useful to briefly mention current views
and developments regarding the Oedipus complex in order to provide context, further
explanation is not relevant to this thesis.
The fourth stage of the child‘s psychosexual development is the latency stage (6 years
old to puberty), which is marked by sexuality receding into the background until puberty
when adult sexuality emerges. It is during the latency stage that the current which
carries both affection and direct sexual impulses is split into two. Affection remains
conscious while the direct sexual impulse is repressed. Freud (1912) avers that the
affectionate current is the older of the two currents; the drive to self preservation is its
basis and it is aimed at the primary infantile object choice – family members and
caregivers.
The final stage which lasts throughout an individual‘s adulthood is called the genital
stage and exists where the libido is focused on the genitals in a mature, intimate and
productive relationship. Freud (1905) believed that people only reached the genital
stage if there was successful resolution of the previous stages and that this too would
mark successful personality development, which was defined by the ability to be
productive and sustain loving relationships.
During the genital stage the repressed direct sexual impulse breaks from the connection
to the incestuous love object and is redirected toward a new non incestuous love object.
The newly selected love object must in some way bear a resemblance to the old love
object (e.g. the mother‘s smile or the colour of her eyes) but not to the extent that it
rouses guilt feelings associated with the incestuous Oedipal object. If conditions are
favourable, the current that was split in two at the latency stage (affection and direct
sexual impulses) once again converges and develops. That is, the individual is able to
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focus all desire on a single new love object. Favourable conditions occur when a) the
degree of frustration in reality that will oppose and devalue the new object choice is not
too strong, and attachment to the old love object is moderate; and when b) the degree
of attraction and erotic investment assigned to infantile objects in childhood – the
pregenital impulses – are not too strong or too repressed (Freud, 1912).
If conditions are not favourable and the two split currents do not unite, a neurotic love
develops. Freud (1912) explains that if conditions are unfavourable, the libido turns
away from reality towards fantasy: obstacles in the form of fixations that inhibit the flow
of the current emerge. There are two types of fixation that are linked: a) new love
objects cannot be found because the person clings to and is unable to detach from the
parental prototype – the need to debase the sexual partner and continue to overvalue
the loved person (incestuous objects and its substitutes) with whom no sexual
relationship is possible; b) the individual remains fixated in earlier stages of
psychosexual development: oral, anal or phallic stages. When there are unfavourable
conditions and this inability to fuse the two currents occurs the individual is unable to
focus all desire on a single object: ―Where they love they do not desire and where they
desire they cannot love‖ (Freud, 1912, p. 183).
Freud (1910a, 1912) describes how some neurotic men and / or women have an
inflexible precondition for loving which is a consequence of a fixation on the mother. For
example, some men can only fall in love with 1) unavailable women (‗damaged-third‘ –
reflective of the Oedipal triangle): this same woman would be ignored and even treated
with disdain if she was available; or 2) promiscuous women whose fidelity and
dependability is doubtful – ‗love of whores‘ – the infant feels betrayed that mother
bestows sexual favours on father and tells himself [sic] that the difference between
mother and a whore is negligible; or 3) older, more mature women – maternal
surrogates; or 4) women for whom they feel scorn, disdain and contempt.
Once Freud discovered that sexuality begins in the years of infancy, he looked for love
in these years too. He believed that because the sexual desires of the infant are
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directed to the mother, she becomes the child‘s first love and sexual object. During
adolescence the direct sexual impulse is redirected toward a new non incestuous love
object which resembles the old love object. The old love object acts as a ‗prototype of
love‘ and helps to prepare the individual for the choice of a new love object. Freud
describes falling in love as thus: the finding or discovering of the object is in fact a
refinding or rediscovering of it (Freud, 1905) and adds that falling in love is dependent
on an unconscious precondition. Later at a lecture in the United States, Freud (1910b,
p. 48) said: ―It is inevitable and perfectly normal that a child should take his parents as
the first object of his love. But his libido should not remain fixated to these first objects;
later on, it should merely take them as a model, and should make a gradual transition
from them on to extraneous people when the time for a final choice for an object
arrives‖.
If one compares Freud‘s first theory of love and contemporary researchers and theorists
of love, parallels emerge. Hendrix (1995), the father of Imago Relationship Therapy,
acknowledges and agrees with Freud‘s (1905) proposition that the original object is the
prototype for the new non-incestuous object; that the choice of partner is in fact a
‗refinding‘ of the original object. Hendrix (1995) suggests that the seemingly ―free‖
choice of partner is the product of the individual‘s unconscious positive and negative
traits and image of his / her parents, which he calls Imago. He believes that the Imago is
the individual‘s unconscious inner ―image of the significant other‖ (Hendrix, 1995, p.55),
which also seems to display some notional similarity with Bowlby‘s (1973, 1980, 1988)
internal working models. However, Bowlby (1973, 1980, 1988) does not conceptualise it
as an image or a ‗refinding‘ of the original object; instead, he suggests it is an
unconscious relational model that informs the individual of their worthiness of love and
care and the type and level of responsiveness and availability he or she can expect
from significant others. A notional analogy can be drawn between Freud (1910a) and
Walster and Walster‘s (1978) passionate love. Freud (1910a) concedes that passionate
love exists and that it exhibits, to a certain degree, a compulsive character – obsessive
and irrational. But, unlike Walster and Walster (1978), Freud (1930) suggests that
passionate romantic love for the new object is not entirely fulfilling and satisfying; that
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romantic love is intrinsically a state of dissatisfaction because the adult love object is not
the original infant love object but merely the surrogate.
In sum, Freud‘s first theory of love focuses on two primary ideas. Firstly, Freud
suggested that the individual is required to undertake the difficult journey of cultural
appropriation through the resolution of the psychosexual stages in order to convert
infantile sexuality into normative adult sexuality. With the successful resolution of the
psychosexual stages and the successful conversion of infantile sexuality into normative
adult sexuality the individual develops the capacity to develop and experience ―happy
love‖ in adulthood (Freud, 1905). However, a failure in the resolving and conversion
process limits the individual‘s capacity to do so. Instead the individual is vulnerable to
developing various difficulties in the arena of intimate relationships in adulthood.
Secondly, Freud‘s first theory of love focuses on the ‗refinding‘ of the original object and
emphasises ―the unconscious dependency of the adult love choice on infantile
prototypes‖ (Bergmann, 1987, p. 180). Bergmann (1987) points out that Freud‘s
proposition that adult love is birthed in infancy is enduring. However, Bergmann (1987)
goes on to suggest that not only do humans seek to refind the original love object but
they also seek to find new objects in the hope of healing the wounds exacted by the
original love objects. It would seem that perhaps Freud, and indeed Hendrix, would
argue that humans seek to refind the original love object with the unconscious hope of
healing the original wounding inflicted by the initial love object of infancy. Although
Hendrix (1995) and Bowlby (1973, 1980, 1988) also recognise that strong unconscious
influences impact on romantic love they seem to adopt a somewhat more positive and
less deterministic view about the conceptualisation of love as compared to that of
Freud.
2.3.2.2 Freud‘s second theory of love: Love and narcissism
Freud (1914) reported that his experience in psychoanalytic investigation revealed that
some individuals do not have their parents as their love prototype but instead
themselves. Their object choice is therefore narcissistic because they are seeking
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themselves as a love object. He explains that this comes about because the infant is
initially in a period of infant paradise; where he [sic] is ―His Majesty the Baby‖. The baby
feels omnipotent and all-powerful, and believes his needs will always be met. He
believes that his is the only sexual organ and he exists in a state of narcissistic self
sufficiency. At this point he has not experienced any narcissistic wounds: no discovery
of death, no imposed gender identity limitations, no experience of castration anxiety or
penis envy, no concept of how vulnerable to and dependent he / she is on mother‘s
love, no birth of siblings, no illnesses and no parental absences. Hence the infant‘s first
love object is himself; only after the infant moves from the narcissistic stage to the
object stage and realises that the object is a source of pleasure and satisfaction does
he start to love the primary caretaker. Freud (1914) clarifies that all humans therefore
have two original love objects: 1) the primary caretaker and 2) him/herself, and that as
adults individuals show preference for one or the other. Freud‘s (1905) first theory of
love focuses on the primary caregiver as the original love object (love of other) while his
second theory of love focuses on the self as the original love object (narcissistic love).
In Freud‘s second theory of love he added that not only did the incestuous fixation
threaten love (as in his first theory of love) but so too did the narcissistic one. The
incestuous fixation he called anaclitic (attachment) love where the love object is the
primary caretaker; the second he termed narcissistic love where the primary love object
is the infant him/herself (Freud, 1914).
Freud (1914, p. 47) outlined the categorisation of the ways in which the love object may
be chosen as follows:
A person may love:
i. According to the narcissistic type:
a. What he himself is (actually himself);
b. What he once was;
c. What he would like to be;
d. Someone who was once part of himself.
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ii. According to the anaclitic type:
a. The woman who tends.
b. The man who protects;
and those substitutes which succeed them one after the other.
A brief explanation of the narcissistic model of love is now furnished:
a. ―what he himself is‖: the love object is merely the image in the mirror; the love object
resembles the person himself;
b. ―what he once was‖: the person loves the other as he himself was; e.g. how some
parents love their offspring narcissistically; the young mirroring what the old were
and the old loving the mirroring;
c. ―what he would like to be‖: According to Freud (1914) there are three stages in
narcissistic libido development: a) the child/self/ego is the receiver of the entire
libido; b) the libido moves from the self to the ego ideal as the child realises his own
limitations; c) at the stage of the ego ideal the child directs his love to what he
aspires to be and stops loving himself. When the ego ideal is replaced by the love
object, that is, when the ego ideal is projected onto the love object, the person loves
the love object that displays the excellence that he never had;
d. ―someone who was once part of himself‖: the person loves what he repressed in
himself. ―I love you because you are as narcissistic as I was before I had to repress
my narcissism or I love you because you are as narcissistic as I never dared to be‖
(Bergmann, 1987, p. 170).
Freud (1914) asserts that the satisfaction and aim of the narcissistic object choice is to
be loved because this increases self esteem / ―self regard‖. Loving the other
(transferring libido to the beloved), on the other hand, lowers ―self regard‖ – the
narcissistic lover is humble because he or she feels a longing for, deprivation of and
dependence on the beloved. A fortunate lover is one who possesses the beloved, is
loved and has his / her love returned. Freud (1914) explains this by arguing that
individuals experience a tension between their ego and their ego ideal. The individual
projects his / her ego ideal onto the beloved or the narcissistic idealised object choice
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when they fall in love. This projection relieves the tension between their ego and their
ego ideal. When that love is reciprocated by the beloved or narcissistic idealised object
choice it evokes feelings of bliss and ecstasy – it is as if the self is loved by the ego
ideal. In other words the individual falls in love when a narcissistic libido is being
transformed into an object libido. It is also at this point that a person is relieved of the
burden of excessive self-involvement and is freed from envy and jealousy which result
in feelings of bliss: this state lasts providing their love is returned.
In sum, Freud‘s second theory of love emphasises an alternative type of love from the
love of the other (anaclitic or attachment love), which he characterises as love of the
self (narcissistic love). When this individual falls in love intrapsychically his / her
narcissistic love is converted into the love of the other by the projection of the ego ideal.
Bergmann (1987) postulates that although love absorbs an individual‘s narcissistic
surplus, the flow between the object libido and narcissistic libido is not as uncomplicated
as Freud suggested. Current theorists challenge Freud‘s deterministic first two theories
of love and conceptualise the child as not only being much more related to his / her
primary love object but also suggest that through constant interaction and identifications
with the primary love objects, cultural influences, and object relations the child creates
his / her world continually (Bergmann, 1987; Gabbard, 2005).
2.3.2.3 Freud‘s third theory of love
In his third theory of love Freud (1915) grapples to find a solution as to how the sexual
drive becomes love. He engages the reader in his inner conflict by initially saying that
―one is naturally unwilling to conceive of love as being a kind of special component-
instinct of sexuality‖. He continues by saying that ―we should prefer to regard loving as
the expression of the whole sexual current of feeling‖ but then goes on to assert that
that this too does not resolve the difficulties as to how the sexual drive becomes love
(Freud, 1915, p. 76). He continues by pointing out that loving encompasses three
opposites: 1) loving as opposed to hating; 2) loving as opposed to being loved; and 3)
loving and hating as opposed to indifference.
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Freud (1915) explains how the loving-hating antithesis comes about. Initially the infant
derives pleasure from directing the ego instincts to itself – narcissism with an autoerotic
potentiality for satisfaction. At this point the ego loves itself only and is indifferent to the
outside world. The ego introjects those parts of itself that are a source of pleasure into
itself and projects those parts of the self that are painful into the external world. When
the infant moves from the narcissistic stage to the object stage it follows the same
pattern. When the object is a source of pleasure the individual strives to bring the object
close and incorporate it into the ego, saying that he / she loves that object. Conversely,
when the object is a source of pain the individual strives to increase the distance
between the object and the ego and communicates that he / she hates that object. At
some point the developing infant realises that objects exist outside of the self. These
objects are loved because they give pleasure but these objects can also be hated
because the infant realises that he / she is powerless and at the mercy of these external
objects. According to Freud (1915) love and hate therefore are not instincts but instead
it is the total ego that loves its objects. In other words he reformulates love from being
an instinct to being situated in the ego sphere of emotion. He concludes by clarifying
that ―love constantly manifests itself as ‗ambivalent‘, that is accompanied by feelings of
love and hate against the same object‖ (Freud, 1915, p. 82).
Freud (1915) explicates that love is not transformed to hate. Instead when, in adult
relationships, love seems to turn to hate the person is regressing from the genital to
pregenital position and the relationship has not been given up. ―Only when the genital
organisation is established does love become the antithesis of hate‖ (Freud, 1915, p.
82). Only when the individual reaches the genital organisation is he / she able to
separate feelings of love and hate and tolerate feelings of love, hate and the resulting
feeling of ambivalence. One of Freud‘s students, Karl Abraham (1925), expands on and
further clarifies the capacity to love. He asserts that the capacity to love is only possible
if the genital stage is reached successfully. That is, the individual was able to overcome
a) his own narcissism (oral stage) and absorb the qualities of enterprise and energy; b)
his own bisexuality (anal stage) and absorb the qualities of perseverance and life-
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enhancing constructive energy; and c) his hostility and fear of the opposite sex (phallic
stage) and absorb the freedom from hostility towards the mate, instead developing the
ability to direct that productive hostility outward to those who block his / her progress.
He concludes that the individual who has successfully reached the genital stage does
not deny his instincts but instead has them under control.
In sum, Freud‘s (1915) third theory of love emphasises that only when the genital level
of libidinal development has been reached has the individual, through the process of
maturation, developed the capacity to experience an enduring relationship free from a
too-destructive ambivalence.
2.3.2.4 Freud‘s later contributions
Freud (1931b) utilises the psychoanalytic libido theory to outline three primary
psychological types: 1) the erotic, 2) the narcissistic and 3) the obsessional. All three
types are normal but all three can yield to neurosis if there is a conflict between: 1) the
superego, ego and id; 2) heterosexual and homosexual impulses and 3) aggression and
libido. The erotic types are predominantly preoccupied with being loved and are at risk
of loving anyone who loves them. They are dependent and fear losing love. The
narcissistic types are predominantly preoccupied with self preservation and as a result
prefer loving to being loved. They are independent and charming and those who have
lost their own narcissism tend to pursue the narcissistic type. The obsessional types
are predominantly preoccupied with fear of their conscience and generally remain loyal
and in love for a long time. They are internally dependent and are highly self reliant. In
reality a human being is not distinctly one of the three types but is often a mixture of the
three.
Freud (1931a) observed that sexual passion cannot be integrated into the milieu of a
lasting and stable relationship: Either the full capacity for sexual pleasure must be
sacrificed or the stability and permanence of a relationship must be sacrificed. He
believed that sublimated or ―aim-inhibited‖ and ―aim-deflected‖ strivings were more
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reliable for building an enduring relationship than sexual instincts and strivings that are
uninhibited. Walster and Walster (1978) repeats Freud‘s (1931a) assertion in that
passionate love is difficult to sustain indefinitely; the longer the relationship lasts the
more likely it is to metamorphose into companionate love which is a calmer and more
stable love.
2.3.2.5 Conclusion as regards Freud‘s contributions
From Freud‘s continual and scattered writings on the subject of love, three broad
theories (Bergmann, 1987) can be delineated. In his first theory of love he postulates
that in order for an individual to possess the capacity for ―happy love‖ in adulthood it is
necessary for the person to have successfully resolved the psychosexual stages: on
successfully converting infantile sexuality into normative adult sexuality the individual
develops the capacity to develop ―happy love‖ in adulthood (Freud, 1905). In addition he
suggests that the individual‘s adult love object choice is unconsciously dependent on
the original love object or infantile prototypes and that the individual seeks to refind the
original love object in the new non-incestuous love object. His first theory of love
highlights love of the other (anaclitic or attachment love), whereas his second theory of
love highlights love of the self (narcissistic love) (Freud, 1914). Freud (1914) proposes
that as adults individuals show preference for either love of the other (anaclitic or
attachment love) or love of the self (narcissistic love). When an individual who shows a
preference for love of the self falls in love, Freud (1914) theorises that the individual‘s
narcissistic love is, by the projection of the ego ideal, converted into the love of the
other. In Freud‘s (1915) third theory of love he emphasises that only when the genital
level of libidinal development has been reached via the process of maturation does the
individual develop the capacity to conduct an enduring relationship free from a too-
destructive ambivalence. Finally, in later writings Freud (1931b) proposed three key
psychological love types: erotic, narcissistic and obsessional.
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2.3.3 Relevant post-Freud psychoanalytic contributions
2.3.3.1. Love explained via structural (superego, ego and id) apparatuses
Waelder (1930) was the first psychoanalyst to outline love via the structural point of
view by using the concept of the superego, ego and id psychic apparatuses. He
believed that the capacity to love was determined by the ego and its capacity to
integrate harmoniously the ―wishes of the id, the demands of the repetition compulsion,
the demands of the superego and the claims of reality. The love object chosen must be
sexually gratifying, connected unconsciously to love objects in the person‘s past,
sufficiently admired to meet the approval of the superego and appropriate in meeting
the demands of reality‖ (Bergmann, 1987, p. 235). Altman (1977) adds that it is the ego
1) that allows love to last; 2) that synthesises the oral, anal and phallic stages and
brings together the sexual and tender / affectionate current in the genital stage of
development; 3) that has the capacity to tolerate the frustrations inevitable in a
relationship and bear the differences between the individual and his / her partner. He
goes on to aver that the superego too plays the important role; it is the superego that
provides the capacity for compassion and remorse. It is also the superego that enables
an individual to continue loving the other even when there is a lack of satisfaction.
2.3.3.2. Love‘s tasks, prerequisites and intrapsychic processes and stages
Bergmann (1980, 1987) comments that falling in love is a complex process. For him
there are five tasks that the ego needs to accomplish; five intrapsychic process and
stages that need to be achieved and four prerequisites that need to be in place in order
for the five intrapsychic process and stages to occur. He outlines the five tasks the ego
is required to accomplish as:
o Task 1 – reality testing: assess the actual qualities of the new love object and
appraise the future potential of the relationship;
o Task 2 – the love objects of the individual‘s childhood are integrated;
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o Task 3 – counteract the voice of the superego that threatens to convert the new love
object into the old incestuous love object;
o Task 4 – counteract the id‘s wish to refind the exact replica of the old love object;
o Task 5 – counteract the pressure of the destructive repetition compulsion to choose
the new love object, modelled on the pain-evoking qualities of the original love
object, as well as counteract eliciting the original love object‘s pain-evoking qualities,
even when the new object is in fact different. ―Love can only be experienced when
the refinding process works unconsciously and is sanctioned by ego and superego‖
(Bergmann, 1987, p. 236).
He goes on to explain that the intrapsychic processes and stages that occur when an
individual loves are: 1) refinding a new love object that resembles the original love
object; 2) unconsciously recalling the earlier symbiotic stage; 3) dissolving to some
extent one‘s separateness and including the new love object within the boundaries of
the expanding self; 4) some degree of transference of idealisation of the self or the
original love object onto the new love object and 5) the hope that the new love object
will heal the old wounds and disappointments inflicted by the original love object.
Bergmann (1987) also emphasises that these are complex processes that often have
opposing forces. Firstly, the refound new love object must be as similar as possible to
the original love object (without evoking the incest taboo) but also has to be different
from the original love object in that he / she will heal the wounding inflicted by the
original love objects. Secondly, researchers have discovered that the dynamics of love
actually comprise a struggle between the longing for oneness on the one hand; versus
the fear of merger on the other hand. In other words humans experience two opposing
forces: one that drives the individual to merge with the other or undo the boundary that
separates the self from other; versus the other which impels a person to individuate and
remain separate. This recognises Freud‘s (1914) stance that feelings of ambivalence
are inherently part of love.
According to Bergmann (1987) in order for one to fall in love and undergo the above
intrapsychic processes and stages a number of prerequisites have to be in place: 1) to
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experience a vague feeling that something is missing and a vague sense of
dissatisfaction; 2) to exhibit enough disinvestment and separation from the original love
objects and one‘s previous adult love object; 3) to have psychic space for the new love
object; 4) to experience a feeling of familiarity, similarity and feeling that both partners
are extrasensorily understood and supported by the other – they have a strong sense of
being one. Bergmann (1987) believes this is the first stage of a relationship – becoming
one. For him the second stage starts when the couple once again becomes two. This
happens because the individual starts to recognise differences between the self and the
other and the beloved‘s imperfections are detected. This evokes uncertainty, doubt and
old fears. It is at this stage that the relationship is vulnerable to ending. However, if the
partners are able to successfully negotiate the transition from being one to being two
and are able to compromise and take the other‘s separate needs into account this
marks the onset of a calmer and more durable love relationship.
2.3.3.3. Types of love
Bergmann (1987) claims the way human beings love is dependent on the individual‘s
level of intrapsychic maturity. He lists fifteen types of love:
1. Infatuation – is seen as a desperate but ultimately failed attempt to transfer the
libidinal energy from the old incestuous object to the new non-incestuous object.
This type of love is marked by an unexpected and violent beginning and end and
afflicts those who can only experience love as long as the love object is reluctant to
respond.
2. Love and the proximity of death – Freud (1913) alludes to the task of love as
being responsible to reconcile us with our ever pending death. Bergmann (1987)
suggests that the proximity of death enhances love.
3. Triangular love – some people experience the precondition of loving that stipulates
that they can only love when there is a third person; when they are in a triangle.
Psychoanalysts interpret this as a continued fixation within the oedipal triangle.
4. Conflictual love – these individuals have not been able to integrate the different
aspects of the childhood love objects and can only love a person uniquely but not
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exclusively: they can only love when they love more than one person
simultaneously.
5. Loveless sexuality – these individuals experience intense sexual experiences with
the other without feeling love for them. Bergmann (1987) has found in his clinical
experience that these individuals feel entitled to have sexual experiences but do not
feel entitled to feel love for the person they are having intercourse with nor do they
feel entitled to be loved by the person with whom they are having a sexual
encounter. Arlow (1980) explains the Don Juan as the perpetual seducer who
reflects a complex biographical history based on a phallic-narcissistic fixation and a
counter-phobic attitude towards women. There is identification with a promiscuous
mother and a nursemaid who abandoned him. At first the Don Juan is romantically
intoxicated with the idealised woman whom he unconsciously believes to be a
phallic woman. After sexual intercourse she falls from her pedestal because she is
no different from any other woman: she is seen as castrated and therefore has to be
discarded. ―The disappointed child ‗masters‘ his disappointment by becoming a
disappointing lover‖ (Bergmann, 1987, p. 243).
6. Masochistic and sadistic love – these individuals love in the service of suffering.
Masochistic love exists when a person believes he / she is insignificant and
sacrifices his/her self, needs and life for the magnificent partner.
7. Hermaphroditic love – psychoanalytic thought postulates that all humans wish to
be both sexes and that some people who have not resolved this wish sufficiently
regard hermaphroditic love as a solution. This is evident when an individual falls in
love with a person who represents their feminine or masculine part.
8. Pygmalion love – these individuals can only love a person whom they have taught,
moulded and created. This love is vulnerable if the beloved starts to seek
individuality and equality.
9. Narcissistic love – these individuals love what they would like to be; they love a
person who is like them or who is like who they used to be, who they wish they could
have been and or who constituted part of themselves. When performance
expectations are thwarted this love is vulnerable to the individual‘s narcissistic rage.
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10. Primary and anaclitic love – these individuals are fixated at the infantile stage of
need gratification and dependency; they expect all their needs to be gratified without
having to reciprocate; they wish to be taken care of by and remain dependent on the
other.
11. Addicts of love – these individuals are fixated at the oral stage: they need love in
the same way as others need food and drugs; being loved is their primary focus but
their capacity to love is limited; they usually consider their beloved to be ungratifying
but are unable to free themselves from the frustrating partner. As a result they are
unhappy and angry.
12. Transference love – individuals who are in analysis normally experience this love
as a by-product of the unfolding relationship with an analyst,
13. Aim-inhibited love – individuals who love in this way repress, censor or experience
the sexual component as absent.
14. Sublimated love – individuals direct their passion away from a real person to a
more abstract aim, e.g. a monk who loves God.
15. Ideal love – the beloved and the lover are idealised by each other and although
symbiotic feelings of merger, oneness and bliss are experienced the partners retain
independent self-boundaries. In ideal love, the relationship is free from hate, envy
and intentions to humiliate and is instead based on compatible interests and a
constant sense that both partners feel understood, valued and loved by the other.
The beloved is experienced as the only one and unique, but not to the extent that
disappointment is inevitable. Positive libidinal energy has been successfully
transferred from the original incestuous love object onto the new love object.
However, this transfer does not include the need to repeat earlier disappointment in
order to resolve that wounding. The ideal love partner symbolically represents the
significant infant love objects and is able to satisfy one‘s adult needs and unfilled
childhood wishes. The partners are sufficiently similar and experience mutual
identification but nonetheless do not give up their sense of self for the beloved. In an
ideal love relationship, love for the other holds self-love in check. Sexual intercourse
is passionate and gratifying; it is free from aggression during foreplay; and it is
coupled with feelings of tenderness and regard for the beloved. Bergmann (1987, p.
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278) observes: ―What is surprising, therefore, is not that it often falls short of the
ideal, but that in spite of these numerous checks and balances, many lovers
succeed in transforming falling in love into an approximation of ideal love‖.
2.3.4 Criticisms
Although Freud‘s theories have been hotly debated they have nonetheless exerted a
profound impact on Western thought, with many theorists using Freud‘s theory as the
foundation from which they build their own theories (e.g. Erikson) and with clinicians
making use of his theories (e.g. the unconscious) and techniques (e.g. free association,
analysis of resistance and dream interpretation) in an ongoing process to understand
and help their patients. Some of the main criticisms of Freud‘s theory have been that,
firstly, it is primarily of historical value and does not apply to the contemporary
personality theories. Nonetheless, others would fervently argue that the psychosexual
stages are as relevant today as then. Secondly, that psychoanalysis cannot be fairly
evaluated on its scientific merits. Thirdly, that his theory is constructed in terms of his
patients, a group of educated, wealthy, verbal women, and therefore cannot be applied
universally. Fourthly, that he holds a pessimistic and negative view of human nature.
Fifthly, that he views women as inferior to men. Finally, that his theory is pansexual –
Freud sees sex everywhere (Larsen & Buss, 2002; Meyer & Viljoen, 2002). According to
Van Zyl (2009), this is not true: instead she says that he perceives sex everywhere in
pathology – the central theme in Freud‘s sexual theory is the answer to his question,
―what is connected to the idea of psychopathology?‖ Johnson (2006) agrees,
contending that Freud never became a ‗pansexualist‘ but instead extended the concept
of what is sexual beyond its usual scope. Johnson (2006) adds that Freud has also
been criticised for his ideas as being too reductive and abstruse. Even though there are
numerous criticisms aimed at Freud‘s theory it still remains an important part of
psychology that informs many aspects of the discipline. It has also become part of
Western culture and his concepts are part of everyday language (e.g. Freudian slip,
penis envy, castration anxiety) in many parts of the world.
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2.3.5 Conclusion
Freud (1905) provides a very comprehensive explanation of how a developmental arrest
during any of a person‘s five psychosexual stages can hinder an individual‘s
development of the capacity for ―happy love‖ in adulthood. An exploration of Freud‘s first
theory of love provides important insights into and possible explanations of what may go
wrong at each stage and how this can manifest in an individual‘s romantic life. Although
lacking empirical support his theory nonetheless raises important possible answers and
understandings when considering treatment for those who manifest with neurotic love in
adult romantic relationships.
One of Freud‘s (1905) major contributions to the understanding of romantic love is the
concept of ‗refinding‘ the original love object; that human beings unconsciously use
infantile prototypes for their adult romantic object choice. As Bergmann (1987) has
remarked, perhaps it is not only the original parental love objects that influence an
individual‘s eventual choice of the beloved. Possibly it is the integration of the mother,
father and any other caregivers that constitutes this prototype. This may be especially
pertinent in South Africa where many children have not only their parent/s, but also a
childminder and day-care minders; or where in African culture it is relatively common to
make use of multiple caregivers and to move the child from mother, to maternal
grandmother, to paternal grandmother, to father; or where in African and Indian culture
there is an extended family whose members live together and share the raising of the
children – the child experiences multiple caregivers rather than one primary caregiver.
Perhaps it is the successful integration of all these caregivers that will allow for ―happy
love‖. Minuchin (2002) points out that although multiple mothering is common in certain
cultures, the availability of multiple attachment figures could be either reassuring or
confusing for a child, depending on the circumstances. Therefore in the reassuring
cases this could lead to ―happy love‖ but in the confusing cases perhaps not. In
addition, the original love object does not only provide pleasurable experiences but at
times causes pain. Perhaps for some individuals their response to primary caregivers
who cause pain is to choose a love object that is different from the said primary
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caregivers. Freud (1930) may argue that this would not be the case; instead he would
suggest that a child would chose a similar love object to the primary caregiver in order
to repeat the experience in the hope of mastering it – repetition compulsion. Finally,
even if adult love is birthed in infancy, perhaps individuals, via ongoing experiences with
other objects in their lives, may conceive of the possibility of a new love object and
therefore seek the new love object in the hope that the beloved will no longer re-wound
but that instead the beloved will help heal the wounds that were exacted by the old
objects.
Freud (1914) illuminates how for some, it is narcissistic love, not anaclitic love, that
dominates so that instead of refinding the primary love object, the individual seeks to
refind himself / herself in the beloved by projecting his ego ideal onto the beloved.
Freud‘s (1915) explanation of the inherent, seemingly paradoxical, characteristic of
ambivalence in love assists in understanding why love struggles to last in relationships;
explains the relationship between love, hate and ambivalence for the beloved; and
indicates how maturity leads to enduring relationships that are free from a not too
destructive ambivalence.
Bowlby (1958), the father of attachment theory, argues in support of anaclitic love rather
than narcissistic love. Bowlby (1958) asserts that, contrary to Freud‘s principal
formulations, it is evident from Freud‘s earlier writings that he believed that infants were
not exclusively autoerotic and that the infant takes the persons who feed, care, protect,
stroke, kiss and rock him – ‗teaching the child to love‘ – as his earliest and strongest
love objects. Bowlby (1958) outlines how Freud suggests that the relationships with
these love objects (primarily the mother / primary caregiver) are not only unique and
unparalleled but also the model, for both sexes, for all later love relations. Bowlby
(1958) argues that towards the end of Freud‘s life the central importance of the infant‘s
tie to his or her mother was wholly appreciated by him and that ―Freud was not only
moving away from the theory of secondary drive but developing the notion that
component instincts built into man‘s nature during the course of evolution underlie this
first and unique love relationship‖ (p. 428).
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Bergmann (1987) and other psychoanalytic thinkers also add to the understanding of
love by exploring love via the structural topographic model (id, ego and superego); the
ego tasks; the intrapsychic processes and stages; and types of love. The study will later
reveal how Freud‘s (1914, 1931) explanation of narcissistic love, preconditions for love
and his libidinal types, as well as Bergmann‘s (1987) types of love, are similar to other
theories and typologies.
The above discussion demonstrates that the lens of the psychoanalytic approach to
love can illuminate the quest for understanding love. This lens focuses on the
intrapsychic and intrapersonal, and explains how an individual‘s unconscious biological
drives and instincts are in conflict with societal expectations and therefore constantly
need to be monitored and balanced. Freud‘s work on love remains foundational in
assisting clinicians and researchers in their search to make love knowable.
Freud‘s work anticipates the work of Fromm (1956), who was strongly influenced by the
former‘s work. Fromm‘s (1956) ideal, humanistic and sociobiological view of love
provides an alternative lens in the understanding of love.
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2.4 Fromm‘s theory on the art of loving
2.4.1 Brief background
Erich Fromm (1900-1980) was born into an Orthodox Jewish family in Frankfurt,
Germany (Maddi, 1989; Viljoen, 2002c). He was an only child and experienced his
father as distant and his mother as overprotective (Funk, 1982). His family life was
fraught with discord and tension. His father was described as being ‗over-anxious and
moody‘ and his mother ‗depression-prone‘. His father was a wine merchant and a
businessman. Fromm grew up in a family where there was a strong focus on spiritual
values as well as on the often paradoxical aim of attainment of material success.
Fromm was instructed by two rabbis from the ages of 13 – 27 years old, as regards an
intensive study of the Talmud. Davis (2003) postulates that Fromm was attracted to
strong and powerful older women.
Although he had no medical training he studied psychology, sociology and philosophy at
the University of Heidelberg. At the age of 22 after he obtained his doctorate in
sociology, he began studying psychoanalysis at the Berlin Psychoanalytic Institute
(Maddi, 1989; Viljoen, 2002c). He met Frieda Reichmann, his first analyst, who was
later to become the first of his three wives (Burston, 1991, Hall, Lindzey, Loehlin &
Manosevitz, 1985). At the age of 33 he immigrated to America; he worked in private
practice in New York and lectured at various universities in both America and Mexico
(Maddi, 1989; Viljoen, 2002c). Although Fromm may seem like a largely forgotten figure
today, his accessible writing style reached large professional and lay audiences, which
ensured his success as an author then as well as now (Burston, 1991; Frie, 2003).
Fromm‘s socio-psychoanalytic approach was influenced by Darwin, Karl Marx‘s social
and philosophical writings as well as by Freud‘s psychoanalytical theoretical positions.
He attempted to adapt and synthesise these theoretical positions to Western capitalistic
society (Tuebingen, 2002; Viljoen, 2002c). Maddi (1989) postulates that Fromm‘s theory
is predominantly a fulfilment model with an emphasis on perfection. Ontologically he
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described his view of the person as sociobiological: he believed that people have both
an animal nature and a human one but that it is an individual‘s core tendency to attempt
to fulfil one‘s human nature (Maddi, 1989; Viljoen, 2002c). Epistemologically he
postulates that humans are born with certain potentialities and, depending on the
prevailing social order, those potentialities are either cultivated and encouraged – which
leads to freedom – or mired and discouraged, which leads to a defensive way of life or
what he terms conformity (Fromm, 1942). The methodology and application of
Fromm‘s theory seem to be limited.
Fromm‘s belief that humans strive for and can achieve perfection and his emphasis on
the expression of the highest form of living via freedom, productiveness, individuality
and lack of defense explain his perfect fulfilment model. The ―main theme of his theory
is people‘s struggle to retain their worth and freedom in spite of society‘s pressure to
conform, which threatens to alienate and isolate them‖ (Viljoen, 2002c, p. 168). In his
later writings, in The Art of Loving, he presents a solution to this universal human feeling
of isolation, alienation and separateness in the form of mature love (Fromm, 1956).
2.4.2 Love versus isolation, alienation and separateness
Fromm (1956) suggests that although people are starved for love it eludes them
because they hold two essentially misguided assumptions and premises on which they
base love:
o Instead of focusing on loving and on one‘s capacity to love most people focus on
being loved; on how to be lovable.
o There is nothing to learn about love. It is easy to love but the difficulty is to find the
right person to love or be loved by.
According to Fromm (1956) man has an awareness of his helplessness in the face of
his aloneness and separateness. This evokes much anxiety, shame and guilt. He
believes that man‘s greatest need and his eternal quest is to resolve ―how to overcome
separateness, how to achieve union, how to transcend one‘s own individual life and find
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―at-onement‖ (Fromm, 1956, p. 16). Fromm (1956) suggests that humans adopt several
paths in an attempt to achieve ―at-onement‖. The path an individual adopts, he says, is
dependent on his / her degree of individuation.
Fromm (1956) postulates that human beings try to escape this separateness via various
means:
a. Orgiastic states. He describes these states as displaying an auto-induced
trancelike quality and argues that humans use sexual orgasm, alcohol or
drugs in an attempt to escape the separateness. He avers that this escape is
achieved in the short term but that once the orgiastic experience is over the
individual feels even more separate, which drives him or her to take their
chosen remedy with increasing frequency and intensity. He criticises this
attempt at union as temporary and episodic.
b. Conformity. He suggests that the union of conformity is a state where the
individual self disappears and is replaced with a sense of belonging to the
culture or group via the union with it, with its beliefs, practices and customs
as well as its safety in the routine of work and pleasure. He criticises this
―herd conformity‖ solution to the problem of separateness as not one of
―oneness‖ but instead of one of ―sameness‖ and standardisation. He deduces
that it is therefore only pseudo-unity.
c. Creative activity. He remarks: ―the creating person unites himself with his
material, which represents the world outside of himself…..man unites himself
with the world in the process of creation‖ (Fromm, 1956, p. 21-22). He
criticises this attempt at union as not being interpersonal.
He concludes the ―full answer lies in the achievement of interpersonal union, of fusion
with another person in love‖ and that this ―desire for interpersonal fusion is the most
powerful striving in man‖ (Fromm, 1956, p. 22). This search for union, fusion and one-
ment can be destructive as is the case when people dominate each other (sadism and
masochism), or positive as in the case of mature love.
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He clarifies that mature love is not about receiving but instead about giving and that
giving is distinguished by the mutually interdependent components of care,
responsibility, respect, understanding and knowledge. There is a marked
distinction between this type of love and narcissism. For Fromm only a mature and
productive individual, who has given up narcissistic dreams of omniscience and
omnipotence and who, through inner strength, has achieved humility, separateness and
integrity of one‘s self; is capable of this type of love. He clarifies what giving love entails:
―This does not necessarily mean that he sacrifices his life for the other – but that he
gives him of that which is alive in him; he gives him of his joy, of his interest, of his
understanding, of his knowledge, of his humour, of his sadness – of all expressions and
manifestations of that which is alive in him. In thus giving of his life, he enriches the
other person, he enhances that other‘s sense of aliveness by enhancing his own sense
of aliveness‖ (Fromm, 1956, p. 27).
2.4.3 Development of love
Fromm (1956) suggests that the ability to love is birthed from one‘s experience with
what he calls the ideal or archetype of motherly and fatherly love. He suggests that
ideal motherly love is unconditional, passive, and that it need not and cannot be
controlled, deserved, produced or acquired. The only requirement of the child is ―to be‖
in order to receive motherly love. Motherly love encompasses the principle of feeling
secure in life and its function is to teach the child how to receive and expect
unconditional love. Ideal fatherly love on the other hand is conditional, has to be
deserved and can be acquired. It encompasses the principles of law and order,
authority, travel, adventure and its function is to teach the child how to be in the world.
Fatherly love says: ―I love you because you fulfil my expectations, because you do your
duty, because you are like me‖ (Fromm, 1956, p. 41). It is through this love that the child
gains the fatherly qualities of discipline, independence and the ability to master his / her
own life. Fromm (1956) postulates that mother-centred love is what the child needs
initially for security – physically and psychically. Thereafter, when the child confronts the
world at around the age of six he needs his father‘s love for guidance and authority. For
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Fromm mental health and achievement of maturity occur when an individual has
developed the ability to become his own mother and father, when he is able to
synthesise and internalise both types of parental love.
According to Fromm (1956) neurosis may result when either the motherly or fatherly
principle fails to develop or if the roles of the mother and father become confused. He
cites two examples of possible causes of neurosis:
a. A loving but domineering or overindulgent mother and a weak and
uninterested father may result in an individual who is dependent, feels
helpless, needs to be protected and taken care of and who may seek
‗mothers‘ in all those he / she meets. This person lacks the father centred
qualities of discipline, independence and the ability to master his / her own
life. This individual seems to display similarities with Freud‘s (1931b) erotic
libidinal type who is primarily preoccupied with being loved. This individual is
also recognised in Bergmann‘s (1987) primary and anaclitic type of love –
they are dependent on the other, they wish to be taken care of and they
expect all their needs to be gratified without having to reciprocate.
b. A cold, unresponsive and domineering mother may result in an individual who
is similar to that described in (a) or the individual may develop only the father
centred qualities of discipline, independence and the ability to master his / her
own life. This person may conduct his / her life strictly according to the
principles of authority and law and order and will lack the ability to receive or
expect unconditional love. The said individual is also reflective of Freud‘s
(1931b) obsessional libidinal type who is mainly preoccupied with fear of their
conscience – they are internally dependent and are highly self reliant.
Fromm (1956) further postulates that should the individual develop the one sided
mother centred attachment the neurosis may likely manifest itself as depression,
alcoholism, hysteria, an inability to assert oneself and an inability to cope realistically
with life and the challenges it brings. On the other hand, should the individual develop
the one sided father centred attachment the neurosis may well be manifested as
obsessional neurosis.
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2.4.4 Five types or objects of love
Fromm (1956) outlines five types or objects of love:
1. Brotherly love: is love between equals; it lacks exclusiveness and is universal; it
is based on the experience that we are all one; and it is the love that underpins
all types of love.
2. Motherly love: as described above is unconditional love, whose function is to
create security (physically and psychically) in the child, the ability to receive and
expect unconditional love as well as the ability to separate from the mother.
3. Erotic love: is exclusive; it is the craving to fuse and unite intensely and
completely with one other person; it is an act of will, a decision and a
commitment that guarantees the continuation of love
4. Self-love: ―respect for one‘s own integrity and uniqueness, love for and
understanding of one‘s own self, cannot be separated from respect, love and
understanding for another individual. The love for my own self is inseparably
connected with the love for any other being‖ (Fromm, 1956, p. 53). He goes on to
say that selfishness or narcissism and self love are opposites; that selfish people
are not able to love anyone else because they are unable to love themselves.
5. Love of God: has as many different qualities and aspects as that of the love of
man and depending on the level of maturity a person has reached, so too will
that reflect in how he loves God. According to Fromm (1956, p. 70) the same
developmental love trajectory applies to love of God: ―from the beginning of the
love for God as the helpless attachment to a mother Goddess, through the
obedient attachment to a fatherly God, to a mature stage where God ceases to
be an outside power, where man has incorporated the principles of love and
justice into himself, where he has become one with God, and eventually, to a
point where he speaks of God only in a poetic, symbolic sense‖.
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2.4.5 Love‘s disintegration in Western Society
―Fromm (1956) was one of the first to draw a link between culture, particularly social
and economic, and love. He argued that culture has a direct influence on an individual‘s
outlook and relationship styles‖ (Le, 2005, p. 543-544). Fromm (1956, p. 72) suggests
that ―(i)f love is a capacity of the mature, productive character, it follows that the
capacity to love in an individual living in any given culture depends on the influence this
culture has on the character of the average person‖. He argues that the orientations of
‗having‘ and ‗being‘ or immature and mature love are cultivated and fostered by culture.
In immature love one sees others as a utility to satisfy the needs of the self, whereas in
mature love one sees, appreciates and cares for others as they are.
Fromm (1956, 1976) paints a bleak picture as regards mature love in contemporary
Western society. He considers that current Western culture and its counterpart
individualism with its excessive focus on self-interests, thwarts healthy, loving
interpersonal relationships. According to Fromm (1956), current Western culture is a
capitalistic society which centres on exchanging, bartering, consuming and ingesting
commodities, destinations, food, drinks, knowledge, books, movies, arts, culture,
spirituality and even people. He declares that as a result of contemporary Western
culture, most modern men and women are not capable of mature love but instead have
transformed themselves into a commodity, an investment, a ‗personality package‘. He
maintains they trade their value with others who are also trading their own ‗personality
package‘ in the hope of a profitable, favourable and fair exchange (Fromm, 1956). The
couple then function as a team under obligations and courtesy with respect to how each
should treat the other. He describes the individuals of these ‗personality package‘
couples who function as solid performing employees ―‗reasonably independent‘, co-
operative, tolerant, and at the same time ambitious and aggressive‖ (Fromm, 1956, p.
75); while although the relationship runs smoothly the two individuals essentially remain
strangers. He proposes that as a result individuals in present-day Western society are
rarely able to achieve mature love. He suggests that this is owing to various reasons:
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infantile relatedness to parental figures, lack of love between parental figures and forms
of irrational love or pseudo love.
Fromm (1956) postulates that when individuals remain attached to the parental figure
they remain in a pattern of infantile relatedness: this type of relatedness impacts
negatively on their ability to engage in mature love in their adult relationships. He calls
these neurotic disturbances of love. In an adult male the infantile attachment to
mother can manifest in two ways: a) these men seek to return to mother‘s protecting,
warm and caring arms; they seek to be loved rather than to love and although they can
be affectionate and charming their relationships remain superficial and irresponsible;
and b) these men seek to return to mother‘s engulfing, all-receiving and destructive, all-
destroying womb, since they are not separate, free and independent from mother; they
degrade all other women and they seek to love but can only do so in a superficial sexual
way. As mentioned previously these individuals may be compared to Freud‘s (1931b)
erotic libidinal type as well as Bergmann‘s (1987) primary and anaclitic love type. This
also seems to resonate with Freud‘s (1910a, 1912) first theory of love – when in
unfavourable conditions the affectionate and sexual current do not merge in the genital
stage, some neurotic men and / or women possess an inflexible precondition for loving,
which is a consequence of a fixation on the mother. One of these preconditions for
loving Freud (1910a, 1912) describes as follows: men can only love women for whom
they feel scorn and contempt, while another is ‗love of whores‘. Similarly we may draw a
likeness between Fromm‘s (1956) description of these individuals and Bergmann‘s
(1987) individuals who engage in the type of love he called loveless sexuality – these
individuals experience intense sexuality with the other without feeling love for them.
In an adult male the infantile attachment to father because of mother‘s coldness and
aloofness can manifest as the adult male seeking approval and praise from a father
figure. This male does not view his relationship with a woman as significant and he
remains distant, aloof and remote in such a relationship; his fatherly concern for the
woman masks his feelings of minor disdain for her. There appears, once again, to be
some similarity between these individuals and Freud‘s (1910a, 1912) preconditions for
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loving women for whom these individuals feel scorn and contempt as well as
Bergmann‘s (1987) loveless sexuality love type. In addition there seem to be some
parallels between these individuals described by Fromm (1956) and Freud‘s (1931b)
narcissistic libidinal type. The latter type is primarily concerned with self preservation
and independence and therefore tends to engage in loving rather than being loved.
Fromm (1956) adds that another neurotic disturbance of love occurs when parents do
not love each other yet relate with remoteness and politeness towards one another;
this will result in the female child becoming remote and withdrawing into her own
internal world of daydreams and fantasy. He asserts that she continues this way of
being and relating in her adult love relationships. The psychoanalytic understanding of
the impact on the sexual development of the child when his or her parental figures do
not love each other or are in an unhappy marriage is different from Fromm‘s (1956)
understanding. Freud (1905, 1910a) believes that when the parents do not love each
other or when they are unhappily married then the child has no incentive to identify with
the same sex parent so that he or she may remain fixated in the Oedipus complex,
which may lead to an inflexible precondition for loving, for example, some neurotic men
can only love unavailable women. Bergmann (1987) interprets this as a continued
fixation within the oedipal triangle and reflects this tendency in his triangular love type –
these individuals can only love when there is a third person; when in a triangle.
Fromm (1956) suggests that other common forms of irrational love or pseudo love are:
1) the ‗great love‘ or idolatrous love – this person has not developed a strong sense of
self and identity and projects all his goodness and power onto the idolised loved one, in
doing so losing himself in the loved one; and 2) sentimental love – this individual
cannot experience love in reality; with a real person, in a here-and-now relationship.
They can only experience love a) in fantasy through romantic movies, novels and love
songs or b) in retrospect, creating love when thinking about past relationships or by
fantasising about future love. Bergmann‘s (1987) masochistic and sadistic love – the
lover believes they are insignificant and sacrifices him / her self, needs and life for the
magnificent / idealised partner – resembles Fromm‘s (1956) idolatrous love.
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2.4.6 Practice of love
According to Fromm (1956), in order to practise the art of loving an individual needs to
practise discipline, concentration (including living fully in the here-and-now; in the
present), patience, while finally one has to be immersed in and has to make the art of
loving something of supreme importance and concern in one‘s life. He outlines the
qualities that one needs to acquire in order to develop the ability to love:
o See people and things as they are – objectively – by overcoming one‘s
narcissism and self centredness (which is formed by one‘s desires and fears)
and through the development of humility, objectivity and reason.
o Faith, in oneself, in one‘s own love, in one‘s ability to reliably produce love in
others as well as faith in the potentialities of others.
o Courage is part of faith. It is the ability to take a risk to be loved and to love; to do
so whilst not knowing if this could end in pain and disappointment. ―To love
means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the
hope that our love will produce love in the loved person‖ (Fromm, 1956, p.105).
o Activity. To be actively concerned with and responsive to the loved one; with
intensity, vitality, alertness and awareness. To be alive, present and active.
2.4.7 Criticisms of Fromm‘s theory of love
Fromm exercised a profound influence on American intellectual life in the 1940s and
1950s through his bestselling books: Escape from Freedom, The Sane Society, and
The Art of Loving. Since the 1960s, however, he has fallen out of favour amongst both
academics and intellectuals who have criticised him as a simplistic populariser and his
work as eclectic and superficial (McLaughlin, 1992). Researchers have critiqued
Fromm‘s theories contending that they are not scientific and that there is limited
empirical evidence or data supporting his theories (Davies, 2003, Viljoen, 2002c).
Burston (1991) adds that Fromm‘s fall from academic grace was the result of personal
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conflicts, Freudian factional politics, and the numerous unchallenged misconceptions
and distortions of his work.
Frie (2003) describes how, when asked, as a doctoral student at Cambridge University,
by his supervisor Anthony Giddens at their first meeting what he hoped to study, he
replied that he had a strong interest in the work of Erich Fromm. His supervisor‘s
response was: "Erich Fromm? Why would you want to work on something that woolly?"
(Frie, 2003, p. 13). The implication was that Fromm lacked sufficient academic rigour
and analytic reasoning. Frie (2003, p.13) continues: ―In any case, no serious academic
could ever hope, or would ever aspire, to sell his or her writings on such a large scale.
Best-sellers were the death knell of a true academic‖. McLaughlin (1992) echoes this in
remarking that this is frequently the fate of intellectuals who write for a popular audience
and cross disciplinary boundaries.
Although Fromm‘s work has received much criticism his theory nonetheless stimulates
thinking and seems to have considerable applied value for many people. His book still
sells well and he is very popular with the lay public all over the world. Frie (2003)
records a clinical example: A client sought treatment to gain insight and skills into
emotionally connecting with others. A friend of the client recommended The Art of
Loving to her and she reported having found the book particularly enriching and
inspiring. Frie (2003) goes so far as to say that his interest in training as a
psychoanalyst was initially sparked by Fromm.
2.4.8 Conclusion
Fromm‘s (1942, 1956) writing seems to strike a responsive chord with people and
appears to encourage the individual to aspire to the creation of a more humane society.
Fromm apparently challenges the individual to think beyond the boundaries of any one
discipline and consistently motivates human beings to evolve a newer human society,
pointing out the consequences of not doing so. He does so in the realm of love too – he
challenges one to consider the difference between loving and being loved as well as to
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learn about love, especially to learn about mature love and its components of care,
responsibility, respect, understanding and knowledge. Maddi (1989) proposes that
Fromm is a perfection theorist because of his belief that it is within an individual‘s power
to achieve perfection which will ultimately provide meaningful fulfilment. It is not only
Fromm‘s encouragement and striving for the ideal mature love that is consistent with his
being a perfection theorist; but also the exercises he outlines in his ‗Practice to love‘ that
he suggests will assist the individual in becoming capable of loving.
Fromm charts the different types of love as well as the difference between a healthy and
a neurotic development of love. He confronts and challenges the individual to explore
the lack of mature love and resulting existential crisis created by the individualistic,
Western capitalistic and consumerist way of life. He also challenges the individual to
confront neurotic love and ‗personality package‘ love. Perhaps the interdependence
theory (Clark & Mills, 1979; Kelley & Thibaut, 1978; Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001; Rusbult,
1983) and Lee‘s (1976) practical lovestyle, pragma, echo Fromm‘s view of the
‗personality package‘ – this is discussed in more detail later in the literature review. In
addition, Fromm‘s (1956) explanations of the possible threats to the development of
healthy or mature love, rest in infantile attachments to mother and or father as well as
on societal influences. Fromm‘s parental explanations seem to correspond with
attachment theory‘s relational stance: that early infant interactions with primary
caregivers set in place ―internal working models‖ which shape adult intimate and
romantic relationships (Bowlby, 1973, 1980, 1988). Perhaps it could also be said that in
this regard there is some overlap between Fromm (1956) and Freud (1905), since both
theorised that early childhood parental experiences influence one‘s capacity for
developing mature love or ―happy love‖ respectively.
In sum, Fromm‘s humanistic view of love adds another lens through which the
understanding of love has been refined and enhanced. The lens considers parental
influences and strongly emphasises how the sociocultural elements of society shape
and impact on one‘s capacity to love.
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Attachment theory is the next lens through which the study attempts to understand the
complexity of romantic love. Further pieces of the puzzle become evident. Attachment
theory, unlike Freud‘s theory, is not based on instincts and drives, it is not intrapsychic
and it is not a conflict model; and unlike Fromm‘s theory it does not hinge on societal
influences, nor on striving for the ideal, and it is not a perfection fulfilment model;
instead, attachment theory is interpersonal and a harmonious model (Smith, 2006).
Nonetheless attachment theory rehearses some of Freud‘s views in that an adult‘s love
choice is deterministic, unconscious and rooted in infantile experiences. And as
discussed above it also echoes to some extent Fromm‘s views that love is determined
by an individual‘s early experiences with the parental figures.
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2.5 Attachment theory
―…there is a strong causal relationship between an individual‘s experiences with his
parents and his later capacity to make affectionate bonds....‖
(John Bowlby)
2.5.1. Introduction
The father of attachment theory, John Bowlby, a British psychoanalyst (1907-1990),
created his initial ideas of attachment theory while working for the World Health
Organization, advising on the mental health of homeless children (Bowlby, 1969;
Bretherton, 1991, 1992; Sadock & Sadock, 2003). He utilised concepts from many
disciplines: ethnology, cybernetics, psychoanalysis, evolutionary psychology,
information processing and developmental psychology. Attachment theory grew out of
John Bowlby (1969, 1973, 1980) and Mary Ainsworth‘s (Ainsworth et al., 1978)
groundbreaking work regarding the ways in which infants form bonds with their primary
caregivers.
Bowlby focused on the attachment relationship with the mother and on how that
relationship meets the needs of the infant for continuity, warmth, protection, nurturance,
satisfaction and support (Bowlby, 1969, 1973, 1980). He (1969, 1973) maintained that
healthy development is dependent on normal attachment in infancy. Thus attachment
theory roots the quality of adult interactions and relationships in the quality of the infant–
caregiver attachment behaviour (Ainsworth et al., 1978; Bowlby, 1969, 1973, 1980,
1988). ―Attachment behaviour is held to characterise human beings from the cradle to
the grave‖ (Bowlby, 1979, p. 129). Inherent in this statement is the assumption that the
attachment behaviour developed as an infant, in relation to the individual‘s primary
caregiver, will be consistent with the attachment behaviour displayed as an adult in
relation to his / her significant adult relationships (Zeifman & Hazan, 1997). Accordingly,
prior to exploring adult attachment, it is first necessary to investigate infant attachment.
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2.5.2. Infant Attachment
The degree to which a child can rely on the caregiver to be a source of consistent
security is crucial to the quality of a child‘s attachment relationship. The caregiver‘s
ability to accurately reflect back and respond to the infant‘s emotional state is
associated with secure attachment (Birnbaum, 2003). An infant‘s attachment to his or
her primary caregiver develops gradually during the former‘s first years of life (Zeifman
& Hazan, 1997). Ainsworth and her colleagues advocate four phases of development as
regards child-caregiver attachment (Ainsworth et al., 1978, p. 23 - 28; Zeifman & Hazan,
1997, p. 183):
2.5.2.1. Phases of infant attachment
Phase 1: Pre-attachment phase – the newly born infant seeks and accepts comfort
indiscriminately.
Phase 2: Attachment-in-the-making – the 3-4 month old infant preferentially
directs signals towards familiar adults, particularly the primary caregiver.
Phase 3: Clear-cut-attachment – the 6-7 month old infant behaves toward
strangers with increased caution; the infant fears and actively
resists/protests separations from primary caregivers.
Phase 4: Goal-corrected partnership – increased cognitive and representational
capacities marked by a decreased interest in the infant‘s primary
caregivers, and increased interest in exploratory activities and peer
contact, make separations from the caregiver more tolerable.
2.5.2.2. Stages of responses to separation
Bowlby observed that infants experience intense and enduring distress if separated
from their primary caregivers for a long period of time, for example, during
hospitalisation (Bowlby, 1969, 1973, 1980). An infant or child‘s reaction to such
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separation or loss has been found to be universal, predictable and characterised by
three sequential stages (Bowlby, 1969; Zeifman & Hazan, 1997):
Stage 1: Protest – the infant / child obsessively searches for the absent caregiver,
displays disrupted sleeping and eating, cries inconsolably and resists
others‘ offers of comfort.
Stage 2: Despair – the infant / child goes through a period of passivity, lethargy
and depressed mood.
Stage 3: Detachment – on reunion with the primary caregiver the infant / child
ignores and avoids contact with the caregiver.
2.5.2.3. Components of attachment behaviour
Attachment behaviour is ―any form of behaviour that results in a person attaining or
retaining proximity to some other differentiated and preferred individual usually
conceived as stronger and/or wiser‖ (Bowlby, 1973, p. 292). Bowlby (1973) suggests
that attachment behaviour can be understood as evolutionary adaptiveness which
functions to protect infants from danger by keeping them close to the caregiver. The
infant turns to the attachment figure as a safe haven, for support, protection,
reassurance and comfort. In the absence of danger the child can explore the
environment while using the attachment figure as a secure base (Bowlby, 1988; Weiss,
1991). The third defining and distinguishing feature of attachment relationships is
proximity seeking and maintenance. The fourth and final defining and distinguishing
feature of attachment relationships occurs when the child is distressed and resists
separations, manifesting a separation protest (Shaver & Hazan, 1993; Weiss, 1991;
Zeifman & Hazan, 1997).
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2.5.2.4. Styles of infant attachment
Mary Ainsworth (Ainsworth et al., 1978) attributes the quality of the attachment to the
attachment figure‘s responsiveness as a safe haven and their reliability as a secure
base. She adds that this in turn is responsible for setting the threshold of the attachment
system‘s activation – secure or insecure (Shaver & Hazan, 1993). Being loved,
accepted, cared for and consistently welcomed cultivates feelings of security which
consequently result in secure attachment (Chisholm, 1995). The feeling of security
gives the child the confidence to explore his or her physical and social worlds. This
exploration functions to increase psychological distance from the caregiver. When the
optimum level of psychological distance is reached the child becomes anxious which
drives him / her to seek physical proximity and symbiotic closeness with the caregiver. A
positive response from the consistently available caregiver yields feelings of safety and
security in the child. This motivates the child toward further exploration and the
sequence of events is repeated. Chisholm (1995) considers that when the sequence of
events is repeated often enough during development, the child develops a secure
attachment and is said to hold positive expectations about self and others. These
children are regarded as possessing positive working models of self and other.
When the sequence of events in developing secure attachments is not followed and
frequently disrupted, the child tends to experience feelings of anger, fear or grief and is
left feeling insecure because he or she cannot depend and rely on his caregivers and
on his world. These children develop an insecure attachment, with negative
expectations about self and others (Chisholm, 1995). Caregivers whose infants are
insecurely attached were shown to be inconsistent, less attentive, less responsive, less
in tune with and less engaged with their infants (Wenar & Kerig, 2000).
The 20 minute ‗Strange Situation‘ was developed by Ainsworth and her associates to
assess the individual differences in infants‘ security and quality of attachment by
observing the latters‘ reaction when separated from their caregiver. Their findings from
two naturalistic studies clarified three distinct patterns of attachment, one secure and
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two insecure: avoidant attachment style and anxious-ambivalent attachment style
(Ainsworth et al., 1978).
1) Infants who were distressed by separation but showed little anxiety and stoically
endured the separation were securely attached. These infants seem to trust that the
caregiver was reachable and accessible to them; that the caregiver would come back
and provide uninterrupted care. On the caregiver‘s return these infants are reported to
be happy and they seek close proximity to and comfort from the caregiver.
Ainsworth describes the primary caretaker of securely attached infants as responding
sensitively and consistently to the infants‘ signals and communications (Ainsworth et al.,
1978; Wenar & Kerig, 2000). As May (2005) adds, not only are the caregivers of the
securely attached infants more responsive and affectionate but they also provide more
stimulation. These caregivers accept and encourage the child‘s individual capabilities
and understand the emotional and psychological needs of the latter (May 2005).
Ainsworth avers that securely attached infants show more positive affect and less fear.
These infants also enjoy an advantage in various aspects of social, emotional and
cognitive development (Ainsworth et al., 1978; Peluso, Peluso, White & Kern, 2004).
According to Ainsworth, by the age of 24 months, 66% of the population is securely
attached (Ainsworth et al., 1978). In more recent studies, however, Wenar and Kerig
(2000) postulate that only 55% of the normative population displays a secure
attachment.
2) Infants who seemed unperturbed by separation from their primary caregiver were
found to be avoidantly attached. These infants presented with a low need for physical
contact from the caregiver while, on reunion, they seem remote, aloof and detached
(Ainsworth et al., 1978; Chisholm, 1995). It has been postulated that these infants, like
all others, have a desire to be close to their caregiver but learn to curb this need and
use disconnection or avoidance as a defence (Bowlby, 1980; Peluso et al., 2004).
Wallin (2007) suggests that in a sense these children seem to have given up because
their previous overtures for comfort and care have been rebuffed. Researchers have
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found that even though avoidantly attached children seem to be unaffected by their
caregiver‘s departure, they, like their securely attached counterparts, experience
elevated heart rates during separations, while post experiment their cortisol levels are
higher than those of their securely attached counterparts (Spangler & Grossmann,
1993; Sroufe & Walters, 1977).
Researchers describe primary caregivers of anxious/avoidantly attached infants as
emotionally distant, rejecting, rigid, aversive to physical contact and compulsive. In
addition these caregivers were more likely to exhibit anger and irritability more
frequently towards their infants (Ainsworth et al. 1978; Peluso et al., 2004; Wallin,
2007). Twenty percent of the population is anxious/avoidantly attached, according to
Ainsworth (Ainsworth et al., 1978). In more recent studies Wenar and Kerig (2000)
confirm that 20% of the normative population displays this attachment pattern.
3) Infants who are preoccupied with their caregivers and who become immediately and
intensely agitated and distressed when separated from their primary caregiver are
anxious/ambivalently attached (Ainsworth et al., 1978; Wallin, 2007). On the
caregiver‘s return these infants behave ambivalently: that is, they display anger as well
as a desire to be close to the caregiver (Ainsworth et al., 1978). The internal conflict
within the infant regarding the perceived physical and emotional availability of the
primary caregiver is reflected in this attachment response (Peluso et al., 2004).
Researchers describe primary caregivers of anxious/ambivalently attached infants as
unpredictable, occasionally available, subtly discouraging of infant autonomy; although
they are not physically or verbally rejecting, like the parents of the avoidantly attached
infant, they are insensitively responsive to their infant‘s signals for comfort (Wallin,
2007; Wenar & Kerig, 2000). Fourteen percent of the population is anxious/ambivalently
attached, according to Ainsworth (Ainsworth et al., 1978). More recent studies suggest
that only 10% of the normative population displays this attachment pattern (Wenar &
Kerig, 2000).
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4) Recently some attachment theorists have postulated that there is a fourth attachment
classification: disorganised-disorientated attachment (Main, 1995; Peluso et al.,
2004). These infants exhibited an inconsistent, disorganised or disorientated attachment
response to separation from their primary caregiver (Bartholomew et al., 2001; Peluso
et al., 2004). In the presence of their caregiver, these infants seem to be dazed,
aimless, fearful and ambivalent (Wenar & Kerig, 2000). Wallin (2007) asserts that the
child‘s interaction with a caregiver who is frightening, frightened and/or dissociated, a
source of danger and the supposed safe haven does not feel safe, instead it is
confusing and overwhelming for the child.
Researchers describe primary caregivers of disorganised-disorientated infants as
inconsistent and as tending to use confusing cues during caregiving (Wenar & Kerig,
2000). These children stem from families that are burdened with for example poverty,
substance abuse, psychiatric illness (Wallin, 2007). Wenar and Kerig (2000) argue that
15% of the normative population displays this attachment pattern.
Fox (1995) suggests that individual differences in temperament may account for a
significant portion of the variance in ‗Strange Situation‘ and thus in attachment style,
therefore implying that attachment style is determined by the interaction between: 1) the
infant‘s temperament, 2) the caregiver‘s behaviour towards the infant, and 3) the
relationship that develops between the infant and the primary caregiver. According to
Wallin (2007), Ainsworth et al. (1978) discovered that it is the quality of the
communication between the infant mother dyad, rather than genetics or temperament,
that is the most important predictor of attachment style. Schore (2002) and Siegel
(1999), prominent researchers who have undertaken work linking neuroscience and
psychotherapy, support Ainsworth et al.‘s (1978) claim. Both researchers suggest that
healthy neural brain development and healthy psychological development hinges on the
attuned responsiveness of the caregiver and is shaped by positive interpersonal
experiences. They consider that maternal responsiveness and attunement has a
profound impact on the developing brain and that through patterns of neuronal firing
synaptic connections are established. In other words the infant‘s experience of a
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mother‘s responsiveness or lack thereof becomes neurologically mapped, which
determines the nature of the brain‘s structure and functioning. Siegel (1999, p. 26)
clarifies this process by observing: ―neurons that fire together wire together‖.
Matsumoto and Juang (2004) point out that although in the United States a secure
attachment is seen as the ideal pattern of attachment, in other cultures research shows
that this may not be the case. They cite the example of how German parents perceive
‗securely‘ attached children as ‗spoilt‘ and instead regard avoidant attachment as the
ideal because they prize and encourage early independence. Van IJzendoorn and Sagi
(1999) confirm, in a meta-analysis of 14 attachment studies cross-culturally (Africa,
China, Israel and Japan), that although attachment between infants and their primary
caregivers is a universal phenomenon, in different cultures there are specific attachment
behaviours that are indicative of secure or insecure attachment.
(Bowlby, 1973, 1980, 1988) explains that infant attachment styles are carried from
infancy into and throughout adulthood via internal working models. These are discussed
in greater detail in the following section.
2.5.2.5. Internal working models
Based on early experiences and primary attachment relationships, internal working
models about the self, close others and the self in relation to others are schematised by
the infant (Bowlby, 1973, 1980, 1988). For Chisholm (1995) attachment theory holds
that most children have developed their individual internal working models by the age of
seven. These models are internalised in the shape of mental images, perceptual biases,
expectations of relationships and unconscious organised beliefs (Chisholm, 1995;
Zeifman & Hazan, 1997).
An individual‘s sense of worthiness of love and care and the expectations of the
availability and responsiveness of others, are informed by this unconscious framework
or schema which shapes social perception, behaviour and interpretation of subsequent
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interactions. As a result, this framework exerts a powerful influence on future significant
relationships across the individual‘s life span (Ainsworth et al., 1978; Bowlby, 1969,
1973; Peluso et al., 2004; Wallin, 2007; Zeifman & Hazan, 1997). Although some argue
that a change in an individual‘s working model is possible and even predominant
(Lewis, Feiring & Rosenthal, 2000; Weinfeld, Sroufe & Egeland, 2000), others suggest
that it is only possible for some people to alter under certain circumstances, for
example, significant stressful life events or changes in life circumstances (Hamilton,
2000; Waters, Merrick, Treboux, Crowell & Albersheim, 2000); still others question
whether changes are sustainable long-term and if they represent a lasting
reorganisation of attachment patterns and behaviours (Davila & Cobb, 2004); and
finally, yet others suggest that change is improbable (Bartholomew et al., 2001; Shaver
& Hazan, 1993).
The internal working models and consequent expectations that become entrenched in
infancy remain relatively unchanged into adulthood, especially when driven by largely
automatic cognitive processes that tend to be self fulfilling (Shaver & Hazan, 1993). The
development of secure adult attachment relationships is facilitated by a secure internal
working model. On the other hand, insecure models will tend to direct the person to
recreate insecure adult attachment relationships (Bartholomew et al., 2001).
―Attachment patterns are seen to reflect complex patterns of social interaction,
emotional regulating and cognitive processing that emerge over the course of
development and tend to become self-perpetuating through adulthood‖ (Bartholomew et
al., 2001, p. 206).
Fonagy and his colleagues suggest that attachment patterns and internal working
models are reflected in one‘s capacity for mentalisation, which in turn is linked with the
capacity for reflective function (Fonagy, 1998; Fonagy, Steele & Steele, 1991; Fonagy &
Target, 2006). Mentalisation is the capacity to make one‘s own and others behaviour
understandable and meaningful by not only observing behaviour but also having insight
into the underlying mental states of the beliefs, desires, thoughts and feelings that
motivate the behaviour. In Fonagy‘s (1998) view the capacity to mentalise is determined
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by the caregiver‘s capacity to mentalise and be attuned to the infant‘s internal world and
subjective mental state; the child then is able to internalise this representation to form a
core psychological self. In other words, a secure child is able to learn how to deal with
negative feelings because his / her mother is able to handle her own negative feelings
whereas the insecure mother is not able to handle her own negative feelings and is
either dismissive or overreacts, thus creating distorted attachment patterns in her child
(Gabbard, 2005; Wallin, 2007). Schore (2002) and Siegel (1999) theorise that an
individual‘s attachment, the internal working model and the capacity for mentalisation
are not only based on relational connection but also on neural connections. In other
words, the way in which an individual attaches impacts on the physical structure of the
brain in an attachment matrix; in order to change that individual‘s attachment style /
matrix, internal working model, capacity for mentalisation and capacity for reflective
function new neural connections need to be established.
2.5.3. Adult Attachment
An individual‘s attachment system is a fundamental part of his / her behaviour from
‗cradle to grave‘ (Bowlby, 1979). This implies that the attachment system which one
forms with one‘s primary caregiver operates throughout one‘s life. Bowlby (1980, p. 41)
declares that the way ―an individual‘s attachment behaviour becomes organised within
his personality….[determines] the pattern of affectional bonds he makes during his life‖.
Fox (1995) challenges this by arguing that there is no stability of attachment style
across age and that early-formed working models of attachments may alter depending
on environmental changes (i.e. positively or negatively). Van IJzendoorn (1995) seems
to argue for a middle ground: ―it has been empirically shown that, under certain
conditions, attachment patterns remain stable or at least predictable, even across the
first 18 years of life‖ (p. 1). This is supported by Fraley (2002) who asserts that internal
working models developed during infancy are reasonably stable. The relationship
between infant attachment styles and consequent adult attachment styles was
investigated by Hazan and Shaver (1987). They found evidence of continuity of
attachment style over an individual‘s life. In later research, according to Shaver and
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Hazan (1993) a number of longitudinal studies agree that approximately 80 percent
stability exists in attachment style and mental models over several years in
economically stable samples. This is confirmed by Main (1995) in a longitudinal study
from infancy to 19 years old where participants exposed to trauma were removed from
the sample.
2.5.3.1. Infant versus adult attachment
Essentially the same question is asked by both the infant and the adult (Hazan &
Shaver, 1994). The infant asks, ―Can I depend on my caregiver to be responsive to my
needs consistently?‖ while the adult asks: ―Can I trust my partner to be available and
responsive to my needs?‖. Both dyads need assurance and attention in similar ways.
The irreplaceable quality of the infant and caregiver relationship is experienced in the
same way by the two partners in a romantic partnership.
In adulthood, the attachment system functions to maintain romantic
partnerships much as, earlier in life, it maintained ties to caretakers.
Just like infants, adults are primed to select one special figure, and to
develop enduring emotional ties to that person. Adults who have fallen
in love and entered a romantic relationship will not easily leave their
partners, even if their relationships are less than ideal (Morgan &
Shaver, 1999, p. 111).
Hazan and Shaver (1987) reported on similarities between childhood and adult
attachment dynamics. An attachment bond is characterised by: a desire for close
proximity to the attachment figure, a sense of security derived from contact with the said
figure and distress or protest when threatened with loss or separation from this figure
(Weiss, 1982). Long-term sexual or romantic partners typically serve as primary
attachment figures for one another. Doherty and Feeney (2004) confirmed the
similarities between adult and childhood attachment relationships in a large scale study
(n = 812). They found the four functions served by attached committed romantic
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relationships were: proximity seeking, a safe haven, separation protest and a
secure base. Weiss (1982) also noted fundamental differences between adult and
childhood attachment relationships. The primary caregiver is the attachment figure, and
childhood attachments are complementary. In contrast, in adult attachment the
attachment figure is a peer and often a sexual partner, and adult attachments are
reciprocal (Berscheid, 1988; Shaver & Hazan, 1993; Shaver, Hazan & Bradshaw,
1988).
According to Shaver and Hazan (1993), a prototypical adult attachment is characterised
by the integration of three behavioural systems: attachment, caregiving and sexual
mating. Shaver and Hazan (1988) maintain that because an individual‘s attachment
style is developed in childhood, it could influence the development of caregiving and
sexual mating behaviours. They specify in Table 2.1 how this could be manifested:
Table 2.1 Attachment style, caregiving and sexual mating
Attachment Style Caregiving Sexual mating
Secure Comfortably gives and receives
care.
Strives for mutual intimacy and
pleasure.
Avoidant Unable or unwilling to give or
receive care.
Maintains emotional distance,
may be promiscuous.
Anxious /
Ambivalent
Gives care in self sacrificing,
compulsive way. Dissatisfied with
received care.
Attempts to satisfy needs for
security and love through sexual
contact.
Derived from Shaver and Hazan (1988).
2.5.3.2. Phases of adult attachment
There are compelling similarities between the four phases of infant attachment
(discussed previously) and the four phases of adult romantic attachment (Zeifman &
Hazan, 1997):
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Phase 1: Pre-attachment phase – attraction and flirting.
Phase 2: Attachment-in-the-making – falling in love.
Phase 3: Clear-cut-attachment – loving.
Phase 4: Goal-corrected partnership – life as usual.
2.5.3.3. Process of adult attachment
It is argued in attachment theory that close proximity and close physical contact is part
of the repertoire that humans use to form attachment. This is evident in the infant-
mother dyad where they spend considerable time being physically connected and in
mutual gazing. Adult attachment theory proposes that the same process is used by
adults to foster enduring emotional bonds between adults. Romantic infatuation seems
to facilitate this process by eliciting a similar desire for close physical proximity. As
mentioned previously the infant goes through phases of attachment over time: 1) Pre-
attachment phase; 2) Attachment-in-the-making; 3) Clear-cut attachment; and 4) Goal-
corrected partnership. Zeifman and Hazan (1997) propose that adults also undergo a
process of attachment formation that in essence emulates the process of infant
attachment formation. They write that the first two phases of attachment formation
represent non-attachment while the second two constitute attachment. They specify
how this process of adult attachment formation takes place by utilising various markers
across the four phases, for example, how the individual‘s physical contact, eye contact
and voice quality change over the four progressive attachment processes. Below, in
Table 2.2, is the model of adult attachment formation derived from Zeifman and Hazan
(1997).
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Table 2.2 A process model of adult attachment formation
Phase Non-attached Attached
Pre-attachment Attachment-in-
the-making
Clear-cut
attachment
Goal-corrected
partnership
Attachment
component*
Proximity
seeking
Safe haven Separation
distress
Secure base
Physical
contact
Incidental /
―accidental‖
Frequent,
prolonged,
arousing,
‗parental‘
Frequent, less
prolonged,
comforting
Less frequent,
deliberate,
context-specific
Eye contact ―Stolen‖
glances,
intermittent
gazing
Frequent,
protracted
mutual gazing
Frequent, less
protracted
mutual gazing
Less frequent,
context-specific
mutual gazing
Conversational
content
Emotionally
neutral,
superficial, self
enhancing
Care-eliciting,
emotional
disclosure
Less emotional
care-eliciting,
more mundane
Predominantly
mundane
Voice quality Animated,
higher pitched,
emotionally
aroused
Hushed tones,
whispers,
soothing
Context-specific
soothing, more
normal tones
and pitch
Predominantly
normal
Eating/sleeping Normal Decreased Near-normal Normal
Mental
representation
of other
Generalised
―template,
expectations‖
Under
construction
Beginning to
stabilise
Well-established,
easy conjured-up
Neurochemistry
/ hormones
Pheromonal
cues, PEA
PEA, oxytocin PEA, oxytocin,
opioids
Oxytocin, opioids
Reactions to
termination
None, minor
disappointment
Lethargy, mild
depression
Anxiety,
disruption of
activities
Extreme anxiety,
pervasive
physical and
psychological
disorganisation
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*Entries in this row represent the component of attachment that is added during each phase,
such as all four components are present by the final phase.
Derived from Zeifman and Hazan (1997).
Morgan and Shaver (1999) suggest that falling in love is experienced by most people as
an ―automatic and largely uncontrollable process‖ and, once in love, individuals will
adopt an attachment system that they describe as being non rational and as having an
evolutionary basis designed to maintain social ties. They explain that in Western
cultures commitment to a relationship occurs after a couple start to feel attachment-
related feelings for one another.
2.5.3.4. Attachment and romantic love
Hazan and Shaver (1987) were the first to link Bowlby‘s (1973) and Ainsworth‘s (1978),
attachment-theory approach to romantic relationships. They conducted a ―Love Quiz‖ on
undergraduates, 620 men and 108 women, via a local newspaper. The undergraduates
were required to 1) choose one of the three paragraphs that best described their
feelings in close relationships; 2) respond to 12 questions concerning their most
important love relationship and 3) respond to questions concerning their view on
romantic love and aspects of their childhood (Feeney, Noller & Roberts, 2000; Hazan &
Shaver, 1987). Hazan and Shaver‘s (1987) research not only established three parallel
relationship styles of adult romantic attachment when compared to childhood
attachment, but the percentage breakdown of the three adult attachment styles: secure
(56%), anxious-avoidant (23-25%) and anxious-ambivalent (19-20%), also
corresponded to those in childhood attachment. Therefore, these findings reinforced the
premise that attachment styles remain constant over the individual‘s life span.
A secure relationship style is characterised by the ability to cultivate and develop
satisfying friendships and relationships with ease. These individuals tend to enjoy high
levels of self esteem and are generally positive and self assured in their interactions
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with others (Feeney & Noller, 1990). These secure adults believe in lasting and
enduring genuine love, partners enjoy and are comfortable with being close to one
another and they are confident that their partner will be reliable and responsive (Gross,
2003). According to Chisholm (1995), they describe their romantic relationships as
trusting and close, with relatively little to no jealously and no fear of intimacy. A
longitudinal study involving 144 dating couples found that secure attachment styles
were associated with interdependence, commitment, trust, and satisfaction in a
romantic relationship (Simpson, 1990). These adults are characterised by being able,
not only to give and receive care comfortably and appropriately, but also to respond to
cues from their partner as to when and how care should be given (Shaver & Hazan,
1988; Simpson, Rholes & Nelligan, 1992). Secure adults experienced longer, on
average ten years, and more committed romantic relationships when compared to
insecure adults (Hazan & Shaver, 1987).
Those exhibiting an insecure attachment style, describe their romantic relationships
as being characterised by extreme sexual attraction, fear of intimacy, jealousy,
obsession and emotional peaks and valleys (Chisholm, 1995). The adult who has an
avoidant relationship style is doubtful about the existence of lasting and enduring
romantic love, finds it difficult to trust others, is suspicious of the motives of others, is
afraid of making commitments and is afraid of depending on others because they
anticipate being disappointed, being abandoned or being separated (Gross, 2003,
Simpson, 1990). These adults feel uncomfortable with closeness, avoid intimacy, expect
their partners to be unresponsive to their needs and, when stressed or anxious, retreat
from seeking or giving support (Feeney & Noller, 1990; Gross, 2003). According to
Shaver and Hazan (1988), this reluctance to provide or receive support and care may
result in a casual and or promiscuous approach to sex. Feeney, Noller & Patty (1993)
found empirical support for this – the avoidantly attached adult endorses a more casual
approach to sex than other attachment styles. Simpson (1990) reports that avoidant
men experienced considerably less anguish after the break-up of a romantic
relationship than others. Perhaps this may be the case because, by having multiple
partners and spreading their investment, they defend themselves against emotional
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reliance on one partner, thereby protecting themselves from being hurt by possible
partner abandonment. The adult who has an ambivalent relationship style falls in love
easily and often, but seldom finds what he or she would describe as true love; they may
become overly dependent on and demanding of their partners and friends; they have a
strong desire for commitment; they display high levels of neediness and require
constant reassurance and attention (Feeney & Noller, 1990; Hazan & Shaver, 1987;
Gross, 2003). According to Shaver and Hazan (1988), multiple partners often satisfy the
ambivalently attached adult‘s intense security and intimacy needs as well as assist them
to defend against the abandonment they so fear. Bogaert and Sadava (2002) found
empirical support for this. They reported on a large scale American study of community
men and women, ages 19 to 35 years old, in which anxiously attached women showed
high levels of infidelity. Simpson (1990) established, in a longitudinal study involving 144
dating couples, that anxious or avoidant attachment styles were associated with less
interdependence, commitment, trust, and satisfaction as well as less frequent positive
emotions and more frequent negative emotions in the relationship than secure
attachment styles. Romantic relationships of insecure ambivalent adults lasted
approximately five years while those of insecure avoidant adults lasted six years (Hazan
& Shaver, 1987).
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Table 2.3 Summary of Hazan and Shaver‟s (1987) study
Secure Avoidant Anxious-Ambivalent
Major themes of
self-report
description
Comfort with intimacy
and dependence;
lack of anxiety about
relationships
Discomfort with
closeness; difficulty
in depending on
others
Desire for extreme
closeness; anxieties
about abandonment
and lack of love
Attachment
history
Relationship with and
between parents
described as warm
Mothers described as
cold and rejecting
Fathers described as
unfair
Working models Easy to know; few
self-doubts; others
well-intentioned; love
seen as lasting
Love seen rarely as
lasting; love loses its
intensity
Self-doubts;
misunderstood; real
love seen as rare,
others less willing to
commit
Love experiences Happiness, trust,
friendship
Fear of intimacy, low
acceptance of
partners
Preoccupation; strong
sexual attraction;
emotional volatility
Derived from Feeney et al. (2000).
Feeney et al. (2000) claim that although Hazan and Shaver‘s (1987) original measure
was intuitively appealing, it has been criticised as evidencing limited reliability. Fox
(1995) argues that adults‘ recall of their childhood is not necessarily accurate because it
is influenced by multiple factors that impact on the report‘s description and coherence.
Personal memories are reconstructed according to a person‘s current psychological
state and their personal theories and beliefs about developmental processes, which
points to the possibility of questionable reliability (Fox, 1995; Pervin & John, 1997).
Britton and Fuendeling (2005) conducted fairly recent research on independent and
conjoint contributions concerning recollections of parental bonds and dimensions of
romantic attachments; they reported finding partial support. Allen, Stein, Fonagy, Fultz
and Target (2005) declare that although there have been substantial advances in self-
report assessments, there is room for further improvement.
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Nevertheless Hazan and Shaver‘s work inspired many researchers to replicate and
expand on their studies, and these researchers all report basically similar findings with
regard to the secure/insecure adult romantic attachment style differences in beliefs,
values and expectations about love (Collins & Read, 1990; Feeney & Noller, 1990;
Kirkpatrick & Hazan, 1994; Shaver & Hazan, 1993).
Building on previous attachment work, Bartholomew (1990) conceptualised and
proposed the potential range of adult attachment types into four prototypical attachment
patterns, namely: 1) secure, 2) preoccupied, 3) fearful and 4) dismissing. She used the
junction of two underlying dimensions: self-model and other-model. The self-model
dimension is characterised by 1) positive self-model = worthy, 2) and negative self-
model = unworthy). The other-model dimension is characterised by an individual‘s
hypothetical others: 1) positive other-model = responsive, and 2) negative other-model
= unresponsive. The four prototypical attachment patterns are derived from the
combination of the self- and other-models: 1) a positive self-model and a positive other-
model = a secure attachment pattern; 2) a negative self-model and a positive other-
model = a preoccupied attachment pattern; a negative self-model and a negative other-
model = a fearful attachment pattern; and 4) a positive self-model and a negative other-
model = a dismissing attachment pattern. Below, Bartholomew‘s (1990)
conceptualisation of four-category model of adult attachment is presented in Figure 2.1:
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Figure 2.1 Two-dimensional, four-category model of adult attachment
Derived and adapted from Bartholomew (1990); Bartholomew et al. (2001); Brehm et al.
(2002); Brennan, Clark and Shaver (1998); Griffin and Bartholomew (1994b).
Bartholomew (1990) explains and describes the four adult attachments as:
1) Individuals who are securely attached are comfortable with intimacy and
independence in close relationships. They are confident and are able to resolve conflict
constructively. They possess an ability to form and maintain close intimate bonds with
others without losing a sense of self and have an internalised sense of self worth
(Bartholomew et al., 2001; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b). Chappell and Davis (1998)
use 282 heterosexual American students to establish if a hypothetical partner‘s
attachment style would be influential in partner choice. They found that secure partners
elicited less negative and more positive responses when compared to preoccupied,
dismissive or fearful partners. Secure partners were followed by preoccupied partners
Positive Self
model
Negative Other model
Negative Self
model
Positive Other model
SECURE
FEARFUL DISMISSING
PREOCCUPIED
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who elicited more positive responses than dismissive or fearful partners. Chappell and
Davis (1998) also reported that all respondents preferred a secure romantic partner to
any other.
2) Individuals who operate in terms of a preoccupied attachment style have a deep-
seated sense of unworthiness. They seek validation of their precarious self-worth
through extreme closeness and over investment in personal relationships, which leaves
them susceptible to acute anguish when their intimacy needs are not met (Bartholomew
et al., 2001; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b). They are dependent, preoccupied and
focused on actively seeking to have their attachment needs fulfilled: as a result their
interpersonal style can be experienced by the other as overly needy, intrusive and
demanding (Bartholomew et al., 2001).
3) Individuals with a dismissing attachment style shun and avoid intimacy with others
because of pessimistic expectations. They stress the importance of independence and
are compulsively self-reliant. They downplay, devalue and deny the importance of
relationships and the impact of negative attachment experiences in order to defensively
refute the value of close relationships. This strategy allows them to maintain a high
sense of self-worth (Bartholomew et al., 2001; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b). Feeney
(2004) reported findings that confirmed the dismissing attachment style: adults with
such an attachment style were found to be associated with weaker attachment to
romantic partners. Feeney (2004) also reported, as expected, that these individuals
were independent and tended to focus on work-related achievements rather than
emotional factors.
4) Individuals who display a fearful attachment style experience high attachment
anxiety and are highly dependent on others for the validation of their low self-worth
(Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b). Paradoxically, to circumvent the pain of potential or
expected loss or rejection, they avoid intimacy and closeness (Bartholomew et al.,
2001; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b). As a result they struggle to make their needs
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known within the relationship and their interpersonal style is one of passivity
(Bartholomew et al., 2001).
Responses to the four-category model of adult attachment show strong gender
differences. Brennan, Shaver and Tobey (1991) found that more males than females
were dismissing avoidants and more females than males were fearful avoidants.
Bartholomew and Horowitz (1991) found that more men were more likely to endorse a
dismissing attachment pattern, while women were more likely to endorse a preoccupied
attachment pattern. According to Hazan and Shaver (1994) gender specific parental
sex-role socialisation practices may account for these gender differences.
Bartholomew‘s (1990) two dimensional, four-category adult attachment model can be
integrated with other models of adult romantic attachment (Griffin & Bartholomew,
1994a, 1994b) and has received much subsequent empirical support (Brennan et al.,
1998; Carver, 1997; Feeney, 1999). This research has, however, been predominantly
undertaken in Western cultures and it is therefore unclear whether this attachment is
universal. Having said this, some researchers have indeed reported that the key
developmental processes of attachment are universal (Van IJzendoorn & Sagi, 1999).
In a collaborative research study across 62 cultural regions using over 17 800
participants, Schmitt et al. (2004) found some evidence for the validity for the Model for
Self and Other dimensions within most cultures. However, the four adult romantic
attachment types did not emerge in precisely the same way across all 62 cultural
regions. As expected, Schmitt et al. (2004) established that in 79% of the cultural
regions secure attachment was the highest rated form of romantic adult attachment.
When one compares Hazan and Shaver‘s (1987) original three adult attachment styles
with Bartholomew‘s (1990) four attachment patterns, it is apparent that they concur fairly
closely: secure with secure, ambivalent with preoccupied and avoidant with dismissing.
Consequent research supports Bartholomew‘s (1990) four prototype groups (Brennan et
al., 1998; Feeney & Noller, 1996; Feeney, Noller & Hanrahan, 1994; Griffin &
Bartholomew, 1994b). Research yields the finding that few individuals show a purely
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prototypical attachment pattern. Bartholomew et al. (2001) take a more expanded view
on attachment and assert that most individuals display a complex attachment profile
across attachment patterns, with individuals employing primary, secondary and even
tertiary attachment strategies. Others suggest that individual differences in adult
attachment should not be conceptualised as types or groups but rather should be
understood in terms of dimensions (Fraley & Waller, 1998).
Attachment theory has not only been utilised extensively in research; it has also been
applied in individual psychotherapy (Wallin, 2007) as well as in couples counselling
(Hendrix, 1995). Of particular importance to this study is Hendrix‘s (1995) application.
Hendrix (1995) developed his contemporary imago relationship theory and intervention
by incorporating a number of theories. He draws heavily on Freud‘s theory of refinding
the original love object, on attachment theory and on six of Erikson‘s (1968) eight
psychosexual stages. Hendrix (1995), like Freud (1905), postulates that partner
selection is unconscious and based on the image or imago of an individual‘s parents.
He contends that individuals choose partners that are similar to their parents in hope of
healing the original wounding inflicted by the parents, and suggests that individuals
select mates who carry wounds from the same developmental stage that they do, but
who have adapted that wounding using the opposite coping strategy. Hendrix (1995)
utilises the attachment styles as a framework to explain maladaptive behaviours that
individuals adopt in intimate relationships: 1) maximising, which he likens to a
preoccupied attachment style and 2) minimising, which he likens to an avoidant /
dismissing attachment style. These maladaptive behaviours, according to Hendrix
(1995), are adopted in response to woundings and developmental arrests which
individuals acquired during their six developmental / psychosocial stages: attachment,
exploration, identity, competence, concern and intimacy. Table 2.4 summarises
Hendrix‘s (1995) developmental stages and the two opposing maladaptive strategies
that are adopted. Hendrix (1995) explains that if an individual‘s primary wounding is at
the attachment psychosocial stage and the person has adopted the maladaptive pattern
of the minimiser – which is ‗The avoider‘ at this psychosocial stage – this person will
select a partner who is a maximiser, which is ‗The clinger‘ at this psychosocial stage.
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Table 2.4 Hendrix‟s psychosocial stages and maladaptive strategies
Psychosocial stage Minimiser (rigid boundaries) Maximiser (diffused boundaries)
Attachment The avoider The clinger
Exploration The isolator The pursuer
Identity The controller The diffuser
Competence The competitor The compromiser
Concern The loner The caretaker
Intimacy The rebel The conformist
Derived and adapted from Hendrix (1995).
Although Hendrix‘s (1995) theory and imago relationship therapy has not, as yet,
yielded empirical results it, nonetheless, has proven to be a popular and seemingly
useful relationship intervention.
Even though attachment theory has generated clinical applications as well as a
considerable amount of research that has increased the understanding of the central
tenets of the theory, it has also attracted a number of criticisms.
2.5.4. Criticisms of attachment theory
Takahashi (2005) challenges two attachment theory assumptions: the mother as a key
figure and the continuity of internal working models. He argues that an infant has a
number of significant others and therefore that the ‗monotropy‘ model proposed by
Bowlby (1969, 1973) is not necessarily applicable. He adds that an adult also has
multiple significant others. According to Takahashi (2005) research shows that healthy
adults have at least three significant, ‗inner circle‘ others and on average at least six
significant, ‗middle or outer circle‘ others. Van IJzendoorn (2005) in some respects
supports this sentiment by declaring that attachment style is born out of an attachment
system that includes the mother, father, older siblings, grandparents and other
significant members of the family.
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The second attachment theory assumption with which Takahashi (2005) contends is
that concerning the continuity and discontinuity of internal working models. He observes
that research about the continuity and discontinuity of internal working models has
generated mixed results. A healing experience which shifts and alters the child's
insecure internal working model takes place with nurturing, gentle, soothing, non-
controlling, non-provocative and non-intrusive narratives told by parents (May, 2005).
For Wallin (2007) research has shown that current experiences, positive (e.g. a therapy)
or negative (e.g. trauma), establish new neural connections which can reshape the
physical structure of the brain in adults as well as children. As Siegel (1999) reports,
some individuals are ‗earned secure‘ adults. They are adults who have experienced
childhoods that are usually associated with insecure attachment patterns but are able to
conduct emotionally significant relationships with others. The debate over the continuity
and discontinuity of internal working models is theoretically and empirically incomplete
according to Takahashi (2005). Overall it seems that internal working models are stable;
however, when a significant positive or negative experience occurs the individual‘s
internal working model may change to ‗earned secure‘ or insecure respectively.
Thompson (2005) agrees with Takahashi (2005) and criticises attachment theory as an
all-inclusive interpretation of early sociopersonality development – as being both too
narrow and too hegemonistic. The four critical characteristics of close relationships
according to Takahashi (2005, p. 60) are: ―1) a personal framework consists of multiple
social figures; 2) the framework has a hierarchical structure usually with regard to a
focal figure; 3) there are inter-individual differences in the framework, and 4) the frame
work is stable, but can change with a person‘s circumstances‖. He proposes the need to
look beyond the mother-child dyad in order to understand the complexity of close adult
relationships. Takahashi (2005) recommends that an extension of attachment theory
into life span developmental theory which describes close relationships may be useful.
An international panel of experts surveyed the development of items for a new measure
of attachment. They argue that that the way adult attachment should be conceptualised
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and researched in the future needs to be reviewed and rethought because according to
them there are five attachment domains: secure attachment, dismissing attachment,
preoccupied attachment, positive nonattachment, and negative nonattachment (Allen et
al., 2005).
Blasi and Bjorklund (2003) maintain that besides attachment theory, the influence of
evolutionary ideas on developmental psychological theory and research has been weak.
Research carried out seems, nonetheless, to support attachment theory. Hazan and
Zeifman (1999) found results that are consistent with: 1) Bowlby's (1979) claim that
attachment styles continue from the ‗cradle to the grave‘ and 2) Ainsworth‘s et al. (1978)
claim that the three attachment styles of secure, avoidant and ambivalent have direct
counterparts in adulthood: secure, avoidant (fearful/dismissing) and ambivalent
(preoccupied) attachment styles (Bartholomew et al., 2001; Hazan and Shaver, 1987;
Main, 1995). Hazan and Zeifman (1999) established that the foundation of attachment
is: 1) the desire to maintain proximity, 2) distress upon separation, and 3) the reliance
on the attachment figure as a safe haven and secure base. They further state that
attachment is applicable to adults, children and infants. Finally, many studies conducted
are highly suggestive of and tend to strongly support the attachment theory, even
though adult attachment research results are mostly correlational, for which reason one
should note that it is precarious to infer causation (Hazan & Shaver, 1994).
One of the main criticisms of attachment theory is that it has been slow to impact on
clinical application, theory and practice (Peluso et al., 2004). Slade (1999) concurs and
adds that the present-day practice of therapy with an attachment theory basis is in its
early stages and requires further development. According to some researchers,
however, clinicians have recently taken up the challenge to test the uses of attachment
theory (Birnbaum, 2003; Gabbard, 2005; Main, 1995; Schore; 2002; Siegel, 1999;
Wallin, 2007; Wampler, Shi, Nelson & Kimball, 2003).
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2.5.5. Conclusion
From the above criticisms it can be asserted that attachment is complex and
multifaceted. Nonetheless, based on the review of the existing attachment literature,
attachment theory still provides one of the most beneficial frameworks for understanding
adult love relationships. In sum, attachment theory has shown how one‘s ability to love
romantically is steeped in the interpersonal realm. It indicates how an infant‘s ability to
attach, trust, mentalise and love is based on the quality of care, communication,
emotional responsiveness and attunement he / she receives from his / her primary
caregiver (Ainsworth et al. 1978; Chrisholm, 1995; Fonagy, 1998; Peluso et al., 2004;
Schore, 2002; Siegel, 1999). Based on these early experiences and primary attachment
relationships, the infant develops relatively stable unconscious internal working models
about the self and others (Bowlby, 1973, 1980, 1988). These internal working models
are not only relationally mapped but also neurologically mapped (Schore, 2002; Siegel,
1999). As a result these internal working models inform not only how the infant will
attach but also how the child, adolescent and the adult will function in terms of
attachment – the secure infant will grow up to be a secure child, adolescent and adult
and the insecure infant will grow up to be an insecure child, adolescent and adult.
Researchers have confirmed that individuals love in different ways depending on their
attachment styles (Bartholomew et al., 2001; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b; Hazan &
Shaver, 1987). Secure adults are able to form close bonds with others, they feel happy
in a love relationship and they trust and feel close to those they are romantically
involved with. Dismissing adults tend to be highly independent, experience difficulty
forming close bonds with and depending on their romantic partner and tend to be
promiscuous. Preoccupied adults are dependent, yearn for extreme closeness, fear
being abandoned by their lover and may also have multiple partners. Fearful adults are
passive and struggle to make their needs known, they are highly dependent on their
beloved but avoid closeness. Wallin (2007, p. 96) suggests that the ―complexity of a
whole person can never be adequately captured by a single descriptor‖. He continues
by pointing out that all individuals have ‗multiple states of mind‘ and, depending on the
mind and the context which brings forth that mind, different attachment styles will be
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adopted by the individual. Nonetheless he reports that in his clinical practice he has
found his first impressions of the patient‘s predominant attachment style to be accurate
and particularly useful.
Attachment theorists conceptualise romantic love as an attachment process, while
attachment theory illustrates that the lens of the interpersonal approach to love can
bring into focus yet another piece of the romantic love puzzle. The subsequent piece in
the chronological quest to make love knowable is the interdependence theory which is
also known as the social exchange theory. According to this theory, human beings are
interpersonal accountants who calculate the profits and losses of their interactions with
others, including the beloved, in terms of interpersonal economics – a balance sheet. It
is the cognitive and economic view of romantic love that the interdependence theory
seeks to illuminate.
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2.6 Interdependence theory
―Love is often nothing but a favourable exchange between
two people who get the most of what they can expect,
considering their value on the personality market.‖
(Fromm, 1956)
2.6.1 Interdependence theory or social exchange theory
According to the interdependence theory people assess whether to initiate, form and
maintain relationships on the basis of reciprocity in costs and rewards. Proponents say
that people are driven to maximise rewards and minimise costs. The interdependence
theory or the social exchange theory is characterised by four central concepts: reward,
cost, outcome and comparison level. According to Kelley and Thibaut (1978) the social
exchange theory maintains that people evaluate their interactions and relationships
according to perceived rewards received from the relationship, perceived costs incurred
by the relationship, the perceived relationship they deserve and the likelihood that they
could enjoy a better relationship with another.
Perceived rewards are characterised by the positive, pleasurable and gratifying aspects
of the relationship that reinforce and maintain it, for example, gain in knowledge,
enhanced self-esteem, fulfilment of emotional needs and sexual gratification. Perceived
costs are characterised by the undesirable experiences and negative aspects of the
relationship, for example, physical or mental effort, embarrassment and anxiety (Kelley
& Thibaut, 1978). In a study undertaken by Bui, Peplau & Hill (1996), they confirmed
that the combination of rewards and costs accounted for a significant proportion of the
variance in satisfaction. Interestingly Gottman and Levenson (1992) found that rewards
and costs did not necessarily carry equal value. They report that for a partner to remain
satisfied with a relationship the reward-to-cost ratio needs to be at least 5:1. They
suggested that undesirable experiences and exchanges in relationship were more
influential than comparable desirable experiences and exchanges.
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According to the social exchange theory, by subtracting the anticipated costs incurred
from the anticipated rewards received people calculate the outcomes of their
interactions and relationships (outcomes = rewards – costs). The withdrawal from
initiating a new relationship and the likely dissolution of an existing relationship is
predicted when there is a negative outcome. The initiation or maintenance of the
relationship is predicted by a positive outcome. When each partner starts to impact on
the degree to which their partner‘s outcomes are achieved, mutual dependence has
developed in the dyad (Le & Agnew, 2003). According to Le and Agnew (2003),
dependence and reliance on a partner for the fulfilment of a relationship and the
subjective experience of that dependence constitutes commitment. Commitment is
strengthened by being in a satisfying relationship but weakened by possible alternatives
to that relationship (Kelley & Thibaut, 1978).
According to Kelley and Thibaut (1978), established relationship outcomes may be
evaluated by means of the individual‘s 1) comparison level and 2) comparison level for
alternatives. An individual‘s comparison level is ascertained by the expectation of the
costs, rewards and outcomes based on the average of that person‘s past relationship
experiences. Consequently relationships whose outcomes are more than a person‘s
comparison level are deemed satisfying while those less than this level are not
(outcomes – comparison level = satisfaction or dissatisfaction). The expectation of the
outcomes an individual would receive in an alternative relationship is ascertained by
comparison level for alternatives (Kelley & Thibaut, 1978). The comparison level for
alternatives is the lowest level of outcome an individual will accept in a relationship. In
other words, even if an individual is satisfied with their current relationship, they are
likely to leave that relationship if other relationships promise higher rewards. The
converse is also true: even if an individual is dissatisfied with their current relationship,
they are not likely to leave that relationship if other relationships promise lower rewards.
Van Dam (2005) suggests an additional perspective: Kelley and Thibaut's (1978)
interdependence or social exchange theory holds that satisfaction and dependence are
the two structural factors that typify interdependence in a relationship. Satisfaction in a
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relationship is determined by the rewards and costs of a relationship. Dependence
refers to the extent to which the needs that are satisfied in a particular relationship
cannot be satisfied elsewhere, and is therefore related to the perceived quality of
alternatives (Van Dam, 2005).
2.6.2 Investment model
Using the theoretical foundation of the interdependence theory, Rusbult (1980)
conceptualised the Investment Model. She postulated that over and above rewards,
costs, outcomes, comparison levels and comparison level for alternatives, an
individual‘s level of investment in long-term relationship needs to be taken into account
as well (Rusbult, 1983). According to Rusbult (1983) investments can take the form of
physical or psychological investments. The Investment Model proposes that a strong
factor in the processes which encourage the maintenance of relationships is
commitment. The model identifies three elements that determine a person‘s
commitment to a relationship: 1) satisfaction with the relationship which is deduced in
terms of rewards, costs and subjective comparison level, 2) level of investment in the
relationship or investment size, and 3) quality of alternatives to the relationship. High
levels of satisfaction, high levels of investment and low quality of alternatives are the
characteristics of a committed and stable relationship (Rusbult, 1983). A diagrammatical
representation of Rusbult‘s (1983) Investment Model follows in figure 2.2:
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Figure 2.2 Rusbult‟s Investment Model
Derived from Rusbult (1983).
The utility and robustness of the Investment Model has been confirmed by numerous
empirical studies (Bui et al., 1996; Cox, Wexler, Rusbult & Gaines, 1997; Le & Agnew,
2003; Rusbult, 1983).
Rusbult (1983) undertook a longitudinal study over an academic year with 34 students
who completed a relationship questionnaire every 17 days. The study yielded support
for the investment model she proposed. She reported that commitment tended to
increase over time for both genders, with increases in satisfaction and investment and
decreases in the perceived quality of alternatives. Respondents also reported that
although increases in rewards increased satisfaction over time, it was only later in the
relationship that changes in costs impacted on satisfaction. She argues that this is
because of the tendency for humans to idealise their partner and for the partner to
present themselves in the best possible light in the initial stages of the relationship.
Rewards
Costs
Comparison
Level
Satisfaction with
relationship
Quality of alternatives
to relationships
Level of investment in
relationship
Commitment to
relationship
Stability of
relationship
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When testing Rusbult's Investment Model of relationship commitment and stability Bui et
al. (1996) confirmed that a significant proportion of the variance in satisfaction was
accounted for by the combination of rewards and costs. In addition they found that a
significant proportion of the variance in commitment was accounted for by the
combination of satisfaction, investments, and quality of alternatives. They also claim
that Rusbult's Investment Model can successfully predict relationship duration over a
fifteen-year period. Two explanatory expansions to Rusbult‘s Investment Model were
suggested by Bui et al. (1996). Firstly they proposed that rewards may not only be
indirectly linked to commitment via satisfaction but rather may be directly linked to
commitment. Secondly, that ―the quality of alternatives to a current relationship
experienced by one partner may be related to the other partner‘s level of commitment‖
(p.1253).
The Investment Model has demonstrated generalisability (Cox et al., 1997).
Researchers declare that The Investment Model is able to 1) predict commitment
across many types of romantic relationship; 2) explain feelings of commitment and
account for decisions to continue or dissolve a relationship; 3) account for commitment
processes cross-culturally and 4) predict non-romantic commitment, including friendship
commitment, job commitment and turnover.
Truman-Schram, Cann, Calhoun and Vanwallendael (2000) established that the
Investment Model variables of objective investment size, subjective investment size,
quality of perceived alternatives, and the Liking scale accounted for 32% of the variance
in commitment. In addition they found that lack of commitment was a significant
predictor of relationship break-up.
Le and Agnew (2003) indicated that in a meta–analysis of Rusbult‘s Investment Model
much stronger correlations were found between commitment investments and
alternatives. They reported that commitment satisfaction with alternatives to, and
investments in a relationship, were significantly correlated to commitment and
accounted for almost two–thirds of the variance in commitment (Le & Agnew, 2003). Le
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and Agnew (2003) suggest that the Investment Model may be expanded into a more
comprehensive model of commitment by examining the possible indirect effects of
temperament factors on commitment.
2.6.3 Investment model extended
Rusbult, Olsen, Davis and Hannon (2001) extended Rusbult‘s (1983) Investment Model
by adding an additional process to the original model. They believe that once a strong
level of commitment is established there are three behavioural and three cognitive
maintenance mechanisms that assist in sustaining long-term, well-functioning
relationships. In their view high levels of satisfaction, poor perceived alternatives and a
large investment size are characteristic of strongly committed relationships. As a result
couples in these relationships have a strong motivation to ensure their relationship
continues and they do so by performing maintenance acts. These maintenance acts
can vary from the trivial and inconvenient, to those that involve considerable cost as
regards immediate self interest. Because they are orientated towards long-term
outcomes couples endure the costs of maintenance acts. They realise that it is in their
long-term interest to develop patterns of reciprocal pro-relationship behaviours and
cognitions to ensure the well-being of their relationship (Rusbult et al., 2001).
Rusbult et al. (2001) describe the characteristics of the three behavioural and three
cognitive maintenance mechanisms as follows. The three behavioural maintenance
mechanisms that ensure the well being of the dyad are accommodation, willingness to
sacrifice, and forgiveness. Accommodation exists when the individual refrains from
responding and retaliating to the partner‘s destructive provocation. The individual
demonstrates a willingness to sacrifice their own interests, desires and needs for the
good of the relationship and engages instead in behaviours that are valued by the
partner. Forgiveness is evident when the individual finds a way of forgiving an act of
betrayal by the partner. The three cognitive maintenance mechanisms that ensure
the well being of the dyad are interdependence, positive illusion and derogation of
alternatives. Interdependence is characterised by relational instead of self based
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thought, for example, us, we, our, rather than I, me, mine. Positive illusion is
characterised by minimising the beloved‘s faults and maximising their virtues and
strengths. Derogation of alternatives is characterised by exhibiting cognitive distortions
about tempting alternative partners. A diagrammatical representation of Rusbult et al.‘s
(2001) commitment and relationship maintenance mechanisms follows in figure 2.3:
Figure 2.3 Commitment and relationship maintenance mechanisms
Derived from Rusbult et al. (2001, p. 97).
2.6.4 Equity theory
Although the social exchange theory is supported by a great number of empirical
findings (Bui et al., 1996; Le & Agnew, 2003), it has also been critiqued for ignoring the
belief in fairness or equity (Walster, Walster & Berscheid, 1978). Walster et al. (1978)
point out that followers of the equity theory believe people strive to equalise the
outcomes between the individuals in the relationship, rather than being out to maximise
their rewards and minimise their costs. They argue that if an individual is receiving more
than they ought to in a relationship, they will feel uncomfortable and will eventually feel
guilty because equity is such a potent social norm.
Satisfaction
level
Investment
Size
Quality of
alternatives
Behavioural Maintenance Mechanisms:
accommodation; willingness to
sacrifice; forgiveness
Commitment
level Cognitive Maintenance Mechanisms:
interdependence, positive illusion
and derogation of alternatives
Couple‟s
well-being
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Walster et al. (1978) established that when individuals are indebted to others or when
others are indebted to them there are feelings of discomfort and distress. When others
are indebted to them, individuals experience distress, anger and frustration. When
individuals are indebted to others they experience feelings of distress, obligation and
fear of an inability to settle the debt timeously. Consequently when the outcome of the
rewards and costs is comparatively equal for both partners, relationships are more
secure and fulfilling (Buunk & Dijkstra, 2000).
Different strategies are utilised to maintain equity in different types of relationships: the
equity notion operates differently in long-term versus short-term relationships. ‗Tit-for-
tat‘ types of exchanges are used by acquaintances and strangers to maintain short-term
equity. Clark and Mills (1979) differentiated between exchange relationships (based on
interpersonal economics) and communal relationships (based on altruistic motives).
Researchers have discovered that exchange relationships normally govern short-term
relationships and are characterised by a need for an equal ratio of costs and rewards.
Those in intimate, equitable friendships or romantic relationships are unconcerned with
short-term equity and do not feel they have to trade similar benefits (Clark, 1984, 1986;
Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001). Researchers have also found that communal relationships
generally govern long-term relationships and these are characterised by the primary
concern of being responsive to the other‘s needs (Clark, 1984, 1986; Mills & Clark,
1994, 2001). Rusbult et al. (2001) postulate that a sense of trust grows between a dyad
when the two individuals observe each other sacrificing self-interest and being
responsive to the other‘s needs; this in turn is reflective of the partner‘s level of
commitment.
In close relationships when each partner has the same high degree of motivation to be
responsive to the other partner‘s needs, these relationships are generally considered to
be strong mutual communal relationships. There are different levels of such
relationships. In the Western world the cultural norm is that close romantic partners
have a stronger mutual communal relationship when compared to any other relationship
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(e.g. sibling and best friend) (Mills & Clark, 2001). Thus the partner‘s needs are more
than likely to take precedence over the needs of the other individuals with whom weaker
communal relationships exist. Mills and Clark (2001) warn that not all intimate romantic
relationships are strong mutual relationships and that some of these relationships may
function according to an exchange basis. They add that this exchange base type of
relationship does not foster happiness and security for the members of the relationship
and only by undergoing the very difficult process of changing the relationship to the
communal rule, will maintenance and enhancement of a close romantic relationship be
achieved (Mills & Clark, 2001). Mills and Clark (2001) consider that from a cross-cultural
point of view, a feeling of obligation born out of cultural norms may provide the impetus
for behaving communally in arranged marriages.
The strength of a romantic communal relationship depends on three central factors: 1)
both partners share an equally strong concern for the interests and needs of the other
partner; 2) both partners share an equally strong motivation to benefit the other partner
when the other has a need; and 3) whether each partner has the ability to follow through
on that motivation (Mills & Clark, 2001). The continual motivation of both partners to
follow the communal rule and their ability to do so determines the continued life and
strength of a mutual romantic communal relationship (Mills & Clark, 2001).
Fehr (1988) adds that trust and caring are the two most vital components of love and
that each endorses and sustains the other: ―trust that one‘s partner is concerned about
one‘s welfare promotes caring for the needs of one‘s partner. Caring for the partner‘s
needs promotes the partner‘s trust that one is concerned about the partner‘s welfare‖
(Mills & Clark, 2001, p.24). In other words trust and caring continually feed and reinforce
one another, creating a safe symbiotic connection, and thereby ensuring the
maintenance and enhancement of the intimate romantic relationship.
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2.6.5 Criticisms
There is little doubt that exchanges of resources in the form of rewards, costs,
outcomes and comparison levels play a central role in the initiating, developing and
maintaining of an intimate relationship. Yet, exchange theories seem somewhat
reductionistic and leave much unexplained: 1) they neglect to explain the more
emotional aspects of romantic relationships; 2) they negate the existing sexual
inequalities and the impact of these on the final outcome; and 3) sexual inequalities
result in unequal exchanges anyway, thus rendering interpersonal exchanges
unimportant (Goodwin, 1999). ―Thus, while exchange theories provide a useful heuristic
for future theory generations, such theories must be more firmly located within the
socio-cultural conditions in which a couple operates in order to provide useful insights
into relationship behaviours‖ (Goodwin, 1999, p. 82).
In addition, exchange theories seem to neglect the unconscious elements that drive
how individuals love and on which the intrapsychic perspective focuses. Attachment
theorists argue that love is not a decision and that commitment in romantic relationships
is not entirely explainable by cognitive models (Morgan & Shaver, 1999). They
acknowledge the importance and perspective of economically derived models and
theories of commitment but add that couples come together and stay together in part
because of the relatively primitive, non-rational and powerful binding force of an
attachment system (Hendrix, 1995; Morgan & Shaver, 1999).
2.6.6 Conclusion
Interdependence theorists emphasise the economic nature of the relationship between
people and between romantic partners. They call attention to the cognitive component
of love and describe how human beings are interpersonal accountants who calculate
and evaluate the profits and losses of interactions, outcomes and comparison levels
with their beloved (Kelley & Thibaut, 1978). They believe that people aim to maximise
their rewards and minimise their costs. It is important to note that there seem to be a
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number of similarities between the interdependence theory and Fromm‘s (1956) claim
that in Western society individuals trade their ‗personality package‘ with others in the
hope of the best possible and most profitable exchange.
The investment model adds that the quality of alternatives to relationships determines
the individual‘s commitment to the relationship, which in turn determines the stability of
the relationship (Rusbult, 1980). Later its proponents add that behavioural and cognitive
mechanisms help to maintain committed relationships (Rusbult et al., 2001). Walster et
al. (1978) proposed the equity theory which is characterised by the belief that
individuals, instead of trying to maximise rewards and minimise costs, rather endeavour
to equalise the outcomes between the individuals in the relationship. Two types of
relationships were theorised by Clark and Mills (1979): exchange relationships (based
on interpersonal economics) and communal relationships (based on altruistic motives).
Communal relationships are characterised by being responsive to the other‘s interests
and needs; these relationships generally govern long-term intimate romantic
relationships (Clark, 1984, 1986; Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001).
Although this approach seems to lack the irrational, unconscious and emotional
component of love, much empirical evidence has been found for the economic piece of
the puzzle of love. It seems to add a very valuable and strong cognitive and decision
making component to the conundrum. Interdependence theory and its adjuncts provide
a fundamental and essential perspective on the function which interpersonal economics
fulfils in the initiating, developing and maintaining of an intimate romantic relationship.
This adds to our cumulative understanding of the variegated nature of love.
Continuing along the chronological sequence of how love can be known, the study now
moves from the interpersonal economics approach, to differentiating between two types
of love: passionate and companionate.
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2.7 Passionate and Companionate love
―My heart flutters hastily,
When I think of my love for you;
It lets me not act sensibly.‖
(Lichtheim, 1976, p. 184)
A state of intense physiological arousal and an intense longing for the other are the
characteristics of passionate love (Walster & Walster, 1978; Regan, 1998). The
partners experience a powerful fascination for one another, they express passionate
love physically and the relationship expectation is one of physical exclusivity (Myers,
2002). The partners experience psychological union and closeness with the other as
well as fulfilment, delight and ecstasy when their love is reciprocated (Aronson et al.,
2005; Michener et al., 2004). Hatfield and Rapson (1996) suggest that individuals the
world over experience the headiness of passionate love and that, ―throughout the
modern world, people turn out to be surprisingly similar in the way they experience
passionate love‖ (p. 88). In the view of Berscheid and Walster (1974) passionate love
consists of three components: cognitive, emotional and behavioural. The cognitive
component is characterised by an idealisation and intrusive preoccupation with the
beloved as well as a strong desire to know the beloved. The emotional component is
characterised by a desire for union, sexual attraction, physiological arousal, positive and
negative feelings and longing for reciprocity. The behavioural component is
characterised by actions to maintain physical closeness, actions to determine the
beloved's feelings, actions in service to the beloved and studying the beloved. As
Walster and Walster (1978) write, romantic passion and its influences of fantasy,
novelty and arousal are difficult to sustain indefinitely; hence over time romantic
passionate love tends to diminish.
The longer the relationship lasts the calmer the volatile emotions of passionate love
become (Sprecher & Regan 1998). This could lead to companionate love which is
characterised by feelings of closeness, intimacy and affection towards the beloved who
is deeply entwined in the lover‘s life (Walster & Walster, 1978). It is a love that is based
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on a concern for the other‘s welfare; a rich and committed friendship; common interests
and activities, mutual respect and mutual affection. This love is more stable and
sustainable than romantic passionate love.
Hendrick and Hendrick (1993) report that many couples value both types of love:
passionate and companionate love. According to them, almost half of the young adults
that are in relationship reported that their romantic partner was also their closest friend.
Brehm et al. (2002) propose that the distinction between passionate and companionate
love is not clear cut and that there is some overlap. They conclude that it is passionate
love that leads American couples to marry and that it is companionate love which
underlies marriages that are happy and enduring. Noller (1996, p. 101) suggests that a
―combination of passionate and companionate love is likely to be related to the love that
supports marriage and family‖. In addition it seems that both passionate love and
companionate love endorse the research into mutual liking and reciprocal affection.
Passionate and companionate love offer a broad and useful starting point in describing
types of romantic love. However, this seems to neglect the intricacy of how culture
influences and mediates love. Passionate and companionate love are not initially likely
to be present in an arranged marriage. Having said that, both these types of love have
the potential to develop in arranged marriages but unlike the Western world, passionate
and / or companionate love would not usually be the basis of an arranged marriage.
The notion of passionate and companionate love anticipates Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988)
three-component based triangular theory of love, and his eight types of love that are
born out of these components. In his later conceptualisations of romantic love Sternberg
presents, firstly, a social constructionist perspective (Beall & Sternberg, 1995) and
secondly, his love story theory (Sternberg, 1995, 2000). In the chronological journey of
uncovering divergent understandings of love this piece of the romantic love puzzle
highlights types of love and the influences of society and culture on the meanings
individuals accord to romantic love.
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2.8 Triangular theory of love and Love stories
―When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn‘t bend over and paint her toenails
anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time,
even when his hands got arthritis too.
That‘s love.‖
(A four year old)
2.8.1 Triangular theory of love
Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988) original model of love is known as the triangular theory of
love: he presented it in an attempt ―to explain and characterise a variety of love-related
phenomena‖ (Sternberg, 1986, p. 134). He formulated the model in terms of three
ingredients: intimacy, passion and decision.
Sternberg (1986, 1988) characterises intimacy as: the strength of the bond that holds
two people together and the closeness they feel for one another. It also includes
communication, support and sharing as well as feelings of warmth and understanding.
The primary features of passion are romance, sexuality and physical attraction, arousal
and desire. Decision / commitment is based on a cognitive process of deciding in the
short-term that one loves one‘s partner and in the long-term, deciding to maintain that
love and remain with the partner (Sternberg, 1986, 1988). He uses a descriptive and
explanatory framework to explain how these three components combined to form
different types of love. He postulates that love can be based on one, on a combination
of any two, or on all three of these three ingredients. According to Sternberg (1986,
1988) there are eight types of love that are born out of the various combinations of
intimacy, passion and commitment: 1) liking, 2) romantic love, 3) companionate love, 4)
consummate love, 5) infatuation, 6) fatuous love, 7) empty love and 8) non love. Ideal
love or consummate love is difficult to achieve and occurs when all three corners of the
triangle are balanced and equally strong (Sternberg, 1988). Below is a diagrammatic
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representation of Sternberg‘s triangle model of love and an explanation of the eight love
types.
Figure 2.4 Sternberg‟s (1988) Triangular Model of Love
INTIMACY
PASSION COMMITMENT
8. Non Love
1. Liking = intimacy (true friendship without passion or long-term
commitment)
3. Companionate love = intimacy + commitment (long-term committed
friendship e.g. marriage
where passion has faded)
2. Romantic love = intimacy + passion
(lovers physically and emotionally attracted to one another but without
commitment)
7. Empty love = commitment
(decision to love another without
intimacy or
passion)
5. Infatuation = passion
(passionate, obsessive love at first sight without
intimacy or
commitment)
6. Fatuous love = passion + commitment
(commitment based on passion but without time
for intimacy to develop – a shallow relationship e.g.
whirlwind courtship)
4. Consummate love = intimacy + commitment + passion
(complete love consisting of all three equally balanced ingredients
– this ideal is difficult to obtain)
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Derived from Sternberg‘s (1988) Triangular Model of Love.
The usefulness and validity of Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988) triangular theory of love has not
been determined, given the dearth of research into it. In addition, researchers have
challenged the clearly defined types of love that the theory postulates, averring instead
that love in reality may not fall into such distinct categories. They have also questioned
the centrality of intimacy as a construct (Brehm et al., 2002). Sternberg himself was not
entirely satisfied with his initial theory of love.
2.8.2 Love socially constructed
Over time, Sternberg and a co-researcher revised his theory of love – they focused on
the socially constructed nature of love (Beall & Sternberg, 1995). Beall and
Sternberg (1995) postulated that love is non-universal. Instead they declared that love
and the emotional experience of love, is culturally and contextually defined, constructed
and bound. Beall and Sternberg (1995) suggested that, in order to understand the
concept of love in culture, during a period of time, one needs ―information about a) the
beloved; b) the feelings that are believed to accompany love; c) the thoughts that are
believed to accompany love and d) the actions or relations between the lover and the
beloved‖ (p. 426). It was at about the same time that Sternberg (1995) began to
consider the concept of love as a story and went so far as to propose this as a meta-
theory of love.
2.8.3 Love as a story
Sternberg (1995, 2000) refined his concept of love from being purely socially
constructed to the idea of love as a „story‟ - that is personally constructed within that
individual‘s cultural milieu. Gergen and Gergen (1988) concur: ―when a man and a
woman privately whisper sweet nothings, a whole society is feeding them their lines.
How they behave and even how they feel depend, in part, on a host of myths they
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learned from their society – modified by each partner‘s experiences‖ (p. 48). Sternberg
(2000, p. 52) maintains that ―the love between two people follows a story [and] if we
want to understand love, we have to understand the stories that dictate our beliefs and
expectations of love‖. As Sternberg (1995) indicates, a person‘s narratives and stories
are shaped by many elements: their personal history; attachment style; observations of
the interactions between the individual‘s parents; childhood, adolescent and adult
interactions with his / her parents, siblings and friends; and personality traits. He adds
that the conception and construction of individual‘s love stories are also influenced and
shaped by depictions of romance and love in movies, television and books (Sternberg,
2000). After in-depth research Sternberg (2000) found that a person‘s love story is
revealed in the way a person describes love, whom they seek as romantic partners as
well as courses and outcomes of the intimate relationship. An individual‘s
presuppositions of what love should be and how it should work are intrinsic to their love
story. Although Sternberg (2000) acknowledges that there are an infinite number of love
stories, from his research he identified at least twenty-five common stories (Table 2.5)
which people used to describe love. ―Find your love story‖ outlines and describes the
twelve most common ones (Sternberg, 2000, p. 55-58):
Table 2.5 Sternberg‟s (2000) love stories
Story 1 Sacrifice story ―I believe sacrifice is a key part of true love‖
Story 2 Police story
(officer; suspect)
―I believe that you need to keep a close eye on
your partner‖ or ―My partner needs to know
everything that I do‖
Story 3 Travel story ―I believe that beginning a relationship is like
starting a new journey that promises to be both
exciting and challenging‖
Story 4 Pornography story
(object; subject)
―It is very important to be able to gratify all my
partner‘s sexual desires and whims‖ or ―I can never
be happy with a partner who is not very
adventurous in his or her sex life‖
Story 5 Horror story ―I find it exciting when I feel my partner is
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(terroriser; victim) somewhat frightened of me‖ or ―I tend to end up
with people who frighten me‖
Story 6 Recovery story
(co-dependent;
person in recovery)
‖I often find myself helping people get their life back
in order" or "I need someone to help me recover
from my painful past"
Story 7 Garden story ―I believe any relationship that is left unattended
will not survive‖
Story 8 Business story "I believe close relationships are like good
partnerships"
Story 9 Fantasy story ―I do believe that there is someone out there for me
who is my perfect match‖
Story 10 War story ―I think it is more interesting to argue than to
compromise‖
Story 11 Humour story ―I think taking a relationship too seriously can spoil
it‖
Story 12 Collection story ―I like dating different partners simultaneously;
each partner should fit a particular need‖
Additional stories mentioned are (Sternberg, 2000, p. 54):
Autocratic government story ―I think it is more efficient if one person takes control
of the important decisions in a relationship‖
Art story ―Physical attractiveness is the most essential
characteristic I look for in a partner‖
Science fiction story ―I often find myself attracted to individuals who have
unusual and strange characteristics‖
Theatre story ―I think my relationships are like plays" or "I often find
myself attracted to partners who play different roles"
It was established that the most popular stories were: the travel story, the gardening
story and the humour story. The most unpopular were: the horror story, the collectibles
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story and the autocratic government story. He reported that the gender differences in
story preference were as follows: men prefer the art, collectibles, pornography and
sacrifice stories while women prefer the travel story (Sternberg, 2000).
Although relationship success is not guaranteed in any one love story there are some
stories that were reported to forecast more disaster than others: business, collectibles,
government, horror, mystery, police, recovery, science fiction and theatre stories
(Sternberg, 2000). People with different stories of what love is about, have different
modes of loving. Therefore, according to Sternberg (2000) relationships work best when
a romantic couple‘s individual love stories match; they are said to be compatible and
have compatible expectations (Sternberg, 1995, 2000). In addition, when there are
complementary roles in a single or amalgamated, unified story the love stories are said
to be well-matched (Sternberg, 2000). A couple‘s love stories not only contain important
clues as to how their relationship is faring currently but such narratives can also predict
how the relationship will fare in the future (Leonard, 1995). According to Leonard (1995)
the seven crucial cues to the current state and predicted future success or failure of a
relationship are:
i) Marital disappointment and disillusionment: a husband's disillusionment is
the single best predictor of impending break-up.
ii) Fondness: These individuals via positive language tend to minimise the bad
times and emphasise the good; therefore fondness is a relationship
protective factor.
iii) Negativity: Negativity functions in the opposite way to fondness. These
individuals, via criticism and negative language, tend to emphasise the bad
times and forget the good times.
iv) Expansiveness versus withdrawal: A positive cue exists when a couple likes
to talk about their relationship. Those who do not do so are often in a
troubled relationship.
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v) We-ness or separateness: It bodes well when a couple uses positive
relationship terms like "we" and "us" in their love stories and portrays their
goals and decisions as mutual.
vi) Chaos: It does not bode well when a couple portrays their love stories as
being chaotic, full of unexpected problems and hardships.
vii) Glorifying the struggle: It bodes well when a couple accords positive meaning
to the relationship, glorifies the tough times and are optimistic that being
together still outranks the struggles.
According to Leonard (1995) peoples‘ narrative and relationship stories are not static;
instead, based on their current emotions, dialogue and circumstances their relationship
stories are constantly changing and evolving. He suggests that this constant evolution
of the individual‘s love story impacts on how a person will treat their spouse in the
future. In addition, current narratives provide clues to how an individual looks to the
future, either with regret or with high hopes, with regards to their love relationship
(Leonard, 1995).
―People actively participate in defining the kinds of love they have … and to a large
extent they create the same kinds of stories again and again, and repeat the same
patterns of love‖ (Sternberg, 1995, p. 545). This echoes the premise of Bowlby‘s (1969,
1973) attachment theory‘s internal working models, which are reflective of the
individuals‘ sense of worthiness as regards love and care and the expectations of the
availability and responsiveness of others. Bowlby believed that fairly accurate and
stable individual cognitive representations or internal working models are developed via
repeated experiences between the infant and the mother. These internal working
models exert a powerful influence on subsequent attachment relationships across the
life span and in particular in adult romantic attachment relationships (Ainsworth et al.,
1978; Bowlby, 1969, 1973; Hazan & Shaver 1987; Peluso et al., 2004; Zeifman &
Hazan, 1997). The repetition of stories can also be understood via Freud‘s (1930)
explanation in terms of repetition compulsion where an individual refinds new love
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objects that are similar to the old love objects and attempts to heal the wounding
inflicted by the original love objects by unconsciously evoking similar circumstances.
However, Sternberg (2000) is not entirely deterministic: he also believes each individual
is the author of their own love stories. He asserts that each individual has the power and
ability to rewrite their story into a healthier, more promising love story, should they
choose. Social constructionists and in particular supporters of narrative theory agree
with Sternberg‘s (2000) assertion that through language a person is able to rewrite their
love story. They claim that a healing experience which shifts and changes the child's
insecure internal working model is possible through nurturing, gentle, soothing, non-
controlling, non-provocative and non-intrusive narratives told by the child‘s parents.
Memories, thoughts, notions and conceptions are birthed through social exchange and
are mediated through language, according to social constructionists (McNamee &
Gergen, 1992). Thus, in order to change one‘s love story, one needs to change one‘s
language. Truths are merely stories about the world that people tell themselves and
others (Hoffman, 1992). Therefore, language serves to limit people‘s constructions of
the world, themselves and love (McNamee & Gergen, 1992). If knowledge is socially
constructed, then it can be said that knowledge changes and renews itself in dialogue
(Anderson & Goolishian, 1992; Hoffman, 1992). Meanings are created, experienced and
changed by individuals in conversation with one another (Anderson & Goolishian,
1992). Through this process of dialogically constructed understanding ―the space for
continuing new narrative with new history and – thus new future – remains open‖
(Anderson & Goolishian, 1992, p. 33). Conversations with others create space for the
‗yet-unsaid‘ love possibilities and narratives which give birth to new possible love
realities, agency, narrative and thus to new meanings which are experienced as change
in the individual and his or her social organisation (Anderson & Goolishian, 1992).
Sternberg, Hajjot and Barnes (2001) undertook a factor analytic study on American
students which confirmed representative theoretical and empirical findings regarding
love as a story. They reported seven love story components reflecting: 1) inequality-
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manipulation, e.g. horror, war, science fiction, mystery; 2) equity-cooperation, e.g.
travel, garden, democracy; 3) strategy planning, e.g. business, cookbook; 4) the past,
e.g. history; 5) idealisation, e.g. fantasy; 6) performance for one‘s partner, e.g.
pornography; and 7) subordination, e.g. police officer, suspect.
Jackson, Chen, Guo and Gao (2006) also undertook a factor analytic study on
American dating (n= 61) and married couples (n= 81) as well as Chinese dating (n= 46)
and married (n= 94) couples. They reported four love story components that were
common to both cultures: 1) objectification-threat; 2) devotion-caring; 3) pragmatism;
and 4) pornography. They also found two culturally unique love story components for
each culture: American – 1) war and 2) fairy tale; and Chinese – 1) current tending and
2) incomprehensibility of lover. They concluded that although there were subtle cultural
differences and unique cultural metaphors there was some overlap between the
Chinese and American views of love.
2.8.4 Conclusion
Although Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988) triangular theory of love delineates clearly defined
and limited types of love, and even though there is little empirical research it
nonetheless provides a somewhat useful framework for addressing different types of
love. Intuitively Sternberg‘s (2000) love story theory seems to make much sense.
Furthermore, the limited research that has been conducted seems to support the love
story view.
The importance of Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988, 1995, 2000) work is its introduction of the
fact that love is impacted on: not only by internal factors, for example, the unconscious,
intrapsychic forces as Freud claims; not only by interpersonal forces as postulated by
attachment theory; not only by economic forces that attempt to maximise profits while
minimising costs as in the exchange theories; not only by biological and genetic forces
for survival and reproduction as claimed by the evolutionary perspective; but also by
societal forces. Valuable about including this perspective on love is the standpoint that
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society influences and shapes our experience and understanding of love. Possibly this
work serves as one of the links between love and culture – both love and culture are a
story constructed via language and strongly influenced by society. Sternberg‘s (1986,
1988, 1995, 2000) work therefore adds an additional piece to the puzzle of love.
There appears to be some degree of similarity between Sternberg‘s love story theory
and Fromm‘s (1956) work – both are concerned with society‘s impact and influence on
the individual‘s way and ability to love. Evolutionary theory, on the other hand, concerns
itself with explicating romantic love via genetic and biologically developed adaptive
psychological mechanisms. The study now moves onto a detailed exploration of the
evolutionary theory puzzle piece.
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2.9 Evolution and love
―Men seek to propagate widely, whereas
Women seek to propagate wisely.‖
(Robert Hinde)
2.9.1 Introduction
Since the 1990s evolutionary psychology has become an important development in the
field of psychology (Hendrick & Hendrick, 2000). A serious advocate of evolutionary
psychology, David Buss, goes so far as to propose evolutionary psychology as the new
meta-theory for the psychological sciences (Buss, 1995). Kenrick and Trost (1997)
concur, arguing that evolutionary psychology has the potential to clarify and integrate all
areas of relationship research; that it is able to elucidate other areas of psychology as
well as connect various scientific disciplines. Boyer and Heckhausen (2000, p. 924)
add: ―The most exciting aspect of evolutionary psychology is that it promises a
framework to integrate evidence and explanations from biology, anthropology,
psychology and other behavioural sciences in a unified description of human
behaviour‖.
According to evolutionists all human beings are a successful creation from a long line of
ancestors who managed to achieve two crucial evolutionary tasks successfully: 1)
surviving till reproductive age and 2) reproducing (Larsen & Buss, 2002). Through the
evolution and adaptations of their ancestors humans have succeeded in existing. Each
human being carries the genes for adaptive mechanisms that directed their forefathers
towards survival and reproduction (Larsen & Buss, 2002). ―Evolution refers to the
change over time in organic (living) structure‖ (Buss, 2004, p. 3).
This success is at the heart of Darwin‘s theory of natural selection. According to Buss
(2004) Darwin argued that natural selection refers to some inherited variations leading
to better reproductive achievement than other less successful inherited variations. He
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explains that over millions of years of evolution, the hostile forces of nature have forced
human beings through natural selection – which functioned to produce in human beings
adaptations (evolved solutions and strategies) – to solve problems so as to survive and
perpetuate the human species through reproduction. A failure to develop the
appropriate characteristics and adaptive strategies to the ever changing environment,
results in the failure to survive (Buss, 2003).
One of the problems that human beings have been required to solve is that of mate
selection. All over the world individuals do not display an equal desire for all members of
the opposite sex; they favour some members of the opposite sex and rebuff others
(Buss, 2003). In terms of this, Darwin formulated his second evolutionary theory: that
regarding sexual selection. Sexual selection centres on the evolution of characteristics
that developed to ensure mating success (Buss, 2004). According to Darwin sexual
selection is initiated via two routes: 1) intrasexual competition and 2) intersexual
selection (Buss, 2004). Intrasexual competition occurs when members of the same
sex compete and the victor, as a result of winning, enjoys more sexual access to the
opposite sex. Intersexual selection occurs when an individual of one sex is
preferentially chosen as a mate because they possess specific qualities that are valued
by members of the opposite sex. Research has determined that women tend to value
men with economic resources, education, and/or position, while men tend to value
physical attractiveness and youth (Buss, 1989). Buss (2004) believes that preferential
mate selection is nature‘s way of ensuring the most optimal mating combination for the
two individuals involved. Reproductive success in producing healthy offspring who in
turn have their own healthy offspring is the result of this optimum combination.
Therefore according to evolutionary theorists gene replication in the form of offspring
can be said to be the nucleus of the evolutionary game (Kenrick & Trost, 1997). Kenrick
and Trost (1997) point out that offspring can be produced directly or indirectly. Directly,
by personally reproducing and passing one‘s own genes on to the future generations
and indirectly by helping and contributing to the survival and reproduction of relatives
who share copies of one‘s own genes (Kenrick & Trost, 1997). Gene replication in the
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form of offspring requires different investments from males and females. The female‘s
reproductive investment is at least nine months while the male‘s can be as short as a
few minutes. In order to replicate their genes to the maximum, the genders evolved
differing strategies. Women evolved the desire for men who are committed, who
possess resources and who are motivated to commit those resources to the female and
her offspring – enabling women to ‗propagate wisely‘. Universally, men evolved a more
powerful desire for sexual variety – enabling them to ‗propagate widely‘ (Buss &
Schmitt, 1993).
The differential parental investment theory was proposed by Trivers (1972): it
suggests that 1) the gender with the higher initial investment in the offspring is more
selective about choosing mates when compared to the gender with the lower initial
investment while 2) the gender with the lower initial investment in the offspring will be
more competitive as regards sexual access to the more highly invested gender. Human
females make a higher obligatory parental investment: a woman invests in a nine month
pregnancy and thereafter nurses and raises the child until it is able to reproduce;
whereas a man need only invest the time taken for the sexual act. Kenrick and Trost
(1997) suggest that on average, human beings tend to form long-term pair-bonds and in
the case of long-term mating or marriage, both mothers and fathers invest a great deal
in their children. According to Kenrick and Trost (1997), although the primary adaptive
function of romantic love is sexual reproduction and teaming up together to care for the
children, the secondary adaptive gains are social support, mutual sharing and
protection. Research confirms the differential parental investment theory: in long-term
mating and marriage, both men and women are highly discriminating and selective
when choosing a partner (Kenrick, Groth, Trost & Sadalla, 1993).
Not all children benefit from two parents who exercise positive parental investment and
long-term mating strategies. Chisholm (1996) claims that the child‘s parent‘s sexual
strategy and the quality and quantity of investment from both parents impacts on the
child‘s attachment pattern. An avoidant attachment pattern suggests the child‘s
adaptation to the parents‘ unwillingness to invest heavily in the child, for example, the
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parent pursues a short term mating strategy. An anxious/ambivalent attachment pattern
suggests the child‘s adaptation to the parents‘ inability to invest heavily in the child, for
example, when the parent is exhausted, hungry, fearful, preoccupied or irritable.
Evolutionary theorists believe it is love that will encourage both parents to exercise
positive parental investment.
In sum, men and women have, through eons, depended on one another for protection,
survival and reproduction. The evolutionary perspective contends that love was evolved
to facilitate and ensure survival and reproduction (Buss, 2000).
2.9.2 Romantic love and evolution
Parents genetically pass on to their children the ―talent to love and to be loved, as well
as the need to seek love‖ (Lampert, 1997, p.12). Although human beings are unique in
their variations of love, their ―predisposition for love is very widespread, that the great
majority of women and men are born with a genetic capacity and need for forming
durable attachments of an emotional character‖ (Mellen, 1981, p. 139). Mellen (1981)
makes use of the evolutionary explanation for this human genetic capacity to love: early
human ancestors created a greater chance for their helpless offspring to survive by
developing an emotional bond between breeding pairs of males and females. The
parent‘s ability to protect the helpless infant against predators and to provide the infant
with high levels of nurturance is characteristic of this enhanced or differential survival
rate. Mellen (1981) believes that the foundation of the evolution of love is this primitive
emotional bonding.
Lampert (1997) adds to the above discussion by saying that sexual love and parental
love are the two primary loves that humans experience. According to her, sexual love
performs the adaptive function that brings children into the world while parental love
carries out the adaptive function that nurtures and rears children. Lampert (1997)
asserts that individuals choose to reproduce with someone with whom the prospect of
successful procreation is the highest. ―Love is the tool that assists us to correctly select
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a mate, to calibrate and gently adjust the process of sexual selection‖ (Lampert, 1997,
p.12). In other words, sexual love is a tool which has evolved to guide an individual‘s
selection of a mate. There are two judgment mechanisms that guide an individual to 1)
fall in love with a person who is optimally genetically similar to themselves and 2) not fall
in love with a person who is too similar to themselves, for example family members
(Lampert, 1997). For Lampert (1997) research confirms that the more optimal the
genetic similarity between a couple, the higher the fertility rates, the healthier the
children, the more harmonious and stable the relationship and the higher the marital
satisfaction. Research conducted by Rushton (1988) revealed that couples who were in
a sexual relationship were genetically more similar to each other than random couples.
Human beings unconsciously detect optimal genetic similarity in the other and are
sexually attracted to that person (Rushton, 1988).
Buss (2000) concurs with the above, stating that the most important decision for all
human beings is the choice of mate. In a cross-cultural study that involved more than
10 000 participants over 37 cultures Buss (2000) reports that both genders rated love as
the single most important quality in selecting a mate. He explains that love overrides
rationality; instead it is blind, irrational and if ‗a love for you and no other‘ cannot be
helped or chosen then commitment will not falter or waver in difficult times or when
someone more desirable comes along. Love is the emotion that bonds partners and
holds them together.
Buss (1988) conceptualises love as ‗love acts‘. These ‗love acts‘ are products of
evolution by natural selection. ‗Love acts‘ transpire chiefly between mating pairs and kin
relationships and exist in order to ensure reproductive success (Buss, 1988). Buss
(1998) clarifies that ‗love acts‘ are an evolutionary adaptation and that as a result
particular goals are observed in courtship and mating. These goals occur in a
chronological order: 1) attract a mate – which includes resource displays by both male
and females; 2) retain a mate – which includes relative relationship exclusivity and
commitment or marriage; 3) reproduce with the mate – which includes sexual relations
and reproduction and 4) invest parentally in the resulting offspring – which includes
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resource sharing and parental investment (Buss, 1998). Buss (1998) argues that the
human species has reproduced because these ‗love acts‘ have been adopted as the
evolutionary tasks and responsibilities of procreation. Buss (2003), in more recent work,
suggests that our mating is strategic and designed to solve specific problems for
successful mating. He outlines four processes – two of which are similar to his ‗love
acts‘ goals – that humans use as a sexual strategy for successful mating: 1) selecting a
mate; 2) attracting a mate; 3) keeping a mate and 4) replacing a mate (Buss, 2003).
Because women incur immense costs through sex, pregnancy, childbirth and child
rearing, they are faced with the adaptive problem of choosing a mate who possesses
the required resources as well as the motivation to commit those resources to her and
her offspring (Buss, 2003). One of the most important cues universally for this
commitment is love (Buss, 2003). Buss (2003) found that for both sexes acts of
commitment are regarded as central to love. Acts of commitment encompass
monogamy, fidelity, talk of marriage and children, channelling of resources (economic,
genetic, emotional and sexual) to the partner, channelling of time, kindness, sincerity
and channelling of energy and effort to the partner‘s needs at the expense of fulfilling
one‘s own needs. As Buss (2003) concludes, it is not surprising therefore that women
the world over place a premium on love and commitment.
Once love has bound a couple it needs to be protected. For men and women rivals
threaten love and commitment. Buss (2000) suggests that human beings have had to
evolve the dangerous emotion of jealousy to protect these fragile bonds of love.
Jealousy is not only a way of knowing just how committed the other is to the
relationship; it is also an evolutionary response to alert the partner to real threats by real
rivals which may possibly result in the loss of the partner via infidelity (Buss 2000).
Although worldwide for both genders love is the most important criterion in selecting a
mate, there are other common attributes that both sexes find desirable while there are
also definite differences in mate preferences for males and females.
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2.9.3 Male and female mate preferences
Both men and women value, desire and are attracted to partners who are agreeable,
dependable, mature, intelligent, educated, honest, trustworthy, kind, healthy, sociable,
family orientated and faithful (Buss, 1994, 2004; Kenrick & Trost, 1997). Although both
men and women typically value and prefer the above attributes, both sexes throughout
evolutionary history have faced different adaptive problems and reproductive constraints
(Buss & Schmitt, 1993). As a result there are gender differences in the factors which
men and women find attractive. Securing a mate who is able and willing to invest
resources in themselves and their offspring has been the primary reproductive
constraint for women. The number of reproductively valuable and fertile women they
can successfully inseminate has been the primary reproductive constraint for men (Buss
& Schmitt, 1993).
Because men and women make different contributions to their offspring, their criteria for
partner selection differ (Buss, 2004; Kenrick & Trost, 1997). During the period of
pregnancy and nursing, women contribute their bodies. Therefore women who are
fertile, physically attractive and young and healthy (indicating good reproductive fitness)
are expected to be valued by and attractive to men. As Buss (2004) points out, research
has revealed that the components of female mate preferences are as follows: good
economic resources, good financial prospects, high social status, men older than
themselves, ambition, industriousness, dependability, stability, athletic prowess, good
health, love, commitment and a willingness to invest in children. Buss (2000) claims that
this preference does not diminish even if the female gains personal access to financial
resources and achieves high socioeconomic status.
Men‘s genes and their indirect resources such as food, money, protection and lodging
are their primary contributions to their offspring. Consequently, men who have
genetically superior potential, are ambitious, industrious and display good earning
capacity (indicating the ability to provide the resources that the mother and the children
will need) are expected to be valued by and attractive to women. According to Buss
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(2004), research has confirmed that the components of male mate preferences consist
of: youth, health, evolved standards of beauty, body fat, waist-to-hip ratio, physically
attractive mates and sexually loyalty. On an evolutionary basis the attributes of youth
and physical appearance in a potential female mate have been linked with increased
reproductive capacity; consequently males place a premium on these attributes (Buss,
1989). In addition, males place a premium on sexual loyalty and faithfulness as a
measure which aims to ensure the maximum certainty as regards paternity. Kenrick and
Trost (1997) consider that these preferred male and female criteria are found to be
common across diverse cultures. According to Buss (2004), research confirms that
male and female mate preferences impact on mating behaviour.
Eagly and Wood (1999), however, do not agree with Buss‘s (2004) evolutionary
interpretation of male and female mate preferences. They examined origins of sex
differences in human behaviour across 37 countries by considering 1) evolved
dispositions that differ for males and females, and 2) the differing gender placement in
the social structure. They found support for the differing gender placement in the social
structural account but not for evolved dispositions as regards sex differences in mate
preferences. They report that the tendency for either sex to choose mates according to
the so-called sex-selection criteria of evolutionary psychology decreased as gender
equality increased. Van Leeuwen (2002) concur and claim that their findings confirm
that since women are now part of the labour force, extramarital affairs entered into by
young women marginally exceed the number reported by men. Consequently this points
to the frequency of extramarital affairs as less dependent on evolutionary selection of
sex-specific motivations than on sheer opportunity and changing gender-role norms.
Accordingly, sex differences in mate selection criteria are more likely the result of the
historically and socially constructed sexual division of labour than attributable to the
claims of evolutionary psychologists that sex differences in mate selection criteria are
‗hard-wired' in all humans by evolution.
As equality is achieved between the sexes, both sexes begin to judge potential mates
using a more generically human criterion such as love, dependability and a pleasing
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personality (Eagly & Wood, 1999). Buss (1994, 2004), confirms this in his cross-cultural
investigation of mate preference: on average both sexes ranked love, dependability,
emotional stability, and a pleasant personality as the four most important qualities in a
potential partner. Modest gender differences materialise only in the fifth ranking
attribute.
Critics of evolutionary psychology identify contrary to its forecast that wealthy men will
enjoy increased access to more females, thus producing more children; wealthy men in
post-industrial societies do not engender more children than poor men (Kanazawa,
2003). Kanazawa (2003) nonetheless found that evolutionary psychology can explain
human behaviour in contemporary societies: while wealthy men do not produce more
children, they nevertheless have more sexual partners and copulate more frequently
than poor men and should therefore achieve, in a sense, greater reproductive success
according to evolutionary principles.
In order to interrogate the mate preferences of the genders, the study investigated and
made findings on 1) personal advertisements, 2) age preferences, 3) physical
attractiveness, 4) rival strategies, and 5) sexual strategies.
2.9.3.1 Personal advertisements
Research into personal advertisements supports the evolutionary stance: men are
attracted to pretty, young, fertile women while women are attracted to men with financial
resources. Baize and Schroeder (1995) report that in personal advertisements males
show a higher response rate to women who say they are young and physically attractive
whereas females show a higher response rate to men who claim good financial status.
These findings were confirmed in Poland: men who offered good economic resources,
men who were older and had higher levels of education, all received more responses to
their personal advertisements than men who did not possess these qualities (Pawlowski
& Koziel, 2002). McGraw (2002) reports that women who live in densely populated,
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expensive cities have higher resource requirements and therefore have adapted to this
new, hostile, urban environment by making greater demands for resources in a mate in
their personal advertisements. The preferential mate selection theory ensures the most
optimal mating combination for the two individuals involved. Confirming this theory,
Buss (1989) established that women, who are professionally and economically
successful, value income and education even more in a potential long-term mate. As
mentioned previously, though, a decade after Buss (1989) reported on these results,
Eagly and Wood (1999) report contradictory results in their analyses of 37 countries.
They found that as gender equality increases so mate preferences change: women‘s
preference for older, financially able men decreased, as did men‘s preferences for
younger, domestically skilled women.
2.9.3.2 Age preferences
Universally, women tend to marry older men and men marry women who are on
average three years younger than themselves. Second and third marriages show that
men marry women who are on average five and eight years younger than themselves
respectively (Buss, 1989).
2.9.3.3 Physical attractiveness
Studies reveal that women who are physically attractive, when compared to women who
are not as attractive, tend to marry men with higher incomes and higher occupational
status (Buss, 2004). Women invest time and energy in enhancing their physical
appearance in response to males‘ preference for attractiveness. Several studies confirm
that character traits in a potential husband, such as loyalty, kindness and dependability,
are more strongly emphasised by women than physical attractiveness (Buss, 2004;
Buss & Schmitt, 1993; Scheib, 2005).
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2.9.3.4 Rival strategies
Rival strategies and tactics used by women aim to degrade their rivals by, for example,
calling the rival promiscuous and commenting negatively on their physical appearance.
These tactics and comments contravene the long-term partner preferences a man holds
dear and render the rival less attractive to men (Buss & Dedden, 1990).
Kenrick and Trost (1997) note the deceptive mating strategies used by both sexes to
deceive the competitor and the potential partners. Both genders deceive others in terms
of characteristics that are valued by the opposite sex. Women enhance their physical
appearance while men exaggerate their resources or dominance. Finally, these authors
claim that women use passive deceptive techniques whereas men employ active
deceptive techniques.
When in a relationship the criteria for rivalry change: research shows that universally
men are more concerned when there is a threat of their partner engaging in sexual
infidelity (linked to uncertainty regarding paternity) whereas women are more concerned
when there is a threat of their partner engaging in emotional infidelity (linked to higher
likelihood of loss of love, commitment and resources) (Buss, 2000).
2.9.3.5 Sexual strategies
Buss (2003) advocates that sexual strategies represent adaptive and evolved solutions
and strategies to mating problems. Buss and Schmitt (1993) investigated the gender
differences between short and long-term sexual strategies and found that men were
more orientated towards short-term strategies when compared to women, while women
were more orientated towards long-term strategies. Although men have developed the
sexual strategy of propagating widely, sexual encounters require two people: therefore
the number of sexual encounters must be the same for both sexes. This led
evolutionary psychologists to deduce the universality of infidelity: they postulate that
men engage in sexual infidelity to maximise their chances of bearing children whereas
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women engage in infidelity for emotional reasons, for example, to benefit from mate
insurance – a back up replacement in case of the possible loss of her regular partner
(Buss, 2000; Fisher, 2000).
Therefore it would seem that both males and females adopt long or short term sexual
strategies depending on the reproductive benefits versus the reproductive costs (Buss &
Schmitt, 1993; Fisher 2000; Kirkpatrick, 1999). Two major sexual strategies are the
―domestic bliss strategy‖ and the ―he-man strategy‖ (Lampert, 1997). A long-term mating
strategy which involves the female encouraging greater devotion, assistance, protection
and greater parental investment from the male is known as the ―domestic bliss
strategy‖. A short-term mating strategy which is adopted by both sexes in order to avoid
fear of desertion in females and paternal uncertainty in males is known as the ―he-man
strategy‖. In a short-term mating strategy she seeks the best sperm (best genetic
material) whereas he does not bother with paternity because his investment is merely
the sperm with no other parental obligation. David Buss (2000) adds the ―sexy sons‖
dimension to this short-term strategy used by women. The ―sexy sons strategy‖ is a
short-term mating strategy used by women who engage in sexual relations with a sexy
man so that women bear sexy sons who in turn gain ultimate reproductive success by
attracting an above average number of women. Buss (2000) remarks that some women
adopt both the ―domestic bliss strategy‖ and the ―sexy sons strategy‖. Research shows
that these women marry a devoted and resourceful man and then conduct an
extramarital affair with a sexy man. According to research, these women furthermore
tend to have sexual intercourse during their ovulation, thus increasing the chances of
conception and ensuring superior genetic material from the sexy man. Similarly Lampert
(1997) observes that many men also adopt a dual strategy. Men will invest, commit and
devote themselves to their families, thus conforming to the long-term ―domestic bliss
strategy‖, and simultaneously seek short-term clandestine extramarital satisfaction in
order to satisfy their strategy for sexual variety. She clarifies that the dominant strategy
in humans for both sexes is the former strategy: the ―domestic bliss strategy‖.
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Perhaps attachment theory would disagree with the evolutionary explanation of sexual
strategies being merely an adaptive mechanism to reproduction. Instead, its proponents
may argue that the sexual strategy an individual would adopt would be dependent on
their attachment style. A secure attachment style would tend to endorse the long-term
―domestic bliss strategy‖ when compared to the insecurely attached, whereas the
insecurely attached would tend to endorse the short term ―he-man strategy‖ and ―sexy
sons strategy‖ when compared to the securely attached. Schmitt et al. (2004)
investigated 17 804 participants from 62 cultural regions and established that individuals
who used a dismissing romantic attachment style were most closely associated with
short-term mating practices.
Fisher (1998, 2000) offers a biologically driven evolutionary answer to sexual strategies.
She proposed that humans exhibit three emotion-motivation systems for mating
reproduction and parenting: 1) sex drive / lust, 2) romantic attraction / love and 3) male-
female attachment. Each unique system is associated with different reproductive
behaviours. She explains that although these systems are linked they can operate
independently too – including neural independence. She hypothesised that over many
years these systems evolved to operate independently so that human beings developed
‗human mating flexibility‘. According to Fisher (1998, 2000) this adaptation ensures that
humans command a range of human mating and reproductive strategies from which
they can draw simultaneously: serial or sustained monogamy or ―domestic bliss
strategy‖ as well as clandestine romance and/ or "extra-pair" copulations / ―he-man
strategy‖ / ―sexy sons strategy‖.
Fisher (1998, 2000) theorised that each unique emotion-motivation system has evolved
independently to solve different reproductive challenges. Each emotion-motivation
system possesses its unique constellation of brain and neural circuits, neurotransmitters
and or hormones, and behavioural correlates (Fisher, 1998, 2000; Fisher, Aron,
Mashek, Li & Brown, 2002). Firstly, the sex drive is generally associated with estrogens
and androgens and it evolved to motivate humans to seek sexual gratification through a
range of sexual partners. Secondly, the attraction system or romantic love is associated
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mostly with high levels of the catecholamines, dopamine and norepinephrine, and low
levels of the indoleamine and serotonin, in the brain. This emotion-motivated system
evolved to facilitate preferred mate selection and to pursue specific mates. Finally, the
attachment system is primarily associated with neuropeptides, oxytocin and vasopressin
and evolved to encourage humans to sustain relationships long enough to ensure
survival of offspring. Bartels and Zeki (2000, 2004) support Fisher (1998, 2000) and
Fisher et al.‘s (2002) hypotheses to some extent. Bartels and Zeki (2000, 2004)
compared the neural correlates of maternal and romantic love using functional magnetic
resonance imaging (fMRI) to measure brain activity. They found that areas that were
abundant in oxytocin and vasopressin receptors were activated by both attachment
types: some regions were common to both types of attachment; while others were
specific to maternal attachment and romantic attachment respectively. They conclude:
―human attachment employs a push–pull mechanism that overcomes social distance by
deactivating networks used for critical social assessment and negative emotions, while
it bonds individuals through the involvement of the reward circuitry, explaining the power
of love to motivate and exhilarate‖ (Bartels & Zeki, 2004, p. 1155).
Another sexual strategy was described by Simpson and Gangestad (1992) who found
that sociosexuality is linked to mate selection. Individuals with a restricted sociosexual
orientation seek and prefer romantic partners who demonstrate exclusivity and
investment, whereas individuals with an unrestricted sociosexual orientation seek and
prefer romantic partners who are physically and socially attractive. If the above findings
are compared, there seems to be a correlation between sociosexual orientation and
sexual strategies. On the one hand long-term sexual strategies, the ―domestic bliss
strategy‖ and restricted sociosexual orientation seem to be similar while on the other
hand short-term sexual strategies, the ―he-man strategy‖ and unrestricted sociosexual
orientation appear to be similar.
Hazan and Diamond (2000) question the assumptions, methodology and interpretation
of evolutionary studies. They contend that the samples used to support the evolutionary
stance are young adults who are asked to identify qualities that they consider to be
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important in eventual mate selection. They argue that although evolutionary
psychologists propose that physical attractiveness is valued by men and resources are
valued by women, this, however, does not correspond strongly to actual mate selection.
Understanding, kindness and intelligence are the highest ranking qualities for both
sexes – these attributes are more reflective of what is desirable in attachment figures.
Evolutionary psychologists would argue that love and therefore attachment is an
adaptive mechanism that was evolved to ensure survival and reproduction (Buss, 2000;
Mellen, 1981).
To conclude, as regards trying to distinguish the differences between genders
concerning mate preferences Blasi and Bjorklund (2003) contend that, instead of
choosing an ‗either / or‘ argument, possibly an inclusive argument would be more
fruitful. They argue that decades of empirical studies have indisputably shown that
humans are not blank slates at birth but that their perception, cognition and social and
emotional behaviour are constrained by biological influences. These authors stress that
there is substantial plasticity in human development and that human nature is complexly
refracted by the many layers of circumstance and cultural inheritance through which it
passes.
2.9.4 Criticisms of evolutionary psychology
The application of evolutionary psychology to explain human behaviour in the social and
behavioural sciences has been met with spirited resistance on the one hand and
strongly defended on the other (Blasi & Bjorklund, 2003; Caporael, 2001). Evolutionary
psychology is fervently presented by its proponents as the metatheory which will
encompass and integrate all the subdisciplines of psychology (Boyer & Heckhausen,
2000; Buss, 2004; Buss, 1995; Kenrick, 1995; Kenrick & Trost, 1997). Kirkpatrick (1999,
p. 257) highlights the point that ―evolutionary psychology is inherently interdisciplinary.
This is perhaps both its greatest strength and its greatest practical challenge‖.
Panksepp and Panksepp (2000) contend that ―modern evolutionary psychology is
currently pursuing a rash course of over-interpretation of the human condition, simply
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because the inclusive-fitness idea is so tremendously compelling‖. Caporael (2001)
concurs with Panksepp and Panksepp (2000) and argues that although evolutionary
psychology generally holds promise for the study of the human mind and behaviour, the
inclusive fitness theory is too narrow to function as a unifying theoretical role. Freese
and Powell (2001) confess that they are ―interested in the application of evolutionary
reasoning to sociological problems, but simultaneously they are much more agnostic
and sceptical about how important Darwinian approaches will eventually prove for
sociology‖ (p. 1776).
For McNally (2003), critics of evolutionary psychology fall into two groups: the
creationists and the scientists. The creationists, he says, deny the facts of evolution and
are not taken seriously by reputable biologists. The scientists, he says, question
whether the evolutionary framework provides much in the way of testable hypotheses
about human psychology – their objections being scientific as well as political.
Four of the most common charges against evolutionary psychology are: genetic
determinism, panadaptationism, post-hoc and unfalsifiable hypotheses, and proximate
explanations. Kurzban (2002) argues against these charges, as indicated below:
He defends against the first charge of genetic determinism by explaining that from
the evolutionary point of view, humans are not genetically determined but rather are
designed to develop, adapt, learn and behave in ways that are dependent on
environmental influences, thus suggesting flexibility in humans rather than
determinism.
His defence against the second charge of panadaptationism is that evolutionary
psychologists do not believe that everything must be explained in reference to its
adaptive features in an evolutionary environment. He points out that the evolutionary
process not only produces adaptations but also by-products of adaptations and
random effects.
He defends against the third charge of post-hoc and unfalsifiable hypotheses by
emphasising that evolutionary psychologists generate testable hypotheses by
utilising limited knowledge about the past. ―To claim that an evolutionary hypothesis
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is unfalsifiable is to claim that there is no evidence that one could gather to support
or refute the hypothesis, which is simply not true‖ (Kurzban 2002, p. 100). Others
disagree with Kurzban (2002). According to Grace (2001) an example of a valid
criticism is Rose's (2000) strong reservation concerning the legitimacy of
evolutionary psychology's scientific assumptions: ―For those conscious that scholars
of prehistory work with highly fragmentary evidence, from shards of bones, fossils
and very occasionally entire bodies ... the belief that late twentieth-century people
can know the human psychological architecture of our early ancestors with any
degree of certainty and accuracy is difficult to take seriously‖ (p. 141).
Kurzban concedes and agrees with the fourth charge of proximate explanations
but reframes it as a virtue by emphasising that evolutionary psychologists favour a
more comprehensive explanation of behaviour and thus provide clarification at both
the proximate and the ultimate levels.
According to Larsen and Buss (2002), at this point evolutionary psychology faces a
number of crucial limitations. Firstly, evolutionary scientists are forced to make
inferences about the past because no precise knowledge exists about past
environments and past selection criteria. Secondly, evolutionary scientists have only
just started gaining a relatively superficial understanding of the nature, details and
design features of evolved psychological mechanisms (e.g. understanding how jealousy
manifests). Thirdly, ancestral conditions are vastly different from modern conditions;
thus what was adaptive in the past may not be adaptive in the present. Fourthly,
evolutionary psychologists seem to easily come up with diverse and opposing
evolutionary hypotheses for the same phenomenon. Instead, it is critical that they
render their hypotheses in a suitably precise manner so that empirical predictions and
data have to be used to evaluate, support or negate a hypothesis. Finally, evolutionary
hypotheses can be vague and untestable, therefore unfalsifiable. Caporael (2001)
suggests that ―the future of evolutionary psychology requires problem centred,
interdisciplinary research, both to solve problems within the discipline and to negotiate
the boundaries of practice where subject and object and science and society are
unavoidably intertwined‖ (p. 622).
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Evolutionary psychology seems to negate the higher order human goals and purposes
evident in Maslow‘s hierarchy of needs triangle – needs such as self actualisation.
Nowadays human beings love in many ways and in many combinations: some couples
elect not to have children, while others are homosexual and do not reproduce, thus
making the evolutionary model not globally generalisable. Kenrick and Trost (1997)
argue that it is still too premature to claim that homosexuality is genetically maladaptive.
2.9.5 Conclusion
Evolutionary psychology has seen enormous growth over the last fifteen years or so.
Researchers argue that if evolutionary psychology is ignored, it will prevent
psychologists from appreciating any potential insights and gains the field has to offer
(Blasi & Bjorklund, 2003; Kurzban, 2002). Harris and Pashler (1995) agree that although
evolutionary thinking contributions are important, that evolutionary psychology cannot
transform the field of psychology but instead merely informs it. In other words it is just
another lens through which to gain a broader understanding of the human being; a
useful set of theoretical tools to help in the understanding of love, mating and
procreating.
If evolutionary psychologists are to be believed, love is not mystical, complex,
mysterious or unknowable (Buss, 1988, 2000, 2003, 2004; Lampert, 1997; Mellen,
1981). Instead evolutionary psychologists believe that love is purely an evolutionarily
developed biological and psychological mechanism and strategy which ensures the best
possible mate selection that aims to guarantee optimal reproductive success. They
believe it is through the lubrication of the adaptive function of love that procreation,
which is said to be the heart of the evolutionary game, is achieved. Accordingly,
evolutionary psychology may challenge humans‘ idealistic view of love and soul mates.
Perhaps it would be prudent to listen to Graziano‘s (1995) advice and to ―listen to David
Buss‘s evolutionary music for some time before we try to dance to it‖ (p. 43).
Nonetheless, evolutionary psychology provides yet another viewpoint that can be used
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to gain insight into and understanding of the complex subject of love and intimate
relationships. And, as previously stated, adherence to one explanation does not
necessarily negate another: instead it adds another piece to the overall puzzle of love.
The final and central puzzle piece in quest to understand love is the typology of Lee‘s
colours of love; this is explored next.
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2.10 Lee‘s Lovestyles
―There is hardly any activity, any enterprise,
which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations
and yet which fails so regularly as love.‖
(Erich Fromm)
2.10.1 Introduction
A Canadian sociologist, John Alan Lee (1988, p. 42), believes that there are ―several
ideologies of loving‖. He utilised existing fictional literature, historical observers who did
not adopt a fictional approach (e.g. Plato and Castiglione) and extensive interviews to
develop a unique and multidimensional theoretical typology of love. The participants in
the interviews were Canadian and English subjects who were asked, via the ―Love Story
Card Sort‖ instrument, about their experiences of love (Lee, 1988). Lee (1976, 1988)
classified and categorised his love data by means of complex reduction techniques to
construct his six lovestyles which he presented as his ―Colours of love theory‖.
Lee (1976, 1988) explains love via the analogy of colours. Although Lee‘s (1976)
lovestyle typology isolates six core lovestyles, Lee (1976) believes that the numbers of
colours of love are as many as the possible combinations and mixtures of different
colour pantones. His colour wheel, represented in Table 2.6 and diagrammatically in
Figure 2.5, contains three primary and three secondary features. The three primary
lovestyles are labelled as: Eros, the romantic, passionate love, Ludus, the game-
playing love, and Storge, the friendship love (Lee, 1976). In Lee‘s view (1976) the
secondary lovestyles or colours were born out of a blending of each pair of these
primary lovestyles. Lee (1988) says that the new blended or secondary lovestyles will
gain qualities that the original two colours or lovestyles did not possess and lose
qualities that the two original colours or lovestyles did have. The secondary lovestyles –
Mania, Pragma and Agape – occur as a result of blending the primary lovestyles.
Mania, the possessive, dependent love stems from the blending of Eros and Ludus.
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The blending of Ludus and Storge results in Pragma, logical, "shopping list" love. The
all-giving, selfless love of Agape results from the blending of Storge and Eros (Lee,
1976). Lee‘s (1976) colour wheel is representative of the six lovestyles and their
corresponding colours:
Table 2.6 Lee‟s lovestyle colour classification
Classification Lovestyle Names Blends Colour Analogy
Primary Eros red
Ludus blue
Storge yellow
Secondary Mania ludic eros violet
Pragma storgic ludic green
Agape storgic eros orange
Figure 2.5 Lee‟s (1976) colour wheel
Derived from Lee‘s (1976) ‗Colours of Love‘.
PRAGMA
AGAPE
MANIA
EROS
LUDUS
STORGE
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Lee (1976, 1988) states that just as one colour is not superior to another, so too is one
lovestyle not superior to another lovestyle. Hendrick (2004) concurs that lovestyles are
merely individual preferences and neither right nor wrong. Lee (1988) maintains that
most people display different degrees of all of the lovestyles but generally an individual
will follow a predominant lovestyle. He also says that at any given time an individual
may have two different preferences in lovestyle. According to Lee (1976), an individual
may, over the course of their life, even change their predominant lovestyle. Mallandain
and Davies (1994) suggest that lovestyles refer to types of relationships rather than
types of people. They explain that in one relationship the individual may exhibit the
ludus lovestyle while in another the same individual may exhibit mainly the eros
lovestyle. Having said this, Lee (1976) advocates that within enduring relationships an
individual‘s lovestyle is comparatively stable.
2.10.2 The lovestyle typology
Lee‘s (1976) six core lovestyles will be examined in more detail below.
2.10.2.1 Primary lovestyle: Eros
―If two people who have been strangers, as all of us are,
suddenly let the wall between them break down,
and feel close, feel one, this moment of oneness is one
of the most exhilarating, most exciting experiences in life.‖
(Fromm, 1956)
A sudden and potent attraction to the physical appearance of the partner is what
primarily characterises the eros lovestyle (Lee, 1976). Erotic lovers realise that they
desire a very specific and rare physical type of person. It is because of this that they
describe experiencing instant recognition and ‗love at first sight‘, when they do meet
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their ideal beloved (Lee, 1976). For Lee (1976) when this happens the erotic lover
becomes intensely excited and will experience an urgent desire to be sexually and
emotionally intimate with the beloved in order to establish whether the beloved is the
authentic ideal or only an illusion. According to Lee (1976, p. 15) ‖physical attraction
serves as the driving force toward psychological rapport in erotic love‖. In an attempt to
achieve a close and intimate relationship with the beloved, the erotic lover will want to
see and or speak to the beloved daily and will express open, intense and passionate
feelings toward the beloved (Lee, 1976). Lee (1976) found that the erotic lover struggles
to tolerate long periods of separation from their beloved because they rely on physical
expression throughout the relationship. Although the erotic lover is passionate about the
beloved, love does not make them blind; they are aware of the beloved‘s strengths and
weaknesses (Lee, 1976).
Erotic lovers describe having experienced a happy childhood. They possess the ability
to risk, display strong ego strength, are self confident, self assured, social and stable
with high self esteem (Lee, 1976). Not only is the ideal rare but once the beloved is
found, the eros lovestyle demands of both partners ―rapid disclosure of self, early sexual
experience, honesty of emotion and intensity of feelings‖; consequently eros is a tough
lovestyle with high expectations (Lee, 1976, p. 37). Lee (1988) reports that although
some erotic lovers maintain the purely intense passionate lovestyle of eros, usually the
eros lovestyle will adjust to accommodate a fusion of eros and storge, resulting in a
more tranquil companionship type of lovestyle.
2.10.2.2 Primary lovestyle: Ludus
On the opposite continuum of the erotic lover we find the ludic lover who is aware of
beauty but holds to no beloved ideal (Lee, 1988). The ludic lover understands love as a
playful noncommittal game and he / she plays the love game according to rules and
strategies which include detachment, sweet talk, wit, bashfulness and gallantry (Lee,
1976, 1988). The primary aim of the ludic lover is to play, have fun and enjoy the game,
not merely to bed the partner (Lee, 1976). They do not demand nor expect exclusivity
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from their partners and nor do they guarantee exclusivity; instead they are often
pluralistic and play the game of love with several partners simultaneously (Lee, 1976).
Lee (1988) asserts that some ludic lovers play the love game openly, informing the
partner of other partners while others play the game of love with deception, feigning
loyalty and commitment.
The game requires ludic lovers to be socially confident, self assured, charming and
‗creative listeners‘ Lee (1976, 1988). However, contradictory to the erotic lover, the
psychological composition of the ludic lover‘s confidence and self assurance is not
necessarily based on strong ego strength because he does not risk bearing his
weaknesses or becoming dependent (Lee, 1976). Instead, the ludic lover, by playing
and avoiding or controlling intensity of feeling, circumvents the risk of love, not bearing
his weaknesses or becoming dependent (Lee, 1976). Lee (1976) reports the ludic lovers
describe experiencing an average childhood and although they cope successfully with
adult life, they are often frustrated in accomplishing their goals. Although according to
Lee (1976) most individuals at some point in their lives will be a ludic lover, only a
minority of the population maintain it as their dominant lovestyle. While most individuals
who do maintain the ludus lovestyle as their dominant lovestyle are male, there are
female ludic lovers too (Lee, 1976).
2.10.2.3 Primary lovestyle: Storge
When a slow developing friendship grows naturally over time through the mutual
enjoyment of shared interests and activities and it matures into a committed love, it is
known as the storge (pronounced stor-gay) lovestyle (Lee, 1976). Lee (1976) describes
this love as ‗unexciting‘ and ‗uneventful‘ and although storgic love is not a passionate,
intense and dramatic love it has the advantage of being a calm, companionate,
comfortable love with a built up reserve of stability (Lee, 1976). Because the pace and
purpose of storgic love differs a good deal from the other lovestyles, Lee (1976) advises
that storgic lovers should be with lovers who are also storgic in order to circumvent
difficulties. Storgic lovers are able to endure and tolerate long periods of separations
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from their beloved because there is minimum or no anxiety, impulsiveness and urgency
in the slow-burning, hardy, storgic love (Lee, 1976). Contrary to erotic lovers, storgic
lovers do not consciously choose a beloved nor do they expect an ideal physical type of
their beloved (Lee, 1976, 1988). Both storgic and erotic love are interdependent love:
the erotic interdependence is intimate and candid, whereas the storgic interdependence
is mediated by shared interests and activities (Lee, 1976).
Storgic lovers describe having enjoyed happy and secure childhoods, close
relationships with their siblings and often report coming from large families (Lee, 1976).
Storgic lovers, according to Lee (1976), are self-assured and express their ego strength
as ―a patient and generous trust in the basic decency of people‖ (p. 81). Lee (1976)
says that even though storgic lovers are reserved and uncomfortable with displays of
emotion, they are not devoid of emotion: ―the storgic lover believes that true love is a
deep feeling of respect, concern, compassion and solicitude‖ (p. 79).
2.10.2.4 Secondary lovestyle: Mania – eros and ludus blend
Obsessive, insatiable and intense emotional involvement, often with a beloved that they
do not even like, is characteristic of the manic lovestyle (Lee, 1976, 1988). Unlike the
erotic lover, the manic lover does not possess the self confidence to decide on their
ideal type of beloved and therefore the passionate, intimate union of the eros lovestyle,
for which they yearn, remains elusive (Lee, 1976). Similar to the ludic lover, the manic
lover believes almost anyone will do; however, unlike the ludic lover, the manic lover is
unable to be detached and let go (Lee, 1976). Deep feelings of insufficiency,
incompleteness haunt the manic lover. As a result they depend a great deal on the
beloved for their self-worth and often end up choosing an unsuitable partner onto whom
they project the qualities they believe they lack in themselves (Lee, 1976, 1988).
Because they are doubtful of their own desirability and lovability, they become intensely
and possessively preoccupied with the beloved (Lee 1976). Therefore it is not surprising
that manic lovers struggle to endure or tolerate even short periods of separations from
their beloved (Lee, 1976).
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Manic lovers describe unhappy childhoods, having no close friends; being on poor
terms with their parents, or having none at all; living alone and being dissatisfied and
discontented with their jobs and their lives as adults (Lee, 1976, 1988). As a result of
this discontentment, loneliness and low self-esteem, the manic lover displays a
desperate need to be in love (Lee, 1976, 1988). Mania is difficult to sustain and
predictably has an unhappy ending. Although the manic lover takes months or even
years to recover, they report that the manic love experience had benefited them in some
way (Lee, 1976). Lee (1988) asserts that although mania is inclined to be the first
lovestyle of young people, most people learn, after one or two experiences of mania,
that another lovestyle is preferable. However, those who continue to suffer from low
self-esteem and loneliness sometimes become addicted to the ‗anguish of mania‘ and
thus repeat the pattern of obsessive love again and again (Lee, 1976, p. 111).
2.10.2.5 Secondary lovestyle: Pragma – ludus and storge blend
A pragmatic, logical, practical, common sense outlook to love is what characterises the
pragma lovestyle (Lee, 1976, 1988). Similar to erotic lovers, pragmatic lovers have a
clear sense of their ideal type of beloved. However, unlike the erotic lover the pragma
lover‘s ideal beloved is defined by a careful, deliberate and calculated ‗shopping list‘ of
social and personal criteria. He / she does this to ensure compatibility and a workable
marriage partner who fits neatly into the pragma lover‘s social milieu (Lee, 1976). The
pragma lover is not devoid of feeling, but rather, does not rely on feelings to choose his
beloved; instead the pragmatic lover consciously sorts and deliberately weighs each
potential candidate‘s present assets, future potential and family background for the
position of the beloved (Lee, 1976). Similar to the ludic lover, the pragma lover is
detached, calculated, controlled and deliberate in the weighing of beloved alternatives
but unlike the ludic lover the pragma lover does so with the aim of finding the ideal
beloved and being in a committed, compatible and satisfying relationship (Lee, 1976).
His / her seeking to resolve differences through commitment and common interests is
analogous to the storgic lover lovestyle (Lee, 1976). According to Lee (1976), pragma
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relationships are the most enduring of all lovestyles because of the deliberate weighing
of ‗odds‘ when choosing the beloved.
2.10.2.6 Secondary lovestyle: Agape – eros and storge blend
An altruistic, dutiful, giving and selfless approach to love characterises the agape
lovestyle (Lee, 1976, 1988). Since agapic love is indicative of will rather than emotion;
head rather than heart; the agapic lover is able to be deeply compassionate and,
regardless of benefits or difficulties, is able to give the gift of love without any
expectation of reciprocity (Lee, 1976). According to Lee (1976, 1988), agape is the
rarest lovestyle and because of the agapic duty to love even in the absence of loving
feelings, he questions whether humans are in fact capable of this type of love. Since the
agapic lover controls emotions and ensures that reason and obligation rule above
desire and emotion he/she may appear to be similar to the ludic lover. However, the
intentions of each do not coincide: where the ludic lover controls emotional investment
to avoid commitment, the agapic lover does so in order to commit (Lee, 1976). Agapic
love is portrayed by Lee (1976) as a non-sexual love so that sexual gratification is
perceived as self-sacrifice. Agape, being a blend of eros and storge, gains its intensity
and power from eros and neighbourliness and sexual reticence from storge (Lee, 1976).
The new and unique agapic quality that is birthed from this blending ―is the idea of love
as a commanded obligation‖ (Lee, 1976, p.164).
2.10.3 Lovestyle combinations
The different lovestyles portray how someone loves (Lee, 1976). When considering the
pairing of two individual‘s lovestyles, Lee (1976) indicated that as with the blending of
two colours, the couple‘s lovestyles should match in order to blend compatibly (Lee,
1976; Rudnick, 1997). Lee‘s (1988) ‗rule of proximity‘ maintains that the closer the
lovestyles are on the colour wheel, the more similar their definitions of love; the more
mutual the love and thus the more compatible. Lee (1988), however, cautions the
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reader, noting that mutual, satisfying love does not necessarily mean lasting or
satisfying love.
Although couples with the same lovestyle are very compatible, in time this couple may
find the relationship too agreeable and thus boring (Lee, 1976, 1988). Even though
pragma and storge lovestyles are next to each other on the colour wheel, they do not
hold mutual definitions of love; however, they have enough in common to experience a
fulfilling and rewarding relationship. There are, however, exceptions to the proximity rule
(Lee, 1976). According to Lee (1976), although mania and ludus are next to each on the
colour wheel because of their opposing definitions of love, they will never reach mutual
love. The manic partner strives to create dependency and closeness while the ludic
partner aims to create independence and distance (Lee, 1976). Having said that,
research shows these two lovestyles have an interesting but rather unhappy ‗fatal
attraction‘ for one another. The nature of the ludus lover compels him to create
difficulties and distance in love and because of the nature of the manic lover, the more
difficult the love, the more intensely they love. The ludic lover is simultaneously
overwhelmed by the manic lover‘s intensity and also flattered by the manic lover‘s
zealous devotion. Therefore each serves the other‘s needs in some way, it seems.
2.10.4 Research and lovestyles
Lasswell and Lasswell (1976) were the first to attempt to measure Lee‘s lovestyles.
They did so by developing a 50-item true-false questionnaire and although they did not
report any of the detail of the data analyses, they found that each of the six lovestyles
were distinguishable from each other (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Lee, 1988). Studies
carried out thereafter suggested that either Lee‘s theory was to a degree incorrect or
that the measuring instruments used, such as the Lasswell and Lasswell (1976)
instrument, were not measuring the theory correctly (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986).
Because of the inconsistencies in the findings and because they perceived Lee‘s (1976)
Colours of Love theory to be an all encompassing theory of love, Hendrick and Hendrick
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(1986) were inspired to develop an instrument that would measure the lovestyles
correctly. They started with the Lasswells‘ scale and built on it: it underwent significant
revision and refinement until they developed the Love Attitude Scale (LAS). When they
tested the LAS instrument they found Lee‘s Colours of Love theory to be viable and that
the six lovestyles were factorially distinct. The LAS consists of seven items per lovestyle
with 42 items in total and a 5-point Likert-type scale ranging from strongly disagree (1)
to strongly agree (5) (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986). Much worldwide research has been
conducted using the LAS and it has produced various interesting findings in the realm of
life stages, personality and relationship satisfaction. It has also elucidated gender and
cultural differences.
2.10.4.1 Lovestyles and family life stages
The differences in the endorsement of lovestyles over four family life stages, were
researched by Montgomery and Sorell (1997). Comparing single people and married
people, they found single people held the stronger manic and ludic attitudes and the
weakest agapic attitudes. Only in the single group, did they find that the ludus lovestyle
was not associated with low relationship satisfaction. This may be the case if both
partners have adopted the ludic lovestyle but it seems unlikely that there would be high
relationship satisfaction if the one partner was ludic and the other was erotic. More often
than not individuals who were low on pragmatic attitudes and higher erotic, agapic and
storgic attitudes were married couples with children. These authors established that
erotic and agapic attitudes correlated positively with relationship satisfaction which is
reflective of previous findings (Hendrick, Hendrick & Adler, 1988; Montgomery & Sorell,
1997). Although they differ in intimate behaviours and relationship beliefs, men and
women are similar in their love attitudes across life stages – both sexes endorse
romance, passion (eros), friendship (storge) and self-giving (agape) love attitudes
across adulthood (Montgomery & Sorell, 1997).
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2.10.4.2 Lovestyles and personality
Much fascinating research has been undertaken into the link between lovestyles and
personality aspects. Researchers have found that self-esteem has been positively
related to eros and negatively to mania, storge and agape (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986;
Mallandain & Davies, 1994). Cho and Cross‘s (1995) cross-cultural research, on a
Taiwanese sample, replicated these findings to some extent. They established that
Romantic and Considerate Love (i.e. a combination of eros and agape), Friendship
Love (i.e. a combination of eros and storge) and Calculated Love (i.e. a combination of
pragma and ludus) were positively correlated with self esteem.
Mallandain and Davies (1994) reported that emotionality was negatively correlated
with eros and positively correlated with mania and ludus. Self-disclosure was positively
related to and eros negatively related to ludus (Miller, Berg & Archer, 1983) while
sensation seeking was positively related to ludus (Richardson, Medvin & Hammock,
1988).
White (2003) reported that there were interesting correlations between lovestyles and
the major five personality variables. Neuroticism was positively related to ludus and
mania and negatively related to eros and storge. Extroversion was positively related to
eros and storge. Agreeableness was positively related to eros and negatively related to
ludus. Conscientiousness was positively related to eros, storge and pragma and
negatively related to ludus. Openness was negatively related to pragma, while agape
was not related to any personality factors.
The above findings and Rudnick‘s (1997) lovestyle and personality correlates are
summarised in Table 2.7 below.
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Table 2.7 Lovestyles and personality correlates
Style Personality Characteristic
Eros High self-esteem, extroversion, self-disclosing, agreeableness,
conscientiousness; low on emotionality, neuroticism
Ludus High sensation seeking, extroversion, emotionality, impulsivity, neuroticism; low
on self-disclosing, agreeableness, conscientiousness
Storge Low self-esteem, neuroticism; high extroversion, conscientiousness
Mania Low self-esteem; high neuroticism; emotionality, impulsivity
Pragma Low sensation seeking, openness; high conscientiousness
Agape Low self-esteem
A study done by White, Hendrick and Hendrick (2004) with regards to gender,
personality variables and lovestyles, established similar but more layered and detailed
findings. Neuroticism was positively correlated with manic females, ludic men and
agapic females, but negatively correlated with storgic, agapic and erotic males.
Extraversion was positively correlated with eros. Agreeableness was positively
correlated with erotic males yet negatively correlated with ludic males.
Conscientiousness was positively correlated with storgic and agape males, erotic,
storgic and pragmatic males and females but negatively correlated with ludic males and
females. Openness was negatively correlated with pragmatic and ludic males. Previous
studies (Fehr & Broughton, 2001; Lester & Philbrick; 1988; Middleton as cited in White
et al., 2004; Woll, 1989) support these findings.
2.10.4.3 Lovestyles and relationship satisfaction
Davis and Latty-Mann (1987) attempted to uncover the relationship between the six
aspects of relationship quality (viability, intimacy, care, passion, satisfaction and
conflict/ambivalence) and Lee‘s (1976) six lovestyles. Individuals reported that eros and
agape were positively related to relationship quality whereas ludus was negatively
related.
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A study by Hendrick et al. (1988) supported Davis and Latty-Mann‘s (1987) findings.
They established that both genders felt more satisfied in their relationship the more eros
they were but the less satisfied the more ludus they were. They also found that the less
satisfied women felt in their relationship, the more manic they were. Finally they
discovered "couples who remained together were more erotic, less ludic, more
disclosing, higher in self-esteem, higher in commitment, higher in investment, and
higher in relationship satisfaction than were the couples breaking up" (Hendrick et al.,
1988, p. 986).
Sokolski and Hendrick (1999) in a more recent study confirmed the above findings and
add their own: eros, storge and agape were positively associated with relationship
satisfaction while ludus was negatively associated with satisfaction. In addition they
established support for Lee‘s (1976) theory that a higher degree of mutual love will exist
between the more similar lovestyles. Finally they reported that marital partners
evidenced strong similarity on most of the lovestyles; especially eros, ludus, storge and
pragma.
In a cross-cultural study carried out by Contreras et al. (1996), utilising Anglo American
and Mexican American couples, the respondents alleged that eros or ―passionate love
was the most consistent predictor of marital satisfaction‖ (p. 412). A study undertaken
with 54 White South African couples found that the more eros and agape a partner was,
and the less ludus a partner was, the more satisfying the relationship (Rudnick, 1997).
In addition, Rudnick (1997) reported that similar types of lovestyles reported a more
satisfying relationship.
In sum, relationship satisfaction research, when comparing lovestyles, suggests that
when partners display similar types of lovestyles and when the individual was more
eros, agape or storge and less ludus, relationship satisfaction was more likely.
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2.10.4.4 Lovestyles and gender
Interesting and fairly consistent findings have emerged from studies that correlate
lovestyles and gender. Women were found to be more storge, pragma and mania
orientated than men whereas men were found to be more ludus or game-playing than
women (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Morrow, Clark & Brock, 1995; Yancy & Berglass,
1991). Similar findings were reported by Dion and Dion (1993a): women are more
storge and pragma in their style of loving and less permissive or ludic than men. These
gender dissimilarities correspond with the evolutionary claim regarding mate selection:
men are more permissive and aim to disperse their sexual investment but women are
more selective and aim to concentrate their sexual investment (Buss & Schmitt, 1993).
Fairly recent research by Hendrick, Hendrick and Dicke (1998) indicated that women
endorse erotic love more than men while men endorse agapic love more than women.
This too may be reflective of the evolutionary perspective: women look for her partner‘s
level of commitment to her and her offspring via the cue of love; and men believe
themselves to be agapic because instead of giving into the evolutionary desire to enjoy
sexual variety, they sacrifice that and show commitment to one partner by making sure
that reason and obligation rule over desire and emotion. Even though Mallandain and
Davies (1994), unlike Hendrick and Hendrick (1986), did not discover any correlation
between women and pragma and mania they did confirm that females were higher than
males in storge and added that they were lower than males on agape. Females were
found to be more erotic, pragmatic and storgic as well as less ludic and agapic than
males (Rotenberg & Korol, 1995). A recent study undertaken by Lacey, Reifman, Scott,
Harris and Fitzpatrick (2004) confirmed similar findings: not only were men more ludic
than women but women also endorsed erotic and pragmatic attitudes more than men.
Cross-culture studies involving Angolan, Brazilian, Cape Verde, Macao, Mozambican,
Portuguese, Swiss and American respondents replicate the finding that men were
overall significantly higher than females on ludus and agape (Murstein et al., 1991;
Neto, 1994). Cho and Cross (1995) in contrast discovered in their Taiwanese study that
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men and women did not differ in the endorsement of the six lovestyles. They suggest
that this anomaly may perhaps be attributed to contemporary Taiwanese women
gaining equal status in intimate relationships and being therefore able to freely express
and act on their beliefs about love and marriage. This argument seems flawed because
in highly individualistic cultures where high levels of equality between the sexes exist,
gender differences in lovestyles still emerge. Perhaps the adapted lovestyle instrument
did not measure Taiwanese lovestyles in the same way as in an American sample. In
addition, the use of a small sample size (46 men and 50 women) suggests that one
should consider these findings as tentative and exploratory.
Anglo American and Mexican American (traditional and bicultural) couples participated
in a study conducted by Contreras et al. (1996). They found that the couples were
similar in passionate love (eros), friendship love (storge), and altruistic love (agape) with
only modest love and sexual attitude differences between the couples.
Sprecher et al. (1994) employed 1667 (male = 695 and female = 972) American,
Russian and Japanese students in their cross-cultural study on love. As with other
studies, men across all three cultures recorded a significantly higher score on agape
than women. Ludus, pragma and mania lovestyles were significant in the gender-by-
culture interaction. The researchers found that American women were more pragmatic
and manic than American men while American men were more ludic than American
women. Unpredictably, it was discovered that neither the Russian nor the Japanese
men were more ludic than their female counterparts. Russian women were found to be
more manic than Russian men and surprisingly, Japanese men were more manic than
Japanese women. Sprecher and Toro-Morn (2002) in a study comparing American (230
male and 456 female) and Chinese (352 male and 343 female) students established
that the only significant gender differences were in the American sample. American
women recorded significantly higher scores on eros while American men reported
significantly higher agapic and ludic scores.
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A study undertaken with 275 (138 male and 130 female) black South African university
students by Pavlou (2005) found that African men were significantly more agapic than
African women whereas African women were significantly more erotic and manic than
African men. Surprisingly, males who were deemed to be higher on the collectivistic
culture continuum showed a significant association with eros and pragma.
Neto (2007) found interesting collectivistic versus individualistic gender differences in a
study using 562 English, Portuguese (both individualistic cultures) and Indian
(collectivistic) students. He reported no gender differences in eros. Overall, men were
found to be more ludic than women. Indian and Portuguese men were more ludic than
their respective female peers. British women scored surprisingly high on ludus. This
may possibly be the case because they enjoy greater gender equality. Men were found
to be more agapic than women. Indian men were more storgic than their Indian female
peers as well as both British and Portuguese genders. Indian women were more manic
than their Indian male peers as well as both British and Portuguese men and women.
The above findings on lovestyle and gender preference endorsements are summarised
in Table 2.8 below.
Table 2.8 Lovestyles and gender
Style Gender
Male endorsements Female endorsements
Eros + ++++
Ludus ++++++++
Storge + ++++
Mania + +++++
Pragma + ++++
Agape ++++++++
The summarised findings above show that generally men are more ludic and agapic
than women whereas women are more erotic, storgic, manic and pragma than men.
This suggests that romantic love is experienced and perceived differently by males and
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females but that, at the same time, some unusual gender differences seem to be
reflective of culture specific beliefs, values and gender role differentiation. Neto et al.
(2000) contended, and supported with research, that the lovestyle factors which involve
strong personal feelings, for example, eros, mania and agape, were largely free of
cultural influences while the lovestyle factors that involve strict rules and regulations and
low affect, for example, ludus, storge and pragma, were dependent on cultural
influences. This is, however, not fully supported by some of the research findings
discussed above (Cho & Cross, 1995; Contreras et al., 1996).
2.10.4.5 Lovestyles and culture
The intersection between the research on lovestyles and culture is discussed in detail in
Chapter 4: Love and culture.
2.10.4.6 Lovestyles correlations with other theories
The endorsement of eros and agape was associated with higher levels of Rusbult‘s
(1983) rewards, satisfaction, investments and commitment and lower levels of cost and
poorer quality of alternatives. An endorsement of ludus demonstrated an opposite
association as regards Rusbult‘s (1983) variables (Morrow et al., 1995).
Hendrick and Hendrick (1989) found that of the six lovestyles only eros and agape were
positively correlated with secure attachment style (trusting and stable). Eros and agape
were also negatively correlated with avoidant attachment style (detached and
unresponsive). The opposite pattern was produced for ludus: negatively correlated with
secure attachment style and positively correlated with avoidant attachment style. They
also discovered that pragma was positively related to avoidant attachment style, while
mania was positively related to ambivalent attachment style (anxious and uncertain).
Williams and Schill (1994) supported the above to some degree when they found that
ludic women‘s attachment style was either anxious-ambivalent or avoidant.
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Hendrick and Hendrick (1989) considered the relationship between lovestyles and
Sternberg's (1986; 1988) triangular model of love. They report that eros, agape and
mania were positively correlated with intimacy, passion and commitment. Storge was
positively correlated with intimacy. On the other hand, ludus was negatively correlated
with all three components.
In a meta study Feeney (1999) evaluated the findings of various studies and reported
the following summary: 1) eros, agape, secure attachment and high levels of
Sternberg‘s intimacy, commitment and passion are associated; 2) ludus, avoidant
attachment and low levels of Sternberg‘s intimacy, commitment and passion are
associated; and 3) mania, anxious-ambivalent attachment and low levels of Sternberg‘s
intimacy, commitment and passion are associated. Feeney (1999) summarised these
findings from various studies that related attachment perspectives to other measures of
love in Table 2.9 below:
Table 2.9 Measures of love associated with the three major attachment styles
Measure Secure Avoidant Anxious-Ambivalent
Lee‟s
Lovestyles
Eros (passionate love),
agape (selfless love)
Ludus (game-playing
love)
Mania (possessive love)
Sternberg‟s
Components
of Love
High on intimacy,
passion and
commitment
Low on intimacy,
passion and
commitment
Low on intimacy, passion
and commitment
Higher-order
factors
High on self confidence
(high on self-esteem
and lack of self-
conscious anxiety with
partners); low on
avoidance of intimacy;
low on neurotic love
High on avoidance of
intimacy (high on
ludus and low on
eros, agape and
loving); low on self
confidence; low on
neurotic love
High on neurotic love
(high on preoccupation,
dependence and
idealisation);low on
circumspect love
(friendship, pragma); low
on self confidence; low on
avoidance of intimacy
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Derived from Feeney (1999).
In a recent study, Fricker (2006) used 312 adults in order to establish the relationship
between lovestyles, attachment styles and infidelity. She found that high scores on
avoidance were associated with high ludus, and low eros and agape levels. Anxious
attachment was positively correlated with mania. In addition she determined that an
avoidant attachment style and a ludus lovestyle were the most likely to engage in
extradyadic behaviour while the least likely to do so were those with the eros lovestyle.
These correlations between the attachment pattern and lovestyles confirmed the results
from previous studies (Feeney, 1999).
2.10.5 Conclusion on lovestyles
More than thirty years later, Lee‘s (1976) encompassing, multidimensional and
theoretically rich theory on love still inspires ongoing research. Research into
developing an instrument that would help establish the viability of the Colours of Love
theory and indeed whether the six central lovestyles were significantly distinctive and
relevant was initially undertaken (Lasswell & Lasswell, 1976; Hendrick & Hendrick,
1986). Once this was established, much research was conducted in an attempt to
uncover the relationship between lovestyles and various aspects of the human being:
family life stages (Hendrick et al., 1988; Montgomery & Sorell, 1997); personality
(Cho & Cross, 1995; Fehr & Broughton, 2001; Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Lester &
Philbrick; 1988; Mallandain & Davies, 1994; Middleton as cited in White et al., 2004;
Miller et al., 1983; Richardson et al., 1988; White, 2003; White et al., 2004; Woll, 1989);
relationship satisfaction (Contreras et al., 1996; Davis & Latty-Mann, 1987; Hendrick
et al., 1988; Rudnick, 1997; Sokolski & Hendrick, 1999); and gender (Dion & Dion,
1993a; Cho & Cross, 1995; Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Hendrick et al., 1998; Lacey et
al., 2004; Mallandain & Davies, 1994; Morrow et al., 1995; Murstein et al., 1991; Neto,
1994; Rotenberg & Korol, 1995; Yancy & Berglass, 1991).
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A flurry of cross-cultural research aimed at discovering how humans love universally
and culturally seems to be the order of the day at present; those studies will, however,
be discussed in the culture and love chapter of the study.
Finally, in order to gain a more complete jigsaw of the puzzle of love and how it
manifests in the human condition, researchers have attempted to discover the possible
commonalities and interrelationships between the various models and theories of love:
Rusbult‘s (1983) social exchange theory (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1989; Morrow et al.,
1995), attachment styles (Feeney, 1999; Hendrick & Hendrick, 1989; Williams & Schill,
1994) and Sternberg's (1986; 1988) triangular model of love (Feeney, 1999; Hendrick &
Hendrick, 1989).
Given all the data and knowledge gained from the review of the literature on love, it
seems possible not only to locate the separate love puzzle pieces into the beginnings of
a structure but also to tease out the intersections that appear to exist between the
various theories, models and types of love.
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2.11 The love theories‘ points of commonality and agreement
By applying the nature, nurture and societal argument to the love theories and models
one could possibly arrange the separate love puzzle pieces as follows:
The evolutionary perspective focuses on the nature argument: how inherited genetic
and adaptive biological mechanisms explain love, attachment and behaviour in romantic
relationships – for example, mate selection, male and female mate preferences,
patterns of childrearing and sexual strategies. Similarly the biological stance argues in
the same direction. Adherents suggest that sexual strategies are governed by a
constellation of brain and neural circuits, neurotransmitters and or hormones, and
behavioural correlates (Fisher, 1998, 2000; Fisher et al., 2002).
In the intrapsychic view, Freud, who overlaps with the evolutionary perspective
somewhat, focuses on a nature argument at times – autoerotic, instincts and drives –
and at other times on the nurture argument – the lover holds his primary caregiver as
the prototype for all future love relationships (‗refinding‘). Freud‘s latter argument can be
seen to correspond somewhat with the interpersonal view of attachment theory.
Attachment theory also seems to evidence some similarity with the evolutionary and
biological perspective, in that proponents believe that infants are born with a genetic
and biological tendency to bond and attach with their caregivers and that the caregivers
have a genetic tendency to care for the infant. Therefore, attachment argues the nature
perspective on the one hand while on the other hand it also strongly endorses the
nurture argument. Adherents contend that early interpersonal interactions between an
infant and his / her primary caregivers create unconscious ‗internal working models‘ that
inform the infant, and later the adult, about the level of support, responsiveness and
availability they can expect from significant others
From a humanistic perspective Fromm (1956), like Freud and attachment theory,
argues for the nurture argument – in that the ideal archetypal motherly and fatherly love
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can result in the capacity for mature love whereas the lack, or failure of the motherly or
fatherly principle to develop, can result in neurotic love. He also argues that it is not only
the parental caregivers impact on the individual‘s capacity to love but also the society
and culture in which the individual grows up. Therefore Fromm argues from the nurture
and societal point of view. Sternberg‘s (2000) love story theory also argues that love is
socially and individually constructed and therefore resembles Fromm‘s societal
argument.
The interdependence theory does not root its argument in nature (biology, genetics,
drives and instincts), nurture, or society but rather in the interpersonal economics
between adults – it focuses on a cognitive process of mate selection.
The lovestyles typology also does not argue from the perspective of nature, nurture or
society: instead it focuses on types of love. Similarly, Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988)
triangular theory of love delineates eight types of love as does Walster and Walster
(1978) in their two types of love – passionate and companionate love. The above
theories through their unique lenses also all suggest different love types or strategies.
One of the valuable aspects of tackling the love literature using a pluralist approach is
that different schools of thought, often reflecting various differences as well as
similarities, can provide access to diverse ways of thinking about the human experience
of romantic love. Perhaps a useful way of beginning to structure the above love puzzle
pieces into an explanatory model of romantic love is to do so by integrating the
epistemologies and theories that explain how individuals come to love (intrapsychic;
humanistic and sociocultural; interpersonal, cognitive, social construction, and genetic
and biological) (Figure 2.6).
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Figure 2.6: A tentative integrated model of romantic love
Although this model implicitly suggests that the six puzzle pieces explain the
trajectory of how an individual comes to love romantically, it is possible that for each
individual, depending on their nature and their experiences of nurture, the six puzzle
pieces are weighted differently by size and influence.
Each of the six explanatory puzzle pieces implies that, depending on an individual‘s
intrapsychic experiences, their sociocultural experiences, their interpersonal
experiences, their socially constructed story around romantic love and their cognitions
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about romantic love, she or he will develop a specific mode, type or strategy of loving
romantically. These are summarised in Table 2.10.
Table 2.10 Summary of models of love and their corresponding love types
Epistemology Theorist / theory Love types or strategies
Intrapsychic
Freud (1905, 1914,
1915, 1931b)
o First theory of love: ―happy love‖ or neurotic
love – anaclitic model of love
o Second theory of love: narcissistic model of
love
o Third theory of love: free from too-
destructive ambivalence
o Later contributions: erotic, narcissistic,
obsessional psychological type
Bergmann (1987) o Infatuation, love and the proximity of death,
triangular love, conflictual love, loveless
sexuality, masochistic and sadistic love,
hermaphroditic love, pygmalion love,
narcissistic love, primary and anaclitic love,
addicts of love, transference love, aim-
inhibited love, sublimated love, ideal love
Humanistic and
sociocultural
Fromm (1956) o Mature love, immature or neurotic love
(infantile relatedness), irrational or pseudo
love (idolatrous love, sentimental love),
erotic love, self love
Interpersonal Attachment theory o Secure, preoccupied, dismissing, fearful
Cognitive Interdependent
theory
o Rewards, costs, outcomes and alternatives
o Long-term communal exchanges versus
short-term exchange relationships
o Cognitive and behavioural maintenance
mechanisms
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Epistemology Theorist / theory Love types or strategies
Social construction Sternberg‘s (2000)
Love stories
o Sacrifice story, Police story (officer;
suspect), Travel story, Pornography story
(object; subject), Horror story (terroriser;
victim), Recovery story (co-dependent;
person in recovery), Garden story, Business
story, Fantasy story, War story, Humour
story, Collection story
Genetic and
biological
Evolutionary theory o Long-term strategies: ―domestic bliss
strategy‖
o Short-term strategies: ―he-man strategy‖ or
―sexy-sons strategy‖
o Simultaneous strategies: combining long
term and short term strategies
Types of love Walster and Waster
(1978)
o Passionate, companionate love
Sternberg‘s (1986,
1988) Triangular
theory of love
o Liking, romantic love, companionate love,
consummate love, infatuation, fatuous love,
empty love, non love
Lee‘s (1976)
typology of love:
lovestyles
o Eros, ludus, storge, mania, pragma, agape
Because Lee‘s (1976) lovestyles has proven to be a fruitful and productive way of
measuring love types empirically, it will be used as the departure point or central
puzzle piece, in an attempt to deduce similarities in the love types, patterns,
strategies and styles outlined in the review of the literature on love. His typology of
love also transcends most of the major schools of thought and accommodates the
different modes of loving described in each.
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2.11.1 Intersections with eros
The erotic lover‘s instant recognition of the very specific and rare physical type of their
ideal beloved perhaps echoes Freud‘s (1905, 1910b, 1931b) hypothesis of refinding
the original love object – the unconscious precondition of finding a new non
incestuous object that resembles or is a prototype of the original love object.
According to Freud (1905), if conditions are favourable the individual is able to focus
all desire on a single new love object and ―happy love‖ develops. This seems to be
reflective of the eros lovestyle as these individuals are able to develop ―happy love‖
and focus all their desire on the beloved. When looking at Freud‘s (1915) third theory
of love, which suggests that the capacity to love develops when one has, through the
maturation process, developed the capacity to conduct an enduring relationship free
from a too-destructive ambivalence, it may be said that the eros lovestyle is capable
of this type of love because eros lovers are aware of and able to tolerate their
beloved‘s strengths and weaknesses. Finally, Lee (1976), and Sprecher and Regan
(1998) repeat Freud (1931b) and say that as regards most passionate, erotic lovers,
ongoing sexual passion cannot be integrated into the milieu of a lasting and stable
relationship and that a more tranquil companionship type of love will emerge over
time; that sexual instincts and strivings will need to be sublimated or ―aim-inhibited‖
and ―aim-deflected‖ in order to build a more reliable and enduring relationship. When
comparing eros to the psychoanalyst Bergmann‘s (1987) types of love, eros seems to
fit reasonably well with his ideal love.
The eros lovestyle seems to display a close association with Fromm‘s erotic love
which he characterises as exclusive, with the desire to fuse and unite intensely and
completely with one other person in an act of will, by making a decision and a
commitment that guarantees the continuation of love (Fromm, 1956). The eros
lovestyle, which is a lovestyle with high expectations, also seems to bear some
degree of likeness to Fromm‘s (1956) mature love which is characterised by mutually
interdependent giving together with components of care, responsibility, respect,
understanding and knowledge.
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Lee‘s (1976) description of the erotic lover‘s childhood and their behaviour as adults
displays strong similarities with the secure attachment style which is described as a
striving for mutual intimacy and closeness as well as being comfortable with giving
and receiving care consistently and reliably (Ainsworth et al., 1978; Bartholomew,
1990; Bartholomew et al., 2001; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b; Hazan & Shaver,
1987, Shaver & Hazan, 1988).
On the surface it seems that the erotic lovestyle exhibits few parallels to the
interdependence theory in that the erotic lover searches for an ideal beloved and no
matter what the rewards, costs, outcomes or alternatives are, this is and remains the
ideal (Kelley & Thibaut, 1978). However, the erotic individual may have an
unconscious cognitive list of rewards and costs that he / she holds in mind which
assists him / her to choose the ideal beloved. From the perspective of Rusbult‘s
(1980) investment model and Rusbult et al.‘s (2001) extended investment model, it
may be reasonable to assume that the erotic lover would be strongly committed to
their relationship and would therefore engage in the behavioural and cognitive
maintenance mechanisms to ensure the longevity of their relationship. It would seem
that the erotic lover‘s relationship would usually be a long-term one and that it would
therefore be governed by communal exchanges that are characterised by being
responsive to the beloved‘s needs (Clark, 1984, 1986; Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001).
The eros lovestyle‘s powerful physical and emotional attraction for the ideal beloved
seems to reflect Walster and Walster‘s (1978) passionate love of intense longing and
physiological arousal as regards the beloved. Furthermore, similar to Lee‘s (1976)
observation of eros‘s passion adjusting to a calmer companionship type of love over
time, so too did Sprecher and Regan (1998) find that passionate love often leads to
the calmer companionate love over time.
If one considers Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988) original triangular theory of love the eros
lovestyle seems to reflect Sternberg‘s ideal love or consummate love which exists
when all three components (intimacy, passion and commitment) of the love triangle
are balanced and equally strong. None of Sternberg‘s (2000) love stories seem to
make a solid match with eros. Having said this, Sternberg‘s love stories are unlimited
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and it could be argued that a possible story for the eros individual is ―Love at first
sight‖.
When considering the evolutionary theory it would seem that the erotic lover would
more than likely adopt the ―domestic bliss strategy‖ which is characteristic of a long-
term mating strategy. In such a strategy both men and women are highly
discriminating and selective when choosing a partner: the female encourages greater
devotion, assistance, protection while the male devotes greater parental investment
than in short-term sexual strategies (Kenrick et al., 1993; Lampert, 1997). In addition,
evolutionary theorists may argue that eros is a mechanism used by evolution to
encourage procreation.
2.11.2 Intersections with ludus
Freud (1905) may suggest that the game playing ludic lover is not capable of ―happy
love‖ because he is unable to focus all desire on a single new love object. Instead
Freud (1910a) may map the ludus lovestyle to his neurotic love. According to Freud
(1910a) neurotic love develops when the two currents (affection and direct sexual
impulses) do not unite due to unfavourable conditions: a) attachment to the old love
object is strong and / or b) the pregenital impulses are too strong or too repressed
(Freud, 1912). As a result the individual is unable to focus all desire on a single
object: ―Where they love they do not desire and where they desire they cannot love‖
(Freud, 1912, p. 183). In addition, because it is taboo to conduct a sexual relationship
with the overvalued, loved person whom they continue to love, they develop the need
to debase the sexual partner who is available. Lee‘s (1976) portrayal of the ludic lover
seems to display some similarities with Freud‘s (1931b) narcissistic type. Freud‘s
depicts the narcissistic type as charming and largely preoccupied with self
preservation and therefore as one who prefers loving to being loved. The ludic lover
may correspond closely to Arlow‘s (1980) Don Juan who is a perpetual seducer and
also to ―The disappointed child [who] ‗masters‘ his disappointment by becoming a
disappointing lover‖ (Bergmann, 1987, p. 243). When comparing ludus to the
psychoanalyst Bergmann‘s (1987) types of love, ludus seems to fit well with his
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loveless sexuality type, who experiences intense sexuality with the other without
feeling love for them, and could also be said to fit relatively well with his conflictual
love type, who can only love a person uniquely but not exclusively.
The ludus lovestyle seems to sound a similar tone to Fromm‘s (1956) idea that
human beings try to temporarily escape the universal human feeling of separateness
via orgiastic states, for example, sexual orgasm. Fromm (1956) may also suggest
that the male ludic lover is stuck in infantile relatedness to the: 1) mother because
according to Fromm (1956) these men degrade all other women and they seek to
love but can only do so in a superficial sexual manner; or 2) father because, as
Fromm (1956) has it, these men do not view their relationships with a woman as
significant and instead these men remain distant, aloof and remote in the relationship;
these men present with a fatherly concern for the woman which masks their feelings
of minor disdain for her. Finally, Fromm (1956) proposes that the ludic lover lacks self
love because selfish people are not able to love anyone else because they are unable
to love themselves.
Lee‘s (1976) description of the ludic lover‘s childhood and their behaviour as adults in
intimate romantic relationships reflects strong similarities with the dismissing /
avoidant attachment style. The avoidantly attached or dismissing adult is said to
maintain emotional distance, is afraid of making commitments and of depending on
others, is unable or unwilling to give and receive care and may engage in
promiscuous behaviour (Ainsworth et al., 1978; Bartholomew, 1990; Bartholomew et
al., 2001; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b; Hazan & Shaver, 1987, Shaver & Hazan,
1988). Fricker (2006) recently confirmed a positive correlation between ludus and
avoidant attachment style (Fricker, 2006).
The ludus lovestyle seems to correspond somewhat with the interdependence theory
if the ludic lover plays the love game openly, that is, by informing the partner of other
partners so that the rewards, costs, outcomes or alternatives are fair to all parties in
the love game. If, however, the ludic lover feigns loyalty and commitment, he may
maximise his rewards in the short term but once the other parties discover his game
of deception, the costs, outcomes and alternatives would not usually operate in his
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favour (Kelley & Thibaut, 1978). The ludic lover is not strongly committed to the love
relationship because he / she is not likely to be interested in a long-term relationship.
Therefore from the perspective of Rusbult‘s (1980) investment model and the Rusbult
et al. (2001) extended investment model, it may be reasonable to assume that the
ludus lover would consequently not engage in the behavioural and cognitive
maintenance mechanisms. The ludus lover, it may be assumed, would be engaged in
exchange relationships because he / she seems to be more interested in short-term
relationships that are characterised by an equal ratio of costs to rewards (Clark, 1984,
1986; Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001). Or perhaps the ludus individual operates within the
investment model but using much shorter time frames and as new prospects emerge
old investments are replaced.
Unlike the eros lovestyle the ludic lovestyle does not seem to correspond with Walster
and Walster‘s (1978) intense passionate love nor their calmer companionship love;
instead love is a game that needs to be played.
The ludus lovestyle‘s closest counterpart in Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988) original
triangular theory of love seems to be infatuation love which is characterised by
passion, only with no intimacy or commitment. The ludus lovestyle appears closely
related to the collection story: ―I like dating different partners simultaneously; each
partner should fit a particular need‖ in Sternberg‘s (2000) later love story theory.
When considering the evolutionary theory it would seem that the ludic lover would
more than likely adopt the ―he-man strategy‖ which is characteristic of a short-term
mating strategy in order to avoid fear of desertion in females and paternal uncertainty
in males (Lampert, 1997). Seemingly, the female ludic lover is just as likely to adopt
the ―sexy son‘s strategy‖ which is characteristic of a short-term mating strategy with
sexy men so that they bear sexy sons who in turn gain ultimate reproductive success
by attracting an above average number of women (Buss, 2000). Research has found
that men are more likely to endorse ludus as a lovestyle than women. This would tie
in with the evolutionary stance that men evolve the reproductive adaptation of
attempting to inseminate as many women as possible whereas women evolve the
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reproductive adaptation of attempting to secure a mate that is willing to invest in her
and her offspring (Buss & Schmitt, 1993).
2.11.3 Intersections with storge
If one applies Freud‘s (1905) first theory of love it would seem that the storge lover is
able to focus all desire on a single new love and is therefore also capable of ―happy
love‖. When considering Freud‘s (1915) third theory of love, the storge lovestyle may
be likened to some extent to what Freud (1915) suggested when he argued that the
individual has developed the capacity to enjoy an enduring relationship free from a
too-destructive ambivalence. If one compares storge love to the psychoanalyst
Bergmann‘s (1987) types of love, it does not exhibit as good a fit as eros to
Bergmann‘s Ideal love, but nonetheless displays some overlap with it.
The storge lovestyle seems to bear some likeness to Fromm‘s (1956) mature love
which is not about receiving but instead about giving out of self love. Giving is
mutually interdependent and comprises components of care, responsibility, respect,
understanding and knowledge. The storge lovestyle also appears to resemble some
characteristics of Fromm‘s (1956) erotic love in that, like eros, it is exclusive and is an
act of will, a decision and a commitment that guarantees the continuation of love. But
unlike eros, it lacks the want to fuse and unite intensely and completely with the
beloved (Fromm, 1956).
Lee‘s (1976) description of the storgic lover‘s childhood, their sense of self and their
behaviour as adults displays strong similarities with the secure attachment style,
characterised by a trust in others, a striving for mutual intimacy and closeness as well
as being comfortable with giving and receiving care consistently and reliably
(Ainsworth et al., 1978; Bartholomew, 1990; Bartholomew et al., 2001; Griffin &
Bartholomew, 1994b; Hazan & Shaver, 1987, Shaver & Hazan, 1988).
The storgic lovestyle seems to be in harmony with the social exchange theory in that
the storgic lover normally does not have an ideal beloved. According to Lee (1976)
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the storgic lover does not consciously choose the beloved, so it appears that they
would not, at least consciously, weigh up the rewards, costs, outcomes of or
alternatives to the beloved and even if they did, their exchanges would more than
likely not resemble the tit-for-tat type of exchanges (Kelley & Thibaut, 1978). Others
may argue that because the storge lover is not blinded by passionate love and
because they take their time to decide on the beloved, they are more rational in their
decision. One could then deduce that they are the type of lover that would weigh up
the rewards and costs carefully. From the perspective of Rusbult‘s (1980) investment
model and the Rusbult et al. (2001) extended investment model, it may be reasonable
to assume that the storge lover would be strongly committed to their relationship and
would therefore engage in the behavioural and cognitive maintenance mechanisms to
ensure relationship longevity. It would appear that the storge lover‘s relationship
would usually constitute a long-term relationship and would therefore more than likely
be responsive to the beloved‘s needs – communal exchanges (Clark, 1984, 1986;
Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001).
Unlike the erotic lover, storgic friendship lovers do not seem to go through the initial
period of Walster and Walster‘s (1978) passionate love: instead they seem to start
and remain at the calmer companionship type of love which is characterised by
friendship and common interests.
Taking Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988) original triangular theory of love into account, the
storgic lovestyle seems to map relatively well with Sternberg‘s (1988) companionate
love which is characterised by a long-term committed friendship.
When considering the evolutionary theory it would seem that the storgic lover would
more than likely adopt the long-term mating strategy of ―domestic bliss‖ which is
characterised by both mothers and fathers investing a great deal in their children and
therefore in their relationship (Kenrick et al., 1993; Lampert, 1997).
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2.11.4 Intersections with mania
Lee (1976) describes in the manic lover a perpetuation and intensification of the
intrinsic state of dissatisfaction in loving. Freud (1930) argued that the intrinsic state
of dissatisfaction in loving is due to the fact that the adult love object is not the original
love object but merely the surrogate. This may explain the manic lover‘s
dissatisfaction. When one compares the manic lovestyle to Freud‘s (1914) narcissistic
model of love it could be said that that the manic lover‘s beloved is ―what he himself
would like to be‖: the ego ideal is projected onto the love object; the person loves the
love object that encompasses the excellence that he never had. Lee‘s (1976)
portrayal of the manic lovestyle also seems to display some similarities with Freud‘s
(1931b) erotic type. Freud depicts the erotic type as dependent: a person who fears
losing love, who is preoccupied with being loved and is at risk of loving anyone who
loves them. A comparison of the manic lovestyle to the psychoanalyst Bergmann‘s
(1987) types of love, indicates that mania seems to contain elements of four of
Bergmann‘s love types:
o Masochistic and sadistic love – which is loving in the service of suffering, belief
that he / she is insignificant and he sacrifices all for the magnificent partner.
o Narcissistic love – these individuals love what they would like to be or who they
wish they could have been.
o Primary and anaclitic love – they are dependent and they expect all their needs to
be taken care of and gratified without having to reciprocate.
o Addicts of love – they focus on being loved, however their capacity to love is
limited; at the same time they feel resentful and frustrated by a partner they view
as being ungratifying.
It would appear that Fromm (1956) would not describe the mania lovestyle as mature
love. Instead he might describe it as a neurotic disturbance of love in so far as the
male mania lover is stuck in infantile relatedness to the mother because these men
seek to return to mother‘s protecting, warm and caring arms; they seek to be loved
rather than to love and although they can be affectionate and charming their
relationships remain superficial and irresponsible. Fromm (1956) may perhaps
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suggest that the mania lover lacks self love because selfish people are not able to
love anyone else because they are unable to love themselves. Finally Fromm (1956)
may suggest that the mania lover suffers from irrational love or pseudo love of
idolatrous love which is characteristic of an individual who has not developed a strong
sense of self and identity and projects all his goodness and power onto the idolised
loved one, in so doing losing himself in the loved one.
Lee‘s (1976) description of the manic lover‘s childhood and their behaviour as adults
displays strong similarities with the preoccupied / ambivalent insecure attachment
style. The preoccupied / ambivalent insecure attachment style is characterised by a
deep seated sense of unworthiness, falling in love often and easily; being dependent,
needy and demanding; being vulnerable and uncertain about relationships; and giving
care in a self sacrificing and compulsive manner while being dissatisfied with the care
they receive from the beloved (Ainsworth et al., 1978; Bartholomew, 1990;
Bartholomew et al., 2001; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b; Hazan & Shaver, 1987,
Shaver & Hazan, 1988; Gross, 2003). Ficker (2006) recently reported that anxious
attachment was positively correlated with mania.
In terms of the interdependence theory, the manic lover, it seems, will struggle to
aptly weigh up the rewards, costs, outcomes of or alternatives to the beloved because
of their tendency to project qualities onto the beloved that they feel they themselves
lack – qualities that the beloved does not necessarily possess. In addition, once the
weighing up has been completed there is a sense that they will struggle to take the
appropriate action as a result of the outcomes because of their lack of self
confidence, self worth and self esteem (Kelley & Thibaut, 1978). From the perspective
of Rusbult‘s (1980) investment model and the Rusbult et al. (2001) extended
investment model, the manic lover would be strongly but insecurely committed to their
relationship and would therefore possibly over engage in the behavioural and
cognitive maintenance mechanisms in the hope of ensuring that they are not
abandoned. Applying the equity theory to this dynamic possibly indicates that this
may leave the partner feeling uncomfortable and guilty about the unequal size of
investment (Walster et al., 1978). It would seem that the manic lover‘s relationship
would usually be governed by communal exchanges that are characterised by being
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responsive to the beloved‘s needs but more than likely at the expense of their own
needs (Clark, 1984, 1986; Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001).
Like the erotic lover, obsessive manic lovers seem to go through the initial period of
Walster and Walster‘s (1978) passionate love; however, they do not seem to be able
to convert this passionate love to the calmer companionship type of love and because
of their feelings of insecurity and lack of self worth they remain intensely preoccupied
with the beloved.
Although the manic lover yearns for commitment and intimacy they seem unable to
achieve it. Therefore when one considers Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988) original triangular
theory of love the manic lovestyle seems to map relatively well onto Sternberg‘s
(1988) infatuation love which is characterised by passionate, obsessive at first sight
without intimacy or commitment. In Sternberg‘s (2000) later theory of love stories, it
seems there is some overlap between the mania lovestyle and the sacrifice story: ―I
believe sacrifice is a key part of true love‖; the police story: ―I believe that you need to
keep a close eye on your partner‖ or ―My partner needs to know everything that I do‖;
and the co-dependency story: ―I need someone to help me recover from my painful
past‖.
In terms of the evolutionary theory it would seem that the manic lover would more
than likely prefer to adopt the long-term mating strategy of ―domestic bliss‖ but
appears unable to succeed in retaining the partner because of his / her maladaptive
behaviour. Therefore his / her love strategy may by default lie more along the lines of
a short-term strategy (Lampert, 1997). Perhaps, the mania‘s possessive attributes
assist in helping to realise the evolutionary need to procreate.
2.11.5 Intersections with pragma
If one compares the pragma lovestyle to Freud‘s (1914) second theory of love – the
narcissistic model of love – it could be said that to some extent the pragma lover‘s
beloved is ―what he himself is‖: the love object is merely the image in the mirror; the
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love object resembles the person who loves them. Lee‘s (1976) portrayal of the
pragma lovestyle also appears to display some similarities with Freud‘s (1931b)
narcissistic types in that they are predominantly preoccupied with self preservation. A
contrast of the pragma lovestyle to the psychoanalyst Bergmann‘s (1987) types of
love seems not to yield any comparative matches.
The pragma lovestyle seems to display a close likeness to Fromm‘s (1956)
‗personality package‘ where the individual, like most modern Western men and
women, is not capable of mature love. Instead they transform themselves into a
commodity, an investment, a ‗personality package‘, and they, in the hope of a
profitable, favourable and fair exchange, trade their value with others who are also
trading their own ‗personality package‘. The pragma lovestyle also apparently
evidences some characteristics of Fromm‘s (1956) erotic love in that, like eros and
storge, it is exclusive and is an act of will, a decision and a commitment. But unlike
eros, it lacks the want to fuse and unite intensely and completely with the beloved
(Fromm, 1956).
Lee‘s (1976) description of the pragma lover‘s behaviour as an adult, once the
beloved is chosen, displays similarities with the secure attachment style. The secure
attachment style is characterised by a trust in others, a striving for mutual intimacy
and closeness as well as being comfortable with giving and receiving care
consistently and reliably (Ainsworth et al., 1978; Bartholomew, 1990; Bartholomew et
al., 2001; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b; Hazan & Shaver, 1987, Shaver & Hazan,
1988). However, the way the pragma lover goes about choosing the beloved is
perhaps not entirely in line with the securely attached individual; instead they seem to
exhibit some avoidant or dismissing characteristics. Hendrick and Hendrick (1989)
confirmed this in their study when they found the pragma lovestyle was positively
correlated with the avoidant attachment style.
The pragma lovestyle seems to be in very strong synchronisation with the
interdependence and social exchange theory in that pragma lovers consciously and
deliberately weigh up the rewards, costs, outcomes of or alternatives to the beloved in
order to make a calculated decision as to whether the beloved is indeed the perfect
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match (Kelley & Thibaut, 1978). From the perspective of Rusbult‘s (1980) investment
model and the Rusbult et al. (2001) extended investment model, the pragma lover
would be committed to their relationship once he / she has made their decision and
would therefore engage in the behavioural and cognitive maintenance mechanisms to
ensure a committed and satisfying relationship. It would appear that because of the
high levels of commitment once this choice of beloved is made, the pragma lover
would usually be governed by a communal relationship (Clark, 1984, 1986; Mills &
Clark, 1994, 2001).
Unlike the erotic lover, the logical and practical pragma lover does not seem to go
through the initial period of Walster and Walster‘s (1978) passionate love; instead,
like the storgic lover, they are more likely to over time develop and remain at the
calmer companionship type of love.
In terms of Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988) original triangular theory of love it could be said
that perhaps the pragma lovestyle initially maps relatively well onto Sternberg‘s
(1988) empty love which is characterised by a decision to love one another without
intimacy and passion. In Sternberg‘s (2000) later theory of love stories, it appears
there is some overlap between the pragma lovestyle and the business story: ―I
believe close relationships are like good partnerships‖.
When considering the evolutionary theory it would appear that the pragma lover
would more than likely adopt the long-term mating strategy – ―domestic bliss strategy‖
– which is characterised by both genders being highly discriminating and selective
when choosing a partner, with both partners being devoted and committed to the
relationship (Kenrick et al., 1993; Lampert, 1997).
2.11.6 Intersections with agape
According to Freud (1915), when the individual is able to separate feelings of love
and hate and therefore tolerates feelings of love, hate and the resulting feeling of
ambivalence then the individual has developed the capacity to enjoy an enduring
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relationship free from a too-destructive ambivalence; it may be said that the agape
lovestyle is somewhat reflective of this type of love. Lee‘s (1976) portrayal of the
agapic lover partly seems to resemble Freud‘s (1931b) obsessional type. Freud
depicts the obsessional type as mostly preoccupied with their conscience and adds
that they generally remain loyal and in love for a long time. In terms of comparing
agape with the psychoanalyst Bergmann‘s (1987) types of love, agape seems to fit
relatively well with his aim-inhibited love where the individual will repress, censor or
experience the sexual component as absent.
The agape lovestyle seems to display a strong resemblance to Fromm‘s (1956) rare
mature love which is not about receiving but instead about giving from a position of
self love. According to Fromm (1956), giving is mutually interdependent and has
elements of care, responsibility, respect, understanding and knowledge. He describes
the individual who is capable of mature love as one giving up narcissistic dreams of
omniscience and omnipotence and as a person having achieved humility,
separateness and integrity of one‘s self. Apparently the agape lovestyle also displays
certain characteristics of Fromm‘s erotic love in that, like eros and storge, it is
exclusive and is an act of will, a decision and a commitment that guarantees the
continuation of love. But unlike eros, it lacks the passion of Fromm‘s (1956) erotic
love.
Lee‘s (1976) description of the agape lover‘s behaviour as an adult evidences some
similarities with the secure attachment style which is characterised by a trust in
others, a striving for mutual intimacy and closeness as well as being comfortable with
giving but not necessarily receiving care consistently and reliably (Ainsworth et al.,
1978; Bartholomew, 1990; Bartholomew et al., 2001; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b;
Hazan & Shaver, 1987; Shaver & Hazan, 1988). It would seem that the agapic lover
would be comfortable with giving care but it is unclear if they would also be
comfortable with receiving care.
The agape lover does not seem to reflect the social exchange theory. Agape lovers
are not concerned with what is fair; they do not bother themselves with an ideal
beloved nor with the weighing up of rewards, costs, outcomes of or alternatives to the
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beloved. Instead they focus on providing rewards for the other without calculating
costs, outcomes or alternatives (Kelley & Thibaut, 1978). From the perspective of
Rusbult‘s (1980) investment model and the Rusbult et al. (2001) extended investment
model, the agape lover would be very committed to their relationship and would
therefore engage in the behavioural and cognitive maintenance mechanisms with no
expectation of reciprocity. When applying the equity theory to this dynamic it is
possible that the agape individual‘s tendency to give with no expectations may leave
the partner feeling uncomfortable and guilty about the unequal investment size
(Walster et al., 1978). It would appear that because of the high levels of commitment
it is reasonable to assume that the agape lover would be governed by a communal
relationship (Clark, 1984, 1986; Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001).
Unlike most of the previous lovestyles the selfless, devoted and altruistic agape
lovestyle does not seem to correspond with Walster and Walster‘s (1978) passionate
love nor their calmer companionship love; instead love is an obligation and a duty.
In terms of Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988) original triangular theory of love the passionately
selfless and dutiful agape lovestyle does not seem to reflect any of the eight love
types. In Sternberg‘s (2000) later theory of love stories, it seems there is some
overlap between the agape lovestyle and the sacrifice story: ―I believe sacrifice is a
key part of true love‖, however, agape has a stronger serving component rather than
a sacrificing component.
As regards the evolutionary theory it would appear that the agape lover would only
want to adopt the long-term mating strategy of ―domestic bliss‖ (Lampert, 1997).
2.11.7 Conclusion
The possible intersections between types, patterns, strategies and styles of love are
summarised below in Table 2.11.
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Lee (1976) argued that individuals contain all the lovestyles within them but that a
person will generally exhibit a dominant one. Perhaps by considering the
commonalities and correlations between epistemologies, theories and models of love,
we as researchers and clinicians can gain cumulative knowledge and a greater
understanding of what love is. However, depending on each researcher‘s and
clinician‘s background and preferences, perhaps, as is the case with an individual‘s
lovestyle, different puzzle pieces – epistemologies, theories and models – will
dominate and be favoured as preferred explanations for the nebulous construct of
love.
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Table 2.11: Possible intersections between types, patterns, strategies and styles of love
Eros Ludus Storge Mania Pragma Agape
Intrapsychic: Freud‘s three theories of love
o ―Happy love‖ o Free from too-
destructive ambivalence
o Ideal love
o Neurotic love o Unresolved
Oedipal complex
o Narcissistic psychological type
o Loveless sexuality type
o Conflictual love type
o ―Happy love‖ o Free from too-
destructive ambivalence
o Partly ideal love
o Neurotic love o Unresolved
Oedipal complex
o Narcissistic model of love
o Erotic psychological type
o Masochistic and sadistic love
o Narcissistic love
o Primary and anaclitic love
o Addicts of love
o Partly narcissistic model of love
o Narcissistic psychological type
o Free from too-destructive ambivalence
o Obsessional psychological type
o Aim-inhibited love
Humanistic/ sociocultural:
Fromm‘s theory of love
o Mature love Erotic love
o Act of will, decision and commitment
o Orgiastic state o Infantile
relatedness to mother and / or father – neurotic disturbance of love
o Lacks self love
o Mature love o Act of will,
decision and commitment
o Infantile relatedness to mother – neurotic disturbance of love
o Lacks self love o irrational love /
idolatrous love
o Immature love - ‗personality package‘
o Act of will, decision and commitment
o Mature love o Act of will,
decision and commitment
Interpersonal: Attachment theory
o Secure attachment pattern
o Avoidant / dismissing attachment pattern
o Secure attachment pattern
o Ambivalent/ preoccupied attachment pattern
o Avoidant / dismissing attachment pattern
o Secure attachment pattern
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Eros Ludus Storge Mania Pragma Agape
Cognitive:
Interdependence theory
o Engages in cognitive and behavioural maintenance mechanisms
o Long-term communal exchanges
o Does not engage in cognitive and behavioural maintenance mechanisms
o Short-term exchange relationships
o Engages in cognitive and behavioural maintenance mechanisms
o Long-term communal exchanges
o May over-engage in the behavioural and cognitive maintenance mechanisms leaving partner feeling uncomfortable, guilty about the unequal investment size
o Communal exchanges at the expense of own needs
o Consciously, deliberately weighs up rewards, costs, outcomes and alternatives
o Once beloved is chosen he/she engages in cognitive and behavioural maintenance mechanisms
o Long-term communal exchanges
o Engages in cognitive and behavioural maintenance mechanisms
o Long-term communal exchanges
Social Construction: Love story
— o Collection story — o Sacrifice story o Police o Co-dependency
story
o Business story o Sacrifice story
Genetic, Biological:
Evolutionary theory
o Long-term ―domestic bliss strategy‖
o Men adopt a short-term ―he-man strategy‖
o Females adopt a short-term ―sexy-son‘s strategy‖
o Long-term ―domestic bliss strategy‖
o Default to short-term sexual strategy
o Long-term ―domestic bliss strategy‖
o Long-term ―domestic bliss strategy‖
Type of love:
Passionate and companionate
o Passionate love that develops into companionate love too
— o Companionate love
o Passionate love struggles to be converted into companionate love
o Partly companionate love
—
Type of love:
Triangular theory
o Ideal or consummate love
o Infatuation love Companionate love o Infatuation love o Empty love —
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2.12 Conclusions on love theories
Harlow‘s (1958) claim that psychologists not only appeared to be uninterested in the
origin and development of love but were also unaware of its very existence, is no
longer true. Instead, the above chronological literature review on romantic love shows
enormous diversity and depth. Although love cannot be fully captured and controlled
in knowledge, the different epistemologies, orientations and perspectives that were
investigated nevertheless provide rich and unique understandings of the overall
puzzle of love. Each piece assists in building, demystifying and illuminating more and
more parts of the overall conundrum of romantic love. This has not only allowed for
the gaining of cumulative and expanded understanding of love, but also the possible
identification of points of intersections and agreement between these unique,
different, and at times, contradictory perspectives.
Although there is as yet no complete understanding of love, the diverse puzzle pieces
that were considered, provided powerful and useful insights in this respect. Initially,
the study briefly outlined the factors that nurture attraction, liking and loving in the
initial stages of the romantic relationship lifecycle. The first puzzle piece that the study
examined comprised Freud‘s (1905, 1914, 1915) intrapsychic foundations. Thereafter
the researcher investigated Fromm‘s (1956) humanistic and sociocultural view of
love, which provided the second puzzle piece. This was followed by the third – an
exploration into the genetic / biological and interpersonal perspective of attachment
theory and how attachment patterns set in infancy are carried through to romantic
attachment in adulthood (Bowlby, 1969; Ainsworth et al., 1978; Hazan & Shaver,
1987). After that the economic nature of romantic love was considered utilising the
interdependent theory / social exchange theory, investment model and equity theory
(Clark & Mills, 1979; Kelley & Thibaut, 1978; Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001; Rusbult,
1983). This provided the fourth piece. Thereafter the fifth piece, Walster and Walster‘s
(1978) character and components of passionate and companionate love, was
investigated. This was followed by the sixth: Sternberg‘s (1986, 1988, 1995, 2000)
work on the components of love in the triangular theory of love and the different types
of love they yield when combined, as well as his later work – social constructionist
theory of love stories. The seventh factor to be examined was the evolution theory
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(Buss, 1988, 1999, 2003, 2004) and how inherited biological and genetic make-up
shapes and explains behaviour in romantic relationships.
The final and central piece was Lee‘s (1976) colours of love typology – lovestyles.
Lee‘s multidimensional typology of love is fundamental to this study because it has
proved to be a productive and useful way of understanding and researching love not
only in the Western world but also cross-culturally. In addition, by utilising Lee‘s
(1976) lovestyles as the central puzzle piece, it has been useful in considering where
the other puzzle pieces in the study of romantic love intersect; it has assisted in
identifying, comparing, and contrasting points of commonality and agreement. This
has allowed for an even more expanded understanding of and further illumination as
regards the nature and puzzle of love.
After considering all the puzzle pieces of love and the intersections between their love
types and the tentative explanatory model of romantic love in Figure 2.6, perhaps the
model could be conceivably expanded into one as depicted in Figure 2.7. This model
illustrates that although there are a number of relevant explanations that inform the
individual‘s romantic love type, pattern, strategy or style, perhaps these overlapping
explanations suggest, over the span of one‘s development, a specific mode of loving.
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Figure 2.7 A tentative integrated model of romantic love with a central puzzle piece
depicting types, patterns, strategies and styles of love
In the 1990s Borrello and Thompson (1990) suggested that over the last 30 years or
so, scholars worldwide had enriched the understanding of love by attempting to
develop definitions and theories of love. Twenty more years have passed and
researchers have attempted to test the various theories of love by conducting a range
of studies that combined these theories and interrogated and compared
commonalities, differences and correlations between the theories as the above
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literature review revealed. These central theories, conceptual models, principles and
research findings described above provided various lenses through which to consider
and illuminate the complex, elusive and intricate phenomenon of intimate
relationships and romantic love. Having said that, it seems that that perhaps there will
always be an element of mystery and the ethereal when it comes to the subject of
romantic love and intimate relationships – perhaps there are still missing puzzle
pieces and maybe the overall puzzle will not ever be completed. Hendrick and
Hendrick (1989, p. 793) adds an additional complexity: ―love is … unruly … it means
different things to different people in different relationships at different points in time‖.
Therefore not only is love nebulous, multidimensional and multifaceted, it alters over
time, in different circumstances, amongst different people. An individual‘s
conceptualisation of romantic love is not independent of their cultural context. In
response to this, researchers have been striving to investigate and interrogate the
intersection between two constructs that are both nebulous and ‗fuzzy‘ – love and
culture – in an attempt to illuminate another factor in romantic love: how love is
influenced and shaped across cultures. Prior to exploring the intersection between
love and culture it is necessary to investigate the construct of culture.
The following chapter aims to firstly, define the nature of culture and the factors that
impact on culture: enculturation and acculturation; secondly, to examine the five
cultural values and dimensions outlined by Hofstede (1980, 1991, 2002):
individualism versus collectivism, large versus small power distance, masculinity
versus femininity, and strong versus weak uncertainty avoidance, and Hofstede and
Bond‘s (1988) fifth cultural dimension: long-term orientation versus short-term
orientation; and thirdly, to explore South Africa‘s broad cultural groupings: Black,
White, Coloured and Indian/Asian South Africans. Finally, before concluding the
chapter, the effects of globalisation on culture will be probed.
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CHAPTER 3
Culture
3.1. Culture
Culture, like love, possesses an ethereal quality: it cannot be touched, seen or heard;
instead it is inferred from the behavioural products of prior generations. Mkhize
(2004a) suggests that it is through culture that ―people make sense of the world and
themselves‖ (p. 34). Culture is a ‗fuzzy‘ and nebulous construct that is constantly
changing it is difficult to define. According to Ruiz (2004, p. 526) ―culture is defined as
a set of meanings, values, everyday practices, behavioral norms, and beliefs used by
members of a particular group in society as a way of conceptualizing their unique views
of the world, as well as when interacting with their environments‖. From an
anthropological view the ―term culture refers to the customary ways of thinking and
behaving of a particular population or society‖ (Ember, Ember & Peregrine, 2002, p.
5). Culture may be viewed as consisting of values, ―language, nonverbal expressions,
social relationships, manifestations of emotions, religious beliefs and practices, and
socioeconomic ideologies‖ and a way of life that will be followed by most in that
society (Ruiz, 2004, p. 526; Segall et al., 1999).
According to Segall et al. (1999), culture is knowledge that is passed on from
generation to generation, through parents, education and mass media. This process
of cultural transmission from generation to generation is referred to as enculturation.
Through enculturation an individual is socialised into and learns the cultural norms,
values and socially appropriate ways of behaving in the society that one is born into
(Matsumoto, 2000; Segall et al., 1999). These, as well as beliefs, direct behaviour by
providing a framework for interpreting social situations and by prescribing acceptable
behaviour. Thus culture imposes a framework that filters and influences one‘s
interpretation of events (Matsumoto, 2000; Mwamwenda, 1999), implying that in a
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social or interpersonal situation, different people from various cultures will hold
different views and may ascribe varying attributions to the causes of others‘
behaviour.
Culture and cultural transmission is not a static or homogeneous entity: cultural
norms, values and beliefs are constantly changing, adapting and being modified as
time passes. Both internal influences (enculturation) and external ones (acculturation)
impact on a culture (Matsumoto, 2000; Segall et al., 1999). Acculturation is complex
and multifaceted. Direct and continuous contact with a different culture may result in
individual changes in identification, attitudes, values and behavioural norms, causing
acculturation (Matsumoto, 2000; Segall et al., 1999). Although South Africa has
always been a melting pot of cultures where cultural leaking has occurred, following
the democratic South African 1994 elections, African, Indian, Coloured and Asian
people have been empowered politically, educationally, economically and
geographically. The demolition of apartheid has given way to many more
opportunities of contact between diverse cultures. This contact may induce change in
the original cultural patterns of either or all groups (Matsumoto, 2000; Segall et al.,
1999). Recently, researchers have emphasised that acculturation is an intricate
process and that the adoption of new cultural values and norms may either replace
the original cultural values, customs and norms or cause them to be adopted in
concurrent maintenance with the original ones (Berry et al., 1992; Segall et al., 1999).
Below, as illustrated in Figure 3.1 Berry et al. (1992) outline the three forms of cultural
transmission: vertical, horizontal and oblique; while enculturation and socialisation
constitute the two processes of cultural transmission. According to Berry et al. (1992)
vertical transmission is cultural transmission from parents to their children in the form
of values, skills, beliefs and motives; and it is also the only form of biological
transmission. Horizontal cultural transmission consists of learning from peers on a
day-to-day basis. Oblique cultural transmission represents learning from other adults
and institutions, for example, schools. These three forms of cultural transmission can
take place in the individual‘s own culture or in another / secondary culture. Should an
individual come into contact with another / secondary culture the cultural transmission
is termed acculturation transmission.
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Figure 3.1. Vertical, horizontal and oblique forms of cultural transmission and
acculturation
Derived from (Berry & Cavalli-Sforza as cited in Berry et al., 1992)
Hofstede (1994a, p.5) defines culture as ―the collective programming of the mind
which distinguishes the members of one group or category of people from another‖.
Hofstede (2002) states that 1) all human beings are alike in so far as they are all
biologically of the same species; 2) all humans are unique due to individual biological
DNA; and 3) all humans are social beings and are taught how to survive a social
world. According to Hofstede (2002, p. 34) ―there are an infinite number of ways to
form a culture, and no culture is objectively better or worse, superior or inferior, to
another‖. Nowadays there are distinctive cultures on different continents, in countries
and even sections of countries (Hofstede, 2002). Hofstede (2002) declares that
Oblique transmission
From other adults
General enculturation
Specific socialisation
Oblique transmission
From other adults
General enculturation
Specific socialisation
Horizontal transmission
General enculturation from peers
Specific socialisation from peers
Individual psychological
outcomes
Culture „A‟ (own culture)
culture transmission
Culture „B‟ (contact culture)
acculturation transmission
Horizontal transmission
General enculturation from peers
Specific socialisation from peers
Vertical transmission
General enculturation from parents
Specific socialisation from parents (child rearing)
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culture is the result of the people of a region, country, continent adapting to the
conditions of life and that although each culture is distinct they all deal with the same
five basic problems of social life: identity, hierarchy, gender, truth and virtue. He
conceptualises these five problems and the way in which, when a group of people try
to resolve these issues, various dimensions of culture result (Table 3.1):
Table 3.1: How problems of social life are solved by culture
Problems of social life Description of basic problem Dimension of culture
Identity Relationship between individual and
group
Individualism versus
Collectivism
Hierarchy The degree of inequality between
the people that is assumed to be a
natural state of affairs
Power Distance
Gender Gender roles and the control of
aggression
Masculinity versus
Femininity
Truth How people in a culture cope with
the unpredictable and ambiguous
Uncertainty Avoidance
versus
Uncertainty Tolerance
Virtue Choice between present and future
virtue
Long-term Orientation
versus
Short-term Orientation
Derived from (Hofstede, 2002).
He postulates that the manner in which a group of people resolve the above five
issues or problems, is known as culture. Hofstede (2002) claims that the five issues of
culture evidence the corresponding five cultural values and dimensions that he places
on a continuum from one extreme to another (Table 3.2).
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Table 3.2: Value dimensions
Dimension One extreme Other extreme
Identity Collectivism Individualism
Hierarchy Large Power Distance Small Power Distance
Gender Femininity Masculinity
Truth Strong Uncertainty Avoidance Weak Uncertainty Avoidance
Virtue Long-term Orientation Short-term Orientation
Derived from (Hofstede, 2002, p. 40).
Like Hofstede (1980), Schwartz (1997), Trompenaars (1993), Friske (1992) and
Douglas (1970, 1982) also studied aspects of cultural relations, values and
dimensions. Goodwin (1999) notes that although these researchers have broadened
our understanding with their individual distinctions, there is, however, considerable
overlap between the cultural factors presented by each researcher. This study will
draw predominantly on Hofstede‘s dimensions.
3.2. Hofstede‘s five dimensions of culture
A highly influential and fruitful approach to the exploration of culture is Hofstede‘s
(1980) theoretical construction. Hofstede delineated four, largely independent,
dimensions of cultural variation stemming from research into more than 117 000
employees in 66 countries (Hofstede, 1980, 1983). Hofstede termed the four
dimensions of culture as: individualism versus collectivism; large versus small
power distance; masculinity versus femininity; and strong versus weak
uncertainty avoidance. Hofstede and Bond‘s (1988) research yielded a fifth cultural
dimension: long-term orientation versus short-term orientation. These five
dimensions of culture not only provide a structure for the rather nebulous construct of
culture but also furnish cross-cultural researchers with a theoretical framework within
which to operationalise culture in order to make cross-cultural comparisons. Different
disciplines have made use of Hofstede‘s cultural dimensions differently; in psychology
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individualism-collectivism and power distance have been employed most frequently
(Goodwin, 1999).
3.2.1 Individualism versus collectivism
Of Hofstede‘s five cultural dimensions, as just mentioned, individualism-collectivism
has attracted the most research in the discipline of psychology (Goodwin, 1999;
Hofstede, 1994a). This cultural dimension has to do with the relationship between the
individual and the group and is reflected in the way people live together; in other
words in societal contexts (Goodwin, 1999; Hofstede, 1980; Hofstede, 1994a). Initially
individualism and collectivism were conceptualised as representing opposing poles of
one cultural dimension (Goodwin, 1999; Hofstede, 1980; Hofstede, 1994a; Triandis,
1995). However, recent research suggests that cultures can be characterised by their
degrees of individualism and collectivism, thus implying a continuum rather than
opposing poles (Barrett, 2000; Segall et al., 1999).
Triandis (1995) defines individualism as ―a social pattern that consists of loosely
linked individuals who view themselves as independent of collectives; are primarily
motivated by their own, needs, rights and the contracts they have established with
others; give priority to their personal goals over the goals of others; and emphasize
rational analyses of the advantages and disadvantages to associating with others‖
(Triandis, 1995, p. 2). Persons who hail from individualistic societies are concerned
with the ‗I‘ and ‗me‘ and consider themselves to be autonomous (Triandis, 1995).
Therefore individualistic societies expect individuals to look after themselves and their
immediate nuclear family; ties outside of this immediate nuclear family are relatively
fluid. They ―are keen to detach themselves from family, community and religion: they
change their friends and marital partners readily, while ‗rational‘ principles and norms
form the basis of interaction‖ (Goodwin, 1999, p. 24).
Collectivism, individualism‘s polar opposite as a construct for representing culture, is
defined by Triandis (1995) as ―a social pattern consisting of closely linked individuals
who see themselves as part of one or more collectives (family, co-workers, tribe,
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nation); are primarily motivated by the norms of, and duties imposed by those
collectives; willing to give priority to the goals of these collectives over their own
personal goals; and emphasize their connectedness to members of these collectives‖
(Triandis, 1995, p. 2). Therefore people who are born into collectivistic societies are
integrated into strong, cohesive in-groups (often extended families which include
uncles, aunts and grandparents) who provide protection and support in exchange for
unquestioning loyalty. Thus, in stark contrast to the individualistic emphasis, which
falls on ‗I‘ and ‗me‘; persons who hail from collectivistic societies emphasise the ‗we‘:
where duties and obligations to the group may override personal goals and
preferences.
The individualism and collectivism dimensions are conceptualised at a cultural level;
the proposed corresponding personality dimensions at the psychological level are
idiocentrism and allocentrism respectively (Kim, Triandis, Kagitcibasi, Choi & Yoon,
1994). Different cultures define the ‗self‘ differently (Barrett, 2000). Individualistic
cultures promote an independent view of the self and describe its individuals as
―egocentric, separate, autonomous, idiocentric and self contained‖ (Kim et al., 1994,
p. 2). However, collectivistic cultures promote an interdependent view of the self and
describe its individuals as ―sociocentric, holistic, collective, allocentric, ensembled,
constitutive, contextualist and relational‖ (Kim et al., 1994, p. 2-3).
Research has shown that the constructs of individualism and collectivism present an
objective assessment of cultural variations in social behaviours, beliefs, attitudes and
perceptions (Matsumoto, 2000; Segall et al., 1999; Smith & Bond, 1998). From the
individualism index (IDV) values, recorded in Table (3.3) below, it was found that
developed and Western countries such as the United States, Canada, Australia, New
Zealand and many of the Western European countries were situated high on the
individualism dimension whereas less developed and some Eastern countries such as
India and other countries in Asia, Latin America and Africa were located high on the
collectivism dimension; with Japan occupying a middle position on this dimension
(Hofstede, 1991).
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Less than 40% of countries investigated fall above 50 on the individualism index. It
could therefore be said that, globally, collectivism is the rule while individualism is the
exception. The United States records a score of 91 and is shown to be the most
individualistic society. The individualistic mindset is clearly reflected in the ―American
dream‖ which is a strong component of the American psyche. The foundation of the
―American dream‖ is a belief that everyone, regardless of their status, has an equal
opportunity to create a better quality of life and a higher standard of living than their
parents had; that success and wealth is within anyone‘s reach should they want it
enough. The lowest individualistic score and the highest collectivistic score is
reported in Guatemala (6). This society regards the collectivistic principles and values
of integrating individuals into interdependent cohesive in-groups highly. South Africa
records a score of 65 and is ranked sixteenth, and therefore holds high to moderate
individualistic values. It would be expected that, being an African country, South
Africa would score higher on the collectivistic continuum. It may be postulated that
because this data was collected during the apartheid regime from a working
population that was more representative of the White South African population the
figures may be skewed to reflect a more Western orientation.
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Table 3.3 Individualism index (IVD) values for 50 countries and 3 regions
Score
Rank
Country / Region IDV
Score
Score
Rank
Country / Region IDV
Score
1 USA 91 28 Turkey 37
2 Australia 90 29 Uruguay 36
3 Great Britain 89 30 Greece 35
4/5 Canada 80 31 Philippines 32
4/5 Netherlands 80 32 Mexico 30
6 New Zealand 79 33/35 East Africa 27
7 Italy 76 33/35 Yugoslavia 27
8 Belgium 75 33/35 Portugal 27
9 Denmark 74 36 Malaysia 26
10/11 Sweden 71 37 Hong Kong 25
10/11 France 71 38 Chile 23
12 Ireland (Republic of) 70 39/41 West Africa 20
13 Norway 69 39/41 Singapore 20
14 Switzerland 68 39/41 Thailand 20
15 Germany F.R. 67 42 Salvador 19
16 South Africa 65 43 South Korea 18
17 Finland 63 44 Taiwan 17
18 Austria 55 45 Peru 16
19 Israel 54 46 Costa Rica 15
20 Spain 51 47/48 Pakistan 14
21 India 48 47/48 Indonesia 14
22/23 Japan 46 49 Colombia 13
22/23 Argentina 46 50 Venezuela 12
24 Iran 41 51 Panama 11
25 Jamaica 39 52 Ecuador 8
26/27 Brazil 38 53 Guatemala 6
26/27 Arab countries 38
Derived from Hofstede (1991, p. 53)
According to Singelis, Triandis, Bhawuk and Gelfand (1995), the individualistic
cultures tend to be more modern and industrialised than collectivistic societies, while
collectivistic cultures tend to be more traditional and agriculturally based than
individualistic societies. Hofstede (1980, 1994a, 2002) reports that most wealthy
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countries in the world are more individualistic and most poorer countries are more
collectivistic, thus indicating a positive correlation between Gross Domestic Product
and individualism. He claims that wealth makes it easier for individuals to take care of
themselves, empowering them to no longer need to rely on the group for survival.
Research undertaken by Singelis et al. (1995) yielded similar results in that the upper
and middle classes of a society tend more to the individualistic continuum and the
lower classes to the collectivistic continuum, thus indicating that wealth and abundant
resources afford the individual freedom to pursue their personal goals, needs and
rights. Hence financial independence leads to social and emotional independence. ―In
contrast, individuals in poorer countries are more dependent on one another and
need to share limited resources‖ (Goodwin, 1999, p. 25). Hofstede (2002) cautions
that people need to balance the pursuit of their own goals, needs and rights with
those of the group because being too individualistic may result in one feeling alone
and isolated while being too collectivistic may result in total repression of individual
identity. This has implications for intimate romantic relationships and is discussed in
more detail in the following chapter.
In the light of the above and following the arrival of democracy in South Africa,
perhaps the emerging upper and middle African, Coloured and Indian / Asian classes
may be migrating along the individualism-collectivism continuum towards
individualism.
Finally, Triandis (2001) cautions cross-cultural researchers to bear in mind that: 1) not
all collectivistic (or individualistic) societies have the same cultural characteristics –
Mediterranean collectivism differs from Korean collectivism which differs from Israeli
kibbutz collectivism; and 2) no culture is monolithically individualistic or collectivistic;
all cultures are mixes of both. "A culture should not be characterized as individualist
or collectivist. That kind of characterization is simplistic Germany is more
individualistic than Hong Kong, but even in Germany, people select collectivist
cognitions 37% of the time and in Hong Kong they select individualist cognitions 45%
of the time" (Triandis, 2001, p. 40).
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3.2.2 Power distance
Hofstede‘s second dimension of culture, power distance, has also attracted interest
and discussion in cross-cultural literature. Power distance is defined by Hofstede
(2002, p. 36) as ―the degree of inequality between the people that is assumed to be a
natural state of affairs‖. Power distance also investigates the customary norms of
inequality within a culture and the degree of respect and deference accorded to those
in superior positions. He adds that it is "the extent to which the less powerful
members of institutions [family, school and the community] and organizations [places
of work] within a country expect and accept that power is distributed unequally"
(Hofstede, 1994a, p. 28). Consequently power distance is defined and explained from
below, by the less powerful members, but the way power is distributed is explained
from above, by the more powerful members.
As with the dimension of individualism versus collectivism, power distance is also
related to the wealth of a country: as a country becomes wealthier there is an
increased tendency in most cases for power distance to decrease. A high power
distance index reveals that inequalities of power and wealth have been allowed to
grow within the particular society so that its members think that people are not equal
and should not be (Hofstede, 2002). Any significant upward mobility of this society‘s
individuals is restricted. A low power distance index points towards a society that
underplays the differences between individuals‘ power and wealth. In these societies
equality and opportunity for all is emphasised.
The power distance index (PDI) values in the Table (3.4) below indicate that power
distance scores are high for Asian, Latin, Arab countries, and African countries: this
points to unequal distribution of wealth and the fact that the people of these countries
are very limited in their opportunity to rise in society. As time passes it appears that
the gap between the ‗have‘ and ‗have-nots‘ increases in these countries. South Africa
recorded a PDI score of 49 pre the 1994 elections, which is indicative of a moderate
gap between the ‗have‘ and ‗have-nots‘, as well as revealing that South African
citizens are moderately restricted in their opportunity to rise in society (Hofstede,
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1994a). Once again these results may be skewed as the population used was more
than likely representative of White South Africans during the apartheid era. The PDI
value may or may not have changed after the 1994 elections and part of this study is
intended to establish whether there have indeed been any changes in the degree of
power distance in South Africa since democracy was established. Nordic countries,
Germany, Australian, Canada and the USA showed a moderately low PDI score,
indicating that there is moderate gap between the wealthy and the poor and that the
individuals of these countries propound a strong belief in equality for each citizen.
Therefore, citizens are afforded some opportunity to rise in society and there is a
moderately equal distribution of wealth compared to the societies with the higher
scores. Israel and Austria record a very low PDI score which is indicative of relatively
little difference between the people who are in power and the people who are not
(Hofstede, 1991).
Table 3.4 Power distance index (PDI) values for 50 countries and 3 regions
Score
Rank
Country / Region PDI
Score
Score
Rank
Country / Region PDI
Score
1 Malaysia 104 27/28 South Korea 60
2/3 Guatemala 95 29/30 Iran 58
2/3 Panama 95 29/30 Taiwan 58
4 Philippines 94 31 Spain 57
5/6 Mexico 81 32 Pakistan 55
5/6 Venezuela 81 33 Japan 54
7 Arab countries 80 34 Italy 50
8/9 Ecuador 78 35/36 Argentina 49
8/9 Indonesia 78 35/36 South Africa 49
10/11 India 77 37 Jamaica 45
10/11 West Africa 77 38 USA 40
12 Yugoslavia 76 39 Canada 39
13 Singapore 74 40 Netherlands 38
14 Brazil 69 41 Australia 36
15/16 France 68 42/44 Costa Rica 35
15/16 Hong Kong 68 42/44 Germany F.R. 35
17 Colombia 67 42/44 Great Britain 35
18/19 Salvador 66 45 Switzerland 34
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Score
Rank
Country / Region PDI
Score
Score
Rank
Country / Region PDI
Score
18/19 Turkey 66 46 Finland 33
20 Belgium 65 47/48 Norway 31
21/23 East Africa 64 47/48 Sweden 31
21/23 Peru 64 49 Ireland (Republic of) 28
21/23 Thailand 64 50 New Zealand 22
24/25 Chile 63 51 Denmark 18
24/25 Portugal 63 52 Israel 13
26 Uruguay 61 53 Austria 11
27/28 Greece 60
Derived from Hofstede (1991, p. 26)
3.2.3 Masculinity versus femininity
Hofstede‘s (1980) masculinity versus femininity dimension is powerful, yet often
understated by researchers (Hofstede, 1998). Masculinity, in relation to its opposite,
femininity, refers to the distribution of roles between the genders. Hofstede (1991, p.
261-2) defines this dimension as follows: "masculinity pertains to societies in which
social gender roles are clearly distinct (i.e., men are supposed to be assertive, tough,
and focused on material success whereas women are supposed to be more modest,
tender, and concerned with the quality of life); femininity pertains to societies in which
social gender roles overlap (i.e., both men and women are supposed be modest,
tender, and concerned with the quality of life)." ―Feminine cultures stress quality of
life, nurturance, warm personal relationships and fluid sex roles. In ‗masculine‘
cultures competition, success and performance are more prevalent values, and there
is a greater emphasis on sex role differentiation‖ (Goodwin, 1999, p. 27). Therefore
despite the name, this cultural dimension has little to do with gender roles (Germany
is a masculine culture, but gender empowerment is high, while most Muslim nations
are feminine cultures, but gender empowerment is low). Rather, it relates to nurturing
/ care-orientated (feminine) versus assertive / achievement-orientated (masculine)
behaviours and ideals; like all of Hofstede's ratings, masculinity/femininity is believed
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to be ingrained in the cultural mindset (Hofstede, 1998, 2002). In tougher or
masculine societies it is found that there exists an unequal role distribution between
men and women and ―more emphasis on achievement and fighting than on caring
and compromise‖ (Hofstede, 2002, p. 37).
The masculinity index describes the degree to which masculine values are valued
over feminine values. With respect to the masculinity Index (MAS) values in Table
(3.5) below, research shows that Japan (masculine (MAS) score of 95) is the world's
most masculine society, while Sweden (MAS of 5) is the most feminine society
(Hofstede, 1991). Masculinity is also high in some European countries like Austria, Italy
and Switzerland, and moderately high in Germany, South Africa, USA and Anglo
countries (Hofstede, 1991). These countries hold to similar values of assertiveness,
materialism/material success, self-centredness, power, strength, and individual
achievements. Masculine countries exhibit a high degree of ego enhancement
(Hofstede, 1998). The masculinity index (MAS) values are low in Nordic countries and
in the Netherlands and moderately low in some Latin and Asian countries like France,
Spain, South Korea and Thailand (Hofstede, 1991). These countries adhere to similar
values of nurturance, modesty, tenderness, relationships and the quality of life.
Feminine countries have a high level of relationship enhancement (Hofstede, 1998).
South Africa records a MAS score of 63 and is ranked 13/14th out of 53 countries: it
falls into the moderately masculine culture and, as a country, holds those said values
in esteem (Hofstede, 1991).
Table 3.5 Masculinity index (MAS) values for 50 countries and 3 regions
Score
Rank
Country / Region MAS
Score
Score
Rank
Country / Region MAS
Score
1 Japan 95 28 Singapore 48
2 Austria 79 29 Israel 47
3 Venezuela 73 30/31 Indonesia 46
4/5 Italy 70 30/31 West Africa 46
4/5 Switzerland 70 32/33 Turkey 45
6 Mexico 69 32/33 Taiwan 45
7/8 Ireland (Republic of) 68 34 Panama 44
7/8 Jamaica 68 35/36 Iran 43
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Score
Rank
Country / Region MAS
Score
Score
Rank
Country / Region MAS
Score
9/10 Great Britain 66 35/36 France 43
9/10 Germany F.R. 66 37/38 Spain 42
11/12 Philippines 64 37/38 Peru 42
11/12 Colombia 64 39 East Africa 41
13/14 South Africa 63 40 Salvador 40
13/14 Ecuador 63 41 South Korea 39
15 USA 62 42 Uruguay 38
16 Australia 61 43 Guatemala 37
17 New Zealand 58 44 Thailand 34
18/19 Greece 57 45 Portugal 31
18/19 Hong Kong 57 46 Chile 28
20/21 Argentina 56 47 Finland 26
20/21 India 56 48/49 Yugoslavia 21
22 Belgium 54 48/49 Costa Rica 21
23 Arab countries 53 50 Denmark 16
24 Canada 52 51 Netherlands 14
25/26 Malaysia 9 50 52 Norway 8
25/26 Pakistan 50 53 Sweden 5
27 Brazil 49
Derived from Hofstede (1991, p. 84)
At times there has been confusion between the distinguishing of the individualism
versus collectivism dimension (Ind/Col) from the masculine versus feminine
dimension (Mas/Fem) (Hofstede, 1998). Whereas relationships in Ind/Col are
predetermined by group ties, that is independence from in-groups versus dependence
on in-groups, relationships in Mas/Fem concern ego enhancement versus relationship
enhancement, regardless of group ties (Hofstede, 1998). In other words an individual
from a collectivistic society will help his or her people whereas an individual from a
feminine society will help anyone in need. Hofstede (1998) emphasises that unlike the
Ind/Col and power distance dimensions the masculine versus feminine dimension is
unrelated to and not impacted on by wealth.
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3.2.4 Uncertainty avoidance
Hofstede defines uncertainty avoidance as "the extent to which the members of a
culture feel threatened by uncertain or unknown situations." (Hofstede, 1994a, p.
113). Intolerable anxiety is a basic human response to extreme uncertainty and every
culture has developed ways to alleviate and cope with the anxiety of the unknown by
minimising uncertainty via technology, law and religion. According to Hofstede (1991),
feelings of uncertainty are acquired and learned from one‘s cultural heritage.
Therefore different societies display differing levels of tolerance and comfort for the
unpredictable, novel and unusual; for unstructured situations; uncertainty and
ambiguity (Hofstede, 2002). Cultures who are high as regards uncertainty avoidance
exercise low tolerance, are consequently uncomfortable with what is different,
unpredictable and ambiguous and will try to minimise situations where ‗what is
different is dangerous‘. Uncertainty avoiding cultures try to minimise and plan for the
possibility of such situations by laying down strict laws and rules, safety and security
measures, and by holding a belief in one truth (Hofstede, 2002; Goodwin, 1999). The
cultures that score low on uncertainty avoidance, or uncertainty accepting cultures,
are more tolerant of what is different, unpredictable and ambiguous and are therefore
many-truth orientated, holding the attitude of ‗what is different is curious‘ (Hofstede,
2002; Goodwin, 1999).
Research into the uncertainty avoidance index (UAI) values in Table (3.6) below
indicates that Greece scores the highest and Singapore the lowest. Uncertainty
avoidance scores are higher in Japan, in Latin, Mediterranean, and in German
speaking countries, but lower in Anglo, Nordic and Chinese countries. South Africa
records a UAI score of 49, is ranked 39/40th out of 53 countries and is therefore
moderately an uncertainty accepting culture: in other words, as a country it is more
tolerant of what is different, unpredictable and ambiguous.
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Table 3.6 Uncertainty avoidance index (UAI) values for 50 countries and 3 regions
Score
Rank
Country / Region UAI
Score
Score
Rank
Country / Region UAI
Score
1 Greece 112 28 Ecuador 67
2 Portugal 104 29 Germany F.R. 65
3 Guatemala 101 30 Thailand 64
4 Uruguay 100 31/32 Iran 59
5/6 Belgium 94 31/32 Finland 59
5/6 Salvador 94 33 Switzerland 58
7 Japan 92 34 West Africa 54
8 Yugoslavia 88 35 Netherlands 53
9 Peru 87 36 East Africa 52
10/15 France 86 37 Australia 51
10/15 Chile 86 38 Norway 50
10/15 Spain 86 39/40 South Africa 49
10/15 Costa Rica 86 39/40 New Zealand 49
10/15 Panama 86 41/42 Indonesia 48
10/15 Argentina 86 41/42 Canada 48
16/17 Turkey 85 43 USA 46
16/17 South Korea 85 44 Philippines 44
18 Mexico 82 45 India 40
19 Israel 81 46 Malaysia 36
20 Colombia 80 47/48 Great Britain 35
21/22 Venezuela 76 47/48 Ireland (Republic of) 35
21/22 Brazil 76 49/50 Hong Kong 29
23 Italy 75 49/50 Sweden 29
24/25 Pakistan 70 51 Denmark 23
24/25 Austria 70 52 Jamaica 13
26 Taiwan 69 53 Singapore 8
27 Arab countries 68
Derived from Hofstede (1991, p. 113)
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3.2.5 Long-term orientation versus short-term orientation
After frequent criticism that Hofstede‘s work was based on Western concepts and
thinking and after the result of his co-operation with Michael Bond, Hofstede (1991)
introduced a fifth dimension to his work: Long-term versus short-term orientation which
focuses on future and present virtue (Hofstede, 1991; 2002). Bond (1988), who termed
the new dimension Confucian dynamism, highlighted that both the positively and the
negatively rated values of this dimension are found in the teachings of Confucius. Long-
term orientation is characterised by ―persistence, ordering relationships by status and
observing this order, thrift, and having a sense of shame‖, whereas short-term
orientation is characterised by ―personal steadiness and stability, protecting your ‗face‘,
respect for tradition and reciprocation of greetings, favours, and gifts‖ (Hofstede, 1991,
p. 165-6). Long-term orientation was found to be positively correlated with national
growth (Hofstede, 1991). This is evident in the countries known as the ‗Five Dragons‘
(Hong Kong, Taiwan, Japan, South Korea and Singapore) whose economic growth has
been surprisingly fast in the past few decades. Hofstede (1991) argues that although the
short-term orientation characteristic of protecting one‘s face or face saving is markedly
present in East Asia, the low scores on this pole indicated that the people of the region
want to consciously de-emphasise it.
From the long-term orientation index (LTO) values Table (3.7) below, it is evident that
many East Asian nations, such as those mentioned, tend to score especially high on
long-term orientation but others do not, for example the Philippines. Most European
and American nations score low while the less developed nations like Pakistan and
African countries score very low and are therefore very short-term orientated. China
scored highest and Pakistan lowest. South Africa does not, as yet, have a LTO score.
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Table 3.7 Long-term orientation index (LTO) values for 23 countries
Score
Rank
Country / Region LTO
Score
Score
Rank
Country / Region LTO
Score
1 China 118 13 Poland 32
2 Hong Kong 96 14/15 Australia 31
3 Taiwan 87 14/15 Germany 31
4 Japan 80 16 New Zealand 30
5 South Korea 75 17 United States 29
6 Brazil 65 18/19 Great Britain 25
7 India 61 18/19 Zimbabwe 25
8 Thailand 56 20 Canada 23
9 Singapore 48 21 Philippines 19
10 Netherlands 44 22 Nigeria 16
11 Bangladesh 40 23 Pakistan 00
12 Sweden 33
Derived from Hofstede (1991, p. 166)
3.2.6 Summary of Hofstede‘s cultural dimensions
Below, in Table 3.8, is a summary of Hofstede‘s cultural dimensions by country or
region in alphabetical order. Each score is coded into high (H), moderate (M) and low
(L).
Table 3.8 Summary of values of Hofstede‟s cultural dimensions by country or region
Country Individualism
Power
Distance Masculinity
Uncertainty
Avoidance
Long term
orientation
Arab countries 38 M 80 H 53 M 68 M
Argentina 46 M 49 M 56 M 86 H
Australia 90 H 36 L 61 M 51 M 31 L
Austria 55 M 11 L 79 H 70 M
Belgium 75 H 65 M 54 M 94 H
Brazil 38 M 69 M 49 M 76 M 65 M
Canada 80 H 39 L 52 M 48 M 23 L
Chile 23 L 63 M 28 L 86 H
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Country Individualism
Power
Distance Masculinity
Uncertainty
Avoidance
Long term
orientation
China, Mainland 118 H
Colombia 13 L 67 M 64 M 80 H
Costa Rica 15 L 35 L 21 L 86 H
Denmark 74 H 18 L 16 L 23 L
East Africa 27 L 64 M 41 M 52 M
Ecuador 8 L 78 H 63 M 67 M
Finland 63 M 33 L 26 L 59 M
France 71 H 68 M 43 M 86 H
Germany FR 67 H 35 L 66 H 65 M 31 L
Great Britain 89 H 35 L 66 H 35 L 25 L
Greece 35 M 60 M 57 M 112 H
Guatemala 6 L 95 H 37 M 101 H
Hong Kong 25 L 68 M 57 M 29 L 96 H
India 48 M 77 H 56 M 40 L 61 M
Indonesia 14 L 78 H 46 M 48 M
Iran 41 M 58 M 43 M 59 M
Ireland 70 H 28 L 68 H 35 L
Israel 54 M 13 L 47 M 81 H
Italy 76 H 50 M 70 H 75 M
Jamaica 39 M 45 M 68 H 13 L
Japan 46 M 54 M 95 H 92 H 80 H
Malaysia 26 L 104 H 50 M 36 L
Mexico 30 L 81 H 69 H 82 H
Netherlands 80 H 38 L 14 L 53 M 44 M
New Zealand 79 H 22 L 58 M 49 M 30 L
Norway 69 H 31 L 8 L 50 M
Pakistan 14 L 55 M 50 M 70 M
Panama 11 L 95 H 44 M 86 H
Peru 16 L 64 M 42 M 87 H
Philippines 32 L 94 H 64 M 44 M 19 L
Poland 32 L
Portugal 27 L 63 M 31 L 104 H
Salvador 19 L 66 M 40 M 94 H
Singapore 20 L 74 H 48 M 8 L 48 M
South Africa 65 H 49 M 63 M 49 M
South Korea 18 L 60 M 39 M 85 H 75 M
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Country Individualism
Power
Distance Masculinity
Uncertainty
Avoidance
Long term
orientation
Spain 51 M 57 M 42 M 86 H
Sweden 71 H 31 L 5 L 29 L 33 L
Switzerland 68 H 34 L 70 H 58 M
Taiwan 17 L 58 M 45 M 69 M 87 H
Thailand 20 L 64 M 34 L 64 M 56 M
Turkey 37 M 66 M 45 M 85 H
Uruguay 36 M 61 M 38 M 100 H
USA 91 H 40 L 62 M 46 M 29 L
Venezuela 12 L 81 H 73 H 76 M
West Africa 20 L 77 H 46 M 54 M 16 L
Yugoslavia 27 L 76 H 21 L 88 H
Table 3.9 reflects a summary of the countries recording the top three and bottom
three scores in each dimension.
Table 3.9 Top three and bottom three country values on Hofstede‟s cultural
dimensions
Individualism Large Power
Distance
Masculinity Strong Uncertainty
Avoidance
Long-term
Orientation
High USA Malaysia Japan Greece China
Australia Guatemala Austria Portugal Hong Kong
Great Britain Panama Venezuela Guatemala Taiwan
Low Panama Denmark Netherlands Denmark Philippines
Ecuador Israel Norway Jamaica Nigeria
Guatemala Austria Sweden Singapore Pakistan
Table 3.10 reflects South Africa‘s scores with respect to Hofstede‘s (1991)
dimensions. South Africa scores in the moderate range of all these, with the
exception of the individualism-collectivism dimension, where it scores at the lower
end of the high individualism scores when compared to other countries. As noted
earlier these scores may be skewed because the sample used was more than likely
from a pre-apartheid predominantly White South African population and is therefore
not indicative of South Africa as a whole.
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Table 3.10 South Africa‟s rank and values on Hofstede‟s cultural dimensions
Individualism Large Power
Distance
Masculinity Strong Uncertainty
Avoidance
Long-term
Orientation
Rank 16 35/36 13/14 39/40 unknown
Value 65 49 63 49 unknown
high moderate moderate moderate unknown
3.2.7 Criticism and limitations of Hofstede‘s cultural dimensions
Hofstede (2002) outlines a number of difficulties with regards to culture. He observes
that although culture is not universally accepted and even though there are numerous
ways of defining it, culture nonetheless concerns the social world people live in and the
way in which groups of people construct and shape their lives. He adds that culture can
never be pinned down; that ―culture only manifests itself through social action that
always takes place in a changing context‖ (Hofstede, 2002, 41). As a result of culture‘s
changeable and dynamic nature it is difficult to measure it reliably and validly.
Other researchers also question the reliability and validity of his research by highlighting
the limitations that exist when data is collected through questionnaires (Goodwin, 1999).
Tayeb (1996) points out that Hofstede‘s research is founded on an attitude-survey
questionnaire, which Tayeb asserts is the least appropriate way of studying culture.
However, it could be argued that when attempting to compare culture across so many
countries, practically, Hofstede‘s survey-based approach is in actual fact a highly
efficient way of doing so. As Hofstede (2002) notes, different members of the same
culture interpret and articulate their culture in a way that may not be understood and
accepted by members of the same cultural group. Related to this concept is the point
that the averages of a country do not relate to individuals of that country and that not all
individuals (or their multiple selves) or even regions / races with subcultures fit into a
country‘s cultural model. In addition Hofstede‘s sample comprised middle-class
professional employees, teachers and students, which he recognises are not reflective
of a country‘s general population (Goodwin, 1999; Hofstede, 1991).
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Fernandez et al., (1997) points out that Hofstede‘s classic work has been criticised for
reflecting his own beliefs about what is and is not a suitable measure of a value. Finally,
Hofstede‘s research has been criticised as being outdated (Goodwin, 1999). By
Hofstede‘s own account culture is dynamic and changeable and is impacted on by
internal (enculturation) and external (acculturation) influences. Fernandez et al., (1997)
undertook a study that investigated the time differences since Hofstede‘s study (more
than 25 years previously). Their results show that Japan scored lower on uncertainty
avoidance than in Hofstede‘s study; Mexico scored higher on the individualism-
collectivism continuum, while the United States and Germany have become more
feminine over the last 25 years.
Having outlined the criticisms and limitations of Hofstede‘s cultural dimensions model it
is important to note that it is nonetheless a fruitful and acknowledged work in the field of
culture research. Although the work provides a relatively general framework for analysis,
it is nevertheless a useful guide to understanding the generic differences in culture
between countries in that it reduces the complexities of culture and its interactions into
five relatively easily understood, and to some extent measurable, cultural dimensions,
thus allowing comparisons to be made.
Having gained a clearer understanding of culture it is important to clarify the differences
between nation, ethnic group and race prior to investigating South African culture.
3.3. Nation, ethnic group and race
According to Fenton (2003) ethnic group, race and nation share the same core:
descent or ancestry and culture. He clarifies that, although they share the same
kernel, there are differences when one moves from the common core outwards; more
specifically, 1) race makes explicit reference to physical or ‗visible‘ differences; 2)
nations are associated with state or political difference; and 3) ethnic groups are a
subset of a nation, referring to cultural differences that are foreign, exotic or belong to
a minority.
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Race refers to a group of individuals that exhibit common physiognomy, phenotypic
similarities that arise from physical, genetic or biological dispositions, such as skin
colour, height, facial features and hair texture (McBride Murray, Phillips Smith & Hill,
2001; Ruiz, 2004; Segall et al., 1999). Ruiz (2004) acknowledges that the validity of
this definition has been questioned. Segall et al., (1999) agree, considering that
variations of physical, genetic or biological dispositions constitute a continuous
dimension rather than being categorical. Marger (1991, p. 21) emphasises that pure
races do not exist and that ―racial groups differ in relative, not absolute ways‖. Marger
(1991) concedes that there are physical differences (distinctive gene frequencies and
phenotypic traits) amongst people due to eons of inbreeding and adaptations to
physical environments. And it is these physical differences that allow them to fall into
―typical‖ statistical categories. However these ―typical‖ physical types tend to
intersect, intermingle and blend into one another. He adds that ―races are socially
defined groupings and are meaningful only to the extent that people make them so‖
(Marger, 1991, p. 35).
Hence it may be said that classification of race is on the whole arbitrary and depends
on the specific objectives of the classifier. Today, more than fifteen years after the
abolition of apartheid, South African government officials still divide population
estimates into four racial groups: African, White, Coloured and Indian / Asian,
indicating that although race as a definition and categorisation has been rigorously
questioned its conceptualisation and use has remained robust in South Africa
(Statistics South Africa, 2008) and, according to Lock (1993), throughout the world.
Not only has race remained important in South Africa as a mode of categorisation but
it is also politically important, for example, as in Black Economic Empowerment
(BEE), employment equity quotas, affirmative action, etcetera. This inquiry will
categorise the people of South African according to the four current official South
African racial categories (Statistics South Africa, 2008).
Marger (1991, p. 35) defines an ethnic group as ―a group within a larger society that
displays a common set of cultural traits, a sense of community among its members
based on presumed common heritage, a feeling of ethnocentrism on the part of the
group members, ascribed group membership, and, in some cases, a distinct territory‖.
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Thus Marger (1991) agrees with Fenton (2003) that ethnic groups constitute a ‗subset of
a nation‘. According to McBride Murray et al. (2001) and Ruiz (2004) ethnicity is a
subjective, self-reported sense of belonging to a particular group of people who identify
themselves as interconnected because they share a common origin and history as well
as a common milieu of cultural values, customs and traditions that are perceived by
outsiders as different, unfamiliar and unusual. Feinberg (1993) notes that ethnicity is a
multifaceted phenomenon and that although it can include various elements (e.g.
historical, political, psychological and economic) it is a resource that can be used to
either promote unity or threaten peace and stability. Jones (1993) considers that
being part of an ethnic group gives one a sense of belonging, identification and
meaning. He adds that ethnicity is a created and constructed phenomenon since the
origin of ethnic groups is often based on recent history. Grobler (1993, p. 4) highlights
the dynamic phenomenon of ethnicity in South Africa: ―at times in South Africa‘s
history it is possible to identify all the White people in a specific community as a single
ethnic group. The same is sometimes true of, for example, virtually all the Black
inhabitants of a specific area. However, at other times, those same White people on
the one hand and those same Black people on the other hand, could and did dissolve
into different and even conflicting ethnic groups‖.
South Africa as a nation is different from any other country and displays an overall and
idiosyncratic South African culture which is birthed out of the kaleidoscope of cultures
and heritages that co-exist in the nation. In 1994 during Nelson Mandela‘s presidency
he, with the help of Archbishop Desmond Tutu, introduced the concept of
multiculturalism into the South African national identity by means of the creation of the
image ‗rainbow nation‘. When Mbeki took over the presidency he emphasised the
‗African Renaissance‘ discourse. The ‗African Renaissance‘ 1) was focused on
creating an ‗African information super highway‘ and 2) linked the national identity with
Black Africanness (Alexander, 2006). As Alexander (2006) comments, this, together
with the legislation and policies like BEE, has left some minority parties and the other
three racial groups feeling excluded from the new national identity.
Alexander (2006) also observes that globalisation has impacted on South African
immigration and emigration. He says mostly White, but a higher than expected
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percentage of Black, South Africans emigrate, mainly to the United Kingdom,
because they are able to earn more internationally than at home. The majority of
immigrants into South Africa are from neighbouring countries and are illegal. Although
South Africans are known to be xenophobic towards these immigrants they are much
more accepting of skilled White foreigners who arrive in South Africa with foreign
currency.
Alexander (2006) suggests that sport (e.g. rugby, cricket, soccer, athletics, and
swimming) plays an important part in shaping national identity. Whilst rugby and
cricket primarily draw White South African crowds and soccer Black South African
spectators ―the passive support for South African teams is nonetheless pervasive and
multiracial‖ (Alexander, 2006, p.41).
Although South African‘s kaleidoscopic cultures and heritages co-exist they are not
fully integrated due to history, past regulation and in some cases choice (Joyce, 2005).
Joyce (2005, p. 13) suggests that ―any objective summary of the diverse population
must take account of the separate identities‖. Black South Africans are the dominant
racial group in South Africa. The other racial physically distinct and divergent groups in
South African are the three groups already mentioned. Each of these racial groups
carries cultural heritages that are distinctive from one another (Joyce, 2005; Marger,
1991; Mmusi, 1993). Within each of these groups distinct ethnic groups exist and these
in turn exhibit cultural heritages that are unique from one another (Joyce, 2005; Marger,
1991; Mmusi, 1993).
3.4. South Africa‘s groupings
Bowes and Pennington (2003) claim that one of the most complex webs of different
but interfacing cultures in the world resides in South Africa with its Black, Coloured,
Indian / Asian and White population groups and its eleven different languages. They
go on to say that South Africa has within her very diverse tribal customs, the full
spectrum of religious sects as well as large numbers of ‗international cultures‘
(Chinese, Greek, Japanese, Nigerian, Portuguese and Zimbabwean to name a few).
Although South Africa, ―The Rainbow Nation‖, is a melting pot of widely divergent
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cultures and heritages where blurring of cultural boundaries is occurring due to
acculturation, it is important to outline and contrast the four main South African racial
groupings that exist and their cultural and ethnic subgroups (Berry et al., 1992; Joyce,
2005; Marger, 1991; Matsumoto, 2000; Meyer, Mmusi, 1993; Viljoen, 2002a; Segall et
al., 1999; South African Tourism, 2006). The 2006 mid year population estimates were
(Statistics South Africa, 2008): the total population was estimated at 48.7 million with
approximately 25.2 million (52%) of the population being female. Almost a third (32%)
of the population was under 15 years old and approximately 7% was over sixty years
old. Reports (Statistics South Africa, 2008) indicate that the majority of the South
African population are Africans (38.6 million or 79.2 %); followed by the White
population (4.5 million or 9.2%); the Coloured population (4.4 million or 9.0%); and
finally the Indian / Asian population (1.2 million or 2.6%).
Figure 3.2. South African National Population Estimates, 2006
Derived from Statistics South Africa (2008).
However within these four racial groupings the cultural groups are further nuanced.
Research delineates South Africa's population into the following groups (Hammond-
Tooke, 1993; Joyce, 2005; Mmusi, 1993; South African Tourism, 2006):
African Group
o The Nguni (including the Zulu, Xhosa, Ndebele and Swazi), who
constitute two thirds of the population
o The Sotho-Tswana people (includes the Southern, Northern and Western
Sotho (Tswana) people)
black
white
coloured
indian/asian
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o The Tsonga
o The Venda
o Other immigrants from Africa
White Group
o The Afrikaners (of Dutch origin)
o The English
o Other immigrants from Europe
Coloured Group
o Coloureds
o The Khoikhoi and San people
Indian / Asian Group
o Indians
o Other immigrants from Asia
There are 11 officially recognised languages, namely: Afrikaans, English, Southern
Ndebele, Northern Sotho, Sesotho, Swati, Tsonga, Tswana, Venda, Xhosa and Zulu.
Most South Africans are multilingual and English is fairly widely spoken, particularly in
urban centres (South African Information, 2006; South African Tourism, 2006; South
African Venues, 2006).
Almost 80% of South Africa's population identifies with the Christian faith. Other
significant religious groups include the Hindus (Hindu), Muslims (Islam) and Jewish
(Judaism) (Pavlou, 2005; South African Information, 2006; South African Tourism,
2006; South African Venues, 2006).
3.4.1. African cultural group
Although almost 80% of South Africa's population is African or Black, this grouping is
neither culturally nor linguistically homogenous (Hammond-Tooke, 1993; Marger, 1991;
Mmusi, 1993; South African Information, 2006; Statistics South Africa, 2008). This group
does share marked historical and cultural affinities but also encompasses distinct
cultural identities that are distinguished into discrete groups by tradition, custom, social
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system and language (Joyce, 2005). There are four main classic ethnographic African
groups: Nguni, Sotho, Tsonga and Venda (Hammond-Tooke, 1993). The Nguni people
predominantly comprise the Zulu, Xhosa, Ndebele and Swazi. The Sotho people
consist of the Southern Sotho (which includes the Kwena and Tlokwa), Northern Sotho
(which includes the Pedi, Lovedu and Kgaga) and Western Sotho (Tswana) (which
includes the Kgatla, Ngwato, Thlaping and Hurutse). The Tsonga comprise the
Nhlanganu, Nkuna and Tshangana. The Venda consist of the Mphepu, Tshivase and
Mphaphuli (Hammond-Tooke, 1993; South African Tourism, 2006). ―Nine of South
Africa‘s eleven official languages are African, reflecting a variety of tribal / cultural /
[ethnic] groupings which nonetheless have a great deal in common in terms of
background, culture and descent‖ (South African Information, 2006).
Although Africans are in a transitional phase of development in which a shift is taking
place from a traditional to a more modern, individualistic, Western-orientated way of
life, the African worldview is still founded on a holistic and anthropocentric ontology
(Viljoen, 2002a). African people function as a collectivistic culture, where the
individual lives and thinks in the context of the community (Mwamwenda, 1999;
Viljoen, 2002a). Hence the traditional African ethos rests on the survival of the
community and its union with nature (Mwamwenda, 1999; Viljoen, 2002a). As a result
the personhood and identity of the traditional African is embedded in his/her collective
existence (Viljoen, 2002a). ―Personal interests are given second priority; whereas
collective interests are given first priority‖ (Mwamwenda, 1999, p. 13). In Table 3.11 a
diagrammatic representation of the contrast between the Western and African
outlooks on the person and worldview is offered.
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Table 3.11 A schematic comparison of the Western and African views of the person
and worldviews
Western views of the
person and worldview
African views of the person
and worldview
Individuality
Psychobehavioural
modalities
Groupness
Uniqueness Sameness
Differences Commonality
Competition
Values & customs
Co-operation
Individual rights Collective responsibility
Separateness &
Independence
Co-operation &
Interdependence
Survival of the fittest
Ethos
Survival of the tribe
Control over nature One with nature
Derived from Nobles (as cited in Viljoen, 2002a)
Where the Western notion of selfhood is one of ‗self-contained individualism‘ and
‗independence‘ the African concept of selfhood is one of interdependence and is
contextually based, ―defined in terms of one‘s relationships with others, such as
family, community and status or position within the group‖ (Mkhize, 2004a, p. 27).
However, notions of selfhood are not necessarily static; the modern world embodies
constant and rapid changes as well as ongoing cross-pollination of ideas between
cultures. Individuals are being exposed to multiple perspectives. It is when these
perspectives are able to enter into relationship with one another, when they are able
to open dialogue with one another, that the situation becomes psychologically
noteworthy (Mkhize, 2004a). These multiple perspectives impact on psychological
development and are explained by sociocultural approaches and concepts such as
dialogism (Mkhize, 2004a, 2004b). Dialogism advocates that meaning is emergent
and evolves from our encounters with others and our social milieu (Mkhize, 2004b). It
follows that the dialogical self is portrayed by multiplicity, flexibility, diversity and
change and emerges from exposure to others‘ voices (Mkhize, 2004b).
Mkhize (2004b) argues that the dialogical self is consistent with the African self in that
an African is pluralistic as well as being in constant dialogue with the universe and
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lives in symbiosis with it. He adds that like dialogism, the African view emphasises
that selfhood emerges through participation with others and that individuals gain self-
understanding through contact and identification with the other who is different from
themselves. He emphasizes that African selfhood is never complete; a human being
is always becoming or in the making.
In order for worldviews, whether they are Western or African orientated, to avoid
becoming monological, attention needs to be focused on the point of contact between
bodies of knowledge or at the point at which worldviews converge, where meaning
emerges (Mkhize, 2004b). Since South Africa is very diverse in its ethnic groups,
cultures, languages and beliefs, social interaction generates intercultural dialogue and
influences the selfhood of South Africans who find themselves straddling two cultures;
being raised in one culture and being introduced to or influenced by another. Thus,
given the increasing hybridisation of African and Western worldviews, it may be that, in
particular, urbanised Africans who have received a tertiary education may in fact
straddle the traditional African way as well as the Western way, or what has developed
into the modern African way. This would be in line with what current researchers are
proposing: that the embracing of new cultural values and norms may either replace
the original ones or that they are advocated in concurrent maintenance with the latter
(Berry et al., 1992; Segall et al., 1999).
3.4.2. White cultural group
The White cultural grouping in South Africa makes up just over 9% of the country‘s
population (Statistics South Africa, 2008). The majority of the White ethnic group are
descendants of the colonial immigrants of the late 17th, 18th and 19th centuries: Dutch,
French, German and British settlers (Mmusi, 1993; South African Information, 2006).
Linguistically, approximately 60% of this group define themselves as Afrikaans
speaking; with many of the remaining 40% defining themselves as English speaking
(South African Information, 2006; South African Venues, 2006). Joyce (2005) describes
the Afrikaans people as pioneering, patriarchal, Calvinistic, clan orientated and rural-
agrarian and the English as colonial and urban-industrial. During the apartheid era the
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Afrikaners were politically dominant but the English-speaking White people were
economically dominant (Marger, 1991). Although they were neither culturally nor
politically unified both groups profited from apartheid and white rule (Marger, 1991).
Adhikari (2005) claims that White South Africans continue to enjoy economic dominance
while attempting to realign allegiances by ingratiating themselves with the African
political elite.
The worldview of the White South African corresponds closely with the Western
worldview. Whereas the Black South African is collectivistic and is concerned with
interdependence and family, community and the group, the White South African is
individualistic and concerned with independence and ‗self-contained individualism‘
(Mkhize, 2004a). Thus in terms of Table 3.1, the White South Africans strive for
psychobehavioural modalities such as: individuality, uniqueness and differences;
values and customs that embody: competition, individual rights and separateness and
independence; and an ethos that denotes survival of the fittest and control over
nature (Nobles as cited in Viljoen, 2002a).
3.4.3. Coloured cultural group
The Coloured cultural grouping in South Africa constitutes approximately 9% of the
country‘s population (Statistics South Africa, 2008). The Coloured ethnic group
comprises mixed-race people primarily descended from the earliest settlers, Cape
slaves, and the indigenous Khoisan peoples (Adhikari, 2005; Marger, 1991; Mmusi,
1993; South African Information, 2006). Approximately 90% of Coloured people speak
Afrikaans, while the remaining 10% speak English as their mother tongue (Marger,
1991; South African Information, 2006). Erasmus and Pieterse (1999, p. 173) concur
and expand this point: ―Historically, poorer Coloured people, mainly in urban areas,
were privileged in relation to Africans with regard to certain categories of work; the
provision of higher levels of access to education and health services; the provision of
unemployment benefits that emerged from being part of the recognized / ‘legal‘ labour
force; the provision of housing infrastructure (both buildings and services) and the
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extension of a range of welfare services such as disability grants, (higher) state
pensions, maintenance grants, amongst others‖.
The worldview of the Coloured South African is tainted by the lack of identity that he /
she feels (Brindley, 1976). According to Brindley (1976, p. 73), apartheid has played a
key role in Coloured South Africans ―losing sight of their place and position in the total
scheme of things; and this in turn is causing them to feel unwanted; divided amongst
themselves, disillusioned and bitter‖. She quotes how Coloured people describe rifts in
the community and the lack of a collectivistic worldview: ―‘the fault of the Coloureds,
especially here in Johannesburg, is that they do not stand together, they are not united,
each is only out for himself…..Their biggest downfall is that they look at other Coloureds
as ‗laag‘ (‗low down‘)‘‖ (Brindley, 1976, p. 74). Adhikari (2005) in more recent work
confirms Brindley‘s (1976) claims.
Adhikari (2005) claims that the Coloured identity has remained fundamentally stable
throughout the era of white supremacy and rule. He goes on to observe that there are
four significant characteristics that shaped the foundation of the Coloured identity:
1. the desire to assimilate into the White dominant society in the hope and
aspiration of future acceptance by the dominant White minority;
2. the Coloureds‘ intermediate status between the dominant White minority and the
large African majority in the South African racial hierarchy. Zimitri Erasmus, a
Coloured sociologist in South Africa, says ―growing up coloured meant knowing
that I was not only not white, but less than white: not only black but better than
black (as we referred to African people)‖ (as cited in Adhikari, 2005, p. 10), thus
indicating the position of relative privilege for Coloured people during apartheid
rule when compared to African people. This resulted in a fear that they might lose
this position of relative privilege and be demoted to the position of the Africans,
which spurred their expression and association with whiteness and the parallel
distancing from Africanness;
3. negative and derogatory associations with which the Coloured identity was
infused, especially the shame that was attached to their supposed racial and
cultural hybridism. ―Coloured identity……tended to be accepted with resignation
and often with a sense of shame by its bearers, as a bad draw in the lottery of
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life‖ (Adhikari, 2005, p. 14). Brindley (1976) reports that only a handful of the
people she interviewed were proud of being Coloured;
4. the marginality of the Coloured people caused them a great deal of anger,
frustration, alienation, apathy and fatalism because of the severe constraints this
marginality placed on the possibilities of social and political action. Brindley
(1976) adds that lack of self-confidence, self-pity, and sensitivity are the
psychological features that are characteristic of marginality in the Coloured
individual.
According to Adhikari (2005, p. 176), the Coloured people in post-apartheid South Africa
say that ―first we were not white enough and now we are not black enough‖. Although
the skilled and educated middle class Coloured South Africans have benefited after
apartheid, the working class Coloured people have remained victims of poverty and
marginalisation with some evidence that living standards have deteriorated.
Consequently the past relative position of privilege has been lost in the current context
of the democratic transition‘s equity measures, leaving Coloured people at the bottom of
the pecking order in the new South Africa (Adhikari, 2005; Erasmus & Pieterse, 1999).
Adhikari (2005, p. 186) concludes that the ―Coloured identity in the new South Africa is
one of fragmentation, uncertainty and confusion‖.
The worldview of the Coloured South African is currently unknown because no formal
research has been undertaken as yet to establish the Coloured people‘s cultural
orientation according to the individualism and collectivism dimension. Part of this
study represents an attempt to clarify this issue. Perhaps it could be hypothesised
that the skilled, educated middle class Coloured South African may lean more closely
towards the Western / individualistic worldview, whereas the poorer, working class
Coloured South African may be more collectivistic in this regard.
3.4.4. Indian / Asian cultural group
The South African Indian / Asian cultural group comprise 2.6% of the country‘s
population (Statistics South Africa, 2008). Most of this cultural group is of Indian origin
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(Hindu or Muslim) and its members do preserve their own cultural heritage and religious
beliefs (Joyce, 2005). The Indian people are descended from 19th century indentured
workers brought to work on the sugar plantations and from Indian traders (Joyce, 2005;
Marger, 1991; Mmusi, 1993; South African Information, 2006). Although a few of the
older Indian generation speak Indian languages the majority of the young Indians speak
English exclusively (Joyce, 2005). Overall the Indian society is unified and prosperous
with a high proportion of professionals and entrepreneurs (Joyce, 2005). Joyce (2005)
postulates that although relationships and social interaction are regulated by the
disciplined patriarchal extended family, this is altering to produce smaller families where
the traditional male authority no longer goes unquestioned. Women have a propensity to
lead far freer and diverse lives than in previous generations (Joyce, 2005).
A smaller part of the Indian / Asian cultural group consists of Chinese people who are
descendants of the gold mine migrant workers of the late 19th century and post
apartheid Chinese immigrants. The Chinese population is estimated at approximately
100 000 people (Mmusi, 1993).
Unlike the Western worldview the Eastern is more like the African worldview in that its
focus falls on collectivism and on a ―person‘s harmonious connectedness to fellow
humans, society, nature and the cosmos‖ (Viljoen, 2002b, p. 501). Similar to the African
view of negation of a person‘s unique identity, the Eastern perspective emphasizes the
transcendence of an ego or unique identity (Viljoen, 2002b). While, as mentioned, the
Western worldview emphasises the individualised self who strives for autonomy and
actualisation of the self, conversely, the Eastern worldview emphasizes the
contextualized self which consists of 1) a familial self or the ‗we-centered self‘ which
is fostered in mutual symbiotic interpersonal relationships; and 2) a spiritual self which
is fostered in the transcendent relationships (Viljoen, 2002b). Viljoen (2002b) clarifies
that the Eastern worldview does not negate individuality or actualisation of the self but
instead emphasizes actualisation of the self as the ‗transcendence of the self‘ rather
than the ‗extension of the self‘.
Having briefly explored the history, worldviews and identities of the four primary
groups in South Africa the study considers the concept of globalisation. Culture and
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ethnicity in this country and worldwide cannot be understood nowadays without
probing the powerful and pervasive impact of globalisation.
3.5. The impact of globalisation on culture
3.5.1 Introduction
Although globalisation and the flow of goods, people and ideas have existed for eons,
the current pace and extent of globalisation are unprecedented (Arnett, 2002; Bhugra
& Mastrogianni, 2004; Franklin, Lury & Stacey, 2000; Jensen, 2003). Researchers
explain that the dramatically accelerated connections and interactions between
different cultures and regions are due to advances in communications and travel as
well as worldwide economic and financial interdependence (Arnett, 2002; Bhawuk,
2008). These connections and advances are no longer restrained by national
boundaries or geographic ‗locatedness‘ (Franklin et al., 2000). Giddens (1990, p. 64)
supports this by noting ―an intensification of worldwide social relations which link
distant localities in such a way that local happenings are shaped by events occurring
many miles away and vice versa‖.
3.5.2 Distinguishing factors of globalisation
Recently researchers have distinguished between two facets of globalisation: 1) the
horizontal and 2) the vertical. The vertical facet is the more recent addition and is also
known as neoliberal globalisation (Alexander, 2006). The horizontal axis focuses on
―expanding opportunities for shared understandings with people in other countries‖,
consequently the multiplicity of identities, while the vertical focuses on ―increasing
inequalities and reducing common experience‖ (Alexander, 2006, p. 59). Husted
(2003) concurs with the concept of vertical globalisation and suggests that
globalisation may affect different subcultures differently. He says that research shows
college students in Recife and Porto Alegre, Brazil have more in common with college
students in Philadelphia than with low socioeconomic status groups in Porto Alegre,
Brazil. Similarly Arnett (2002) reports that young people who stem from Arab urban
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middle and upper classes are more similar to Western young people than to Arab
young people from rural areas. Alexander (2006, p. 44) provides a South African
example of social diversity and the antithesis of shared experiences: ―an income-less,
AIDS stricken family living in rural KZN, and a jet-setting millionaire living in, among
other places, a Johannesburg or Cape Town mansion‖.
Researchers broadly define globalisation as a process in which there is a gradual and
progressive receding of the traditional boundaries that separate individuals, cultures
and societies. They say that this process is changing the nature of human interaction
in many realms: cultural (values, systems and practices), environmental, social,
economic (including knowledge and skills), political (including the military sphere),
technological and modes of transport and communication (Bhugra & Mastrogianni,
2004; Hermans & Kempen, 1998; Kunitz, 2000; Lee, 2000; Nsibambi, 2001). ―It is
changing the way we perceive time and space, and the way we think about the world
and ourselves‖ (Bhugra & Mastrogianni, 2004, p. 10). Of primary relevance and focus
in this study is the way in which globalisation is impacting on the cultural realm. As
Hermans and Kempen (1998) observe, the impact of globalisation and the
interconnectedness that new technologies are wielding has resulted in the decrease
in and even removal of spatial distances, drawing people from different cultural
origins into close relationships. They add that the shared understandings,
interconnection and hybridisation across cultures allow for the interweaving of
cultures which opens up space for the creation of new genres, complex cultural
mixtures and new forms for the development of cultural identities. They propose that
globalisation is starting to fracture the cross-cultural assumption that culture is
geographically located and that as a result of globalisation cultures are ever
changing, flowing and fusing.
3.5.3 The cultural uniformity debate
Franklin et al. (2000) postulate that there is an overarching global culture which is
driven and supported by technologies (i.e. new electronic networks such as the
Internet and satellite telecommunications), products (i.e. multinational consumer
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brands, for instance McDonalds, Coca Cola, Holiday Inn, Hilton Hotel, Body Shop,
Benetton) and industries (such as airline industries, international tourism and the
popular media industry, e.g. movies, television soap operas, television talk shows,
and various music genres). There are some who agree and add that globalisation and
cultural connectedness are leading to a cultural uniformity: one worldwide
homogeneous culture, while others suggest this approach is reductionistic (Arnett,
2002). Husted (2003) argues that the deep mental cultural programming that
Hofstede (1991) describes is more in line with what local culture is about and that
global culture is a standardisation of cultural practice which is only one level and facet
of culture. He concludes that globalisation is a standardisation of culture in a very
superficial sense and that even when a foreign practice is adopted by a local culture,
such a practice is mediated through the local culture values, beliefs and practices into
a hybridised form; e.g. McDonalds in Mexico provides its customers with jalapeños.
Husted (2003) expands this to contend that in terms of their worldview, individuals
from different cultures do not necessarily think similarly about important world issues
nor do they think similarly about how conflicts between values should be resolved.
Featherstone (1990) suggests researchers should rather employ a broader definition
of culture and think more in terms of processes, that is, ―cultural integration and
cultural disintegration processes‖ which occur not only on the ―inter-state level‖ (inter-
provincial level) but also transcend that level and transpire on the ―trans-national or
trans-societal level‖ (p. 1). Hermans and Kempen (1998) add an alternative
dimension, writing that in the face of globalisation ―self or identity can be conceived of
as a dynamic multiplicity of different and even contrasting positions or voices that
allow mutual dialogical relationships‖ (p. 1118). They go on to argue that, instead of
cultural homogeneity, hybridisation, bicultural and multicultural identities are more
likely to emerge. Jensen (2003) concurs, suggesting that many adolescents
nowadays develop a bicultural identity. Arnett (2002) is also a member of this camp
and he proposes that ―many adolescents in today‘s world of globalisation develop a
‗local identity‘ based on their indigenous tradition, as well as a ‗global identity‘ based
on their exposure to a global (often Western) culture conveyed through media‖
(Jensen, 2003, p.193). He adds that nowadays identity formation represents a much
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more active process of creation and recreation based on individual choices and
decisions.
3.5.4 Consequences of globalisation
For Arnett (2002, p. 777) ―the central psychological consequence of globalisation is
that it results in transformations in identity, that is, in how people think about
themselves in relation to the social environment‖. He goes on to outline what he
considers to be the four primary psychological consequences of globalisation: 1) most
individuals have a sense that they are part of a global culture as well as being rooted
in their local culture and as a result people have developed a bicultural identity; 2)
some young non-Western people are experiencing increased levels of identity
confusion due to the fact that they feel uncomfortable in the evolving local and global
culture; 3) some individuals form self-selected cultures with like-minded individuals,
for example, religious systems and music genres; and 4) a post-adolescent period is
evolving, where love and work identity exploration extend beyond the previous
adolescent years (10-18 years) into the emerging adulthood period (18 – 25 years). In
other words, transitions into adult roles of work, marriage and parenthood are being
extended to later ages because these young people are taking time to explore and
experience different jobs, different education possibilities and a variety of love
relationships. The fourth and final point of Arnett‘s consequences is very pertinent to
this study because the bulk of the sample is derived from the 18-25 year population.
As Jensen (2003, p. 190) remarks ―the globalisation ethos, in many ways a Western
and even American ethos, often emphasizes individual autonomy and secular values,
and quite frequently these values are not easily reconciled with those of more
traditional cultures emphasizing community cohesion and religious devotion‖. She
proceeds to interrogate the impact of the accompanying psychological challenges,
losses and gains of a multicultural identity formation: 1) ‗culture shedding‘ where the
individual leaves behind unlearned aspects of the parents‘ culture as well as
undesirable beliefs and practices; 2) ‗culture shock‘ or ‗acculturative stress‘ where the
individual in the face of globalisation finds it difficult to reconcile culturally diverse
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views, and therefore struggles to form a coherent identity; and 3) a situation where
major psychopathology may develop. Berry (1997) suggests that the degree of
cultural distance influences the balance between gains and losses and that the
greater the cultural distance between cultures the greater the potential for
psychological and social problems.
Arnett (2002) clarifies the fact that not everyone successfully manages to adapt to the
cultural changes that globalisation demands and not everyone manages to develop a
bicultural or hybrid identity that allows the individual to negotiate living in the local as
well as the global culture. Considering Erickson‘s (1968) theory of personality and his
fifth developmental crisis that arises with regard to identity versus identity confusion,
Arnett (2002) cautions that globalisation may increase the proportion of adolescents
in non-Western cultures who experience identity confusion as opposed to those who
successfully form an identity. A variety of cultures have reported a sharp increase in
depression, suicide and substance abuse and Arnett (2002) suggests that this may
be a consequence of identity confusion as a result of joining the global culture. Arnett
(2002) echoes Berry‘s (1997) sentiment above, remarking that this is particularly
evident when there is conflict or large cultural distance between the values of the
traditional cultures versus those of the West or global culture.
3.5.5 Globalisation in South Africa
Although empirical support is yet to be comprehensively derived it appears that as
regards the South African population it may be deduced that White South Africans,
who are supposedly situated more on the individualistic cultural continuum, may
display a more seamless and effortless fit with the globalisation ethos when
compared with their African and Indian / Asian counterparts, who supposedly fall
more on the collectivistic cultural continuum. In any case, religious affiliation, social
class, individual differences, generation and gender will nonetheless create variation
within cultural communities (Jensen, 2003). It may therefore be more accurate to
suggest that the more affluent and therefore more individualistic South African will
harmonize with globalisation more effortlessly. Arnett (2002) adds, as an example,
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that because urban adolescents worldwide exhibit such similar consumption patterns
and similar preferences for a ‗global brand‘ of music, videos, movies, soft-drinks, fast-
foods etcetera, they are known as ‗global teens‘. As a result marketers are able to
market generically to ‗global teens‘ very successfully (Arnett, 2002; Franklin et al.,
2000).
Alexander (2006) postulates that prior to 1994, the full impact of globalisation in South
Africa was delayed since this country was on a different economic trajectory and
because of the apartheid political environment. Since 1994, Webster and Adler (1999)
suggest, South Africans have had to negotiate a ‗double transition‘ with regard to
shifting patterns of identity: the demolition of apartheid as well as the advent of
globalisation. Alexander (2006) highlights that the new South African national identity
is just over a decade old and he goes on to suggest that the likely trends that will
impact on this newly formed identity are: 1) a flagging and fracturing of South African
national identity; 2) a dwindling in racial and political identities particularly in the
younger generations where they are more interested in consumerism and other
cultural aspects; 3) an increase in religious and ethnic identification, often with religion
forming a basis for ethnicity; and 4) a re-emergence and a re-visioning of class as an
identity, but in new modes. He concludes that although there is considerable variation
in patterns of South African identity amongst South Africans and when one compares
South Africa to other countries, this variation in identities is declining and those South
African identities (especially in urban areas) are more and more in line with those of
other countries because of the powerful sway of globalisation.
Dawson (2006) reports that the majority of students on South African campuses fall
into the middle class socioeconomic status category. Dawson (2006) maps the sub
categories and different student identities into academic students, trendy students,
poor or struggling students and leader/political students who fight for student rights.
Alexander (2006) suggests that although these student identities are fragmented due
to polarizing impact of post apartheid globalisation there is evidence of a new student
movement surfacing. Dawson (2006) proceeds to recount that what is most important
to students is not political activism but, instead, individualism, religiosity, studying and
making friends. Nkuna (2006) studied the Y-generation culture of a northern suburb
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mall in Johannesburg called The Zone, noting that it is frequented by the youth of the
post-apartheid Black African elite, their White classmates, township girls desperately
trying to fit in and local celebrities. She observes that although The Zone is
multicultural, racially and gender inclusive it is also class exclusive. She adds that
whilst some brands (e.g. Levis) and some music (e.g. R&B) is popular with the
majority of the youth, there are also differences where some labels and hairstyles
only appeal to the Black Africans whilst others appeal only to the White Africans.
Nkuna (2006) reports that although there is racial integration, Black Africans are more
prone to socialise and mingle with Black Africans, White Africans with White Africans,
and so forth. She concludes that these youths are constructing Americanised, global
youth cultural identities but that these identities are mediated and modulated through
local South African inflections. Alexander (2006, p.35-36) describes The Zone as ―a
space where a new upper-class identity is being forged…….This, then, is a class
culture with global outlines, yet shaded with local tensions and inflections‖.
Arnett (2002) argues that globalisation modifies and erodes traditional ways while
according to Larson, Wilson, Brown, Furstenberg and Verma (2002) its impact in
Africa can be seen by the fact that: 1) rural African household sizes are decreasing;
2) young people feel that the traditional systems of sexual control are no longer
relevant and as a result premarital sex and pregnancy are on the increase; and 3)
more and more urban families are adopting the Western ethos of individualism
concerning personal goals in social, school and work life, in contrast to the African
tradition of family cohesion. Nsamenang (2002, p. 63) highlights this: ―The process of
acculturation and globalisation has bestowed on contemporary Africa a dual politico-
economic and cultural system of old indigenous traditions and imported
legacies…This has produced the marginal population whose adults, teenagers and
children are groping desperately to reconcile within individual and collective psyches
the ambivalences and contradictions of a confusing cultural braid.‖
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3.5.6 Conclusion as regards globalisation
In sum, as local cultures adapt global influences to local circumstances, cultural
diversity will continue to exist (Hermans & Kempen, 1998) and as globalisation results
in increasingly complex bicultural, multicultural and hybrid identities, diversity of
identity will continue to increase for individuals (Arnett, 2002). According to Hermans
and Kempen (1998) the process of globalisation is creating a world that is
unpredictable, changing, diverse and ‗translocal‘, which evokes much uncertainty.
They suggest that this arousal of uncertainty due to globalisation and hybridisation is
closely linked with Hofstede‘s (1980) cultural dimension of uncertainty avoidance.
Possibly the countries with low uncertainly avoidance cultures for example Singapore,
Anglo, Nordic and Chinese countries as well as China will adapt to globalisation more
readily and effortlessly than countries with high uncertainty avoidance cultures, for
example, Japan, or in Latin American, Mediterranean, and German speaking countries.
As noted, South Africa is a moderately uncertainty accepting culture and may
therefore acclimatise to the challenges of globalisation fairly well. However, because
of the changing nature of culture, Hofstede‘s (1991) scores may be outdated.
3.6. Conclusion
Culture is a nebulous and ever altering construct that is influenced by many factors
including enculturation and acculturation. The fluidity of culture and the difficulty of
capturing it in a precise snapshot make the concept difficult to define and measure.
Although criticised by some, a useful and well recognized theoretical framework to
understanding general cultural differences is that of Hofstede‘s five dimensions of
culture. These dimensions were investigated in detail: individualism versus
collectivism; large versus small power distance; masculinity versus femininity; strong
versus weak uncertainty avoidance and long-term orientation versus short-term
orientation. Within this chapter the author explored the similarities (the core: descent
or ancestry and culture) and the differences when one moves from the common core
outwards: race, ethnic group and nation. South Africa‘s four major cultural groupings
were examined. Finally, the impact of globalisation on identities and culture was
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explored worldwide and in South Africa. Globalisation has added different dimensions
and nuances to the construct of culture and identity, thus adding to this complex and
tenuous construct of culture.
In an attempt to gain greater understanding of the overall romantic love puzzle the
following chapter investigates the intersection between culture and romantic love and
considers how romantic love is influenced and shaped by culture. This intersection is
particularly difficult to investigate because both culture and romantic love are difficult
to pinpoint. In addition, the generic limitation that occurs in all cross-cultural studies –
the comparability of meaning – in this case as regards romantic love adds to the
obscurity. This difficulty prevails in this study too. Nonetheless by means of various
theories and findings researchers have attempted to uncover romantic love and its
meaning across cultures. This is surveyed in four sections in the chapter that follows.
Firstly, romantic love is explored across cultures through the lens of individualism and
collectivism. Thereafter research findings on romantic love across culture are
investigated. Thirdly, the impact of globalisation and cultural shifts on romantic love is
probed and finally South African romantic love is surveyed.
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CHAPTER 4
Culture and Romantic Love
Dr Aubrey Richards, an anthropologist who lived among the Bemba of
Zambia in the 1930s, once related to a group of them an English folk tale about
a young prince who climbed glass mountains, crossed chasms, and fought dragons,
all to obtain the hand of a maiden he loved. The Bemba were plainly bewildered, but
remained silent. Finally an old chief spoke up, voicing the feelings of all present in the
simplest of questions.
―Why not take another girl?‖ he asked.
(Morton Hunt – The Natural History of Love)
4.1. Introduction
If culture shapes the person‘s views and how they make sense of the world, then
notions and manifestations of intimacy are also shaped by culture (Smith & Bond,
1998). In other words the way one views the self, the world and the socio-cultural
environment impacts on how one views, behaves in and manages intimate
relationships. Like all complex human phenomena romantic love is mediated by
cultural values, beliefs, ways and social institutions – it wears a cultural face and is
learned (Jankowiak, 1995; Neto, 2007). Upon investigating love beliefs some
researchers have found that culture explained more variance than did gender
(Sprecher & Toro-Morn, 2002). As Landis and O‘Shea (2000) say, passionate love is
a complex and multidimensional factor that varies as a function of culture. Beall and
Sternberg (1995) suggest that love is a social construction and that the definition and
experience of love are determined by the culture and time period of the lover and
beloved. If theorists like Freud and Fromm are to be believed then one‘s cultural
milieu mediates, deeply influences and shapes an individual‘s capacity to love in
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adulthood (Freud, 1905; Fromm, 1956; van Zyl, 2009). Jankowiak (1995, p. 4)
captures the complexity of love and eloquently describes romantic love as ―a complex
multifaceted emotional phenomenon that is a byproduct of an interplay between
biology, self and society‖.
Researchers also agree that romantic love is a near-universal phenomenon (Buss,
2000; Cho & Cross; 1995; Jankowiak, 1995; Lampert, 1997). These findings are
supported by Harris (1995). Regardless of an individual‘s cultural milieu the seven
core characteristics of being in love are (Harris, 1995, p. 102-103):
the desire for union or merger
idealisation of the beloved
exclusivity
intrusive thinking about the love object
emotional dependency
a reordering of motivational hierarchies or life priorities
a powerful sense of empathy and concern for the beloved
Recently several cross-cultural studies have been undertaken in diverse cultures
worldwide in an attempt to unravel the nature, types and function of love; they have
amply verified the universality of love as well as the cultural differences in attitudes
about love and romance.
4.2. Love across the individualistic and collectivistic dimension
The cultural differences in romantic love can be explored usefully within a cultural
milieu by utilising the sociocultural constructs of individualism and collectivism (Dion &
Dion, 1988, 1993a, 1996, 2005). These lines of inquiry have been followed by many
researchers recently (Dion & Dion, 1993a; Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Goodwin &
Findlay, 1997; Levine et al., 1995; Murstein et al., 1991; Neto et al., 2000, 2007;
1991; Sprecher et al., 1994; Sprecher & Toro-Morn, 2002).
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In more industrialised, Western societies, individualism is characterised by the ―I‖,
independence, personal initiative, personal autonomy, self-reliance, personal freedom
and striving for self actualisation and pursuit of an individual‘s own goals (Hofstede,
1980; Triandis, 1995). In less industrialised and more traditional African and Eastern
societies, collectivism is characterised by the ―we‖, interdependence, belonging to a
group, group norms, obligations and goals, group integrity unity, and loyalty
(Hofstede, 1980; Triandis, 1995). Hofstede (2002) cautions that in order to be able to
function in a healthy intimate relationship people need to balance the pursuit of their
own goals, needs and rights versus those of the group. He says that those who are
too individualistic may feel alone and isolated while those who are too collectivistic
may repress their individuality and end up feeling empty, resentful or angry. Like
Hofstede (2002), Dion and Dion (1988) argue an interesting point: that there exists an
intrinsic tension between individualistic ideals and the interdependence demanded by
romantic love. Fairly recently Barrett (2000) proposed that individualistic and
collectivistic societies vary in the forms of independence and interdependence, but
that both cultures socialise children to display both tendencies. Implying that
―independence and interdependence are fostered in all cultures and that
independence is not antithetical to interdependence‖ (Barrett, 2000, p. 94). Earlier
Triandis (1995) suggested that individualism could be divided into vertical and
horizontal dimensions. Vertical individualism emphasises autonomy with status,
inequality, power and competition, whereas horizontal individualism emphasises
autonomy with egalitarianism, uniqueness and separateness. Therefore, Fromm‘s
(1956) assertion that individualism, with its focus on self rather than others, thwarts
intimacy and love relationships may be true for vertical individualism with its emphasis
on competition and status but not necessarily for horizontal individualism.
Various researchers share anecdotes of the ways in which individualistic and
collectivistic differences play out in love. As Matsumoto recounts, when speaking to
someone from a different culture about the high divorce rate in America, the person
said this was not the case in his country and that it was because ―You Americans
marry the person you love; we love the person we marry‖ (Matsumoto & Juang, 2004,
p. 401). For Hsu (1981) there are cognitive differences between how an American
and a traditional Chinese person think about love. According to Hsu (1981) an
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American will ask ―How does my heart feel?‖ whereas a traditional Chinese person
will ask ―What will other people say?‖ These anecdotes indicate that although love is
regarded as an essential and often adequate ingredient for a long-term romantic
relationship and marriage in Western cultures, this is not necessarily the case in other
cultures.
Dion and Dion (1993b) propose that most people in individualistic societies base
marriages on love, whereas, in collectivistic societies, most people base marriages on
other factors. Dion and Dion (1993a) contrast the Western (individualistic) concept of
romantic love, which embodies the exclusive and intense emotional involvement,
attention and commitment to the beloved as well as a physical attraction to the
beloved, with the Eastern (collectivistic) concept of love which embodies love
developing slowly with a caring companion who fits smoothly and without disruption
into the individual‘s larger complex social milieu. Because of this difference in the
concept of love between individualistic and collectivistic cultures this too impacts on
the formation of their intimate relationships. Researchers support this by asserting
that although various forms of marriage and partner formation take place in the
majority of cultures worldwide, different meanings and factors of importance are
appropriated by different cultures (Goodwin, 1999; Matsumoto & Juang, 2004).
In comparing the way individualistic societies and collectivistic societies view love,
researchers have found profound differences (Levine et al., 1995). In the
individualistic, Western cultures the idealisation of love and marriage is paramount
and mate selection is determined by individual choice and romantic love (Coontz,
2005; Dion & Dion, 1993a; Gergen & Gergen, 1988; Goodwin, 1999). On the other
hand romantic love is often perceived as dangerous and a threat to family structure in
collectivistic societies (Coontz, 2005; Levine et al., 1995; Sandhya, 2009). According
to Lee and Stone (1980), more often than not, marriage decisions in collectivistic
societies are concluded by an individual‘s family. In these societies ―relationships are
of primary importance, even when they are personally very costly and marriage links
families, rather than just mere individuals‖ (Goodwin, 1999, p. 24-25). Having said
that, this is not always the case in collectivistic societies. The African person is born
into a collectivistic society where in some cases marriage is arranged by family
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members although in other cases marriage is determined by love (Mwamwenda,
1999; Smith, 2001). This trend is recognised in recent research conducted in other
collectivistic societies. In collectivistic societies where people are moving away from
their kin, due to geographic, economic or educational reasons, mate selection is
starting to be determined by individual choice and romantic love (Hart, 2004; Okonjo,
1992; Sandhya, 2009; Smith 2001).
Dion and Dion (1993b) conducted a study using two individualistic societies (Canada
and the United States) and three collectivistic societies (China, India, and Japan):
they helped clarify culture-related differences in romantic love along the individualism
versus collectivism dimension. They concluded that ―(a) romantic love is more likely to
be an important basis for marriage in individualistic than in collectivistic societies; (b)
psychological intimacy in marriage is more important for marital satisfaction and
personal well-being in individualistic than in collectivistic societies; and (c) although
individualism fosters the valuing of romantic love, certain aspects of individualism at
the psychological level make developing intimacy problematic‖ (p. 53).
In order to further interrogate the romantic love differences between cultures a survey
of the romantic love research findings cross-culturally is considered below under the
headings of: 1) love as a basis for marriage, 2) romantic beliefs and attitudes, 3)
attachment styles, 4) lovestyles, 5) other ways of love and 6) love and money
4.3. Romantic love cross-cultural research findings
According to evolutionary psychologists romantic love is grounded in a biological core
which serves to ensure the best possible sexual selection strategy for reproduction
(Buss, 2003). Romantic love is therefore ‗hard-wired‘ into human beings and can
consequently be assumed to be a universal phenomenon. Recent cross-cultural
evolutionary research supports this hypothesis and claims that on average both sexes
ranked love as the most important quality in a potential partner (Buss, 2003, 2004). A
vast cross-cultural study undertaken by Jankowiak and Fischer (1992) reported
similar findings. They established that romantic love existed in 88.5% of 166
traditional cultures examined. They argue that the other 11.5% were reported as not
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experiencing romantic love because of ethnographic oversights rather than confirmed
absence of romantic love in those cultures. Although love is universal this does not
mean that individuals from these cultures are accorded the freedom to pursue and
marry the beloved; instead, often arranged marriages were the norm in these
cultures.
4.3.1. Love as a basis for marriage
According to Hart (2007, p. 345), ―marriage is at the intersection of intimacy,
economic and kin ties, evolving gender roles, and transforming cultural practices on
local, national, and global levels‖. Goodwin (1999) contends that marriage can be
conceived of as being on a continuum from completely arranged to complete freedom
of mate selection. Worldwide, arranged marriages are common and have existed for
centuries (Goodwin, 1999; Matsumoto & Juang, 2004). According to Ingoldsby
(1995), the most common form of mate selection worldwide is by arrangement. Love
as the basis for a marriage, on the other hand, is a relatively new concept and has
been practised predominantly in Western societies for the last 300 years or so
(Coontz, 2005, 2007; Goodwin, 1999; Hatfield & Rapson, 1996; Matsumoto & Juang,
2004). Arranged marriages are more common in collectivistic societies, in which
marriage is not only perceived as the union between two people but also the union
and alliance between two families – socially and economically (Dion & Dion, 1993b;
Goodwin, 1999). The belief that romantic love is not a part of marriage or that ‗love
follows after marriage‘ is inherent in the basis of these marriages. The emphasis as
regards the basis of these marriages falls instead on resource and economic
transmission (Goodwin, 1999). Included in this is the concept of the bride-price.
Often, in arranged marriages, either the bride or the groom‘s family will pay for the
privilege of the marriage. In two thirds of the cases it is the groom‘s family that will
pay the bride‘s family for the benefit of her reproductive and labour services
(Goodwin, 1999). Bride-price or ―lobola‖ is common in Africa and South Africa
(Goodwin, 1999; Mwamwenda, 1999; Schapera & Comaroff, 1991; Van der Vliet,
1991; West, 1976) with 88% of a Xhosa sample supporting the custom (Mwamwenda
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& Monyooe, 1997). Even though the Dowry Prohibition Act was passed in 1961 the
bride-price custom persists in India (Goodwin, 1999).
The concept of romantic love as a basis of marriage is revered and important in
individualistic societies but downplayed in collectivistic societies (Dion & Dion,
1993a). These differences were exemplified in a number of recent studies.
"If a boy (girl) had all the other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if
you were not in love with him (her)?" was the question Kephart (1967) asked of more
than 1,000 American students. He found that 64.6% of the male respondents and
24.3% of the female respondents said they would not marry a person with whom they
were not in love. In later research, when Simpson, Campbell and Berscheid (1986)
posed the same question in the 1970s and the 1980s, on both occasions more than
80% of men and women said they would not, indicating that romantic love as the
basis of marriage had become substantially more important to both sexes. Simpson
et al. (1986) added two more questions to their study regarding the importance of love
for the maintenance of marriage. Although there were no gender differences, more
participants agreed than disagreed that love would be necessary for the maintenance
of marriage. When the above questions were posed across cultures, researchers
reported some interesting cross-cultural differences.
Levine et al. (1995) asked local students from eleven countries to rate the importance
of love for the basis as well as for the maintenance of a marriage. There was no
gender difference in responses, neither within cultures nor overall (Levine et al.,
1995). The Americans represented the highest percentage (85.9%) of respondents
who said that they would not marry someone they did not love while the Indians
constituted the lowest percentage (24.0%), thereby confirming the premise that
romantic love as a basis of marriage is more important in individualistic cultures than
in collectivistic cultures.
Below (Table 4.1) is a summary of Levine et al.‘s (1995) results as regards the
measure of ‗love as a basis for marriage‘ for all eleven countries, correlated with
Hofstede‘s (1991) individualism index. Upon interrogating the data more closely it is
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evident that this comparison does not correlate seamlessly with the premise that the
more collectivistic the country the less important love is considered for the basis of
marriage. Brazil, Mexico and Hong Kong do not adhere to the premise; however,
other countries that are considered collectivistic (Thailand, Philippines, India and
Pakistan) and individualistic (United States, England and Australia) do adhere to it.
Therefore in general individuals from collectivistic societies (Thailand, Philippines,
India and Pakistan) were more likely to marry a person with whom they were not in
love than individuals from individualistic societies (United States, England and
Australia) (Levine et al., 1995). Possibly the mismatch (Brazil, Mexico and Hong
Kong) could arise because of the limitations of the study. An important limitation is
that the sample size within each country (numbers ranged from 71 to 156) was
relatively small. As with all cross-cultural studies comparability of meaning is a
limitation of this study. In addition, generalisation to the rest of the adult population in
these countries is not possible because the sample is not representative. Therefore
cautious interpretation of these results is recommended. In addition, Hofstede‘s
(1991) Individualism index values are almost 20 years old and with the rate and
impact of globalisation these values may have changed somewhat. Finally the
respondents from Brazil, Mexico and Hong Kong may have adopted more Western
notions of love because, being students, they may have been more fully exposed,
and receptive, to globalisation. Brazil is also regarded as a Westernising nation
(Goodwin, 1999), which could similarly account for its high score.
Table 4.1 Measure of „Love as a basis for marriage‟ correlated with Hofstede‟s (1991)
Individualism Index
Country Percentage of respondents
who said „no‟
Hofstede Individualism Index
(the higher, the more individualistic)
United States 85.9 91
England 83.6 89
Australia 80.0 90
Brazil 85.7 38
Mexico 80.5 30
Hong Kong 77.6 25
Japan 62.0 46
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Thailand 33.8 20
Philippines 63.6 32
India 24.0 48
Pakistan 39.1 14
Derived and adapted from Levine et al. (1995) and Hofstede (1991)
The additional two Simpson et al. (1986) questions about the importance of love for
the maintenance of marriage were also included in the Levine et al. (1995) cross-
cultural study and although the later researchers found no gender differences there
was cross-cultural variation. When responding to "If love has completely disappeared
from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and
start new lives", the Pakistanis (49.6%) followed by the Filipinos (40.9%) were the
least likely to believe this, while the Brazilians (77.5%) were the most likely to believe
it; 35.4% of Americans did so (Table 4.2).
Table 4.2 Responses to “If love has completely disappeared from a marriage I think it
is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and start new lives”.
Percentage of Agree Percentage of Disagree
India 46.2 26.0
Pakistan 33.0 49.6
Thailand 46.9 32.1
United States 35.4 34.7
England 44.6 23.2
Japan 41.1 17.1
Philippines 45.5 40.9
Mexico 51.7 28.0
Brazil 77.5 12.7
Hong Kong 47.1 25.5
Australia 29.3 31.1
Neutral responses account for the fact that agree and disagree do not add up to 100 percent.
Derived from Levine et al. (1995).
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The Filipinos (71.6%) were the least likely to believe that an absence of love was
sufficient reason for ending a marriage, while the Brazilians (63.4%) were the most
likely to believe this, as did 40.3% of Americans (Table 4.3). Perhaps because they
are Eastern and collectivistic, the Filipinos place more emphasis on the extended
familial group and have lower expectations of romantic love in a marriage while the
Brazilians, with a strong Spanish influence, could be said to be a more passionate
and romantic people, and therefore may have high expectations in this respect.
Table 4.3 Responses to “In my opinion, the disappearance of love is not a sufficient
reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as such”.
Percentage of Agree Percentage of Disagree
India 47.1 34.6
Pakistan 54.8 35.7
Thailand 50.6 34.2
United States 36.8 40.3
England 26.8 46.4
Japan 26.4 27.9
Philippines 71.6 23.9
Mexico 34.8 50.9
Brazil 26.8 63.4
Hong Kong 51.6 24.8
Australia 39.6 22.6
Neutral responses account for the fact that agree and disagree do not add up to 100 percent.
Derived from Levine et al. (1995).
Sprecher et al. (1994) used local American (n = 1043), Russian (n = 401) and
Japanese (n = 223) students in their cross-cultural study on love. When Sprecher et
al. (1994) asked their participants Kephart‘s (1967) question "If a boy (girl) had all the
other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with
him (her)?" they found that 89% of the American respondents, 81% of the Japanese
and 64% of the Russians said they would not marry a person with whom they were
not in love, indicating that American and Japanese respondents were significantly
more likely to expect love in a mate than were their Russian peers. Interestingly,
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when one compares the study carried out by Levine et al. (1995) to this study
(Sprecher et al., 1994) the Japanese score varied substantially: 62% versus 81%
respectively. No gender differences were found in Sprecher et al.‘s (1994) total cross-
national sample, or the Japanese and U.S. samples. There were, however, gender
differences in the Russian sample, with more Russian men (70%) than Russian
women (59%) averring they would insist on love in a marriage. Russian women were,
therefore, the most likely to consider marrying someone they did not love.
Sprecher and Toro-Morn (2002) in a cross-cultural study comparing American (n =
693) and Chinese (n = 735) students‘ beliefs concerning love as a basis for marriage,
amongst other beliefs with respect to love, asked participants Kephart‘s (1967)
question: "If a boy (girl) had all the other qualities you desired, would you marry this
person if you were not in love with him (her)?" They found that the American sample
was more likely to believe in the love-marriage connection and that passionate love
was a more important prerequisite for entering marriage than for their Chinese peers.
The Chinese on the other hand appeared more likely to believe that love and
passionate love were important for maintaining marriage than their American peers.
Although these authors report finding no gender differences in their Chinese sample
they report establishing an interesting gender difference in their American sample:
that is, the reverse of what has been determined in past research. Although both
American men and women believed that love was important for marriage, women
endorsed it more strongly than their male peers. Sprecher and Toro-Morn (2002)
suggest this could be because, nowadays, women are more likely to be
unconstrained by financial and practical considerations. Consequently, this frees
them to focus on emotional considerations in a marriage partner and as a result they
actually emphasise love as a prerequisite for marriage to a greater degree than do
men. This corresponds with the premise of evolutionary theory that women place a
premium on love and commitment because they incur much higher parental
investment costs, through sex, pregnancy, childbirth and child rearing, than do men.
Consequently, as mentioned, they are faced with the adaptive problem of choosing a
mate who commands the required resources as well as the motivation to commit
those resources to her and her offspring. One of the most important cues universally
for this commitment is love (Buss, 2003). The primary limitations of the Sprecher and
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Toro-Morn (2002) study are that 1) the sample was not representative of the
countries‘ larger adult population, 2) the research could not be generalised to youths
not at university, and 3) the instruments used were Western and therefore unique
beliefs about Chinese love may have been missed.
In summary, it was found that at least 80% of individuals from the more individualistic
and Western countries such as the United States, England and Australia would not
marry someone if they were not in love with them. Westernising nations like Brazil,
Mexico, Hong Kong and Japan were not far behind, with at least 78% of individuals
from these countries responding they would not marry someone if they were not in
love with them. In collectivistic countries such as Thailand, the Philippines, India,
Pakistan and Russia only 24-64% of the respondents answered that they would marry
someone if they did not love them. These findings seem to verify the view that
romantic love is more important in individualistic and Western countries than in
collectivistic countries as a basis for marriage. Research findings with regards to the
importance of love for the maintenance of marriage were less explicit – no clear
cross-cultural differences were evident.
4.3.2. Romantic beliefs and attitudes
Sprecher and Metts (1989) postulate that love, as an ideology of romanticism, was
distinctive from other love approaches. According to Sprecher and Metts (1989, 1999)
the "romantic ideology" is associated with a large constellation of beliefs: primacy of
love as a basis for mate selection, love at first sight, there is only one true love,
idealisation of the partner and of the relationship, and love can overcome any
obstacle.
In a study conducted by Sprecher and Metts (1989) on 730 (277 males and 453
females) American students, men were found to be more romantic than women.
Other studies have produced no gender differences (Cunningham & Antill, 1981;
Sprecher et al., 1994; Sprecher & Metts, 1999; Sprecher & Toro-Morn, 2002).
Sprecher and Metts (1989) suggest that men tend to be more romantic because they
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hold, or expect to hold, roles that provide greater economic and social security
relative to women and can therefore afford to be idealistic and romantic about the
beloved and their relationship as well as more selective because they hold more
power. Perhaps the more recent homogeneous gender results can be attributed to
the move towards greater economic and social gender equality.
Cross-cultural studies have yielded engaging findings on romanticism.
Simmons, Vomkolke, and Shimizu (1986) used local students in Japan, West
Germany, and the United States to examine their attitudes towards love and
romance. They likewise found no gender differences. They also found the Germans
to be the most romantic while the Japanese sample was established to be the least
romantic on some subscales. No other cross-cultural differences were found on the
other subscales. Overall, the results pointed to the fact that the Western individualistic
countries, West Germany and America, valued romantic love more than their
collectivistic counterparts: the Japanese tended instead to value extended family ties
and networks, which in turn influence and reinforce the marriage between partners.
Sprecher et al. (1994) administered the Romantic Beliefs Scale to local American (n =
1043), Russian (n = 401) and Japanese (n = 223) students in their cross-cultural
study on love and established that Americans and Russians were more romantic than
their Japanese counterparts. But the Japanese students nonetheless exhibited at
least moderate romantic views on love. No other cross-cultural differences were
found on the other subscales.
The above two studies correlate with the findings in the study undertaken by Levine et
al. (1995) where, overall, individuals from collectivistic societies were more likely to
marry a person with whom they were not in love than individuals from individualistic
societies.
Sprecher and Toro-Morn (2002), in their cross-cultural study comparing American (n
= 693) and Chinese (n = 735) students‘ love beliefs, surprisingly found that the
Chinese students scored higher on the Romantic Beliefs Scale than their American
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peers. The Chinese also scored higher on two subscales: 1) belief in ‗One and Only‘
and 2) ‗Idealisation‘. No other cross-cultural differences were identified on the other
subscales.
Weaver and Ganong (2004) undertook a cross-cultural study with local African
American (205 female and 88 male) and European American (137 female and 58
male) students. They too discovered no gender differences overall, nor for both
groups. They did, however, establish that although both young White and Black
adults hold romantic beliefs that are similar they are not identical. Overall, analyses
revealed that the subscales which made up romantic love differed substantially when
comparing the two groups. The Romantic Beliefs Scale did not measure romantic
love in the same way between the two samples. According to these researchers, this
suggests that the components of romantic love may be conceptually different when
comparing samples that are ethnically different – that perhaps romantic beliefs hold
different meanings for the two groups. They caution that using measures that were
developed predominantly with respect to a White sample may not accurately measure
racially and ethnically diverse groups. This warning is particularly relevant to this
study which is attempting to measure the love beliefs of four ethnically and racially
diverse groups.
In summary, mixed results were found. Older research findings (Simmons et al.,
1986; Sprecher et al., 1994) suggest that respondents from individualistic countries
(American and German) overall were more romantic than their collectivistic
(Japanese) counterparts. However, more recent findings reported either the opposite
trend – Chinese were more romantic than their American counterparts (Sprecher &
Toro-Morn, 2002) or similar romantic beliefs were found between Black and White
Americans (Weaver & Ganong, 2004). Perhaps because of globalisation, the Chinese
have adopted American romantic beliefs to an even greater extent than the
Americans. Possibly the minimal differences between Black and White Americans
can be attributed to acculturation and or globalisation.
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4.3.3. Attachment patterns
When investigating cross-cultural studies on attachment patterns interesting findings
were discovered.
Sprecher et al. (1994) administered the Hazan and Shaver‘s (1987) forced choice
single item measure to local American (n = 1043), Russian (n = 401) and Japanese (n
= 223) students and established that a greater proportion of Americans endorse the
secure attachment style than their Japanese and Russian peers. Similarly a greater
proportion of the Japanese and Russian participants endorsed the avoidant
attachment style than the American participants.
Doherty, Hatfield, Thompson and Choo (1994) explored the differences and
similarities between European Americans, Japanese Americans and Pacific Islanders
(total n = 124 males and n = 184 females) regarding various dimensions of love and
relationships. These authors identified few differences between ethnic groups: the
three cultural groups did not differ in passionate or companionate love. They
suggested that there were few differences because all three cultural groups
comprised urban and affluent individuals. They did find individual differences between
attachment pattern and type of love. They revealed that the individual with an anxious
attachment pattern scored the highest on passionate love and they were most likely
to be in love. The securely attached sample scored the highest on companionate love
while the avoidant group scored the lowest on both companionate love and
passionate love.
Latty-Mann and Davis (1996) investigated 335 American students and their mothers
in order to establish the relationship between attachment and partner choice. They
found that both mothers and their young adult children preferred a potential partner
who offered a clear potential for forming a secure relationship. Across both samples
secure partners were preferred over all insecure partners while among the insecure
partners, in decreasing order of preference, were preoccupied and avoidant ones.
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You and Malley-Morrison (2000) administered the Attachment Style Questionnaire
(Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991) to 62 local Caucasian Americans and 115 local
Korean students. They found that Korean students scored higher than their American
peers on the preoccupied attachment scale and that females rated themselves as
more fearful than males. The main effect for gender in this study confirms previous
findings (Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991; Brennan et al., 1991).
Schmitt et al. (2004) made use of 17 804 participants from 62 cultural regions
spanning North and South America; Western, Eastern and Southern Europe; Middle
East; Africa; Oceania; South, East and Southeast Asia. These authors found that
secure attachment was the highest rated form of romantic attachment in 79% of the
cultures. They also established that East Asian cultures, that is Hong Kong, Taiwan,
South Korea and Japan, were especially high on preoccupied romantic attachment. In
their view this may occur because in these cultures psychological and romantic
validation is very dependent on the opinions of others and members tend to judge
themselves according to the value they provide for others. Of particular importance in
their study is: firstly, that the mean levels of secure attachment in South Africans
compared to the three insecure attachments were higher (secure M=4.72,
preoccupied M=3.22, dismissing M=4.15, fearful M=3.42); and secondly, contrary to
expectations, all of the seven African cultures, including South Africa, failed to display
a significant negative correlation between secure and fearful attachment. These
researchers also reported that individuals who stem from social contexts with high
levels of stress tended to develop insecure romantic attachment styles whereas those
who came from social contexts with lower stress tended to develop more secure
attachment styles. Perhaps with the high levels of poverty, unemployment and crime
in South Africa, the proportion of South Africans displaying insecure attachment can
be expected to be elevated.
In summary, a number of studies report a positive correlation between East Asian
cultures (Hong Kong, Taiwan, South Korea and Japan) and preoccupied romantic
attachment (Schmitt et al., 2004; You & Malley-Morrison, 2000). Sprecher et al.
(1994) on the other hand report a positive correlation between East Asian cultures
(Japan and Russia) and avoidant attachment style; whereas a more secure
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attachment style was endorsed by more Americans. Doherty et al. (1994) found that
securely attached individuals were more likely to endorse companionate love
whereas anxiously attached individuals were more likely to endorse passionate love.
Regardless of the individual‘s attachment style all preferred a potential partner who
offered a clear potential of forming a secure relationship.
4.3.4. Lovestyles
Much cross-cultural research has been carried out using Lee‘s (1976) lovestyles:
below the relevant studies are discussed in chronological order.
Hendrick and Hendrick (1986) studied 807 ethnically diverse introductory psychology
students from the University of Miami. The gender breakdown was: males (58% or
466) and females (42% or 341); and the breakdown of the ethnic heritage was: Black
(5.3% or 43), White-non-Hispanic (50.4% or 403), White-Hispanic (29% or 234),
Oriental (7.7% or 62), international students (20% or 161), other (7.6%). This study
revealed that: 1) Black, White-Hispanic and White-non-Hispanic respondents were
similar with respect to erotic love levels; 2) African-American respondents were the
least agapic; 3) Oriental respondents were less erotic and more pragmatic and
storgic; 4) international students, when comparing themselves to how American
students love, believed themselves to be more ludic, storgic and pragmatic and less
erotic than their American counterparts and 5) there was no correlation between
ethnicity and ludic or manic love. The small sample size for Black and Oriental
respondents and the enormous diversity in the international sample is reflective of a
limitation of this study. In addition these numbers are not large enough to establish
whether the same six lovestyles are factorially distinct in different cultures.
Murstein et al. (1991) compared the lovestyles of 156 (117 women and 39 men)
American students to 165 (50 women and 115 men) French students. They found that
the French respondents were higher on agape whereas American respondents were
higher on storge and mania. Weaknesses inherent in this study were 1) the significant
age differences and 2) only very tentative generalisation is possible with only one
French sample. Therefore cautious interpretation of these results is recommended.
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Using an ethnically heterogeneous Canadian Asian (Chinese, Japanese, Korean,
Indian and Pakistani) sample of 168 undergraduates from the University of Toronto,
Dion and Dion (1993a) found that Chinese (n = 28) and other Asian (n = 26)
participants, regardless of gender, were more storge orientated than their Anglo-
Celtic or European counterparts (n = 114), thus pointing to the possible difference in
the social construction of love and intimacy in individualistic (Western), as contrasted
with collectivistic (Eastern) cultural traditions (Dion & Dion, 1988; Dion & Dion,
1993b). They also found that Asian women (Chinese participants excluded) were
more agapic and less ludic in their styles of loving than their European counterparts.
An altruistic / agapic view of love was more likely to be endorsed by women from
several Asian ethonocultural backgrounds when compared to European women (Dion
& Dion, 1993a). Dion and Dion (1993a) suggest that this may be reflective of the
more interconnected and interdependent view of self-other relationships which is
predominant in Asian collectivistic cultures. Nevertheless, it is important to note that a
limitation of this study is that the sample size of the individual cultures was relatively
small.
Sprecher et al. (1994) investigated local American (n = 1043), Russian (n = 401) and
Japanese (n = 223) students in their cross-cultural study on love. They found that
eros was endorsed significantly more by all three cultures than any other lovestyle.
The second highest endorsement differed across culture: storge for the American
sample; agape for the Russian sample; and mania for the Japanese sample. They
reported that when compared to the Japanese and the Russians, the Americans
recorded a significantly higher score on eros and storge and a significantly lower
score on mania. When these authors compared the Japanese and Russians, the
Russians had a higher eros score than the Japanese. When comparing the
Americans and Russians, the Russians recorded a significantly higher score on ludus
than the Americans. Although the differences between the three cultures‘ lovestyles
are discussed above, in the context of the rest of this study which considered other
aspects of love, Sprecher et al. (1994) concede that the three cultures‘ views and
experiences of love were relatively similar despite the fact that the three societies
differ quite substantially: economically, politically, socially and psychologically. As with
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all cross-cultural studies comparability of meaning is a limitation of this study. In
addition, generalisation to the rest of the adult population in these countries is not
possible because the sample is not representative. Therefore cautious interpretation
of these results is again suggested.
Cho and Cross‘s (1995) Taiwanese student sample (99 participants with a fairly even
gender spread) from the University of Texas at Austin, yielded very similar factors to
Lee‘s (1976) lovestyles ―but with a distinctly Chinese flavour‖ (p. 301). Firstly, like
Americans from previous studies (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986, 1990), the Taiwanese
participants positively endorse storge; indicating that in the Taiwanese culture a good
friendship and mutual understanding are valuable in romantic relationships. Secondly,
ludus is neither valued nor common in intimate relationships in the Taiwanese culture.
Thirdly, a more complex Taiwanese pragmatic love was more strongly endorsed by
the participants. Cho and Cross (1995) maintain that this is a culturally distinct
approach to love and marriage; that it is embedded in the traditional system of partner
selection (based on compatibility and parental selection) in the Chinese culture. It is
also reflective of the cultural belief that a reliable other to spend one‘s life with, is the
purpose of love, romance and marriage. Finally, the fact that the Chinese culture
allows males to pursue their ideal romantic partner did not manifest itself in this study.
Cho and Cross (1995, p. 303) suggest ―that Taiwanese women are making progress
toward equal status in intimate relationships‖. This study‘s findings should be viewed
as exploratory and tentative because of its fairly small sample size and also because
of the fact that a Taiwanese student sample from the University of Texas at Austin is
not representative of all Chinese people. Finally, the impact of acculturation would be
expected to be stronger the longer the individual had lived in the United States. Cho
and Cross (1995) concluded that because there is great variance in how love and
romance are framed and established across cultures further research is necessary to
probe the different cultural beliefs and values of romantic relationships.
In a study of 188 Latino students, Leon, Parra and Cheng (1995) confirmed Hendrick
and Hendrick‘s (1986) findings, in that their Latino respondents endorsed eros, agape
and storge more often but ludus and mania least often.
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Goodwin and Findlay (1997) explored the differences in lovestyles between a local
Chinese (n = 100) and British (n = 100) population. The Chinese participants were
found to endorse pragma and agape more but eros less than their British
counterparts. In view of the Chinese cultural and religious tradition, its belief in and
value of interdependency within the community and the centrality of family honour
and stability, it is not surprising that the Chinese sample would endorse pragma and
agape more strongly than their Western, individualistic counterparts.
Neto et al. (2000) in their study on attitudes toward love in various countries from
African, Asia, South America and Europe found that the factor structure of Lee‘s
(1976) six lovestyles was valid across cultures. Their sample consisted of: 97
Angolans, 230 Brazilians, 112 Cape Verde participants, 200 French, 85 Macao
participants, 101 Mozambicans, 177 Portuguese, 145 local Swiss students. Their
study aimed to test their hypotheses that factors involving strong personal feelings
such as eros, mania and agape would not be impacted on by culture and that factors
involving low personal feelings like ludus, storge and pragma would be susceptible to
cultural differences. The data supported the hypotheses fairly well. Neto et al. (2000)
established that eros, mania and agape supported moderate cross-cultural
differences while, by contrast, in the following lovestyles, ludus, pragma and storge,
cross-cultural differences were considerable: Angolans, Brazilians, Cape Verdeans
and Mozambicans were more pragmatic than the French and Swiss; Angolans, Cape
Verdeans and Mozambicans were more storgic than the French and Swiss; and
Angolans and Mozambicans were the most ludic in their responses.
With relatively equal numbers of local Japanese male and female students in a total
sample of 343 students, a study was conducted to establish the relationship between
lovestyles and various romantic experiences (Kanemasa et al., 2004). This study
provided support for Lee‘s lovestyle theory (1976) as well as evidence for the
construct validity of his distinctive six lovestyles within a Japanese population. There
were no other significant findings. Cautious interpretation of these results is advisable
because generalisation to the rest of the adult population in Japan is not possible as
the sample is not representative.
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Le (2005) undertook a study to investigate the relationship between narcissism and
immature love as mediators of vertical individualism and ludus. He used a sample of
179 predominantly female students: 65 were White, 54 were Asian and 60 were multi-
ethnic. He found that 1) vertical individualism predicted the endorsement of
narcissism and immature love, 2) narcissism and immature love predicted the
endorsement of the game playing ludus lovestyle, and 3) that males scored higher
than females on vertical individualism, narcissism and ludus. They conclude that
vertical individualism was related to a ludic lovestyle which is mediated by narcissism
and immature love. These results suggest that there is some truth in Fromm‘s (1956)
assertion that current individualistic Western cultures, with their excessive focus on
self-interests, hinder healthy, loving interpersonal relationships. Due to the fact that a
student sample was used, these findings should once again be interpreted with
caution because the sample is not representative and therefore these results cannot
be generalised to the rest of the population.
There is a dearth of South African lovestyle research; however two studies were
located. Rudnick (1997) investigated 108 (54 couples) White South Africans to
determine the relationship between lovestyles and relationship satisfaction. He
reports that the more erotic and agapic and the less ludic a partner was, the more
satisfying the relationship.
Pavlou (2005) used a Black South African university student sample (n =275; with a
relatively even gender split) to establish: firstly, the validity of Lee‘s (1976) typology of
love when applied to a Black South African population, and secondly, the relationship
between lovestyles and those who were high on the collectivism continuum compared
to those who were low on the collectivism continuum. She found that the lovestyles
typology was factorially valid for a Black South African population. Irrespective of
whether the participant was high or low on the collectivism continuum, eros, followed
by storge, were the most commonly endorsed lovestyles by both genders. This
demonstrates that most young Africans covet and want the headiness of passionate
love yet at the same time emphasise and want the solidity of friendship in their love
relationships. Bearing in mind that it could be argued that the sample is more likely to
represent the ―elite‖ in the Black South African population, the emphasis on eros may
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be understood as reflective of the impact of globalisation on romantic relationships via
worldwide media, for example, internet, TV, movies, music etcetera. The emphasis on
storge is reflective of the more interconnected and interdependent view of self-other
relationships which is predominant in collectivistic cultures like the Black South
African culture. These findings may point to the possibility that the young Black South
African has established a bicultural romantic identity that straddles both his or her
traditional collectivistic culture and the Western global culture. Because the sample is
not representative these results cannot be generalised to the rest of the Black South
African population and should therefore likewise be interpreted with caution.
Neto (2007) undertook a cross-cultural study utilising English (n = 231), Indian (n =
154) and Portuguese (n = 177) local students. His premise is that the British and
Portuguese students are individualistic and that the Indian students are collectivistic.
All three cultural groups endorsed eros, agape and storge most strongly and rejected
ludus, pragma and mania most strongly. He found no cultural differences in eros but
established that the collectivistic Indian participants recorded higher scores on
pragma, mania and agape than their British and Portuguese counterparts. The Indian
participants had lower ludus scores when compared to their British peers whereas the
Indian participants recorded higher storge scores in comparison to their Portuguese
peers. These results support the Dions‘ (Dion & Dion, 1993) argument that the social
construction of love differs when individualistic and collectivistic cultures are
compared. These results should be interpreted with caution because the sample is
not representative as it is drawn from students. Therefore these results cannot be
generalised to the rest of the British, Portuguese or Indian populations.
In summary, the above studies of lovestyles revealed that eros is the lovestyle most
endorsed by most cultures (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Leon et al., 1995; Neto, 2007;
Pavlou, 2005; Sprecher et al., 1994). However, in some studies the respondents from
individualistic cultures generally recorded higher eros scores than individuals from
collectivistic cultures (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Sprecher et al., 1994), thus
indicating that although eros is important in most cultures, eros is more important in
individualistic cultures than in collectivistic cultures. Goodwin and Findlay (1997)
reported that Chinese respondents endorsed pragma and agape more but eros less
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than their British counterparts. Similar findings were noted by Neto et al. (2000) who
indicated that in general collectivistic cultures were more pragmic, storgic and ludic
when compared to individualistic cultures. Neto (2007) also reported similar findings:
their collectivistic Indian participants endorse pragma, mania and agape more than
their individualistic counterparts (British and Portuguese). Dion and Dion (1993a)
observed that their Asian and Chinese respondents were more storge orientated than
their Anglo-Celtic counterparts. Cho and Cross (1995) discovered similar findings in
their Taiwanese sample, who strongly endorsed storge. Sprecher et al. (1994)
reported contrary results: they found that Americans scored higher on storge than did
their Japanese and Russian counterparts. This result is perplexing. Overall it seems
that eros is the most strongly endorsed lovestyle globally. However, upon comparing
collectivistic and individualistic cultures, the former seem to endorse pragma, agape
and storge more, and eros less, than the individualistic cultures. In other words, the
collectivistic cultures value practical, selfless and friendship styles of love more but
passionate love less than individualistic cultures.
4.3.5. Other ways of romantic love
Other instruments that have been used to measure romantic love cross-culturally
have also yielded interesting results.
The love attitudes of Taiwanese students living in the United States were assessed
using the Love Attitude Scale (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1990). After factor analysis,
these authors identified six different lovestyle factors which they suggest are reflective
of Taiwanese culture. The combination of eros (passionate love) and agape (altruistic
love) became ―romantic and considerate love‖ whereas the combination of agape
(altutristic love) and pragma (practical love) became ―obligatory love‖. This suggests
that perhaps love attitudes and beliefs hold different meanings for racially and
ethnically diverse groups. These results also echo Weaver and Ganong‘s (2004)
warning that because different cultures attribute differing meanings to romantic love
and also conceptualise romantic love differently, the employment of measures that
were developed predominantly with respect to White samples may not accurately
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measure racially and ethnically diverse groups. Even so, Hendrick and Hendrick
(1990) as well as Weaver and Ganong (2004) concluded that overall there are many
love similarities between the Taiwanese and American student samples and the
White and Black American samples respectively.
Goodwin and Findlay (1997) compared the lovestyles and yuan (Chinese concept of
fated and predestined love) of British, Hong Kong and Chinese subjects. They found
that the Chinese subjects endorsed yuan, altruistic (agape) and pragmatic (pragma)
lovestyles more than their British counterparts. Surprisingly, they discovered that the
British participants also scored high on many of the yuan items. They report finding
no gender differences in yuan scores, in both samples. Following this study, Hendrick
and Hendrick (2000) reflect on whether in fact an Eastern philosophy of fatalism, duty
and obligation can also be found in Western notions of love. This is a question that is
yet to be answered empirically.
Sprecher et al. (1994) compared American, Japanese and Russian students using
various measures of love: love as a basis for marriage, romantic beliefs, attachment
types, lovestyles and love experiences. They concluded that even though the groups
demonstrated some differences, overall the subjects were similar in many love
orientations. Contreras et al. (1996) confirmed this notion of the cross-cultural
similarity of love attitudes and experiences. They established, among their Mexican
American and Anglo American couples, only modest love attitude and sexual attitude
differences. In addition, when comparing Anglo Americans, bicultural individuals and
Mexican Americans, they found no difference in passionate, friendship-orientated or
altruistic love. The three groups also reported similar levels of relationship
satisfaction. Supporting this finding are Hatfield and Rapson (1996) who concluded in
their study that passionate love was a culturally universal phenomenon.
In summary, the above studies suggest that, broadly, romantic love is a universal
phenomenon; however the meanings, understandings, behaviours and
conceptualisations of romantic love are mediated through culture. Nonetheless,
recent studies show that globalisation is altering romantic aspirations and
expectations in collectivistic societies to reflect more of the individualistic themes and
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practices of love but these are mediated through the local culture‘s values, beliefs and
practices into a hybridised perception of love (Hart, 2004; Husted, 2003;
Mwamwenda, 1999; Sandhya, 2009; Smith, 2001).
4.3.6. Love and money
According to Levine et al. (1995) there is a profound link between economic wealth
and romantic love: affluent societies are able to adopt the freedom and luxury of a
romantic approach to love whereas poorer societies adopt a more practical view.
Hofstede (1980, 1994a, 2002) reports a strong correlation between affluence and
individualistic societies. It therefore follows that individuals in individualistic countries
enjoy greater freedom to adopt a romantic approach to love whereas individuals in
the poorer collectivistic countries are more likely and willing to marry someone they
do not love. Research confirms this (Levine et al., 1995; Sprecher et al., 1994).
Levine et al. (1995) claim that countries with a greater gross domestic product were
also the countries that placed more importance on romantic love in marriages. They
add that in cultures where economic interdependence between romantic partners is
weak, love is more important for marriage.
Sprecher et al. (1994) found that in an economically struggling society such as
Russia, even though the respondents still endorse a romantic love ideology, there
were a relatively large number of respondents (70% of men and 59% of women) who
were prepared to consider marrying someone they did not love.
Sprecher and Toro-Morn (2002) in a cross-cultural study comparing American and
Chinese students‘ beliefs in love as a basis for marriage found that the participants
who were middle-class and upper-class were more likely to make a stronger
passionate love-marriage connection than their lower-class peers. These authors
concluded that financial prosperity contributes to the freedom to focus on passionate
love as a basis for marriage.
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In conclusion, wealth and economic prosperity influences the individualism-
collectivism continuum; with individualistic countries tending to be wealthier than
collectivistic countries (Hofstede, 1980, 1994a, 2002). Following this trend, if wealth
and economic prosperity influences the said continuum, consequently it also
influences the importance of love in marriage. The more economic prosperity, wealth
and abundant resources an individual commands, the more independence and
freedom they enjoy to pursue their personal goals, needs and rights; the more
freedom to choose love as the basis for marriage (Goodwin, 1999; Levine et al.,
1995; Matsumoto & Juang, 2004; Sprecher et al., 1994). Hence, applying this
principle to South African society, it would seem that South Africans who are
economically stable and independent will experience more freedom to marry for love,
while those who are not will be more restricted by the group system and their reliance
on the group. Prior to exploring the nuances of the ways in which South Africans love
romantically, the study will investigate how globalisation is impacting on romantic love
and intimate relationships.
4.4. Impact of globalisation and cultural shifts on romantic love
4.4.1. Introduction
Matsumoto and Juang (2004) highlight the point that as a result of the impact of
globalisation, equality and romantic love seems to becoming more and more
important in intimate relationships the world over, especially as a criterion for
marriage (Sandhya, 2009). Hart (2004, p. 361) eloquently describes this process: ―As
individuals embrace Western practices, they gain freedom and independence from
kin as new economic opportunities encourage them to break away, structures of
authority collapse, constraints vanish, and romantic love flourishes in this heady
atmosphere of individualism‖. With globalisation, more and more young adults, from
what would normally be considered collectivistic cultures, are selecting their own
marriage partners (Hart, 2004; Netting, 2006; Sandhya, 2009). Arnett (2001) confirms
that this trend is reflected in countries such as Turkey, Egypt, Japan and China.
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Netting (2006) explains that when an economy industrialises, modernises and people
become more affluent, old and collectivistic values weaken and give way to Western,
individualistic values. Consequently, with the collapse of paternal authority, young
adults mobilise their abilities and skills to find their own jobs, establish their own
homes, attract and choose their own partners and develop their own beliefs. With the
freedom to choose their own partner and the adoption of Western values, so too is
romantic love sought in intimate relationships and marriage.
Even though globalisation is increasing the importance of romantic love in intimate
relationships, perhaps it is pertinent to heed Fromm‘s (1956) warning that the
capitalistic and materialistic Western culture is creating a society where most modern
men and women are not capable of mature love; instead they barter ‗personality
packages‘. Giddens (1992) may disagree with Fromm (1956) by arguing that in very
Western cultures, globalisation, via a de-traditionalised cultural framework, is pushing
romantic love aside and replacing it with what he calls a "pure" or "confluent" love.
Through constant communication, the ―pure love‖ relationship attempts to achieve an
intimate knowledge of the other's unique and authentic self. In other words, intimacy
is sought as a means to self-development and Western culture and globalisation has
allowed for the development of this type of ―pure‖ love.
4.4.2. Cultural shifts
Different perceptions of how cultural shifts are impacting on romantic love
asrediscussed below: 1) demographic trends; 2) the Yeppies, and 3) ―pure‖ love
replacing romantic love.
4.4.2.1 Demographic trends
Sandhya (2009) describes the impact of modernisation and globalisation in India by
summarising the 11 demographic trends that characterise the emerging middle class
currently: 1) marriage is occurring at later ages, 2) more single mothers, 3) more
nuclear families, 4) higher numbers of teenage and unmarried mothers, 5) higher
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numbers of cohabiting couples, 6) increases in premarital and extramarital sex, 7)
increased numbers of love marriages, 8) more divorces, 9) marital fertility shifts, 10)
more people speaking English, and 11) women are more educated and more of them
are working. Brehm et al. (2002) report on very similar cultural demographic changes
in the United States: 1) fewer people are marrying, 2) marriage is occurring at later
ages, 3) increased numbers of unmarried mothers, 4) higher rates of cohabitation, 5)
more divorces, 6) higher numbers of children living in single-parent homes and 7)
more pre-school children have working mothers. Sandhya (2009) attributed the
demographic changes in the Indian population to globalisation whereas Brehm et al.
(2002) attribute these changes in the American population to socioeconomic
development, higher levels of individualism and technology. These attributions of the
demographic changes outlined above may point to the fact that perhaps globalisation
impacts are felt globally - not only in the more collectivistic cultures and countries but
even the very Western and individualistic cultures and countries - and that the
impacts of globalisation are felt at different levels and rates in different countries.
Larson et al. (2002) outline worldwide changes to marriages: 1) marriage is becoming
less absolute, 2) marriage is occurring at later ages, 2) the value of the emotional
quality in marriage is increasing in importance, 4) more divorces, 5) continual
increases in expectations of what constitutes a good relationship, and 6) gender roles
between partners are becoming more flexible and negotiable – due to increased
economic and legal freedom for women. They also outline worldwide global changes
to romantic relationships and sexuality: 1) mass media are bringing romantic love and
sexuality into the open and depict these positively by associating them with pleasure,
satisfaction and recreation, 2) greater acceptance of diverse sexual identities and 3)
earlier involvement in romantic and sexual relationships due to earlier puberty and
freer parental and community controls in Northern America, Europe, Latin America,
sub-Saharan Africa and East and Southeast Asia (rates of sexual involvement have
not been increasing in the Middle East and South Asia, especially for young females).
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4.4.2.2 The Yeppies
Fox (2005) utilised information gained from young adults in the United Kingdom and
suggests that the ‗twenty-somethings‘ of today are known as Yeppies - 'Young
Experimenting Perfection Seekers'. According to Fox (2005) they try to find the
perfect job, the ideal relationship and the most fulfilling lifestyle by adopting a
shopping-style and experimenting attitude to life. The trend for the Yeppies is to delay
and postpone big, life-altering decisions until they feel they have experienced and
exhausted all their options. This leads to a delay in the transition to adulthood and the
period is conceptualised as a prolonged adolescence. She clarifies that these young
adults are not restless or irresponsible but essentially conservative and cautious. The
tendency for young adults to extend adolescence and young adulthood worldwide to
their mid to late twenties has also been recognised by other recent researchers
(Arnett, 2002; Larson, 2002; Larson, Wilson & Mortimer, 2002).
The Yeppies do not only engage in life-shopping but they also engage in a 'mate-
shopping' approach to marriage. They marry later and have more partners than their
peers in the past (Arnett, 2002; Fox, 2005; Larson, 2002; Larson, Wilson & Mortimer,
2002). Fox (2005, p.12) says, ―The majority still believe in marriage; they are just
prepared to wait longer and, more important, to ‗try on‘ a number of relationships until
they find the one that is right for them‖. She says that these young adults will and do
mobilise mate shopping through dating agencies and organised matchmaking
facilities. She suggests that the difficult task of mate selection should be facilitated.
―Sometime in the future, our grandchildren will look back on late-20th century ‗random
mating‘ and laugh at our brief, misguided, unsustainable attempt to cope without
matchmakers‖ (Fox, 2005, p. 24).
Although they have been criticised as the 'Peter Pan' generation who never want to
grow up, Fox (2005) believes their reluctance to commit is a major shift in aspirations
in that they may be seeking perfection: searching for what may well be unrealistic and
unattainable. A female respondent said: ―We have high expectations of personal
happiness, which I don't think my parents' generation had‖ (Fox, 2005, p. 7).
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Fox (2005) also writes of a new collectivism. Once they have left home, she says, the
Yeppies attempt to sublimate feelings of isolation and alienation that are common in
modern cities. They attempt to re-create a sense of family and community when they
eventually leave home by forming ‗neo-tribes‘ and ‗pseudo-kin‘ relationships with like
minded individuals.
If one applies Erikson‘s (1968) stage developmental theory to the Yeppies trend of
delaying adulthood and extending adolescence, the implication is that the
developmental crises of identity and intimacy may be extended. Erikson (1968)
postulated that genetic and social factors simultaneously result in individual
development. He declares that personality development emerges in eight stages
ranging from birth to death. A certain aspect of personality transpires as a central
point at each stage. A developmental crisis arises from the interaction between
genetic development and social influences at each point of these stages. According to
Erikson, the developmental crisis emerges at genetically determined ages and in a
fixed sequence (Erikson, 1968).
For Erikson (1968) the crisis demands a choice between two opposing developmental
possibilities. These possibilities are complementary opposites and the ideal resolution
is a healthy balance between the two extreme possibilities. The resolution of the
developmental crisis is a new synthesis and results in an ego strength or
psychological strength or developmental gain or emerging value (Erikson, 1968). The
ego strength enables the individual to advance to a higher level of development. An
unsuccessful resolution of a crisis complicates the resolution of the subsequent
stages. The individual, however, has the opportunity to resolve the crisis at a later
stage (Erikson, 1968). Erikson‘s eight stages are as follows (Table 4.4):
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Table 4.4 Erikson‟s eight stages of development
Opposing issues of each stage Emerging
Value
Period of Life
1 Basic Trust vs. Mistrust Hope Infancy (birth to 1 year)
2 Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt Will Early childhood (1 to 3 years)
3 Initiative vs. Guilt Purpose Play age (3 to 6 years)
4 Industry vs. Inferiority Competence School age (6 to 12 years)
5 Identity vs. Identity (role) confusion Fidelity Adolescence (12 to 20 years)
6 Intimacy vs. Isolation Love Young adulthood (20 to 40
years)
7 Generativity vs. Stagnation (self
absorption)
Care Maturity (40 to 65 years)
8 Integrity vs. Despair & Disgust Wisdom Old Age (65 and older)
Derived and adapted from (Erikson‘s Eight Ages of Human Life in Kimmel, 2002).
Erikson‘s (1968) adolescence and young adulthood are the stages of importance in
this study and to the Yeppies. According to Erikson (1968) it is in these stages that
the individual is required to successfully synthesise the opposing possibilities of 1)
intimacy and isolation as well as developing the ego strength of love and 2) identity
and identity (role) confusion and developing the ego strength of fidelity which
encompasses social and vocational identities. According to Fox (2005) and the trend
evident in the Yeppies, Erikson‘s (1968) stages and developmental crises will be
extended substantially so that longer times are needed for a resolution and new
synthesis in order to ultimately achieve the corresponding ego strengths and
emerging values.
4.4.2.3 ―Pure‖ love replacing romantic love?
Giddens (1992), a world renowned sociologist, provides an alternative explanation for
the way in which intimate relationships are evolving in the Western world. He
suggests that there have been profound cultural shifts in intimate relationships in
individualistic societies. According to Giddens (1990, 1992) the trend, under the
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weight of globalisation, in advanced Western capitalistic societies nowadays, is to
move away from the traditional (the ideal of ―romantic‖ love) to the post traditional
model of intimate sexual relationships (the ―pure love‖ or ―confluent‖ love
relationship). In other words, he postulates that a new form of love has developed,
called "pure" or "confluent", and that this love is replacing romantic love. He suggests
that in the posttraditional advanced capitalist societies of the West, the ―pure love
relationship‖ is now the dominant cultural form. He claims that individuals who pursue
the ―pure love relationship‖ value autonomy and equality – equal rights and
obligations, open communication, mutual respect, mutual trust and mutual self
actualisation. In his view confluent or pure love is "active contingent love, and
therefore clashes with the 'for-ever, one and only'" (Giddens, 1992, p. 61) virtues of
romantic love. These ―pure love relationships‖, according to Giddens (1992), are
expected to dissolve once the ability to serve as a self development vehicle for either
partner is exhausted. Therefore the individuals in ―pure love relationships‖ are
especially lacking in ontological security. As a result these relationships ―hold great
promise for human freedom and happiness, but are so unpredictable that they also
threaten to overwhelm people with anxiety‖ (Gross & Simmons, 2002, p. 531).
Therefore, Giddens (1992) warns, the ―pure love relationship‖, which has enormous
potential to make the world a better place, also brings with it new risks - one of the
biggest being psychological insecurity.
Brown (2005, p. 23) acknowledges Giddens‘ (1992) view and adds, ―indeed, in a
postmodern age, the need for or belief in romantic love might seem unreconstructed
and naïve (and ready for transformation), but…that romantic love retains a compelling
hold in contemporary culture‖. Brown (2005) argues that romantic love prevails
because like other human emotions, love is not only socially derived but also
psychologically derived. Brown (2005) explains romantic love‘s prevailing nature and
compelling hold from a psychoanalytical perspective via intrapsychic processes: 1)
the ‗infantile anxiety of longing‘ to be loved and fearing loss and separation (Freud,
1923), 2) infantile longing for emotional, non-verbal attunements, and 3) a mitigation
of the individual‘s ‗sense of loneliness‘. Perhaps Brown (2005) is suggesting that
romantic love sublimates and soothes the individual‘s primitive infantile fears and
anxieties, whereas the ―pure love relationship‖ possibly has the capacity to activate
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these primitive infantile fears and anxieties. Brown (2005) also argues that Giddens‘
(1992) concept of pure love relationships fails to recognise the negative (e.g. hate,
jealousy and envy) and ambivalent emotions present in an intimate relationship.
Finally, she highlights criticisms that have been aimed at Giddens‘ (1992) notion: that
is, for being too rational, individualistic and advocating ‗technocratic emotional
management‘. Fromm (1956) may argue that pure love is reflective of what he calls
immature love rather than mature love.
Gross and Simmons (2002) undertook the difficult task of attempting to test Giddens‘
theory by using a sample of 1970 individuals. They reported that there was a positive
association between being in a pure love relationship and experiencing a heightened
sense of autonomy, being happier with their partnerships and being more likely to
support egalitarian political arrangements. They also found that there was no
significant association between being in a pure love (or hybrid-type) relationship and
anxiety or harmful addictions. The researchers conceded that a number of limitations
were inherent in their study and highlighted the need for more nuanced empirical
tests of Giddens' concept. Nonetheless it makes, at the very least, a start to testing
what could be a fertile and rich theory.
4.4.3. Globalisation and love research
Hart (2004) interviewed 89 rural Turkish households in order to unravel the
experiences of these individuals with regard to desire, modernity and identity in the
arena of marriage. She reports that although the participants felt the need to display
the adoption of modern practices and the rejection of practices such as arranged
marriages, bride-wealth and polygamy, in practice, ideologies of modernity were held
at a distance and arranged marriages were in actual fact not infrequent. Hart (2004)
clarifies that the arranged marriages today are not the arranged marriages of the
past. Instead the present day arranged marriages have the space to develop into
romances before or after the marriage ceremony. She suggests that these marriages
blur the distinction between the arranged marriage and the love-match and are
perceived by the local Turkish participants as marriages of choice – ‗duty to desire‘.
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She argues that the rise of romantic love and individualism does not necessarily
automatically result in a split from extended kin networks. She concludes that ―Love,
even romantic love, can flourish in the public atmosphere of kin networks‖ (Hart,
2004, 162). Yan (2003) undertook a similar study in a rural Chinese village and he too
concurs that improved and changed economic arrangements have transformed the
ways in which people express themselves - much more intimately and romantically.
These rural studies perhaps shed some light on understanding how rural South
Africans may be negotiating marriages nowadays.
Research undertaken by Netting (2006) investigated Indian Canadian (Indo-
Canadian) youths and their experience of straddling two lives: one in Canadian
secular society and the other in their Indian ethnic community. Her study was based
on in-depth interviews with 27 Indo-Canadian, single young adults living permanently
in Canada. These youths seem to develop bi-cultural identities. One is based on the
traditional Indian / collectivistic culture gained from their immediate, extended family
and Indian community; and the other on Canadian values / an individualistic culture
stemming from school, neighbours, and peer groups. According to Netting (2006) the
collectivistic and individualistic cultures focus on different values. The former values
and promotes a responsibility to others, obedience and self-sacrifice. The latter
culture values and promotes independence and individual rights and, in the
individualistic milieu, self-sacrifice and compassion are understood as voluntary acts
motivated by care and love. One of the key struggles these youths have to negotiate,
out of this bi-cultural identity, is the contrast between individualistic and collectivistic
values that determine the nature of romantic relationships and marriage: they must
negotiate between the "love-marriage" of the West and the "arranged marriage"
advocated by their traditional Indian heritage.
Not surprisingly, this author reports that most respondents strongly desire a partner of
their choice as well as their parents' approval. Netting (2006) reports that her
research revealed that compromises were made by both the young Indo-Canadian
adults and their parents. As a result these young adults report limiting themselves to
partners who were semi-approved of by their parents - of the same religion and
sometimes even the same caste. They report that although the topic of marriage was
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frustrating and difficult, by means of discussion it was solvable. They describe
discovering that through the struggle, difficulty and frustration of negotiating their bi-
cultural identities and therefore bi-cultural needs, desires and wants, their parents
were more flexible than they had expected; Indian values, with fewer social barriers,
had been reincorporated into a family; greater intergenerational respect and possibly
even additional gender equality was developed; and finally they became active,
creative, resilient agents of cultural re-creation and evolution. This study may reflect
the Indian/Asian and Black South African youths‘ struggle with the multiple identities
that globalisation brings and that are often in conflict with their traditional collectivistic
cultural values. Perhaps the negotiations, compromises and changes that ensued for
the parents and youths of the Indian Canadian sample may be reflective in the South
African context when one takes into account the rapid changes globalisation is
bringing.
Sandhya (2009) conducted a study of 91 married Indian couples. She found that the
experience and expression of intimacy is an important aspiration for Indian men and
women and that intimacy also predicted enhanced levels of happiness in marriage.
She attributes barometers of happiness and intimacy in a relationship to the
increased importance of self needs due to globalisation. She differentiates happy
couples as reporting agreement, empathy, validation, support, and fulfilled
expectations.
4.5. South African love
South Africans comprise divergent ethnic, racial and cultural groupings. Black and
Indian South Africans are, and function as, a collectivistic culture. The Black and
Indian South African individual lives and thinks in the context of the group, extended
family and community (Meyer et al., 2002; Mwamwenda, 1999). White South Africans
are, and function as, a moderately individualistic culture – the individual and their
independence are paramount (Hofstede, 1991). It is not yet known how the majority
of Coloured people function, and part of the purpose of this study is to establish
whether their cultural orientation and functioning is collectivistic or individualistic. If
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love is mediated by culture, as many researchers claim, then perhaps the four broad
cultural groups in South African hold different and diverse conceptualisations
regarding the meanings and the ways of loving.
4.5.1. Love attitude and values
According to Oppong (1980), traditionally, romantic love plays a small part in Black
African nations and is at times viewed as disruptive. Other research found that
although a particular style of ―African love‖ exists, the same African subjects strongly
endorsed many of the ―American love‖ attitudes (Philbrick & Opolot, 1980). This is
corroborated by Bell (1995): ―passionate love or romantic love … has been an integral
part of African culture‖ (p. 153). He elaborates, writing that Kenyan Taita people
outline three kinds of African love: 1) love is infatuation; this is experienced as ―an
irresponsible feeling of longing and deep attraction toward another person‖ (p. 158);
2) love is lust and is experienced as a strong sexual attraction for another; and 3)
romantic love which is characterised by passion and enduring affection. The Kenyan
Taita people‘s romantic love can be related to a mix of companionate (enduring
attachment) and passionate (romantic) love. It could also be likened to Lee‘s (1976)
eros lovestyle. Although arranged marriages are the norm in the Taita, ―Taitas are
seldom surprised when someone marries for the love of the heart‖ (p.163).
Stones (1986) administered the Munro-Adams Love Attitude Scale to 375 South
African students: the sample was equally split between the sexes and between Black
and White students. He aimed to assess and compare Black and White South African
student scores as regards Romantic Power, Romantic Idealism and Conjugal
(mutual) Love. Romantic Power measures the ―belief that love has a potent influence
on a person‘s life and surmounts all obstacles‖ (Stones & Philbrick, 1989a, p. 131).
Romantic Idealism measures the belief that ―love is the very essence of life and is the
highest relationship goal between a man and a woman‖ (Stones & Philbrick, 1989a, p.
131). Conjugal Love measures the ―belief that love should be calm, sober, and a
stabilising influence and that love demands serious thought and careful consideration‖
(Stones & Philbrick, 1989a, p. 131). Stones (1986) found that both groups had an
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equal belief in the power of love - Romantic Power and suggested the similarity in
scores on the Romantic Power subscale may be attributed to the fact that all
participants stemmed from a tertiary education system and therefore had attained a
relatively high level of Western sophistication. He also compared the South African
results to previous studies conducted in Uganda and America. The South African
sample matched the American and Ugandan sample on Romantic Power. However,
South African mean scores were distinctly lower on the Romantic Idealism and
Conjugal Love scales than those of their American and Ugandan counterparts. He
suggested that these distinctly lower scores may be attributed to the sociopolitical
atmosphere of unrest and the severe censorship that were present at the time of the
study. Finally, he reported that when Black and White participants were compared the
Black participants recorded a marginally higher mean score on Conjugal Love.
In a later study Stones and Philbrick (1989a) once again administered the Munro-
Adams Love Attitude Scale but this time to 74 rural South African Xhosa scholars
(senior secondary school pupils) ─ the sample had a relatively equal gender
weighting. The female mean scores were slightly higher than those of their male
peers on Romantic Power. The female mean scores were significantly higher than
their male peers on Romantic Idealism. The male mean scores were slightly higher
than their female peers on Conjugal Love. They concluded that Romantic Power was
ranked as primary by both sexes while Conjugal Love was ranked higher than
Romantic Idealism by the male participants, and that the opposite was true for female
participants.
Stones and Philbrick (1989b) replicated the above study (Stones & Philbrick, 1989a)
with 69 (32 male and 37 female) South African Xhosa collegiate university students.
The male-female comparison on mean scores of the three subscales differed from the
previous study‘s adolescent sample. The statistics as regards Romantic Power and
Romantic Idealism yielded the opposite results. The male mean scores were slightly
higher than their female peers on Romantic Power. The male mean scores were
significantly higher than those of their female peers on Romantic Idealism. The male
mean scores were slightly higher than their female peers on Conjugal Love. These
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results suggest that shifts in endorsement of different love attitudes occur as females
and males mature and age.
When comparing their studies to previous ones which had been conducted, Stones
and Philbrick (1989a, 1989b) found that Romantic Power received equally strong
support in South Africa, Uganda and Senegal; South Africans supported Romantic
Idealism substantially less than the other two countries; and finally Conjugal Love was
equally supported by South African and Ugandan participants and markedly more so
by Senegalese participants. They suggest that the low South African support of
Romantic Idealism is due to ―the Xhosa‘s sociopolitical position within the framework
of apartheid [which] leaves little room for idealism in the affairs of love‖ (Stones &
Philbrick, 1989a, p. 132). They suggest that the much higher score of Conjugal Love
recorded by the Senegalese participants was possibly due to the greater linguistic
and ethnic homogeneity in their society.
Furnham (1984) administered the Rokeach Value Survey between three diverse
South African cultural groups during the Apartheid era – Blacks, Whites and Indians –
in an attempt to investigate the differences in attitudes toward love and romance. He
found that White South Africans valued love and friendship the highest whereas Black
South Africans placed the highest worth on equality and peace. These findings could
be attributed to the fact that at the time the study was undertaken, it was historically a
time of unrest and Black South Africans and Indians were discriminated against
socially, politically and economically. If one considers these results in light of
Maslow‘s (1964) hierarchy of needs, they suggest that the privileged and affluent
White South African societies and cultures had the luxury of indulging in higher order
needs such as beauty, love and friendship because their basic security needs were
being satisfied and therefore they enjoyed the freedom to pursue needs such as love,
self actualisation and self-esteem. For the poorer Black South African societies and
cultures, who were downtrodden and struggling to survive, Maslow‘s (1964) lower
needs of physical and social security were paramount and thus peace and equality
were important for this group because essentially under those conditions the luxury of
love and romance is inevitably marginalised.
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4.5.2. Love and marriage
The nature of the African worldview is collectivistic and interdependent and this too
spills over into marriage. Given the support which each partner must give to the other
to create a successful marriage, marriage by its very nature appeals to the
interdependence of the African collectivistic culture (Mwamwenda, 1999). According
to Mwamwenda (1999) Africans enter into marriage either through love or by
arrangement and the marriage is characterised by its own ‗balance of power‘ which is
determined by the resources each spouse brings into the marriage (Van der Vliet,
1991).
Traditional African marriages not only bind two individuals; they are also contracts
between clans and families. The male‘s family normally takes the initiative and
approaches the female‘s family (Schapera & Comaroff, 1991). Bridewealth (lobola),
which legitimises the traditional marriage, is negotiated and the male‘s family pays
traditionally in cattle, thereby ensuring that the wife resides with the husband‘s family
and the offspring of the union belong to the father‘s lineage (Mwamwenda, 1999;
Schapera & Comaroff, 1991; Van der Vliet, 1991; West, 1976). It is not uncommon to
hold a Christian ceremony as well as a traditional African ceremony. An important
part of the union is fertility; so much so that the birth of a child secures the wife‘s
position in the husband‘s family. Often, in urban settings, only once a child is born will
a marriage take place (Little, 1973). It is not unusual that the basis for these arranged
marriages rests on socioeconomic reasons rather than love and romantic ones. ―True
love has rarely influenced the choice of wife here‖, said a respondent in an interview
(Little, 1973, p. 133). The author acknowledges that this is a relatively old source and
that in postliberation South Africa, the effects of acculturation and globalisation may
have changed these views substantially; nonetheless it is important to report on these
historically traditional views.
Nevertheless researchers have found that in many African cultures romantic love is
an essential part of the courting ritual through which young people are initiated
(Goodwin, 1999). Many researchers assert that in African societies love, infatuation,
romance and flirting are not uncommon (Bell, 1995; Little, 1973; Plotnicov, 1995;
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West, 1976). For some people love can become so consuming that across the
socioeconomic spectrum Africans will go to an African traditional healer for a love
potion that will gain or retain the beloved‘s attention and affection (Caplan, 1997;
Little, 1973). The Zulu people are famous for their love tokens where beads
masquerade as love-letters. Each bead colour means something so that by
combining the colours one can send a love message. White beads denote love; black
beads represent darkness and unhappiness; green beads represent resentment;
yellow beads stand for wealth; pink beads symbolise poverty whereas red beads
represent eyes swollen from searching for a lover‘s face (West, 1976). A woman who
sends a love-letter of white, black and pink beads is saying ‗I love you, I‘m sad that
we can‘t meet and I‘m worried you won‘t have enough lobola for us to marry‘. This
concern is reflective of the adherence to arranged marriages for socioeconomic
reasons as well as of the notion of romantic and passionate love. As Goodwin (1999)
observes, unfortunately, for some, ―wanting to marry for love is not the same as doing
so‖ (p. 64).
Although in many traditional African societies marriages were frequently arranged by
the parents of the couple, Western ideas and values promoting individual partner
choice are spreading through mass media and education (Meekers, 1995). Meekers
(1995) from a sample of 3360 Togolese women deduced that autonomy of partner
choice increased amongst the upper class women when compared to lower class
women, urban women when compared to rural women, literate women when
compared to illiterate women, Christian women compared to non-Christian women,
women who marry later compared to women who marry early, and economic
independent women who control their own incomes compared to women who are less
economically independent and have less control of their own incomes. Even though,
greater economic status, urbanization and education have been eroding the institution
of arranged marriages, Togolese women still prefer to have parental approval of their
autonomously chosen marriage partner. Meekers (1995) concludes that even though
Western values are eroding the traditional African ways, it is unlikely that the
Togolese society will adopt purely Western ways. Instead, she reports that traditional
family values and characteristics are being retained and being integrated and merged
with modern Western family systems and characteristics. One of the traditional
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African characteristic of intimate relationships that has survived to some extent in
South Africa is the practice of polygamy.
According to Gustafsson and Worku (2006), polygamy was mostly confined to royal
family and traditional leaders in the past and only took place with the consent of the
first wife. Currently polygamy is permitted legally as long as the first wife‘s interests
are protected. African men tended to support the more open, segregated and
polygamous style of marital relationship (Van der Vliet, 1991; Little, 1973). In contrast,
the women favoured the closed, joint, monogamous style of marital relationship (Van
der Vliet, 1991; Little, 1973). This as well as infidelity is reported as comprising the
primary source of conflict in the South African (Xhosa) couples that Van der Vliet
(1991, p. 232) interviewed: ―While the women deplored their men‘s behaviour, most of
them seemed resigned to it as more or less inevitable‖. Similar findings were reported
amongst the Igbo women in Nigeria (Smith, 2001). According to Smith (2001), many
of the Igbo women know that their men seek, and are involved with, other women and
this too often causes intense marital conflict amongst the Igbo. Being able to keep
women outside of marriage is a sign of economic status and continuing virility in the
eyes of African men (Little, 1973; Smith, 2001). Smith (2001) postulates that Igbo
men adopt a sense of entitlement regarding extramarital sexual relationships because
―it is our culture‖. He suggests that this is 1) due to the fact that married women are
principally socially appraised in their role as mothers and 2) a result of the patrilineal
society of the Igbo people, where the children of the couple are said to belong to the
husband‘s people (Smith, 2001). Therefore, a woman who chooses to leave the
marriage on the basis of her husband‘s infidelity risks losing her children. These
patrilineal values are common throughout Africa and in South Africa too
(Mwamwenda, 1999; Schapera & Comaroff, 1991; Van der Vliet, 1991; West, 1976).
Bafana (2009, p. 11) confirms that although wives will not approve, in African and in
South Africa ―having a mistress is like wearing a badge of honour, adding to the
man‘s social standing‖. Perhaps this explains the propensity to and one-sided social
acceptability of extramarital sexual relationships. South African Xhosa women attempt
to keep their husbands faithful by calling upon ‗modern‘ marriage models which
include making decisions together, spending leisure time together, having a strong
emotional bond and practising monogamy and marital fidelity (Van der Vliet, 1991). In
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contrast the Xhosa men often counteract these attempts by insisting on living
according to the traditional marital model which includes strict gender-based labour
division, patriarchal attitudes, segregated men and women‘s worlds with men
exercising more social, financial and sexual freedom (Van der Vliet, 1991).
Ten years after Van der Vliet‘s (1991) research findings Smith (2001) reports that
Igbo constructions of marriage are changing and that they are being shaped by
notions of romantic love, emotional intimacy, conjugality and companionship. He adds
that a similar trend is being followed by Africans across Africa and that Africans are
―increasingly likely to select marriage partners, at least in part, on whether they are in
love‖ (Smith, 2001, p. 130). According to Smith (2001), although individual mate
selection is in its infancy in Africa, it is being readily adopted in urban, educated and
elite African circles. There is an evolution of African culture and in the realm of
intimate relationships, marriages seem to be utilising new as well as old embedded
social and cultural systems to transform, reproduce and adapt previous African
methods of marriage and family organisation.
The relative weight of old and new influence differs when one compares current
courtship and marriage relationships, according to Smith (2001). In current courtship,
the relationships that are negotiated are based largely on the quality of the
interpersonal relationships that exist between the couple. This affords women relative
equality in the area of sexuality and mate selection and it provides women with
considerably more power than ever before. Nowadays African men not only have to
pay bride price but must also woo and win the woman‘s heart, thus reflecting equality
in the weight of old and new influences. However, once married, gender dynamics are
transformed and women seem to lose the equality of power they experienced in the
courtship phase; there is a shift of weight toward the old influence. This balance of
power before marriage and the consequent imbalance of power, once marriage has
taken place, is echoed by the South African women Van der Vliet (1991, p. 236)
interviewed; one of them said:
When he wants to marry he tells you all sorts of lies. ―You‘ll be my
equal, I‘ll be faithful to you‖ and all that and you think, ―This is the
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man I must marry!‖ The minute you put on the rings – hunh! – the
trouble starts. They want a woman to be subservient. [They expect a
women] to be a housewife and give birth to children. In fact, that‘s the
main thing when they marry, they always think about how this woman
will give birth to many children for the sake of our family name and to
increase the whole clan.
This causes much conflict and unhappiness especially on the part of the woman. As a
result of men‘s desire for a traditional (unequal) marriage, many women, from the elite
to the hawker and domestic worker, are choosing to reject marriage and become
independent unmarried mothers, thus putting a ―nail in the coffin of patriarchy‖ (Van
der Vliet, 1991, p. 237). Larson et al. (2002) concur with this, noting how in Western
and African nations divorce and parenting without marriage are on the rise.
Bikitsha (2009) introduces a new perspective; she suggests that nowadays some
modern, professional and affluent African women are entering into polygamous
marriages out of choice. She attributes this to statistics – Black South Africans record
the lowest marriage rates in Africa and only 31% of Black people between the ages of
25 to 34 were married or living together. She concludes that as a result of these
statistics there are some women who become accustomed to their independence and
financial security and choose to remain alone even when men their age are ready to
commit in their thirties and forties; and the women who are set on marrying may ―find
themselves not being ‗the one‘, but the second or the third‖ (Bikitsha, 2009, p. 20).
Although a relatively old source, Little (1973) echoes the above sentiments
concerning the relative weight of old and new influences before and after marriage
and cautions that the approval of the significance of romantic love during courtship
does not inevitably mean romantic love will be an emphasis after marriage. He
comments that the concept of love in African society is not necessarily identical to
Western notions of love, for example, romantic love in African societies does not
necessarily imply exclusivity (Little, 1973). Even though Western notions of romantic
love have impacted widely on the language of African romantic love, Little (1973)
concludes that its actual content of meaning is burdened by existing social values.
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Little‘s (1973) views are supported by contemporary researchers who assert that
romantic love has an ethnic face and is mediated by one‘s traditional beliefs, culture
and local conditions (Cho & Cross, 1995; Goodwin, 1999; Jankowiak, 1995;
Jankowiak & Fisher, 1992; Smith, 2001).
Nevertheless, romantic love is based on intense feelings for another, feelings of
immense and psychological depth, the subjective idealisation of the other, strong
emotional attachment and erotic stimulation, and it is no different for peoples of Africa
(Jankowiak, 1995). An eighty year old Taita man describes his intense love for his
fourth wife: ―She was the wife of my heart … I could look at her and she at me, no
words would pass, just a smile‖ (Bell, 1995, p. 161). Goodwin concludes eloquently
(1999, p. 65), ―many aspects of ‗Western‘ love are important in African (and West
Indian societies), but that the particular constellation of love beliefs and behaviours
adopted is likely to be a complex synthesis of traditional beliefs, local conditions and
outside influences‖.
According to Dinna (2005), for a Muslim or Hindu Indian family, marriage is an
exceptionally important occasion – it joins two families and consolidates two
fraternities. Hinduism believes an individual is complete and holy only once they are
married – marriage is seen for both partners as a way of growing spiritually. Dinna
(2005) recognises in South African Indians, as did Netting (2006) in Canadian
Indians, that young adults prefer to choose their own mate, whereas their parents still
seek to arrange their marriages. According to Dinna (2005), in modern arranged
marriages in South Africa partner choice is based on mutual agreement between
parents and the individuals to be married. Dinna (2005) highlights the point that
although arranged Indian marriages record a low divorce rate, this is not necessarily
due to high marital satisfaction but instead because women do not want to embarrass
their family of origin by divorcing. Although love marriages in the Indian community
have been frowned upon, the influence of globalisation and exposure to Western
culture means that they have become more acceptable (Dinna, 2005). A study of
South African Indians was undertaken by Dinna (2005) to establish differences in
marital satisfaction. The sample consisted of 24 couples from love relationships and
20 couples from arranged marriages. It was found that couples who married as a
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result of love relationships reported higher levels of marital satisfaction as compared
to couples whose marriage was arranged.
4.5.3. Marriage statistics in South Africa
Individuals from different population groups practise different types of marriages. The
two key kinds are civil and traditional marriages. Prior to 1984, marriages amongst
Whites and Coloureds were civil marriages; Africans and Indians could choose to
marry according to either civil or traditional marriages. Traditional marriages are
conducted according to African tradition for African people and according to Hindu or
Muslim religious ceremonies for Indian people (Gustafsson & Worku, 2006).
Budlender, Chobokoane and Simelane (2004) use Census 1996 to report that 70% of
marriages in South Africa were civil marriages with the rest being traditional
marriages. According to Gustafsson and Worku (2006) traditional marriages may be
polygamous.
Statistics South Africa (2007) reports that the median age for Black grooms was 34
years old and 30 for brides. Udjo (2001) reported similar findings: Black South African
men and women record relatively similar mean ages at marriage (early thirties) but
South African women are married at the highest mean age (32.2 years) in the world.
Gustafsson and Worku (2006), using Census 2001, also highlight the high proportion
of single African mothers between the ages of 20-40 (48%). They attribute these
trends to the lack of eligible men due to the low gender ratio amongst Africans: 92
men to 100 women (i.e. there are 1.6 million fewer African men than women),
apartheid legacies and high lobola prices. They report that 78% White women
between the age of 20 and 40 years old with at least one child were in a civil
marriage, compared to only 19% of African women in civil marriages and 16% in
traditional marriages. Perhaps this highlights the fact that different cultural
understandings of what constitutes marriage exist; or possibly this demonstrates that
in the African culture formal marriage as an institution is not as important as in White
culture; or perhaps these figures support Little‘s (1973) assertion that marriage is only
likely to take place after a child is born in the African culture.
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According to Budlender et al. (2004) the percentage of cohabiting women has been
steadily increasing, from 4% to 7% over the period of 1995-99. Cohabitation was
reported in African and Coloured population groups more often and least often
amongst White and Indian population groups (Budlender et al., 2004). Gustafsson
and Worku (2006) suggest that high lobola prices and low employment and income
perhaps explain the recent shift to cohabitation.
Budlender et al. (2004) emphasize - from a comparison of the South African
population groups over the period of 1995-99 - that not only did Whites and Indians
marry earlier when marrying for the first time but that marriage was also almost
universal amongst Whites and Indians but not amongst Africans and Coloureds. The
prevalence of South Africans having ever married, who were age 50 and above, was
overall 83.4%. As evident in Table 4.5, Budlender et al. (2004) highlight that the
prevalence of marriage by the age of 50 with respect to population group: Whites
group were most likely to have married by the age of 50 (94.8%), Indian group were
second most likely (92.2%), third likely were the Coloured group (83.1%), while the
least likely were the African group (80.1%).
Table 4.5 Average percentage of people, age 50 and above, ever married by population
group and gender, 1995-1999
Population Group Male Female Total
African 79.8 80.4 80.1
White 94.3 95.3 94.8
Coloured 83.3 82.8 83.1
Indian 92.0 91.8 92.2
Derived and adapted from (Budlender et al., 2004).
According to Statistics South Africa (2007) the median age for divorce was 43 for men
and 39 for women. Although White South Africans record the highest divorce rate out
of all the groups in South Africa, over the past ten years the percentage of divorces
has been declining in White South Africans (to 33.5%) and increasing in Coloured (to
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2.9%) and African (to 30.6%) groups (Statistics South Africa, 2007). On average, the
proportion of people reporting divorce or separation has increased over time and the
proportion of people marrying has declined over time, therefore suggesting that the
institution of marriage is being eroded. Perhaps Giddens (1992) is correct in saying
that society is calling for a different conceptualisation of intimate relationships.
4.6. Conclusion
Romantic and passionate love are seemingly universal experiences, but the ways in
which romance, love and passion are expressed, understood and fulfilled differ
across cultures. Researchers have found that the dimension of collectivism versus
individualism has been a useful one to help differentiate and understand love
amongst cultures and much research has been conducted in terms of these
dimensions. The love and culture chapter of this study reviewed the research that has
been undertaken globally using different scales to measure romantic love: love as a
basis for marriage, romantic beliefs, attachment patterns and lovestyles. These
studies have revealed the nuances of love in different cultures at different periods of
time. The relationship between love and money was explored and it was found that
the wealthier an individual is, the more likely they are to be individualistic, and the
more likely they are to possess the freedom to choose love as the basis of their
romantic relationships.
Globalisation and cultural shifts exert a profound effect on ways of loving across
cultures: with collectivistic cultures adopting the more individualistic values of
romantic love, and advanced individualistic cultures adopting the values of equality
and autonomy in ―pure love‖ relationships.
Within the rainbow of cultures of South Africa there are cultures that are ostensibly
traditionally more collectivistic in nature (Black South African and Indian South
African); and others that are ostensibly traditionally more individualistic in nature
(White South African); and yet others whose cultural nature is currently unknown
(Coloured South African). These ethnic groups and their complex relationship with
romantic love were explored. Although the information gathered provides some
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understanding, challenges prevail in this field of study and there are still a number of
unanswered questions as regards the nuances of South African love. The process of
uncovering the answers to these questions and nuances is further challenged by the
blurring of cultural boundaries in South Africans due to acculturation, and
globalisation. Of particular relevance is the possibility that urban middle and upper
class young adults are more homogeneous across culture than their rural and lower
class cultural counterparts. This study attempts to start to close some of the gaps in
current knowledge.
Prior to concluding the literature review it may be useful to revisit Figure 2.7 and
complete the tentative integrated model of romantic love model by showing how
external factors – globalisation, culture and factors that nurture attraction, liking and
loving – may possibly influence how an individual loves romantically. A revised model
with these external factors is diagrammatically represented below in Figure 4.1.
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CHAPTER 5
Research Methodology
5.1 Introduction
The aim of the proposed research study was to explore the differences between ways
of loving across the four cultural groups in South Africa (i.e. African, White, Coloured
and Indian/Asian) in the initial stages of love of mate selection. The study sought to
examine this by establishing the cross-cultural differences in 1) love experiences, 2)
love as a basis for marriage, 3) love as a basis for the maintenance of marriage, 4)
romantic beliefs, 5) attachment styles and 6) lovestyles. Gender differences, as a
whole and within cultures, across the six ways of loving were also probed. The
intersection between these six ways of loving were investigated using the overall
South African sample. In addition, the influence of socio-economic status on ways of
loving was examined. Finally, how the four South African cultural groups map to the
individualism collectivism continuum were explored.
Individualism collectivism:
Hypothesis 1: Blacks and Indian/Asians will score significantly higher than Whites and
Coloureds on the collectivism measure.
Hypothesis 2: Whites and Coloureds will score significantly higher than Blacks and
Indian/Asians on the individualism measure.
Culture:
Hypothesis 3: Cultural groups who are more collectivistic (Black and Indian/Asian) are
significantly less likely to endorse ‗love as a basis for marriage‘ than cultural groups
who are more individualistic (White and Coloured).
Hypothesis 4: Cultural groups who are more collectivistic (Black and Indian/Asian) are
significantly less likely to have high romanticism than cultural groups who are more
individualistic (White and Coloured).
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Hypothesis 5: Cultural groups who are more collectivistic (Black and Indian/Asian) are
likely to have similar proportions of secure, preoccupied, dismissing and fearful
attachment styles as cultural groups who are more individualistic (White and
Coloured).
Hypothesis 6: Cultural groups who are more collectivistic (Black and Indian/Asian) are
significantly more pragma than cultural groups who are more individualistic (White
and Coloured).
Hypothesis 7: The Black group is significantly more ludus than cultural groups who
are more individualistic (White and Coloured).
Hypothesis 8: Cultural groups who are more collectivistic (Black and Indian/Asian) are
significantly less eros than cultural groups who are more individualistic (White and
Coloured).
Gender:
Hypothesis 9: Men are significantly more ludus and agape than women and women
are significantly more eros, storge, pragma, and mania than men.
Hypothesis 10: Men are significantly more likely to have a dismissing attachment style
than women and women are significantly more likely to have a preoccupied
attachment style than men.
Love ways intersect:
Hypothesis 11: Individuals that are eros are significantly more likely to marry for love,
be high on romanticism, and be securely attached than the other five lovestyles.
Hypothesis 12: Individuals that are ludus are significantly less likely to marry for love,
be low on romanticism, and have a dismissing attachment style than the other five
lovestyles
Socioeconomic status:
Hypothesis 13: Individuals that are from a low socioeconomic group are less likely to
endorse ‗love as a basis for marriage‘ than individuals that are from a high
socioeconomic group.
The study was based on non-experimental research; there was no direct control of the
independent variable, no control group and randomisation (Kerlinger, 1986). The
investigation was of an exploratory nature and this was achieved by assessing the
variable in its natural environment. In addition, the study was also a comparative study
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in that it focused on the differences between the Hofstede‘s (1980; Hofstede & Bond,
1988) different cultural dimensions and ways of loving.
5.2 Sample
The sample was drawn from male and female second-year, third-year and honours
students in Gauteng using convenience sampling methods. The sample size was made
up of 460 subjects and the four cultural groups being studied (i.e. African, Indian/Asian,
Coloured and White) were well represented. The aim was to get the sample size to be
as close to equal numbers across gender and the four cultural groups as possible; this
was by in large achieved.
5.3 Measurement instruments
Questionnaires were included to measure the following (see Appendix A): four of which
referred to feelings and experiences of love; one which delineated Hofstede‘s (1994)
five cultural dimensions; and one that measured the degree of an individual‘s
individualism and collectivism. In addition demographic information pertinent to the study
was collected.
5.3.1 Biographical Questionnaire
The biographical information that was gathered was as follows:
o Gender biographic information was required in order to establish any gender
differences that would emerge across the love measures. In addition, the study
sought to gather equal numbers of male and female participants.
o Race biographic information was required in order to establish racial differences on
the individualism collectivism continuum as well as any racial differences that would
emerge across the love measures. In addition, the study sought to gather equal
numbers of Black, White, Coloured and Indian/Asian participants.
o Ethnicity biographic information was gathered to establish if the racial groups could
be structured in an alternative way that was ethnically sensitive.
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o The participants were asked for their highest level of education in order to ensure the
sample was a mature student sample.
o The participants were asked about the type of job they had – this question was
asked because it was part of the Hofstede Value Survey Model questionnaire.
o The participants were asked about which setting they grew up in (rural, small town,
large town, suburb or large city), in order to establish if there were any differences in
ways of loving between those who had grown up in a rural area when compared to
those who had grown up in an urban area.
o The participants were asked about their family social class (upper, upper middle,
middle, lower middle, working or lower) in order to establish which general
socioeconomic status strata they belonged to.
o Current romantic relationship status (not involved, casual dating, serious dating,
engaged or living together, married or other) biographic information was gathered to
assist in establishing whether there were differences in ways of loving when
compared to levels of relationship involvement.
o The participants were asked about their religious orientation in order to establish if
religion played a role in the ways of loving.
o The participants were asked about the frequency of their love experiences (see
Appendix A) in order to establish some general information about their romantic
relationship histories.
5.3.2 Love as a basis for marriage
Subjects were asked the three questions that were originally asked in the Kephart
(1967) and Simpson et al. (1986) studies (see Appendix A, section 2). The subjects
responded to each of the three questions with 1) Yes / Agree or 2) No / Disagree.
These questions revealed the participants beliefs about the importance of love in
marriage. They are:
If a man (woman) had all the other qualities you desired, would you marry this
person if you were not in love with him (her)? - yes; no
If love has completely disappeared from a marriage, I think it is probably best
for the couple to make a clean break and start new lives. – agree; disagree
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In my opinion, the disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a
marriage and should not be viewed as such. – agree; disagree
Kephart (1967) as well as Simpson et al., (1986) also included an ‗undecided‘ option.
For the purposes of this study, however, it was excluded in order not to complicate
the cross cultural comparison.
5.3.3 Romantic Beliefs Scale
Sprecher and Metts (1989) developed the Romantic Beliefs Scale (RBS) to measure
a variety of romantic beliefs and attitudes (see Appendix A, section 3). They
suggested that the "romantic ideology" is associated with beliefs like primacy of love
as a basis for mate selection, love at first sight, there is only one true love,
idealisation of the partner and of the relationship, and love can overcome any
obstacle. Four factors emerged from the factor analysis. The first fact explained most
of the variance and this factor, which they called ―Love finds a way‖, included
measuring the beliefs that 1) love as a basis for mate selection was paramount, 2)
love conquers all, and 3) true love lasts for ever. The other three factors that emerged
meaningfully they called ―One and only‖, ―Idealization‖ and ―Love at first sight‖. Their
final scale consists of fifteen items, which may be collapsed into four categories: 1)
love finds a way, 2) one and only, 3) idealisation and 4) love at first sight. The
subjects responded to each of the 15 items on a (1) strongly disagree to (7) strongly
agree response scale. Thus, the higher the score, the more romantic the respondent.
However, the author of this study, in error, switched the response scale to (1) strongly
agree to (7) strongly disagree. Therefore, for this study, the lower the score, the more
romantic the respondent. The questionnaire yields a total score on romanticism as well
as scores on each of the four categories. In this study the analysis considered the total
score (mean) as well as the mean for the individual on the four categories. The lower
the total score (1(R) + 2 to 15) on the questionnaire, the greater the romanticism of the
individual. The four categories are measured as follows:
1) love finds a way is measured by items 2, 5, 9, 11, 13, 15
2) one and only is measured by items 4, 3, 10
3) idealisation is measured by items 7, 8, 14
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4) love at first sight is measured by items 1(R), 6, 12
Sprecher and Metts (1989) reported Cronbach alphas of 0.81 (total score), 0.80 (Love
finds a way), 0.71 (One and only), 0.64 (Idealization), and 0.57 (Love at first sight).
Later studies found this instrument to be reliable with coefficient alphas reported at .79,
.78, .77 and .82 (Sprecher et al., 1994). Sprecher and Toro-Morn (2002) in their cross-
cultural study comparing North American and Chinese respondents found that the total
scale coefficient alpha was .81 for the American sample and .76 for the Chinese
sample; love finds a way (.75 for the American sample and .68 for the Chinese
sample), one and only (.69 for the American sample and .61 for the Chinese sample),
and idealization (.71 for the American sample and .52 for the Chinese sample); and
love at first sight, was not presented in the analysis because of its lower reliability in
both samples. Weaver and Ganong (2004) used confirmatory and exploratory factor
analyses to evaluate the generalisibility of the Romantic Beliefs Scale model to African-
American and European-American respondents. They reported in their findings that the
factor structure did not replicate for African-American. This may indicate that
components of romantic love may be different conceptually in some ways for these two
groups. This study also explore into whether RBS model will replicate the components
of romantic love across the four South African cultural groups.
5.3.4 Relationship Scales Questionnaire
The study employed Griffin and Bartholomew‘s (1994a; 1994b) Relationship Scales
Questionnaire‘s (RSQ) thirty items, which measures the four attachment patterns:
secure, preoccupied, dismissing and fearful (see Appendix A, section 4). This
measurement was born out of Hazan and Shaver‘s (1987) work and the data can be
converted back to their original three attachment styles: secure, avoidant and
anxious-ambivalent. The RSQ has a 5-point scale [from (1) Not at all like me to (3)
Somewhat like me to (5) Very much like me], where participants rate the extent to
which each statement best describes their characteristic style in close relationships.
Five items contribute to the secure and dismissing attachment patterns and four items
contribute to the fearful and preoccupied attachment patterns. The four categories are
measured as follows (Griffith & Bartholomew 1994a ; Kurdek, 2002):
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o Secure Items: 3, 9(R), 10, 15, 28(R).
o Preoccupied Items: 6(R), 8, 16, 25
o Dismissing Items: 2, 6, 19, 22, 26
o Fearful Items: 1, 5, 12, 24
An alternative way of scoring this scale is to calculate Simpson et al.‘s (1992) two
attachment dimensions:
o Avoidance: 10(R), 12, 13, 15(R), 20, 24, 29, 30(R),
o Anxiety: 11, 18, 21, 23, 25
Kurdek (2002) investigated the psychometric properties of the RSQ sub-scores and
found that goodness-to-fit indices failed to validate the existence of Griffith and
Bartholomew‘s (1994a) secure, preoccupied, dismissing and fearful styles. However,
he found that Simpson et al.‘s (1992) avoidance and anxiety dimensions emerged as
reliable factors out of the RSQ; with Cronbach‘s alpha for the avoidance score as .77
and for the anxiety score as .83 and the correlation between the two scores as .50.
Bartholomew (1990) developed a two dimensional (self-model and other-model), four
category model of adult attachment (refer to Figure 2.1). Griffith and Bartholomew
(1994b) found that Simpson et al.‘s (1992) anxiety subscale corresponded closely
and inversely to Bartholomew (1990) self-model dimension and that Simpson et al.‘s
(1992) avoidance subscale corresponded closely to Bartholomew (1990) other-model
dimension. As per Griffith and Bartholomew‘s (1994b) findings this study will combine
Simpson et al.‘s (1992) and Bartholomew‘s (1990) models (Figure 5.1). The RSQ will
be scored according to Simpson et al.‘s (1992) avoidance and anxiety dimensions
(Kurdek, 2002) and then these dimensions will be utilised to as the self-model and
other-model dimensions (Griffith & Bartholomew, 1994b) to extract Griffith and
Bartholomew‘s (1994a) secure, preoccupied, dismissing and fearful attachment
styles.
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Figure 5.1 Two-dimensional: anxiety/self-model and avoidance/other-model; four-
category model of adult attachment. (Derived and adapted from Bartholomew, (1990);
Griffin and Bartholomew (1994a, 1994b); Simpson et al.‘s (1992)).
Atkins, (2003) outlined that some authors have criticized the RSQ as being founded
on conventional rather than empirical categories of attachment. Although he agrees
with Feeney and Noller (1996) that self-report measures may be a better measure of
current relationship functioning rather than trait-like characteristic, he postulates that
there may be some advantages in using an attachment measure that has been
constructed to be a face-valid measure of attachment as conceptualised by Bowlby.
Positive Self model / Low
anxiety
(anxious)
Negative Other model / High avoidance
(avoids intimacy)
Negative Self model / High
anxiety
(self confident)
Positive Other model / Low avoidance
(seeks people out)
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FEARFUL DISSMISSING
PREOCCUPIED
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5.3.5 Love Attitude Scale
Hendrick and Hendrick (1986) were inspired by Lee‘s (1976) Colours of Love theory
to develop the Love Attitude Scale (LAS) (see Appendix A, section 5). Lee‘s Colours
of Love theory was found, by Hendrick and Hendrick (1986) to be a valid and reliable
typology and that Lee‘s delineated six lovestyles were factorially and psychometrically
dissimilar. The LAS has a total of forty-two items, with seven items dedicated to each
of the six lovestyles (eros, ludus, storge, pragma, mania and agape). A 5-point Likert-
type scale ranging from strongly disagree (1) to strongly agree (5) is utilized in the
LAS (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986). The seven items per lovestyle are totalled
respectively and the lowest of the six scores denotes the individual‘s preferred
lovestyle. The six lovestyles are measured as follows:
Eros: items 1 - 7
Ludus: items 8-14
Storge: items 15-21
Pragma: items 22 - 28
Mania: items 29-36
Agape: items 37-42
Reliability analyses in earlier research yielded alpha coefficients above .70 for five of
the subscales (from .68 for storge to .83 for agape) and test-retest reliability values
from .70 for mania to .82 for ludus (Hendrick & Hendrick‗s, 1986, 1989). Montgomery
and Sorell (1997) echoed Hendrick and Hendrick‘s (1986, 1989) results when their
sample produced alpha coefficients ranging from .71 for storge to .82 for agape in
more recent research. Sprecher and Toro-Morn (2002) in their study comparing North
American and Chinese respondents found that the coefficient alpha was below .50 for
both the eros and ludus scales in the Chinese sample. But the coefficient alphas for
these scales were adequate (.65 and .69, respectively), in the American sample. The
American sample and the Chinese sample had the following coefficient alphas,
respectively, for the other lovestyles: storge (.78 and .77), pragma (.66 and .59),
mania (.60 and .52), and agape (.80 and .79). Pavlou (2005) using exploratory as well
as AMOS confirmatory factor analysis, found the validity and reliability of the LAS and
Lee‘s lovestyles typology can reasonably be applied to the African student population
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in South Africa. Her exploratory factor analysis confirmed the existence of the same
six principal lovestyle factors that had been established in earlier research (Hendrick
& Hendrick, 1990). Although ludus was factorially distinct, similar to Sprecher and
Toro-Morn‘s (2002) Chinese sample, it indicated poor reliability (ludus = .53).
It was reported by Hendrick and Hendrick (1986, 1989) that the LAS scale produced
good internal consistency and some evidence of content validity. In addition, Borrello
and Thompson (1990) endorsed the validity of the LAS scale for further utilization in
research.
5.3.6 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire
According to Robert, Lee and Chan (2006) because the underlying constructs of
individualism and collectivism are complex and broad, the development of good
individualism and collectivism measures has not proven easy (see Appendix A,
section 7). In a review and meta-analysis of 83 studies on individualism and
collectivism Oyserman, Coon and Kemmelmeier (2002) reported that the three most
common measuring instruments for individualism and collectivism were: 1) the
Independent-Interdependent (SCS) scale, 2) the Horizontal-Vertical Collectivism-
Individualism scale and 3) the INDCOL measure. Oyserman et al. (2002) analysed
these scales and identified seven major domains relating to individualism and eight
major domains relating to collectivism. Oyserman et al. (2002) concluded that
although the three most commonly used measuring instruments assess aspects of
the critical attributes of individualism and collectivism, no measurement tool at the
time assessed all the critical attributes of individualism and collectivism. Based on the
findings of the meta-analysis (Oyserman et al., 2002), Auckland Individualism
Collectivism Questionnaire (AICQ) was developed by Shulruf, Hattie and Dixon
(2003). It consists of 30 items related uniquely to each of the six factors: three of
these factors relate to Collectivism (Advice, Harmony and Closeness) and the other
three factors relate to Individualism (Compete, Unique and Responsibility). The items
are compiled into a questionnaire using six anchors as part of a frequency scale from
‗Never or almost never‘ to ‗Always‘.
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The six factors are measured as follows:
Individualism
Compete = items 15, 17, 28, 30
Unique = items 5, 8, 16,
Responsibility = items 1, 10, 11, 13, 27, 29
Collectivism
Advice = items 4, 6, 22, 25, 26
Harmony = items 2, 3, 7, 14, 23,
Closeness = items 12, 18, 19, 20, 21, 24
The estimates of reliability (alpha) for each scale is .77 for advice, .71 for harmony,
.62 for closeness, .78 for compete, .76 for unique, and .73 for responsibility (Shulruf
et al., 2003). The authors of this tool warn that it has not, as yet, been tested for
extensive variety of populations, so until this is done using the AICO should be used
with caution. The psychometric properties of this scale will be investigated within this
study.
5.3.7 Values Survey Module
Hofstede (1994a) developed the Values Survey Module 1994 (VSM 94) (see
Appendix A, section 6). It is a 26-item questionnaire developed for comparing
culturally determined values of people from two or more countries or regions. The
twenty content questions allow index scores to be computed on five dimensions of
national or regional culture (Individualism/Collectivism; Power Distance;
Masculinity/Femininity; Uncertainty Avoidance; and Long-term Orientation / Short-
term Orientation). The subjects responded to each of the 20 items on a 5-point Likert
response scale. Index scores are derived from the mean scores on the questions for
national or regional samples of respondents. The remaining six questions were of a
demographic nature and were covered in the demographic section of this study‘s
questionnaire pack.
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The index scores per cultural dimension are scored as follows:
o Power Distance: –35m(03) +35m(06) +25m(14) –20m(17) –20
o Individualism/Collectivism: –50m(01) +30m(02) +20m(04) –25m(08) +130
o Masculinity/Femininity: +60m(05) –20m(07) +20m(15) –70m(20) +100
o Uncertainty Avoidance: +25m(13) +20m(16) –50m(18) –15m(19) +120
o Long-term Orientation: -20m(10) +20m(12) +40
Hofstede (2002) concedes that culture is changeable and dynamic in nature and is
therefore difficult to measure reliably and validly. In addition, some researchers question
the reliability and validity of using a attitude-survey questionnaire, like Hofstede‘s, to
study culture; others criticize Hofstede for reflecting his own beliefs about what is and is
not a suitable measure of a cultural value, while others criticize his work for being
outdated (Fernandez et al., 1997; Goodwin, 1999; Tayeb, 1996). Ratner and Hui (2003)
argue that Hofstede‘s scales are impoverished because a culture‘s dimensions are
characterised on the basis of how individuals respond to, in some cases, as few as
three questionnaire items per dimension. In addition they argue that Hofstede
presumes questions concerning attitudes towards work to measure general social
values. Nonetheless, as mentioned previously, Hofstede‘s model is still a fruitful and
acknowledged work in the field of culture. Although it provides a relatively general
framework for analysis, it is nevertheless a useful guide to understanding the generic
differences in culture between countries in that it reduces the complexities of culture and
its interactions into five relatively easily understood, and to some extent measurable,
cultural dimensions. Therefore, allowing comparisons to be made.
5.3.8 Bem Sex Role Inventory
Bem (1974) developed the Bem Sex Role Inventory (BSRI) which measures an
individuals' gender role orientation in terms of masculinity, femininity, and androgyny.
The BSRI contains 60 adjectives rated on a 7-point scale (1 = never or almost never
true; 7 = always or almost always true) to reflect how well the adjective describes the
respondent's daily behaviour. The BSRI catalogues twenty stereotypic feminine
characteristics (e.g., gentle, sensitive to others), twenty stereotypic masculine
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characteristics (e.g., assertive, self-reliant), and twenty gender-neutral characteristics
(e.g., conventional, happy). Scores on the Femininity and Masculinity scales are the
average ratings for all endorsed feminine and masculine items, respectively.
Research indicates that the reliability and validity of the BSRI are satisfactory, with
Cronbach alpha coefficients of .86 to .87 on the Masculinity scale and .75 to .78 on
the Femininity scale (Bem, 1981). This instrument was used in the pilot study but was
omitted from the final questionnaire pack as it was considered, after the results of the
pilot study, to have generated more confusion than clarity.
5.4 Research method
The survey was conducted by means of individual self-administered anonymous
questionnaires. The questionnaire took no longer than forty-five minutes to complete.
The questionnaire was conducted in English. It was decided that the questionnaire
would not be translated because the mature university students that would be
participating in the study were deemed fully competent to answer the questionnaire in
English.
A pilot questionnaire (Appendix B) was initially administered on sixty-five university
students (second-year, third-year and honours students). The pilot study provided
valuable information. Firstly, time taken to complete the questionnaire was
established – between thirty-five to forty-five minutes. Secondly, the biographical and
Love Experiences section was restructured. Thirdly, the Bem Sex Role Inventory
scale was deemed an inappropriate scale for the study in that it brought an additional
dimension of an individuals' gender role orientation into the study. This was judged to
be a confounding variable that would complicate the study and as a result it was
omitted from the final questionnaire pack. Because of these changes data gleaned
from the pilot questionnaire was not incorporated into the overall study.
Permission to collect data was obtained from the authorities in charge at The
University of Johannesburg campus for the pilot as well as the final questionnaire.
The pilot questionnaire was administered by the author and the final questionnaire
was administered by trained psychology honours student field workers. These field
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workers were trained to: thank the subjects for participating; inform participants on the
aim, nature and purpose of the study; assure subjects that the participation was
voluntary, confidential and anonymous; assure participants that should they want to
withdraw from the study, they could do so at any stage, with no penalties; advise
subjects that the questionnaire had seven sections which appeared on both sides of
the pages; advise subjects to answer all questions; request subjects to answer
independently; appeal to participants to answer as spontaneously and as honestly as
possible; inform participants that the questionnaire would take approximately half an
hour to forty-five minutes to complete and finally request subjects to read and sign the
consent form. They were also trained to communicate concern for the protection and
welfare of the subjects. An invitation for counselling should any of the subjects feel
they required it was extended and the author‘s telephone number and email address
were provided – none of the subjects took up the invitation. The student field workers
were trained that before administering the tests, adequate research was to be
undertaken to ensure that the circumstances of the university were taken into
account. For example, the questionnaires were not be filled in directly before or after
exam periods, tests or stressful, busy periods at the university as this may have had a
direct influence on the variable being measured. An offer to receive an electronic
copy of the report or to receive generic feedback electronically, once analysis has
taken place, was also communicated.
Of the total 460 (65 for pilot and 395 for final) questionnaires collected, 395 were valid
and used for the purposes of the analyses of the study.
5.5 Data analysis procedures
A range of statistical techniques, such as frequency, mean scores, standard
deviations and correlations were employed to describe the data. In order to test the
hypotheses, Analysis of variance (ANOVA) was used to analyse the difference
between means of the groups. The Chi-square test for independence was used to
explore the relationship between categorical variables. Factor analysis was utilised to
isolate and reduce factors / variables.
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5.6 Ethical considerations
The pilot and final questionnaire pack began with a letter (see Appendix A) that
explained the aim, nature and purpose of the study; that the study intended to explore
the nature of romantic love and investigate how we love in South Africa. In addition,
outlined in the letter was that participation in this study on South African love was
voluntary and that respondents could terminate participation at any time with no
penalties. The letter also assured subjects that confidentiality and anonymity would
be maintained and that the time taken to complete questionnaire would be no more
than 30-45 minutes. Finally the letter explained that, to the knowledge of the
researcher, no harm or risk is associated with participation in the study and that
should the respondent request it, generic feedback would be provided electronically.
The subjects were given time to page through the questionnaire and were then asked
to sign the informed consent before participating in the study.
Following the ethical guidelines outlined on the first page of the questionnaire pack,
all respondents participated voluntarily with no penalties for withdrawal. Confidentially
was ensured and maintained - no identifying information was requested. Prior to
participation, subjects were given adequate information regarding the nature and
purpose of the study as well as verbal and written instructions. The nature of the
study was such that the participants would be safe from psychological and or physical
risk. Nonetheless concern for the protection and welfare of the subjects was
communicated before participation and an invitation for counselling was extended. An
offer to receive electronic feedback on the final findings of the study was also
communicated to the respondents.
5.7 Conclusion
The six aims as well as the thirteen hypotheses were outlined in this chapter.
Convenient sampling was utilised on a mature student population from Gauteng and
all racial groups were well represented by the sample of 460. Varying methods were
employed to gather data: demographic information pertinent to the study was
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collected; four questionnaires were included to investigate feelings and experiences
of love; one questionnaire established Hofstede‘s (1994) five cultural dimension; and
one questionnaire that delineated an individual‘s degree of individualism and
collectivism. In addition, the psychometric instruments‘ reliability and validity statistics
were considered. The research method as well as the data analysis procedures
employed were outlined. Finally ethical considerations were explained. The following
chapter presents the results of the data gathered and analysed.
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CHAPTER 6
Results and Discussion
6.1. Introduction
In order to obtain the necessary data for this study a variety of questionnaires were
administered and the necessary demographic information was collected. The breadth
of data allowed for a multitude of research areas to be explored, however only the
information germane to the theory in the literature review will be presented here. The
data were analysed and is presented in this chapter under the following sections: 1)
descriptive statistics, 2) factor analysis, 3) reliability of instruments, 4) individualism
and collectivism, 5) love results by race, gender and the intersection between race
and gender, 6) love results by socioeconomic status and 7) results of love measures
and lovestyles.
6.2. Descriptive statistics
6.2.1. Demographics
A mature student population was sourced to examine the intricacies of love. The
sample‘s ages ranged from 18 to 37 years old with a mean of 22.08 and a standard
deviation of 2.8. This suggests a relatively standard student population where most
the respondents (89%) fell into the 18-25 category (Table 6.1).
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Table 6.1 Frequency distribution of age
Frequency Percent Valid Percent
18 - 21 181 45.9 47.3
22 -25 158 40.0 41.5
26 - 30 37 9.3 9.7
31 years or older 6 1.7 1.7
Total 382 96.7 100.0
Missing 13 3.3
Total 395 100.0
There was a fairly even gender distribution in the sample, with 49% males and 51%
females. The race distribution, crucial to the study, was comprised as shown in Table
6.2 – note the relatively even distribution.
Table 6.2 Frequency distribution of race
Frequency Percent Valid Percent
Black 110 27.8 28.4
White 113 28.6 29.2
Coloured 82 20.8 21.2
Indian 82 20.8 21.2
Total 387 98.0 100.0
Missing 8 2.0
Total 395 100.0
An overwhelming majority of the respondents (94%) indicated that they had lived
primarily in an urban area while growing up and only 1% indicated they currently lived
in a rural area. The majority of the respondents indicated English (57%) as their home
language. Most of the sample (66%) indicated Christianity as their religious
orientation while 12% said they were Muslim, 9% said they were Hindu, whereas only
1.5% indicated African Ancestral Worship as their religious orientation (Table 6.3).
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Table 6.3 Proportions of religious orientation
N Percentage
Christianity 259 65.9%
African Ancestor Worship 6 1.5%
Hindu 37 9.4%
Muslim 48 12.2%
Buddhism 6 1.5%
Judaism 2 .5%
Atheist 12 3.1%
Agnostic 17 4.3%
Other 13 3.3%
According to the respondents there was little overall difference in current social class
(Table 6.5) compared to social class growing up (Table 6.4). Almost 50% of the
respondents placed themselves in the upper social class and upper-middle
categories, 36% of respondents indicated that they fell into the middle social class
category and only 15% indicated they fell into the lower middle and lower social class
categories (Table 6.5).
Table 6.4 Frequency distribution of social class growing up
Frequency Percent Valid Percent
Upper (family income more than R400
000 per annum(pa)) 58 14.7 15.1
Upper Middle (R220-399 000 pa) 122 30.9 31.8
Middle (R100-219 000 pa) 130 32.9 33.9
Lower Middle (R40-99000 pa) 45 11.4 11.7
Lower (less than R39 000 pa) 29 7.3 7.6
Total 384 97.2 100.0
Missing 11 2.8
Total 395 100.0
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Table 6.5 Frequency distribution of current social class
Frequency Percent Valid Percent
1 Upper (family income more than
R400 000 per annum(pa)) 70 17.7 18.2
2 Upper Middle (R220-399 000 pa) 118 29.9 30.6
3 Middle (R100-219 000 pa) 140 35.4 36.4
4 Lower Middle (R40-99000 pa) 37 9.4 9.6
5 Lower (less than R39 000 pa) 20 5.1 5.2
Total 385 97.5 100.0
Missing 10 2.5
Total 395 100.0
6.2.2. Love experiences
More than sixty percent of the participants (62%) said they were in love with someone
at the time of answering the questionnaire. Over 70% of the respondents indicated
they had been in love at least three times in their lifetime and 10% said they had
never been in love before. Seventy percent of the respondents indicated that they had
been in an intimate relationship previously. In excess of 50% of the respondents
indicated that they were currently in an intimate relationship. When asked about their
current romantic relationship status more than 31% said they were not involved, 19%
were dating casually, 44% were dating seriously, living together or engaged and 3.6%
were married (Table 6.6).
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Table 6.6 Frequency distribution of answers to the question: What is your current
romantic relationship status?
Frequency Percent Valid Percent
Not Involved 123 31.1 31.3
Casual Dating 76 19.2 19.3
Serious Dating 145 36.7 36.9
Engaged or Living Together 29 7.3 7.4
Married 14 3.5 3.6
Other 6 1.5 1.5
Total 393 99.5 100.0
Missing 2 .5
Total 395 100.0
Of the respondents that were currently in a relationship, approximately 66% indicated
that their relationship duration was a maximum of two years old. When asked about
the longest relationship they had had in the past, 75% of the respondents said their
maximum relationship duration was two years (Table 6.7). The short duration of the
relationship age may be due to the fact that the mean age of the sample was young
(22.08 years old). Of note, is that a substantial 22.3%, of the respondents chose not
to answer the question. This was even higher when asked about the relationship
duration of their current relationship (39%). Over 94% of the participants indicated
they were heterosexual.
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Table 6.7 Frequency distribution of answers to the question: “If you have been in an
intimate relationship in the past, how long was your longest relationship?”
Frequency Percent Valid Percent
Less than 6 months 83 21.0 27.0
Between 6 months and 1 year 87 22.0 28.3
Between 1 and 2 years 61 15.4 19.9
Between 2 and 3 years 39 9.9 12.7
Between 3 and 5 years 30 7.6 9.8
More than 5 years 7 1.8 2.3
Total 307 77.7 100.0
Missing 88 22.3
Total 395 100.0
6.2.3. Love as a basis for marriage
When asked Kephart‘s (1967) question: "If a man or a woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with him
(her)?" 80.5% of the sample said they would not.
6.2.4. Love as a basis for the maintenance of marriage
When investigating the findings on the importance of love for the maintenance of
marriage, two questions were posed (Simpson et al., 1986). Overall slightly more
participants agreed (56.7% and 52.1%) than disagreed (43.3% and 47.9%) that love
would be necessary for the maintenance of marriage (Table 6.8, 6.9).
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Table 6.8 Frequency distribution of answers to the question: “If love has completely
disappeared from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean
break and start new lives”.
Frequency Percent Valid Percent
Agree 224 56.7 56.7
Disagree 171 43.3 43.3
Total 395 100.0 100.0
Table 6.9 Frequency distribution of answers to the question: “In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not
be viewed as such”.
Frequency Percent Valid Percent
Agree 203 51.4 52.1
Disagree 187 47.3 47.9
Total 390 98.7 100.0
Missing 5 1.3
Total 395 100.0
6.2.5. Romantic Beliefs Scale – romantic beliefs
As per section 5.3.3 the lower the score the more romantic the respondent. Table
6.10 indicates that the mean of the subscale ‗Love finds a way‘, which consisted of six
items was 17.00, whereas the means for the other three subscales, which consisted
of only three items each, were lower. Refer to section 5.3.3 for a brief explanation of
the components of this scale.
Table 6.10 Descriptive statistics of romantic beliefs
N Mean Std Deviation
Love finds a way 395 17.00 6.374
One and only 395 11.39 4.492
Idealisation 395 11.27 4.095
Love at first sight 395 13.37 3.511
Valid N (listwise) 395
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Table 6.11 shows that the majority of the 395 participants indicated their dominant
romantic belief was ‗Love finds a way‘ (64.8%), followed by ‗Love at first sight‘
(19.7%) and ‗One and only‘ (8.1%). The least endorsed romantic belief was
‗Idealization‘ (7.3%).
Table 6.11 Frequency distribution of romantic beliefs
Frequency Percent Valid Percent
Love finds a way 256 64.8 64.8
One and only 32 8.1 8.1
Idealisation 29 7.3 7.3
Love at first sight 78 19.7 19.7
Total 395 100.0 100.0
6.2.6. Relationship Style Questionnaire – attachment patterns
Table 6.12 indicates that the avoidance dimension, which consists of eight items, had
a mean of 21.28, while the anxiety dimension, which consists of five items, had a
mean of 11.47.
Table 6.12 Descriptive statistics of attachment patterns
N Mean Std Deviation
Avoidance 388 21.28 5.699
Anxiety 386 11.47 4.420
Valid N (listwise) 382
In order to establish the four attachment styles the data was divided into four
quadrants with: low avoidance and low anxiety being the secure attachment style; low
avoidance and high anxiety being the preoccupied attachment style; high avoidance
and low anxiety being the dismissing attachment style; and high avoidance and high
anxiety being the fearful attachment style (refer to Figure 5.1).
For analytical purposes a decision was taken to primarily utilise those participants
who were well differentiated into their various attachment types. This involved
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excluding those who were closest to the means as their scores were too highly
associated with the scores in the other quadrants, and may have arguably be
positioned there through measurement error. Although this involved losing some data,
it allowed for a more purist measure of attachment type. The areas that were
excluded were between 20 and 22 on the avoidance dimension and between 10 and
12 on the avoidance dimension (illustrated in Figure 6.1). Table 6.13 indicates that as
a result of this process, there were 120 participants that were excluded from the
sample size.
Figure 6.1 Two-dimensional: anxiety/self-model and avoidance/other-model; four-
category model of adult attachment with excluded area
Table 6.13 shows that the majority of the participants indicated their dominant
attachment dimension was secure (35.3%), followed by fearful (24.4%), and the least
endorsed attachment dimensions were preoccupied (20.0%) and dismissing (20.4%).
Positive Self model / Low
anxiety
Negative Other model / High avoidance
Negative Self model / High
anxiety
Positive Other model / Low avoidance
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FEARFUL DISMISSING
PREOCCUPIED
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Refer to section 2.5.3.4. for a full explanation of the four adult attachment styles.
Table 6.13 Frequency distribution of attachment patterns
Frequency Percent Valid Percent
Secure 97 24.6 35.3
Pre-occupied 56 14.2 20.4
Dismissing 55 13.9 20.0
Fearful 67 17.0 24.4
Total 275 69.6 100.0
Excluded 120 30.4
Total 395 100.0
6.2.7. Love Attitude Scale - lovestyles
According to the Love Attitude Scale, the lower the score on a lovestyle the greater
the endorsement of that lovestyle. All six lovestyles consist of seven items each,
therefore Table 6.14 indicates that on average eros (mean = 14.98) was easier for the
respondents to endorse than ludus (mean = 25.48). Refer to section 2.10 for a full
explanation of the six lovestyles.
Table 6.14 Descriptive statistics of lovestyles
N Mean Std. Deviation
Eros 392 14.98 4.985
Ludus 392 25.48 6.551
Storge 391 18.35 6.136
Pragma 390 21.00 6.301
Mania 391 22.05 6.066
Agape 391 16.70 5.798
Valid N (listwise) 389
Although a test taker on the LAS will have a score for all the lovestyles, only the
individual‘s lowest score indicates the dominant lovestyle. This was used to
categorise the participants. The sample‘s dominant lovestyle scores are indicated in
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Table 6.15 and Figure 6.2. The results suggest that the majority of the 395
participants indicated their dominant lovestyle was eros (39.7%), followed by agape
(22.3%), storge (18.2%), pragma (9.6%), and ludus (6.1%). The least endorsed
lovestyle was mania (4.1%).
Table 6.15 Frequency distribution of lovestyles
Frequency Percent Valid Percent
Eros 157 39.7 39.7
Ludus 24 6.1 6.1
Storge 72 18.2 18.2
Pragma 38 9.6 9.6
Mania 16 4.1 4.1
Agape 88 22.3 22.3
Total 395 100.0 100.0
Agape
Mania
Pragma
Storge
Ludus
Eros
Figure: 6.2 Proportion of samples‟ dominant lovestyle
6.2.8. Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire
Table 6.16 indicates that on the Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire
the means and standard deviations of the six subscales. When combining the
compete, unique and responsibility subscales, which in total consist of thirteen items,
the dimension of individualism emerges; and when combining the advice, harmony
and closeness subscales, which in total consist of sixteen items, the dimension of
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collectivism emerges (Shulruf et al., 2003). All participants have both individualism
and collectivism scores.
Table 6.16 Descriptive statistics of Individualism Collectivism dimensions
N Mean Std Deviation
Compete 388 15.70 4.56
Unique 389 14.88 2.97
Responsibility 386 27.07 4.55
Total Individualism 375 57.72 9.79
Advice 377 20.25 5.96
Harmony 379 19.23 3.89
Closeness 383 21.31 4.44
Total Collectivism 355 60.92 11.00
Valid N (listwise) 341
6.2.9. Hofstede‘s Value Survey Model
The participants‘ scores on the Hofstede‘s (1991) five dimensions of cultures are
reflected by Table 6.17. This instrument was used to establish differences between
the four primary cultural groups along the five dimensions with particular emphasis in
the individualism and collectivism dimension. For an explanation of these dimensions,
refer to section 3.2. Overall the individualism score of the current study was 89.9, the
power distance score was 18.5, the masculinity score was 46.4, the uncertainty
avoidance score was 56.5 and the long-term orientation score was 43.1.
This study is essentially concerned with the individualism scores as yielded by race
and gender. Although the overall sample endorsed individualism highly there were
some slight gender and racial differences (Table 6.17). Females (94.1) endorsed
individualism more than males (85.6). Whites (98.0) endorsed individualism the most,
followed by Indian/Asians (95.1), Coloureds (86.7) and Blacks (79.3). Although there
were differences between the sexes and between the cultural groups, overall
individualism was highly endorsed by all groups and collectivism was not well
endorsed. Although these results have provided updated dimension scores for South
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Africa on the Hofstede‘s (1991) country rankings (see literature review section 3.2)
their homogeneous results prove to hinder further cross-cultural analyses as no
differences emerged along the individualism collectivism dimension. The possible
reasons for these homogeneous results will be explored in the following chapter.
Table 6.17 Scores on the dimensions of the Value Survey Model
Individualism
Index
Power
Distance
Index
Masculinity
Index
Uncertainty
Avoidance
Index
Long-term
Orientation
Index
Overall 89.90 18.53 46.36 56.48 43.71
Male 85.63 12.79 54.45 51.23 41.37
Female 94.10 23.60 38.51 60.68 45.53
Black 79.34 14.06 29.38 63.62 44.18
White 98.04 20.08 43.88 40.49 51.25
Coloured 86.65 24.25 56.56 56.79 43.90
Indian/
Asian 95.12 16.00 60.09 69.81 31.46
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6.3. Factor analysis
The instruments used in the study were developed and tested predominantly on
American populations. It was therefore necessary to establish the instruments‘
psychometric properties for South African participants. The original instruments were
found to yield subscales from a set of variables. In order to confirm that the variables
in the instruments would reduce to the same subscales / components / factors in the
South African sample, factor analysis was done on the data. Of the various factor
analysis data reduction techniques, principal component analysis which gives an
empirical summary of the data set, with all the variance in the variables being used,
was utilised in this study. Pallant (2005) suggests that at least 150-300 cases, and
preferable closer to 300 cases, are required in order for a data set to be suitable for
factor analysis. Although, in this study, a factor analysis for the four South Africa
population groups was not feasible because of the small numbers (Black = 110, White
= 113, Coloured = 82 and Indian/Asian = 82), the overall South African data set
consists of 395 cases and was therefore suitable for factor analysis. The instruments
that were subjected to factor analysis were: Romantic Beliefs Scale, Relationship
Questionnaire Scale, Love Attitude Scale, and Auckland Individualism Collectivism
Questionnaire.
6.3.1. Romantic Beliefs Scale
The 15 items of the Romantic Beliefs Scale (RBS) were subjected to principal
components analysis using SPSS. Prior to performing principal components analysis
the suitability of data for factor analysis was assessed. Inspection of the correlation
matrix (Table 6.18) revealed the presence of many coefficients of .3 and above. The
Kiaser-Meyer-Oklin was .858 (Table 6.19), exceeding the recommended value of .6
(Kaiser, 1970, 1974). The Bartlett‘s Test of Sphericity (Bartlett, 1954) reached
statistical significance, supporting the factorability of the correlation matrix.
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Table 6.18 Romantic Beliefs Scale correlation matrix (item)
r.s3.1 s3.2 s3.3 s3.4 s3.5 s3.6 s3.7 s3.8 s3.9 s3.10 s3.11 s3.12 s3.13 s3.14 s3.15
1R 1.000 -.035 -.117 -.076 -.118 .128 .040 .053 -.015 -.052 -.029 .199 -.018 -.011 -.110
2 -.035 1.000 -.038 .074 .177 .044 .062 -.020 .301 .013 .183 .087 .010 .003 .191
3 -.117 -.038 1.000 .384 .207 .230 .230 .251 .191 .489 .159 .121 .174 .179 .175
4 -.076 .074 .384 1.000 .339 .355 .307 .313 .278 .510 .316 .241 .359 .338 .372
5 -.118 .177 .207 .339 1.000 .243 .303 .221 .427 .208 .539 .182 .351 .356 .601
6 .128 .044 .230 .355 .243 1.000 .345 .318 .193 .310 .178 .503 .259 .275 .163
7 .040 .062 .230 .307 .303 .345 1.000 .417 .195 .259 .170 .337 .259 .452 .244
8 .053 -.020 .251 .313 .221 .318 .417 1.000 .202 .352 .218 .291 .304 .491 .238
9 -.015 .301 .191 .278 .427 .193 .195 .202 1.000 .250 .563 .205 .297 .265 .514
10 -.052 .013 .489 .510 .208 .310 .259 .352 .250 1.000 .282 .223 .305 .272 .275
11 -.029 .183 .159 .316 .539 .178 .170 .218 .563 .282 1.000 .220 .361 .296 .622
12 .199 .087 .121 .241 .182 .503 .337 .291 .205 .223 .220 1.000 .252 .266 .208
13 -.018 .010 .174 .359 .351 .259 .259 .304 .297 .305 .361 .252 1.000 .511 .441
14 -.011 .003 .179 .338 .356 .275 .452 .491 .265 .272 .296 .266 .511 1.000 .421
15 -.110 .191 .175 .372 .601 .163 .244 .238 .514 .275 .622 .208 .441 .421 1.000
Table 6.19 Romantic Beliefs Scale KMO and Bartlett's test (item)
Kaiser-Meyer-Olkin Measure of Sampling Adequacy. .858
Bartlett's Test of Sphericity Approx. Chi-Square 1770.828
df 105
Sig. .000
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In Table 6.20, principal components analysis revealed the presence of four
components with eigenvalues exceeding 1, explaining 31.75%, 11.56%, 8.99% and
7.35% of the variance respectively. These four components explained 59.65% of the
total unrotated variance. Utilising Catell‘s (1966) scree test, the screeplot (Figure 6.3)
revealed a clear break after only one component. When interrogating the component
matrix (Table 6.21) it was found that the four factor structure did not replicate for the
South African sample, therefore indicating that perhaps the components of romantic
love may differ for the South African sample. Similar findings were reported by
Weaver and Ganong (2004) who investigated the generalisibility of the Romantic Beliefs
Scale model to African-American and European-American respondents. They reported
in their findings that the factor structure did not replicate for African-American. Having
said that, as indicated in Table 6.21, almost all of the items load the highest on (with the
exception of item 1 and 2) component one, thus indicating that the instrument may be
utilised using a total romanticism score. The results of this analysis support the use of
the one component - a total score of romanticism - as suggested by the scale authors
but not the use of four subscales / components as suggested by the scale authors
(Sprecher & Metts, 1989).
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Table 6.20 Romantic Beliefs Scale total variance explained (item)
Component
Initial Eigenvalues Extraction Sums of Squared Loadings
Total
% of
Variance
Cumulative
% Total
% of
Variance
Cumulative
%
1 4.763 31.752 31.752 4.763 31.752 31.752
2 1.733 11.556 43.309 1.733 11.556 43.309
3 1.349 8.990 52.299 1.349 8.990 52.299
4 1.102 7.349 59.648 1.102 7.349 59.648
5 .898 5.984 65.632
6 .770 5.136 70.768
7 .703 4.686 75.454
8 .613 4.085 79.538
9 .557 3.716 83.254
10 .509 3.393 86.648
11 .484 3.225 89.872
12 .437 2.916 92.788
13 .397 2.649 95.437
14 .353 2.356 97.793
15 .331 2.207 100.000
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis.
Component Number
151413121110987654321
Eig
en
valu
e
5
4
3
2
1
0
Scree Plot
Figure 6.3 Romantic Beliefs Scale screeplot (item)
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Table 6.21 Romantic Beliefs Scale component matrix (item)
Component
1 2 3 4
15 .707 -.450
14 .662 -.494
5 .661 -.379
11 .655 -.462
4 .655
13 .632 -.359
9 .606 -.433
10 .591 -.416
8 .576 .373
7 .564 .327
6 .533 .425
12 .492 .351 .459
1R .321 .617
3 .452 -.557 .317
2 -.427 .468
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis. a 4 components extracted.
An alternative factor analysis method was employed in an attempt to establish
whether a stronger total general factor could be achieved on the total romanticism
score for individuals in the South African sample - the four subscales of the Romantic
Beliefs Scale were subjected to principal axis factoring using SPSS. Principal axis
factoring revealed the presence of one component with an eigenvalue exceeding 1,
explaining 36.7% of the unrotated variance (Table 6.22) – this is a slightly stronger
total general factor when compared to the item factor analysis which yielded a total
general factor on component one of 31.75 (Table 6.20). An inspection of the screeplot
in Figure 6.4 once again revealed a clear break after the first component.
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Table 6.22 Romantic Beliefs Scale total variance explained (factor)
Factor Initial Eigenvalues
Extraction Sums of Squared
Loadings
Total
% of
Variance
Cumulative
% Total
% of
Variance
Cumulative
%
1 2.066 51.662 51.662 1.469 36.736 36.736
2 .812 20.290 71.951
3 .607 15.180 87.131
4 .515 12.869 100.000
Extraction Method: Principal Axis Factoring.
Factor Number
4321
Eig
en
va
lue
2.5
2.0
1.5
1.0
0.5
Scree Plot
Figure 6.4 Romantic Beliefs Scale screeplot (factor)
Table 6.23 Romantic Beliefs Scale factor matrix (factor)
FACTOR
1
LOVE FINDS A WAY .581
ONE AND ONLY .602
IDEALISATION .755
LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT .448
Extraction Method: Principal Axis Factoring. a 1 factors extracted. 11 iterations required.
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Usually to aid in the interpretation of the components yielded, either Varimax or
Oblimin with Kaiser Normalization rotation is performed. However because only one
factor was extracted, the solution cannot be rotated. The results of this analysis
support the use of the one component - a total score of romanticism - as suggested
by the scale authors (Sprecher & Metts, 1989).
6.3.2. Relationship Scale Questionnaire
The 13 items of the Relationship Scale Questionnaire (RSQ) were subjected to
principal components analysis using SPSS. Prior to performing principal components
analysis the suitability of data for factor analysis was assessed. Inspection of the
correlation matrix revealed the presence of many coefficients of .3 and above. As
reflected in Table 6.24, the Kiaser-Meyer-Oklin was .785, exceeding the
recommended value of .6 (Kaiser, 1970, 1974). The Bartlett‘s Test of Sphericity
(Bartlett, 1954) reached statistical significance, supporting the factorability of the
correlation matrix.
Table 6.24 Relationship Scale Questionnaire KMO and Bartlett's Test (item)
Kaiser-Meyer-Olkin Measure of Sampling Adequacy. .785
Bartlett's Test of Sphericity Approx. Chi-Square 1052.244
df 78
Sig. .000
Principal components analysis revealed the presence of three components with
eigenvalues exceeding 1, explaining 24.98%, 17.05% and 8.69% of the variance
respectively. These three components explained 50.72% of the total unrotated
variance (Table 6.25). An inspection of the screeplot revealed a clear break after the
second component (Figure 6.5). Using Catell‘s (1966) scree test, it was decided to
retain two components for further investigation.
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Table 6.25 Relationship Scale Questionnaire variance explained (item)
Component Initial Eigenvalues Extraction Sums of Squared Loadings
Total
% of
Variance
Cumulative
% Total
% of
Variance Cumulative %
1 3.247 24.979 24.979 3.247 24.979 24.979
2 2.216 17.050 42.029 2.216 17.050 42.029
3 1.129 8.687 50.716 1.129 8.687 50.716
4 .917 7.053 57.769
5 .853 6.561 64.330
6 .799 6.148 70.477
7 .696 5.353 75.831
8 .680 5.234 81.064
9 .604 4.646 85.711
10 .547 4.205 89.916
11 .539 4.144 94.059
12 .409 3.150 97.209
13 .363 2.791 100.000
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis.
Component Number
13121110987654321
Eig
en
va
lue
4
3
2
1
0
Scree Plot
Figure 6.5 Relationship Scale Questionnaire screeplot (item)
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Table 6.26 Relationship Scale Questionnaire component matrix (item)
Component
1 2 3
13 .682 .367
20 .647 .326
21 .634 -.439
12 .619 -.374
24 .589
11 .574 -.427
23 .522 -.501
29 .509 .303
25 .381 -.598
18 -.547
10R .499
30R .468
15R .802
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis. a 3 components extracted.
To aid in the interpretation of these two components, Varimax Kaiser Normalization
rotation was performed. The rotated solution revealed the presence of a simple
structure (Thurstone, 1947), both components showing a number of strong loadings
and all variables loading substantially on two component (Table 6.27). As reflected in
Table 6.28, the two-component solution explained 42.03 percent of the rotated
variance, with Component one contributing 21.73% and Component two contributing
20.30%. The interpretation of the two components was consistent with previous
research on the RSQ scale, with avoidance items loading strongly on Component one
and anxiety items loading strongly on Component two. The results of this analysis
support the use of the avoidance and anxiety items as separate subscales, as
suggested by the scale authors (Kurdek, 2002, Simpson et al., 1992).
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Table 6.27 Relationship Scale Questionnaire rotated component matrix (item)
Component
1 2
13 .759
20 .706
12 .625
29 .585
24 .583
10R .535
30R .497
15R
21 .743
23 .719
25 .703
11 .696
18 .591
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis. Rotation Method: Varimax with Kaiser Normalization. a Rotation converged in 3 iterations.
Table 6.28 Relationship Scale Questionnaire total variance explained by varimax
rotated principal components (item)
Component Attachment Dimension Rotation Sums of Squared Loadings
Total % of Variance Cumulative %
1 Avoidance 2.825 21.731 21.731
2 Anxiety 2.639 20.298 42.029
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis.
6.3.3. Love Attitude Scale
The 42 items of the Love Attitude Scale (LAS) were subjected to principal
components analysis using SPSS. Prior to performing principal components analysis
the suitability of data for factor analysis was assessed. Inspection of the correlation
matrix revealed the presence of many coefficients of .3 and above. As reflected in
Table 6.29 the Kiaser-Meyer-Oklin was .837, exceeding the recommended value of .6
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(Kaiser, 1970, 1974). The Bartlett‘s Test of Sphericity (Bartlett, 1954) reached
statistical significance, supporting the factorability of the correlation matrix.
Table 6.29 Love Attitude Questionnaire KMO and Bartlett‟s test (item)
Kaiser-Meyer-Olkin Measure of Sampling Adequacy. .837
Bartlett's Test of Sphericity Approx. Chi-Square 6200.589
df 861
Sig. .000
Principal components analysis revealed the presence of 9 components with
eigenvalues exceeding 1, explaining 16.96%, 9.4%, 7.9%, 6.9%, 5.7%, 4.2%, 2.96%,
2.7% and 2.5% of the variance respectively (Table 6.30). These nine components
explained in total 59% of the total unrotated variance. An inspection of the screeplot
revealed a clear break after the sixth component (Figure 6.6). Using Catell‘s (1966)
scree test, it was decided to retain six components for further investigation.
Table 6.30 Love Attitude Scale total variance explained (item)
Component Initial Eigenvalues Extraction Sums of Squared Loadings
Total
% of
Variance
Cumulative
% Total
% of
Variance
Cumulative
%
1 7.123 16.961 16.961 7.123 16.961 16.961
2 3.959 9.427 26.387 3.959 9.427 26.387
3 3.311 7.883 34.271 3.311 7.883 34.271
4 2.886 6.871 41.142 2.886 6.871 41.142
5 2.385 5.678 46.820 2.385 5.678 46.820
6 1.763 4.198 51.018 1.763 4.198 51.018
7 1.242 2.957 53.975 1.242 2.957 53.975
8 1.123 2.674 56.649 1.123 2.674 56.649
9 1.067 2.541 59.190 1.067 2.541 59.190
10 .986 2.348 61.538
11 .947 2.255 63.793
12 .885 2.107 65.900
13 .834 1.986 67.886
14 .821 1.955 69.842
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Total
% of
Variance
Cumulative
% Total
% of
Variance
Cumulative
%
15 .754 1.795 71.636
16 .747 1.779 73.416
17 .714 1.699 75.115
18 .696 1.656 76.771
19 .669 1.592 78.363
20 .619 1.473 79.837
21 .593 1.412 81.249
22 .571 1.359 82.608
23 .536 1.277 83.885
24 .515 1.226 85.112
25 .507 1.206 86.318
26 .484 1.152 87.470
27 .451 1.073 88.543
28 .446 1.062 89.606
29 .413 .983 90.589
30 .406 .967 91.556
31 .387 .922 92.478
32 .376 .894 93.373
33 .359 .854 94.227
34 .342 .813 95.040
35 .318 .757 95.797
36 .302 .719 96.516
37 .293 .698 97.214
38 .273 .649 97.863
39 .255 .608 98.471
40 .232 .553 99.024
41 .225 .535 99.559
42 .185 .441 100.000
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis.
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Component Number
424140393837363534333231302928272625242322212019181716151413121110987654321
Eig
en
va
lue
8
6
4
2
0
Scree Plot
Figure 6.6 Love Attitude Scale screeplot (item)
Table 6.31 Love Attitude Scale component matrix (item)
Component
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
37 .661 .368
40 .650
39 .629 .394
42 .626 .413
41 .613
36 .612 .412
31 .562 -.322
4 .549 .354
38 .530 -.322 .439
9 -.517 .344 .322
14 -.517 .346 .315
17 .511
13 -.490 .310
6 .471 .354 .362
10 -.459 .318 .406
11 -.453 .312 .343
98 -.451 .303
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1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
20 .449 -.340 -.337
32 .411 .396 .380 -.311
29 .386 .302
28 .650
27 .579 .334
22 .546 .313
25 .543 .301
24 .542 .320
23 .528
26 .428 .333
33 .323 .406 .335
35 .378 .366
21 .450 -.584 .305
18 .408 -.549 .364
19 .398 -.544 .367
30 .315 .452 -.321
5 .437 -.436
34 .301 .395 .394
2 .365 .528 .352
7 .401 .508
1 .360 .479 -.340
3 .303 .348 .443 .441
15 -.396 -.396
12 .322 .367 .341
16 -.338 .385
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis. a 9 components extracted.
To aid in the interpretation of these six components, Varimax with Kaiser
Normalization rotation was performed. The rotated solution revealed the presence of
a simple structure (Thurstone, 1947), all six components showing a number of strong
loadings and all variables loading substantially on only one component (Table 6.33).
The six-component solution explained a healthy 51.02 percent of the rotated
variance, with relatively equal contribution from each of the six components:
Component one contributing 9.6%, Component two contributing 8.7%, Component
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three contributing 8.5%, Component four contributing 8.1%, Component five
contributing 8.1%, and Component six contributing 8.0% (Table 6.32). The
interpretation of the six components was consistent with previous research on the
Love Attitude Scale, with Ludus items loading strongly on Component one, Agape
items loading strongly on Component two, Storge items loading strongly on
Component three, Eros items loading strongly on Component four, Mania items
loading strongly on Component five, and Pragma items loading strongly on
Component six. Although Ludus was the first factor extracted and accounted for most
of the variance, it did not overshadow the other factors. Instead the factors were
comparable in size with only modest differences in variance per factor. Although item
5 and 17 loaded highest in the component they were suppose to according the theory
(Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986) (i.e. component 4 (eros) for item 5 and component 3
(storge) for item 17), they also loaded positively on component one and four
respectively. Nonetheless overall the results of this analysis support the use of eros,
ludus, storge, mania, pragma and agape items as separate subscales, as suggested
by the scale authors (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986).
Table 6.32 Love Attitude Scale total variance explained by varimax rotated principal
components (item)
Component Lovestyle Rotation Sums of Squared Loadings
Total % of Variance Cumulative %
1 Ludus 4.047 9.636 9.636
2 Agape 3.638 8.662 18.298
3 Storge 3.570 8.501 26.799
4 Eros 3.403 8.104 34.902
5 Mania 3.392 8.077 42.980
6 Pragma 3.376 8.038 51.018
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis.
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Table 6.33 Love Attitude Scale rotated component matrix (item)
Component
1 2 3 4 5 6
10 .750
14 .697
9 .690
11 .675
12 .620
8 .549
13 .543
36 -.402 .392
39 .772
38 .760
42 .755
37 .731
40 .664
41 -.338 .518
18 .858
19 .848
21 .833
20 .568
16 .514
15 .427
17 .335 .306
3 .754
2 .752
7 .723
4 .632
6 .616
1 -.308 .484
5 .354 .399
28 .724
27 .698
25 .689
23 .674
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1 2 3 4 5 6
22 .673
26 .639
24 .621
32 .775
30 .714
33 .672
35 .661
34 .608
29 .605
31 -.363 .489
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis. Rotation Method: Varimax with Kaiser Normalization. a Rotation converged in 6 iterations.
6.3.4. Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire
The 29 items of the Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire were
subjected to principal components analysis using SPSS. Prior to performing principal
components analysis the suitability of data for factor analysis was assessed.
Inspection of the correlation matrix revealed the presence of many coefficients of .3
and above. The Kiaser-Meyer-Oklin was .813 (Table 6.34), exceeding the
recommended value of .6 (Kaiser, 1970, 1974). The Bartlett‘s Test of Sphericity
(Bartlett, 1954) reached statistical significance, supporting the factorability of the
correlation matrix.
Table 6.34 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire KMO and Bartlett‟s test
(item)
Kaiser-Meyer-Olkin Measure of Sampling Adequacy. .813
Bartlett's Test of Sphericity Approx. Chi-Square 3447.175
df 406
Sig. .000
In Table 6.35, principal components analysis revealed the presence of eight
components with eigenvalues exceeding 1, explaining 17.73%, 13.79%, 6.41%,
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5.87%, 5.02%, 4.49%, 3.90% and 3.63% of the variance respectively. These four
components explained 60.83% of the total unrotated variance. Utilising Catell‘s (1966)
scree test, the screeplot (Figure 6.7) revealed a clear break after two components.
When interrogating the component matrix (Table 6.36) it was found that the six factor
structure did not replicate for the South African sample, therefore indicating that
perhaps the components of compete, unique, responsibility, advice, harmony,
closeness may differ for the South African sample. Having said that, the primary goal
for using this instrument was to establish the individualism and collectivism factors;
therefore further investigations on Catell‘s (1966) two component result were
undertaken.
Table 6.35 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire total variance explained
(item)
Component Initial Eigenvalues Extraction Sums of Squared Loadings
Total
% of
Variance
Cumulative
% Total
% of
Variance
Cumulative
%
1 5.141 17.729 17.729 5.141 17.729 17.729
2 3.999 13.789 31.518 3.999 13.789 31.518
3 1.859 6.409 37.927 1.859 6.409 37.927
4 1.701 5.865 43.793 1.701 5.865 43.793
5 1.456 5.022 48.815 1.456 5.022 48.815
6 1.302 4.488 53.303 1.302 4.488 53.303
7 1.130 3.895 57.199 1.130 3.895 57.199
8 1.054 3.634 60.833 1.054 3.634 60.833
9 .985 3.398 64.231
10 .822 2.836 67.067
11 .791 2.727 69.794
12 .780 2.690 72.483
13 .680 2.346 74.829
14 .650 2.242 77.071
15 .612 2.111 79.182
16 .605 2.085 81.267
17 .576 1.987 83.253
18 .553 1.907 85.160
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Total
% of
Variance
Cumulative
% Total
% of
Variance
Cumulative
%
19 .543 1.872 87.032
20 .519 1.790 88.822
21 .486 1.677 90.499
22 .443 1.527 92.026
23 .408 1.406 93.432
24 .391 1.349 94.781
25 .362 1.248 96.029
26 .334 1.152 97.181
27 .311 1.072 98.254
28 .272 .939 99.193
29 .234 .807 100.000
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis.
Component Number
2928272625242322212019181716151413121110987654321
Eig
en
valu
e
6
5
4
3
2
1
0
Scree Plot
Figure 6.7 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire screeplot (item)
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Table 6.36 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire component matrix (item)
Component
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
11 .636 -.342
14 .586
5 .585 .407
22 .576 .526 -.337
16 .558 -.419
1 .545 -.304
10 .536
29 .527
25 .510 .441
27 .458
3 .447
28 .415 -.527 .452
4 .479 .511 -.442
23 .510 .321 -.426
26 .395 .457 .302
17 .392 -.416 .406
30 .365 -.343 .599
15 -.461 .539
19 .430 .559
6 .466 .425 -.472
20 .465 .438
7 .381 .660
2 .425 .587
18 .332 .360 -.455
24 .315 -.588 .329
12 .392 .366 .467
21 .339 .608
13 -.433 .455
8 .510 .540
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis. a 8 components extracted.
To aid in the interpretation of these two components, Varimax with Kaiser
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Normalization rotation was performed. The rotated solution revealed the presence of
a simple structure (Thurstone, 1947), with two components showing a number of
strong loadings and all variables loading substantially on the two component (Table
6.38). As reflected in Table 6.37, the two-component solution explained 31.51 percent
of the rotated variance, with Component one contributing 16.09% and Component
two contributing 15.43%. The interpretation of the two components was consistent
with previous research on the Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire, with
individualism items loading strongly on Component one and collectivism items loading
strongly on Component two. The results of this analysis support the use of
individualism and collectivism as separate subscales, as suggested by the scale
authors (Shulruf et al., 2003).
Table 6.37 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire total variance explained
by varimax rotated principal components (item)
Component Rotation Sums of Squared Loadings
Total % of Variance Cumulative %
1 Individualism 4.665 16.086 16.086
2 Collectivism 4.475 15.432 31.518
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis.
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Table 6.38 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire rotated component
matrix (item)
Component
1 2
11 .707
16 .696
28 .657
5 .639
1 .608
17 .568
29 .560
8 .554
15 .514
30 .500
14 .498 .319
27 .462
13 .390
21
22 .774
4 .700
25 .666
6 .625
26 .604
23 .563
3 .511
10 .500
12 .455
24 .409
20 .381
19 .378
2 .350
18 .343
7 .316
Extraction Method: Principal Component Analysis. Rotation Method: Varimax with Kaiser Normalization. a Rotation converged in 3 iterations.
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6.3.5. Conclusion on factor analysis
Of the four instruments (Romantic Beliefs Scale, Relationship Questionnaire Scale,
Love Attitude Scale and Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire) that were
subjected to factor analysis all were found to reduce to the same subscales /
components / factors to varying degrees in the South African population used in this
study. Although the Romantic Beliefs Scale did not reduce to the original four
subscales, the original overall romanticism beliefs component emerged – total
romanticism - and was used in the study. The Relationship Scale Questionnaire
reduced to the original two components of avoidance and anxiety. The Love Attitude
Scale reduced to the original six components of eros, ludus, storge, pragma, mania
and agape. Although Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire did not
reduce to the original six subscales, the original two components of individualism and
collectivism emerged and were used in the study.
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6.4. Reliability of instruments
6.4.1. Reliability of Romantic Beliefs Scale
The Cronbach alpha coefficients on the Romantic Beliefs Scale in the current study
were fairly robust (Table 6.39). The reliability of the four factors (Cronbach α) were:
love finds a way α = .71, one and only α = .72, idealization α = .71 and love at first
sight α = .55. In general the four subscales had good reliability with the exception of
love at first sight. The total scale coefficient alpha was .82. All these reliabilities,
including love at first sight, compared favourably with the reliabilities reported by the
scale authors‘ (Sprecher & Metts, 1989) and consequent findings (Sprecher & Toro-
Morn, 2002).
Table 6.39 Reliability of Romantic Beliefs Scale
Cronbach's Alpha N of Items
Love finds a way .775 6
One and only .719 3
Idealisation .713 3
Love at first sight .545 3
Total .824 15
6.4.2. Reliability of Relationship Questionnaire Scale
According to Kurdek (2002), the Relationship Questionnaire Scale (Simpson et al.,
1992) has good internal consistency, with Cronbach alpha coefficients of .77 for
avoidance and .83 for anxiety. Although the current study‘s Cronbach alpha
coefficients were slightly less than previous studies, they nonetheless showed
favourable reliability: .713 for avoidance and .744 for anxiety (Table 6.40).
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Table 6.40 Reliability of Relationship Questionnaire Scale
Cronbach's Alpha N of Items
Avoidance .713 8
Anxiety .744 5
Total .720 13
6.4.3. Reliability of Love Attitude Scale
The Cronbach alpha coefficients on the Love Attitude Scale in the current study were
fairly robust (Table 6.41). The reliability of the six factors (Cronbach α) were: eros α =
.745, ludus α = .806, storge α = .793, pragma α = .810, mania α = .793 and agape α =
859. Therefore all six subscales had good reliability. The total scale coefficient alpha
was .781. These reliabilities compared favourably with the reliabilities reported by the
scale authors‘ (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986) and consequent findings (Hendrick &
Hendrick, 1989, 1990; Montgomery & Sorell, 1997; Sprecher & Toro-Morn, 2002).
Table 6.41 Reliability of Love Attitude Scale
Cronbach's Alpha N of Items
Eros .745 7
Ludus .806 7
Storge .793 7
Pragma .810 7
Mania .793 7
Agape .859 7
Total .781 42
6.4.4. Reliability of Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire
The Cronbach alpha coefficients on the Auckland Individualism Collectivism
Questionnaire were fairly robust in the current study‘s population (Table 6.42). The
reliability (Cronbach α) of the six factors were: .79 for compete, .77 for unique, and
.67 for responsibility, .83 for advice, .53 for harmony, and .57 for closeness. Therefore
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all six subscales had good reliability, with the exception of harmony and closeness.
This suggests that responses to harmony and closeness questions may not have
been interpreted in the same way by the South African sample. Nonetheless these
reliabilities compare relatively favourably with the scale authors‘ reliability findings
(Shulruf et al., 2003). In addition, the total scale coefficient alpha was .80, the total
individualism coefficient alpha was .81 and the total collectivism coefficient alpha was
.795; which reflects satisfactory reliability.
Table 6.42 Reliability of Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire
Cronbach's Alpha N of Items
Compete .790 4
Unique .770 3
Responsibility .668 6
Individualism total .814 13
Advice .832 5
Harmony .533 5
Closeness .567 6
Collectivism total .795 16
Total .800 29
6.4.5. Conclusion on reliability of instruments
The four instruments (Romantic Beliefs Scale, Relationship Questionnaire Scale,
Love Attitude Scale and Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire) produced
satisfactory reliabilities and favourable comparisons to the original scale authors‘
reliability findings (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Kurdek, 2002; Shulruf et al., 2003;
Sprecher & Metts, 1989).
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6.5. Individualism Collectivism
Prior to commencing with the analyses of culture and the various love measures it
was important to investigate if the individualism and collectivism instrument (Auckland
Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire) would, as per theory, show the
anticipated differences amongst the four primary cultural groups in South Africa. That
is, the Black and Indian/Asian group as being more collectivistic and the White group
being more individualistic.
6.5.1. Auckland Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire by race
A one-way between groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between race and, individualism and collectivism, as measured by Auckland
Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire. Table 6.43 outlines the means and
standard deviations by race of individualism and collectivism. There was no
statistically significant differences at the p<.05 level in the scores between race on
individualism [F(1,363)=.579, p=.629] and between race on collectivism
[F(1,344)=2.337, p=.073] (Table 6.44). Even though no significant findings were
observed when exploring the link between race and, individualism and collectivism
the trends that emerged were that the Indian/Asian group were the most
individualistic (M=58.40, SD=10.94) and the most collectivistic (M=63.58, SD=11.61);
the Coloured group were the second most individualistic (M=58.16, SD=8.77) and the
third most collectivistic (M=60.05, SD=9.74); the Black group were the third most
individualistic (M=57.78, SD=11.13) and the least collectivistic (M=59.29, SD=12.41);
and the White group were the least individualistic (M=56.68, SD=8.52) and the
second most collectivistic (M=61.41, SD=9.83).
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Table 6.43 Individualism collectivism descriptives determined by race
N Mean
Std.
Deviation Std. Error
95% Confidence
Interval for Mean Min Max
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Individualism Black 103 57.7767 11.13283 1.09695 55.6009 59.9525 20.00 78.00
White 111 56.6757 8.52074 .80875 55.0729 58.2784 41.00 78.00
Coloured 75 58.1600 8.76578 1.01219 56.1432 60.1768 41.00 75.00
Indian 78 58.3974 10.94299 1.23905 55.9302 60.8647 28.00 78.00
Total 367 57.6540 9.87698 .51557 56.6401 58.6678 20.00 78.00
Collectivism Black 98 59.2857 12.41050 1.25365 56.7976 61.7739 29.00 85.00
White 105 61.4095 9.83390 .95969 59.5064 63.3126 40.00 88.00
Coloured 74 60.0541 9.74172 1.13245 57.7971 62.3110 41.00 88.00
Indian 71 63.5775 11.60869 1.37770 60.8297 66.3252 30.00 88.00
Total 348 60.9655 11.02807 .59117 59.8028 62.1282 29.00 88.00
Table 6.44 Individualism collectivism ANOVA determined by race
Sum of
Squares df
Mean
Square F Sig.
Individualism Between Groups 170.104 3 56.701 .579 .629
Within Groups 35534.948 363 97.892
Total 35705.052 366
Collectivism Between Groups 843.088 3 281.029 2.337 .073
Within Groups 41358.498 344 120.228
Total 42201.586 347
6.5.2. Auckland Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire by gender
A one-way between groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore link
between gender and, individualism and collectivism, as measured by Auckland
Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire. Table 6.45 outlines the means and
standard deviations by gender of individualism and collectivism. There was no
statistically significant differences at the p<.05 level in the scores between gender on
individualism [F(1,368)=2.588, p=.109] but there was for collectivism
[F(1,348)=10.190, p=.002] (Table 6.46). The effect size, calculated using eta squared,
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was .3. Therefore, despite reaching statistical significance, the actual difference in
mean scores between the groups for collectivism was quite small. Women are
significantly more likely to be collectivistic than men (Table 6.45 and Figures 6.8 and
6.9).
Table 6.45 Individualism collectivism descriptives determined by gender
N Mean
Std.
Deviation
Std.
Error
95% Confidence
Interval for Mean Min Max
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Individualism Male 180 58.5167 10.23712 .76303 57.0110 60.0224 20.00 78.00
Female 190 56.8737 9.40476 .68229 55.5278 58.2196 28.00 78.00
Total 370 57.6730 9.83956 .51153 56.6671 58.6789 20.00 78.00
Collectivism Male 173 59.1040 11.17049 .84928 57.4277 60.7804 29.00 88.00
Female 177 62.8023 10.49948 .78919 61.2448 64.3598 37.00 88.00
Total 350 60.9743 10.97807 .58680 59.8202 62.1284 29.00 88.00
Table 6.46 Individualism collectivism ANOVA determined by gender
Sum of
Squares df
Mean
Square F Sig.
Individualism Between Groups 249.511 1 249.511 2.588 .109
Within Groups 35475.918 368 96.402
Total 35725.430 369
Collectivism Between Groups 1196.562 1 1196.562 10.190 .002*
Within Groups 40864.206 348 117.426
Total 42060.769 349
* significant at the .05 level
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Gender
FemaleMale
Mean
of
Ind
ivid
ualism
60.00
59.00
58.00
57.00
56.00
55.00
56.874
58.517
Figure 6.8 Means of individualism as determined by gender
Gender
FemaleMale
Mean
of
Co
llecti
vis
m
63.00
62.00
61.00
60.00
59.00
58.00
62.80
59.10
Figure 6.9 Means of collectivism as determined by gender
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6.5.3. Auckland Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire by race and gender
interaction
A two-way between-the-groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between gender, race and individualism, as measured by Auckland Individualism
Collectivism Questionnaire. The main effect for gender [F(1,356)=2.589, p=.108], race
[F(3,356)=.706, p=.549] and the interaction effect [F(3,356)=.347, p=.792] did not
reach statistical significance at the .05 (nor the .01) significance level (Table 6.47,
6.48, Figure 6.10).
Table 6.47 Individualism descriptives determined by gender and race
Gender Race Mean Std. Deviation N
Male Black 58.1250 13.07365 48
White 57.8966 8.65861 58
Coloured 58.5152 8.80739 33
Indian 59.8421 10.19943 38
Total 58.4915 10.31720 177
Female Black 57.4906 9.40054 53
White 55.1731 8.23127 52
Coloured 57.8810 8.82956 42
Indian 57.0250 11.56584 40
Total 56.8342 9.46921 187
Total Black 57.7921 11.24217 101
White 56.6091 8.53067 110
Coloured 58.1600 8.76578 75
Indian 58.3974 10.94299 78
Total 57.6401 9.91171 364
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Table 6.48 Individualism Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by gender and
race
Source
Type III Sum
of Squares df
Mean
Square F Sig.
Partial Eta
Squared
Corrected Model 559.863(a) 7 79.980 .811 .578 .016
Intercept 1175078.58
7 1
1175078.58
7
11917.5
00 .000 .971
Gender 255.314 1 255.314 2.589 .108 .007
Race 208.897 3 69.632 .706 .549 .006
Gender * Race 102.511 3 34.170 .347 .792 .003
Error 35101.992 356 98.601
Total 1245009.00
0 364
Corrected Total 35661.854 363
a R Squared = .016 (Adjusted R Squared = -.004)
Race
IndianColouredWhiteBlack
Esti
mate
d M
arg
inal M
ean
s
60.00
59.00
58.00
57.00
56.00
55.00
57.03
57.88
55.17
57.49
59.84
58.52
57.90
58.13
Female
Male
Gender
Estimated Marginal Means of Individualism
Figure 6.10 Gender x race means of Individualism.
A two-way between-the-groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between gender, race and collectivism, as measured by Auckland Individualism
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Collectivism Questionnaire. As per previous findings for gender there was a statistical
main effect for gender [F(1,337)= 12.000, p=.001] and there was a statistical main
effect for race [F(3,337)= 2.682, p=.047]; however, the effect size was small for both
gender and race (partial eta squared =.03 and .02 respectively). Because the effect
size for the statistical main effect for race was small and because previous analysis
that explored only race and collectivism and individualism via one-way between
groups analysis of variance (see section 6.5.1) did not yield significance, this small
significant finding will not be used in the overall analyses. The interaction effect
[F(3,337)=.057, p=.982] did not reach statistical significance (Table 6.49, 6.50, Figure
6.11).
Table 6.49 Collectivism descriptives determined by gender and race
Gender Race Mean Std. Deviation N
Male Black 56.7556 12.59357 45
White 59.4630 9.32781 54
Coloured 57.7576 11.38813 33
Indian 61.8684 11.44475 38
Total 58.9529 11.19690 170
Female Black 61.6078 12.02178 51
White 63.2000 9.93653 50
Coloured 61.9024 7.84795 41
Indian 65.5455 11.65679 33
Total 62.8743 10.51470 175
Total Black 59.3333 12.46778 96
White 61.2596 9.76023 104
Coloured 60.0541 9.74172 74
Indian 63.5775 11.60869 71
Total 60.9420 11.01675 345
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Table 6.50 Collectivism Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by gender and
race
Source
Type III Sum
of Squares df
Mean
Square F Sig.
Partial Eta
Squared
Corrected Model 2288.752(a) 7 326.965 2.792 .008 .055
Intercept 1243039.82
8 1
1243039.82
8 10615.364 .000 .969
Gender 1405.234 1 1405.234 12.000 .001* .034
Race 942.030 3 314.010 2.682 .047* .023
Gender * Race 20.104 3 6.701 .057 .982 .001
Error 39462.088 337 117.098
Total 1323057.00
0 345
Corrected Total 41750.841 344
a R Squared = .055 (Adjusted R Squared = .035) * significant at the .05 level
Race
IndianColouredWhiteBlack
Esti
mate
d M
arg
inal M
ean
s
66.00
64.00
62.00
60.00
58.00
56.00
65.55
61.90
63.20
61.6161.87
57.76
59.46
56.76
Female
Male
Gender
Estimated Marginal Means of Collectivism
Figure 6.11 Gender and race means of Collectivism.
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6.5.4. Conclusion on Auckland Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire
In sum, the Auckland Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire yielded relatively
homogeneous results in the individualistic and collectivistic dimensions across South
African cultural/racial groups. Although there were no significant findings when
exploring the link between race and, individualism and collectivism the trends that
emerged were that the Indian/Asian group were the most individualistic and the most
collectivistic; the Coloured group were the second most individualistic and the third
most collectivistic; the Black group were the third most individualistic and the least
collectivistic; and the White group were the least individualistic and the second most
collectivistic. The only profound significant finding was that women were more likely to
be collectivistic than men. The race and gender interaction effect did not reach
statistical significance. The primary reason for utilising this instrument was to
establish individualism and collectivism differences between cultural groups,
consequently the homogeneous results suggested further cross-cultural analyses
would be fruitless. The possible reasons for these homogeneous results will be
explored in the following chapter. Both instruments (the Hofstede‘s Value Survey
Model (see 6.2.8) and the Auckland Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire)
that were used to establish individualism and collectivism in South African cultural
groups, yielded relatively homogeneous results and were therefore deemed futile in
further cross-cultural comparisons and analyses. Consequently, race was used to
explore possible cross-cultural differences in romantic love in the analyses that follow.
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6.6. Love results by race, gender and the intersection between race and gender
6.6.1. Love experiences by race and gender
Although more individuals in the sample were in love at the time of the study than not,
some racial differences emerged. Table 6.51 indicates White participants (65.2%)
were most likely to be in love, closely followed by Black (63.3%) and Coloured
participants (61%). Indian/Asian participants were the least likely to be in love
(54.3%). These differences, however, were not significant (Table 6.52).
Table 6.51 Crosstabulation by race and “Are you currently in love with someone?”
Race Total
Black White Coloured Indian
Yes Count 69 73 50 44 236
% within Race 63.3% 65.2% 61.0% 54.3% 61.5%
No Count 40 39 32 37 148
% within Race 36.7% 34.8% 39.0% 45.7% 38.5%
Total Count 109 112 82 81 384
% within Race 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.52 Chi-Square Test by race and “Are you currently in love with someone?”
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 2.561(a) 3 .464
Likelihood Ratio 2.538 3 .469
Linear-by-Linear Association 1.757 1 .185
N of Valid Cases 384
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 31.22.
When considering gender differences, significantly more women (69.7%) than men
(53.4%) were in love at the time of the study (Table 6.53, 6.54). According to Pallant
(2005) when the chi-square consists of a 2 x 2 table, as is the case in Table 6.54, the
continuity correction value should be used instead of the Pearson Chi-square value in
order to compensate for the overestimation of the chi-square value. This rule was
applied through-out on 2 x 2 chi-square tables.
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Table 6.53 Crosstabulation by gender and “Are you currently in love with someone?”
Gender Total
Male Female
Are you currently in love
with someone?
Yes Count 101 138 239
% within Gender 53.4% 69.7% 61.8%
No Count 88 60 148
% within Gender 46.6% 30.3% 38.2%
Total Count 189 198 387
% within Gender 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.54 Chi-Square Test by gender and “Are you currently in love with someone?”
Value df
Asymp. Sig.
(2-sided)
Exact Sig.
(2-sided)
Exact Sig.
(1-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 10.822(b) 1 .001
Continuity Correction(a) 10.144 1 .001*
Likelihood Ratio 10.871 1 .001
Fisher's Exact Test .001 .001
Linear-by-Linear Association 10.794 1 .001
N of Valid Cases 387
a Computed only for a 2x2 table b 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 72.28. * significant at the .05 level
When investigating race by gender, Table 6.55 and 6.56 revealed that although there
were race by gender differences between those who were and who were not in love
at the time of the study, none were significant. The trend for males that emerged
showed that Black men, closely followed by White men, were the most likely to be in
love at the time of the study when compared to other males, and Coloured men,
Indian/Asian men were the least likely to be in love when compared to other males.
The trend for females that emerged showed that White women were the most likely to
be in love at the time of the study when compared to other females and Indian/Asian
women were the least likely to be in love when compared to other females.
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Table 6.55 Crosstabulation by race, gender and “Are you currently in love with
someone?”
Gender
Are you currently in love with
someone? Total
Yes No
Male Race Black 33 18 51
33.3% 20.7% 27.4%
White 30 28 58
30.3% 32.2% 31.2%
Coloured 18 17 35
18.2% 19.5% 18.8%
Indian 18 24 42
18.2% 27.6% 22.6%
Total 99 87 186
100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Female Race Black 35 21 56
25.7% 35.6% 28.7%
White 43 10 53
31.6% 16.9% 27.2%
Coloured 32 15 47
23.5% 25.4% 24.1%
Indian 26 13 39
19.1% 22.0% 20.0%
Total 136 59 195
100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
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Table 6.56 Chi-square test by race, gender and “Are you currently in love with
someone?”
Gender Value df
Asymp. Sig.
(2-sided)
Male Pearson Chi-Square 4.611(a) 3 .203
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio 4.661 3 .198
Linear-by-Linear Association 4.025 1 .045
N of Valid Cases 186
Female Pearson Chi-Square 4.886(b) 3 .180
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio 5.134 3 .162
Linear-by-Linear Association .015 1 .901
N of Valid Cases 195
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 16.37. b 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 11.80.
When investigating the gender results within race there were significant differences
between White men and women (Table 6.57 and 6.58). White women were
significantly more likely to be in love with someone at the time of the study than their
male counterparts. Although not significant, the Black, Coloured and Indian/Asian
groups also followed the same trend - women were more likely to be in love than their
male counterparts.
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Table 6.57 Crosstabulation by gender within race and “Are you currently in love with
someone?”
Race Are you currently in love with someone? Total
Yes No
Black Gender Male Count 33 18 51
% within Are you currently in love with someone?
48.5% 46.2% 47.7%
Female Count 35 21 56
% within Are you currently in love with someone?
51.5% 53.8% 52.3%
Total Count 68 39 107
% within Are you currently in love with someone?
100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
White Gender Male Count 30 28 58
% within Are you currently in love with someone?
41.1% 73.7% 52.3%
Female Count 43 10 53
% within Are you currently in love with someone?
58.9% 26.3% 47.7%
Total Count 73 38 111
% within Are you currently in love with someone?
100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Coloured Gender Male Count 18 17 35
% within Are you currently in love with someone?
36.0% 53.1% 42.7%
Female Count 32 15 47
% within Are you currently in love with someone?
64.0% 46.9% 57.3%
Total Count 50 32 82
% within Are you currently in love with someone?
100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Indian Gender Male Count 18 24 42
% within Are you currently in love with someone?
40.9% 64.9% 51.9%
Female Count 26 13 39
% within Are you currently in love with someone?
59.1% 35.1% 48.1%
Total Count 44 37 81
% within Are you currently in love with someone?
100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
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Table 6.58 Chi-square test by gender within race and “Are you currently in love with
someone?”
Race Value df
Asymp.
Sig. (2-
sided)
Exact
Sig. (2-
sided)
Exact
Sig. (1-
sided)
Black Pearson Chi-Square .056(b) 1 .813
Continuity Correction(a) .001 1 .972
Likelihood Ratio .056 1 .813
Fisher's Exact Test .843 .486
Linear-by-Linear Association .056 1 .814
N of Valid Cases 107
White Pearson Chi-Square 10.638(c) 1 .001
Continuity Correction(a) 9.372 1 .002*
Likelihood Ratio 10.980 1 .001
Fisher's Exact Test .001 .001
Linear-by-Linear Association 10.542 1 .001
N of Valid Cases 111
Coloured Pearson Chi-Square 2.339(d) 1 .126
Continuity Correction(a) 1.691 1 .193
Likelihood Ratio 2.336 1 .126
Fisher's Exact Test .170 .097
Linear-by-Linear Association 2.310 1 .129
N of Valid Cases 82
Indian Pearson Chi-Square 4.620(e) 1 .032
Continuity Correction(a) 3.710 1 .054
Likelihood Ratio 4.672 1 .031
Fisher's Exact Test .045 .027
Linear-by-Linear Association 4.563 1 .033
N of Valid Cases 81
a Computed only for a 2x2 table b 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 18.59. c 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 18.14. d 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 13.66. e 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 17.81. * significant at the .05 level
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In sum, the significant differences that were observed were in gender and in gender
within race for those who were currently in love and those who were not: 1) women
were significantly more likely to be in love than men and 2) White women were
significantly more likely to be in love than White men. No significant differences were
found in race and race by gender. The trends that emerged showed that 1)
Indian/Asian participants were the least likely to be in love at the time of the study and
the most likely to be in love were the White participants closely followed by Black and
Coloured participants; 2) when comparing the males across race, Black men, closely
followed by White men, were the most likely to be in love at the time of the study and
Coloured men, Indian/Asian men were the least likely to be in love; 3) when
comparing the females across race, White women were the most likely to be in love
at the time of the study and Indian/Asian women were the least likely to be in love.
6.6.2. Love as a basis for marriage by race and gender
Over eighty percent of the sample said they would not marry a person they were not
in love with (Table 6.10). When investigating race differences it was found that: 82
Black (74.5%), 104 White (92.0%), 70 Coloured (85.4%) and 54 Indian/Asian (65.9%)
respondents said they would not marry someone they did not love (Table 6.59, Figure
6.12). Table 6.60 indicates that there were statistically significant differences between
the race groups. According to Hinkle, Wiersma and Jurs (1988) when the
standardised residual for a category is greater than 2.00 (in absolute value), the
researcher can conclude that it is a major contributor to the significance of the chi-
square. Table 6.59 shows that the standardised residual in the ―Yes‖ category is -2.8
in the White group and 2.9 in the Indian/Asian group. It can be therefore concluded
that these two groups are major contributors to the significance of the chi-square.
Indian/Asian participants were significantly more likely to marry someone they did not
love, while White participants were significantly less likely to marry someone they did
not love.
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If a man or woman had all the other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with
him or her?
NoYes
Co
un
t
120
100
80
60
40
20
0
Indian
Coloured
White
Black
Figure 6.12 Race proportions of those who would and would not marry someone they
did not love.
Table 6.59 Crosstabulation by race and “If a man or woman had all the other qualities
you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with him or her?”
Race Total
Black White Coloured Indian
Yes Count 28 9 12 28 77
% within Race 25.5% 8.0% 14.6% 34.1% 19.9%
Std. Residual 1.3 -2.8 -1.1 2.9
No Count 82 104 70 54 310
% within Race 74.5% 92.0% 85.4% 65.9% 80.1%
Std. Residual -.7 1.4 .5 -1.4
Total Count 110 113 82 82 387
% within Race 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
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Table 6.60 Chi-Square Test by race and “If a man or woman had all the other qualities
you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with him or her?”
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 24.098(a) 3 .000*
Likelihood Ratio 25.030 3 .000
Linear-by-Linear Association 2.219 1 .136
N of Valid Cases 387
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 16.32. * significant at the .05 level
When considering gender differences no significant differences were found: 80.6%
(154) of the male respondents and 80.4% (160) of the female respondents said they
would not marry a person they were not in love with (Table 6.61, 6.62, Figure 6.13).
If a man or woman had all the other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with
him or her?
NoYes
Co
un
t
200
150
100
50
0
Female
Male
Figure 6.13 Proportion of males and females who would and would not marry someone
they did not love.
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Table 6.61 Crosstabulation by gender and “If a man or woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with him or
her?”
GENDER TOTAL
MALE FEMALE
YES COUNT 37 39 76
% WITHIN GENDER 19.4% 19.6% 19.5%
NO COUNT 154 160 314
% WITHIN GENDER 80.6% 80.4% 80.5%
TOTAL COUNT 191 199 390
% WITHIN GENDER 49.0% 51.0% 100.0%
Table 6.62 Chi-Square Test by gender and “If a man or woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with him or
her?”
Value df
Asymp. Sig.
(2-sided)
Exact Sig.
(2-sided)
Exact Sig.
(1-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square .003(b) 1 .955
Continuity Correction(a) .000 1 1.000
Likelihood Ratio .003 1 .955
Fisher's Exact Test 1.000 .529
Linear-by-Linear Association .003 1 .955
N of Valid Cases 390
a Computed only for a 2x2 table b 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 37.22.
When investigating race by gender Table 6.63 and 6.64 revealed that there were
significant race by gender differences between those who would and would not marry
someone they did not love. Table 6.63 shows that the standardised residual in the
―Yes‖ category is greater than 2.00 in the Black male group (2.4), the White male
group (-2.5) and the Indian/Asian female group (2.9). It can be therefore concluded
that Black and White males are major contributors to the significance of the male chi-
square and Indian/Asian women are major contributors to the significance of the
female chi-square (Hinkle et al., 1988). Black male participants were significantly
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more likely to marry someone they did not love, while White males were significantly
less likely to marry someone they did not love when compared to males from other
racial groups. Indian/Asian females were significantly more likely to marry someone
they did not love when compared to females from other racial groups.
Table 6.63 Crosstabulations by race, gender and “If a man or woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with him or
her?”
Gender
If a man or woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you
marry this person if you were not in
love with him or her? Total
Yes No
Male Race Black Count 18 34 52
48.6% 22.5% 27.7%
Std. Residual 2.4 -1.2
White Count 3 56 59
8.1% 37.1% 31.4%
Std. Residual -2.5 1.3
Coloured Count 4 31 35
10.8% 20.5% 18.6%
Std. Residual -1.1 .5
Indian Count 12 30 42
32.4% 19.9% 22.3%
Std. Residual 1.3 -.6
Total Count 37 151 188
100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Female Race Black Count 9 47 56
23.1% 29.9% 28.6%
Std. Residual -.6 .3
White Count 6 47 53
15.4% 29.9% 27.0%
Std. Residual -1.4 .7
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Gender
If a man or woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you
marry this person if you were not in
love with him or her? Total
Yes No
Coloured Count 8 39 47
20.5% 24.8% 24.0%
Std. Residual -.4 .2
Indian Count 16 24 40
41.0% 15.3% 20.4%
Std. Residual 2.9 -1.4
Total Count 39 157 196
100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.64 Chi-square test by race, gender and “If a man or woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with him or
her?”
Gender Value df
Asymp. Sig. (2-
sided)
Male Pearson Chi-Square 18.897(a) 3 .000*
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio 20.542 3 .000
Linear-by-Linear Association .276 1 .599
N of Valid Cases 188
Female Pearson Chi-Square 13.346(b) 3 .004*
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio 12.065 3 .007
Linear-by-Linear Association 7.489 1 .006
N of Valid Cases 196
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 6.89. b 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 7.96. * significant at the .05 level
When investigating gender within race it was found that Black males were
significantly more likely to marry someone they did not love than Black females (Table
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6.65 and 6.66). Of note, is that the chi-square assumption concerning ‗minimum
expected cell frequency‘ was violated, nonetheless the results provide useful
information.
Table 6.65 Crosstabulations by gender within race and “If a man or woman had all the
other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with
him or her?”
Race
If a man or woman had all the other qualities
you desired, would you marry this person if
you were not in love with him or her? Total
Yes No
Black Gender Male 18 34 52
Female 9 47 56
Total 27 81 108
White Gender Male 3 56 59
Female 6 47 53
Total 9 103 112
Coloured Gender Male 4 31 35
Female 8 39 47
Total 12 70 82
Indian Gender Male 12 30 42
Female 16 24 40
Total 28 54 82
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Table 6.66 Chi-square test by gender within race and “If a man or woman had all the
other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with
him or her?”
Race Value df
Asymp.
Sig. (2-
sided)
Exact
Sig. (2-
sided)
Exact
Sig. (1-
sided)
Black Pearson Chi-Square 4.945(b) 1 .026
Continuity Correction(a) 4.005 1 .045*
Likelihood Ratio 5.005 1 .025
Fisher's Exact Test .044 .022
Linear-by-Linear Association 4.899 1 .027
N of Valid Cases 108
White Pearson Chi-Square 1.469(c) 1 .225
Continuity Correction(a) .747 1 .388
Likelihood Ratio 1.485 1 .223
Fisher's Exact Test .303 .194
Linear-by-Linear Association 1.456 1 .228
N of Valid Cases 112
Coloured Pearson Chi-Square .502(d) 1 .479
Continuity Correction(a) .154 1 .694
Likelihood Ratio .513 1 .474
Fisher's Exact Test .543 .352
Linear-by-Linear Association .496 1 .481
N of Valid Cases 82
Indian Pearson Chi-Square 1.190(e) 1 .275
Continuity Correction(a) .736 1 .391
Likelihood Ratio 1.193 1 .275
Fisher's Exact Test .353 .196
Linear-by-Linear Association 1.176 1 .278
N of Valid Cases 82
a Computed only for a 2x2 table b 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 13.00. c 2 cells (50.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 4.26. d 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 5.12. e 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 13.66. * significant at the .05 level
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In sum, significant differences were observed in the South African sample when
investigating Kephart‘s (1967) question ―If a man or woman had all the other qualities
you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with him or her?‖.
When probing for racial differences, it was found that Indian/Asian participants were
significantly more likely to marry someone they did not love, while White participants
were significantly more likely to marry someone they did love. Although no overall
gender differences were found, when probing race by gender it was found that Black
male participants were significantly more likely to marry someone they did not love,
while White males were significantly less likely to marry someone they did not love
when compared to males from other racial groups. Indian/Asian females were
significantly more likely to marry someone they did not love when compared to
females from other racial groups. Finally when exploring gender within race it was
found that Black males were significantly more likely to marry someone they did not
love than Black females.
6.6.3. Love as a basis for the maintenance of marriage by race and gender
When investigating the racial findings on the importance of love for the maintenance
of marriage, two questions were posed (Simpson et al., 1986). Overall more
participants agreed (56.7%) than disagreed (52.1%) that love would be necessary for
the maintenance of marriage (Table 6.8, 6.9). When responding to "If love has
completely disappeared from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to
make a clean break and start new lives" Table 6.67 shows that the Indian/Asian
participants (47.6) were the least likely to believe this, the White participants (61.1%),
closely followed by Coloured (58.5%) and Black (58.2%) participants were the most
likely to believe this. When responding to ―In my opinion, the disappearance of love is
not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as such‖.
Table 6.69 shows that the Indian/Asian respondents (59.3%) were the least likely to
believe that the disappearance of love was sufficient reason for ending a marriage,
the White respondents (46.8%) were the most likely to believe this. Tables 6.68, 6.70
confirmed that the proportion of individuals by race group who agree with the
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importance of love for the maintenance of marriage on both questions was not
significant.
Table 6.67 Crosstabulation by race and “If love has completely disappeared from a
marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and start new
lives”.
Race Total
Black White Coloured Indian
Agree Count 64 69 48 39 220
% within Race 58.2% 61.1% 58.5% 47.6% 56.8%
Disagree Count 46 44 34 43 167
% within Race 41.8% 38.9% 41.5% 52.4% 43.2%
Total Count 110 113 82 82 387
% within Race 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.68 Chi-Square Test by race and “If love has completely disappeared from a
marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and start new
lives”.
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 3.876(a) 3 .275
Likelihood Ratio 3.852 3 .278
Linear-by-Linear Association 2.019 1 .155
N of Valid Cases 387
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 35.39.
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Table 6.69 Crosstabulation by race “In my opinion, the disappearance of love is not a
sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as such”.
Race Total
Black White Coloured Indian
Agree Count 55 52 43 48 198
% within Race 50.5% 46.8% 53.1% 59.3% 51.8%
% of Total 14.4% 13.6% 11.3% 12.6% 51.8%
Disagree Count 54 59 38 33 184
% within Race 49.5% 53.2% 46.9% 40.7% 48.2%
Total Count 109 111 81 81 382
% within Race 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.70 Chi-Square Test by race “In my opinion, the disappearance of love is not a
sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as such”.
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 3.028(a) 3 .387
Likelihood Ratio 3.040 3 .385
Linear-by-Linear Association 1.810 1 .179
N of Valid Cases 382
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 39.02.
When investigating the gender findings on the importance of love for the maintenance
of marriage, two questions were posed (Simpson et al., 1986) there were slight
gender differences: 58.6% of males and 54.8% of females believed that if love had
completely disappeared from a marriage, that it was probably best for the couple to
make a clean break and start new lives (Table 6.71) and 48.4% of males and 55.6%
of females believed that the disappearance of love was not a sufficient reason for
ending a marriage (Table 6.73). Tables 6.72 and 6.74 confirm that the proportion of
the men‘s beliefs with regard to the importance of love for the maintenance of
marriage on both questions was not significantly different from the proportion of
women‘s beliefs with regard to the importance of love for the maintenance of
marriage on both questions.
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Table 6.71 Crosstabulation by gender “If love has completely disappeared from a
marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and start new
lives”.
GENDER TOTAL
MALE FEMALE
AGREE COUNT 112 109 221
% WITHIN GENDER 58.6% 54.8% 56.7%
DISAGREE COUNT 79 90 169
% WITHIN GENDER 41.4% 45.2% 43.3%
TOTAL COUNT 191 199 390
% WITHIN GENDER 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.72 Chi-Square Test by gender “If love has completely disappeared from a
marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and start new
lives”.
Value df
Asymp. Sig.
(2-sided)
Exact Sig.
(2-sided)
Exact Sig.
(1-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square .593(b) 1 .441
Continuity Correction(a) .446 1 .504
Likelihood Ratio .593 1 .441
Fisher's Exact Test .475 .252
Linear-by-Linear Association .591 1 .442
N of Valid Cases 390
a Computed only for a 2x2 table b 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 82.77.
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Table 6.73 Crosstabulation by gender “In my opinion, the disappearance of love is not
a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as such”
GENDER TOTAL
MALE FEMALE
AGREE COUNT 91 110 201
% WITHIN GENDER 48.4% 55.6% 52.1%
DISAGREE COUNT 97 88 185
% WITHIN GENDER 51.6% 44.4% 47.9%
TOTAL COUNT 188 198 386
% WITHIN GENDER 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.74 Chi-Square Test by gender “In my opinion, the disappearance of love is not
a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as such”
Value df
Asymp. Sig.
(2-sided)
Exact Sig.
(2-sided)
Exact Sig.
(1-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 1.976(b) 1 .160
Continuity Correction(a) 1.700 1 .192
Likelihood Ratio 1.978 1 .160
Fisher's Exact Test .185 .096
Linear-by-Linear Association 1.971 1 .160
N of Valid Cases 386
a Computed only for a 2x2 table b 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 90.10.
Table 6.75 to 6.78 revealed that there were no significant race by gender differences
and no significant gender within race differences were found when investigating the
importance of love in the maintenance of marriage across both of Simpson et al.‘s
(1986) questions (Table 6.79 to 6.82).
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Table 6.75 Crosstabulations by race, gender and “If love has completely disappeared
from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and
start new lives”.
Gender
If love has completely disappeared from a
marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple
to make a clean break and start new lives.
Total
Agree Disagree
Male Race Black 30 22 52
27.3% 28.2% 27.7%
White 41 18 59
37.3% 23.1% 31.4%
Coloured 21 14 35
19.1% 17.9% 18.6%
Indian 18 24 42
16.4% 30.8% 22.3%
Total 110 78 188
100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Female Race Black 33 23 56
30.6% 26.1% 28.6%
White 27 26 53
25.0% 29.5% 27.0%
Coloured 27 20 47
25.0% 22.7% 24.0%
Indian 21 19 40
19.4% 21.6% 20.4%
Total 108 88 196
100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
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Table 6.76 Chi-square test by race, gender and “If love has completely disappeared
from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and
start new lives”.
Gender Value df
Asymp. Sig. (2-
sided)
Male Pearson Chi-Square 7.216(a) 3 .065
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio 7.240 3 .065
Linear-by-Linear Association 2.640 1 .104
N of Valid Cases 188
Female Pearson Chi-Square .916(b) 3 .822
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio .916 3 .821
Linear-by-Linear Association .165 1 .684
N of Valid Cases 196
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 14.52. b 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 17.96.
Table 6.77 Crosstabulations by race, gender and “In my opinion, the disappearance of
love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as
such”.
Gender
In my opinion, the disappearance of love is
not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage
and should not be viewed as such.
Total
Agree Disagree
Male Race Black 24 27 51
27.0% 28.1% 27.6%
White 23 36 59
25.8% 37.5% 31.9%
Coloured 19 15 34
21.3% 15.6% 18.4%
Indian 23 18 41
25.8% 18.8% 22.2%
Total 89 96 185
100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
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Gender
In my opinion, the disappearance of love is
not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage
and should not be viewed as such.
Total
Female Race Black 30 26 56
27.8% 29.9% 28.7%
White 29 23 52
26.9% 26.4% 26.7%
Coloured 24 23 47
22.2% 26.4% 24.1%
Indian 25 15 40
23.1% 17.2% 20.5%
Total 108 87 195
100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.78 Chi-square test by race, gender and “In my opinion, the disappearance of
love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as
such”.
Gender Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Male Pearson Chi-Square 3.862(a) 3 .277
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio 3.883 3 .274
Linear-by-Linear Association 1.668 1 .197
N of Valid Cases 185
Female Pearson Chi-Square 1.252(b) 3 .740
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio 1.262 3 .738
Linear-by-Linear Association .371 1 .542
N of Valid Cases 195
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 16.36. b 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 17.85.
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Table 6.79 Crosstabulations by gender within race and “In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not
be viewed as such”.
Race
if love has completely disappeared from a
marriage, I think it is probably best for the
couple to make a clean break and start
new lives. Total
Agree Disagree
Black Gender Male 30 22 52
Female 33 23 56
Total 63 45 108
White Gender Male 41 18 59
Female 27 26 53
Total 68 44 112
Coloured Gender Male 21 14 35
Female 27 20 47
Total 48 34 82
Indian Gender Male 18 24 42
Female 21 19 40
Total 39 43 82
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Table 6.80 Chi-square test by gender within race and “In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not
be viewed as such”.
Race Value df
Asymp.
Sig. (2-
sided)
Exact
Sig. (2-
sided)
Exact
Sig. (1-
sided)
Black Pearson Chi-Square .017(b) 1 .896
Continuity Correction(a) .000 1 1.000
Likelihood Ratio .017 1 .896
Fisher's Exact Test 1.000 .526
Linear-by-Linear Association .017 1 .897
N of Valid Cases 108
White Pearson Chi-Square 4.027(c) 1 .045
Continuity Correction(a) 3.287 1 .070
Likelihood Ratio 4.044 1 .044
Fisher's Exact Test .054 .035
Linear-by-Linear Association 3.991 1 .046
N of Valid Cases 112
Coloured Pearson Chi-Square .054(d) 1 .816
Continuity Correction(a) .000 1 .996
Likelihood Ratio .054 1 .816
Fisher's Exact Test 1.000 .499
Linear-by-Linear Association .053 1 .818
N of Valid Cases 82
Indian Pearson Chi-Square .764(e) 1 .382
Continuity Correction(a) .426 1 .514
Likelihood Ratio .765 1 .382
Fisher's Exact Test .507 .257
Linear-by-Linear Association .755 1 .385
N of Valid Cases 82
a Computed only for a 2x2 table b 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 21.67. c 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 20.82. d 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 14.51. e 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 19.02.
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Table 6.81 Crosstabulations by gender within race and “In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not
be viewed as such”.
Race
In my opinion, the disappearance of love is
not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage
and should not be viewed as such. Total
Agree Disagree
Black Gender Male 24 27 51
Female 30 26 56
Total 54 53 107
White Gender Male 23 36 59
Female 29 23 52
Total 52 59 111
Coloured Gender Male 19 15 34
Female 24 23 47
Total 43 38 81
Indian Gender Male 23 18 41
Female 25 15 40
Total 48 33 81
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Table 6.82 Chi-square test by gender within race and “In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not
be viewed as such”.
Race Value df
Asymp.
Sig. (2-
sided)
Exact
Sig. (2-
sided)
Exact
Sig. (1-
sided)
Black Pearson Chi-Square .453(b) 1 .501
Continuity Correction(a) .230 1 .632
Likelihood Ratio .453 1 .501
Fisher's Exact Test .564 .316
Linear-by-Linear Association .449 1 .503
N of Valid Cases 107
White Pearson Chi-Square 3.128(c) 1 .077
Continuity Correction(a) 2.490 1 .115
Likelihood Ratio 3.140 1 .076
Fisher's Exact Test .089 .057
Linear-by-Linear Association 3.100 1 .078
N of Valid Cases 111
Coloured Pearson Chi-Square .184(d) 1 .668
Continuity Correction(a) .041 1 .839
Likelihood Ratio .184 1 .668
Fisher's Exact Test .822 .420
Linear-by-Linear Association .182 1 .670
N of Valid Cases 81
Indian Pearson Chi-Square .344(e) 1 .558
Continuity Correction(a) .130 1 .719
Likelihood Ratio .344 1 .557
Fisher's Exact Test .653 .360
Linear-by-Linear Association .340 1 .560
N of Valid Cases 81
a Computed only for a 2x2 table b 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 25.26. c 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 24.36. d 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 15.95. e 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 16.30.
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In sum, no significant differences were found amongst race, gender, race by gender
and gender within race in the current South African sample when considering
Simpson et al.‘s (1986) two questions with regard to the importance of love in the
maintenance of marriage.
6.6.4. Romantic beliefs by race and gender
A one-way between groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between race and total romanticism, as measured by Romantic Beliefs Scale. The
lower the score on total romanticism the more romantic the participant would be.
Table 6.83 shows the means on a total romanticism score per race group: Black
(M=51.073), White (M=55.336), Coloured (M=53.646), and Indian/Asian (M=53.003).
Even though there was no statistically significant difference at the p<.05 level in the
scores for race [F(3,383)=2.243, p=.083] (Table 6.84), the trend that emerged
showed that the Black participants were more romantic than their White, Coloured
and Indian/Asian counterparts.
Table 6.83 Romantic Beliefs descriptives determined by race
N Mean
Std.
Deviation Std. Error
95% Confidence
Interval for Mean Minimum Maximum
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Black 110 51.073 12.94428 1.23419 48.6266 53.5188 21.00 90.00
White 113 55.336 12.26756 1.15404 53.0497 57.6229 29.00 89.00
Coloured 82 53.646 11.98803 1.32386 51.0123 56.2804 27.00 89.00
Indian 82 51.732 16.12762 1.78100 48.1881 55.2753 15.00 86.00
Total 387 53.003 13.37182 .67973 51.6662 54.3390 15.00 90.00
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Table 6.84 One-way ANOVA: Romantic Beliefs determined by race
Sum of Squares df Mean Square F Sig.
Between
Groups 1191.517 3 397.172 2.243 .083
Within Groups 67827.481 383 177.095
Total 69018.997 386
A one-way between groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between gender and total romanticism, as measured by Romantic Beliefs Scale.
Although females were slightly more romantic than males: mean score for males
(M=53.25, SD=13.761) and females (M=52.85, SD=13.124) (Table 6.85), there was
no statistically significant difference at the p<.05 level in the scores for gender
[F(1,388)=0.088, p=.767] (Table 6.86).
Table 6.85 Romantic Beliefs descriptives determined by gender
N Mean
Std.
Deviation
Std.
Error
95% Confidence
Interval for Mean Minimum Maximum
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Male 191 53.2513 13.76111 .99572 51.2872 55.2154 15.00 90.00
Female 199 52.8492 13.02435 .92327 51.0285 54.6700 21.00 89.00
390 53.0462 13.37449 .67724 51.7146 54.3777 15.00 90.00
Table 6.86 One-way ANOVA: Romantic Beliefs determined by gender
Sum of Squares df
Mean
Square F Sig.
Between
Groups 15.755 1 15.755 .088 .767
Within Groups 69567.415 388 179.297
Total 69583.169 389
A two-way between-the-groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the
relationship between race by gender on romanticism, as measured by Romantic
Beliefs Scale. As expected from the previous romanticism gender and race
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investigations the main effect for race [F(3,376)=2.266, p=.080]; and the main effect
for gender [F(1,376)=.019, p=.890] did not reach statistical significance (Table 6.88).
There was a statistically significant effect for the interaction [F(3,376)=2.687, p=.046]
and the effect size was partial eta squared =.02. This shows that the relationship of
race (or gender) with romanticism is contingent on the gender (or race) of the person.
Figure 6.14 and Table 6.87, shows that the Black women and Indian/Asian men
scored low on romanticism relative to the White men, White women, Black men, and
Indian/Asian women. For the White and Coloured groups the difference in
romanticism scores for men and women were small, whereas for the Black and
Indian/Asian groups clear differences could be observed.
Table 6.87 Romantic beliefs descriptives determined by race and gender
Gender Race Mean Std. Deviation N
Male Black 53.3654 12.63209 52
White 55.7119 12.62599 59
Coloured 53.4286 12.03007 35
Indian 48.7619 17.06774 42
Total 53.0851 13.76826 188
Female Black 48.5000 12.85443 56
White 54.8679 12.07515 53
Coloured 53.8085 12.08419 47
Indian 54.8500 14.64547 40
Total 52.7908 13.05421 196
Total Black 50.8426 12.92116 108
White 55.3125 12.32008 112
Coloured 53.6463 11.98803 82
Indian 51.7317 16.12762 82
Total 52.9349 13.39180 384
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Table 6.88 Romantic beliefs Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by race and
gender
Source
Type III Sum
of Squares df Mean Square F Sig.
Partial
Eta
Squared
Corrected
Model 2686.570(a) 7 383.796 2.186 .035 .039
Intercept 1044388.531 1 1044388.531 5949.778 .000 .941
Gender 3.355 1 3.355 .019 .890 .000
Race 1193.450 3 397.817 2.266 .080 .018
Gender * Race 1415.171 3 471.724 2.687 .046* .021
Error 66000.802 376 175.534
Total 1144695.000 384
Corrected Total 68687.372 383
a R Squared = .039 (Adjusted R Squared = .021) * significant at the .05 level
Race
IndianColouredWhiteBlack
Esti
mate
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arg
ina
l M
ea
ns
56.00
54.00
52.00
50.00
48.00
54.85
53.81
54.87
48.50
48.76
53.43
55.71
53.37
Female
Male
Gender
Estimated Marginal Means of total romanticism score
Figure 6.14 Means of total romanticism score as determined by gender and race.
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In sum, even though no significant differences emerged when interrogating the data
by race or gender, the trends that emerged were that Black participants were more
romantic than their White, Coloured and Indian/Asian counterparts and women were
more romantic than men. When investigating for effect for the interaction between
race and gender there was a statistical significance: Black women and Indian/Asian
men scored high on romanticism relative to the White men, White women, Black men,
and Indian/Asian women. In addition, for the White and Coloured groups the
difference in romanticism scores for men and women were small, whereas for the
Black and Indian/Asian groups clear differences could be observed.
6.6.5. Attachment styles by race and gender
When investigating attachment style as determined by race, the data revealed that all
four race groups endorsed a secure attachment style the most with the exception of
the Black group who had the same proportion for secure (27.2%), dismissing (27.2%)
and fearful (27.2%) attachment styles (Table 6.89). The Indian/Asian group were the
most secure (41.3%) followed by the White group (38.8%), Coloured group (36.2%)
and the Black group (27.2%). The second highest score for the White group was
preoccupied (26.3%) attachment style; dismissing for Coloured group (19.1%); and
preoccupied and dismissing (17.5%) for the Indian/Asian group. None of these
differences were statistically significant (Table 6.90).
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Table 6.89 Crosstabulation by race and attachment style
Race Total
Black White Coloured Indian
Secure Count 22 31 17 26 96
% within Race 27.2% 38.8% 36.2% 41.3% 35.4%
Preoccupied Count 15 21 8 11 55
% within Race 18.5% 26.3% 17.0% 17.5% 20.3%
Dismissing Count 22 11 9 11 53
% within Race 27.2% 13.8% 19.1% 17.5% 19.6%
Fearful Count 22 17 13 15 67
% within Race 27.2% 21.3% 27.7% 23.8% 24.7%
Total Count 81 80 47 63 271
% within Race 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.90 Chi-Square Test by race and attachment style
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 9.137(a) 9 .425
Likelihood Ratio 9.061 9 .432
Linear-by-Linear Association 1.449 1 .229
N of Valid Cases 271
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 9.19.
When examining attachment style as determined by gender, the data revealed that:
both genders had relatively similar proportions for secure attachment style (34.6%
males and 36.2% females); females were more likely to be preoccupied (24.6%)
when compared to males (16.2%) and men were more likely to be dismissing (22.1%)
and fearful (27.2%) when compared to females (17.4% and 21.7% respectively)
(Table 6.91). These differences were not statistically significant (Table 6.92).
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Table 6.91 Crosstabulation by gender and attachment style
Gender Total
Male Female
Secure Count 47 50 97
% within Gender 34.6% 36.2% 35.4%
Preoccupied Count 22 34 56
% within Gender 16.2% 24.6% 20.4%
Dismissing Count 30 24 54
% within Gender 22.1% 17.4% 19.7%
Fearful Count 37 30 67
% within Gender 27.2% 21.7% 24.5%
Total Count 136 138 274
% within Gender 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.92 Chi-Square Test by gender and attachment style
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 4.048(a) 3 .256
Likelihood Ratio 4.070 3 .254
Linear-by-Linear Association 1.435 1 .231
N of Valid Cases 274
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 26.80.
When exploring race by gender Table 6.93 and 6.94 revealed that although there
were race by gender differences in attachment styles, none were significant. When
comparing endorsement of attachment style across race the White male participants
endorse secure attachment (34%) and preoccupied attachment (43%) the highest,
while the Black male participants endorsed dismissing (41%) and fearful (38%) the
highest. When comparing endorsement of attachment style across race the White
female participants, like the White males, endorse secure attachment (30%) and
preoccupied attachment (35%) the highest, while the Black female participants, like
the Black males, endorsed dismissing (39%). Black, White and Indian/Asian female
participants endorsed the fearful attachment style (27%) equally.
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Table 6.93 Crosstabulations by race, gender and attachment style
Gender Attachment Style Total
Secure
Pre-
occupied Dismissing Fearful
Male Race Black 10 6 12 14 42
21.3% 28.6% 41.4% 37.8% 31.3%
White 16 9 7 9 41
34.0% 42.9% 24.1% 24.3% 30.6%
Coloured 7 2 4 7 20
14.9% 9.5% 13.8% 18.9% 14.9%
Indian 14 4 6 7 31
29.8% 19.0% 20.7% 18.9% 23.1%
Total 47 21 29 37 134
100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Female Race Black 12 9 9 8 38
24.5% 26.5% 39.1% 26.7% 27.9%
White 15 12 4 8 39
30.6% 35.3% 17.4% 26.7% 28.7%
Coloured 10 6 5 6 27
20.4% 17.6% 21.7% 20.0% 19.9%
Indian 12 7 5 8 32
24.5% 20.6% 21.7% 26.7% 23.5%
Total 49 34 23 30 136
100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.94 Chi-square test by race, gender and attachment style
Gender Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-
sided)
Male Pearson Chi-Square 7.327(a) 9 .603
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio 7.339 9 .602
Linear-by-Linear Association
2.143 1 .143
N of Valid Cases 134
Female Pearson Chi-Square 3.364(b) 9 .948
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio 3.394 9 .947
Linear-by-Linear Association
.007 1 .935
N of Valid Cases 136 a 3 cells (18.8%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 3.13. b 1 cells (6.3%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 4.57.
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When investigating gender within race no significant differences were found (Table
6.95 and 6.96), however some trends emerged. Black males were predominately
fearfully attached (64%) whereas most Black females endorsed a preoccupied
attachment style (60%). The majority of White males endorsed a dismissing
attachment style (64%) whereas most White females, like their Black female
counterparts, endorsed a preoccupied attachment style (57%). Most Coloured men
endorsed, like their Black male counterparts a fearful attachment style (54%), while
most Coloured women, like their Black and White female counterparts endorsed a
preoccupied attachment style (75%). The majority of Indian/Asian men endorsed
dismissing (55%) and secure (54%) attachment style, while most Indian/Asian women
like their Black, White and Coloured female counterparts endorsed a preoccupied
attachment style (64%). Of note, is that the chi-square assumption concerning
‗minimum expected cell frequency‘ was violated, nonetheless the results provide
useful information.
Table 6.95 Crosstabulations by gender within race and attachment style
Race Attachment Style Total
Secure
Pre-
occupied Dismissing Fearful
Black Gender Male Count 10 6 12 14 42
% within
Attachment Style 45.5% 40.0% 57.1% 63.6% 52.5%
Female Count 12 9 9 8 38
% within
Attachment Style 54.5% 60.0% 42.9% 36.4% 47.5%
Total Count 22 15 21 22 80
% within
Attachment Style 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
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Race Attachment Style Total
Secure
Pre-
occupied Dismissing Fearful
White Gender Male Count 16 9 7 9 41
% within
Attachment Style 51.6% 42.9% 63.6% 52.9% 51.3%
Female Count 15 12 4 8 39
% within
Attachment Style 48.4% 57.1% 36.4% 47.1% 48.8%
Total Count 31 21 11 17 80
% within
Attachment Style 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Coloured Gender Male Count 7 2 4 7 20
% within
Attachment Style 41.2% 25.0% 44.4% 53.8% 42.6%
Female Count 10 6 5 6 27
% within
Attachment Style 58.8% 75.0% 55.6% 46.2% 57.4%
Total Count 17 8 9 13 47
% within
Attachment Style 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Indian Gender Male Count 14 4 6 7 31
% within
Attachment Style 53.8% 36.4% 54.5% 46.7% 49.2%
Female Count 12 7 5 8 32
% within
Attachment Style 46.2% 63.6% 45.5% 53.3% 50.8%
Total Count 26 11 11 15 63
% within
Attachment Style 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
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Table 6.96 Chi-square test by gender within race and attachment style
Race Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Black Pearson Chi-Square 2.653(a) 3 .448
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio 2.673 3 .445
Linear-by-Linear Association 2.024 1 .155
N of Valid Cases 80
White Pearson Chi-Square 1.289(b) 3 .732
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio 1.300 3 .729
Linear-by-Linear Association .122 1 .726
N of Valid Cases 80
Coloured Pearson Chi-Square 1.713(c) 3 .634
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio 1.767 3 .622
Linear-by-Linear Association .628 1 .428
N of Valid Cases 47
Indian Pearson Chi-Square 1.114(d) 3 .774
Continuity Correction
Likelihood Ratio 1.125 3 .771
Linear-by-Linear Association .080 1 .777
N of Valid Cases 63
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 7.13. b 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 5.36. c 3 cells (37.5%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 3.40. d 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 5.41.
In sum, no significant differences emerged when interrogating the attachment style
data by race, gender, race by gender or gender within race. Nonetheless there were
trends that emerged.
The predominate attachment style across race was secure - with the exception of the
Black group who had the same proportion for secure, dismissing and fearful
attachment styles.
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Although both males and females endorsed the secure attachment styles the most,
females were more likely to be preoccupied when compared to males, and men were
more likely to be dismissing and fearful when compared to females.
When exploring the trend for race by gender that emerged it was found that the White
male participants endorse secure attachment and preoccupied attachment the
highest, while the Black male participants endorsed dismissing and fearful the highest
when compared to males from other cultural groups. When comparing females from
different cultural groups it was found that, like the White males, the White female
participants endorse secure attachment and preoccupied attachment the highest;
while the Black female participants, like the Black males, endorsed dismissing
attachment the highest. Black, White and Indian/Asian female participants endorsed
the fearful attachment style equally.
When investigating the trends for gender within race (Table 6.95 and 6.96) it was
found that Black and Coloured males were predominately fearfully attached when
compared to their female counterparts, whereas most Black and Coloured females
endorsed a preoccupied attachment style when compared to their male counterparts.
The majority of White and Indian/Asian males endorsed a dismissing attachment style
when compared to their female counterparts whereas most White and Indian/Asian
females, like Black and Coloured females, endorsed a preoccupied attachment style
when compared to their male counterparts.
6.6.6. Lovestyles by race and gender
When investigating race and dominant lovestyles Figures 6.15 to 6.18 showed that
Black (40%), White (46.9%) and Coloured (46.3%) respondents strongly endorsed
eros as their dominant lovestyle. The Indian/Asian group endorsed agape (28.0%) as
their dominant lovestyle and this was followed by eros (24.4%), storge (18.3%) and
pragma (17.1%). The Black group endorsed storge (23.6%) as their second strongest
lovestyle and agape (12.7%) as their third strongest lovestyle. The White group
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endorsed agape (26.5%) as their second strongest lovestyle and storge (14.2%) as
their third strongest lovestyle. The Coloured group endorsed agape (22.0%) as their
second strongest lovestyle and storge (14.6%) as their third strongest lovestyle.
Mania and ludus were the least endorsed for all four groups. When compared to the
other groups the Indian/Asians endorsed ludus the highest (11%) and mania the
lowest (1.2%).
Agape
Mania
Pragma
Storge
Ludus
Eros
Agape
Mania
Pragma
Storge
Ludus
Eros
Figure 6.15 Proportion of Black samples‟
predominant lovestyle
Figure 6.16 Proportion of White samples‟
predominant lovestyle
Agape
Mania
Pragma
Storge
Ludus
Eros
Agape
Mania
Pragma
Storge
Ludus
Eros
Figure 6.17 Proportion of Coloured
samples‟ predominant lovestyle
Figure 6.18 Proportion of Indian/Asian
samples‟ predominant lovestyle
A one-way between groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between race and lovestyles, as measured by Love Attitude Scale. Table 6.97
outlines the means and standard deviations by race of each lovestyle and Figures
6.29-34 are graphic representations of the means of the six lovestyles as determined
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by race. The lower the mean the more that lovestyle is endorsed. According to Hinkle
et al. (1988) if the sample sizes are relatively equal when Levene‘s test for
homogeneity of variances is violated, the effect of heterogeneity of variances on the
Type I error is minimal. The South African sample sizes were relatively equal in this
study. Therefore although Levene‘s test for homogeneity of variances was violated for
eros (.004), the South African sample sizes were relatively equal, and therefore the
effect of heterogeneity of variances on the Type I error was minimal (Hinkle et al.,
1988). There were no statistically significant differences at the p<.05 level in the
scores between the race groups on eros, storge and mania but there was for ludus
[F(3,381)=.439, p=.726] and agape [F(1,379)=7.682, p=.000] (Table 6.98). Pragma
[F(1,378)=2.566, p=.054] was very close to being significant. The effect size,
calculated using eta squared, was .03 for ludus. Therefore, despite reaching
statistical significance, the actual difference in mean scores between the groups for
ludus was quite small. The effect size, calculated using eta squared, was .06 for
agape, which according to Cohen (1988) is a medium effect. Post hoc comparisons
using the Tukey HSD confirmed that the significant differences between racial groups
and lovestyles are located in ludus, pragma and agape at the .05 significance level.
There was a significant difference between Black (M=14.97, SD=5.439) and White
(M=14.60, SD=4.112) ludus lovestyles; between White (M=22.14, SD=5.733) and
Indian/Asian (M=19.59, SD=7.010) pragma lovestyles; and between Black (M=18.71,
SD=5.653) and White (M=15.53, SD=4.945), and Black (M=18.71, SD=5.653) and
Indian/Asian (M=15.46, SD=6.465) agape lovestyles (Table 6.111). The White sample
was significantly less ludus than the Black sample; the White sample was significantly
less pragma than the Indian/Asian sample; and the White and Indian/Asian sample
were significantly more agape than the Black sample (Table 6.97, 6.98, 6.99 and
Figures 6.19-24).
It was found that there was a statistically significant difference at the p<.01 level in the
scores between races on agape - between Black (M=18.71, SD=5.653) and White
(M=15.53, SD=4.945), and Black (M=18.71, SD=5.653) and Indian/Asian (M=15.46,
SD=6.465) - the White and Indian/Asian sample were significantly more agape than
the Black sample.
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Table 6.97 Lovestyles descriptives determined by race
N Mean
Std.
Deviation
Std.
Error
95% Confidence
Interval for Mean Minimum Maximum
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Eros Black 110 14.97 5.439 .519 13.94 16.00 7 35
White 112 14.60 4.112 .389 13.83 15.37 2 26
Coloured 81 15.14 4.499 .500 14.14 16.13 7 27
Indian 82 15.40 5.883 .650 14.11 16.70 7 31
Total 385 14.99 4.989 .254 14.49 15.49 2 35
Ludus Black 110 24.20 6.689 .638 22.94 25.46 7 35
White 112 26.91 5.666 .535 25.85 27.97 10 35
Coloured 81 24.72 6.341 .705 23.31 26.12 8 35
Indian 82 25.94 7.464 .824 24.30 27.58 1 35
Total 385 25.47 6.584 .336 24.81 26.13 1 35
Storge Black 109 18.63 6.280 .602 17.44 19.83 7 35
White 112 18.20 6.006 .567 17.07 19.32 7 34
Coloured 81 19.04 5.942 .660 17.72 20.35 8 32
Indian 81 17.77 6.311 .701 16.37 19.16 7 32
Total 383 18.41 6.129 .313 17.79 19.02 7 35
Pragma Black 109 20.92 6.352 .608 19.71 22.12 7 35
White 111 22.14 5.733 .544 21.06 23.21 8 35
Coloured 81 20.98 6.160 .684 19.61 22.34 7 35
Indian 81 19.59 7.010 .779 18.04 21.14 7 35
Total 382 21.00 6.326 .324 20.37 21.64 7 35
Mania Black 110 21.60 6.070 .579 20.45 22.75 7 35
White 111 22.23 5.942 .564 21.12 23.35 9 34
Coloured 81 22.21 6.082 .676 20.86 23.55 11 34
Indian 81 22.07 6.273 .697 20.69 23.46 7 35
Total 383 22.01 6.061 .310 21.40 22.62 7 35
Agape Black 110 18.71 5.653 .539 17.64 19.78 7 35
White 111 15.53 4.945 .469 14.60 16.46 7 27
Coloured 81 17.14 5.659 .629 15.88 18.39 7 29
Indian 81 15.46 6.465 .718 14.03 16.89 7 35
Total 383 16.77 5.791 .296 16.19 17.35 7 35
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Table 6.98 One-way ANOVA Lovestyles determined by race
Sum of
Squares df
Mean
Square F Sig.
Eros Between Groups 32.895 3 10.965 .439 .726
Within Groups 9525.064 381 25.000
Total 9557.958 384
Ludus Between Groups 473.973 3 157.991 3.723 .012*
Within Groups 16169.871 381 42.441
Total 16643.844 384
Storge Between Groups 76.028 3 25.343 .673 .569
Within Groups 14274.432 379 37.663
Total 14350.460 382
Pragma Between Groups 304.261 3 101.420 2.566 .054
Within Groups 14940.736 378 39.526
Total 15244.997 381
Mania Between Groups 27.637 3 9.212 .249 .862
Within Groups 14007.298 379 36.959
Total 14034.935 382
Agape Between Groups 734.383 3 244.794 7.682 .000*
Within Groups 12077.935 379 31.868
Total 12812.319 382
* significant at the .05 level
Table 6.99 Multiple comparisons lovestyles determined by race (Tukey HSD)
Dependent
Variable (I) Race (J) Race
Mean
Difference
(I-J)
Std.
Error Sig.
95% Confidence
Interval
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Eros Black White .375 .671 .944 -1.36 2.11
Coloured -.163 .732 .996 -2.05 1.73
Indian -.430 .729 .935 -2.31 1.45
White Black -.375 .671 .944 -2.11 1.36
Coloured -.538 .729 .882 -2.42 1.34
Indian -.804 .727 .686 -2.68 1.07
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Coloured Black3 .163 .732 .996 -1.73 2.05
White .538 .729 .882 -1.34 2.42
Indian -.267 .783 .986 -2.29 1.75
Indian Black .430 .729 .935 -1.45 2.31
White .804 .727 .686 -1.07 2.68
Coloured .267 .783 .986 -1.75 2.29
Ludus Black White -2.711(*) .875 .011 -4.97 -.45
Coloured -.516 .954 .949 -2.98 1.95
Indian -1.739 .950 .261 -4.19 .71
White Black 2.711(*) .875 .011 .45 4.97
Coloured 2.195 .950 .098 -.26 4.65
Indian .972 .947 .734 -1.47 3.41
Coloured Black .516 .954 .949 -1.95 2.98
White -2.195 .950 .098 -4.65 .26
Indian -1.223 1.021 .628 -3.86 1.41
Indian Black 1.739 .950 .261 -.71 4.19
White -.972 .947 .734 -3.41 1.47
Coloured 1.223 1.021 .628 -1.41 3.86
Storge Black White .437 .826 .952 -1.69 2.57
Coloured -.404 .900 .970 -2.73 1.92
Indian .868 .900 .770 -1.46 3.19
White Black -.437 .826 .952 -2.57 1.69
Coloured -.841 .895 .784 -3.15 1.47
Indian .431 .895 .963 -1.88 2.74
Coloured Black .404 .900 .970 -1.92 2.73
White .841 .895 .784 -1.47 3.15
Indian 1.272 .964 .552 -1.22 3.76
Indian Black -.868 .900 .770 -3.19 1.46
White -.431 .895 .963 -2.74 1.88
Coloured -1.272 .964 .552 -3.76 1.22
Pragma Black White -1.218 .848 .477 -3.41 .97
Coloured -.058 .922 1.000 -2.44 2.32
Indian 1.325 .922 .477 -1.06 3.70
White Black 1.218 .848 .477 -.97 3.41
Coloured 1.160 .919 .587 -1.21 3.53
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Indian 2.543(*) .919 .030 .17 4.91
Coloured Black .058 .922 1.000 -2.32 2.44
White -1.160 .919 .587 -3.53 1.21
Indian 1.383 .988 .500 -1.17 3.93
Indian Black -1.325 .922 .477 -3.70 1.06
White -2.543(*) .919 .030 -4.91 -.17
Coloured -1.383 .988 .500 -3.93 1.17
Mania Black White -.634 .818 .866 -2.74 1.48
Coloured -.610 .890 .903 -2.91 1.69
Indian -.474 .890 .951 -2.77 1.82
White Black .634 .818 .866 -1.48 2.74
Coloured .024 .888 1.000 -2.27 2.32
Indian .160 .888 .998 -2.13 2.45
Coloured Black .610 .890 .903 -1.69 2.91
White -.024 .888 1.000 -2.32 2.27
Indian .136 .955 .999 -2.33 2.60
Indian Black .474 .890 .951 -1.82 2.77
White -.160 .888 .998 -2.45 2.13
Coloured -.136 .955 .999 -2.60 2.33
Agape Black White 3.178(*) .759 .000 1.22 5.14
Coloured 1.573 .827 .228 -.56 3.71
Indian 3.252(*) .827 .001 1.12 5.39
White Black -3.178(*) .759 .000 -5.14 -1.22
Coloured -1.604 .825 .211 -3.73 .52
Indian .075 .825 1.000 -2.05 2.20
Coloured Black -1.573 .827 .228 -3.71 .56
White 1.604 .825 .211 -.52 3.73
Indian 1.679 .887 .233 -.61 3.97
Indian Black -3.252(*) .827 .001 -5.39 -1.12
White -.075 .825 1.000 -2.20 2.05
Coloured -1.679 .887 .233 -3.97 .61
* The mean difference is significant at the .05 level.
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Race
IndianColouredWhiteBlack
Mean
of
ero
s s
co
re
17
16
15
14
13
15.402
15.136
14.598
14.973
Figure 6.19 Means of eros lovestyle as determined by race
Race
IndianColouredWhiteBlack
Mean
of
lud
us s
co
re
28
27
26
25
24
25.94
24.72
26.91
24.2
Figure 6.20 Means of ludus lovestyle as determined by race
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Race
IndianColouredWhiteBlack
Mean
of
sto
rge s
co
re
20
19
18
17
16
17.765
19.037
18.196
18.633
Figure 6.21 Means of storge lovestyle as determined by race
Race
IndianColouredWhiteBlack
Mean
of
pra
gm
a s
co
re
23
22
21
20
19
19.59
20.98
22.14
20.92
Figure 6.22 Means of pragma lovestyle as determined by race
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Race
IndianColouredWhiteBlack
Mean
of
man
ia s
co
re
24
23
22
21
20
22.074
22.2122.234
21.6
Figure 6.23 Means of mania lovestyle as determined by race
Race
IndianColouredWhiteBlack
Mean
of
ag
ap
e s
co
re
19
18
17
16
15
15.46
17.14
15.53
18.71
Figure 6.24 Means of agape lovestyle as determined by race
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When considering gender and dominant lovestyles Figures 6.25 and 6.26 below
provide a visual representation of the gender proportion with regard to dominant
lovestyle. It is clear that men were more agapic and more ludic than women and
women were more eros, storge and pragma than men.
Agape
Mania
Pragma
Storge
Ludus
Eros
Agape
Mania
Pragma
Storge
Ludus
Eros
Figure 6.25 Proportion of male samples‟
predominant lovestyle
Figure 6.26 Proportion of female samples‟
predominant lovestyle
A one-way between groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between gender and lovestyles, as measured by Love Attitude Scale. Table 6.100
outlines the means and standard deviations by gender of each lovestyle and Figures
6.27-32 are graphic representations of the means of the six lovestyles as determined
by gender. Once again, although Levene‘s test for homogeneity of variances was
violated for ludus (.000) the effect of heterogeneity of variances on the Type I error
was minimal (Hinkle et al., 1988). There was no statistically significant differences at
the p<.05 level in the scores between gender on eros, pragma, mania and agape but
there was for ludus [F(1,386)=32.98, p=.000] and storge [F(1,384)=37.28, p=.021]
(Table 6.101). The effect size, calculated using eta squared, was a medium effect
size (.07) for ludus and a small effect size (.01) for storge. Table 6.100, 6.101 and
Figures 6.28, 6.29 showed that men were significantly more ludus than women and
women were significantly more storge than men.
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Table 6.100 Lovestyles descriptives determined by gender
N Mean
Std.
Deviation
Std.
Error
95% Confidence
Interval for Mean
Minimum Maximum
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Eros Male 190 15.37 5.066 .368 14.65 16.10 7 35
Female 198 14.62 4.896 .348 13.94 15.31 2 30
Total 388 14.99 4.988 .253 14.49 15.49 2 35
Ludus Male 190 23.67 7.008 .508 22.67 24.68 1 35
Female 198 27.33 5.481 .390 26.57 28.10 10 35
Total 388 25.54 6.529 .331 24.89 26.19 1 35
Storge Male 189 19.04 6.247 .454 18.15 19.94 7 35
Female 197 17.60 5.968 .425 16.76 18.44 7 34
Total 386 18.31 6.141 .313 17.69 18.92 7 35
Pragma Male 189 21.24 6.310 .459 20.33 22.14 7 35
Female 196 20.64 6.318 .451 19.75 21.53 7 35
Total 385 20.93 6.313 .322 20.30 21.57 7 35
Mania Male 189 22.56 6.190 .450 21.67 23.44 7 35
Female 197 21.47 5.890 .420 20.64 22.29 9 34
Total 386 22.00 6.055 .308 21.39 22.61 7 35
Agape Male 189 16.47 6.091 .443 15.60 17.34 7 35
Female 197 16.90 5.532 .394 16.12 17.68 7 33
Total 386 16.69 5.809 .296 16.11 17.27 7 35
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Table 6.101 One way ANOVA lovestyles determined by gender
Sum of
Squares df Mean Square F Sig.
Eros Between
Groups 54.899 1 54.899 2.214 .138
Within Groups 9573.059 386 24.801
Total 9627.959 387
Ludus Between
Groups 1298.572 1 1298.572 32.977 .000*
Within Groups 15199.768 386 39.378
Total 16498.340 387
Storge Between
Groups 200.946 1 200.946 5.390 .021*
Within Groups 14316.981 384 37.284
Total 14517.927 385
Pragma Between
Groups 34.678 1 34.678 .870 .352
Within Groups 15267.566 383 39.863
Total 15302.244 384
Mania Between
Groups 114.298 1 114.298 3.135 .077
Within Groups 14001.702 384 36.463
Total 14116.000 385
Agape Between
Groups 17.635 1 17.635 .522 .470
Within Groups 12973.059 384 33.784
Total 12990.694 385
* significant at the .05 level
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Gender
FemaleMale
Mean
of
ero
s s
co
re
17
16
15
14
13
14.621
15.374
Figure 6.27 Means of eros lovestyle as determined by gender
Gender
FemaleMale
Mean
of
Lu
du
s s
co
re
28
27
26
25
24
23
27.33
23.67
Figure 6.28 Means of ludus lovestyle as determined by gender
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Gender
FemaleMale
Mean
of
sto
rge s
co
re
20
19
18
17
16
17.599
19.042
Figure 6.29 Means of storge lovestyle as determined by gender
Gender
FemaleMale
Mean
of
pra
gm
a s
co
re
23
22
21
20
19
20.638
21.238
Figure 6.30 Means of pragma lovestyle as determined by gender
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Gender
FemaleMale
Mean
of
man
ia s
co
re
24
23
22
21
20
21.467
22.556
Figure 6.31 Means of mania lovestyle as determined by gender
Gender
FemaleMale
Mean
of
ag
ap
e s
co
re
18
17
16
15
14
16.898
16.471
Figure 6.32 Means of agape lovestyle as determined by gender
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When exploring the interaction effect of race x gender for lovestyles the following
results emerged.
A two-way between-the-groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between gender, race and eros lovestyle, as measured by Love Attitude Scale.
Although Levene‘s test for homogeneity of variances was violated for eros (.018), the
South African sample sizes are relatively equal, and therefore the effect of
heterogeneity of variances on the Type I error is minimal (Hinkle et al., 1988). The
main effect for gender [F(1,374)=2.028, p=.155], race [F(3,374)=.517, p=.671] and the
interaction effect [F(3,374)=.799, p=.495] did not reach statistical significance at the
.05 (Table 6.102, 6.103).
Table 6.102 Eros lovestyle descriptives determined by race and gender
Gender Race Mean Std. Deviation N
Male Black 16.02 6.080 52
White 14.86 3.734 58
Coloured 15.26 4.321 35
Indian 15.43 6.005 42
Total 15.39 5.096 187
Female Black 13.98 4.723 56
White 14.21 4.474 53
Coloured 15.04 4.676 46
Indian 15.38 5.830 40
Total 14.58 4.890 195
Total Black 14.96 5.489 108
White 14.55 4.098 111
Coloured 15.14 4.499 81
Indian 15.40 5.883 82
Total 14.97 5.002 382
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Table 6.103 Eros lovestyle Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by gender
and race
Source
Type III Sum
of Squares df
Mean
Square F Sig.
Partial Eta
Squared
Corrected Model 161.902(a) 7 23.129 .923 .488 .017
Intercept 83810.938 1 83810.938 3345.340 .000 .899
Gender 50.806 1 50.806 2.028 .155 .005
Race 38.884 3 12.961 .517 .671 .004
Gender * Race 60.038 3 20.013 .799 .495 .006
Error 9369.836 374 25.053
Total 95182.000 382
Corrected Total 9531.738 381
a R Squared = .017 (Adjusted R Squared = -.001)
A two-way between-the-groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between gender, race and ludus lovestyle, as measured by Love Attitude Scale.
Although Levene‘s test for homogeneity of variances was violated for ludus (.000), the
South African sample sizes were relatively equal, and therefore the effect of
heterogeneity of variances on the Type I error was minimal (Hinkle et al., 1988). As
expected, following the previous analysis with regard to race and gender, there was a
statistically significant main effect for gender [F(1,374)=34.606, p=.000] and there
was a statistically significant main effect for race [F(3,374)=4.865, p=.002]. The effect
size was medium for gender (partial eta squared =.09) and small for race (partial eta
squared =.04) (Table 6.104). The interaction effect [F(3,374)=.359, p=.783] did not
reach statistical significance (Table 6.104, 6.105).
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Table 6.104 Ludus lovestyle descriptives determined by race and gender
Gender Race Mean Std. Deviation N
Male Black 22.37 7.018 52
White 25.07 5.416 58
Coloured 22.06 6.915 35
Indian 24.62 8.687 42
Total 23.65 7.046 187
Female Black 26.12 5.734 56
White 29.11 5.075 53
Coloured 26.74 5.066 46
Indian 27.33 5.704 40
Total 27.33 5.485 195
Total Black 24.31 6.629 108
White 27.00 5.612 111
Coloured 24.72 6.341 81
Indian 25.94 7.464 82
Total 25.53 6.553 382
Table 6.105 Ludus lovestyle Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by gender
and race
Source
Type III Sum of
Squares df
Mean
Square F Sig.
Partial Eta
Squared
Corrected Model 1886.521(a) 7 269.503 6.963 .000 .115
Intercept 240119.822 1 240119.822
6204.2
77 .000 .943
Gender 1339.336 1 1339.336 34.606 .000* .085
Race 564.869 3 188.290 4.865 .002* .038
Gender * Race 41.674 3 13.891 .359 .783 .003
Error 14474.663 374 38.702
Total 265318.000 382
Corrected Total 16361.183 381
a R Squared = .115 (Adjusted R Squared = .099) * significant at the .05 level
A two-way between-the-groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between gender, race and storge lovestyle, as measured by Love Attitude Scale. As
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per previous findings there was a statistically significant main effect for gender
[F(1,372)=6.231, p=.013]; the effect size for gender (partial eta squared =.02) was
small (Table 6.106, 6.107, Figure 6.44). The main effect for race [F(3,372)=.753,
p=.521] and the interaction effect [F(3,372)=.482, p=.695] did not reach statistical
significance (Table 6.106, 6.107).
Table 6.106 Storge lovestyle descriptives determined by race and gender
Gender Race Mean Std. Deviation N
Male Black 18.85 6.705 52
White 19.33 5.226 58
Coloured 19.71 5.954 35
Indian 18.85 7.220 41
Total 19.16 6.222 186
Female Black 18.25 5.907 55
White 16.96 6.639 53
Coloured 18.52 5.947 46
Indian 16.65 5.072 40
Total 17.63 5.975 194
Total Black 18.54 6.285 107
White 18.20 6.033 111
Coloured 19.04 5.942 81
Indian 17.77 6.311 81
Total 18.38 6.137 380
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Table 6.107 Storge lovestyle Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by race
and gender
Source
Type III Sum
of Squares df
Mean
Square F Sig.
Partial Eta
Squared
Corrected Model 362.922(a) 7 51.846 1.386 .210 .025
Intercept 124968.068 1 124968.068 3341.885 .000 .900
Gender 233.008 1 233.008 6.231 .013* .016
Race 84.486 3 28.162 .753 .521 .006
Gender * Race 54.050 3 18.017 .482 .695 .004
Error 13910.749 372 37.394
Total 142669.000 380
Corrected Total 14273.671 379
a R Squared = .025 (Adjusted R Squared = .007) * significant at the .05 level
A two-way between-the-groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between gender, race and pragma lovestyle, as measured by Love Attitude Scale.
The main effect for gender [F(1,371)=.986, p=.321], race [F(3,371)=2.465, p=.062]
and the interaction effect [F(3,371)=.348, p=.791] did not reach statistical significance
(Table 6.108, 6.109).
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Table 6.108 Pragma lovestyle descriptives determined by race and gender
Gender Race Mean Std. Deviation N
Male Black 21.60 5.805 52
White 22.07 6.113 58
Coloured 21.54 6.036 35
Indian 19.66 7.371 41
Total 21.31 6.329 186
Female Black 20.07 6.817 55
White 22.12 5.353 52
Coloured 20.54 6.285 46
Indian 19.53 6.714 40
Total 20.62 6.328 193
Total Black 20.81 6.362 107
White 22.09 5.740 110
Coloured 20.98 6.160 81
Indian 19.59 7.010 81
Total 20.96 6.329 379
Table 6.109 Pragma lovestyle Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by race
and gender
Source
Type III Sum
of Squares df
Mean
Square F Sig.
Partial Eta
Squared
Corrected
Model 376.771(a) 7 53.824 1.352 .225 .025
Intercept 160901.258 1 160901.258 4042.539 .000 .916
Gender 39.241 1 39.241 .986 .321 .003
Race 294.316 3 98.105 2.465 .062 .020
Gender * Race 41.510 3 13.837 .348 .791 .003
Error 14766.553 371 39.802
Total 181611.000 379
Corrected Total 15143.325 378
a R Squared = .025 (Adjusted R Squared = .006)
A two-way between-the-groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between gender, race and mania lovestyle, as measured by Love Attitude Scale. The
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main effect for gender [F(1,372)= 2.445, p=.119], race [F(3,372)=.315, p=.815] and
the interaction effect [F(3,372)=.322, p=.809] did not reach statistical significance
(Table 6.110, 6.111).
Table 6.110 Mania lovestyle descriptives determined by race and gender
Gender Race Mean Std. Deviation N
Male Black 22.19 6.212 52
White 23.09 6.065 58
Coloured 22.43 5.381 35
Indian 22.27 7.018 41
Total 22.53 6.172 186
Female Black 20.82 5.746 56
White 21.29 5.771 52
Coloured 22.04 6.620 46
Indian 21.87 5.487 40
Total 21.45 5.895 194
Total Black 21.48 5.987 108
White 22.24 5.969 110
Coloured 22.21 6.082 81
Indian 22.07 6.273 81
Total 21.98 6.048 380
Table 6.111 Mania lovestyle Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by race and
gender
Source
Type III Sum
of Squares df
Mean
Square F Sig.
Partial Eta
Squared
Corrected Model 184.430(a) 7 26.347 .716 .658 .013
Intercept 178790.053 1 178790.053 4861.678 .000 .929
Gender 89.916 1 89.916 2.445 .119 .007
Race 34.749 3 11.583 .315 .815 .003
9Gender * Race 35.552 3 11.851 .322 .809 .003
Error 13680.442 372 36.775
Total 197477.000 380
Corrected Total 13864.871 379
a R Squared = .013 (Adjusted R Squared = -.005)
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A two-way between-the-groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between gender, race and agape lovestyle, as measured by Love Attitude Scale. As
per previous findings there was a statistically significant main effect for race
[F(3,372)=7.520, p=.000] - the effect size was small (partial eta squared =.05) (Table
6.140). The main effect for gender [F(1,372)=.161, p=.688] and the interaction effect
[F(3,372)=1.156, p=.326] did not reach statistical significance (Table 6.112, 6.113).
Table 6.112 Agape lovestyle descriptives determined by race and gender
Gender Race Mean Std. Deviation N
Male Black 18.19 5.757 52
White 15.12 4.960 58
Coloured 16.57 5.832 35
Indian 16.32 7.624 41
Total 16.52 6.078 186
Female Black 19.16 5.666 56
White 15.85 4.884 52
Coloured 17.57 5.548 46
Indian 14.58 4.956 40
Total 16.95 5.532 194
Total Black 18.69 5.704 108
White 15.46 4.915 110
Coloured 17.14 5.659 81
Indian 15.46 6.465 81
Total 16.74 5.802 380
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Table 6.113 Agape lovestyle Tests of Between-Subjects Effects determined by race and
gender
Source
Type III Sum
of Squares df
Mean
Square F Sig.
Partial Eta
Squared
Corrected Model 858.600(a) 7 122.657 3.835 .000 .067
Intercept 102630.477 1 102630.477 3208.527 .000 .896
Gender 5.161 1 5.161 .161 .688 .000
Race 721.641 3 240.547 7.520 .000* .057
Gender * Race 110.960 3 36.987 1.156 .326 .009
Error 11899.084 372 31.987
Total 119204.000 380
Corrected Total 12757.684 379
a R Squared = .067 (Adjusted R Squared = .050) * significant at the .05 level
In sum, the significant findings for lovestyles by race, gender and the interaction
between race and gender were as follows: 1) the Black participants were significantly
more ludus than the White participants, 2) the Indian/Asian participants were
significantly more pragma than the White participants, 3) the White and Indian/Asian
respondents were significantly more agape than the Black respondents, 4) South
African men were significantly more ludus than South African women and 5) the
female participants were significantly more storge than their male counterparts. There
were no significant findings when exploring the interaction between race and gender
and lovestyles.
6.6.7. Race and gender conclusion
In conclusion the findings that were yielded by the South African mature student
participants for the love measures were as follows:
o In love at the time of the study
The two significant findings in this section were that: 1) women were significantly
more likely to be in love than men and 2) White women were significantly more likely
to be in love with someone at the time of the study than White males. The trends that
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emerged that were of interest were: 1) Indian/Asian participants were the least likely
to be in love at the time of the study and the most likely to be in love were the White
participants closely followed by Black and Coloured participants; 2) when comparing
the males across race, Black men were the most likely to be in love at the time of the
study and Coloured men, Indian/Asian men were the least likely to be in love; 3) when
comparing the females across race, White women were the most likely to be in love
at the time of the study and Indian/Asian women were the least likely to be in love.
Although there were no other significant results in gender within race, the same trend
was followed by the Black, Coloured and Indian/Asian groups - women were more
likely to be in love than their male counterparts.
o Love as the basis of marriage
When considering race group differences, Indian/Asian participants were significantly
more likely to marry someone they did not love, while White participants were
significantly less likely to marry someone they did not love. Even though there were
no overall gender differences, when probing race by gender it was found that Black
male participants were significantly more likely to marry someone they did not love,
while White males were significantly less likely to marry someone they did not love
when compared to males from other racial groups. Indian/Asian females were
significantly more likely to marry someone they did not love when compared to
females from other racial groups. Finally when exploring gender within race it was
found that Black males were significantly more likely to marry someone they did not
love than Black females.
o Love as a basis for the maintenance of marriage
No significant differences were found amongst race, gender, race by gender and
gender within race in the current South African sample when considering both
Simpson et al.‘s (1986) questions with regard to the importance of love in the
maintenance of marriage.
o Romantic beliefs
Even though no significant differences emerged when interrogating the data by race
or gender, the trends that emerged were: 1) Black participants were more romantic
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than their White, Coloured and Indian/Asian counterparts; and 2) South African
females were more romantic than their male counterparts. When investigating for
effect for the interaction between race and gender there was a statistical significance:
Black women and Indian/Asian men scored high on romanticism relative to the White
men, White women, Black men, and Indian/Asian women. For the White and
Coloured groups the difference in romanticism scores for men and women were
small, whereas for the Black and Indian/Asian groups clear differences could be
observed.
o Attachment styles
No significant differences emerged when interrogating the attachment style data by
race, gender, race by gender or gender within race. The trends that emerged that
were of interest were that: 1) the predominate attachment style across race was
secure - with the exception of the Black group who had the same proportion for
secure, dismissing and fearful attachment styles; 2) although both males and females
endorsed the secure attachment styles the most, females who were insecurely
attached were more likely to be preoccupied when compared to males and men who
were insecurely attached were more likely to be dismissing and fearful when
compared to females; 3) White male participants endorsed secure attachment and
preoccupied attachment the highest when compared to males from other racial
groups, while the Black male participants endorsed dismissing and fearful the highest
when compared to males from other racial groups; 4) the White female participants
endorsed secure attachment and preoccupied attachment the highest when
compared to females from other racial groups, while the Black female participants
endorsed the dismissing attachment style when compared to females from other
racial groups; and 5) Black and Coloured males were predominately fearfully attached
when compared to their female counterparts whereas most Black and Coloured
females endorsed a preoccupied attachment style when compared to their male
counterparts, the majority of White and Indian/Asian males endorsed a dismissing
attachment style when compared to their female counterparts whereas most White
and Indian/Asian females, like Black and Coloured females, endorsed a preoccupied
attachment style when compared to their male counterparts.
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o Lovestyles
Lovestyles significant findings by race, gender and the interaction between race and
gender were as follows: 1) the Black participants were significantly more ludus than
the White participants, 2) the Indian/Asian participants were significantly more
pragma than the White participants, 3) the White and Indian/Asian respondents were
significantly more agape than the Black respondents, 4) South African men were
significantly more ludus than South African women and 5) the female participants
were significantly more storge than their male counterparts. There were no significant
findings when exploring the interaction between race and gender and lovestyles.
Table 6.113 outlines the significant findings for the race, gender, race by gender,
gender within race section and race by gender interaction.
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Table 6.114 Summary of significant findings by race, gender, race by gender, gender within race and race by gender
interaction
In love at time of study
Love as basis for marriage
Love as basis for
maintenance of marriage
Romantic beliefs
Attachment styles
Lovestyles
Race
Black + ludus* - agape*
White +* - ludus* - pragma* + agape*
Coloured
Indian/Asian -* + pragma* + agape*
Gender
Male -* + ludus* - storge*
Female +* - ludus* + storge*
Race by gender
Male Black -*
White +*
Coloured Indian/Asian
Female Black
White
Coloured Indian/Asian -*
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In love at time of study
Love as basis for marriage
Love as basis for
maintenance of marriage
Romantic beliefs
Attachment styles
Lovestyles
Gender within race
Black Male -* Female +*
White Male -*
Female +*
Coloured Male
Female Indian/Asian Male
Female
Race by gender interaction
*
* significant at the .05 level
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6.7. Love results by socioeconomic status
6.7.1. Socioeconomic status and race
For the purposes of this study socioeconomic status was divided into the following
categories: upper (family income more than R400 000 per annum), upper middle
(R220-399 000 pa), middle (R100-219 000 pa), and lower middle (R40-99 000 pa)
and lower (less than R39 000 pa).
Although the majority of the participants fell into the upper middle and middle income
categories across race (Table 6.115, Figure 6.33), Table 6.116 indicates significant
differences were observed between race and socioeconomic status. The
standardised residual in the upper income category was greater than 2.00 in the
White group (2.1) and the standardised residual in the lower income category was
greater than 2.00 in the Black group (4.0) (Table 6.115). It can be therefore concluded
that these groups were the major contributors to the significance of the chi-square
(Hinkle et al., 1988). White participants were significantly more likely to be in the
upper income group when compared to their Black, Coloured and Indian/Asian
counterparts; and Black participants were significantly more likely to be in the lower
income group when compared to their White, Coloured and Indian/Asian
counterparts.
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Table 6.115 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and race
Socioeconomic status
Race
Upper
Upper
Middle Middle
Lower
Middle Lower Total
Black Count 12 30 39 10 15 106
% within
Socioeconomic status 17.9% 25.9% 27.9% 28.6% 75.0% 28.0%
Std. Residual -1.6 -.4 .0 .1 4.0
White Count 29 39 36 6 2 112
% within
Socioeconomic status 43.3% 33.6% 25.7% 17.1% 10.0% 29.6%
Std. Residual 2.1 .8 -.9 -1.4 -1.6
Coloured Count 10 21 38 10 2 81
% within
Socioeconomic status 14.9% 18.1% 27.1% 28.6% 10.0% 21.4%
Std. Residual -1.1 -.8 1.5 .9 -1.1
Indian Count 16 26 27 9 1 79
% within
Socioeconomic status 23.9% 22.4% 19.3% 25.7% 5.0% 20.9%
Std. Residual .5 .4 -.4 .6 -1.6
Total Count 67 116 140 35 20 378
% within
Socioeconomic status 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.116 Chi-Square Test by socioeconomic status and race
Value df
Asymp. Sig. (2-
sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 37.888(a) 12 .000
Likelihood Ratio 35.269 12 .000
Linear-by-Linear Association 4.080 1 .043
N of Valid Cases 378
a 2 cells (10.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 4.18.
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Race
IndianColouredWhiteBlack
Co
un
t
40
30
20
10
0
Lower
Lower Middle
Middle
Upper Middle
Upper
Current social class
Figure 6.33 Socioeconomic status as determined by race
6.7.2. Socioeconomic status and gender
No significant differences were observed for men and women across socioeconomic
status (Table 6.117, 6.118).
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Table 6.117 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and gender
Socioeconomic status
Gender
Upper
Upper
Middle Middle
Lower
Middle Lower Total
Male Count 39 55 67 16 9 186
% within
Socioeconomic
status
56.5% 47.0% 47.9% 44.4% 47.4% 48.8%
Female Count 30 62 73 20 10 195
% within
Socioeconomic
status
43.5% 53.0% 52.1% 55.6% 52.6% 51.2%
Total Count 69 117 140 36 19 381
Socioeconomic
status 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.118 Chi-Square Test by socioeconomic status and gender
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 2.136(a) 4 .711
Likelihood Ratio 2.139 4 .710
Linear-by-Linear Association 1.078 1 .299
N of Valid Cases 381
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 9.28.
6.7.3. Socioeconomic status by race and gender
When investigating race by gender and socioeconomic status, Table 6.119 and 6.120
revealed there were significant differences. The standardised residual in the lower
income category for Black male participants (3.0) and Black female participants (2.4)
is greater than 2.00; it can be therefore be concluded that these two groups were the
major contributors to the significance of the chi-square (Hinkle et al., 1988). Black
male and female participants were significantly more likely to be in the lower income
group when compared to their male and female White, Coloured and India/Asian
counterparts. Of note, is that the chi-square assumption concerning ‗minimum
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expected cell frequency‘ was violated, nonetheless the results provide useful
information.
Table 6.119 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and race by gender
Socioeconomic status
Gender Race
Upper
Upper
Middle Middle
Lower
Middle Lower Total
Male Black Count 6 9 20 7 7 49
% within
Socioeconomic status 16.2% 16.4% 29.9% 46.7% 77.8% 26.8%
Std. Residual -1.2 -1.5 .5 1.5 3.0
White Count 16 20 17 3 2 58
% within
Socioeconomic status 43.2% 36.4% 25.4% 20.0% 22.2% 31.7%
Std. Residual 1.2 .6 -.9 -.8 -.5
Coloured Count 7 11 15 2 0 35
% within
Socioeconomic status 18.9% 20.0% 22.4% 13.3% .0% 19.1%
Std. Residual .0 .1 .6 -.5 -1.3
Indian Count 8 15 15 3 0 41
% within
Socioeconomic status 21.6% 27.3% 22.4% 20.0% .0% 22.4%
Std. Residual -.1 .8 .0 -.2 -1.4
Total Count 37 55 67 15 9 183
% within
Socioeconomic status 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Female Black Count 6 20 19 3 7 55
% within
Socioeconomic status 20.0% 33.3% 26.0% 15.8% 70.0% 28.6%
Std. Residual -.9 .7 -.4 -1.0 2.4
White Count 13 19 19 2 0 53
% within
Socioeconomic status 43.3% 31.7% 26.0% 10.5% .0% 27.6%
Std. Residual 1.6 .6 -.3 -1.4 -1.7
Coloured Count 3 10 23 8 2 46
% within
Socioeconomic status 10.0% 16.7% 31.5% 42.1% 20.0% 24.0%
Std. Residual -1.6 -1.2 1.3 1.6 -.3
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Gender Race
Upper
Upper
Middle Middle
Lower
Middle Lower Total
Indian Count 8 11 12 6 1 38
% within
Socioeconomic status 26.7% 18.3% 16.4% 31.6% 10.0% 19.8%
Std. Residual .8 -.3 -.6 1.2 -.7
Total Count 30 60 73 19 10 192
% within
Socioeconomic status 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.120 Chi-Square Test by socioeconomic status and race by gender
Gender
Value df
Asymp. Sig. (2-
sided)
Male Pearson Chi-Square 23.673(a) 12 .023
Likelihood Ratio 24.608 12 .017
Linear-by-Linear Association 7.533 1 .006
N of Valid Cases 183
Female Pearson Chi-Square 27.564(b) 12 .006
Likelihood Ratio 29.164 12 .004
Linear-by-Linear Association .007 1 .936
N of Valid Cases 192
a 8 cells (40.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 1.72. b 6 cells (30.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 1.98.
When investigating gender within race and socioeconomic status no significant
differences were found (Table 6.121 and 6.122). Once again, of note, is that the chi-
square assumption concerning ‗minimum expected cell frequency‘ was violated,
nonetheless the results provide useful information.
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Table 6.121 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and gender within race
Socioeconomic status
Race Gender
Upper
Upper
Middle Middle
Lower
Middle Lower Total
Black Male Count 6 9 20 7 7 49
% within Socioeconomic
status 50.0% 31.0% 51.3% 70.0% 50.0% 47.1%
Female Count 6 20 19 3 7 55
% within Socioeconomic
status 50.0% 69.0% 48.7% 30.0% 50.0% 52.9%
Total Count 12 29 39 10 14 104
% within Socioeconomic
status 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
White Male Count 16 20 17 3 2 58
% within Socioeconomic
status 55.2% 51.3% 47.2% 60.0% 100.0% 52.3%
Female Count 13 19 19 2 0 53
% within Socioeconomic
status 44.8% 48.7% 52.8% 40.0% .0% 47.7%
Total Count 29 39 36 5 2 111
% within Socioeconomic
status 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Coloured Male Count 7 11 15 2 0 35
% within Socioeconomic
status 70.0% 52.4% 39.5% 20.0% .0% 43.2%
Female Count 3 10 23 8 2 46
% within Socioeconomic
status 30.0% 47.6% 60.5% 80.0% 100.0% 56.8%
Total Count 10 21 38 10 2 81
% within Socioeconomic
status 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Indian Male Count 8 15 15 3 0 41
% within Socioeconomic
status 50.0% 57.7% 55.6% 33.3% .0% 51.9%
Female Count 8 11 12 6 1 38
% within Socioeconomic
status 50.0% 42.3% 44.4% 66.7% 100.0% 48.1%
Total Count 16 26 27 9 1 79
% within Socioeconomic 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
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status
Table 6.122 Chi-Square Test by socioeconomic status and race
Gender
Value df
Asymp. Sig. (2-
sided)
Black Pearson Chi-Square 5.470(a) 4 .242
Likelihood Ratio 5.604 4 .231
Linear-by-Linear Association 1.410 1 .235
N of Valid Cases 104
White Pearson Chi-Square 2.427(b) 4 .658
Likelihood Ratio 3.196 4 .526
Linear-by-Linear Association .039 1 .843
N of Valid Cases 111
Coloured Pearson Chi-Square 7.578(c) 4 .108
Likelihood Ratio 8.519 4 .074
Linear-by-Linear Association 7.385 1 .007
N of Valid Cases 81
Indian Pearson Chi-Square 2.839(d) 4 .585
Likelihood Ratio 3.244 4 .518
Linear-by-Linear Association .686 1 .408
N of Valid Cases 79
a 1 cells (10.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 4.71. b 4 cells (40.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is .95. c 4 cells (40.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is .86. d 4 cells (40.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is .48.
6.7.4. Socioeconomic status and love experiences
There were no statistically significant results when considering socioeconomic status
and the sample‘s response to the question ‗Are you currently in love with someone‘
(Table 6.123, 6.124).
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Table 6.123 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and “Are you currently in love
with someone?”
Socioeconomic status
Upper
Upper
Middle Middle
Lower
Middle Lower Total
Yes Count 40 75 86 22 13 236
% within
Socioeconomic status 58.0% 63.6% 61.4% 61.1% 68.4% 61.8%
No Count 29 43 54 14 6 146
% within
Socioeconomic status 42.0% 36.4% 38.6% 38.9% 31.6% 38.2%
Total Count 69 118 140 36 19 382
% within
Socioeconomic status 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.124 Chi-Square Test by socioeconomic status and “Are you currently in love
with someone?”
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square .951(a) 4 .917
Likelihood Ratio .957 4 .916
Linear-by-Linear
Association .298 1 .585
N of Valid Cases 382
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 7.26.
6.7.5. Socioeconomic status and love as a basis for marriage
Table 6.125 indicates individuals with upper (81.4%), upper middle (81.4%), middle
(82.1.8%) and middle lower (83.8%) income groups were more likely to marry
someone they loved, whereas individuals from the lower income group (60.0%) were
less likely to marry someone they loved. There were no significant differences
between the socioeconomic status and whether an individual would or would not
marry someone they loved (Table 6.126).
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Table 6.125 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and “If a man or woman had all
the other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love
with him or her?”
Socioeconomic status
Upper
Upper
Middle Middle
Lower
Middle Lower Total
Yes Count 13 22 25 6 8 74
% within
Socioeconomic status 18.6% 18.6% 17.9% 16.2% 40.0% 19.2%
Std. Residual -.1 -.1 -.4 -.4 2.1
No Count 57 96 115 31 12 311
% within
Socioeconomic status 81.4% 81.4% 82.1% 83.8% 60.0% 80.8%
Std. Residual .1 .1 .2 .2 -1.0
Total Count 70 118 140 37 20 385
% within
Socioeconomic status 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.126 Chi-Square Test by socioeconomic status and “If a man or woman had all
the other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love
with him or her?”
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 5.989(a) 4 .200
Likelihood Ratio 5.029 4 .284
Linear-by-Linear Association 1.154 1 .283
N of Valid Cases 385
a 1 cells (10.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 3.84.
6.7.6. Socioeconomic status and love as a basis for the maintenance of marriage
There were no statistically significant results when considering socioeconomic status
and the sample‘s response to the question ‗If love has completely disappeared from a
marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and start new
lives‘ (Table 6.127, 6.128).
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Table 6.127 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and “ If love has completely
disappeared from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean
break and start new lives”
Socioeconomic status
Upper
Upper
Middle Middle
Lower
Middle Lower Total
Agree Count 38 70 75 22 13 218
% within
Socioeconomic status 54.3% 59.3% 53.6% 59.5% 65.0% 56.6%
Disagree Count 32 48 65 15 7 167
% within
Socioeconomic status 45.7% 40.7% 46.4% 40.5% 35.0% 43.4%
Total Count 70 118 140 37 20 385
% within
Socioeconomic status 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.128 Chi-square Test by socioeconomic status and “If love has completely
disappeared from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean
break and start new lives”
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 1.729(a) 4 .785
Likelihood Ratio 1.740 4 .783
Linear-by-Linear Association .190 1 .663
N of Valid Cases 385
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 8.68.
There were no statistically significant results when considering socioeconomic status
and the sample‘s response to the question ‗In my opinion, the disappearance of love
is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as such‘
(Table 6.129, 6.130).
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Table 6.129 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and “In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not
be viewed as such”
Socioeconomic status
Upper
Upper
Middle Middle
Lower
Middle Lower Total
Agree Count 40 58 70 19 12 199
% within
Socioeconomic status 57.1% 49.6% 50.7% 52.8% 63.2% 52.4%
Disagree Count 30 59 68 17 7 181
% within
Socioeconomic status 42.9% 50.4% 49.3% 47.2% 36.8% 47.6%
Total Count 70 117 138 36 19 380
% within
Socioeconomic status 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.130 Chi-square Test by socioeconomic status and “In my opinion, the
disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not
be viewed as such”
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 2.045(a) 4 .727
Likelihood Ratio 2.061 4 .725
Linear-by-Linear Association .007 1 .935
N of Valid Cases 380
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 9.05.
6.7.7 Socioeconomic status and romantic beliefs
There were no statistically significant results when considering socioeconomic status
and the sample‘s total romanticism scores (Table 6.131, 6.132).
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Table 6.131 Total romanticism descriptives determined by Socioeconomic status
N Mean
Std.
Deviation Std. Error
95% Confidence
Interval for Mean Min Max
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Upper 70 52.7000 13.24830 1.58347 49.5411 55.8589 19.00 89.00
Upper Middle 118 53.9915 12.40519 1.14199 51.7299 56.2532 21.00 82.00
Middle 140 52.7786 12.61041 1.06577 50.6713 54.8858 24.00 89.00
Lower Middle 37 52.7838 18.21192 2.99402 46.7116 58.8559 15.00 90.00
Lower 20 52.5000 11.43632 2.55724 47.1476 57.8524 28.00 77.00
Total 385 53.1221 13.18688 .67207 51.8007 54.4435 15.00 90.00
Table 6.132 One way ANOVA: Total romanticism determined by Socioeconomic status
Sum of Squares df Mean Square F Sig.
Between Groups 130.165 4 32.541 .186 .946
Within Groups 66645.098 380 175.382
Total 66775.262 384
6.7.8. Socioeconomic status and attachment patterns
Table 6.133 and Figure 6.34 indicated differences in attachment style when
investigating the link between socioeconomic status and attachment style. The upper
and upper middle income group endorsed the secure attachment style the most. The
middle income group endorse the fearful attachment style the most. The middle lower
income group endorsed the preoccupied attachment style, while the lower income
group endorsed the dismissing attachment style the most. The chi-square test
showed there were significant differences between the attachment style and
socioeconomic status (Table 6.134). Table 6.133 shows that the standardised
residual in the lower income category is greater than 2.00 (in absolute value) in the
dismissing group (2.0). It can be therefore concluded that this group was the major
contributor to the significance of the chi-square (Hinkle et al., 1988). Dismissing
participants were significantly more likely to be in the lower income group.
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Table 6.133 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and attachment style
Socioeconomic status
Attachment
Style
Upper
Upper
Middle Middle
Lower
Middle Lower Total
Secure Count 23 34 27 8 2 94
% within
Socioeconomic status 46.9% 40.5% 29.3% 32.0% 11.8% 35.2%
Std. Residual 1.4 .8 -.9 -.3 -1.6
Preoccupied Count 10 14 21 9 2 56
% within
Socioeconomic status 20.4% 16.7% 22.8% 36.0% 11.8% 21.0%
Std. Residual -.1 -.9 .4 1.6 -.8
Dismissing Count 7 21 15 3 7 53
% within
Socioeconomic status 14.3% 25.0% 16.3% 12.0% 41.2% 19.9%
Std. Residual -.9 1.1 -.8 -.9 2.0
Fearful Count 9 15 29 5 6 64
% within
Socioeconomic status 18.4% 17.9% 31.5% 20.0% 35.3% 24.0%
Std. Residual -.8 -1.1 1.5 -.4 1.0
Total Count 49 84 92 25 17 267
% within
Socioeconomic status 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.134 Chi-square Test by Socioeconomic status and attachment style
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 22.836(a) 12 .029
Likelihood Ratio 22.427 12 .033
Linear-by-Linear Association 7.571 1 .006
N of Valid Cases 267
a 4 cells (20.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 3.37.
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Attachment Style
FearfulDismissingPre-occupiedSecure
Co
un
t
40
30
20
10
0
Lower
Lower Middle
Middle
Upper Middle
Upper
Current social class
Figure 6.34 Attachment style and socioeconomic status
6.7.9. Socioeconomic status and lovestyles
Table 6.135 and Figure 6.35 indicated that across socioeconomic status the eros
lovestyle was the most endorsed lovestyle. The second most endorse lovestyle was
agape across income group with exception of upper middle and middle lower which
endorsed the storge lovestyle. The third most endorse lovestyle by income group
was: the pragma lovestyle for the upper income group; the agape lovestyle for the
upper middle income group; storge for the middle income group; agape for the middle
lower income group; and the mania lovestyle for the lower income group. The chi-
square showed there were no significant differences between the lovestyles and
socioeconomic status (Table 6.136). Of note, is that the chi-square assumption
concerning ‗minimum expected cell frequency‘ was violated, nonetheless the results
provide useful information.
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Table 6.135 Crosstabulation by socioeconomic status and lovestyles
Socioeconomic status
Lovestyle
Upper
Upper
Middle Middle
Lower
Middle Lower Total
Eros Count 28 49 54 15 6 152
% within
Socioeconomic status 40.0% 41.5% 38.6% 40.5% 30.0% 39.5%
Ludus Count 2 10 5 4 2 23
% within
Socioeconomic status 2.9% 8.5% 3.6% 10.8% 10.0% 6.0%
Storge Count 7 25 27 8 2 69
% within
Socioeconomic status 10.0% 21.2% 19.3% 21.6% 10.0% 17.9%
Pragma Count 9 6 17 4 2 38
% within
Socioeconomic status 12.9% 5.1% 12.1% 10.8% 10.0% 9.9%
Mania Count 2 4 7 0 3 16
% within
Socioeconomic status 2.9% 3.4% 5.0% .0% 15.0% 4.2%
Agape Count 22 24 30 6 5 87
% within
Socioeconomic status 31.4% 20.3% 21.4% 16.2% 25.0% 22.6%
Total Count 70 118 140 37 20 385
% within
Socioeconomic status 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.136 Chi-square Test by socioeconomic status and lovestyles
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 26.133(a) 20 .161
Likelihood Ratio 26.285 20 .157
Linear-by-Linear Association .087 1 .769
N of Valid Cases 385
a 11 cells (36.7%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is .83.
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6.7.10 Socioeconomic status and love conclusion
When interrogating the link between socioeconomic status and race, gender, race by
gender, gender within race, the race by gender interaction and love measures there
were a number of significant findings: 1) Although the majority of the participants
across race fell into the upper middle and middle income categories, White
participants were significantly more likely to be in the upper income group when
compared to other racial groups; 2) Black participants were significantly more likely to
be in the lower income group when compared to their White, Coloured and
Indian/Asian counterparts; 3) Black male and female participants were significantly
more likely to be in the lower income group when compared to their male and female
White, Coloured and India/Asian counterparts and 4) participants from the lower
income group were significantly more likely to have a dismissing attachment style.
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6.8. Results of love measures and lovestyles
6.8.1. Love experiences and lovestyles
Table 6.137 and Figure 6.35 indicates individuals with an eros lovestyle (69.7%) were
the most likely to be in love at the time of the study than any other lovestyle. The eros
lovestyle was closely followed by agape (66.7%) and mania (66.7%). Fifty-five
percent of storge (55.6%) and 55.3% of pragma were in love at the time of the study.
Ludus lovestyle (16.7%) was the least likely to be in love at the time of the study than
any other lovestyle. Table 6.138 shows that there were significant differences
between participants with difference lovestyles and whether they were in love with
someone at the time of the study. Table 6.137 showed that the standardised residual
in the ―Yes‖ category was greater than 2.00 (in absolute value) for the participants
whose predominant lovestyle was ludus (-2.8). In addition the standardised residual in
the ―No‖ category was greater than 2.00 (in absolute value) for the participants whose
predominant lovestyle was ludus (3.6). According to Hinkle et al. (1988) the
conclusion that can be drawn was that ludus in both categories (Yes and No) was the
major contributor to the significance of the chi-square. Ludus participants were
significantly more likely to not be in love at the time of the study when compared to
participants with other dominant lovestyles.
Table 6.137 Crosstabulation by lovestyles and “Are you currently in love with
someone?”
Lovestyle Total
Eros Ludus Storge Pragma Mania Agape
Yes Count 108 4 40 21 10 58 241
% within lovestyle 69.7% 16.7% 55.6% 55.3% 66.7% 66.7% 61.6%
Std. Residual 1.3 -2.8 -.7 -.5 .2 .6
No Count 47 20 32 17 5 29 150
% within lovestyle 30.3% 83.3% 44.4% 44.7% 33.3% 33.3% 38.4%
Std. Residual -1.6 3.6 .8 .6 -.3 -.8
Total Count 155 24 72 38 15 87 391
% within lovestyle 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
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Table 6.138 Chi-square Test by lovestyle and “Are you currently in love with
someone?”
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 27.634(a) 5 .000
Likelihood Ratio 27.803 5 .000
Linear-by-Linear Association .010 1 .920
N of Valid Cases 391
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 5.75.
Are you currently in love with someone?
NoYes
Co
un
t
120
100
80
60
40
20
0
Agape
Mania
Pragma
Storge
Ludus
Eros
Lovestyle
Figure 6.35 Are you currently in love with someone by lovestyle
6.8.2. Love as a basis for marriage and lovestyles
Table 6.139 and Figure 6.36 indicate individuals with an agape lovestyle (89.8%) and
eros lovestyle (87.9%) were the most likely to marry someone they love than any
other lovestyle. Following these lovestyles were storge (75%), pragma (65.8%) and
mania (62.5%). Fifty percent of the individuals in the ludus lovestyle said they would
marry someone they did not love. Table 6.140 shows that there were significant
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differences between the lovestyles and whether they would or would not marry
someone they were not in love with. Table 6.139 shows that the standardised residual
in the ―Yes‖ category was greater than 2.00 (in absolute value) for the participants
whose predominant lovestyle was eros (-2.1), ludus (3.4), pragma (2.1) and agape (-
2.0). According to Hinkle et al. (1988) the conclusion that could be drawn was that
eros, ludus, pragma and agape in the Yes category were the major contributors to the
significance of the chi-square. Eros and agape participants were significantly more
likely to marry someone they were in love with when compared to participants with
other dominant lovestyles; while ludus and pragma participants were significantly less
likely to marry someone they were in love with when compared to participants with
other dominant lovestyles.
Table 6.139 Crosstabulation by lovestyles and “If a man or woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with him or
her?”
Lovestyle
Total Eros Ludus Storge Pragma Mania Agape
Yes Count 19 12 18 13 6 9 77
% within lovestyle 12.1% 50.0% 25.0% 34.2% 37.5% 10.2% 19.5%
Std. Residual -2.1 3.4 1.1 2.1 1.6 -2.0
No Count 138 12 54 25 10 79 318
% within lovestyle 87.9% 50.0% 75.0% 65.8% 62.5% 89.8% 80.5%
Std. Residual 1.0 -1.7 -.5 -1.0 -.8 1.0
Total Count 157 24 72 38 16 88 395
% within lovestyle 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.140 Chi-square Test by lovestyle and “If a man or woman had all the other
qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with him or
her?”
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 34.454(a) 5 .000
Likelihood Ratio 31.529 5 .000
Linear-by-Linear Association .032 1 .859
N of Valid Cases 395
a 2 cells (16.7%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 3.12.
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If a man or woman had all the other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with
him or her?
NoYes
Co
un
t
125
100
75
50
25
0
Agape
Mania
Pragma
Storge
Ludus
Eros
Lovestyle
Figure 6.36 “If a man or woman had all the other qualities you desired, would you
marry this person if you were not in love with him or her?” as determined by lovestyle
6.8.3. Love as a basis for the maintenance of marriage and lovestyles
Table 6.141 indicates individuals with a ludus and mania lovestyle (62.5%) were the
most likely to agree with the statement ‗If love has completely disappeared from a
marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and start new
lives‘ when compared to the other lovestyles. These lovestyles were closely followed
by the eros lovestyle (60.5%). The storge lovestyle (48.6%) was the least likely to
agree with the statement than any other lovestyle. Even though these differences
emerged there were no significant differences between the lovestyles and whether
individuals agreed or disagreed with the above statement (Table 6.142).
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Table 6.141 Crosstabulation by lovestyles and “If love has completely disappeared
from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and
start new lives”
Lovestyle Total
Eros Ludus Storge Pragma Mania Agape
Agree Count 95 15 35 21 10 48 224
% within
lovestyle 60.5% 62.5% 48.6% 55.3% 62.5% 54.5% 56.7%
Disagree Count 62 9 37 17 6 40 171
% within
lovestyle 39.5% 37.5% 51.4% 44.7% 37.5% 45.5% 43.3%
Total Count 157 24 72 38 16 88 395
% within
lovestyle
100.0
%
100.0
%
100.0
%
100.0
%
100.0
%
100.0
% 100.0%
Table 6.142 Chi-square Test by lovestyle and “If love has completely disappeared from
a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and start
new lives”
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 3.593(a) 5 .609
Likelihood Ratio 3.588 5 .610
Linear-by-Linear Association .826 1 .363
N of Valid Cases 395
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 6.93.
Table 6.143 indicates individuals with a ludus lovestyle (62.5%) were the most likely
to agree with the statement ‗In my opinion, the disappearance of love is not a
sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as such‘ when
compared to the other lovestyles. Ludus was followed by the mania lovestyle (62.5%),
pragma (57.9%, storge (54.9%) and agape (51.2%). The eros lovestyle (46.5%) was
the least likely to agree with the statement than any other lovestyle. Although these
differences emerged there were no significant differences between the lovestyles and
whether individuals agreed or disagreed with the above statement (Table 6.144).
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Table 6.143 Crosstabulation by lovestyles and “In my opinion, the disappearance of
love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as
such”
Lovestyle Total
Eros Ludus Storge Pragma Mania Agape
Agree Count 73 15 39 22 10 44 203
% within
lovestyle 46.5% 68.2% 54.9% 57.9% 62.5% 51.2% 52.1%
Disagree Count 84 7 32 16 6 42 187
% within
lovestyle 53.5% 31.8% 45.1% 42.1% 37.5% 48.8% 47.9%
Total Count 157 22 71 38 16 86 390
% within
lovestyle 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0% 100.0%
Table 6.144 Chi-square Test by lovestyle and “In my opinion, the disappearance of love
is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as such”
Value df Asymp. Sig. (2-sided)
Pearson Chi-Square 5.717(a) 5 .335
Likelihood Ratio 5.791 5 .327
Linear-by-Linear Association .772 1 .380
N of Valid Cases 390
a 0 cells (.0%) have expected count less than 5. The minimum expected count is 7.67.
6.8.4. Romantic beliefs and lovestyles
A one-way between groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between romanticism and lovestyle. There was a statistically significant difference at
the p<.05 level in the scores for lovestyles [F(5,389)=2.58, p=.026] (Table 6.146). The
effect size, calculated using eta squared, was small, .03. Post hoc comparisons using
the Tukey HSD test indicated the mean score for individuals with an agape lovestyle
(M=49.648, SD=12.863) were significantly more likely to be romantic than individuals
with a storge lovestyle (Table 6.145, 6.147, Figure 6.37). There was no statistically
significant difference at the p<.01 level for any of the scores.
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Table 6.145 Total romanticism descriptives as determined by lovestyles
N Mean
Std.
Deviation
Std.
Error
95% Confidence
Interval for Mean Minimum Maximum
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Eros 157 52.605 13.70465 1.0938 50.445 54.7656 15.00 90.00
Ludus 24 57.417 14.04625 2.8672 51.486 63.3479 22.00 86.00
Storge 72 56.069 12.49713 1.4728 53.133 59.0061 27.00 87.00
Pragma 38 54.526 14.72034 2.3880 49.688 59.3648 26.00 86.00
Mania 16 51.938 8.45749 2.1144 47.431 56.4442 37.00 63.00
Agape 88 49.648 12.86360 1.3713 46.922 52.3733 27.00 89.00
Total 395 53.028 13.39356 .67390 51.703 54.3527 15.00 90.00
Table 6.146 One-way ANOVA: Total romanticism as determined by lovestyles
Sum of Squares df Mean Square F Sig.
Between Groups 2266.201 5 453.240 2.577 .026
Within Groups 68412.493 389 175.868
Total 70678.694 394
Table 6.147 Multiple comparisons: Total romanticism as determined by lovestyles
(Tukey HSD)
(I) Lovestyle (J) Lovestyle
Mean
Difference
(I-J)
Std.
Error Sig.
95% Confidence
Interval
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Eros Ludus -4.81157 2.90654 .562 -13.1359 3.5127
Storge -3.46435 1.88753 .444 -8.8702 1.9415
Pragma -1.92122 2.39756 .967 -8.7878 4.9453
Mania .66760 3.48022 1.000 -9.2997 10.6349
Agape 2.95737 1.76598 .549 -2.1004 8.0151
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(I) Lovestyle (J) Lovestyle
Mean
Difference
(I-J)
Std.
Error Sig.
95% Confidence
Interval
Ludus Eros 4.81157 2.90654 .562 -3.5127 13.1359
Storge 1.34722 3.12577 .998 -7.6049 10.2994
Pragma 2.89035 3.45773 .961 -7.0125 12.7932
Mania 5.47917 4.28013 .796 -6.7791 17.7374
Agape 7.76894 3.05390 .114 -.9774 16.5153
Storge Eros 3.46435 1.88753 .444 -1.9415 8.8702
Ludus -1.34722 3.12577 .998 -10.2994 7.6049
Pragma 1.54313 2.65908 .992 -6.0724 9.1587
Mania 4.13194 3.66529 .870 -6.3654 14.6293
Agape 6.42172(*) 2.10739 .030 .3862 12.4573
Pragma Eros 1.92122 2.39756 .967 -4.9453 8.7878
Ludus -2.89035 3.45773 .961 -12.7932 7.0125
Storge -1.54313 2.65908 .992 -9.1587 6.0724
Mania 2.58882 3.95219 .987 -8.7302 13.9078
Agape 4.87859 2.57422 .407 -2.4939 12.2511
Mania Eros -.66760 3.48022 1.000 -10.6349 9.2997
Ludus -5.47917 4.28013 .796 -17.7374 6.7791
Storge -4.13194 3.66529 .870 -14.6293 6.3654
Pragma -2.58882 3.95219 .987 -13.9078 8.7302
Agape 2.28977 3.60419 .988 -8.0326 12.6121
Agape Eros -2.95737 1.76598 .549 -8.0151 2.1004
Ludus -7.76894 3.05390 .114 -16.5153 .9774
Storge -6.42172(*) 2.10739 .030 -12.4573 -.3862
Pragma -4.87859 2.57422 .407 -12.2511 2.4939
Mania -2.28977 3.60419 .988 -12.6121 8.0326
* The mean difference is significant at the .05 level.
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Lovestyle
AgapeManiaPragmaStorgeLudusEros
Mean
of
tota
l ro
man
ticis
m s
co
re
58.00
56.00
54.00
52.00
50.00
48.00
Figure 6.37 Means of total romanticism as determined by lovestyles
The relationship between romanticism (as measured by the Romantic Beliefs Scale)
and the six lovestyles (as measured by the Love Attitude Scale) was investigated
using Pearson product-moment correlation coefficient. There were significant
associations that emerged (Table 6.148). There was a medium, positive correlation
between eros and romanticism [r=.31, n=392, p<.0005]; a weak, negative correlation
between ludus and romanticism [r=.16, n=392, p<.0005]; a weak, positive correlation
between storge and romanticism [r=.13, n=392, p<.0005]; a weak, positive correlation
between pragma and romanticism [r=.16, n=392, p<.0005]; a weak, positive
correlation between mania and romanticism [r=.28, n=392, p<.0005]; and a medium,
positive correlation between agape and romanticism [r=.34, n=392, p<.0005].
However, the higher the lovestyle score the less the lovestyle is endorsed and the
higher the romanticism score the less romantic the individual is. In other words, the
more romantic an individual the more eros and agape they were. The strength of this
relationship was moderate. Although not as strong (a modest effect), a similar
relationship emerged between romanticism and mania, storge and pragma: the more
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romantic an individual the more storge and pragma they were. Finally, the more
romantic an individual the less ludus they were. The strength of this relationship was
modest
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Table 6.148 Correlations of romanticism and lovestyles
Romanticism Eros Ludus Storge Pragma Mania Agape
Romanticism Pearson Correlation 1
Sig. (2-tailed)
N 395
Eros Pearson Correlation .311(**) 1
Sig. (2-tailed) .000
N 392 392
Ludus Pearson Correlation -.162(**) -.133(**) 1
Sig. (2-tailed) .001 .008
N 392 392 392
Storge Pearson Correlation .130(*) .094 -.186(**) 1
Sig. (2-tailed) .010 .065 .000
N 391 390 390 391
Pragma Pearson Correlation .163(**) .056 .083 .135(**) 1
Sig. (2-tailed) .001 .270 .104 .008
N 390 389 389 390 390
Mania Pearson Correlation .280(**) .196(**) -.094 .169(**) .150(**) 1
Sig. (2-tailed) .000 .000 .062 .001 .003
N 391 390 390 390 390 391
Agape Pearson Correlation .344(**) .259(**) -.410(**) .326(**) -.046 .369(**) 1
Sig. (2-tailed) .000 .000 .000 .000 .365 .000
N 391 390 390 390 390 391 391 ** Correlation is significant at the 0.01 level (2-tailed). * Correlation is significant at the 0.05 level (2-tailed).
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6.8.5. Attachment patterns x lovestyles
A one-way between groups analysis of variance was conducted to explore the link
between lovestyle and attachment style. There was a statistically significant
difference at the p<.05 level in the scores for eros lovestyle [F(3,271)=4.12, p=.007];
ludus lovestyle [F(3,271)=14.04, p=.000]; mania lovestyle [F(3,270)=16.00, p=.000];
and agape lovestyle [F(3,270)=3.74, p=.012] (Table 6.150). The effect size,
calculated using eta squared, was small (.04) for eros; medium (.13) for ludus; large
for mania (.15); and small (.04) for agape. Post hoc comparisons using the Tukey
HSD test indicated the mean score for individuals with an eros lovestyle were
significantly less likely to have a dismissing (M=16.56, SD=4.289) or fearful (M=16.12,
SD=6.163) attachment style and were significantly more likely to have a secure
attachment style (M=14.01, SD=4.312) (Table 6.149 to 6.151, Figure 6.38).
Individuals with a ludus lovestyle were significantly more likely to have a dismissing
(M=22.71, SD=5.740) or fearful (M=23.55, SD=6.856) attachment style and were
significantly less likely to have a secure (M=27.93, SD=5.740) or preoccupied
(M=27.96, SD=5.634) attachment style (Table 6.149 to 6.151, Figure 6.39).
Individuals with a mania lovestyle were significantly more likely to have a preoccupied
(M=18.25, SD=5.596) or fearful (M=20.15, SD=6.426) attachment style and were
significantly less likely to have a secure (M=23.95, SD=5.637) or dismissing
(M=24.42, SD=6.262) attachment style (Table 6.149 to 6.151 and Figure 6.42).
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Table 6.149 Lovestyle descriptives as determined by attachment style
N Mean
Std.
Deviation
Std.
Error
95%
Confidence
Interval for
Mean Min Max
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Eros Secure 97 14.01 4.312 .438 13.14 14.88 7 26
Pre-occupied 56 14.77 5.124 .685 13.40 16.14 7 30
Dismissing 55 16.56 4.289 .578 15.40 17.72 7 30
Fearful 67 16.12 6.163 .753 14.62 17.62 2 35
Total 275 15.19 5.067 .306 14.59 15.79 2 35
Ludus Secure 97 27.93 5.740 .583 26.77 29.08 8 35
Pre-occupied 56 27.96 5.634 .753 26.46 29.47 13 35
Dismissing 55 22.71 6.178 .833 21.04 24.38 10 35
Fearful 67 23.55 6.856 .838 21.88 25.22 7 35
Total 275 25.83 6.517 .393 25.05 26.60 7 35
Storge Secure 97 18.44 6.076 .617 17.22 19.67 7 33
Pre-occupied 56 18.43 6.263 .837 16.75 20.11 7 34
Dismissing 54 18.06 6.341 .863 16.32 19.79 8 32
Fearful 67 18.21 6.745 .824 16.56 19.85 7 35
Total 274 18.31 6.302 .381 17.56 19.06 7 35
Pragma Secure 97 21.97 6.170 .626 20.73 23.21 7 35
Pre-occupied 56 19.88 6.892 .921 18.03 21.72 7 33
Dismissing 54 21.50 6.703 .912 19.67 23.33 10 35
Fearful 66 19.52 6.376 .785 17.95 21.08 8 35
Total 273 20.85 6.532 .395 20.08 21.63 7 35
Mania Secure 97 23.95 5.637 .572 22.81 25.08 7 32
Pre-occupied 56 18.25 5.596 .748 16.75 19.75 9 31
Dismissing 55 24.42 6.262 .844 22.73 26.11 9 35
Fearful 66 20.15 6.426 .791 18.57 21.73 7 32
Total 274 21.96 6.427 .388 21.20 22.73 7 35
Agape Secure 97 15.59 5.379 .546 14.50 16.67 7 28
Pre-occupied 56 15.18 5.471 .731 13.71 16.64 7 27
Dismissing 55 17.98 6.531 .881 16.22 19.75 7 35
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Fearful 66 17.52 5.682 .699 16.12 18.91 7 32
Total 274 16.45 5.803 .351 15.76 17.14 7 35
Table 6.150 One-way ANOVA: Lovestyles as determined by attachment style
Sum of
Squares df
Mean
Square F Sig.
Eros Between Groups 306.623 3 102.208 4.116 .007
Within Groups 6729.544 271 24.832
Total 7036.167 274
Ludus Between Groups 1565.286 3 521.762 14.038 .000
Within Groups 10072.336 271 37.167
Total 11637.622 274
Storge Between Groups 6.688 3 2.229 .056 .983
Within Groups 10835.560 270 40.132
Total 10842.248 273
Pragma Between Groups 315.122 3 105.041 2.503 .060
Within Groups 11291.017 269 41.974
Total 11606.139 272
Mania Between Groups 1702.526 3 567.509 16.003 .000
Within Groups 9575.109 270 35.463
Total 11277.635 273
Agape Between Groups 366.599 3 122.200 3.739 .012
Within Groups 8825.186 270 32.686
Total 9191.785 273
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Table 6.151 Multiple comparisons: Lovestyles as determined by attachment style
(Tukey HSD)
Love
-style (I) Attachment
style
(J) Attachment
style
Mean
Difference
(I-J)
Std.
Error Sig.
95% Confidence
Interval
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Eros Secure Secure
Pre-occupied -.758 .836 .802 -2.92 1.40
Dismissing -2.553(*) .841 .014 -4.73 -.38
Fearful -2.109(*) .792 .041 -4.16 -.06
Pre-occupied Secure .758 .836 .802 -1.40 2.92
Pre-occupied
Dismissing -1.796 .946 .231 -4.24 .65
Fearful -1.352 .902 .440 -3.68 .98
Dismissing Secure 2.553(*) .841 .014 .38 4.73
Pre-occupied 1.796 .946 .231 -.65 4.24
Dismissing
Fearful .444 .907 .961 -1.90 2.79
Fearful Secure 2.109(*) .792 .041 .06 4.16
Pre-occupied 1.352 .902 .440 -.98 3.68
Dismissing -.444 .907 .961 -2.79 1.90
Fearful
Ludus Secure Secure
Pre-occupied -.036 1.023
1.00
0 -2.68 2.61
Dismissing 5.219(*) 1.029 .000 2.56 7.88
Fearful 4.376(*) .968 .000 1.87 6.88
Pre-occupied Secure .036 1.023
1.00
0 -2.61 2.68
Pre-occupied
Dismissing 5.255(*) 1.157 .000 2.26 8.25
Fearful 4.412(*) 1.104 .000 1.56 7.27
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Love
-style (I) Attachment
style
(J) Attachment
style
Mean
Difference
(I-J)
Std.
Error Sig.
95% Confidence
Interval
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Dismissing Secure -5.219(*) 1.029 .000 -7.88 -2.56
Pre-occupied -5.255(*) 1.157 .000 -8.25 -2.26
Dismissing
Fearful -.843 1.109 .872 -3.71 2.02
Fearful Secure -4.376(*) .968 .000 -6.88 -1.87
Pre-occupied -4.412(*) 1.104 .000 -7.27 -1.56
Dismissing .843 1.109 .872 -2.02 3.71
Fearful
Storge Secure Secure
Pre-occupied .015 1.063
1.00
0 -2.73 2.76
Dismissing .388 1.076 .984 -2.39 3.17
Fearful .234 1.006 .996 -2.37 2.84
Pre-occupied Secure -.015 1.063
1.00
0 -2.76 2.73
Pre-occupied
Dismissing .373 1.208 .990 -2.75 3.50
Fearful .220 1.147 .998 -2.75 3.18
Dismissing Secure -.388 1.076 .984 -3.17 2.39
Pre-occupied -.373 1.208 .990 -3.50 2.75
Dismissing
Fearful -.153 1.159 .999 -3.15 2.84
Fearful Secure -.234 1.006 .996 -2.84 2.37
Pre-occupied -.220 1.147 .998 -3.18 2.75
Dismissing .153 1.159 .999 -2.84 3.15
Fearful
Pragma Secure Secure
Pre-occupied 2.094 1.087 .220 -.72 4.90
Dismissing .469 1.100 .974 -2.37 3.31
Fearful 2.454 1.034 .085 -.22 5.13
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Love
-style (I) Attachment
style
(J) Attachment
style
Mean
Difference
(I-J)
Std.
Error Sig.
95% Confidence
Interval
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Pre-occupied Secure -2.094 1.087 .220 -4.90 .72
Pre-occupied
Dismissing -1.625 1.236 .554 -4.82 1.57
Fearful .360 1.177 .990 -2.68 3.40
Dismissing Secure -.469 1.100 .974 -3.31 2.37
Pre-occupied 1.625 1.236 .554 -1.57 4.82
Dismissing
Fearful 1.985 1.189 .342 -1.09 5.06
Fearful Secure -2.454 1.034 .085 -5.13 .22
Pre-occupied -.360 1.177 .990 -3.40 2.68
Dismissing -1.985 1.189 .342 -5.06 1.09
Fearful
Mania Secure Secure
Pre-occupied 5.698(*) .999 .000 3.11 8.28
Dismissing -.470 1.005 .966 -3.07 2.13
Fearful 3.797(*) .950 .000 1.34 6.25
Pre-occupied Secure -5.698(*) .999 .000 -8.28 -3.11
Pre-occupied
Dismissing -6.168(*) 1.131 .000 -9.09 -3.25
Fearful -1.902 1.082 .296 -4.70 .90
Dismissing Secure .470 1.005 .966 -2.13 3.07
Pre-occupied 6.168(*) 1.131 .000 3.25 9.09
Dismissing
Fearful 4.267(*) 1.087 .001 1.46 7.08
Fearful Secure -3.797(*) .950 .000 -6.25 -1.34
Pre-occupied 1.902 1.082 .296 -.90 4.70
Dismissing -4.267(*) 1.087 .001 -7.08 -1.46
Fearful
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Love
-style (I) Attachment
style
(J) Attachment
style
Mean
Difference
(I-J)
Std.
Error Sig.
95% Confidence
Interval
Lower
Bound
Upper
Bound
Agape Secure Secure
Pre-occupied .409 .960 .974 -2.07 2.89
Dismissing -2.394 .965 .065 -4.89 .10
Fearful -1.928 .912 .152 -4.29 .43
Pre-occupied Secure -.409 .960 .974 -2.89 2.07
Pre-occupied
Dismissing -2.803 1.085 .050 -5.61 .00
Fearful -2.337 1.039 .113 -5.02 .35
Dismissing Secure 2.394 .965 .065 -.10 4.89
Pre-occupied 2.803 1.085 .050 .00 5.61
Dismissing
Fearful .467 1.044 .970 -2.23 3.17
Fearful Secure 1.928 .912 .152 -.43 4.29
Pre-occupied 2.337 1.039 .113 -.35 5.02
Dismissing -.467 1.044 .970 -3.17 2.23
Fearful
The mean difference is significant at the .05 level.
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Attachment Style
FearfulDismissingPre-occupiedSecure
Mean
of
ero
s s
co
re
18
17
16
15
14
13
12
16.12
16.56
14.77
14.01
Figure 6.38 Mean of eros lovestyle as determined by attachment style
Attachment Style
FearfulDismissingPre-occupiedSecure
Mean
of
lud
us s
co
re
28
27
26
25
24
23
22
23.55
22.71
27.9627.93
Figure 6.39 Mean of ludus lovestyle as determined by attachment style
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Attachment Style
FearfulDismissingPre-occupiedSecure
Mean
of
sto
rge s
co
re
21
20
19
18
17
16
15
18.20918.056
18.42918.443
Figure 6.40 Mean of storge lovestyle as determined by attachment style
Attachment Style
FearfulDismissingPre-occupiedSecure
Mean
of
pra
gm
a s
co
re
23
22
21
20
19
18
17
19.52
21.5
19.88
21.97
Figure 6.41 Mean of pragma lovestyle as determined by attachment style
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Attachment Style
FearfulDismissingPre-occupiedSecure
Mean
of
man
ia s
co
re
24
22
20
18
20.15
24.42
18.25
23.95
Figure 6.42 Mean of mania lovestyle as determined by attachment style
Attachment Style
FearfulDismissingPre-occupiedSecure
Mean
of
ag
ap
e s
co
re
20
18
16
14
17.52
17.98
15.18
15.59
Figure 6.43 Mean of agape lovestyle as determined by attachment style
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6.8.6. Conclusion – love measures x lovestyles
In sum, the findings were as follows:
Individuals with a ludus lovestyle were significantly less likely to be in love at the time of
the study when compared to participants with other dominant lovestyles.
Eros and agape participants were significantly less likely to marry someone they were
not in love with when compared to participants with other dominant lovestyles; while
ludus and pragma participants were significantly more likely to marry someone they
were not in love with when compared to participants with other dominant lovestyles.
Individuals with an agape lovestyle were significantly more likely to be romantic than
individuals with a storge lovestyle. The correlations revealed that the more romantic an
individual the moderately more eros and agape they were, and the modestly more
mania, storge and pragma they were. Finally, the more romantic an individual the less
ludus they were. The strength of this relationship was modest.
Individuals with an eros lovestyle were significantly more likely to have a secure
attachment style and significantly less likely to have a dismissing or fearful attachment
style. Individuals with a ludus lovestyle were significantly more likely to have a
dismissing or fearful attachment style and were significantly less likely to have a secure
or preoccupied attachment style. Individuals with a mania lovestyle were significantly
more likely to have a preoccupied or fearful attachment style and were significantly less
likely to have a secure or a dismissing attachment style.
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6.9. Conclusion
6.9.1. Descriptives
The sample size was made up of 395 participants and the study utilised a mature
student population where the mean age was 22.8 years old. There was an even gender
distribution in the sample: 49% males and 51% females. The race distribution was
relatively even too: Black 28%, White 29%, Coloured 21% and Indian/Asian 21%.
The respondents grouped themselves into the following socioeconomic status: 49% into
the upper social class and upper-middle categories, 36% into the middle social class
category and 15% into the lower middle and lower social class categories. There is a
skewing to the higher socioeconomic status groups which may be reflective of the fact
that the sample is made up of university students that are commonly thought to be more
affluent than the general South African population. There was a relatively even split with
no significant differences between gender across socioeconomic status. With regards
racial proportions of socioeconomic status, although the majority of the participants fell
into the upper middle and middle income categories across race there were significant
differences in the upper and lower income group: 1) White participants were significantly
more likely to be in the upper income group when compared to other racial groups; 2)
Black participants were significantly more likely to be in the lower income group when
compared to their White, Coloured and Indian/Asian counterparts; and 3) Black male
and female participants were significantly more likely to be in the lower income group
when compared to their male and female White, Coloured and India/Asian counterparts.
6.9.2. Factor analysis and reliabilities
The instruments that were subjected to the data reduction technique of factor analysis
were: Romantic Beliefs Scale, Relationship Questionnaire Scale, Love Attitude Scale
and Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire. All four instruments were found
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to reduce to the same subscales / components / factors, to varying degrees in the South
African population, as were reported by the respective scale authors. Although the
Romantic Beliefs Scale did not reduce to the original four subscales, the original overall
romanticism beliefs component emerged – total romanticism (Sprecher & Metts, 1989).
The Relationship Scale Questionnaire reduced to the original two components of
avoidance and anxiety (Kurdek, 2002; Simpson et al., 1992). The Love Attitude Scale
reduced to the original six components of eros, ludus, storge, pragma, mania and agape
(Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986). Although Auckland Individualism Collectivism
Questionnaire did not reduce to the original six subscales, the original two components
of individualism and collectivism emerged (Shulruf et al., 2003).
Satisfactory reliabilities and favourable comparisons to the original scale authors‘
reliability findings of the four instruments were found in the South African sample
(Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Kurdek, 2002; Shulruf et al., 2003; Sprecher & Metts,
1989).
6.9.3. Auckland Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire
There were no statistically significant differences between racial groups on individualism
or collectivism. Although there were no significant findings when exploring the link
between race and, individualism and collectivism, the unexpected trends that emerged
were that the Indian/Asian group were the most individualistic and the most
collectivistic; the Coloured group were the second most individualistic and the third most
collectivistic; the Black group were the third most individualistic and the least
collectivistic; and the White group were the least individualistic and the second most
collectivistic. Even though there were no statistically significant result on individualism
between men and women, men were more likely to endorse individualism than women.
Women, on the other hand, were found to be significantly more likely to be collectivistic
than men. The race and gender interaction effect did not reach statistical significance.
The primary reason for utilising the Auckland Individualism and Collectivism
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Questionnaire was to establish individualism and collectivism differences between
cultural groups; however, instead of significant differences emerging the data showed
homogeneous results across cultural groups. These results hindered the use of the
individualism collectivism dimension across love measures.
6.9.4. Hofstede‘s Value Survey Model
The South African sample in this study yielded the following scores on Hofstede‘s
(1991) cultural dimensions: the individualism score was 89.9, the power distance score
was 18.5, the masculinity score was 46.4, the uncertainty avoidance score was 56.5
and the long-term orientation score was 43.1. Of primary importance to this study was
the individualism and collectivism dimension as yielded by race and gender. Although
the overall sample endorsed individualism highly there were some slight gender and
racial differences. Females (94.1) endorsed individualism more than males (85.6).
White group (98.0) endorsed individualism the most, followed by Indian/Asian (95.1),
Coloured (86.7) and Black (79.3) group. Although there were differences between
cultural groups, and gender, overall individualism was highly endorsed by all groups and
collectivism was not endorsed. Therefore, once again, like the Auckland Individualism
and Collectivism Questionnaire, the Hofstede‗s Value Survey Model‘s homogeneous
results prove to be futile in further analyses as no profound cultural differences emerged
along the individualism collectivism dimension.
Consequently, race was used instead of the individualism collectivism dimension to
explore possible cross-cultural differences in romantic love measures.
6.9.5. Love experiences
Sixty-two percent of the participants said they were in love with someone at the time of
answering the questionnaire. When exploring racial differences no significance was
observed but the trend revealed that White participants (65.2%) were the most likely to
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be in love, closely followed by Black (63.3%) and Coloured (61%) participants.
Indian/Asian participants were the least likely to be in love (54.3%). When examining
gender differences it was found that significantly more women (69.7%) than men
(53.4%) were in love at the time of the study. When investigating race by gender
differences there were no significant results but the trends revealed that 1) when
comparing males across race, Black men were the most likely to be in love at the time
of the study and Coloured men, Indian/Asian men were the least likely to be in love; 2)
when comparing females across race, White women were the most likely to be in love
at the time of the study and Indian/Asian women were the least likely to be in love.
When examining gender within race differences, the data revealed that White women
were significantly more likely to be in love with someone at the time of the study than
White men. Although there were no other significant results in gender within race, the
same trend was followed by the Black, Coloured and Indian/Asian groups - women were
more likely to be in love than their male counterparts. There were no statistically
significant results when considering socioeconomic status and the sample‘s response to
the question ‗Are you currently in love with someone‘.
Over 70% of the participants said they had been in love at least three times in their
lifetime and 10% said they had never been in love before. Seventy percent of the
respondents said that they had been in an intimate relationship previously and more
than 50% of the respondents said that they were currently in an intimate relationship.
Less than 25% of respondents said that they had been in a relationship that had lasted
more than two years old.
6.9.6. Love as a basis for marriage
When asked Kephart‘s (1967) question: "If a man or a woman had all the other qualities
you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with him (her)?" 80.5%
of the sample said they would not. When investigating differences in racial groups,
significant differences were observed. Indian/Asian participants were significantly more
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likely to marry someone they did not love, while White participants were significantly
more likely to marry someone they did love. Although no significant differences were
found in gender, when probing race by gender it was found that Black male participants
were significantly more likely to marry someone they did not love, while White males
were significantly less likely to marry someone they did not love when compared to
males from other racial groups. Indian/Asian females were significantly more likely to
marry someone they did not love when compared to females from other racial groups.
Finally when exploring gender within race it was found that Black males were
significantly more likely to marry someone they did not love than Black females.
Although there were no significant differences between the socioeconomic status and
whether an individual would or would not marry someone they loved; some interesting
trends emerged. Individuals from upper (81.4%), upper middle (81.4%), middle
(82.1.8%) and middle lower (83.8%) income groups were more likely to marry someone
they loved, whereas individuals from the lower income group (60.0%) were less likely to
marry someone they loved.
6.9.7. Love as a basis for the maintenance of marriage
When investigating the findings on the importance of love for the maintenance of
marriage, two questions were posed (Simpson et al., 1986). Overall slightly more
participants agreed (56.7% and 52.1%) than disagreed that love would be necessary for
the maintenance of marriage. There were no statistically significant findings between
the racial groups and the belief that love was necessary for the maintenance of love.
The proportion of the men‘s beliefs with regard to the importance of love for the
maintenance of marriage on both questions is not significantly different from the
proportion of women‘s beliefs with regard to the importance of love for the maintenance
of marriage on both questions. There were no statistically significant results when
considering socioeconomic status and the sample‘s beliefs with regard to the
importance of love for the maintenance of marriage on both questions.
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6.9.8. Romantic beliefs
Even though no significant differences emerged when interrogating the data by race or
gender, when investigating for effect for the interaction between race and gender there
was a statistical significance: Black women and Indian/Asian men scored high on
romanticism relative to the White men, White women, Black men, and Indian/Asian
women. For the White and Coloured groups the difference in romanticism scores for
men and women were small, whereas for the Black and Indian/Asian groups clear
differences could be observed. In addition the trends that emerged were: 1) Black
participants were more romantic than their White, Coloured and Indian/Asian
counterparts; and 2) South African females were more romantic than their male
counterparts. No statistically significant results when considering socioeconomic status
and the sample‘s total romanticism scores were observed.
6.9.9. Attachment Styles
The majority of the participants indicated their dominant attachment style was secure
(35.3%), followed by fearful (24.4%), and the least endorsed attachment styles were
dismissing (20.4%) and preoccupied (20.0%).
Although no statistical significance was reached when investigating attachment style as
determined by race, the data revealed various trends. Of the four race groups all were
predominately a secure attachment style with the exception of the Black group which
had the same proportion for secure (27.2%), dismissing (27.2%) and fearful (27.2%)
attachment styles. A greater proportion of the Indian/Asian group were secure (41.3%),
followed by the White group (38.8%), Coloured group (36.2%) and the Black group
(27.2%). The second highest score for the White group was preoccupied (26.3%)
attachment style; dismissing for Coloured group (19.1%); and preoccupied and
dismissing (17.5%) for the Indian/Asian group.
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When investigating attachment style as determined by gender, the data revealed on
statistically significant findings. The trends that emerged were: both genders had
relatively similar proportions for secure attachment style (34.6% for males and 36.2%
for females); whereas a greater proportion of females were preoccupied (24.6%) when
compared to males (16.2%) and a greater proportion of men were dismissing (22.1%)
and fearful (27.2%) when compared to females (17.4% and 21.7% respectively).
Although no statistical significance was found when exploring the data for race by
gender the trends that emerged were that: 1) White male participants endorsed secure
attachment and preoccupied attachment the highest when compared to males from
other racial groups, while the Black male participants endorsed dismissing and fearful
the highest when compared to males from other racial groups and 2) the White female
participants, like their White males counterparts, endorsed secure attachment and
preoccupied attachment the highest when compared to females from other racial
groups, while the Black female participants endorsed the dismissing attachment style
when compared to females from other racial groups.
Finally, when investigating the data for gender within race no significant findings
emerged but it was observed that Black and Coloured males were predominately
fearfully attached when compared to their female counterparts, whereas most Black and
Coloured females endorsed a preoccupied attachment style when compared to their
male counterparts; the majority of White and Indian/Asian males endorsed a dismissing
attachment style when compared to their female counterparts whereas most White and
Indian/Asian females, like Black and Coloured females, endorsed a preoccupied
attachment style when compared to their male counterparts.
When considering socioeconomic status and the sample‘s attachment styles, the data
revealed that participants from the lower income group were significantly more likely to
have a dismissing attachment style. This was the only statistical significance observed
in socioeconomic status and attachment.
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6.9.10. Lovestyles
The majority of the participants indicated their dominant lovestyle was eros (39.7%),
followed by agape (22.3%), storge (18.2%), pragma (9.6%), and ludus (6.1%). The least
endorsed lovestyle was mania (4.1%).
All four race groups endorsed eros, storge and agape as their three most dominant
lovestyles. There were slight variations in order of endorsement. Black (40%), White
(46.9%) and Coloured (46.3%) respondents strongly endorsed eros as their dominant
lovestyle. The Indian/Asian group endorsed agape (28.0%) as their dominant lovestyle,
followed by eros (24.4%), storge (18.3%) and pragma (17.1%). The Black group
endorsed storge (23.6%) as their second strongest lovestyle and agape (12.7%) as their
third strongest lovestyle. The White group endorsed agape (26.5%) as their second
strongest lovestyle and storge (14.2%) as their third strongest lovestyle. The Coloured
group endorsed agape (22.0%) as their second strongest lovestyle and storge (14.6%)
as their third strongest lovestyle. Mania and ludus were the least endorsed for all four
groups. When compared to the other groups the Indian/Asians endorsed ludus the
highest (11%) and mania the lowest (1.2%).
When investigating gender and dominant lovestyles it was found that men were more
agapic and more ludic than women and women were more eros, storge and pragma
than men. Although overall the majority of males (36.6%) and females (42.7%)
endorsed eros as their dominant lovestyle. When considering the second most endorse
lovestyle, gender differences emerge. Men endorsed agape (26.7%) and ludus (9.4%)
more and women endorsed storge (22.1%) and agape (18.1%) more. Similar results
were found for men and women on mania (3.7% and 4.5% respectively) and pragma
(8.9% and 10.6% respectively).
Lovestyles significant findings by race, gender and the interaction between race and
gender were as follows: 1) the Black participants were significantly more ludus than the
White participants, 2) the Indian/Asian participants were significantly more pragma than
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the White participants, 3) the White and Indian/Asian respondents were significantly
more agape than the Black respondents, 4) South African men were significantly more
ludus than South African women and 5) the female participants were significantly more
storge than their male counterparts. There were no significant findings when exploring
the interaction between race and gender and lovestyles.
Although no significant differences between the lovestyles and socioeconomic status
were observed, across socioeconomic status the eros lovestyle was the most endorsed
lovestyle. The second most endorse lovestyle is agape across income group with
exception of upper middle and middle lower which endorsed the storge lovestyle. The
third most endorse lovestyle by income group is: the pragma lovestyle for the upper
income group; the agape lovestyle for the upper middle income group; storge for the
middle income group; agape for the middle lower income group; and the mania
lovestyle for the lower income group.
6.9.11. Love measures and lovestyles
Individuals with an eros lovestyle (69.7%) were the most likely to be in love at the time
of the study than any other lovestyle. The eros lovestyle was closely followed by agape
(66.7%) and mania (66.7%). Fifty-six percent of storge (55.6%) and 55.3% of pragma
were in love at the time of the study. Ludus lovestyle (16.7%) was the least likely to be
in love at the time of the study than any other lovestyle. The only statistically significant
finding was that individuals with a ludus lovestyle were significantly less likely to be in
love at the time of the study when compared to participants with other dominant
lovestyles.
The study found that individuals with an agape lovestyle (89.8%) and eros lovestyle
(87.9%) were the least likely to marry someone they did not love than any other
lovestyle. These lovestyles were followed by storge (75%), pragma (65.8%) and mania
(62.5%). Fifty percent of the individuals with a ludus lovestyle said they would marry
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someone they did not love. The significant findings were that: eros and agape
participants were significantly less likely to marry someone they were not in love with
when compared to participants with other dominant lovestyles; while ludus and pragma
participants were significantly more likely to marry someone they were not in love with
when compared to participants with other dominant lovestyles.
Although there were no significant differences between the lovestyles and whether
individuals agreed or disagreed with the statement ―If love has completely disappeared
from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean break and start
new lives‖, individuals with a ludus and mania lovestyle (62.5%) were the most likely to
agree with the statement when compared to the other lovestyles. These lovestyles were
closely followed by the eros lovestyle (60.5%). The storge lovestyle (48.6%) was the
least likely to agree with the statement than any other lovestyle. Similarly, although
there were no significant differences between the lovestyles and whether individuals
agreed or disagreed with the statement ―In my opinion, the disappearance of love is not
a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and should not be viewed as such‖, individuals
with a ludus lovestyle (62.5%) were the most likely to agree with the statement when
compared to the other lovestyles. Ludus was followed by the mania lovestyle (62.5%),
pragma (57.9%, storge (54.9%) and agape (51.2%). The eros lovestyle (46.5%) was the
least likely to agree with the statement than any other lovestyle.
Individuals with an agape lovestyle were significantly more likely to be romantic than
individuals with a storge lovestyle. The correlations revealed that the more romantic an
individual the more eros and agape they were. The strength of this relationship was
moderate. Although not as strong (a modest effect), a similar relationship emerged
between romanticism and storge and pragma: the more romantic an individual the more
storge and pragma they were. Finally, the more romantic an individual the less ludus
they were. The strength of this relationship was modest.
Individuals with an eros lovestyle were significantly more likely to have a secure
attachment style and significantly less likely to have a dismissing or fearful attachment
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style. Individuals with a ludus lovestyle were significantly more likely to have a
dismissing or fearful attachment style and were significantly less likely to have a secure
or preoccupied attachment style. Individuals with a mania lovestyle were significantly
more likely to have a preoccupied or fearful attachment style and were significantly less
likely to have a secure or a dismissing attachment style.
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CHAPTER 7
Summary Conclusion and Recommendations
7.1 Introduction
This study has attempted to investigate how romantic love is conceptualised across the
four primary cultural groups in South Africa. Inherent in the two central constructs of the
study – romantic love and culture – are ethereal and nebulous qualities that stubbornly
resist quantification. Although many researchers concur that romantic love is a near
universal experience (Buss, 2000; Freud, 1930; Jankowiak, 1995, Jankowiak & Fischer,
1992), it‘s multicomponential nature has also been recognised (Brown, 2005; Goodwin,
1999; Haslam & Friske, 1999; Hendrick, 2004; Hendrick & Hendrick, 1989). Cross-
cultural researchers hold that not only is romantic love multidimensional, but that it also
has a cultural face and is therefore mediated by traditional beliefs, local conditions and
outside influences (Cho & Cross, 1995; Goodwin, 1999; Jankowiak, 1995; Jankowiak &
Fisher, 1992; Smith, 2001). Researchers have identified that the meaning,
understanding, experience and importance of romantic love are perceived differently at
different times and in different cultures (Brehm et al., 2002; Cho & Cross, 1995; Coontz,
2005; Goodwin, 1999; Jankowiak, 1995; Landis & O‘Shea, 2000; Neto, 2007).
Therefore, romantic love is learned, shaped and experienced through one‘s cultural lens
and, because culture is not a static entity, one‘s understanding and meaning of romantic
love changes as one‘s culture changes and evolves.
Culture is an ever altering construct that is influenced by enculturation, acculturation
and globalisation. Although its fluid nature makes it difficult to measure, a useful
conceptual framework for understanding general cultural differences is Hofstede‘s
(1991) five dimensions of culture: individualism versus collectivism; large versus small
power distance; masculinity versus femininity; strong versus weak uncertainty
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avoidance and long-term orientation versus short-term orientation. Of these five
dimensions the dimension of individualism-collectivism constitutes a prolific approach to
cross-cultural romantic love research in psychology (Goodwin, 1999; Hofstede, 1994a).
When applying this dimension to South Africa‘s four primary cultural groups,
researchers postulate that African and Indian/Asian South Africans reflect collectivistic
cultural values and beliefs; while White and possibly Coloured South Africans reflect
individualistic cultural values and beliefs (Adhikari, 2005; Hofstede, 1980, 1991; Mkhize,
2004a; Mwamwenda, 1999; Triandis, 1995; Viljoen, 2002a, 2002b).
When considering the differences between the manner in which individualistic societies
and collectivistic societies view love, researchers report dramatic differences (Levine et
al., 1995). Love in the Western, individualistic view is ―seen as explosive, romantic and
illogical‖ (Goodwin, 1999, p. 61). Dion and Dion (1993a) say that the Western
(individualistic) concept of romantic love embodies exclusive and intense emotional
involvement, attention and commitment to the beloved as well as a physical attraction to
her or him. In the individualistic, Western cultures the idealisation of love and marriage
is paramount and mate selection is determined by individual choice and romantic love
(Coontz, 2005; Dion & Dion, 1993a; Gergen & Gergen, 1988; Goodwin, 1997). In
contrast, love, in the African, or Eastern, collectivistic view, is ―seen as a strong binding
force that brings individuals together‖ (Goodwin, 1999, p. 61). Dion and Dion (1993a)
aver that the Eastern (collectivistic) concept of love embodies love developing slowly
with a caring companion who fits smoothly and without disruption into the individual‘s
larger complex social milieu. Romantic love is often viewed as dangerous and a threat
to family structure in collectivistic societies (Coontz, 2005; Levine et al., 1995; Sandhya,
2009). Mate selection is generally not based on romantic love in collectivistic societies;
instead, arranged marriages are common and the union is often seen as an alliance
between two families – socially and economically. If, as postulated by researchers
(Adhikari, 2005; Hofstede, 1980, 1991; Mkhize, 2004a; Mwamwenda, 1999; Triandis,
1995; Viljoen, 2002a, 2002b), White and possibly Coloured South Africans reflect
individualistic cultural values and beliefs, it may conceivably be expected that they will
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love in the Western and individualistic way described above, whereas the Black and
Indian/Asian South Africans will love in the African/ Eastern collectivistic manner.
Even though there are profound differences between the ways in which individualistic
and collectivistic societies view love, recent researchers suggest that, due to the
pervasive and persistent influence of globalisation and modernisation, collectivistic
societies are moving toward a more Western and individualistic concept of love while
mate selection is beginning to be determined by individual choice and romantic love
(Hart, 2004; Meekers, 1995; Okonjo, 1992; Sandhya, 2009; Smith 2001). These
researchers also report that even when a foreign practice is adopted by a local culture,
that practice is mediated through the local culture values, beliefs and practices into a
hybridised form. In other words, the embracing of new cultural values and norms may
either replace the original cultural values, customs and norms or they are advocated in
concurrent maintenance with the original cultural values customs and norms (Berry et
al., 1992; Segall et al., 1999). Consequently, traditional values, characteristics and
conceptualisations of love are being retained, integrated and merged with modern
Western values, characteristics and conceptualisations of love (Husted, 2003; Meekers,
1995).
Other cross-cultural researchers highlight the issue that young adults, in particular
university students, are viewed as Westernising and constructing hybridised, bicultural
and multicultural identities (Arnett, 2002; Berry et al., 1992; Hermans & Kempen, 1998;
Jensen, 2003). ―Many adolescents in today‘s world of globalisation develop a ‘local
identity‘ based on their indigenous tradition, as well as a ‗global identity‘ based on their
exposure to a global (often Western) culture conveyed through media‖ (Jensen, 2003,
p.193). South African cultural researchers agree and add that these identities are
mediated and modulated through local South African inflections (Alexander, 2006;
Dawson, 2006; Nkuna, 2006). It would therefore be expected that each of the four
primary South African cultural groups will possess their own unique take on, and local
intonation of, Western romantic love but that this would also be modulated by whether
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the individual is operating out of their ―local identity‖, based on their native tradition, or
out of their ―global identity‖.
Bearing all the above factors in mind the researcher attempts to make sense of the
results yielded utilising the literature review.
7.2 Conclusion based on the review of the literature
The significant findings of this study as well as the pertinent trends that emerged from
the analysis of the South African data will be discussed and presented in this chapter
under the following sections: 1) validity and reliability of the instruments, 2) individualism
– collectivism measures, 3) love measures, and 4) conclusion on key findings.
7.2.1 Validity and reliability of instruments
The researcher considered the validity and reliability of the instruments when applied to
the South African student population.
It was found, using principal component factor analysis, that: 1) the Romantic Beliefs
Scale did not reduce to the original four subscales; however, Sprecher and Metts‘s
(1989) original total romanticism component emerged; 2) the Relationship
Questionnaire Scale reduced to the original two components of avoidance and anxiety
(Kurdek, 2002; Simpson et al., 1992); 3) the Love Attitude Scale reduced to the original
six components of eros, ludus, storge, pragma, mania and agape (Hendrick & Hendrick,
1986); and 4) although the Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire did not
reduce to the original six subscales, the original two components of individualism and
collectivism, according to Shulruf et al. (2003), emerged. In sum, the Romantic Beliefs
Scale and total romanticism, the Relationship Questionnaire Scale and its components
of avoidance and anxiety, the Love Attitude Scale and Lee‘s typology of six lovestyles,
and the Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire and its components of
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individualism and collectivism, were found to be factorially distinct and can reasonably
be applied to the South African student population.
The four instruments – Romantic Beliefs Scale, Relationship Questionnaire Scale, Love
Attitude Scale and Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire – produced
satisfactory reliabilities (all exceeding = .7) and favourable comparisons with the
reliability findings of the original authors‘ scale (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Kurdek,
2002; Shulruf et al., 2003; Sprecher & Metts, 1989).
7.2.2 Individualism-collectivism instruments
7.2.2.1 Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire
Following previous cross-cultural research, the expectation was that the White group in
this study would be the most individualistic and the Black and Indian/Asian group would
be the most collectivistic (Hofstede, 1980, 1991; Mkhize, 2004a; Mwamwenda, 1999;
Triandis, 1995; Viljoen, 2002a, 2002b). This study found that there were no statistically
significant differences between race and individualism, and race and collectivism
(Tables 6.43 and 6.44), therefore suggesting that the mature university sample used in
this study yielded a similar endorsement of both individualism and collectivism across
the cultural groups.
When exploring gender differences for individualism using the Auckland Individualism
Collectivism Questionnaire, no statistically significant results were observed (Tables
6.43 and 6.44), consequently suggesting equal endorsement of individualism amongst
men and women. The trend that emerged for individualism was that men were more
likely to endorse individualism than women. When gender differences for collectivism
were explored, women were found to be significantly more collectivistic than men
(Tables 6.45 and 6.46). These differences between men and women and individualism
and collectivism may be reflective of the gender socialisation process, where boys are
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socialised to value independence, autonomy, self sufficiency and competition while girls
are socialised to value nurturing, caring for the other and harmonious relationships.
Finally, the race and gender interaction effect did not reach statistical significance
(Tables 6.47, 6.48, 6.49 and 6.50).
7.2.2.2 Value Survey Model
Upon examining the group score for the South African student population on Hofstede‘s
(1991) five dimensions, it is evident that the individualism score (89.9) of the current
study (Table 6.16) is higher when compared to previous South African scores (65)
(Table 3.3) (Hofstede, 1991). The South African individualism score yielded by this
study compares favourably with the scores of very individualistic countries, according to
Hofstede (1991): United States (91), Australia (90) and Great Britain (89). Hofstede
(2002) suggests that there is a positive relationship between individualism and wealth:
the wealthier the country the more individualistic, modern and industrialised the country
(Hofstede, 1980, 1994a, 2002; Singelis et al., 1995). Singelis et al. (1995) found that
this was also true for the upper and middle classes of a society. The rudimentary
measure of socioeconomic status in this study confirmed Dawson‘s (2006) findings that
the majority of the university student sample, commonly thought to be more affluent
than the general South African population, fell into the middle class socioeconomic
status category (Table 6.115 and Figure 6.34). Therefore, the high score on
individualism may be attributed to the fact that the sample utilised was drawn from a
more affluent socioeconomic class. It may be useful to bear in mind that the Hofstede
(1991) scores for the United States, Australia and Great Britain are relatively old and
these may have changed (Fernandez et al., 1997). Brehm et al. (2002) assert that not
only are the collectivistic countries becoming more individualistic under the weight of
globalisation but that the previously individualistic countries have moved further along
the individualistic continuum so that perhaps they may be described as post-traditional
advanced capitalistic societies.
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On considering the results with regards to the individualism and collectivism dimension
for race and gender, differences emerged. However, these differences were not
profound. All four cultural groups strongly endorsed individualism while none of them
endorsed collectivism. The White group (98.0) endorsed individualism the most
strongly, followed by the Indian/Asian (95.1), Coloured (86.7) and Black (79.3) groups
(Table 6.16). As mentioned previously, the expected results were that the White group
would be more individualistic while the Black and Indian/Asian group would be more
collectivistic (Hofstede, 1980, 1991; Mkhize, 2004a; Mwamwenda, 1999; Triandis, 1995;
Viljoen, 2002a, 2002b). These results reveal that although the White group was the
most individualistic of the cultural groups the other groups scored high on the
individualism continuum as well.
Upon comparing the individualism and collectivism cross-cultural findings on the Value
Survey Model and the Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire,
contradictions became evident. On the Value Survey Model the expected trend was
found: the White group was established to be the most individualistic, followed by the
Indian/Asian, Coloured and Black group. However, with regards to the Auckland
Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire, the Indian/Asian participants were found to be
the most individualistic, followed by the Coloured group and the Black group, while the
least individualistic were those in the White group. In addition, when comparing the
gender findings on the Value Survey Model and the Auckland Individualism Collectivism
Questionnaire, contradictions were also evident in the gender findings. On the Value
Survey Model it was discovered that females (94.1) endorsed individualism more than
males (85.6); but on the Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire the male
participants were found to endorse individualism more strongly than their female
counterparts. These contradictory findings can possibly be attributed to the fact that the
Value Survey Model takes the average of the cross-cultural groups whereas the
Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire takes the score of the individual
participants. Hofstede (2002) himself views this as a weakness and suggests that different
members of the same culture interpret and articulate their culture in a manner that may not
be understood and accepted by members of the same cultural group.
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A comparison of this study‘s power distance score of 18.5 (Table 6.16) with the
previous South African score of 49 (Table 3.94) indicates that this study has a lower
power distance score than the previous study. Like individualism and collectivism, the
power distance of a country is related to wealth (Hofstede, 1991). However, unlike
individualism, power distance decreases as the wealth of a country increases
(Hofstede, 1991). A low power distance score, as is the case with the population of this
study, indicates that there is a small perceived gap between the wealthy and poor
individuals of the country and that the citizens of the country hold a strong belief in the
equality of each citizen (Hofstede, 1991, 2002). Although there is a growing middle
class in South Africa there is still a vast gap between the wealthy and the poor. Perhaps
the low power distance score can, in part, be attributed to South Africa‘s history and the
long struggle for equality and transformation and conceivably this has resulted in a
South African psyche which evidences a strong and inherent belief that the equality of
each citizen is paramount. This explanation appears to hold more authority when
considering the power distance scores across race: Black (14), White (20), Coloured
(24) and Indian/Asian (16) (Table 6.16). The Black group, the group that had to struggle
the hardest for equality in South Africa, records the lowest power distance score.
The masculinity score is moderately low if one compares this study‘s score (46.4) with
previous findings (63) (Tables 3.5 and 6.16). Masculine values of assertiveness,
materialism/material success, self-centredness, power, strength, individual
achievements and ego enhancement appear to be becoming less important in South
Africa, while feminine values of nurturance, modesty, tenderness, quality of life and a
high level of relationship enhancement seem to be increasing in importance (Hofstede,
1998). When considering the masculinity scores across race the feminine values were
found to be stronger in the Black (29) and White (44) groups whereas the masculine
values were found to be stronger in the Indian/Asian (60) and Coloured groups (57)
(Table 6.16). Perhaps the higher masculinity score in the Indian/Asian group can be
attributed to an unequal role distribution that may still exist in the patriarchally run
Indian/Asian family, whereas in the White group, a stronger feminine score emerged,
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possibly owing to Western notions of gender equality and more equal role distribution
holding a higher value in this culture. The high feminine score in the Black group may
be attributed to the value the African culture places on relationship enhancement – that
is, the African worldview of interdependence, co-operation, collective responsibility, the
survival of the community as well as being in symbiosis with the universe (Mkhize,
2004b; Mwamwenda, 1999; Viljoen, 2002a).
When one compares this study‘s score, 56.5 (Table 6.16), with previous findings, 49
(Table 3.6), the uncertainty avoidance score is higher (Hofstede, 1991). This may
suggest that South Africans in this population group are becoming a less uncertainty
accepting culture and less tolerant of what is different, unpredictable and ambiguous.
Therefore, this group will it will attempt to minimise ‗what is different is dangerous‘
situations (Hofstede, 2002; Goodwin, 1999). The 2008 xenophobic attacks aimed at
illegal African immigrants appear to be evidence of this. South Africans are known to be
intolerant of illegal immigrants from other African countries (Alexander, 2006), and
perhaps the large numbers of, usually illegal, immigrants in South Africa from
neighbouring countries have contributed to the higher uncertainty avoidance score. As
regards the uncertainty avoidance scores across race, the Indian/Asians (70) were
found to be the least tolerant of that which is different, followed by the Black (64) and
Coloured (57) groups (Table 6.16). The most tolerant of difference and ambiguity, when
comparing the four cultural groups, was the White group (41). Perhaps it is this high
score regarding uncertainty avoidance that helps to keep the Indian/Asian culture
unified (Joyce, 2005) as well as perhaps less affected by the cultural changes that
globalisation usually brings.
Finally, the study has provided a long-term orientation score of 43.1 for South Africa
(Table 6.16). This score places South Africa more strongly on the short-term orientation
dimension. This dimension is characterised by ―personal steadiness and stability,
protecting your ‗face‘, respect for tradition and reciprocation of greetings, favours, and
gifts‖ (Hofstede, 1991, p. 165-6). If one were to compare this study‘s long-term orientation
score to Hofstede‘s (1991) long-term orientation index for 23 countries, South Africa
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would rank eleventh. According to Hofstede (1991), certain Asian nations (e.g. China,
Hong Kong and Japan) are more likely to be long-term orientated when compared to
Western nations, while others are not (e.g. Philippines). Upon considering the long-term
orientation scores across race, the Indian/Asians (31) were found to be the least long-
term orientated, followed by the Black (44), Coloured (44) and White (51) groups (Table
6.16). This suggests that those in the Indian/Asian group are more like their Philippine
counterparts, in that they are more short-term orientated, while those in the White group
are more long-term orientated. Long-term orientation is characterised by ―persistence,
ordering relationships by status and observing this order, thrift, and having a sense of
shame‖ (Hofstede, 1991, p. 165-6).
7.2.2.3 Conclusion regarding individualism collectivism instruments
In terms of previous cross-cultural research, the expectation was that the White group in
this study would be the most individualistic whereas the Black and Indian/Asian groups
would be the most collectivistic (Hofstede, 1980, 1991; Mkhize, 2004a; Mwamwenda,
1999; Triandis, 1995; Viljoen, 2002a, 2002b). This, however, was not the case
regarding the South African mature student sample in this study as no significant
differences were observed on either of the instruments that were employed to measure
individualism and collectivism (The Auckland Individualism Collectivism Questionnaire
and Hofstede‘s (1994b) Value Survey Model). Instead, this line of inquiry proved to yield
unanticipated homogeneous results across the four broad cultural groups in South
Africa. This suggests three possibilities: 1) the individualism-collectivism instruments
employed in this study are not calibrated finely enough to pick up the subtle differences
in this dimension that may have emerged using the love measures; or 2) that
individualism and collectivism may not be as culturally distinct in this mature student
population as might have been thought previously; that is, these culturally different
students are more similar than dissimilar; or 3) that both these explanations carry
validity.
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Firstly, when exploring the first possible explanation for these homogeneous results
across cultural groups in South Africa, Robert et al. (2006) assert that the development
of accurate individualism and collectivism measures has not proven easy. Secondly, in
their meta-analyses of 83 studies on individualism and collectivism, Oyserman et al.
(2002) reported that no measurement tool at the time assessed all the critical attributes
of individualism and collectivism. Finally, the Auckland Individualism Collectivism
Questionnaire has not, as yet, been tested on an extensive variety of populations and is
therefore a "work-in-progress" rather than a mature instrument.
A second possible explanation for these homogeneous results is that of socioeconomic
status. According to Dawson (2006), the majority of South African university students
belong to the upper and middle socioeconomic classes. These findings were confirmed
by the results from this study (Table 6.115 and Figure 6.34). Cross-cultural researchers
report that a positive relationship between individualism and wealth exists (Hofstede,
1980, 1994a, 2002; Singelis et al., 1995). Therefore, the high homogeneous score on
individualism across cultural groups may be attributed to the fact that the sample,
across culture, is drawn from a more affluent socioeconomic class.
When one considers a third possible explanation for these homogeneous results,
conceivably Triandis‘s (2001) view that no culture is monolithically individualistic or
collectivistic – that all cultures are mixes of both – may point to another reason for the
homogeneous results observed. Possibly, because of the intense acculturation that
South Africans have been exposed to since 1994, democracy and the ―double
transition‖ of democracy and globalisation that they have had to negotiate (Webster &
Adler, 1999), the four primary cultural groups have become more similar than different.
Recent South African cross-cultural researchers, Alexander (2006) and Nkuna (2006),
emphasise that the variation in the identities of South African young adults is declining
and that the said identities (especially in urban areas) are more and more reflective of
those from other countries because of the powerful sway of globalisation. Nkuna (2006)
avers that urban South African youths are constructing Americanised, global youth
cultural identities but that these identities are mediated and modulated through local
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South African inflections. Alexander (2006) and Dawson (2006) highlight that the new
South African national identity is characterised by 1) a flagging and fracturing of South
African national identity; 2) a dwindling in racial and political identities, particularly
among the younger generations where they are more interested in individualism,
consumerism and other cultural aspects; 3) an increase in religious and ethnic
identification, often with religion forming a basis for ethnicity; and 4) a re-emergence
and re-visioning of class as an identity, but in new modes. Some of these changes may
be manifesting in the sample used in this study
International cross-cultural researchers agree with the above claim that homogeneous
results across cultures are emerging and that these may be accounted for by the effect
of acculturation (Berry et al., 1992; Matsumoto, 2000; Segall et al., 1999) and
globalisation (Arnett, 2002; Hermans & Kempen, 1998; Jensen, 2003). These
researchers concur with the above in saying that young adults, particularly university
students, are seen as Westernising and developing hybridised, bicultural and
multicultural identities (Arnett, 2002; Berry et al., 1992; Hermans & Kempen, 1998;
Jensen, 2003). ―Many adolescents in today‘s world of globalisation develop a ‗local
identity‘ based on their indigenous tradition, as well as a ‗global identity‘ based on their
exposure to a global (often Western) culture conveyed through media‖ (Jensen, 2003,
p.193). Possibly, when answering the individualism collectivism sections of the
questionnaire, the South African students were operating out of their ―global identity‖
rather than their ―local identity‖.
This multiplicity of identities is known as the horizontal facet of globalisation and focuses
on ―expanding opportunities for shared understandings‖ (Alexander, 2006, p. 56). The
vertical aspect of globalisation, on the other hand, focuses on ―increasing inequalities
and reducing common experience‖ Alexander (2006, p. 59). Cross-cultural researchers
assert that educated young adults from urban, and middle and upper, classes around
the world have more in common with one another than with their rural, less educated,
cultural counterparts of a lower socioeconomic status. Alexander (2006, p.44) suggests
that the young Black ―jet-setting millionaire‖ adult has more in common with a young
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White, Coloured and Indian/Asian jet-setting millionaire adult than the Black youth from
―an income-less, AIDS stricken family living in rural KZN‖. It is therefore not surprising
when cross-cultural researchers postulate that, nowadays, it is socioeconomic status
rather than culture that exerts a greater influence on subcultures (Alexander, 2006;
Arnett, 2002; Husted, 2003; Nkuna, 2006). The homogeneous results obtained
regarding both individualism and collectivism instruments in this study seem to suggest
that vertical globalisation is operating strongly in the South African student population.
Despite not being able to use these instruments for cross-cultural comparisons across
the love measures in this particular study, the researcher was able to report favourably
on the psychometric properties of the Auckland Individualism Collectivism
Questionnaire and provide updated South African scores for Hofstede‘s five
dimensions. These results may be useful for future research. In addition, perhaps these
unexpected homogeneous results are suggestive of the impact of globalisation and
possibly these results steer researchers to reassess previous ways of categorising –
culture, race, ethnic group and nation (Fenton, 2003; Hofstede, 1991, 2002; Marger,
1991; Segall et al., 1999) – and instead start to consider categorising according to
social class and socioeconomic status (Alexander, 2006; Arnett, 2002; Husted; 2003).
7.2.3. Love measures
Because of the multidimensionality and complexity of romantic love, the study utilised
six different ways of investigating and measuring love. In addition, because the
individualism and collectivism instruments suggest that the members of the university
sample utilised in the study are not as culturally distinct from one another as expected,
race was used to investigate whether there were any differences cross-culturally
between the four primary cultural groups in romantic love. When the results with regards
to the love measures were interrogated, some expected cross-cultural differences
emerged. A number of these results can be explained by the advent of globalisation and
its resultant changes in the realm of romantic love, while others can be explained via the
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traditional individualistic and collectivistic categorisation. In other words, even though
this group did not adhere to the traditionally distinct individualism and collectivism
categories, when it came to the private and internal emotion of romantic love, this
categorisation emerged at times. This perhaps suggests that as regards love individuals
operate more strongly out of their ―local identity‖ rather than their ―global identity‖ at
certain times and vice versa at other times. In other words, globalisation seems to have
impacted on and influenced certain areas of romantic love to take a more individualistic
tone, but not in other areas where the collectivism and individualism dimension still
remains intact.
7.2.3.1. Love experiences
Ninety percent of the South African participants confirmed that they had been in love at
least once in their lives (section 6.2.2). These results corroborate previous findings that
romantic love is a near universal experience (Buss, 2000; Cho & Cross, 1995;
Jankowiak, 1995, Jankowiak & Fischer, 1992). Evolutionary theory would explain that
love and emotional bonding are products of evolution and sexual selection; they are
adaptive functions that ultimately ensure reproductive success (Buss, 1988; Lampert,
1997; Mellen, 1981). Evolutionary theorists, Kenrick and Trost (1997), add that although
the primary adaptive function of romantic love is sexual reproduction and teaming up
together to care for the children, the secondary adaptive gains are social support,
mutual sharing and protection. Sixty-two percent of the South African participants said
they were in love with someone at the time of answering the questionnaire (refer to
section 6.2.2). If romantic love constitutes a near universal phenomenon (Buss, 2000;
Cho & Cross, 1995; Freud, 1930; Jankowiak, 1995, Jankowiak & Fischer, 1992) and an
essential evolutionary adaptive function (Buss, 1988; Lampert, 1997; Mellen, 1981), it
seems apt that this considerable percentage of the sample maintained they were in love
when the study was carried out.
Researchers suggest that an emerging adulthood period has transpired, because young
adults nowadays have to undertake complex interpersonal negotiations not only within
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intimate relationships but also as regards personal decisions in terms of what they want
and expect from intimate relationships and careers. Consequently, Erickson‘s (1968)
stages of identity and intimacy would conceivably take longer to negotiate under the
weight of rapid intimate and interpersonal changes driven by globalisation. Arnett (2002)
asserts that these young adults are taking time to explore and experience different jobs,
different education possibilities and a variety of love relationships. Fox (2005) adds that
young adults (Yeppies) engage in a strategy she calls ―mate-shopping‖, where they
delay and postpone big, life-altering decisions until they feel they have experienced and
exhausted all their options. This may explain why over 70% of the South African
participants said they had been in love at least three times (refer to section 6.2.2). Fox
(2005) says these young adults have high expectations of personal happiness and seek
perfection. Perhaps ―mate-shopping‖ for the perfect partner also accounts for the
sizeable 62% of young South Africans who reported being in love at the time of the
study. According to Fox (2005) these Yeppies mobilise ―mate shopping‖ through dating
agencies and organised matchmaking facilities. Internationally, the explosion of internet
dating websites and the many organised match making facilities and dating agencies
offer evidence of this. South Africa too has a number of online dating websites as well
as organised matchmaking facilities such as Corporate Dating.
Ten percent of the South African sample indicated that they had never been in love.
Maybe the proportion of such individuals can be attributed to their relatively young age
(M=22) or perhaps these respondents have not, as yet, embarked on the search for a
partner because of the delays in adopting adult roles of work, marriage and parenthood
that are characteristic of the post adolescent period of emerging adulthood (18-25
years) (Arnett, 2002; Fox, 2005; Larson, 2002; Larson, Wilson & Mortimer, 2002).
Alternatively, these young adults could be struggling to successfully adapt to the cultural
changes that globalisation demands. According to Arnett (2002), globalisation may
increase the proportion of adolescents in non-Western cultures who experience identity
confusion as opposed to those who successfully form an identity. Jensen (2003)
concurs that ―culture shock‖ or ―acculturative stress‖ may be experienced by individuals
who in the face of globalisation find it difficult to reconcile culturally diverse views, and
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therefore struggle to form a coherent identity. Berry (1997) suggests the greater the
cultural distance between the values of the traditional and global cultures, the greater
the potential of psychological and social problems. Therefore, it is conceivable that
perhaps some of the 10% of the South African participants in this study, who have
never been in love, are struggling to form a coherent bicultural identity in love, work and
socially.
Regarding the cross-cultural differences concerning which group of participants were
more likely to be in love at the time of the study, it was expected that either 1) no
differences would emerge between the cultural groups because, according to
evolutionary theorists, romantic love is almost universal (Buss, 2000), or 2) as
suggested by cross-cultural researchers, the collectivistic African and Indian/Asian
individuals would be the least likely to be in love; while the individualistic White and
possibly Coloured individuals, who place a greater value on romantic love, would be the
most likely to be in love (Adhikari, 2005; Hofstede, 1980, 1991; Mkhize, 2004a;
Mwamwenda, 1999; Triandis, 1995; Viljoen, 2002a, 2002b). In the South African
sample, it was found that one‘s culture did not influence whether an individual would be
in love at the time of the study, therefore indicating that all cultural groups were
relatively equally likely to be in love and thus supporting the evolutionary theory
hypothesis that love is a practically universal phenomenon (Buss, 2000; Cho & Cross,
1995; Freud, 1930; Jankowiak, 1995, Jankowiak & Fischer, 1992).
Although there were no significant cross-cultural differences, upon exploring the more
nuanced trend that emerged, it was found that White participants (65.2%) were more
likely to be in love, closely followed by Black (63.3%) and Coloured (61%) participants.
Indian/Asian participants were the least likely to be in love (54.3%) (Table 6.51). These
findings regarding the White, Coloured and Indian/Asian group are reflective of the
expected individualism-collectivism continuum. However, the Black group proved to
more likely to be in love than expected. There may be numerous possible reasons for
this difference between the two traditionally collectivistic cultures (African and
Indian/Asian).
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Firstly, conceivably the overwhelming wave of globalisation and modernisation has
been more fully welcomed by Black young adults who may have adopted the ethos of
individualism and romantic love to a greater extent that their Indian/Asian collectivistic
counterparts. The difference may be explained via the dialogical self or via religion.
Firstly, according to Mkhize (2004b), dialogism advocates that meaning is emergent and
evolves from our encounters with others and our social milieu; that the dialogical self is
portrayed by multiplicity, flexibility, diversity and change that emerges from exposure to
the voices of others (Mkhize, 2004b). Mkhize (2004b) further argues that the dialogical
self is consistent with the African self in that an African is pluralistic as well as in
constant dialogue with the universe. He adds that, like dialogism, the African view
emphasises that selfhood emerges through participation with others and that individuals
gain self-understanding through contact and identification with the other who is different
from themselves. Mkhize (2004b) highlights that African selfhood is never complete; a
human being is always becoming or in the making. In other words, the African self is
open to the influence of others as well as other ways of being in the world, which may
point to the fact that Africans would be more open to the changes that globalisation
inevitably brings. Secondly, according to Alexander (2006) and Dawson (2006), part of
the new South African identity is characterised by an increase in religious and ethnic
identification, with religion often forming a basis for ethnicity. Over 80% of Black
students indicated that their religious orientation was Christian (Pavlou, 2005), while
Meekers (1995) found that Christianity, a Western religious ideology, eroded traditional
African norms of parental sanctioned arranged marriages. The Indian/Asian group, on
the other hand, have held on to their Eastern Hindu and Muslim religion (Joyce, 2005).
Perhaps the Indian culture, via its strict religious laws and customs, has retained its
power and influence, and thereby counteracted globalisation to some extent. In addition,
perhaps it is also because the very institute of marriage is steeped in specific cultural
and religious rituals, rites and ceremonies, that traditional Indian religion has maintained
its historical norms and customs amongst its young adults.
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Thirdly, conceivably this anomaly between the two traditionally collectivistic groups in
South Africa could be accounted for by that which current cross cultural researchers are
suggesting – that young adults nowadays develop hybridised, bicultural (a ―local
identity‖ and a ―global identity‖) and multicultural identities (Arnett, 2002; Hermans &
Kempen, 1998; Jensen, 2003). Possibly matters of romantic love and mate selection
are being mediated to a greater extent through the local culture‘s values, beliefs and
practices into a hybridised form that has a stronger local inflection and identity for the
Indian/Asian group. Conceivably, the opposite is true for the Black group who seem to
have developed a hybridised form of romantic identity by adopting a more global tone
and identity in matters of the heart.
Fourthly, the difference that emerged between the two traditionally collectivistic
societies in South Africa (Black and Indian/Asian) may also be reflective of Triandis‘s
(2001) view that not all collectivistic (or individualistic) societies display the same
cultural characteristics – Black collectivism differs from that of Indian/Asian collectivism,
both of which differ from that of the Israeli kibbutz. In the same manner, South African
Indian/Asian love is not the same as Black South African love. Past researchers have
stated that Black South Africans exhibit a particular style of ―African love‖ (Philbrick &
Opolot, 1980). Some researchers assert that an African style of romantic love,
infatuation, romance, flirting and love letters are not uncommon in African societies
(Bell, 1995; Caplan, 1997; Little, 1973; Plotnicov, 1995; West, 1976), suggesting the
existence of an inherent romantic component of African love.
When overall gender differences were explored, significantly more women (69.7%) than
men (53.4%) were in love at the time of the study (Tables 6.53 and 6.54) and when
gender within race differences were investigated, White women were significantly more
likely to be in love with someone at the time of the study than White males (Tables 6.57
and 6.58). Although there were no other significant results regarding gender within race,
the same trend was followed by the Black, Coloured and Indian/Asian groups – women
were more likely to be in love than their male counterparts. These findings concur with
those of Sprecher et al. (1994): that is, a greater proportion of American, Russian and
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Japanese females (65%), when compared to males (53%), said that they were in love.
The evolutionary theorists would argue that although love is the single most important
quality in selecting a mate for both genders (Buss, 2000), women the world over place a
premium on love (Buss, 2003). Buss (2003) explains that because women make
immense obligatory parental investments through sex, pregnancy, breastfeeding and
childrearing, they are faced with the adaptive problem of choosing a mate who has the
required resources as well as the motivation to commit those resources to her and her
offspring (Buss, 2003). Buss (2003) argues that, universally, one of the most important
cues for this commitment is love. The said author (2003) concludes that it is not
surprising that women worldwide place a premium on love and commitment.
Upon investigating race by gender differences and being in love, there were no
significant findings (Tables 6.55 and 6.56), consequently indicating that South African
men across culture experience similar levels of being in love. This was also true for
South African women when comparing them with each other. In addition, there were no
statistically significant results in terms of socioeconomic status and the sample‘s
response to the question ―‖Are you currently in love with someone‖ (Tables 6.123 and
6.124), therefore indicating that an individual‘s socioeconomic status did not impact on
being in love. In other words, wealth does not seem to be an obstacle to the emotion of
love.
7.2.3.2. Love as the basis for marriage
When asked Kephart‘s (1967) question: "If a man or a woman had all the other qualities
you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with him (her)?", more
than 80% of South African participants expected to love the mate they would marry.
This result concurs with other international and cross-cultural studies that have been
conducted: American studies (Simpson et al., 1986); a study across eleven countries
(Levine et al., 1995); a study conducted utilising American, Russian and Japanese
students (Sprecher et al., 1994); as well as a study utilising American and Chinese
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students (Sprecher & Toro-Morn, 2002) – these studies also found that, overall, a high
percentage of individuals would not marry someone whom they did not love.
According to cross-cultural researchers, traditionally, people in individualistic societies
were more likely to marry for love than those in collectivistic societies (Dion & Dion,
1993a, 1993b; Levine et al., 1995; Sprecher et al., 1994; Sprecher & Toro-Morn, 2002).
However, recent researchers suggest that because of globalisation, equality and
romantic love are apparently becoming more and more important in intimate
relationships the world over; especially as a criterion for marriage (Hart, 2004;
Matsumoto & Juang, 2004; Netting, 2006; Sandhya, 2009). With globalisation, more and
more young adults, from what would normally be considered collectivistic cultures, are
selecting their own marriage partners (Arnett, 2001; Hart, 2004; Netting, 2006;
Sandhya, 2009). Having said that, researchers postulate that individuals from
collectivistic societies do not select their own partners in an absolutely autonomous and
individualistic manner; they do so within their collectivistic culture via compromise,
negotiation and parental approval (Hart, 2004; Meekers, 1995; Netting, 2006; Sandhya,
2009, Smith, 2001). Therefore, although globalisation is changing romantic aspirations
and expectations in traditionally collectivistic societies (such as those of the Black South
African) (Hofstede, 1980, 1991; Mkhize, 2004a; Mwamwenda, 1999; Viljoen, 2002a) to
reflect more of the individualistic themes and practices of love, these are mediated
through the local culture‘s values, beliefs and practices into a hybridised perception of
love (Hart, 2004; Husted, 2003; Mwamwenda, 1999; Sandhya, 2009; Smith 2001).
With reference to the previous research discussed above, it was expected that groups
that were more individualistic, for example, the White, and possibly the Coloured
groups, would be more likely to marry for love than the more collectivistic groups, for
example, the Black and Indian/Asian groups (Adhikari, 2005; Hofstede, 1980, 1991;
Levine et al., 1995; Mkhize, 2004a; Mwamwenda, 1999; Sprecher et al., 1994; Sprecher
& Toro-Morn, 2002; Triandis, 1995; Viljoen, 2002a, 2002b). The expected individualistic
and collectivistic categorisation in the four South African groups emerged relatively
strongly with regards to this love measure. The trend that emerged was that White
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participants (92.0%) were the most likely to marry someone they love, followed by
Coloured (85.4%), Black (74.5%) and Indian/Asian (65.9%) participants (Table 6.59).
This trend verifies the findings of previous cross-cultural researchers that romantic love
as a basis for marriage is more important in individualistic and Western cultures than in
collectivistic and Eastern / African cultures (Dion & Dion, 1993a, 1993b; Levine et al.,
1995; Sprecher et al., 1994; Sprecher & Toro-Morn, 2002).
In addition to the above trend, the significant findings which were observed also
supported this premise (Tables 6.59 and 6.60). The South African Indian/Asian
participants were significantly more likely to marry someone they did not love, while
White participants were significantly less likely to do so. Therefore, although the
instruments that were used to measure the dimension of individualism and collectivism
(Hofstede, 1994b; Shulruf et al., 2003) showed no profound differences between the
South African four primary cultural groups, when it came to answering the very personal
question of whether the individual expects to be in love with the person they intend to
marry, the South African sample reveals differences that were expected using this
dimension. These results, once again, highlight the possibility of the existence of
bicultural and / or multicultural as well as ―local and global‖ identities in that although the
Indian/Asian participants were overall very individualistic, their perceptions, beliefs,
values and possible behaviours with regards to intimate relationships also demonstrate
that they are very collectivistic. Perhaps, for the Indian/Asian group, their more
individualistic side emerges as a ―global identity‖ whereas their collectivistic side
emerges as a social or ―local identity‖. Conceivably, like the Indo-Canadians with bi-
cultural identities in Netting‘s (2006) study, the South African Indian/Asians with bi-
cultural identities are also faced with the struggle of negotiating the contrasting
individualistic and collectivistic values that determine the nature of romantic
relationships and marriage: they have to negotiate between the "love-marriage" of the
West and the "arranged marriage" advocated by their traditional Indian heritage.
Previous cross-cultural studies found no significant gender difference in responses
within cultures or overall (Levine et al., 1995; Simpson et al., 1986; Sprecher et al.,
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1994; Sprecher & Toro-Morn, 2002). However, upon probing race by gender in the
present study it was found that Black male participants were significantly more likely to
marry someone they did not love, while White males were significantly less likely to do
so, when compared to males from other racial groups (Tables 6.63 and 6.64). In
addition, it was established that Indian/Asian females were significantly more likely to
marry someone they did not love when compared to females from other racial groups
(Tables 6.63 and 6.64). This result once again supports the premise that romantic love
is not as important in traditionally collectivistic cultures when one is selecting a marriage
partner and that this is particularly true for Black males and Indian/Asian females in
South Africa.
Finally, when gender within race was explored it was found that Black males were
significantly more likely to marry someone they did not love than Black females (Tables
6.65 and 6.66). Perhaps the reason is that Black South Africa men tend to support a
traditional African collectivistic style of marital relationships, that is, open, segregated
and polygamous marital relationships because ―it is our culture‖ (Little, 1973; Smith,
2001; Van der Vliet, 1991). In contrast, the Black South African women support a more
individualistic style of marital relationships – closed, joint, monogamous (Little, 1973;
Van der Vliet, 1991). Similarly, according to Van der Vliet (1991), South African Xhosa
women attempt to keep their husbands faithful by calling upon ―modern‖ marriage
models which include making joint decisions, spending leisure time together,
engendering a strong emotional bond and practising monogamy and marital fidelity. In
contrast the Xhosa men often counteract these attempts by insisting on living according
to the traditional marital model which includes strict gender-based labour division,
patriarchal attitudes, with men enjoying more social, financial and sexual freedom (Van
der Vliet, 1991).
It was expected that the higher the individual‘s socioeconomic status the more likely
they were to have the freedom to choose to marry someone with whom they were in
love. The South African sample confirmed this expectation as no significant results
emerged to the contrary. Netting (2006) explains that when an economy industrialises,
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modernises and people become more affluent, old and collectivistic values weaken and
give way to Western, individualistic values. The more economic prosperity, wealth and
abundant resources an individual possesses the greater their independence and
freedom to pursue their personal goals, needs and rights; the more freedom they have
to choose love as the basis for marriage (Goodwin, 1999; Levine et al., 1995;
Matsumoto & Juang, 2004; Sprecher et al., 1994). Perhaps this is true for the South
African student participants in this study, who are considered as being more affluent
than the general South African population (Dawson, 2006); this may not, however, be
the case for rural, less educated and less affluent young adults in South Africa.
Although there were no significant findings when investigating socioeconomic status
and whether an individual would or would not marry someone they loved, the trend that
emerged was that individuals in upper (81.4%), upper middle (81.4%), middle (82.1.8%)
and middle lower (83.8%) income groups were more likely to marry someone they
loved, whereas individuals from the lower income group (60.0%) were less likely to
marry someone they loved (Table 6.125). These South African findings corroborate that
which researchers have found in other parts of the world – that a positive relationship
exists between economic wealth and romantic love, and that affluent societies are able
to adopt the freedom and luxury of a romantic approach to love and marriage whereas
poorer societies adopt a more practical approach (Goodwin, 1999; Levine et al., 1995;
Matsumoto & Juang, 2004; Sprecher et al., 1994; Sprecher & Toro-Morn, 2002).
Consequently, although most people endorse and experience romantic love, individuals
with a higher socioeconomic status are the most likely to insist on marrying someone
they loved, while individuals from a lower income group were less likely to insist on this
(Levine et al., 1995; Simpson et al., 1986; Sprecher et al., 1994; Sprecher & Toro-Morn,
2002).
In sum, when comparing the results with regards to being in love at the time of the study
and love as a basis for marriage, it appears that there is little difference between the
South African cultural groups with regards to the emotion of love and being in love.
Being in love, however, does not automatically translate into selecting that mate for
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marriage. The South African results supported previous findings that traditionally
individualistic (White and to a lesser extent Coloured participants) believe that love is an
important and vital ingredient when deciding to marry someone, whereas participants
who are deemed by previous researchers to be traditionally collectivistic (Black and
Indian/Asian participants) found it less important (Hofstede, 1980, 1991; Mkhize, 2004a;
Mwamwenda, 1999; Triandis, 1995; Viljoen, 2002a, 2002b). A similar trend was
revealed when considering socioeconomic status and the results regarding being in love
at the time the study was undertaken and love as a basis for marriage – wealth did not
influence the likelihood of being in love but the higher the participants ‘ socioeconomic
status the more likely they were to marry someone they loved.
7.2.3.3. Love as the basis for the maintenance of marriage
In order to investigate the findings with regards to the importance of love for the
maintenance of marriage, the two questions that were developed by Simpson et al.
(1986) were posed. Overall slightly more participants agreed with both questions
(56.7% and 52.1% respectively) than disagreed (43.3% and 47.9% respectively) that
love would be necessary for the maintenance of marriage (Tables 6.8 and 6.9). The
proportion of individuals by gender and race who agreed or disagreed in this regard was
not significant (Table 6.67 to 6.82). The South African results indicating minimum
differences are reflective of previous findings (Levine et al., 1995; Sprecher & Toro-
Morn, 2002). In addition, following previous findings, the South African sample indicated
that romantic love was more important when entering into a marriage than for the
maintenance of a marriage (Sprecher & Toro-Morn, 2002).
There were no statistically significant results when considering socioeconomic status
and the sample‘s beliefs with regard to the importance of love for the maintenance of
marriage in terms of both questions (Table 6.127 to 6.130). Consequently, once they
are married, the importance of love in the maintenance of marriage across
socioeconomic status does not seem to differ among young South African adults.
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7.2.3.4. Romanticism
Researchers over time have reported mixed findings on romanticism. Older research
findings (Simmons et al., 1986; Sprecher et al., 1994) suggest that individualistic
countries (American and German) were overall more romantic than their collectivistic
(Japanese) counterparts. However, more recent findings reported either the opposite
trend – Chinese were more romantic than their American counterparts (Sprecher &
Toro-Morn, 2002) – or similar romantic beliefs were found, for instance between Black
and White Americans (Weaver & Ganong, 2004).
Weaver and Ganong (2004), as in this study, found that the Romantic Beliefs Scale did
not measure romanticism in the same manner across cultural groups. They postulated
that perhaps components of romantic beliefs are conceptually different for different
ethnic groups and that those romantic beliefs hold different meanings for different ethnic
groups. This may point to foreign practice being mediated through the local culture
values, beliefs and practices into a hybridised form with a local inflection (Husted, 2003;
Meekers, 1995). This too, may be the case for the current South African study.
Nonetheless, a total romanticism score could be measured validly and reliably; this was
utilised in the study.
No significant differences emerged between cultural groups in South Africa, indicating
no profound differences as regards romanticism across race in South Africa (Tables
6.83 and 6.84). As per previous studies, no significant differences were observed
overall for romanticism between South African men and women (Cunningham & Antill,
1981; Simmons et al., 1986; Sprecher & Metts, 1999; Sprecher & Toro-Morn, 2002).
However, upon interrogating the data for the interaction effect between race and gender
a statistical significance was revealed (Table 6.88) which shows that the relationship of
race (or gender) with romanticism is contingent on the gender (or race) of the person.
Figure 6.15 and Table 6.87 illustrate that the Black women and Indian men scored high
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on romanticism relative to the White men, White women, Black men, and Indian women.
For the White and Coloured groups the difference in scores as regards romanticism for
men and women were small, thus repeating the findings of previous research
Cunningham & Antill, 1981; Simmons et al., 1986; Sprecher & Metts, 1999; Sprecher &
Toro-Morn, 2002), whereas for the Black and Indian groups clear differences could be
observed.
In older research studies men were found to be more romantic than women (Sprecher &
Metts, 1989) which is reflective of the results that emerged from the Indian/Asian group
in South Africa. Sprecher and Metts (1989) suggested that men tended to be more
romantic because they held, or expected to hold, roles that provided greater economic
and social security relative to women and could therefore afford to be idealistic and
romantic about the beloved and their relationship as well being able to be more
selective because they held more power. This may be true for the traditionally
Indian/Asian collectivistic group in this study. The high levels of romanticism in the Black
female group may indicate that in this traditionally collectivistic group romance and
romantic love are becoming more valued and important: due to the pervasive and
persistent influence of globalisation and modernisation, collectivistic societies are
moving toward a more Western and individualistic concept of love while the low
romanticism levels in the Black male population may be indicative of their preference for
traditionally collectivistic modes of engaging in intimate interpersonal relationships.
The small difference that was observed between White men and women, and Coloured
men and women, with regards to romanticism scores seems to support findings from
more recent studies. These studies have produced no gender differences in
romanticism and this may be reflective of the increased gender equality. With this
potential increase in gender equality, perhaps women have the freedom to be more
idealistic, selective and romantic about the beloved. In addition, traditionally
individualistic societies in South Africa – the White and Coloured group – showed low
levels of romanticism. This result, in conjunction with previous findings (Sprecher &
Toro-Morn, 2002) suggests that romanticism is decreasing in traditionally individualistic
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societies. This tendency may be reflective of Giddens‘ (1992) claim that the traditional
ideal of romantic love is being replaced by the post-traditional ―pure or confluent love‖ in
advanced Western capitalistic societies. He maintains that individuals who pursue the
―pure love relationship‖ value autonomy and equality – equal rights and obligations,
open communication, mutual respect, mutual trust and mutual self-actualisation.
According to Giddens (1992), these ―pure love relationships‖ are expected to dissolve
once the ability to serve as a self development vehicle for either partner is exhausted;
this clashes with the 'forever, one and only' virtue of romantic love.
There were no statistically significant results when socioeconomic status and the total
romanticism scores of the South African sample were considered (Tables 6.131 and
6.132), indicating that socioeconomic status or wealth did not influence an individual‘s
level of romanticism.
7.2.3.5. Attachment styles
No significant findings were observed with respect to attachment styles across the four
cultural groups in South Africa, thus suggesting no profound cross-cultural differences
with regard to attachment. Some researchers might suggest that these homogeneous
cross-cultural results may be attributed to a number of reasons. Firstly, Atkins (2003)
pointed out that certain authors have criticised the Relationship Style Questionnaire as
being founded on conventional rather than empirical categories of attachment, and
secondly, the attachment styles were measured categorically in this study. Bartholomew
et al. (2001) assert that most individuals have a complex attachment profile across
attachment patterns, with individuals having primary, secondary and even tertiary
attachment strategies. Others suggest that that few individuals show a purely
prototypical attachment pattern and that individual differences in adult attachment
should not be conceptualised as types or groups but should rather be understood in
terms of dimensions (Fraley & Waller, 1998). Finally, Feeney and Noller (1996) claim
that self-report measures may offer a better measure of current relationship functioning
rather than trait-like characteristics. Nonetheless, Atkins (2003) hypothesises that there
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may be some advantages in using an attachment measure that has been constructed to
be a face-valid measure of attachment as conceptualised by Bowlby (1969, 1973, 1979,
1980) and Anisworth et al. (1978).
Previous research claims that most people are securely attached (56%), followed by
anxious-avoidant (23-25%) and anxious-ambivalent (19-20%) (Hazan & Shaver, 1987).
The attachment instrument used to establish secure attachment in the Hazan and
Shaver (1987) study yielded three attachment styles and was therefore different from
the attachment instrument used in this study (which yielded four attachment styles)
(Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994a, 1994b; Simpson et al., 1992). Nonetheless, the majority
of the South African sample was also found to be securely attached (35.3%); followed
by fearful (24.4%), dismissing (20.4%) and preoccupied (20.0%) attachment styles
(Table 6.89). This finding corroborates the findings of Schmitt et al. (2004) that across
62 cultural regions, 79% of these regions rated secure attachment as the highest form
of romantic adult attachment.
Although no statistical significance was observed when investigating attachment style
as determined by race in South Africa, the data revealed various trends. The majority of
all participants per race group all endorsed a secure attachment style with the exception
of the Black group which recorded the same proportion for secure (27.2%), dismissing
(27.2%) and fearful (27.2%) attachment styles (Table 6.89). This corroborates with the
findings of Schmitt et al. (2004) that secure attachment was more likely to be endorsed
when compared with the three insecure attachment styles, in South Africa. Therefore
most South Africans across cultural groups are securely attached, that is, they are
comfortable with intimacy and independence in close relationships. They are confident
and are able to resolve conflict constructively. They possess an ability to form and
maintain close intimate bonds with others without losing a sense of self, while they also
have an internalised sense of self worth (Bartholomew et al., 2001; Griffin &
Bartholomew, 1994b).
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Even though the majority of the South African sample was found to be securely
attached (35.3%) (Table 6.89), this percentage was much lower than that of previous
findings (56%) (Hazan & Shaver, 1987). Schmitt et al. (2004) hypothesise that
individuals from social contexts with high levels of stress tend to develop insecure
romantic attachment styles whereas those from social contexts with lower stress tend to
develop more secure attachment styles. Conceivably, with the high levels of poverty,
unemployment and crime in South Africa, the proportion of South Africans with insecure
attachment can predictably be expected to be higher than those in countries that are not
socially and economically stressed. Perhaps this assists in explaining why the data
revealed that participants from the lower income group were significantly more likely to
employ a dismissing attachment style when socioeconomic status and the attachment
styles of the South African sample are considered (Tables 6.133 and 6.134).
While no significant findings were observed when investigating attachment style as
determined by gender, the trends that emerged confirmed previous findings regarding
the four-category model of adult attachment (Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991; Brennan
et al., 1991; You & Malley-Morrison, 2000). In terms of both genders, relatively similar
proportions for secure attachment style (34.6% males and 36.2% females) were
revealed; however, females who were insecurely attached were more likely to be
preoccupied (24.6%) when compared with males (16.2%) while men who were
insecurely attached were more likely to be dismissing (22.1%) and fearful (27.2%) as
compared with females (17.4% and 21.7% respectively) (Table 6.91). It is suggested by
certain researchers that gender specific parental sex-role socialisation practices may
account for these gender differences (Hazan & Shaver, 1994). No statistical significance
was found when exploring the data regarding race by gender and finally, no statistical
significance was observed when investigating the data for gender within race.
7.2.3.6. Lovestyles
The majority of the South African sample endorsed eros as their dominant lovestyle
(39.7%) (Figure 6.3); therefore, most South Africans value early attraction, the fire and
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intensity of passionate love and a strong commitment to the beloved. The four South
African cultural groups endorsed the passionate eros (39.7%), selfless agape (22.3%),
and friendship orientated storge (18.2%) lovestyles the most strongly; this substantiates
the cross-cultural findings of Neto (2007).
Upon investigating lovestyles cross-culturally, differences emerged. Three of the South
African cultural groups (Black (40%), White (46.9%) and Coloured (46.3%) respondents
(Figures 6.16 to 6.19)) strongly endorsed eros as their dominant lovestyle. According to
Lee (1976), erotic lovers possess the ability to risk; display strong ego strength; they are
self confident, self assured, social and stable with high self esteem. The passionate
eros lovestyle has high expectations of intense physical and emotional intimacy (Lee,
1976). These results repeat previous findings that eros is the most strongly endorsed
lovestyle across cultural groups (Leon et al., 1995; Neto, 2007; Pavlou, 2005; Sprecher
et al., 1994).
Upon reconsidering Furnham‘s (1984) findings, changes in the social, political and
economic landscape in South African evidence a shift in the Black South African
attitudes towards love and romance. Furnham (1984) found that White South Africans
valued love and friendship the highest while Black South Africans placed the highest
worth on equality and peace. The current study suggests that the Black, like the White,
group value passionate love, selfless love and friendship based love as being important.
The Black group have moved from valuing basic security needs of peace and equality in
love to valuing and enjoying the freedom to pursue passion, friendship and giving
altruistic love. This may be indicative of the impact of globalisation and of how the Black
group are adopting more Western, individualistic and global models of interpersonal
love as well as reflective of changes in the political, social and economic landscape in
South Africa. Alternatively these findings could be attributed to what previous cross-
cultural researchers have claimed: that Black South Africans display a particular style of
―African love‖ that includes love, infatuation, romance, flirting and love letters (Bell,
1995; Caplan, 1997; Little, 1973; Philbrick & Opolot, 1980; Plotnicov, 1995; West,
1976). This also ties in with the findings observed regarding the love measure
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previously mentioned – being in love at the time of the study – where it was found that
White participants (65.2%) were most likely to be in love, closely followed by their Black
(63.3%) and Coloured (61%) peers (Table 6.51).
Even though the majority of Black, White and Coloured participants endorse eros as
their dominant lovestyle, a slightly higher proportion of the White and Coloured group
did so than that of the Black group; therefore confirming the trend that 1) individuals
from individualistic societies endorse the passionate erotic lovestyle of eros more than
individuals from collectivistic societies and that 2) passionate love is more important in
individualistic cultures. In addition, higher proportions of the Black group endorsed the
friendship based storge, practically based pragma, game-playing ludus and obsessive
based mania lovestyles. Previously, these lovestyles have partly been found to be more
strongly endorsed by collectivistic cultures (Cho & Cross, 1995; Dion & Dion, 1993a;
Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986, 1990; Goodwin & Findlay, 1997; Neto, 2000, 2007). These
findings, once again, suggest that although globalisation is changing romantic
aspirations and expectations in traditionally collectivistic societies, such as that of the
Black South Africans (Hofstede, 1980, 1991; Mkhize, 2004a; Mwamwenda, 1999;
Viljoen, 2002a), to reflect more of the individualistic themes and practices of love, these
are however mediated through the local culture‘s values, beliefs and practices into a
hybridised perception of love (Hart, 2004; Husted, 2003; Mwamwenda, 1999; Sandhya,
2009; Smith 2001).
According to previous findings in this study with regards to other love measures, the
hybridised view of love appears to exert a stronger local and traditional collectivistic
influence in the South African Indian/Asian group. This group was found to endorse the
selfless lovestyle of agape (28.0%) as their dominant lovestyle (Figure 6.19). The
Indian/Asian group, traditionally considered collectivistic (Dinna, 2005; Hofstede, 1991;
Netting, 2006; Sandhya, 2009; Viljoen, 2002b), revealed higher scores on agape,
pragma and storge than the other cultural groups. These scores in part corroborate
Neto‘s (2007) findings that Indian participants indicated higher scores on agape,
pragma and mania as compared with their Western British and Portuguese
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counterparts. This contributes to the argument that the social construction of romantic
love differs when comparing individualistic with the more interconnected and
interdependent view of self and others that is characteristic of the collectivistic societies
(Dion & Dion, 1993b). In addition, reflective of this finding was one discussed earlier in
this study – that Indian/Asian participants were the least likely to be in love (54.3%)
(Table 6.51).
Three significant findings emerged when interrogating lovestyles and race in the South
African sample: 1) the Black participants were significantly more ludus than the White
participants, 2) the Indian/Asian participants were significantly more pragma than the
White participants, and 3) the White and Indian/Asian respondents were significantly
more agape than the Black respondents (Tables 6.97 and 6.98). The first significant
finding, of Black participants being significantly more ludus, non-committal and game-
playing in their lovestyle than the White participants, may be explained by Meekers‘
(1995) claim. She asserts that even though Western values are eroding the traditional
African ways, traditional family values and characteristics are being retained, integrated
and merged with modern Western family systems and characteristics. One of the
traditional African characteristics of intimate relationships that has survived in South
Africa is the practice of polygamy (Gustafsson & Worku, 2006; Meekers, 1995). This
practice, and being able to keep women outside of marriage, is a sign of economic
status and continuing virility in the eyes of African men (Bafana, 2009; Little, 1973;
Smith, 2001). Previous cross-cultural researchers suggest that Black South African men
tend to support a traditional African collectivistic style of marital relationships, that is,
open, segregated and polygamous marital relationships (Little, 1973; Smith, 2001; Van
der Vliet, 1991). In contrast, these authors maintain that Black South African women
support a more individualistic style of marital relationships – ―modern‖ marriage models
– that are closed, joint and monogamous (Little, 1973; Van der Vliet, 1991). More
recently Bikitsha (2009, p. 20) introduced a new perspective; she suggests that
nowadays some modern, professional and affluent African women who are set on
marrying may ―find themselves not being ‘the one‘, but the second or the third‖ – they
are entering into polygamous marriages by choice. The above confirms that the
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concept of love in African society is not necessarily identical to Western notions of love
(e.g. romantic love in African societies does not necessarily imply exclusivity) and that
the actual content of meaning is burdened by existing social values (Little, 1973). It is
conceivable that the traditional, polygamous, open marriage model may leave the
individuals involved feeling insecure, not as committed and therefore open to alternative
partners (Rusbult, 1983). Perhaps the ludus lovestyle is catalysed in a polygamous
culture because there is more acceptance and space for this style of loving.
The second significant finding that was observed when interrogating lovestyles and race
in the South African sample was that the Indian/Asian participants were significantly
more pragma than their White peers. This is an expected result along the individualism-
collectivism continuum and it repeats the previous findings that collectivistic societies
are more pragma, agape and storge than individualistic ones (Cho & Cross, 1995;
Goodwin & Findlay, 1997; Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Neto, 2000, 2007). In view of the
Indian/Asian cultural and religious tradition, belief in and valuing of interdependency
within the community, the strong belief in and supporting of group norms and obligation
as well as the centrality of family honour and stability, it is not surprising that the
Indian/Asian sample endorsed pragma notably more strongly than their White Western,
traditionally individualistic counterparts.
When lovestyles and race in the South African sample were interrogated, the third
significant finding observed was that the White and Indian/Asian respondents were
significantly more agape than the Black counterparts. Generally, in collectivistic
societies the pragma, agape and storge lovestyles were more strongly endorsed than in
individualistic ones (Cho & Cross, 1995; Goodwin & Findlay, 1997; Hendrick &
Hendrick, 1986; Neto, 2000, 2007). The Indian/Asian group, which is traditionally
thought of as collectivistic, adheres to this expectation. However, in the Black group,
which is also traditionally thought of as collectivistic, the opposite is observed. Although
this finding is perplexing it verifies Hendrick and Hendrick‘s (1986) finding that African-
American participants were the least agapic when compared with White-non-Hispanic,
White-Hispanic, Oriental, and international students.
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The White group also presents with the opposite significance from that which would be
expected from a traditionally individualistic culture with regard to the agape lovestyle.
There may be a number of explanations for this finding. Firstly, Hendrick and Hendrick
(2000) reflect on whether in fact the Eastern philosophy of fatalism, duty and obligation
(qualities that characterise agape love) can also be found in Western notions of love.
Secondly, Barrett (2000) proposed that individualistic and collectivistic societies vary in
the forms of independence and interdependence, but that both cultures socialise
children to display both tendencies, implying that ―independence and interdependence
are fostered in all cultures and that independence is not antithetical to interdependence‖
(Barrett, 2000, p. 94). Barrett‘s (2000) point of view is verified by Triandis (2001) in his
assertion, noted earlier, that no culture is monolithically individualistic or collectivistic; all
cultures are mixes of both. A third and alternative explanation is Triandis‘s (1995)
categorisation of individualism. Triandis (1995) described vertical individualism as
emphasising autonomy with status, inequality, power and competition, which appears to
be the antithesis of the altruistic and selfless agape lovestyle. In contrast, he described
horizontal individualism as emphasising autonomy with egalitarianism, uniqueness and
separateness, which does not automatically exclude the altruistic and selfless agape
lovestyle. Perhaps the White South African group is more horizontally individualistic
than vertically individualistic. In sum, cross-cultural researchers have hypothesised that
Western notions of love carry within them collectivistic values and philosophies,
tendencies towards independence as well as interdependence, and attitudes related to
vertical as well as horizontal individualism.
When the gender differences in dominant lovestyles were examined, the findings that
men were more agapic and more ludic than women and that women were more eros,
storge and pragma than men (Figures 6.26 and 6.27) validate previous research (Dion
& Dion, 1993a; Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Hendrick et al., 1998; Lacey et al., 2004;
Morrow et al., 1995; Neto, 2007; Pavlou, 2005; Sprecher et al., 1994; Sprecher & Toro-
Morn, 2002; Yancy & Berglass, 1991). The two significant gender findings from the
South African sample were: 1) South African men were significantly more ludus than
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South African women and 2) the South African women were significantly more storge
than South African men (Tables 6.100 and 6.101). Both these findings could be clarified
using the evolutionary explanation of mate selection: men are more permissive and aim
to disperse their sexual investment (and therefore value a more game-playing lovestyle
than women), while women are more selective, aim to concentrate their sexual
investment and seek to establish long-term committed and harmonious relationships
(and therefore place greater value on a friendship orientated lovestyle) (Buss & Schmitt,
1993).
There were no significant findings when exploring the interaction between race and
gender and lovestyles (Table 6.102 to 6.113) while no significant differences were
observed between the lovestyles and socioeconomic status (Table 6.136), suggesting
that wealth does not influence one‘s lovestyle.
7.2.3.7. Synthesising key love findings by cultural groups
One of the aims of this study was to investigate how the four broad different ethnic
groups in South Africa experience love and choose their partners. Each group will now
be considered in order to synthesise the findings that pertain to them.
7.2.3.7.1. Black group
The proportion of Black participants who were in love at the time of the study was very
similar to the proportion of White and Coloured participants who were in the same state.
As a group their most endorsed dominant lovestyle was the passionate and intense
eros lovestyle (followed by storge and agape). Having said that, even though three
quarters of the Black participants thought love was important as the basis for marriage,
as a group they were the second least likely group to marry someone they love when
compared with other ethnic groups.
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Upon considering gender difference in this group it was observed that Black women
were more likely to be in love than their male counterparts, that Black males were
significantly more likely to marry someone they did not love than Black females, and
that Black women experienced higher levels of romanticism than Black men. These
findings possibly suggest that a more collectivistic hybridised approach appears to be
truer for Black males whereas Black females seemed to demonstrate a stronger
individualistic hybridised approach.
Previous research has found that higher proportions of secure attachment are endorsed
when compared with insecure attachment (Hazan & Shaver, 1987), therefore
suggesting that the majority of humans are capable of an interdependent, committed,
satisfying relationships. The South African Black group, however, endorsed secure,
dismissing and fearful attachment styles equally. Researchers maintain that insecure
attachment styles were associated with less interdependence, commitment, trust,
satisfaction, shorter relationship duration as well as less frequent positive and more
frequent negative emotions in the relationship than secure attachment styles (Hazan &
Shaver, 1987; Simpson, 1990). Perhaps this is also the case for the high proportion of
the insecure (dismissing and fearful) Black participants, that is, a tendency to struggle to
cultivate and develop satisfying stable long-term relationships. The high proportion of
insecure attachment in this group could be attributed to the fact that historically the
Black participants were the most disadvantaged cultural group in South Africa and
consequently have been subjected to high levels of poverty, unemployment, crime and
single parental investments. This substantiates the hypothesis advanced by Schmitt et
al. (2004) that individuals from social contexts with high levels of stress tended to
develop higher levels of insecure attachment styles. This perhaps assists in explaining
why, when considering socioeconomic status and the South African sample‘s
attachment styles, the data revealed that participants from the lower income group
(Black participants were significantly more likely to be in the lower income group when
compared with their White, Coloured and Indian/Asian counterparts) were significantly
more likely to exhibit a dismissing attachment style. Finally, perhaps the smaller
proportion of securely attached Black participants (27%) could be attributed to the high
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proportion of single African mothers (48% between the ages of 20-40) in comparison to
the other cultural groups (Gustafsson & Worku, 2006). The lack of both parental figures
exercising positive, consistent parental investment and long-term mating strategies is
said to negatively impact on a child‘s development of secure attachment (Chrisholm,
1996). According to Bowlby (1979) attachment follows an individual from ‗cradle to
grave‘ therefore conceivably the negative legacy of single parental investment carries
into adulthood and negatively influences mate selection.
This study found that Black participants were significantly more ludus than the White
participants (Tables 6.97 and 6.98). According to Lee (1976), the ludic lover
understands love as a playful noncommittal game of detachment. They do not demand
nor expect exclusivity from their partners and nor do they guarantee exclusivity. Lee
(1976) asserts that the ludic lovers are socially confident, self assured, and charming
but avoid risk by not bearing his / her weaknesses or becoming dependent (Lee, 1976).
Researchers reported that the ludus lovestyle was associated with low relationship
satisfaction as well as lower levels of Rusbult‘s (1983) rewards, satisfaction,
investments and commitment and higher levels of cost and better quality of alternatives
(Davis & Latty-Mann, 1987; Hendrick, Hendrick & Adler, 1988; Marrow, Clark & Brock,
1995; Rudnick, 1997; Sokolski & Hendrick, 1999). When taking all the above previous
findings with regard to the ludus lovestyle into account it can conceivably be concluded
that the ludic individual seems to struggle to develop and maintain long-term stable
romantic relationships that are based on trust, interdependence and commitment.
Following this, when compared with their White counterparts, Black participants in
South Africa seem be more likely to experience this struggle. These results may also
reflect this group‘s traditional marriage model – characterised as open, segregated and
polygamous (Bikitsha, 2009; Little, 1973; Smith, 2001; Van der Vliet, 1991).
The second significant finding with regard to lovestyle and the Black respondents was
that Black participants were found to be significantly less agape than the White and
Indian/Asian respondents (Tables 6.97 and 6.98). This is not surprising in view of the
above significant ludus finding. Agape and ludus are generally characterised by
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contradictory qualities and behaviours. Where ludus seeks to avoid commitment by
controlling emotional commitment, agape controls emotional commitment in order to
attain commitment. Where ludus sees romantic love as a playful non committal game,
agape sees it as a powerful, intense and rare gift to be cherished. Researchers have
found that agapic attitudes correlated positively with relationship rewards, quality and
satisfaction (Contreras et al., 1996; Davis & Latty-Mann, 1987; Hendrick & Hendrick,
1986; Hendrick, Hendrick & Adler, 1988; Mallandain & Davies, 1994; Marrow, Clark &
Brock, 1995; Montgomery & Sorell, 1997; Rudnick, 1997; Sokolski & Hendrick, 1999). It
was established that agape lovestyles were positively correlated with high levels of
Sternberg‘s intimacy, commitment and passion; positively correlated with secure
attachment style (trusting and stable); and negatively correlated with avoidant
attachment style (detached and unresponsive) (Feeney, 1999; Hendrick & Hendrick,
1989). It is conceivable that this study‘s significant ludic and agapic results in the Black
group, as well as the high proportions of single Black South Africans, dovetail with
Montgomery and Sorell‘s (1997) findings that single people held the strong ludic
attitudes and weak agapic attitudes.
In sum, although the Black South African group valued romance, passionate erotic love
and being in love, they were the second least likely to marry someone they love when
compared to other ethnic groups. In addition, they were equally likely to exhibit secure,
dismissing and fearful attachment styles while they were significantly the most ludic and
least agape when compared with other ethnic groups. This suggests that in comparison
to the other ethnic groups a higher proportion of this group tends to struggle to develop,
cultivate and maintain long-term stable romantic relationships that are based on trust,
interdependence and commitment. Overall, this group seemed to hold a mixture of
individualistic and collectivistic values and beliefs with regard to matters of the heart as
compared with the other groups with Black females leaning more towards individualistic
values and beliefs and Black men towards collectivistic ones.
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7.2.3.7.2. White group
In line with what was expected of this traditionally individualistic culture the White group
were the most likely to be in love, the most likely to marry someone they loved, have a
secure attachment style and the most likely to endorse the passionate and intense eros
lovestyle as their dominant lovestyle (followed by agape and storge). These South
African results confirm previous findings that eros, agape and secure attachment are
associated (Feeney, 1999).
With regards to significant findings, this study established that White participants were
significantly less ludus than their Black counterparts, significantly less pragma than the
Indian/Asian participants, and significantly more agape than the Black respondents.
Therefore, the White group were less likely than their Black counterparts to treat
romantic love like a non committal game, and they were less likely than their
Indian/Asian peers to be deliberate, calculated and practical about love. These results
verify the differences between individualistic and collectivistic societies. Previous
studies established that individuals from individualistic societies endorsed pragma and
ludus less than collectivistic societies do (Cho & Cross, 1995; Goodwin & Findlay, 1997;
Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Neto, 2000, 2007).
The majority of the White group endorsed the secure attachment style the most
strongly. According to Simpson (1990), in his longitudinal study secure attachment
styles were associated with interdependence, commitment, trust, and satisfaction in a
romantic relationship. These adults are characterised by being able to not only give and
receive care comfortably and appropriately but also respond to cues from their partner
as to when and how care should be given (Shaver & Hazan, 1988; Simpson et al.,
1992). Secure adults had longer and more committed romantic relationships when
compared with insecure adults (Hazan & Shaver, 1987). Therefore the majority of White
South Africans will experience committed, satisfying and long-term relationships.
Perhaps the reason for this is because historically the White populace was the most
financially advantaged cultural group in South Africa and consequently has been
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subjected to the least stress. According to Schmitt et al. (2004), those from social
contexts with lower stress tended to develop more secure attachment styles. This
confirms the finding that White participants were significantly more likely to fall in the
upper income group when compared with their Black, Coloured and Indian/Asian
counterparts. Similar to previous findings, even though most males and females were
securely attached, more White males endorsed the independent and self-sufficient
dismissing attachment style in comparison with their female counterparts, whereas
more White females endorsed the dependent demanding preoccupied attachment style
as compared to their male counterparts (Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991).
It was expected that the higher the individual‘s socioeconomic status the more likely
they were to stem from an individualistic society and the more likely they were able to
adopt the freedom and luxury of a romantic approach to love as well as to experience
the freedom to choose to marry someone with whom they were in love. The South
African sample confirmed this expectation. The White group was significantly more
likely to fall in the upper income group and its members were also the most likely to be
in love at the time of the study, the most likely to be the intense passionate erotic lover
as well as the most likely to marry someone whom they loved.
In sum, the White group, as compared with the other ethnic groups, valued passionate,
selfless love; they were most likely to marry someone they loved while the majority of
this group were capable of developing, and maintaining committed, satisfying and long-
term relationships. Overall, this group appeared to hold the most individualistic values
and beliefs with regard to romantic love, when compared with the other groups.
7.2.3.7.3. Coloured group
At the time of the study, the proportion of Coloured participants who were in love was
very similar to that of the White and Black respondents. The Coloured participants were
the second most likely to marry someone they loved when compared with the other
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cultural groups. As a group, their most endorsed dominant lovestyle was eros (followed
by agape and storge). These findings suggest that the Coloured group adopts a more
Western individualistic approach to intimate relationships in which erotic, intense
passionate love and romanticism are important ingredients when dating as well as when
selecting a mate for marriage.
The majority of the Coloured group endorsed the secure attachment style the most
strongly, which indicates that the majority of Coloured people have the ability to develop
and cultivate long-term satisfying relationships. Perhaps this occurs because they have
been subjected to relatively less stress than their Black counterparts since ―[h]istorically,
poorer coloured people, mainly in urban areas, were privileged in relations to Africans with
regard to certain categories of work; the provision of higher levels of access to education
and health services; the provision of unemployment benefits that emerged from being part
of the recognised / ‘legal‘ labour force; the provision of housing infrastructure (both
buildings and services) and the extension of a range of welfare services such as disability
grants, (higher) state pensions, maintenance grants, amongst others‖ (Erasmus &
Pieterse, 1999, p. 173). Although most Coloured males and females were securely
attached, more insecurely attached Coloured males were found to be predominantly
fearfully attached as compared with their female counterparts while more insecurely
attached Coloured females, in line with previous cross cultural studies (Bartholomew &
Horowitz, 1991), endorsed the dependent preoccupied attachment style in comparison
to their male counterparts. In other words, some Coloured male and females struggle to
develop satisfying long-term relationships because the Coloured males tend to be highly
dependent but avoid intimacy and closeness in order to circumvent loss of separation or
rejection; whereas the Coloured females seek self worth through extreme closeness
and over-investment in personal relationships.
In sum, the Coloured group, when compared with the other cultural groups, valued
passionate love as well as being in love. They were more likely to marry someone they
loved than their Black and Indian/Asian peers and the majority were capable of
developing, and maintaining committed, satisfying and long-term relationships. Overall,
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this group, although not as strong as the White group, also seemed to hold more
individualistic values and beliefs with regard to romantic love when compared with the
other groups.
7.2.3.7.4. Indian/Asian group
In line with expectations of this traditionally collectivistic culture the Indian/Asian group
were the least likely to be in love, the least likely to marry someone they loved, and the
most likely to endorse the intense, dutiful and selfless agape lovestyle as their dominant
lovestyle (followed by eros and storge). These findings confirm that passionate,
romantic love is not as important in traditionally collectivistic societies as it is in
traditionally individualistic societies. This premise is verified by the significant lovestyle
findings in this study: that the Indian/Asian group indicated a significantly more practical,
deliberate pragma lovestyle than the White participants, and significantly more selfless
agape lovestyle than the Black respondents. Previous studies found that individuals
from collectivistic societies endorsed pragma, agape and storge more than
individualistic societies (Cho & Cross, 1995; Goodwin & Findlay, 1997; Hendrick &
Hendrick, 1986; Neto, 2000, 2007). These results are not surprising because, unlike the
Western worldview which emphasises the individualised self who strives for its
autonomy and actualisation, the Eastern worldview emphasises the contextualised self
which consists of 1) a familial self or the ‗we-centered self‘ which is fostered in mutual
symbiotic interpersonal relationships; and 2) a spiritual self which is fostered in the
transcendent relationships (Viljoen, 2002b). Viljoen (2002b) clarifies that the Eastern
worldview does not negate individuality or actualisation of the self but instead it
emphasises actualisation of the self as the ‗transcendence of the self‘ rather than the
‗extension of the self‘. Perhaps this is why the Indian/Asian group scored high on
individualism and collectivism when exploring the cross-cultural findings from the
Auckland Individualism and Collectivism Questionnaire.
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In comparison with women from the other cultural groups the Indian/Asian females were
the least likely to be in love and were significantly more likely to marry someone they did
not love when compared to females from other racial groups. Perhaps this is because
traditionally relationships and social interaction are regulated by the disciplined patriarchal
extended family where the traditional male authority is emphasised (Joyce, 2005). A South
African Indian study was undertaken by Dinna (2005) to establish differences in marital
satisfaction between autonomous, love marriages and arranged marriages. It was
discovered that couples in love relationships reported slightly higher levels of marital
satisfaction when compared with couples whose marriages had been arranged.
The majority of the Indian/Asian group endorsed the secure attachment style the most
strongly and therefore possess the ability to cultivate and develop satisfying romantic
relationships. Perhaps this is so because historically the Indian society has been unified
and prosperous with a high proportion of professionals and entrepreneurs (Joyce, 2005)
and consequently has been subjected to less stress when compared with the Black
counterparts. As in previous findings more insecurely attached Indian/Asian males
endorsed the independent, self-sufficient dismissing attachment style when compared
with their female counterparts, whereas more insecurely attached Indian/Asian females
endorsed the dependent preoccupied attachment style in comparison with their male
counterparts (Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991).
The Indian/Asian group were found to score high regarding the individualism and
collectivistic continuum when answering the Auckland Individualism Collectivism
Questionnaire, perhaps indicating that they straddle both dimensions as well as
showing cultural flexibility. When compared with the other cultural groups, they were
also found to hold more collectivistic views on most of the love measures than the other
groups. This may point to the possibility that this group has developed bicultural
identities. Perhaps individuals who stem from a traditional collectivistic society but who
are under the sway of globalisation negotiate these bicultural identities in unique ways.
It is conceivable that for the South African Indian/Asian young adult their public or global
identity takes on a more individualistic accent while the internal, private, local identity
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maintains a more collectivistic tone. This possibly demonstrates that although
globalisation is profoundly impacting cultural identities, the perseverance and
pervasiveness of local cultural values and beliefs appear to be maintained as a nucleus.
Perhaps cultural identity, like the layers of an onion, possesses a public, outer layer that
is being shaped by global culture and an internal and private core identity that is being
shaped primarily by local culture. Conceivably, for the Indian/Asian individual it is this
internal core that directs notions of love, marriage and mate selection.
In sum, the Indian/Asian group, when compared with the other ethnic groups, valued
passionate love as well as being in love the least. They were more likely to endorse a
practical lovestyle and they were more likely to marry someone whom they did not love
than their White, Black and Indian/Asian peers. The majority of this group was securely
attached and therefore most were capable of developing, and maintaining committed,
satisfying and long-term relationships. Overall, this group seemed to hold the most
collectivistic values and beliefs with regard to romantic love as compared with the other
groups.
7.2.3.7.5. Summary of key findings by race
To conclude, it was observed that, across cultural groups, revealing trends that can be
explained via the individualism-collectivism continuum or globalisation emerged.
However, overall, the South African cultural groups are relatively similar across the love
measures. They exhibited similar proportions of being in love at the time of the study,
similar levels of romanticism and similar proportions of attachment styles. The three
most endorsed lovestyles in all four cultural groups were eros, agape and storge. The
Black, White and Coloured groups endorsed eros as their dominant lovestyle, followed
by agape and thereafter storge for the White and Coloured groups, and storge and
thereafter agape for the Black group. The participants in the Indian/Asian group endorse
agape as their dominant lovestyle, followed by eros and storge.
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The significant differences, upon comparing cultural groups, appeared in the importance
of love as a basis for marriage where South African Indian/Asian participants were
significantly more likely to marry someone whom they did not love, while White
participants were significantly less likely to do so; and in lovestyles where: 1) the Black
participants were significantly more ludus than the White participants, 2) the
Indian/Asian participants were significantly more pragma than the White participants,
and 3) the White and Indian/Asian respondents were significantly more agape than the
Black respondents.
Upon examining race by gender differences this study found that Black males were
significantly more likely to marry someone whom they did not love while White males
were significantly more likely to insist on marrying someone whom they love when
compared with their male counterparts from other racial groups. Similarly, Indian/Asian
women were more likely to marry someone they did not love when compared to their
female peers from other racial groups
When investigating gender within race differences the study established that White
females where significantly more likely to be in love relative to White males whereas
Black males were significantly more likely to marry someone whom they did not love
than Black females.
Finally, when exploring the interaction effect between race and gender it was found that
Black women and Indian men scored high on romanticism relative to the White men,
White women, Black men, and Indian women. In addition, for the White and Coloured
groups the difference in romanticism scores between men and women was small,
whereas for the Black and Indian groups clear differences could be observed.
7.2.3.8. Summary of key love findings by gender
South African women were significantly more likely to be in love than South African men
while they are also marginally more likely to be more romantic than their male
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counterparts. When investigating whether men or women were more likely to marry than
women or men, no profound gender differences were observed. This confirms previous
findings (Levine et al., 1995; Simpson et al., 1986; Sprecher et al., 1994; Sprecher &
Toro-Morn, 2002). Although both genders revealed relatively similar proportions in
terms of secure attachment style, a trend, similar to that of previous findings, showed
that insecurely attached females were found to be more preoccupied when compared
with insecurely attached males, while insecurely attached men were found to be more
dismissing and fearful when compared with insecurely attached females (Bartholomew
& Horowitz, 1991; Brennan et al., 1991). Upon examining the gender differences in
lovestyles it was established that men endorsed agape and ludus as their dominant
lovestyles, whereas women endorsed eros, storge and pragma as their dominant
lovestyles. This substantiates previous findings (Dion & Dion, 1993a; Hendrick &
Hendrick, 1986; Hendrick et al., 1998; Lacey et al., 2004; Morrow et al., 1995; Neto,
2007; Pavlou, 2005; Sprecher et al., 1994; Sprecher & Toro-Morn, 2002; Yancy &
Berglass, 1991). South African men were found to be significantly more game playing
ludus than South African women while South African women were significantly more
friendship orientated storge than South African men.
In sum, although most men and women are securely attached and are therefore
comfortable with intimacy as well as independence in a romantic relationship, there is a
tendency for a greater proportion of the insecure men to be more dismissing and a
greater proportion of the insecure women to be more preoccupied. In other words,
insecurely attached South African men are less focused on being in love and have a
tendency to value independence and self-reliance and to avoid intimacy and closeness
in order to circumvent the pain of potential or expected loss or rejection; consequently, it
is not surprising that the men are significantly more likely to adopt the game-playing
uncommitted ludus lovestyle. South African women on the other hand place a premium
on love; they tend to seek closeness, be dependent and invest in relationships; and
therefore it is not surprising that South African women were significantly more storge
than South African men. It seems that the men and women who are insecure indicate
different desires or expectations with regards to love.
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7.2.3.9. Comparing love measures
7.2.3.9.1. Love measures and lovestyles
From a theoretical perspective, as regards which people displaying the dominant six
lovestyles were the most likely to be in love at the time of the study it was expected
that eros, who is supposed to value the intensity of love, would be the most likely to be
in love; and game-playing, non-committal ludus, who lacks the fire and passion of the
eros, would be the least likely to be in love. The friendship based storge lovestyle and
the practical lovestyle of pragma were expected not to differ from one another. Finally,
predictions for the obsessive mania and the selfless agape were uncertain. As
expected, in this study the researcher found that individuals with an eros lovestyle
(69.7%), more than those of any other lovestyle, were the most likely to be in love at the
time of the study. This result concurs with the finding of Hendrick and Hendrick (1986).
It also substantiates Lee‘s (1976) theory that erotic individuals have the fire of intense
and urgent passionate love for the ideal beloved.
Interestingly, the eros lovestyle was closely followed by agape (66.7%) and mania
(66.7%). This may be explained by the fact that both mania and agape are a blend of
eros and therefore may retain some of the passionate love of eros (Lee, 1976). The
mania lovestyle is a blend of eros and ludus: the manic lover yearns for passionate
intense love to maintain self-worth (Lee, 1976). The agape lovestyle is a blend of storge
and eros; Lee (1976) describes agape love as dutiful, selfless and giving as well as
intense and powerful. In addition, both agape and mania lovestyles are focused on the
beloved – with mania idealising the other and agape being of service to the other.
Therefore, it is perhaps conceivable that a reasonable proportion of these mania and
agape individuals would be in love at the time of the study. As expected, the storge
(55.6%) and pragma (55.3%) individuals did not differ from each other and were less
likely than people displaying eros, mania and agape to be in love at time of the study.
This corroborates the theory that neither storge, which is characterised by a slow
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developing friendship, nor pragma, which is characterised by a practical, pragmatic,
logical and calculated type of love, have the fire and intensity of passionate love.
Concurring with Hendrick and Hendrick‘s (1986) findings, in the South African sample,
the game playing ludus lovestyle (16.7%) was significantly less likely to be in love at the
time of the study than any other lovestyle. This finding also substantiates Lee‘s (1976)
theory that ludic individuals do not have the fire of passionate love; instead they have
the playfulness of game-playing and non-committal love – where many rather than the
‗one and only‘ is the goal in intimate relationships. Whilst the other lovestyles seek
committed long-term relationships, the ludic lover actively avoids them. Eros, storge and
agape lovers seek committed long-term relationships with partners whom they love, and
although pragma and mania lovers also seek committed long-term relationships their
motivations are somewhat different. Manic lovers experience a desperate need to be in
love in order to feed their self-worth. Like the ludic lover, they have a tendency to
believe anyone will do – they are more focused on being loved by the idealised other
rather than loving. The pragma lover on the other hand is similar to the ludic lover in that
he or she is detached, calculated and controlled in assessing possible mates; they do
not rely on emotions (like love) to make their decision. In addition, perhaps because
mania and pragma are in part a blend of ludus they may not be as different from ludus
as eros, storge and agape.
When predicting which individuals exhibiting the dominant six lovestyles was most likely
to marry for love, the expected outcomes were eros, the most likely, ludus the least
likely, little difference between storge and pragma, and uncertain prediction for mania
and agape. The researcher of this study found that individuals with an agape (89.8%)
and eros (87.9%) lovestyles were significantly more likely to marry someone whom they
love than those with other lovestyles as reflected in the theories discussed above. The
ludus lovestyle also followed the expected course in that they were significantly more
likely to marry someone whom they did not love than those with other lovestyles. This
too is reflective of the theory in that love is perceived as a game for the ludic person.
The storge (75%) individual was more likely to marry someone they loved than their
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pragma (65.8%) peers. Conceivably this is because although the storge individual is
more comfortable with a slow developing friendship, this friendship nonetheless
develops into a strong, stable, companionate love which becomes an important
ingredient in the decision to marry the beloved. The pragma individual, on the other
hand, is less focused on romantic love and instead values a partner who fits specific
compatibility criteria that will ensure a workable marriage. It seems that for the pragma
lover stability is more of a priority than the intensity and excitement of passionate love.
There was little difference between the percentage of the pragma (65.8%) and mania
(62.5%) individuals who would marry someone whom they love. Perhaps it is because
the mania lovestyle seeks to be loved and taken care of, rather than loving the other,
that a lower proportion of them will prioritise marrying someone they love. As expected,
the game playing ludus lovestyle (50%) was the least likely to marry someone they love.
It was found that the ludus and pragma participants were significantly more likely to
marry someone with whom they were not in love when compared with participants with
other dominant lovestyles. This too fits the theory (Lee, 1976); in that both these
lovestyles adopt a detached, controlled, calculated and deliberate approach to love.
Perhaps the differences between lovestyles rest on the emotion of love: the erotic and
agapic lover prioritise love for the beloved in their romantic relationships and decisions
to marry whereas the ludic and pragmatic lovers are detached, calculated and
controlled in their intimate relations and do not allow emotions such as love to influence
their decision about whom they should marry
Predictions for the importance of love in the maintenance of marriage were
uncertain but it was conceivable that they would be similar to the expected outcomes
mentioned. The researcher observed no significant differences between the lovestyles
and whether individuals agreed or disagreed with the statement: ―If love has completely
disappeared from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to make a clean
break and start new lives‖. Similarly, no significant differences emerged between the
lovestyles and whether individuals agreed or disagreed with the statement: ―In my
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opinion, the disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and
should not be viewed as such‖.
From a theoretical perspective it is conceivable that those employing the eros lovestyle
who value an honest, passionate, intense and intimate relationship with the ideal
beloved would be the most romantic of the lovestyles, while the playful, non-committal,
game-playing ludus lovestyle would be the least romantic. Storge and pragma are
expected to have similar levels of romanticism. It was uncertain what the mania and
agape individuals would score on romanticism. The researcher found that the more
romantic individuals were, the more eros and agape they were. This verifies the theory
that for both these lovestyles intense and powerful love is important. The game-playing
ludus lovestyle followed the theory (Lee, 1976) that the less romantic an individual the
more ludus they were. As expected, the relationship between romanticism, and mania,
storge and pragma was not as strong as it was for eros and agape; however, the more
romantic an individual the more mania, storge and pragma they were. The study
established that individuals with an agape lovestyle were significantly more likely to be
romantic than individuals with a storge lovestyle. Perhaps this is because agape is a
more passionate selfless lovestyle when compared to the more muted friendship based
storge love.
Although most previous studies comparing lovestyles and attachment styles utilise the
three categories of attachment (secure, anxious and avoidant), these studies can be
used for comparisons in the current study because of their strong similarities. Upon
comparing Hazan and Shaver‘s (1987) original three adult attachment styles with
Bartholomew‘s (1990) four attachment patterns, it is apparent that they concur fairly
closely: secure with secure, ambivalent with preoccupied and avoidant with dismissing.
In the South African sample it was observed that individuals with the passionate eros
lovestyle were significantly more likely to display a secure attachment style and
significantly less likely to experience a dismissing or fearful attachment style.
Consequently, the confident, self-assured eros individual is more likely to be
comfortable with intimacy and independence in close relationships, is able to resolve
conflict constructively, is more likely to possess an ability to form and maintain close
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intimate bonds with others without losing a sense of self, and enjoys an internalised
sense of self worth (Bartholomew et al., 2001; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b). The
South African finding corroborates Hendrick and Hendrick‘s (1989) findings that eros
was positively correlated with the secure attachment style and negatively correlated with
avoidant attachment style (detached and unresponsive).
The South African individuals with a ludus lovestyle were significantly more likely to
possess a dismissing or fearful attachment style and were significantly less likely to
display a secure or preoccupied one. Therefore ludus individuals were more likely to
possess either a 1) dismissing attachment style which is characterised by the
importance of independence and self-reliance, shunning and avoiding intimacy with
others, downplaying, devaluing and denying the importance of relationships; or 2) a
fearful attachment style which is characterised by high attachment anxiety, a struggle to
make their needs known within the relationship, being dependent on others for the
validation of their low self-worth, and avoiding intimacy and closeness to circumvent the
pain of potential or expected loss or rejection (Bartholomew et al., 2001; Griffin &
Bartholomew, 1994b). This, once again, confirms Hendrick and Hendrick‘s (1989)
findings that ludus is negatively correlated with secure attachment style and positively
correlated with avoidant attachment style. Hendrick and Hendrick (1989) also reported
that pragma was positively related to an avoidant attachment style; this, however, was
not the case for the South African sample. In a recent study Fricker (2006) echoes
similar findings when she establishes that high scores regarding avoidance were
associated with high ludus, and low eros and agape levels.
Individuals with a mania lovestyle were significantly more likely to have a preoccupied
or fearful attachment style and were significantly less likely to adopt a secure or a
dismissing attachment style. Therefore the individuals with a mania lovestyle are more
likely to be 1) preoccupied attached, which is characterised by being more dependent,
preoccupied, seeking validation of their precarious self-worth through extreme
closeness and over investment in personal relationships, 2) or fearful attached, which is
characterised as described above (Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991; Bartholomew et al.,
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2001; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994b)., Once again, this correlates somewhat with
Hendrick and Hendrick‘s (1989) findings that mania was positively related to ambivalent
attachment style (anxious and uncertain). Fricker (2006), in a more recent study,
echoes this finding when she establishes that anxious attachment was positively
correlated with mania.
7.2.3.9.2. Integration of love types
The eros and agape individuals in this South African population appear to be strongly
aligned. Both were relatively equal in being the most likely to be in love at the time of
the study, more likely to marry for love, more romantic, more likely to have secure
attachment styles and less likely to have a dismissing or fearful attachment style when
compared to other lovestyles. When one refers to the possible intersections and points
of commonality and agreement between types of love derived from the various love
theories outlined in the literature review (section 2.11 and Table 2.10), it is clear that
although there are some differences between the passionate, intense eros love and the
selfless, intense and powerful agape love, there are also clear parallels. Freud (1905,
1915) might suggest that both South African eros and agape individuals possess the
capacity to enjoy an enduring relationship but that agape is not as capable of achieving
―happy love" as eros is. Similarly, Fromm (1956) may advocate that individuals with
either of these lovestyles have the ability to achieve mature love but that the eros
lovestyle also enjoys the ability to achieve erotic love. Attachment theorists may
recognise that both these lovestyles are securely attached (Bartholomew, 1990;
Bowlby, 1969; Ainsworth et al., 1978; Hazan & Shaver, 1987) while research confirms a
strong association between eros, agape and a secure attachment style (Feeney, 1999).
The interdependence theorists may suggest that both eros and agape will employ long-
term communal exchanges and will also engage in cognitive and behavioural
maintenance mechanisms (Clark & Mills, 1979; Kelley & Thibaut, 1978; Mills & Clark,
1994, 2001; Rusbult, 1983). Finally, evolutionary theorists may propose that both eros
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and agape will employ a long-term ―domestic bliss strategy‖ (Buss, 1988, 1999, 2003,
2004).
Ludus, in this study, was found to be the least likely to be in love at the time of the
study, least likely to marry for love, least romantic and more likely to possess dismissing
or fearful attachment styles, while less likely to enjoy a secure or preoccupied
attachment style when compared to other lovestyles. When referring to section 2.11 and
Table 2.10, people with the game-playing and noncommittal ludus lovestyle appear to
struggle to achieve satisfaction, happiness and comfort in the realm of a romantic
intimate long-term relationship. Freud (1905, 1912, 1915, 1925) may propose that South
African ludus individuals do not possess the capacity to enjoy an enduring relationship
and will instead be burdened with neurotic love and an unresolved Oedipal complex.
Conceivably Fromm (1956) would identify the ludic individual as having a neurotic
disturbance of love; an infantile relatedness to the mother and or the father; and an
inability to achieve mature love, erotic love or self love. Attachment theorists may
advocate that ludus lovestyles are insecurely attached (Bartholomew, 1990; Bowlby,
1969; Ainsworth et al., 1978; Hazan & Shaver, 1987) while research confirms a strong
association between ludus and an insecure dismissing / avoidant attachment style
(Feeney, 1999, Fricker, 2006). The interdependence theorists may suggest that ludus
will employ short-term exchange relationships and will avoid engaging in cognitive and
behavioural maintenance mechanisms (Clark & Mills, 1979; Kelley & Thibaut, 1978;
Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001; Rusbult, 1983). Finally, evolutionary theorists may propose
that ludic men will more than likely adopt a short-term ―he-man strategy‖, whereas ludic
women will likely adopt a short-term ―sexy-sons strategy‖ (Buss, 1988, 1999, 2003,
2004).
This study established that storge and pragma were relatively similar and followed the
same direction as the eros and agape lovestyles but to a lesser extent: they were more
likely to be in love at the time of the study, more likely to marry for love, more romantic
than ludus but less so than eros and agape. The storge lovestyle was more likely to
marry for love than its pragma peers. If one refers to section 2.11 and Table 2.10,
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friendship-based storge lovestyle seems be a healthier love type than the practical
pragma lovestyle. Freud (1905, 1914, 1915) may suggest that South African storge
individuals possess the capacity to achieve ―happy love‖ and to have an enduring
relationship but that pragma will not be as successful because of their tendency toward
a more narcissistic model of love. Fromm (1956) could propose that storge possesses
the ability to achieve mature love but not necessarily erotic love and that pragma is
characterised by ‗personality package‘ immature love. Attachment theorists may
advocate that storge is securely attached, whereas pragma displays a more avoidantly /
dismissing attachment style (Bartholomew, 1990; Bowlby, 1969; Ainsworth et al., 1978;
Hazan & Shaver, 1987); research confirms a positive correlation between pragma and
an avoidant attachment style (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1989). The interdependence
theorists may suggest that both storge and pragma will employ long-term communal
exchanges and will also engage in cognitive and behavioural maintenance mechanisms
but that pragma does so more consciously and deliberately (Clark & Mills, 1979; Kelley
& Thibaut, 1978; Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001; Rusbult, 1983). Finally, evolutionary
theorists may advocate that both storge and pragma will adopt a long-term ―domestic
bliss strategy‖ (Buss, 1988, 1999, 2003, 2004).
The South African mania individuals in this study were more likely to be in love at the
time of the study than ludus, pragma and storge but less so than eros and agape; more
likely to marry for love than ludus but less likely to do so than eros, agape, storge and
pragma; more romantic than ludus yet less romantic than eros and agape; and more
likely to possess a preoccupied or fearful attachment style as well as significantly less
likely to employ a secure or a dismissing attachment style when compared with other
lovestyles. Like the ludic lovestyle, in reference to section 2.11 and Table 2.10, the
obsessive mania individual appears to struggle to achieve satisfaction, happiness and
stability in the realm of a romantic intimate long-term relationship. Freud (1905, 1912,
1914, 1925) may advocate that South African mania individuals do not possess the
capacity to enjoy an enduring relationship but will instead be encumbered with neurotic
love, an unresolved Oedipal complex and a narcissistic model of love. Perhaps Fromm
(1956) would recognise the mania individual as having a neurotic disturbance with
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respect to love; an infantile relatedness to the mother and or the father; and an inability
to achieve mature love, erotic love or self love. Attachment theorists may propose that
mania lovestyles are insecurely attached (Bartholomew, 1990; Bowlby, 1969; Ainsworth
et al., 1978; Hazan & Shaver, 1987); research indeed confirms a strong association
between ludus and an insecure anxious / preoccupied attachment style (Feeney, 1999,
Fricker, 2006; Hendrick & Hendrick, 1989). The interdependence theorists may suggest
that mania will employ long-term communal exchanges at the expense of their own
needs and may over-engage in cognitive and behavioural maintenance mechanisms
(Clark & Mills, 1979; Kelley & Thibaut, 1978; Mills & Clark, 1994, 2001; Rusbult, 1983).
Finally, evolutionary theorists may propose that mania individuals will more than likely
default to adopting a short-term sexual strategy (Buss, 1988, 1999, 2003, 2004).
In sum, in this study, the researcher‘s findings across love measures revealed
predictable patterns of intersections between love measures.
7.3 Limitations of the current study
While it is important to conduct cross-cultural research, the process is not without its
problems. There are several limitations and issues stemming from the current study that
warrant mention and discussion. Firstly, as with all cross-cultural studies, comparability
of meaning across cultural samples was a limitation of this study. This is particularly true
when utilising Western instruments developed in the United States. Factor analysis was
conducted in this study in order to circumvent this limitation and to ensure comparability
of meaning. Nonetheless this remains a challenge because the instruments employed
were Western; consequently unique beliefs about African, Coloured and Eastern love
may have been missed.
A second limitation was that the participants were recruited from a mature student
population and were therefore not necessarily representative of South Africa‘s larger
adult population. Individuals at different ages, life stages, relationship stages, family life
stages, marital status and social backgrounds may have generated interesting and
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possibly alternative findings, which might have provided a richer understanding of how
South Africans conceptualise romantic love. In addition, it could be argued that the
university sample in general could be viewed as the ―elite‖ of South Africa as well as
being more likely to have been exposed to globalisation and can therefore not be
generalised to other young adults not at university. It might also be argued that as a
subculture, Black, White, Coloured and Indian/Asian university students are more
homogeneous and similar to each other because of the impact of vertical globalisation
and socioeconomic status than their respective Black, White, Coloured and Indian/Asian
rural or low socioeconomic status counterparts (Alexander, 2006; Arnett, 2002; Husted,
2003). Although the overall sample size was satisfactory (395), when divided into racial
groups the sample size was fairly small (Black =110, White = 113, Coloured = 82 and
Indian/Asian = 82); thus the findings should be considered tentative and exploratory.
A third limitation was that the study rests on a global self-report survey. Perhaps future
research that utilises peer and partner love attitudes will yield more fertile
understandings.
According to Hendrick and Hendrick (1989), LAS has been ―criticised for not measuring
love at all, but rather some combination of love constructs and non-love constructs‖ (p.
792). Should there be truth in this criticism, it would serve as a fourth limitation to this
study.
A possible fifth limitation is that the individualism-collectivism instruments employed
were not sufficiently sensitive to pick up on the nuances and subtleties that exist in this
dimension when investigating romantic love. Or perhaps these instruments need to be
further developed in order to differentiate between, and the extent of, bicultural
identities.
Finally, the fact that race is utilised synonymously with culture can be viewed as a
limitation to this study.
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7.4 Recommendations – Future Research
A research endeavour can investigate only a limited segment of a phenomenon.
Although this investigation furnishes a fruitful starting point for unravelling how South
Africans conceptualise romantic love across broad cultural groups, further research
could lead in many rich and fruitful directions. Firstly, it would be very useful and
informative to obtain a sample that is representative of the entire South African
population – a broad spectrum of South Africa‘s melting pot of racial and cultural groups
across age, marital status, life stages, education, socioeconomic status, geographic
location and sexual orientation.
Secondly, a longitudinal study may highlight continuity or change of love experiences,
attitudes around love and marriage, romanticism, attachment styles and lovestyles over
lifespan and circumstances. Thirdly, this study could be replicated across universities in
Africa to encompass a full African cross-cultural research endeavour, with the view of
teasing out the nuances and subtleties of the continent‘s conceptualisation of and
attitudes toward romantic love. Fourthly, perhaps the effect of the partner‘s attitude on
an individual‘s conceptualisation of love might produce interesting findings.
Fifthly, the scales and measures employed were originally developed by primarily
American theorists; it is possible that by collaborating with other cross-cultural
researchers and by devising measures that are more appropriate for the diverse South
African cultures, fresh and more nuanced results may emerge when testing future love
hypotheses. In addition, conceivably an attachment scale that takes into account the
fact that few individuals show a purely prototypical attachment style and also
conceptualises attachment in terms of dimensions rather than styles (Bartholomew et
al., 2001; Fraley & Waller, 1998) may yield more accurate findings.
Sixthly, possibly vertical globalisation could be more clearly identified by undertaking a
study of South African young adults that compares urban, university students from
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middle and upper classes with their rural, less educated, lower socioeconomic status
racial / cultural counterparts. Finally, by adding a qualitative section to the study, this
may yield a more nuanced understanding of how love is conceptualised across cultural
groups in South Africa.
7.5 Contribution of the study
The significance of the study consists of a number of elements. Firstly, it added
knowledge to the sparse research pool with regards to ―how South Africans
conceptualise romantic love across cultures‖. It attests to the complexity of romantic
love and the importance of considering gender and cultural differences and similarities
in order to gain a more complete understanding. Secondly, the study added insight and
psychological understanding of South African cross-cultural love nuances, needs,
experiences and beliefs. Thirdly, owing to the additional knowledge, insight and
understanding gained as regards the inner workings of romantic love amongst young
South Africans, it opens avenues of therapeutic intervention in couple counselling
situations with regards to dating and married couples as well as therapeutic intervention
in averting and managing the HIV / AIDS pandemic in this vulnerable and high risk
group of individuals. For example, an individual with a ludus lovestyle will be at greater
risk to contracting HIV due to their preference for multiple partners.
Fourthly, the study increases understanding and awareness in order for educators,
researchers and therapists to become culturally sensitive to how young adults from
different cultures understand and accord varied meanings to romantic love. Fifthly, the
four instruments that were subjected to factor analysis can be employed with relative
confidence utilising a South African university sample. Sixthly, the results of the study
were compared with the results of the many similar international studies, thus adding
the South African voice of love to the international body of knowledge regarding
romantic love.
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Finally, attachment has historically been difficult to measure. The researcher utilised a
combination of methodologies and previous findings (Bartholomew, 1990; Griffith &
Bartholomew, 1994b; Kurdek, 2002; Simpson et al., 1992) as an initial exploratory step
towards measuring attachment in what appears to be a valid and useful manner.
7.6 Concluding remarks
This study attempted to gain greater understanding of the nuances of romantic love
across the four primary cultural groups in South Africa. A thorough love and culture
literature review was undertaken and the results that emerged from this investigation
revealed that both love and culture are nebulous and ever-changing constructs.
Although these constructs can be placed into models, those models need to have the
flexibility to change and undergo metamorphosis as these constructs change. This
study has rendered romantic love more knowable through the integration of the love
theories, it has added to the knowledge of how South Africans experience romantic love
cross-culturally and furnished greater clarity concerning the subtle nuances that exist
cross-culturally. Consequently, this study has certainly contributed to the academic
body of knowledge. However, love is greater than the sum of its academic and
researchable parts: it also embodies an ethereal and mysterious component that is
difficult to capture academically. The question remains: is it possible to gain absolute
knowledge and a holistic integration regarding a subject that by its very nature resists
being known in its totality?
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Appendix A – Final Questionnaire Pack
Dear Participant 2007
Thank you for participating in this study. Please be assured that the information that you will provide,
will be kept confidential and generic feedback will be made available should you require it. The aim of
the study is to explore the nature of romantic love. The objective of this project is thus to add to the
existing body of love knowledge and specifically to discover how we love culturally in South Africa.
In the interest of science and research, please answer the questions independently and as honestly as
possible. Remember there are no wrong or right answers. The first spontaneous response is the
answer that is normally the truest; please do not ponder too long over any item. You are requested not
to turn back once you have answered a question. Although there is no time restriction, aim to work as
quickly as possible. Answering the questionnaire should take approximately 30-45 minutes. There are
7 sections to this questionnaire pack. There are questions on BOTH sides of the page, please ensure
you answer ALL the questions. If there are any questions regarding this project you are welcome to
contact me on [email protected].
Once again, many thanks,
Kety Pavlou
D.Litt et Phil (Psych) (University of Johannesburg)
____________________________________________________________________
Informed consent: Please read and sign
I hereby declare that my participation in this study on South African love is voluntary and can be
terminated at any time. I understand the purpose, procedure and time duration of the study. I
understand that confidentiality and anonymity is assured. Feedback will be given should I request it.
To the knowledge of the researcher, no harm or risk is associated with participation in this study.
Date:______________________ Sign:________________________________________
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Please provide the following biographical information in full:
Date of birth: Age: Gender: Male Female
Race Black White Coloured Indian Asian Other:___________
Home
language
Zulu Xhosa Sotho Venda Pedi Tswana
English Afrikaans Other:___________________________
Ethnicity Zulu Xhosa Sotho Venda Pedi Tswana
English Afrikaans Other:___________________________
What is your highest level of education?
No formal schooling completed some primary school
completed primary school completed some secondary school
completed secondary school post school diploma / degree
honours degree masters degree doctorate degree
What kind of job was your
most recent paid job? (tick only one)
No paid job (includes full-time students)
Unskilled or semi-skilled manual worker
Generally trained office worker or secretary
Vocationally trained craftsperson, technician, informatician, nurse, artist or
equivalent
Academically trained professional or equivalent (but not a manager of people)
Manager of one or more subordinates (non-managers)
Manager of one or more managers
Religious orientation
(tick all that are applicable)
Christianity African Ancestor Worship Islam Hindu Muslim
Buddhism Judaism Atheist Agnostic
Other__________________
Setting you grew up in
Rural Small Town Large Town Large City
Family social class growing up
Upper (family income more than R400 000 per annum(pa))
Upper Middle (R220-399 000 pa) Middle (R100-219 000 pa)
Lower Middle (R40-99 000 pa) Lower (less than R39 000 pa)
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Setting you live in now
Rural Small Town Large Town Large City
Other_____________
Current social class
Upper (family income more than R400 000 per annum(pa))
Upper Middle (R220-399 000 pa) Middle (R100-219 000 pa)
Lower Middle (R40-99 000 pa) Lower (less than R39 000 pa)
Should you want to receive feedback on the overall research findings, please provide your
E-mail Address: ___________________________________________________________
BEGIN!
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Section 1: Love experiences
1. Are you currently in love with someone? Yes No
2. How many different people have you been in love with (not counting childhood crushes)?
0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 or more
3. Have you been in an intimate relationship in the past? Yes No
4. Are you currently in an intimate relationship? Yes No
5. What is your current romantic relationship status?
Not Involved Casual Dating Serious Dating
Engaged or Living Together Married Other_____________________
6. If you are currently in a romantic relationship, how long have you been in the relationship?
Less than 6 months between 6 months and 1 year between 1 and 2 years
between 2 and 3 years between 3 and 5 years more than 5 years
7. If you have been in an intimate relationship in the past, how long was your longest relationship?
Less than 6 months between 6 months and 1 year between 1 and 2 years
between 2 and 3 years between 3 and 5 years more than 5 years
8. If you are currently in a relationship, is the relationship: Monogamous or Open ?
9. What is your sexual orientation? Heterosexual Homosexual Bisexual
Section 2: Love as a basis for marriage
1. If a man or woman had all the other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were
not in love with him or her? Yes No
2. If love has completely disappeared from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to
make a clean break and start new lives. Agree Disagree
3. In my opinion, the disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and
should not be viewed as such. Agree Disagree
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Section 3: Romantic Beliefs Scale
Instructions:
Read each question carefully and then decide to what extent the statement is true for you. Note the
descriptions on both ends of the 7 point scale which follows each question, and then decide where to
place your response on the scale. Please use a clear X to mark the applicable answer. Remember to
give your first spontaneous response, it is the most reliable.
1. I need to know someone for a period of time before I fall in love with him or her.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
2. If I were in love with someone, I would commit myself to him or her even if my parents and friends
disapproved of the relationship.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
3. Once I experience ‗true love‘, I could never experience it again, to the same degree, with another
person.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
4. I believe that to be truly in love is to be in love forever.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
5. If I love someone I know I can make the relationship work, despite any obstacles.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
6. When I find my ‗true love‘ I will probably know it soon after we meet.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
7. I‘m sure that every new thing I learn about the person I choose for a long-term commitment will
please me.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
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8. The relationship that I have with my ‗true love‘ will be nearly perfect.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
9. If I love someone, I will find a way for us to be together regardless of the opposition to the
relationship, physical distance between us or any other barrier.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
10. There will only be one real love for me.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
11. If a relationship I have was meant to be, any obstacle (e.g., lack of money, physical distance,
career conflicts) can be overcome.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
12. I am likely to fall in love almost immediately if I meet the right person.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
13. I expect that in my relationship, romantic love will really last; it won‘t fade with time.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
14. The person I love will make the perfect romantic partner; for example, he / she will be completely
accepting, loving and understanding.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
15. I believe if another person and I love each other we can overcome any differences and problems
that may arise.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
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Section 4: Relationship Scales Questionnaire
Instructions: Please read each of the following statements and rate the extent to which you believe
each statement best describes your feelings about close relationships.
Not at all like me
Somewhat like me
Very much
like me
1 2 3 4 5
1. I find it difficult to depend on other people.
2. It is very important to me to feel independent.
3. I find it easy to get emotionally close to others.
4. I want to merge completely with another person.
5. I worry that I will be hurt if I allow myself to become too close to others.
6. I am comfortable without close emotional relationships.
7. I am not sure that I can always depend on others to be there when I need them.
8. I want to be completely emotionally intimate with others.
9. I worry about being alone.
10. I am comfortable depending on other people.
11. I often worry that romantic partners don't really love me.
12. I find it difficult to trust others completely.
13. I worry about others getting too close to me.
14. I want emotionally close relationships.
15. I am comfortable having other people depend on me.
16. I worry that others don't value me as much as I value them.
17. People are never there when you need them.
18. My desire to merge completely sometimes scares people away.
19. It is very important to me to feel self-sufficient.
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Not at all like me
Somewhat like me
Very much like me
1 2 3 4 5
20. I am nervous when anyone gets too close to me.
21. I often worry that romantic partners won't want to stay with me.
22. I prefer not to have other people depend on me.
23. I worry about being abandoned.
24. I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others.
25. I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like.
26. I prefer not to depend on others.
27. I know that others will be there when I need them.
28. I worry about having others not accept me.
29. Romantic partners often want me to be closer than I feel comfortable being.
30. I find it relatively easy to get close to others.
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Section 5: Love Attitude Scale
Instructions: If you are in a relationship please keep it in mind as you answer the questions. If you are
not in a relationship currently please answer the questions with your typical relationship in mind. Read
each question carefully and then decide to what extent the statement is true for you. Note the
descriptions at the top of the 5 point scale and then decide where to place your response on the scale.
Mark the applicable block on the scale with a clear cross (X). Remember to give your first
spontaneous response.
Strongly Agree
Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Strongly Disagree
1 2 3 4 5
1. My partner and I were attracted to each other immediately after we first met.
2. My partner and I have the right physical ―chemistry‖ between us.
3. Our lovemaking is very intense and satisfying.
4. I feel that my partner and I were meant for each other.
5. My partner and I became physically involved very quickly.
.
6. My partner and I really understand each other.
7. My partner fits my ideal standards of physical beauty / handsomeness.
8. I try to keep my partner a little uncertain about my commitment to him/her.
9. I believe that what my partner doesn‘t know about me won‘t hurt him/her.
10. I have sometimes had to keep my partner from finding out about other partners.
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Strongly Agree
Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Strongly Disagree
1 2 3 4 5
11. I could get over my affair with my partner pretty easily and quickly.
12. My partner would get upset if he / she knew some of the things I‘ve done with other people.
13. When my partner gets too dependent on me, I want to back off a little.
14. I enjoy playing the ―game of love‖ with my partner and a number of other partners.
15. It is hard for me to say exactly when our friendship turned into love.
16. To be genuine, our love first required caring for a while.
17. I expect to always be friends with my partner.
18. Our love is the best kind because it grew out of a long friendship.
19. Our friendship merged gradually into love over time.
20. Our love is really a deep friendship, not a mysterious, mystical emotion.
21. Our love relationship is the most satisfying because it developed from a good friendship.
22. I considered what my partner was going to become in life before I commit myself to him/her.
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Strongly Agree
Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Strongly Disagree
1 2 3 4 5
23. I tried to plan my life carefully before choosing my partner.
24. In choosing my partner, I believed it was best to love someone with a similar background.
25. A main consideration in choosing my partner was how he/she reflected on my family.
26. An important factor in choosing my partner is whether or not he / she would be a good parent.
27. One consideration in choosing my partner is how he / she would reflect on my career.
28. Before getting very involved with my partner, I tried to figure out how compatible his / her hereditary background was with mine in case we ever had children.
29. When things aren‘t right with my partner and me, my stomach gets upset.
30. When my partner and I break up, I would get so depressed that I would even think of suicide.
31. Sometimes I get so excited about being in love with my partner that I can‘t sleep.
32. When my partner doesn‘t pay attention to me, I feel sick all over.
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Strongly Agree
Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Strongly Disagree
1 2 3 4 5
33. Since I‘ve been in love with my partner, I‘ve had trouble concentrating on anything else.
34. I cannot relax if I suspect my partner is with someone else.
35. If my partner ignores me for a while, I sometimes do stupid things to get his / her attention back.
36. I try to always help my partner through difficult times.
37. I would rather suffer myself than let my partner suffer.
38. I cannot be happy unless I place my partner‘s happiness before my own.
39. I‘m usually willing to sacrifice my own wishes to let my partner achieve his / hers.
40. Whatever I own is my partner‘s to use as he / she chooses.
41. When my partner gets angry with me, I still love him / her fully and unconditionally.
42. I would endure all things for the sake of my partner.
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Section 6: Values Survey Module
Instructions: Read each question carefully and then decide to what extent the statement is true for
you. Note the descriptions at the top of the 5 point scale and then decide where to place your
response on the scale. Mark the applicable block on the scale with a clear cross (X). Once again,
please give your first spontaneous response.
Please think of an ideal job, disregarding your present job, if you have one. In choosing an ideal job, how important would it be to you to ... :
of utmost importance
very important
of moderate importance
of little importance
of very little or no
importance
1 2 3 4 5
1. Have sufficient time for your personal or family life.
2. Have good physical working conditions (good ventilation and lighting, adequate work space, etc.)
3. Have a good working relationship with your direct superior
4. Have security of employment
5. Work with people who cooperate well with one another
.
6. Be consulted by your direct superior in his/her decisions
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Please think of an ideal job, disregarding your present job, if you have one. In choosing an ideal job, how important would it be to you to ... :
of utmost importance
very important
of moderate importance
of little importance
of very little or no
importance
1 2 3 4 5
7. Have an opportunity for advancement to higher level jobs
8. Have an element of variety and adventure in the job
In your private life, how important is each of the following to you?
of utmost importance
very important
of moderate importance
of little importance
of very little or no
importance
1 2 3 4 5
9. Personal steadiness and stability
10. Thrift (cautious with money) 1 2 3 4 5
11. Persistence (perseverance)
12. Respect for tradition
never seldom sometimes usually always
1 2 3 4 5
13. How often do you feel nervous or tense at work?
14. How frequently, in your experience, are subordinates afraid to express disagreement with their superiors?
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To what extent do you agree or disagree with each of the following statements?
strongly agree
agree undecided disagree strongly disagree
1 2 3 4 5
15. Most people can be trusted
16. One can be a good manager without having precise answers to most questions that subordinates may raise about their work
17. An organization structure in which certain subordinates have two bosses should be avoided at all costs
18. Competition between employees usually does more harm than good
19. A company's or organization's rules should not be broken - not even when the employee thinks it is in the company's best interest
20. When people have failed in life it is often their own fault
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Section 7: Cultural Dimensions: Individualism and Collectivism
Instructions: Read each question carefully and then decide to what extent the statement is true for
you. Note the descriptions on both ends of the 6 point scale which follows each question and then
decide where to place your response on the scale. Please use a clear X to mark the applicable
answer. Please give your first spontaneous response.
Never
or
almost
never
Always
1 2 3 4 5 6
1. I prefer to be self-reliant rather than depend on others.
2. I hate to disagree with others in my group.
3. In interacting with superiors, I am always polite.
4. I consult my parents before making an important decision.
5. I consider my self as a unique person separate from others.
6. I discuss job or study-related problems with my parents.
7. Even when I strongly disagree with my group members, I avoid an argument.
8. I enjoy being unique and different from others.
9. It is important to consider the needs of those who work above me.
10. It is my duty to take care of my family, even when I have to sacrifice what I want.
11. It is important for me to act as an independent person.
12. To me, pleasure is spending time with others.
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Never
or
almost
never
Always
1 2 3 4 5 6
13. When faced with a difficult personal problem, it is better to decide for myself, than follow the advice of others.
14. It is important to make a good impression on one‘s manager.
15. I enjoy working in situations involving competition with others.
16. I see my self as ―my own person‖.
17. Competition is the law of nature.
18. I reveal personal things about myself.
19. I have the feeling that my relationships with others are more important than my own accomplishments
20. I like to live close to my good friends.
21. To me, pleasure is spending time with my superiors.
22. I consult my family before making an important decision.
23. I sacrifice my self-interest for the benefit of my group.
24. I help acquaintances, even if it is inconvenient.
25. Before taking a major trip, I consult with most members of my family and many friends.
26. It is important to consult close friends and get their ideas before making a decision.
27. I take responsibility for my own actions.
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Never
or
almost
never
Always
1 2 3 4 5 6
28. I define myself as a competitive person.
29. Being able to take care of myself is a primary concern for me.
30. Without competition, it is not possible to have a good society.
THANK YOU ☺!
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Annexure B – Pilot Questionnaire Pack
Dear Participant October 2006
Thank you for participating in this study. Please be assured that the information that you will provide,
will be kept confidential and feedback will be made available should you require it. The aim of the
study is to explore the nature of romantic love. The objective of this project is thus to add to the
existing body of love knowledge and specifically to discover how we love culturally in South Africa.
In the interest of science and research, please answer the questions independently and as honestly as
possible. Remember there are no wrong or right answers. The first spontaneous response is the
answer that is normally the truest; please do not ponder too long over any item. You are requested not
to turn back once you have answered a question. Although there is no time restriction, aim to work as
quickly as possible. Answering the questionnaire should take approximately an hour and fifteen
minutes. There are 8 sections to this questionnaire pack. There are questions on BOTH sides of the
page, please ensure you answer ALL the questions. If there are any questions regarding this project
you are welcome to contact me on [email protected].
Once again, many thanks,
Kety Pavlou
D.Litt et Phil (Psych) (University of Johannesburg)
____________________________________________________________________
Informed consent:
I hereby declare that my participation in this study on South African love is voluntary and can be
terminated at any time. I understand the purpose, procedure and time duration of the study. I
understand that confidentiality and anonymity is assured. Feedback will be given should I request to
receive it. To the knowledge of the researcher no harm or risk is associated with participation in this
study.
Date:______________________ Sign:________________________________________
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Please provide the following biographical information in full:
Date of birth: Age: Gender: Male Female
Race Black White Coloured Indian Asian Other:___________
Home
language
Zulu Xhosa Sotho Venda Pedi Tswana
English Afrikaans Other:___________________________
Ethnicity Zulu Xhosa Sotho Venda Pedi Tswana
English Afrikaans Other:___________________________
How many years of education did
you complete (starting from primary school)?
10 years or less 11 years 12 years 13 years
14 years 15 years 16 years 17 years 18 years or over
If you have or have had a paid job, what kind of job is
it / was it?
No paid job (includes full-time students)
Unskilled or semi-skilled manual worker
Generally trained office worker or secretary
Vocationally trained craftsperson, technician, informatician, nurse, artist or
equivalent
Academically trained professional or equivalent (but not a manager of people)
Manager of one or more subordinates (non-managers)
Manager of one or more managers
Religious orientation
(tick all that are applicable to you)
Christianity African Ancestor Worship Islam Hindu Muslim
Buddhism Judaism Atheist Agnostic
Other___________________________
Setting you grew up in
Rural Small Town Large Town Suburb Large City
Family social
class
Upper Upper Middle Middle Lower Middle Working Lower
Current romantic relationship status
Not Involved Casual Dating Serious Dating
Engaged or Living Together Married Other_____________________
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Should you want to receive feedback on the overall research findings, please provide your E-
mail Address: ____________________________________________
BEGIN!
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Section 1: Frequency of love experiences
Instructions: Read each question carefully and then decide to what extent the statement is true for
you. Please use a clear X to mark the applicable answer. Remember to give your first spontaneous
response, it is the most reliable.
1. Are you currently in love with someone? Yes No
2. How many different people have you been in love with (not counting childhood crushes)?
0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 or more
3. Have you been in an intimate relationship in the past? Yes No
4. Are you currently in an intimate relationship? Yes No
5. If you are currently in a relationship, how long have you been in the relationship?
_______________________________________________________________
6. If you have been in an intimate relationship in the past, how long was your longest relationship?
____________________________________________________
Section 2: Love as a basis for marriage
Instructions: Read each question carefully and then decide to what extent the statement is most true
for you. Please use a clear X to mark the applicable answer. Remember to give your first spontaneous
response, it is the most reliable.
4. If a man (woman) had all the other qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were
not in love with him (her)? Yes No
5. If love has completely disappeared from a marriage, I think it is probably best for the couple to
make a clean break and start new lives. Agree Disagree
6. In my opinion, the disappearance of love is not a sufficient reason for ending a marriage and
should not be viewed as such. Agree Disagree
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Section 3: Romantic Beliefs Scale
Instructions:
Read each question carefully and then decide to what extent the statement is true for you. Note the
descriptions on both ends of the 7 point scale which follows each question, and then decide where to
place your response on the scale. Please use a clear X to mark the applicable answer. Remember to
give your first spontaneous response, it is the most reliable.
16. I need to know someone for a period of time before I fall in love with him or her.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
17. If I were in love with someone, I would commit myself to him or her even if my parents and friends
disapproved of the relationship.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
18. Once I experience ‗true love‘, I could never experience it again, to the same degree, with another
person.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
19. I believe that to be truly in love is to be in love forever.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
20. If I love someone I know I can make the relationship work, despite any obstacles.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
21. When I find my ‗true love‘ I will probably know it soon after we meet.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
22. I‘m sure that every new thing I learn about the person I choose for a long-term commitment will
please me.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
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23. The relationship that I have with my ‗true love‘ will be nearly perfect.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
24. If I love someone, I will find a way for us to be together regardless of the opposition to the
relationship, physical distance between us or any other barrier.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
25. There will only be one real love for me.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
26. If a relationship I have was meant to be, any obstacle (e.g., lack of money, physical distance,
career conflicts) can be overcome.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
27. I am likely to fall in love almost immediately if I meet the right person.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
28. I expect that in my relationship, romantic love will really last; it won‘t fade with time.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
29. The person I love will make the perfect romantic partner; for example, he / she will be completely
accepting, loving and understanding.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
30. I believe if another person and I love each other we can overcome any differences and problems
that may arise.
Strongly Agree
Agree Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Disagree Strongly Disagree
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Section 4: Relationship Scales Questionnaire
Instructions: Please read each of the following statements and rate the extent to which you believe
each statement best describes your feelings about close relationships.
Not at all like me
Somewhat like me
Very much
like me
1 2 3 4 5
1. I find it difficult to depend on other people.
2. It is very important to me to feel independent.
3. I find it easy to get emotionally close to others.
4. I want to merge completely with another person.
5. I worry that I will be hurt if I allow myself to become too close to others.
6. I am comfortable without close emotional relationships.
7. I am not sure that I can always depend on others to be there when I need them.
8. I want to be completely emotionally intimate with others.
9. I worry about being alone.
10. I am comfortable depending on other people.
11. I often worry that romantic partners don't really love me.
12. I find it difficult to trust others completely.
13. I worry about others getting too close to me.
14. I want emotionally close relationships.
15. I am comfortable having other people depend on me.
16. I worry that others don't value me as much as I value them.
17. People are never there when you need them.
18. My desire to merge completely sometimes scares people away.
19. It is very important to me to feel self-sufficient.
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Not at all like me
Somewhat like me
Very much like me
1 2 3 4 5
20. I am nervous when anyone gets too close to me.
21. I often worry that romantic partners won't want to stay with me.
22. I prefer not to have other people depend on me.
23. I worry about being abandoned.
24. I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others.
25. I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like.
26. I prefer not to depend on others.
27. I know that others will be there when I need them.
28. I worry about having others not accept me.
29. Romantic partners often want me to be closer than I feel comfortable being.
30. I find it relatively easy to get close to others.
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Section 5: Love Attitude Scale
Instructions: If you are in a relationship please keep it in mind as you answer the questions. If you are
not in a relationship currently please answer the questions with your typical relationship in mind. Read
each question carefully and then decide to what extent the statement is true for you. Note the
descriptions at the top of the 5 point scale and then decide where to place your response on the scale.
Mark the applicable block on the scale with a clear cross (X). Remember to give your first
spontaneous response.
Strongly Agree
Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Strongly Disagree
1 2 3 4 5
43. My partner and I were attracted to each other immediately after we first met.
44. My partner and I have the right physical ―chemistry‖ between us.
45. Our lovemaking is very intense and satisfying.
46. I feel that my partner and I were meant for each other.
47. My partner and I became physically involved very quickly.
.
48. My partner and I really understand each other.
49. My partner fits my ideal standards of physical beauty / handsomeness.
50. I try to keep my partner a little uncertain about my commitment to him/her.
51. I believe that what my partner doesn‘t know about me won‘t hurt him/her.
52. I have sometimes had to keep my partner from finding out about other partners.
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Strongly Agree
Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Strongly Disagree
1 2 3 4 5
53. I could get over my affair with my partner pretty easily and quickly.
54. My partner would get upset if he / she knew some of the things I‘ve done with other people.
55. When my partner gets too dependent on me, I want to back off a little.
56. I enjoy playing the ―game of love‖ with my partner and a number of other partners.
57. It is hard for me to say exactly when our friendship turned into love.
58. To be genuine, our love first required caring for a while.
59. I expect to always be friends with my partner.
60. Our love is the best kind because it grew out of a long friendship.
61. Our friendship merged gradually into love over time.
62. Our love is really a deep friendship, not a mysterious, mystical emotion.
63. Our love relationship is the most satisfying because it developed from a good friendship.
64. I considered what my partner was going to become in life before I commit myself to him/her.
590
Strongly Agree
Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Strongly Disagree
1 2 3 4 5
65. I tried to plan my life carefully before choosing my partner.
66. In choosing my partner, I believed it was best to love someone with a similar background.
67. A main consideration in choosing my partner was how he/she reflected on my family.
68. An important factor in choosing my partner is whether or not he / she would be a good parent.
69. One consideration in choosing my partner is how he / she would reflect on my career.
70. Before getting very involved with my partner, I tried to figure out how compatible his / her hereditary background was with mine in case we ever had children.
71. When things aren‘t right with my partner and me, my stomach gets upset.
72. When my partner and I break up, I would get so depressed that I would even think of suicide.
73. Sometimes I get so excited about being in love with my partner that I can‘t sleep.
74. When my partner doesn‘t pay attention to me, I feel sick all over.
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Strongly Agree
Moderately Agree
Neutral Moderately Disagree
Strongly Disagree
1 2 3 4 5
75. Since I‘ve been in love with my partner, I‘ve had trouble concentrating on anything else.
76. I cannot relax if I suspect my partner is with someone else.
77. If my partner ignores me for a while, I sometimes do stupid things to get his / her attention back.
78. I try to always help my partner through difficult times.
79. I would rather suffer myself than let my partner suffer.
80. I cannot be happy unless I place my partner‘s happiness before my own.
81. I‘m usually willing to sacrifice my own wishes to let my partner achieve his / hers.
82. Whatever I own is my partner‘s to use as he / she chooses.
83. When my partner gets angry with me, I still love him / her fully and unconditionally.
84. I would endure all things for the sake of my partner.
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Section 6: Values Survey Module
Instructions: Read each question carefully and then decide to what extent the statement is true for
you. Note the descriptions at the top of the 5 point scale and then decide where to place your
response on the scale. Mark the applicable block on the scale with a clear cross (X). Once again,
please give your first spontaneous response.
Please think of an ideal job, disregarding your present job, if you have one. In choosing an ideal job, how important would it be to you to ... :
of utmost importance
very important
of moderate importance
of little importance
of very little or no
importance
1 2 3 4 5
21. Have sufficient time for your personal or family life.
22. Have good physical working conditions (good ventilation and lighting, adequate work space, etc.)
23. Have a good working relationship with your direct superior
24. Have security of employment
25. Work with people who cooperate well with one another
.
26. Be consulted by your direct superior in his/her decisions
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Please think of an ideal job, disregarding your present job, if you have one. In choosing an ideal job, how important would it be to you to ... :
of utmost importance
very important
of moderate importance
of little importance
of very little or no
importance
1 2 3 4 5
27. Have an opportunity for advancement to higher level jobs
28. Have an element of variety and adventure in the job
In your private life, how important is each of the following to you?
of utmost importance
very important
of moderate importance
of little importance
of very little or no
importance
1 2 3 4 5
29. Personal steadiness and stability
30. Thrift (cautious with money) 1 2 3 4 5
31. Persistence (perseverance)
32. Respect for tradition
never seldom sometimes usually always
1 2 3 4 5
33. How often do you feel nervous or tense at work?
34. How frequently, in your experience, are subordinates afraid to express disagreement with their superiors?
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To what extent do you agree or disagree with each of the following statements?
strongly agree
agree undecided disagree strongly disagree
1 2 3 4 5
35. Most people can be trusted
36. One can be a good manager without having precise answers to most questions that subordinates may raise about their work
37. An organization structure in which certain subordinates have two bosses should be avoided at all costs
38. Competition between employees usually does more harm than good
39. A company's or organization's rules should not be broken - not even when the employee thinks it is in the company's best interest
40. When people have failed in life it is often their own fault
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Section 7: Cultural Dimensions: Individualism and Collectivism
Instructions: Read each question carefully and then decide to what extent the statement is true for
you. Note the descriptions on both ends of the 6 point scale which follows each question and then
decide where to place your response on the scale. Please use a clear X to mark the applicable
answer. Please give your first spontaneous response.
Never
or
almost
never
Always
1 2 3 4 5 6
31. I prefer to be self-reliant rather than depend on others.
32. I hate to disagree with others in my group.
33. In interacting with superiors, I am always polite.
34. I consult my parents before making an important decision.
35. I consider my self as a unique person separate from others.
36. I discuss job or study-related problems with my parents.
37. Even when I strongly disagree with my group members, I avoid an argument.
38. I enjoy being unique and different from others.
39. It is important to consider the needs of those who work above me.
40. It is my duty to take care of my family, even when I have to sacrifice what I want.
41. It is important for me to act as an independent person.
42. To me, pleasure is spending time with others.
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Never
or
almost
never
Always
1 2 3 4 5 6
43. When faced with a difficult personal problem, it is better to decide for myself, than follow the advice of others.
44. It is important to make a good impression on one‘s manager.
45. I enjoy working in situations involving competition with others.
46. I see my self as ―my own person‖.
47. Competition is the law of nature.
48. I reveal personal things about myself.
49. I have the feeling that my relationships with others are more important than my own accomplishments
50. I like to live close to my good friends.
51. To me, pleasure is spending time with my superiors.
52. I consult my family before making an important decision.
53. I sacrifice my self-interest for the benefit of my group.
54. I help acquaintances, even if it is inconvenient.
55. Before taking a major trip, I consult with most members of my family and many friends.
56. It is important to consult close friends and get their ideas before making a decision.
57. I take responsibility for my own actions.
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Never
or
almost
never
Always
1 2 3 4 5 6
58. I define myself as a competitive person.
59. Being able to take care of myself is a primary concern for me.
60. Without competition, it is not possible to have a good society.
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Section 8: Bem Sex Role Inventory (BSRI).
Instructions: Read each adjective carefully and then decide whether, in your culture, the adjective is
more frequently associated with men (M), more frequently associated with women (W); or not
differentially associated with gender (A). Note the descriptions at the top of the 7 point scale and then
decide where to place your response on the scale. Mark the applicable block on the scale with a clear
cross (M and or F or A). Remember to give your first spontaneous response, it is the most reliable.
Never or
almost
never
true
Always
or
almost
always
true
1 2 3 4 5 6 7
1. Self-reliant
2. Yielding
3. Helpful
4. Defends own beliefs
5. Cheerful
6. Moody
7. Independent
8. Shy
9. Conscientious
10. Athletic
11. Affectionate
12. Theatrical
13. Assertive
14. Flatterable
15. Happy
16. Strong personality
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Never or
almost
never
true
Always
or
almost
always
true
1 2 3 4 5 6 7
17. Loyal
18. Unpredictable
19. Forceful
20. Feminine
21. Reliable
22. Analytical
23. Sympathetic
24. Jealous
25. Has leadership abilities
26. Sensitive to the needs of others
27. Truthful
28. Willing to take risks
29. Understanding
30. Secretive
31. Makes decisions easily
32. Compassionate
33. Sincere
34. Self Sufficient
35. Eager to soothe hurt feelings
36. Conceited
37. Dominant
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Never or
almost
never
true
Always
or
almost
always
true
1 2 3 4 5 6 7
38. Soft spoken
39. Likable
40. Masculine
41. Warm
42. Solemn
43. Willing to take a stand
44. Tender
45. Friendly
46. Aggressive
47. Gullible
48. Inefficient
49. Acts as a leader
50. Childlike
51. Adaptable
52. Individualistic
53. Does not use harsh language
54. Unsystematic
55. Competitive
56. Love children
57. Tactful
58. Ambitious
59. Gentle