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EDITORIALCoronavirus vaccine in India, Russia,Oxford and the US update tracker status news:

The race to develop Coronavirus COVID19 vaccine has become an intriguing one after UK’s Oxford-AstraZeneca, Russia, US-based Moderna, India’s COVAXIN and Zydus Cadila, and Chinese companiesincluding Sinovac made significant progress. Around the world, over 160 potential Coronavirus

COVID19 vaccines are at different stages of development. Out of those, as many as 26 vaccines havemanaged to enter human trials phase.

Russia has been claiming that the “World’s first Coronavirus COVID vaccine” would be ready byAugust. According to a Bloomberg report, Russia’s business and political elite have been given access tothe experimental potential Coronavirus vaccine. The vaccine, which is being developed by the GamaleyaResearch Institute of Epidemiology and Microbiology, has been funded by the state-run Russian DirectInvestment Fund. The project is also backed by the Defense Ministry. Last week, a phase 1 trial of thepotential vaccine candidate involving military personnel was completed. However, no result has beenpublished. The institute has already begun the next stage of testing with a larger group. However,researchers in Russia have claimed that the potential vaccine candidate is “safe and reliable”.

The much-awaited result of Phase I/II trials of the Oxford University’s vaccine candidate ‘AZD1222’ hasjust been released and it just might be the first piece of good news in 2020. The results which have beenpublished in the medical journal The Lancet reinstate the earlier media reports which cited that Oxford’svaccine candidate is fit for human use and develops protective immunity in the body of the volunteers.As per the latest update, Richard Horton, the editor of the UK-based science journal ‘The Lancet’ notedthat “the vaccine is safe, well-tolerated, and immunogenic.” While the researchers and developers ofthe AstraZeneca-backed potential vaccine did not comment on the media reports doing rounds, theLancet medical journal published the data of Phase I trial of Oxford and AstraZeneca's COVID-19 vaccinecandidate, AZD1222, today. The results were found to be "extremely promising" and the vaccinecandidate has been deemed fit for human use.

In March 2020, the Moderna, backed by Bill Gates began testing its messenger RNA (mRNA) vaccine ina phase I clinical trial in Seattle, Washington. In mid-May, Moderna announced the vaccine had producedantibodies in all 45 trial participants in this initial clinical phase. The study included 45 healthy volunteers,ages 18 to 55, who are getting two shots 28 days apart. Moderna has developed other mRNA vaccinesbefore. Those earlier studies showed that their platform is safe, which allowed it to skip certain animaltesting for this specific vaccine. In early May, 2020, Moderna received permission from the FDA to start aphase II study of its vaccine. It expects to begin a phase III clinical trial in July. The FDA also agreed tofast-track regulatory review of this vaccine if it succeeds in a phase III clinical trial. The initial results haveshown early promise. The firm will begin Phase 3 trails with 30,000 on July 27, 2020.

The human trials of India’s indigenous COVAXIN are set to begin in AIIMS-Delhi, Redkar Hospital inGoa and Bhubaneswar’s Institute of Medical Sciences and SUM Hospital. The clinical trials of thepotential vaccine, which is being developed by the Indian Council for Medical Research (ICMR), BharatBiotech International Limited (BBIL), and National Institute of Virology, Pune, has begun at AIIMS Patnaand PGI Rohtak. Clinical trials of the Covaxin will also begin at Medical institutes and various hospitals.

WHO has recognized that over 20 potential coronavirus vaccine candidates are at the human trialstages and almost half of those are being developed by Chinese firms. One such is Sinovac. WHO hassaid that along with Oxford, “good news” in results shown by a Chinese firm. Chinese pharmaceuticalfirm Sinovac is the only third in the world to enter Phase 3 trials. The large scale testing is set to begin insix states in Brazil. Sinovac has also received a nod for Phase 3 trials in Bangladesh.

Even if a vaccine is developed and distributed, it’s unlikely to be completely effective. The measles,mumps and rubella vaccine is effective 97 percent of the time while the seasonal flu vaccine tops out at60 percent. Still, even a less-effective vaccine may reduce the severity of disease if someone gets COVID-19. But some experts are worried that people who get the vaccine may stop doing other measuresneeded to control the spread of the new coronavirus, such as handwashing and staying home when sick.

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CinePlex

Netizens Trolls Karan Johar As HeParties With Ranbir Kapoor AtNeetu Kapoor’s B’Day Bash

Whe sudden Bollywoodindustry is all aboutglam and shimmer. It

is like a fairy tale with partiesand fame; however one thingthat we tend to ignore is that itis judgy too. People are tooquick to judge and now, it wasNeetu Kapoorʼs birthday bash.Ever since this tragedy of RishiKapoor dismay took place,Karan finally made his firstappearance at Neetu Kapoorʼsintimate birthday bash. Andnetizens cannot bear thismoment of happiness for him.They started to troll him.

From Bollywood...

Shweta Tiwari and husband AbhinavKohli parted ways after shelodged a complaint against him for harassing his daughter. Therehave been many news surrounding the estranged couple.

However, Shweta has maintained her silence. Abhinav, on the otherhand, is trying by hook or by crook to clean his name and get his sonback. And now, Shweta Tiwariʼs friend Anuradha Sarin has comeforward to share how AbhinavKohli would harass Shwetaʼs daughterPalak Tiwari. During a verbal spat on one of the posts onAbhinavKohliʼs Instagram handle, Shweta Tiwariʼs close friend,Anuradha Sarin claimed that she had seen AbhinavKohli harassingPalak Tiwari in a mall.

Kangana Ranaut has been very vocaland that has landed her in severalcontroversies. However, a past

interview of hers around a year beforecoronavirus struck the world is now goingviral. She had talked about not wanting to beChinese in an interview and the hostresponded with a mention of Chineseinvasion. Although the actress was only takinga jibe at Ranbir Kapoor who refused to makeany statement about India, this past video iscertainly shocking all her fans.

Shweta Tiwari’s Friend RevealsAbhinav Kohli Harassed PalakTiwari, “Asked Her About VirginityAnd Show Dirty Pictures”

Kangana Ranaut’s Past InterviewAbout Chinese Invasion ShocksNetizens, Said, “I Don’t Want To BeChinese, I Live So Close To China”

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This is a sad year and we have seen many of the starspassing away. While most have been really big shots, thereare several others who have passed away unnoticed. One

such model, singer and actor was Divya Chouksey. She hadworked in the movie ʻHai ApnaDilToAwaraʼ opposite SahilAnand.She was battling cancer of the pancreas and has lost the battle.Divya Choukseyʼs co-star Sahil Anand is completely devastatedafter losing her. She was extremely bubbly by nature butcompletely dedicated to her work. She was a go-getter and used tonot depend on luck like many other artists do.”

Actress Divya Chouksey Dies Of Cancer,Co-star Sahil Anand Is Heartbroken“She Told Me That Bhaiya Ab Nahi HoPaa Raha Mujhse”

This Is How And From WhereBachchan Family Caught Coronavirus;Report Says “Abhishek Could HaveContracted the Virus”

The pair, Amitabh Bachchan andAbhishek Bachchan have tested positivefor Coronavirus. They educated their

fans about their wellbeing by means of aTwitter post. Them two have mellow COVID-19 side effects and have been admitted toNanavati Hospital. After the news was sharedon the web, fans and companions of theBachchans began pouring in a get well soonwishes posts for the two. Talking about howthey caught the infection, as per ABP News,all things considered, they get the infection bymeans of not being isolated.

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Parth Samthaan Tests Positive ForCOVID-19, Vikas Gupta Advises“Wander-Lust Both Can Wait AFew Months”

Vikas Gupta opened up about being bisexual on social mediaplatform and declared that he was indeed in a relationship withboth Parth Samthaan and Priyank Sharma before. And now that

Parth Samthaan has actually tested positive for the deadly coronavirus,Vikas Gupta has shared a cryptic tweet that seems to be hinting at his ex-boyfriend only. Vikas Gupta shared some cryptic tweets talking aboutyoung people and Coronavirus. Vikas wrote, “Itʼs extremely selfish justbecause you are young & #covid wonʼt kill U doesnʼt give you the right totake chances with other peopleʼs lives who works with you & they gohome to their kids & parents. Wander-Lust both can wait for few moremonths #StayHomeStaySafe.”

Coronavirus is increasing day by day in India,especially in Maharashtra. It appears the riskyCoronavirus has affected the city seriously. Recently

Amitabh Bachchan and Abhishek Bachchan took theirseparate Twitter records to affirm that they tested positivefor Coronavirus and soon after another report aboutAishwarya Rai Bachchan and Aaradhya testing positive forCoronavirus came in. Maharashtra Health Minister RajeshTope confirmed the news and tweeted, “Smt.Aishwarya RaiBacchan& Daughter Aaradhya Abhishek Bacchan havealso been detected positive for Covid19. Smt. JayaBachhanji is tested negative for covid19. We wish theBacchan Family to get well soon with a speedy recovery.”

After Amitabh And Abhishek Bachchan,Aishwarya Rai Bachchan And AaradhyaAlso Test Positive For Coronavirus

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Nawazuddin Siddiqui’s Wife AaliyaReveals About His ExtramaritalAffair “I Was In Labour Pain AndHe Was On Call With His Girlfriend”

Mira Rajput and Shahid Kapoor have been married for over fiveyears now and is happy patent to two beautiful kids Misha andZian. The two were invited to Koffee With Karan and during the

show, Mira can be seen standing up for her husband and shutting downKaran Johar like a pro. Mira Rajpoot ask Karan before he can ask aquestion, and says, “Rank in order of talent. Iʼll ask you one of yourquestions.” She then proceeds to give Karan a list of names as options, ashe does to the guests on his show. “Ranbir (Kapoor), Ranveer (Singh),Sidharth (Malhotra), Arjun (Kapoor), Aditya (Roy Kapur),” Mira says.Shahid, who is sitting next to Mira jumps in the conversation and asks hiswife “Why am I not in that list?” to which his Mira replies, “Because he nevermentions you in any of his lists,” pointing at Karan, who is left speechless.

When Mira Rajput Left KaranJohar Speechless By StandingUp For Husband Shahid Kapoor

Nawazuddin Siddiquiʼs marriage with Aaliya is going through a veryrough patch. The two have separated and while early on it wasbelieve that Aaliya has an affair with another man, now she has

made claims that it was Nawazuddin who had an affair even when shewas in labour pain. She revealed that when they were dating and wereabout to get married, Nawazuddin was already in a relationship withsomeone else. Aaliya was quoted saying, “When I was pregnant, I had todrive all by myself for check-ups. My doctor used to tell me that Iʼm madand Iʼm the first lady whoʼs come alone for delivery. My labour painstarted and Nawaz and his parents were there. But when I was in pain,my husband is not with me. He was talking to his girlfriend on calls.

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Kangana Ranaut’s Team BlastsPooja Bhatt Again “KanganaWants Patriarchy To End AndOutsiders To Be Treated Better”

Kangana Ranautʼs tuff with the Bhatt family seems to havetaken an uglier turn. Earlier, it was Kangana talking aboveMahesh Bhatt. Now, it is Mahesh Bhattʼs daughter Pooja Bhatt

getting into a fight with KanganaRanautʼs team on Twitter. PoojaBhatt in her tweet reminded Kangana Ranaut that she was onlylaunched by Vishesh Films- a film production company owned byMukesh Bhatt and Mahesh Bhatt- in Gangster. Kanganaʼs team hadresponded by tweeting, “Dear @PoojaB1972, #AnuragBasu hadkeen eyes to spot Kanganaʼs talent, everyone knows Mukesh Bhattdoes not like to pay artists, to get talented people for free is a favourmany studios do on themselves but that doesnʼt give your father alicense to throw chappals at her, call her mad and humiliate her.

Irrfan Khanʼs death after defeating cancercame as a big shocker for everyone. Whilewe were still seeing the jolly and happy face

in Angrezi Medium, he was battling a diseasethat would succumb him in the end. IrrfanKhanʼs son Babil Khan has been sharing histhoughts on social media as a means to ventout his emotions. And once again, he hasshared yet another post which is reallyheartbreaking and shows another side ofBollywood industry.

Irrfan Khan’s Son Babil Khan Pens Down“My Dad Was Defeated By Hunks With AbsShowing Blatant Sexism”

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Shahid Kapoor Suffered FromDepression After Breakup WithKareena Kapoor Khan

Shahid Kapoor and Kareena Kapoor was aninseparable couple and were the talk of the townwhen they were together. Shahid and Kareena got

close to each other while shooting for their 2004 movieFida and dated for almost five years. However, today, thetwo have parted ways and are super happy with theirrespective life partners. While Kareena found love in SaifAli Khan even before the breakup, Shahid Kapoor took histime to heal. And as per reports he even went throughdepression as it wasnʼt easy for him to get over Kareena.

Quarantine has turnedeveryone into an artist.While majority of us are

busy showing off our cookingskills, there are others who havedecided to work hard on theirbodies and show off theirhardwork. And one amongstthem is Megha Gupta. The TVactress shifted to Goa and isflaunting her se`xy body with thebackdrop of the stunning state.

TV Actress Megha Gupta PostsA Pant-Less Nude Bottom Pic,AashkaGoradia DroolsAt Her Legs

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Ranveer Singh has always been open andcandid about his personal life and has neverhesitated while talking about his sex life

either. It was on Koffee With Karan that he oncerevealed that he lost his virginity at the age of 12.Ranveer also once said that ʻbirthday sexʼ is thecoolest birthday gift.

Arjun Kapoor and Malaika Arora have been dating each otherfor quite some time. Despite rumours of them tying the knotmany times, they are still committed but not yet married. So,

whatʼs stopping the two from taking the saat pheras? In aninterview, Arjun Kapoor has finally revealed why heʼs not gettingmarried to his girlfriend Malaika Arora. He said,

“on a serious note, I am not getting married. I have not hiddenanything from anyone, and I think my personal life deserves respectand dignity for that.”

Ranveer Singh Birthday Throwback:When The Actor Revealed ‘Birthday$ex’ Is The Coolest Birthday Gift

Arjun Kapoor Finally RevealsWhy He’s Not Ready To MarryGirlfriend Malaika Arora

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Experts are warning that mild COVID-19symptoms can quickly escalate to serious,possibly life threatening symptoms. While

the majority of people with COVID-19 will eitherhave mild or no symptoms, doctors say eventhose with mild symptoms should be on thelookout for worsening symptoms that couldbecome serious.

“This disease can cause mild symptoms insomeone, and then they recover in a couple ofdays or a week and do well after that. Incontrast, they can be ill at some point prior to orafter formal diagnosis, recover a lot or slightly,then get seriously ill 7 to 10 days later in whatwe think is likely related to immunedysregulation, or the cytokine storm we have allheard about,” says Dr. Dana Hawkinson, themedical director of infection prevention andcontrol at The University of Kansas HealthSystem.

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How Mild COVID-19Symptoms Can QuicklyTurn Serious

How Mild COVID-19Symptoms Can QuicklyTurn SeriousPossibly life threatening. By Himshikha Shukla

Dr. Dana Hawkinson

“THEY CAN BE ILLAT SOME POINTAFTER FORMALDIAGNOSIS,RECOVERSLIGHTLY, THENGET SERIOUSLYILL 7 TO 10 DAYSLATER.”

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Cytokine storms refer tothe overreaction of thebodyʼs immune system.Theyʼre a commoncomplication inrespiratory diseases, suchas COVID-19 and severe acute respiratorysyndrome (SARS). When the virus that causesCOVID-19 enters the lungs, it causes theimmune system to respond and bring immunecells to the lungs to attack the virus. This causesinflammation.

OVER REACTING IMMUNE SYSTMIn some people, the immune system

overreacts, resulting in the activation of moreimmune cells, causing hyper-inflammation. Thiscan be fatal. Usually when people get it, it startsoff as a cold or asymptomatic. Then, it canprogress and cause pneumonia, [which is] themain thing that causes people to be sick. Thatusually occurs around day 6 or 7 of the illness.

Some of this is due to the direct effect [of thevirus] on the lungs themselves, but much of it isalso due to the host — the patientʼs immuneresponse to the virus, which can causerespiratory distress syndrome. There are alsoreports now of some people with COVID-19developing what doctors describe as “silenthypoxia.” Thatʼs where blood oxygen saturationlevels become low but a person doesnʼtexperience a feeling of breathlessness.

THERE AREALSO REPORTSNOW OF SOMEPEOPLE WITHCOVID-19DEVELOPINGWHAT DOCTORSDESCRIBE AS“SILENTHYPOXIA.”THATʼS WHEREBLOOD OXYGENSATURATIONLEVELSBECOME LOWBUT A PERSONDOESNʼTEXPERIENCE AFEELING OFBREATHLESS-NESS.

GOING FROMMILD TO SEVEREAccording to the Centers for Disease Control

and Prevention (CDC), symptom Source canappear 2 to 14 days after exposure to the virus.

These symptoms can include:● Fever● Cough● Chills● Muscle pain● Headache● Loss of taste or smell● Sore throat● Shortness of breath or difficulty breathingAn office worker is screened with an infraredthermometer as he enters a building in NewDelhi, India.

Right now, experts say thereʼs no way ofpredicting if a personʼs symptoms will progressfrom mild to severe, although there are riskfactors that could make this more likely.

This virus and the infection it causes seems tobe very unpredictable. We know about commonsymptoms — fever, cough, shortness of breath— but we are seeing more and more otheratypical presentations. In addition, we areseeing the escalation of symptoms from mild tosevere disease.

There are common risk factors such as age,diabetes, hypertension, lung disease, andimmunosuppression, but unfortunately, thisdisease process and severe illness can affectanyone, and we have seen that happen.

MONITORING THE SYMPTOMSFor people quarantining at home, the

CDC advises that medical attentionshould be sought immediately if a

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WE KNOWABOUTCOMMONSYMPTOMSFEVER, COUGH,SHORTNESS OFBREATHBUT WEARE SEEINGMORE ANDMORE OTHERATYPICALPRESENTATIONS. IN ADDITION,WE ARE SEEINGTHEESCALATION OFSYMPTOMSFROM MILD TOSEVEREDISEASE.

person experiences symptoms, such as troublebreathing, confusion, persistent pain or pressurein the chest, and bluish lips or face.

Doctors say itʼs important to check in regularlywith people with COVID-19 who are in isolation.They could have a sudden escalation insymptoms without anyone knowing.We need tobe connected with others. Anything couldhappen to them. They may develop weaknessso fast they canʼt even reach for the phone. Weneed to make sure people are connected andlooking after each other.

We want to make sure people who are sick,who arenʼt getting better, who have a worseningillness, and who have shortness of breath ordifficulty breathing seek medical attentionimmediately and get the care they need.

TREATING MILD SYMPTOMSWhile there isnʼt a treatment that can stop

symptoms from progressing from mild to severe,Dr. William Schaffner, an infectious diseaseexpert at Vanderbilt University in Tennessee,says there are things people with mild symptomscan do at home to feel better.

“I would think good hydration is the singlemost important thing to help you feel somewhatbetter. If you have a fever, taking a medication toreduce your fever will make you feel better,” hetold. Whenever anyone has influenza or anyrespiratory infection, we ask them to stay awayfrom alcoholic beverages. Be careful withbeverages with caffeine such as coffee or teabecause they tend to be dehydrating. What youwant to do is drink a lot of water. If youʼre sick, Iwould suggest if youʼre not already 6 feet awayfrom everybody, please do that right away andbe meticulous not to give the virus anopportunity to spread.

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BE CAREFULWITHBEVERAGESWITH CAFFEINESUCH ASCOFFEE OR TEABECAUSE THEYTEND TO BEDEHYDRATING.WHAT YOUWANT TO DO ISDRINK A LOT OFWATER.

Icome from a middle-class family, am 20years old and am the only daughter among four

older brothers. One would think that I am loved andpampered by them, but nothing could be fartherfrom the truth. The truth is that because my fatherdied 10 years ago when we were growing up andmy mother is not capable of controlling my brothers,they grew up wild and none of them paid me anyattention.

Money has been a problem in our family eversince my father died and all of us children havebeen left more or less to our own devices sincethen.Since I am younger than my brothers I wasless able to fend for myself and as I am a girl,I was also forced to do household chores. All in all,I have had and still have a miserable life.

But something totally unexpected has suddenlyhappened, something that has totally changed mylife. This was that a few days ago I received anofficial communication from a lawyer telling me thatI have inherited `three crore from a distant relativeof my fatherʼs and that he would come and see meand explain to me how the money would be paid tome.Of course this led to unbelievable excitementin the family – but in the excitement, I was totallyforgotten and my brothers all acted as if it was themwho had inherited the money!

The lawyer came with half a dozen others andmy brothers sat down with them and began to askthem how and when the money would be given tous. But the lawyers refused to discuss the matterwith them and said that I was the only one theywould talk to as only I was involved in the matter!

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I AM YOUNGERTHAN MYBROTHERS IWAS LESSABLE TO FENDFOR MYSELFAND AS I AM AGIRL,I WAS ALSOFORCED TO DOHOUSEHOLDCHORES. ALLIN ALL, I HAVEHAD AND STILLHAVE AMISERABLELIFE.

They said that this was what the person who hadleft me the money had told them to do.

Now I am to go and meet the lawyers. Mybrothers have ordered me to complete theformalities and bring the money home. But I do notfeel like doing this. This will be my only chance tohave a good life and why should I give all mymoney to brothers who have done nothing for me?

Please advise.What you have decided to do is the correct thing.

When you go and see the lawyer, tell him that youneed help in managing your newly got money andkeeping safe from your brothers. Then ask him if hewill do it for a charge. He will either agree to do it ofwill suggest someone else to take care of thingsfor you.

When the lawyer and the men with him explainthings to you, ask questions till you understandwhat they are saying.When you get your money,do not keep much money at home. Ask the lawyerto help you invest it. Ask him to explain whatever hedoes to you. If you are not satisfied with anyone, getanother manager. I would be best if you moved outof your family home and got yourself another place.Get yourself help and do not stay alone. You couldask your mother to stay with you.

Give your brothers some money but do not beovergenerous. Tell them to work for their living. Helpthem if they start a business. Learn how to manageyour money and be careful with it. You cannotexpect to get such a windfall again.

IAM THE 14-YEAR-OLD ONLY DAUGHTER OF MY PARENTS.SINCE I could understand things, I have knownthat my father and mother do not get along and by

the time I was 12, I knew that they both were waitingfor me to grow up so that they could be divorced andcould remarry partners they loved.

Actually I was almost, but not completely right in

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thinking all this. Yes, both of them were waiting forme to become 16, but it was not out of concern forme. According to a letter written by my grandfatherto both of them which had been submitted in court,they would be eligible to inherit one third each of hismoney only if they remained married and broughtme up together, while I would inherit the remainingthird. However if they failed to bring me up togethertill I was 16, all the money would come to me!

I understood all this when I happened to read acopy of the letter my grandfather had written. Nowthat I have understood why my parents are soreluctantly caring for me, I am shattered but alsofurious.According to another point made in theletter, they would lose their chance to inherit anymoney if I was unhappy and applied to court sayingthat I did not want to stay with them.

Should I do this?You have been treated in an atrocious manner

and your anger is very understandable. In fact, it isincomprehensible that any parent could be so self-involved that they are oblivious to how unhappyand neglected their only child is.

Your unhappiness is also likely to affect yourattitude to people in general and to life itself. So it isimportant that you get over your unhappiness andanger and develop a positive and happy attitude tolife.To get this positive attitude, you should firstconfront your parents and tell them how you havesuffered from their indifference and neglect.

Scare them by telling them that you are seriouslythinking of telling the authorities that you do notwant to stay with them. Make them rattled and theirattitude is likely to improve. But the truth is that youcannot really depend on your parents and have todepend on yourself. Try and prepare yourself forthis. Start by getting yourself help, according to yourgrandfatherʼs wishes. You should also get yourself apsycologist.

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SCARE THEMBY TELLINGTHEM THATYOU ARESERIOUSLYTHINKING OFTELLING THEAUTHORITIESTHAT YOU DONOT WANT TOSTAY WITHTHEM. MAKETHEMRATTLED ANDTHEIRATTITUDE ISLIKELY TOIMPROVE.

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Work place spirituality is a novelconcept with potentially strongrelevance to the well being of

individuals, organisations and societies. Thecommon problems faced by most of thecorporates are stress, absenteeism,organisational politics, and absence of teamwork and so on. Large numbers have beenstruggling with anxiety, depression and lack ofmotivation. Going back to work will trigger ahuge range of emotions.Many with existinghealth conditions are reluctant to regroup untilvaccines are dished out. Work is worship andwe Indians just touch the entrance of theoffice before starting the work in right earnest.

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Keeping employees engage By C.K. Subramaniam

Work CultureNeeds Sea Change

LARGENUMBERS HAVEBEENSTRUGGLINGWITH ANXIETY,DEPRESSIONAND LACK OFMOTIVATION.

The spontaneous andunannounced mass remoteworking trial shone a blindingspotlight on unpreparedbusinesses. When the tidegoes out you see who's losttheir swimming trunks, whoʼsbeen working out and whoʼswearing their wifeʼs knickersall will come in open. ITteams were flooded withrequests to configure remotesystems. Hardware sold out.Software took some getting used to, but all inthe entire imposed home office project hasgenerally been hailed as a huge step forward forwork place. This is largely dependent on theworkerʼs home situation and individual roles ofcourse. Some staff are not permitted to accesssensitive data externally, not all jobs can bedone remotely especially from the Bankingsector where the client's details are to be keptsecret and not revealed outside.

SOCIAL DISTANCING AT WORK PLACESocial distancing will be the part and parcel of

a future working in India. This sets new limits onworkplace capacity: bums on seats. Facilitymanagers and consultants are frantically replanning offices, reducing numbers and markingout spacing with sticky tape. More needs to bedone, but a return to desk cubicles isnʼt theanswer. The uniqueness of the current situationis that nobody has a definitive answer for how towork through the post lockdown / pre-vaccineperiod. Management must engage withemployees to agree on a way – and be preparedto change tactics if needed.

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BUSINESSESWITH SHORTTERM VIEWSWILL LOSEOUT TOOLONG TERMSTRATEGISTS.NOW IS THETIME TO BUYLOYALTY WITHEMPATHY TORETAIN YOURBEST ASSETS.

Employer responses to staff fears will comeunder the microscope. The big losers in the next12-18 months will be firms that ignore coronaconcerns raised by their team, dismiss homeoffice requests and fail to consider staff anxiety.Businesses with short term views will lose outtoo long term strategists. Now is the time to buyloyalty with empathy to retain your best assets. Itis time to enhance trust among people with anincreased disconnectedness. Moreover,motivated organisational culture leading tobetter organisational performance in future. Atthe same time, there should be job satisfaction.We should cultivate a renewed communitysense and positive outlook for maximum output.

FLEXIBLE MANAGEMENTManagement should be visible with regular

team meetings to deal with problems andconcerns. Human emotion, empathy, open-minded communication and understanding haveto take the lead. Employees with fears andanxieties should be supported in order to feelsafe at work. Businesses need to be flexible withtheir staff. The office does not represent workitself, presenteeism is dead. The uniqueness ofthe current situation is that nobody has adefinitive answer for how to work through thepost lockdown / pre-vaccine period.Management must engage with employees toagree on a way and be prepared to changetactics if needed. There lies the real success inthe post Coronavirus scenario.

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EMPLOYEESWITH FEARSAND ANXIETIESSHOULD BESUPPORTED INORDER TO FEELSAFE AT WORK.BUSINESSESNEED TO BEFLEXIBLE WITHTHEIR STAFF.


It can be hard to know when someone is really intoyou. Figuring out someoneʼs feelings, especially ifthey donʼt even know them yet, can be difficult

and actually pretty nerve wrecking. This is definitelythe case for guys, who may not always be the best atcommunicating how they feel. And if you are reallyinto this guy, you are probably anxious to know howhe feels about you, or if he likes you as much as you

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He Is Totally In LoveWith You If He DoesThese 7 ThingsBy: Rama

do like him. If you are ready to really understand yourcrush or love interestʼs feelings, here are 7 things hewill do if he is totally in love with you.

HIS EYES REVEAL EVERYTHING.The greatest sign that a person is into you in the

manner he takes a gander at you. He may not say it;however in the case that he is succumbing to you, hewill see you like you are sent directly from paradise.

HE MAKES YOU A PRIORITY.Individuals just set aside a few minutes for what

they need, and for the most part rationalize whenthey aren't so intrigued. In such case that yourpartner is occupied – regardless of whether it be withwork, school or companions – he still reliably setsaside a few minutes for you, this is a truly clear signthat he truly thinks about you.

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THEGREATESTSIGN THAT APERSON ISINTO YOU INTHE MANNERHE TAKES AGANDER ATYOU.

HE ACCEPTS YOU FOR WHO YOU ARESome guys may need you to act or dress a specific

method to pacify their necessities and wants.However, in case that a person is truly into you, hewill acknowledge you for what your identity is,energetically and affectionately.

HE GIVES YOU CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISMIf a guy doesnʼt really care about you, they wonʼt

be invested enough to tell you when youʼre off yourgame. They could easily witness you being self-destructive or making poor decisions, and not careenough to give you feedback. But a guy that reallyloves you will call you out on your stuff, because theycare enough about you to help you be your best self.

HE SUPPORTS YOUR ASPIRATIONA guy that really cares about you will not only hope

you achieve your dreams, but will actively supportyou in doing so. Does he do things like help youbrainstorm new ideas for your business, studyconstantly with you for school, or even physically

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A GUY THATREALLYCARESABOUT YOUWILL NOTONLY HOPEYOU ACHIEVEYOURDREAMS, BUTWILLACTIVELYSUPPORTYOU IN DOINGSO.

show up for your personal or professionalendeavors? He is definitely falling for you.

HE IS RELIABLE EVEN WHEN IT'S INCONVENIENT ORUNCOMFORTABLE

You can truly perceive how an individual feelsabout you by watching their conduct in badlyarranged circumstances. Does he despite everythingensure you are alright after a contention? Does heassist you with getting things done regardless ofwhether it cuts into his leisure time? Little, yet greatdeeds like this shows his actual character andaffections for you.

HE INCLUDES YOU IN HIS LIFE.If a guy isnʼt really into you, you wonʼt know much

about his life outside of his interaction with you. Ifyou know all your guyʼs best friends, his favoritehang out spots and hobbies – or even if he justconstantly updates you about his day – this guy isdefinitely falling in love with you.

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Q A&Beauty Queries

Please give me some tips on removingmake-up the natural way. My skin is sensitive

and I would like to avoid commercial beautyproducts.

It is very important to remove all make-up beforegoing to bed as this helps the facial skin breathe,and prevents clogging of pores leading toblackheads,acne and other blemishes.

A very popular method of cleaning off make-up ishoney and baking soda. Take honey in a bowl andsprinkle baking soda on it. Mix thoroughly and applywith a cotton on face and wipe off firmly andgently.This is an exfoliator and cleanser, suitable forall kinds of make-up.

Take a little coconut oil in your palm and wipe it allover face, without rubbing it in. Remove with atissue or cotton ball. This cleans and moisturizesskin excellently.

If your make-up is light, simple milk is a goodcleanser, and a good hydrator as well. Steamingface removes stubborn make-up but you shouldensure that you clean it off thoroughly or it couldcause acne.

Iam a 25-year-old woman who is only 5ʼ2”tall. Thismakes me wear high- heeled footwear always!

During my working day in the bank, I always wearstilettoes. Nowadays, I am suffering from a backache and a stiffness in the ankles. Could this be dueto the footwear I use? Please advise.

You seem to have hit the nail on the head!Podiatrists warn that high heels alters the angle ofthe body and causes imbalance feelings. Pain will

STEAMINGFACEREMOVESSTUBBORNMAKE-UP BUTYOU SHOULDENSURE THATYOU CLEAN ITOFFTHOROUGHLYOR IT COULDCAUSE ACNE.

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be felt from the knees to the spine, and even lead tothe formation of corns, bunions and blisters.

This does not mean that you will have to eschewhigh heels altogether. Use good walking shoeswhen going to work and slip on the heeled footwearwhen you are in the office. When working at yourstation, slip them off and wriggle your toes to loosenmuscles and relax feet.

If the discomfort you feel is intense, it is advisableto change your footwear and choose lower heels.Two to four cms are safe. You arches should getgood support as well. Wear very high heels only forinfrequent outings.

In case you continue to feel pain and discomfort, itis best to consult a chiropodist to evaluate yourcondition

Now that summer is here, please give me sometips on how to have a clean, fresh look on the

face. My skin tends to become greasy and dull dueto the heat, humidity and dust. I am a 32-year-oldliving in Mumbai.

You are right in thinking that our beauty routineshould be modified with the change in the seasons.In summer, with the heat and grime, it is importantto clean your face at least three times a day. Use asoap-free cleanser. A clay mask once a week isperfect for dealing with oiliness.

Another way of clearing skin is by exfoliation witha mild chemical peel or an appropriate scrub whichwill remove dead skin cells and leave your face witha glowʼ.

Avoid heavy make-up; use light, less productswhich do not contain oils and emoliants.Theseshould contain antioxidants. But an SPF of at least30 is important to avoid the effects of the sunʼs ultraviolet rays.

Take care to remove all make-up at bedtime andallow skin to breathe.

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USE GOODWALKINGSHOES WHENGOING TOWORK ANDSLIP ON THEHEELEDFOOTWEARWHEN YOUARE IN THEOFFICE.WHENWORKING ATYOURSTATION, SLIPTHEM OFFAND WRIGGLEYOUR TOESTO LOOSENMUSCLESAND RELAXFEET.

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Please tell me how to deal with hair in my nostrils.I have a thickish growth and often wonder how

most women have clean, hair-free nostrils.The easiest and most convenient way is to use a

tiny scissors which are often included in groomingkits. As these have rounded tips, you will not nick orpoke skin.Stand in front of mirror, in good light, blownose to remove any mucous; raise your head.

Then carefully trim hair as close to skin aspossible. It is best to trim only the front visible hairs,and not go deep into your nostrils with the scissors.

Blow nose to remove bits of hair and wash in coolwater.An electric nose hair trimmer with roundedrazors is another option. It can be bought in a goodbeauty product outlet or online too.

Avoid waxing or laser too as far as possible. Donot pluck hairs as this could lead to infection whichcan even reach the brain! Depilatories, hair removalcreams,etc, are definitely not to be used.

I have heard a lot about chemical peel. What is thisand is it safe?

In the procedure termed chemical peel, achemical is applied to the skin to exfoliate it andgradually peel off. It is used to improve the conditionof the face, hands, or neck, and makes the arealook smoother and less wrinkled than the originalskin.The new skin is more sensitive and feels rawfor a few days before it heals completely.

The treatment uses light, medium or deepchemicals according to the requirements. Usually,these are alpha hydroxy acid peels, which areglycolic or lactic acids, beta hydroxy acid peels,retinoic acid peels or phenol croton oil peel.

The results are almost always very gratifying andthere are very few adverse side effects. Ensurethough that you go to an experienced and qualifiedcosmetic surgeon. This procedure is not advisablefor teenagers, under 18 years of age.

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DO NOTPLUCK HAIRSAS THISCOULD LEADTO INFECTIONWHICH CANEVEN REACHTHE BRAIN!DEPILATORIES, HAIRREMOVALCREAMS,ETC,AREDEFINITELYNOT TO BEUSED.


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As individuals stay inside to help forestallthe spread of the coronavirus, we need toknow how this has affected your sexual

coexistence.As the coronavirus keeps onspreading over the US, millions have needed toradically change their everyday lives.

The conclusion of bars, cafés, exercisecenters, and theaters as a methods for easingback the spread of the infection has additionallyimplied that the essential methods for meetingindividuals and dating has been covered for thetime being.

So in case youʼre despite everything keen ongetting off and having (a) sex — a known

STRESS BUSTER SEXIN AGE OF COVID 19

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By Himshikha Shukla

wellspring of stressalleviation — how are yougetting along it?

Perhaps youʼre gettinginventive with newmasturbation strategies,possibly you and your lifepartner are isolated togetherand testing out new placesaround your living quartersto engage in sexual relationsthat arenʼt your bed,perhaps youʼre getting intovirtual sex.

Ahhh, COVID-19—youhave furnished us withtesting times on such asignificant number of fronts,however not least of which ischanging in accordance withbeing cut off from our socialuniverses.

Never have we felt so… cloistered. Althoughfor a significant number of us, there is the weirdinconsistency of feeling as though there is nogetting away those with whom we are sociallydetached.

Our requirements for intimacy do not turn onand off like a tap, regardless of the stunningvelocity with which we have wound up boltedaway from others. For all our disdain of thehorde ways that advanced innovations havetransformed our associations in the course ofrecent decades, a considerable lot of us arecurrently deeply grateful to the different ways wewould now be able to see and hear thosegenerally essential to us.

The every day portion of heightened anxietybrought to us civility of the news can leave us

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OURREQUIREMENTSFOR INTIMACYDO NOT TURNON AND OFFLIKE A TAP,REGARDLESSOF THESTUNNINGVELOCITY WITHWHICH WE HAVEWOUND UPBOLTED AWAYFROM OTHERS.

requiring solace that is human in structure. Surethere is a spot for getting occupied in Netflix orsorting out an online “quartini” hour withcompanions, yet we are customized withrequirements for physical contact.

On the off chance that you are lucky to beconfined with your cozy accomplice (oraccomplices, for the individuals who live pastdoubles), in theory, it may appear to be anincredible chance to get up to speed with allthat sex that at times gets put on pause fromthe requests of work, family, and hustlingaround town like tasered chickens, as we arewont to do.

Donʼt under-gauge the accumulative stress ofthis disengagement, be that as it may. While youmay feel an extraordinary requirement for solaceand closeness, it frequently requires a totallydifferent mentality to be intrigued, stirred, andprepared for sexual association explicitly. Agenuinely cheerful attitude. Numerousindividuals, however particularly numerousladies, report inconvenience isolating from thenerves of their reality during sexual experiences.

Then again, sex gives an extraordinarymethods for association and has somephenomenal diverting and engagingcharacteristics to it as well. Consider making anarrangement with your accomplice for sex laterin the day, at that point move in the direction oflimiting your floundering in coronavirus updates.

Think ahead—envision interfacing sexually.Think some hot musings, imagine what you maydo or attempt. Also, on the off chance that youcan, include some contacting for the duration ofthe day, even solace contacting, embraces,somewhat pat on the butt, to move nearergenuinely.

Research shows that the individuals who take

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part in these little personal contacts over thecourse of the day have more groundedconnections and sexual association. It isanything but a chicken-or-egg question: beginconnecting and closeness increases.

“That is incredible,” you state, “yet imagine ascenario where I have no accomplice or Iʼmaway from an accomplice?” If you have noaccomplice, consider contacting your pulverize,that somebody for whom you feel a little sparkle,or that individual from before (even distal past)for a little personal lift. Perhaps help that toremember a period you shared. In look into, wecall these “Heating surfaces” or “Alluring Others”which means the people in our lives with whomwe share a wee attraction or with whom we havehad something before – they cause us to feelassociated, appealing, and alive.

Whatʼs more, on the off chance that you havean accomplice, however you are isolated rightnow, or on the off chance that you are stayingaway from all physical contact with everybody(even an accomplice under the equivalentroof), this is an ideal time to try different thingswith online life and different types of sexadvancements. There is virtual reality porn,sex robots, web associated sex toys, forexample, accomplice controlled “brilliant”vibrators. Indeed, even long-separation kissinggadgets. Do some schoolwork; you will bestunned.

Keep in mind, we are altogether different fromone another, just like our requirements for closeassociation. Do not apologize or feel regretful forneeding to associate explicitly—we originatefrom a long, long queue of precursors whoobviously drew profits by sex. It is a piece of ourprogramming, and now like never before, wehave to give it some time and attention.

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THEN AGAIN,SEX GIVES ANEXTRAORDINARY METHODSFORASSOCIATIONAND HASSOMEPHENOMENALDIVERTINGANDENGAGINGCHARACTERISTICS TO IT ASWELL.

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Juggling life withBonhomie and HarmonyDuring Difficult TimesCovid19: Ensure Mental Harmony. By- Sripriya

Who would have imagined a year agothat terms like ʻlockdownʼ andʻquarantineʼ would become common

household names in the near future? Whattodayʼs world is undergoing is something out ofthe ordinary spreading fear, despair and anxiety.Just going to a place close by has become a bigordeal nowadays.

Well! Keeping such negative emotions aside, ifwe can sit back and think as to how positivitycan be achieved amidst these difficult times,then with a little effort from our side we can see

WHAT TODAYʼSWORLD ISUNDERGOINGIS SOMETHINGOUT OF THEORDINARYSPREADINGFEAR, DESPAIRAND ANXIETY.

that bonhomie and harmonycan be our guiding light,leading the way out of thedark tunnel. While most ofus work from home huddledup in the four walls, there isno need to panic as thisperiod can be convertedinto building cheerfulfriendliness and harmonywith the members of ourhousehold avoidingirritability and strain in therelationships. Here is how...

COMMUNICATE:Communicating amicably with the people we

live can go a long way in sorting out anxiety,stress and other differences. By effectivelyreaching out to others, the workload of thehousehold chores can be split, thereby ensuringthe smooth functioning of the place we live in.Let me portray a situation. Let us suppose ahousehold consist of two elderly people, twokids and their parents. Having a family meetingat a prescribed time every day and allocatingwork as per age by creating an agenda can go along way in reducing chaoticness and bitterfeelings amongst the members. Also, lightermoments can be created by sharing small giftsto the person who has accomplished his bestthat day. The family meetings should beconducted in such a way that every memberlooks forward to its arrival.

BE READY TO CUT SHORT PERSONAL SPACE:This lockdown period can be taken as an

opportunity to discover more about the peoplearound us. So, in the process personal space

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LIGHTERMOMENTS CANBE CREATED BYSHARING SMALLGIFTS TO THEPERSON WHO HASACCOMPLISHEDHIS BEST THATDAY. THE FAMILYMEETINGSSHOULD BE

boundaries can get blurred but at the same time,we can also get a chance to know more aboutour loved ones and learn about their positivetraits and hobbies. We can also try to make aneffort to cultivate those spare time diversionswhich we see in other members thus enrichingour skills.

BE READY TO COME OUT OF COMFORT ZONES:Let us suppose, cooking is not our comfort

zone. When the necessity arises we shouldprepare ourselves in such a way that we are notlocked in the confinements of our knownventures. Even jobs in which we have noexperience with can be taken as an adventureand a joyful experience. With the humungoushelp we can receive from the internet media, Isuppose anything can be accomplished. Insteadof cribbing and letting out negative emotionswhy not come out of our comfort zones andaccomplish the job at hand with full vigour.

After all juggling life with bonhomie andharmony put forth with the help of definitestrategies is the need of the hour. Happy timesahead!

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WE CAN ALSOTRY TO MAKEAN EFFORT TOCULTIVATETHOSE SPARETIMEDIVERSIONSWHICH WE SEEIN OTHERMEMBERS THUSENRICHING OURSKILLS.

In spite of its overwhelming presence innewspapers, magazines and on television,the fashion industry in India is young. The

first professional fashion show was held in thiscountry just over 20 years ago.

The word 'fashion' brings on images ofglamour. The onset of the worldwide fashionmarket in India has given a thrust to the fashion

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Itʼs setting new trends. By Tulika Sinha

Fashion IndustryCraze forin India

industry. This has attracted so many youngpeople to this industry.

The word fashion itself brings to mind a flashof colour with a dash of glamour. It is a visiblecreativity of people, which can enhance thebeauty and personality of anyone. Fashion isjust like seasons – it keeps changing and addingcolour, print, texture and material as the seasongoes on. Fashion includes footwear, make-up,accessories, hairstyle, clothing, lifestyle andproducts. Fashion can be feminine andmasculine, but nowadays we follow the trend of

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THE WORDFASHION ITSELFBRINGS TOMIND A FLASHOF COLOURWITH A DASHOF GLAMOUR.IT IS A VISIBLECREATIVITY OFPEOPLE, WHICHCAN ENHANCETHE BEAUTYANDPERSONALITYOF ANYONE.

“Androgyny”. There is beautiful quote by BacheZoe “Style is a way to say who you are withouthaving to speak.”

Today, there are a couple of hundred Indianfashion designers peddling designs and wares.Some are well known and are expanding, slowlybut surely, into the international market. India'sromance with fashion design has just begun andis bound to grow by leaps and bounds. Glamourhas caught on. Young women want to emulatemodels and the designer wear of Hindi film stars.

Fusion of Indian and western looks are all therage. Then there is everything from pure ethnicwear, highly suitable for Indian bridal collectionsto purely Western style designer wear for the redcarpet. India loves fashion!

India hosts its own fashion weeks in Delhi andMumbai which seem to be getting bigger andbetter every year. The names are getting knownas well – Rohit Bal, Tarun Tahiliani, Ritu Kumar,Manish Malhotra, Ritu Beri, Manish Arora, SatyaPaul, Rocky S, the list just keeps growing.

MARKET SIZEThe Indian fashion industry is expected to

reach US$ 400 million in a couple of years withthe vigorous growth of over 10 per cent year-on-year. While this is tiny compared to the globalindustry, it is not too bad for an industry in thisstage of infancy.

The reason India's fashion industry will have abright future is that it has a large youngpopulation. This, combined with increasingdisposable incomes, has led to an increase inconsumerism. So, those who can afford it arelooking for high quality and originality. They lovebrand names. Hence, we can say that the futureof the fashion industry in India looks promising.

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POTENTIALThis industry offers an abundance of

opportunities for artistic, hard-working andenthusiastic people. The scenario for fashiondesign graduates looks good, thanks to theenormous and still increasing demand for stylishclothes and the number of exports.

After successful accomplishment of thegraduate course, one can be self-employed. Onthe other hand, several garment store chains,export houses, leather companies, textile mills,boutiques, fashion show organisers andjewellery houses recruit professionals fascinatedwith a career in fashion designing. Hereby, thefashion industry relies a lot on India's authentic,beautiful history and rich, diverse culture, tomake its unique clothing. Growing recognition ofthis industry, which hinges on its cultural style,has many of us wondering just when and if theIndian fashion industry will get the green light togo international.

Some important tips toremember on fashionDenim – find your fit and save it for life:

High-rise, low-rise, boot cut, boyfriend, baggy,etc. Knowing what suits your body type and sizeis life-saving. These are everyday essentials,and you canʼt go wrong with them.Understand the colour wheel: It might seem a

little unnecessary, but you will be more than gladyou looked this up because itʼs a game changerand gives you a new perspective when matchingup colours. Remember, there cannot be morethan three colours in your outfit at one time.Organise your closet every three months: A

capsule wardrobe is a concept many women areturning towards and enjoying the benefits of. If

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you think that it will not work for you, at leastorganise your closet once in a while. You willslowly start to realise how many things you donot use are there in your wardrobe and willdiscard them anyway.Accessorise your outfits away: Accessories

are an integral part of dressing up. Keep asidesome money just for accessories. Just onechunky piece of jewellery can marry an entireoutfit. Wear them as per the occasion – office,party, concert, etc.Donʼt mix too many colours or prints

or both: Colourful florals with plain skirts orbottoms, or printed dresses with plainaccessories and shoes are good – thereʼs a wayto mix them up. You simply cannot afford tomess up.Play with prints and patterns: Playing with

patterns and prints is an art in itself. Some havea natural knack for working with prints, some ofus need to learn them. Thereʼs nothing Googlecannot help you with, so prepare yourself andact like a pro.Lastly, be confident: Nothing, nothing works

as confidence does. And, unfortunately, thereʼsno workaround to this one. Be you, be beautiful.

Being trendy and fashionable is just yourown wish, no one can force you to do it and itis your own decision about how much and whattype of fashion you are preferring according toplace and requirement. Though this time of the21st century in India mostly people areaffected by the glamorous world and style offashion, still they have not forgotten ourtraditions and culture which is the priority andsymbol of our country. Following and applyingfashion in life is not bad until it affects orimpacts badly on others.

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ShortStory

The Spiral ofMisery

Isnʼt life too short to be making the same oldmistakes? Yet we either consciously orunconsciously fall into those previous

patterns, that led to our ruin in the first place.I remember seeing him for the first time and

those liquid amber eyes seemed to pierce mysoul. Theyʼd be the death of me I had thought atthe time, and little did I know that it mightactually turn out to be true. But my only regretremains, letting him go twice.

Meeting him this time was like seeing him forthe first time all over again – the same butterflies

...ending in? By Priyanka Gusain

“Hey,it’s not like I

didn’t invite you withme. You were the one

who declined.”“And then you cheated onme, Did I ask you to dothat too?” anger was

radiating off menow.

in my stomach, feeling like everything was inslow-mo and nothing else seemed to matter atall. Just like before, blood rushed to my face onbeing caught looking.

He was still looking at me with the sameintensity, his mischievous eyes still promising totake me places I had never been before.

But that plane had already taken off, takinghim away from me forever. So what reason didthis man have to come back crashing into my lifeagain, making me reminisce the past, go over allthose feelings all over again – giving rise toemotions that were better left in the grave?

What was even left to be said? Everything wasover, I was never going to be happy, he hadmade sure of that he had made peace with it. Sowhy was my traitorous body reacting this way?Why did I still want to just bury myself I hisarms? This urge to be with him was ridiculous.

His wicked smirk were daring me to make thefirst move. Just like before, I took the bait

but, to my shock and everyone elseʼs around us,my fist made contact with his clean-shaven face,making him reel backwards.

“I did deserve it,” he winced.“Well it was a long time coming,” I agreed“You havenʼt changed one bit, have you,

Myra?” he mused. “Still punching peoplearound.”

I did not go around punching people but I keptmum, not wanting to start an argument. I wasexhausted; by this party in my honour, by hisface that was beginning to irritate me. So Iwalked away.

“I need to talk to you,” he shouted, trying tofollow me.

“There is nothing left to talk about, notanymore,” I yelled back

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I REMEMBERSEEING HIMFOR THE FIRSTTIME ANDTHOSE LIQUIDAMBER EYESSEEMED TOPIERCE MYSOUL. THEYʼDBE THE DEATHOF ME I HADTHOUGHT ATTHE TIME, ANDLITTLE DID IKNOW THAT ITMIGHTACTUALLYTURN OUT TOBE TRUE.

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The hurt on his face made me double back butwhat did I care about someone who snatchedmy heart, and tore it to pieces. Plunging theknife in deeper, I hissed, “Now, if you will excuseme, I have a fiance I need to get back to.”

Iwent inside to find Rehan, my fiance talkingever so graciously to some guests; he reallywas my saving grace, picking me up when I

had no hope, making me feel complete again,unlike Aarav who left so many holes in my soul.

He looked so calm and peaceful that I didnʼtfeel like informing him of the coming storm. Yet Iperformed that odious task and he listened tome with furrowed brows, but reassured me thatwe would be fine.

Next day we glimpsed Aarav in the market,cool and assessing as usual. On finding usthere, he strolled in our direction.

Betyou are just

jealous because youwill never have anything Iown,” Aarav taunted.

“So you consider Myra to beyour property now,” Rehan

snapped back.The argument grew so heated

that Aarav pulled out hisgun to shoot Rehan who

tensed and froze onthe spot.

HE LOOKEDSO CALMAND PEACEFULTHAT I DIDNʼTFEEL LIKEINFORMINGHIM OF THECOMINGSTORM.

"You look well," he commented"What did you expect?" I retorted “To see me

stuck here in sorrow while you enjoy travellingthe world?”

“Hey, itʼs not like I didnʼt invite you with me.You were the one who declined.”

“And then you cheated on me, Did I ask you todo that too?” anger was radiating off me now.

“Listen, I am ashamed of how I handled things.I was a fool. After travelling the world I havecome to the realisation that I love you and noone can take your place. I am the best choice foryou. Only I can keep you happy. Donʼt you wantto see what it would be like if we hadnʼt beenseparated?”

Rehan stepped in looking flustered, “Whoa,calm down, dude, you should have said thatbefore, now sheʼs taken and happier than shewill ever be with you, so back off.”

We walked away but I couldnʼt stop thinkingabout what Aarav had said. His words keptspinning in my head in an endless loop. Hismanner did seem to be genuine but what did Iknow.

Maybe Rehan noticed because he told me Icould share anything with him. But theatmosphere between the two of us was tense.

Aaravʼs words were getting to me, I wasbeginning to imagine what it would be like if wewere still together, even though we brought outthe worst in each other, everything made sensewhen I was with him. Maybe he had changed.

He came to my house, radiating confidencethat bordered on arrogance. But once hestarted talking about the past his demeanourappeared to soften, my anger evaporated and,just like that, we were back to how we used tobe. I was a creature of habit and he was myaddiction.

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SOON, I FOUNDMYSELFCHEATING ONREHAN,SOMETHING IHAD NEVERIMAGINEDMYSELF TO BECAPABLE OF. ITRIED TO STOPMYSELF. IKNEW ITWOULD ONLYEND BADLY BUTI HAD NO SELF-CONTROLWHEN IT CAMETO AARAV.

Soon, I found myself cheating on Rehan,something I had never imagined myself to becapable of. I tried to stop myself. I knew it wouldonly end badly but I had no selfcontrol when itcame to Aarav. He told me that I was just beinga baby worrying about him and I should not bethinking about him when we were having somuch fun together.

When Rehan found out, his crushedexpression made me feel guiltier than I alreadywas, I had betrayed the one person who hadhealed me back to life. Here I was unable to doanything to ease his pain. The worst thing wasthat he wasnʼt even mad at me, justdisappointed. If only he had shouted at me,demanded the reason for my betrayal, I wouldnʼtfeel so much remorse oozing out of my body.

He then proceeded to confront Aarav forleading me to the path of self- destruction,

dragging me into a toxic relationship again. I hadnever seen Rehan so heated; he was usually thecalmest and wisest person in the room, heshould know better than to provoke Aarav. It wasnever nice when Aarav got mad. So I tried tostop him but he wouldnʼt listen.

All I could see was red; the rage in the roomwas palpable.

“Bet you are just jealous because you willnever have anything I own,” Aarav taunted.

“So you consider Myra to be your propertynow,” Rehan snapped back.

The argument grew so heated that Aaravpulled out his gun to shoot Rehan who tensedand froze on the spot. I couldnʼt let this happen;he couldnʼt die because of me. I ran in front ofhim just as the bullet escaped the barrel. I couldhear two grown men scream in agony as I hit theground.

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Q&AMy mother is about 65 years old. During a

routine whole body check-up, calciumdeficiency was found in her report. I want to knowthe amount of calcium recommended, theirsource, diet rich in calcium and absorption also.

The body of an adult normally contains about1200 gm. of calcium. At least 99 per cent of this ispresent in the skeleton, where calcium salts (chieflyhydroxyapatite), held in a cellular matrix provide thehard structure of the bones and teeth. Obviously allof this calcium comes from the diet. Amongcommon foods, the calcium containing protein ofmilk (caseinogen) is much the richest source, whichis one reason why milk and cheese are especiallyvaluable for growing children. Half a litre of cow'smilk contains about 0.6gm of calcium. Most otherfoods contribute much smaller amounts. However,peas, beans, other vegetables and particularlycereal grains are frequently the chief contributorsbecause of the large amounts eaten. Drinking watercan provide significant amounts of calcium.

In Britain the average intake from this source isabout 75 mg calcium per day, but the variationsare large, from none in water from peaty, acidic hilllochs in Scotland to 200 mg or even more in waterobtained from wells sunk in chalk or limestone. 70to 80 per cent absorption of the calcium in thefood is normally excreted in the faces. Calciumabsorption may be impaired either by lack ofvitamin D, by any conditions causing smallintestinal hurry, by the combination of calcium withexcess fatty acids to form insoluble soaps insteatorrhoea or by certain substances in the dietwhich can form insoluble salts with calcium. These

include foods rich in oxalic acid (eg. spinach) andphytic acid which is present in the outer layers ofcereal grains. Hence 'wholemeal' bread containsmore phytic acid than white. To overcome theinfluence of phytic acid, calcium carbonate hasbeen added to flour in Britain. W.H.O.recommends a daily intake of 500 mg. for adultmen and women, rising to 1200 mg. duringpregnancy and lactation. For adolescent boys andgirls the recommended intake is 600 to 700 mg.daily. In many parts of Africa and Asia childrendevelop healthy bones and adults remain incalcium balance despite calcium intakes whichmay be no more than half the aboverecommendations. Abundant sunshine possiblyproduces this effect. However, a daily intake of1000 mg. should be taken during pregnancy andlactation. Deficiency of calcium and vitamin D gohand in hand and are best considered together.

My mother is about 65 years old and usuallyremains inactive and functionally dependent

on other family members. She is otherwise healthyand has no disease. We have consulted aphysician for this problem. He advised to increaseher level of physical activity with the help ofexercises. I want your opinion about this problem.

Inactive elders are at greater risk of becomingfunctionally dependent then their more physicallyactive counterparts. Higher levels of physicalactivity are associated with reduced risks of futuredisability, disease related morbidity and mortality.Even sedentary elders should be urged to increasetheir level of physical activity. By writing out anexercise prescription, a physician demonstratesthe importance of the activity and may improvecompliance. Components include strength training(isolated muscle group contractions), endurancetraining (walking, cycling, swimming), flexibility

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HIGHERLEVELS OFPHYSICALACTIVITY AREASSOCIATEDWITHREDUCEDRISKS OFFUTUREDISABILITY,DISEASERELATEDMORBIDITYANDMORTALITY

(static stretch of various muscle groups) andbalance (tai chi, dance). Ideally, the patient shouldaim for a total of 30 minutes of activity daily, thoughany increase in exercise is likely to be beneficial.

The type of physical activity prescribed should begeared to the patient's diagnoses and risk factors –eg. quadriceps strengthening for a man withosteoarthritis of the knee, tai chi for a woman withosteoporosis at risk for falls, and aerobic exercisefor a man with cardiovascular risk factors.

Iam a 50-years-old working woman. Since thelast two to three years I am suffering with

hypertension and diabetes. Recently I haveconsulted a physician for this problem. He told methat hypertensive patients with diabetes remainsat a high risk of heart disease, kidney disease andsome other side-effects on various organs of thebody. What is your opinion about this problem?

There must be a special considerations in thetreatment of diabetic hypertensive patients. Hyper-tensive patients with diabetes are at particularlyhigh risk for cardivascular events (heart diseases).More aggressive treatment of hypertension inthese patients prevents progressive nephropathy(kidney disease), myocardial infarction (heartattack) and stroke. Treatment recommendationssuggest a target of blood pressure less than 130and 86 mm of Hg. However, most diabetics requirecombinations of three to five agents to achievethese goals, usually including a diuretic and acalcium channel blocker or beta-blocker. Inaddition to rigorous blood pressure control,management of diabetics should includeaggressive treatment of other risk factors andearly intervention for coronary arteries (arteriessupplying blood to heart) disease and leftventricular dysfunction of heart.

– Dr. Sanjay Teotia.

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TREATMENTRECOMMENDATIONSSUGGEST ATARGET OFBLOODPRESSURELESS THAN130 AND 86MM OF HG.

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How To OvercomeFrom Your Pain ofLosing The JobDuring The CrisisHow to deal with the stress of being Jobless. By- Richa Goel

Hey, raise your hands if you too had lostthe job during COVID-19 and pretendingto be fine when it is actually making you

depressed... I am also the one gone through thatphase and hence sharing with you my ownexperience! I had followed all the attributes youneed to follow in the organizations like-Dedication, Determination, Hard-Work, Loyalty,and Punctuality; still, I was being terminatedwithout any closure was the worst part. See,moving out of a job was not difficult forme, because life is full ofopportunities; it is just thatI need to grab that... Thedifficult part was tounderstand where Iwent wrong when I wasso dedicated towards myjob. Plus, moredepressing was themoment to acknowledgethat I was a part ofdirty politics wheremy colleagues alsotrusted that I waswrong, started

STILL, I WASBEINGTERMINATEDWITHOUT ANYCLOSURE WASTHE WORSTPART.

distancing themselves from mewhich was disheartening at first,but then I do not want to explainmy part to everyone who washardly interested in listening tome, So, I let that move on. Here,are 8 apt points you need tounderstand:-

Nothing Is PERMANENTDo you all know your age limit

or till how long are you going toexist in this world? When lifeand death are unpredictable how can you expecttoo much from your job? But then itʼs okay ifyour job is no more, be thankful you are stillthere in this world where you can do far morebetter from your past experiences.

There is NO AGE LIMIT of Exploringnew things

I was a teacher in one of the reputed skills.One day while doing official work, I observed ourPrincipal mam learning harmonium. I waswondering whatʼs the need for 55+ lady withsuch a good post to learn all these things. Thisis when I realized that there is no ageboundation of learning things you loved to do, itis just the determination and courage to do so...No matter how many people will judge you andtaunt you, but never stop exploring yourself. Atlast, Itʼs Your Own Life. Listen to your heart andfollow the way it is leading to.

Best time for SELF-observationBusy with your job, have you ever been able to

take out time for yourself? The desires you havebut you were not able to fulfilled due to lack oftime, workload, financial crisis, or what so ever!

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NO MATTERHOW MANYPEOPLE WILLJUDGE YOUAND TAUNTYOU, BUTNEVER STOPEXPLORINGYOURSELF.

So, what are you waiting for? Instead of holdingthe grudges for your lost job, better to search forthe various options available so as to fulfill your“adhuri khwaishein”. Trust me there is Never aPERFECT time than today which makes meremember.

Health is a WEALTH2020 is the worst nightmare for everyone but

then stays thankful that you are still alive alongwith your loved ones. Being wealthy with somesort of health issue will always be a painful toyou at some point in time. Be like a carefree kidonce again... So, invest your time on yourself bydoing dance, meditation, yoga, aerobics,exercise, etc. Trust me; if you are healthy, youare the most happiest and wealthiest person inthe world! A pimple or a small cut on a finger canalso make us panic... Then why not stay happyfor being fit and fine? Because you are already

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THEN WHY NOTSTAY HAPPY FORBEING FIT ANDFINE? BECAUSEYOU AREALREADY ONEOF THE RICHPEOPLE HAVINGGOOD HEALTHWITHOUTRELYING ON ANYHOSPITALʼS BED.

one of the rich people having good healthwithout relying on any hospitalʼs bed.

Utilization of resources in the BESTWAY

When there is still a great downfall inthe economic crisis, donʼt cry for your lostjob. It is the time when your savings wereone of the greatest supports. So, all thosewho have the habit of spending money forsome mere fun, start developing a habitof savings. It is your money and it willhelp ʻyouʼ only at the time of crisis. Useyour money wisely! Donʼt feel shy to say“No” if you consider it spending useless.As it is your die hard earned money andyou have the right to access it. Do not getinfluenced with your peer pressure.

Take the time to HEAL yourselfItʼs okay losing something where you have

spent your precious time, proving yourself to bethe best asset of the organization without gettingany closure; being terminated, is really veryhard. When thousand of words will be struckbetween your mind and mouth and you will notbe able to explain to yourself what went wrongon your part is the worst phase. But now, when ithappened with you, unfortunately... Take yourtime to heal your broken heart... Cry as much asyou can, shout or fight but do something so thatyou can overcome that pain soon. Holding itinside you will depress you more. Share yourpains with your friends or near oneʼs. Trust methey will heal you very soon and you may get somany people who too will share their pain withyou.

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TAKE YOURTIME TO HEALYOUR BROKENHEART...CRY AS MUCHAS YOU CAN,SHOUT ORFIGHT BUT DOSOMETHING SOTHAT YOU CANOVERCOMETHAT PAINSOON.

Do not STOP; Hunt for thejob till you do not get theanother

Do not stop because theprevious experience was notgreat for you. Thousands canlet you down giving youempathy but it is up to youhow you can stay confident inthat worst situation also. Iadmit that it is not all easy to wear that smilingface and confidence again and go for aninterview. But blaming yourself, others, or Godwonʼt either help you. So, donʼt give up andmany are waiting for the faithful employeeslike you. It is just that you do not have to loseTRUST and HOPE. It can bring MIRACLESto you.

Surround yourself with POSITIVITYThinking again and again where everything

went wrong and cursing yourself or blamingothers will only make you angry. Okay, thinkonce again. If you will be blessed with yourprevious job, have you taken the initiative tosearch the new one? No, because you weretoo comfortable with it. And this is where wefail to understand that we were not meant to bethere forever. God has furthermore betterplans for us but we do give up easily. So,Everything happens for a REASON. There ismuch more for all of us. It was not you whowas wrong; itʼs their loss who cannotunderstand your importance! So, yes surroundyourself with happy people, watch motivationalvideos, read good books, and recreateyourself.

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Iam a pretty 16-year-old girl studying in class 9.There is an embarrassing situation which I am

facing. There is a girl in my class who always latcheson to me, as if we are pals which we are not. I justcannot shoo her off. The irritating part is that shehugs and even kisses me on the check often, sayingshe loves me!!

My other friends who see her this behavior say thatshe is showing lesbian tendencies. The very idearepulses me terribly…for I am very straight!! Couldthis be true? What can I do to stop her unwantedattentions? Please advise.

Adolescents are often attracted to members oftheir own sex for some time and this is due to thesudden spurt of sex hormones which flood theirbodies. Usually, this is a temporary phase and asthey reach adulthood they are very clear about theirorientation.

Since you are uncomfortable about this girlʼsbehavior, tell her frankly that you do not like to betouched in any way. If she feels offended, it cannot behelped. This is better than suffering in silence. Tellthis in a nice way, and she will understand. In allprobability,she herself does not know why she feelsthis way!!

If she stalks you, ask your other friends to surroundyou and whisk you away from her.!!

We are two college girls sharing a rented two:bedroom flat. For two years now, we are having

a very companionable relationship. Last month, forthe first time,my flat mate brought her boyfriend homeand he stayed the night in her room. Now, he does

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ADOLESCENTS ARE OFTENATTRACTEDTO MEMBERSOF THEIROWN SEX FORSOME TIMEAND THIS ISDUE TO THESUDDENSPURT OFSEXHORMONESWHICH FLOODTHEIRBODIES.

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this almost twice a week and I am very uncomfortablewith this. If our flat owner knows about this, we will beevicted in no time too. I have told her about myfeelings, but she says I have no right to interfere inher business. What can I do?

When you share a premises with another, it iswise to draw up some rules and regulations at theoutset.

If you had said that no boyfriend should beallowed night stay, it would have been easy tocomfront her. But, evidently, no such rules weremade, making your position very delicate.

If she refuses to listen to your request, you willsimply have to lump it, or leave. If you do leave theplace, she could it difficult to pay the whole rent byherself, and this could her agree to your demand.

As a last resort, you could inform your owner, butthis could result in both of you getting throw out.The best course of action is to settle the matteramicably for after all, you have been good friendsfor a long time.

My boyfriend wants to have sex, now that we aretogether for 2 years. I am not agreeable to this,

for I want to remain a virgin till I get married.He callsme an old fashioned prude, claiming no one valuesvirginity anymore. We are both 17 years old. Pleaseadvise.

You should definitely not agree to his demands, notonly because you have your stand on the subject butbecause you are both legally under aged for sexualrelations, and can get penalized by the law.

When there is no commitment, and the boy jilts thegirl for some reason of other, she feels cheated, andused. Whether one likes it or not, women areromantic and sentimental and attach a lot of emotionto intercourse, although for the man, it often, is simplya pleasurable physical act.

Intimacy could also cause infections like STDs,

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IF YOU HADSAID THAT NOBOYFRIENDSHOULD BEALLOWEDNIGHT STAY,IT WOULDHAVE BEENEASY TOCOMFRONTHER.

AIDs, and such like.All things considered, refuse to comply and stick to

your stand even if he uses emotional blackmail tomake you succumb. It may make him abandon you,but you will feel good in your own eyes.

Ihave a problem. I am a 18-year-old girl who isdeeply in love with a 25-year-old soft ware

engineer. The issue is that I am 5”taller than him, forto my 5ʼ10”he is only 5ʼ5”. I donʼt mind the differencebut we have to face a lot of ribbing from friends,and Ican see that it hurts him. Also, although I lovewearing heeled footwear, now he does not want me todo so. Sometimes, I wonder whether our relationshipis going to be disastrous. What do you advise?

If you just look around a little, you will see that thereare many couples having taller wives, and who arevery happy too together. It all depends on yourattitude. Just ignore the teasing, which will stop whenyou stop reacting to it, anyway. It is mean to bodyshame anyone, although it is quite rampantnowadays.

Just say things like “he may be shorter but he issmarter than me”or “he says he loves looking up tome,”etc,etc, which will make your partnercomfortable.

If, however, he resents your height deeply, perhapsyou should have second thoughts about yourrelationship, as this resentment could spill into otheraspects of your life. Also, do you feel comfortableabout his putting restrictions on your choice offootwear? It is a small matter but could snowball intoa major issue.

So take your time in making this life time decision.

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This column is especially for teenagers. Adolescence can, we know, be a trying andconfusing time. There are so many questions which seem to evade solutions. A wrongdecision, or an indiscreet move, can spell disaster and ruin a life. Share your problem,worry or doubt with us andWE will help you find a way out — to a happier, healthier andmore successful adult life. Send your problems to:WOMAN’S ERA E-3, Jhandewala Estate, New Delhi-110 055, Womansera.com

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ALTHOUGH ILOVEWEARINGHEELEDFOOTWEAR,NOW HE DOESNOT WANT METO DO SO.SOMETIMES, IWONDERWHETHEROURRELATIONSHIPIS GOING TOBEDISASTROUS.

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ALL-DAYThese recipes can be relished for all meals –breakfast, lunch, dinner or as snacks. By Roma Ghosh

CARROT AND NUTRIE WITHFRESH GARLIC CHOPS

INGREDIENTS:2 cups of grated carrots1/2 cup of nutria granulesSalt1 tsp pepper powder2 tbsps of green fresh garlic – bothgreen and white portion cut intosmall tiny pieces1 tsp of anar dana powder1 tsp of roasted jeera powder4 tbsps of rice flour1 tbsps of sattu powder3-4 cups of bread crumbsOil for deep frying

METHODSoak the nutie granules in warm

water for 10 minutes and allow toswell adding salt to taste. Wait forthe granules to swell. Drain outexcess water and then place in amixing bow. Mix the remainingingredients, except the breadcrumbs and oil for frying. Mix wellwith your fingers. Divide themixture into portions. Shape eachportion into round balls. Coat eachballs in bread crumbs and deep fryin oil a few at a time. Serve as asnack, or a main item for a meal.

Carrot andnutrie with freshgarlic chops

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STUFFED FRENCH TOAST

INGREDIENTS:1 bread loaf

For the stuffing:1 cup of sauted vegetablesincluding carrots, beans, broccoli,cauliflower or 100 gms of mashedpaneer3 tbsps of oil2 tbsps of curry powder1/2 tsp of haldi powder1/2 tsp of red chillie powder1/2 tsp of annar dana powder

For the coating:4 beaten eggsSaltOil for fryingCut the loaf into 2 halves.

METHODFor the stuffing: Heat the oil and

add the veggies and the psices andstir fry for 2-3 minutes. If you areusing paneer, replace the paneerwith the veggies

To assemble the french toast:Make a slit horizontally in each ofthe loaf pieces. Place half the fillingin each of the loaf pieces Beat theeggs and add salt to taste. Heatenough oil in a non stick pan. Dipthe stuffed loaf in the beaten eggsand fry both sides on medium heattill golden brown on both sides.Turn once so that both sides of thestuffed loaf is golden brown. Servehot with ketchup as a snack or alunch item or as a brunch item.

Stuffedfrench

toast

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COFFEE ANDWALNUT CAKE

INGREDIENTS:250 gms of maida1and a half level tsps of bakingpowder3 tbsps of instant coffee powder220 gms of brown sugar200 ml of oil200 gms of hung curd250 gms of walnuts

METHODSift together the maida, baking

powder and coffee powder. Keepthese dry ingredients in a mixing

bowl. Grind the brown sugar to apowder.

Allow it to settle. Now mix in theoil and blend again in the mixy.Now mix in the hung curd andblend again in the mixy to obtain asmooth mixture.

Now mix this wet mixture into thedry ingredients a little at a time,mixing all the time.

This should give you a smoothflowing batter. Pour this into anoiled baking dish and bake in preheated oven at 180oC for 40minutes or until a needle wheninserted in the centre comes outclean. Serve as a snack or adessert.

Coffee andwalnut cake

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STEAMED FISH FILLET PARCELS

INGREDIENTS:5-6 fillet pieces of fish – any variety

For marinade:SaltPepper powder to taste3 tbsps of lemon juice1 tsp of oregano powder for garnishing1 tbsp of mustard paste3 tbsps of mustard oil2 tbsps of hung curd

METHODMix all the ingredients for the marinade and

marinate the fish fillet with this. Leave aside for15 minutes. Cut 4 inch squares of aluminium foil.Place each marinated filled in the centre andclose from all sides to form parcels. Prepare allthe parcels using the fillets. Steam the parcels ina steamer for around 5-6 minutes. Serve hot as asnack, starter, or part of a main course.

Steamed fishfillet parcels

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GUJJIA WITH CHOCOLATEFILLING

INGREDIENTS:

For the gujjia:300 gm of maida3-4 tbsps of powdered sugar2 pinches of salt1 tsp of elaichi powder5 tbsps of gheeOil or ghee for frying the gujjia

For filling:

3 cups of freshly grated coconut2 tbsps of ghee4 tbsps of chocolate sauce5 tbsps of sugar syrupQuarter tsp of elaichi powder

METHOD

To prepare the filling: Heat theghee and fry the coconut in low firetill golden brown. Mix in the

chocolate sauce and syrup andcontinue to cook till the chocolatesauce and syrup are absorbed intothe grated coconut to obtain a drymixture to be used as a filling

Sift together the maida, sugarpowder, elaichi powder and pinchesof salt. Then add the ghee a little ata time. Add just few tsps of waterand knead into a dough. Divide intosmall portions. Roll out each portioninto small chapattis with 2-3 inchesof radius depending on the size youwant your gujjias. Place a smallportion of the filling in the centreand cover to make a half moonshaped gujjia. Prepare all thegujjias in this way and then fry onlow heat till golden brown on bothsides. If you want to drop thesegujjias into sugar syrup – you coulddo that to give the gujjias a sugarsyrup coated look which will be lightbrown in colour.

Gujjia withchocolate filling

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CHOCOLATE GAJJAR HALWAINGREDIENTS:

1 kg of grated red carrots2 kgs of full cream milk2 tbsps of elaichi powder100 gms of khoya kheer3-4 tbsps of ghee1 and a half cups of melted jagery1 cup chocolate sauce

METHOD

Bring the milk to boil in a heavy bottomed pan. Lower theheat and add the grated carrots. Boil and cook on low firetill all the milk is soaked into the carrots. Mix in the elaichipowder and the jaggery. Stir from time to time and allowthe jaggery to mix into the carrots to give it a ʻblackishcolourʼ Now mix in the chocolate sauce. Once the jaggeryand chocolate have mixed, add in the khoya and allow tomelt. Now add the ghee a little at a time and continue tocook and stir on low heat. Cook till the preparation is dry.

Serve garnished with grated carrots. The preparation willbe dark in colour.

Chocolategajjar halwa

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BLACK GRAPES AND POMEGRANATERAITA WITH RED CHILLIE TADKAINGREDIENTS:250 ml of beaten curd3 tbsps of sugar syrup100 gms of black grapes2 tbsps of pomegranate – or more

For the tadka:1 tsp of oil1/2 tsp of chilli powder

METHOD

Blend the curd and sugar syrup and place in a servingbowl. Add the grapes and pomegranate.

For the tempering: Heat the oil and add the red chilliepowder and ʻburnʼ slightly only for 5 seconds and pour overthe raita and serve. Goes with snack, meals – just anytimeof the day.

Black grapes and pomegranateraita with red chillie tadka

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CHICKEN KALI MIRCHINGREDIENTS:500 gms of chicken breast with bonesSalt1 cup of ghee2 tbsps of ginger garlic paste2 tsps of green chilli paste10-12 pepper corns1 inch piece of cinnamon3 tbsps of pepper powder1 tsp of white pepper powder3 cups of full cream milk3 tbsps of cream for garnishing1 tsp of fresh garlic - chopped

METHODHeat the ghee and add the pepper corns and the

cinnamon stick and allow to splutter. Lower the heat andadd the chicken pieces. Fry on low heat till the chickenpieces are golden brown. Now mix in the pastes and thepepper powders. Add the milk and cook the chicken onmedium heat, covering with a lid till the chicken is tender.The gravy would thicken at this stage. Keep the consistencythe way you want. Add the chopped fresh garlic. Put off theheat and lace with the cream and serve.

Chickenkali mirch

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MUTTON IN GREEN PAPAYAAND BOTTLE GOURDINGREDIENTS:1 kg of muttonSalt1 cup of oil1 tsp of haldi powder2 tbsps of coriander powder2 tsp s of roasted jeera powder1/2 tsp of garam masala

For the papaya paste:1/2 cup of grated green papaya –skin and seeds remove1 cup of bottle gourd – skinremoved and grated3 tbsps of ginger garlic paste1 tsp of green chillie paste

METHODMix all the ingredients for the

papaya paste and keep aside. Heatthe oil and fry the mutton pieces tillall the water is evaporated. Addsalt, spice and the papaya pasteand cook on low fire, stirring fromtime to time till the mutton begins tolook a golden brown. Youw ill needto cook and stir for atleast 12-14minutes. Place in a pressurecooker with 1 cup water and cooktill the mutton is tender. This can beserve with puris for breakfast orbrunch or with rotis for a meal.


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Researchers from the University of Oxford, incollaboration with the Royal College ofObstetricians and Gynaecologists, the

Universities of Leeds and Birmingham, Kings andImperial Colleges London, have published newresearch that suggests pregnant women are nomore likely to become ill with severe COVID-19than non-pregnant woman. However, the majorityof women who did become severely ill were intheir third trimester of pregnancy, emphasising theimportance of social distancing for this group.

Pregnant Women,At Greater Risk Of SevereCOVID-19Than Other Women

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The analysis also showed that older pregnantwomen, those who were overweight or obese, andpregnant women who had pre-existing medicalproblems, such as high blood pressure anddiabetes, were more likely to be admitted tohospital with the infection. Women who wereadmitted to hospital with COVID-19 in pregnancywere less likely to smoke than a group ofcomparison pregnant women.

OTHER IMPORTANT FINDINGS FROM THESTUDY INCLUDE:

One in five babies born to mothers hospitalisedwith COVID-19 were born pre-mature and wereadmitted to a neonatal unit. One in twenty babiesborn had a positive test for COVID-19, but onlyhalf of them immediately after birth.

Sixty percent of the womenadmitted to hospital have now givenbirth, while the remaining fortypercent have ongoing pregnancies.Most women have now beendischarged home. Around one in 10women required intensive care, andsadly five women have died.

Outcomes for babies born tomothers with COVID-19 were mostlygood. Although almost one in fivewere born prematurely and wereadmitted to a neonatal unit, fewerthan twenty babies were born verypremature (when their mothers wereless than 32 weeks pregnant). One intwenty babies born had a positive testfor COVID-19, but only half of thesebabies had positive test immediatelyafter birth, suggesting thattransmission of infection from motherto baby is low.

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WOMEN WHOWEREADMITTED TOHOSPITALWITH COVID-19 INPREGNANCYWERE LESSLIKELY TOSMOKE THANA GROUP OFCOMPARISONPREGNANTWOMEN.

Professor Marian Knight, Professor of Maternaland Child Population Health at the NuffieldDepartment of Population Health, University ofOxford and lead investigator for the study, said, ʻAvery small number of pregnant women do becomeseverely ill with COVID-19 and sadly somewomen have died. Our thoughts must remain withtheir families. It is concerning that more pregnantwomen from black and minority ethnic groups areadmitted with COVID-19 in pregnancy and thisneeds urgent investigation.

ʻMost pregnant women who were admitted tohospital were more than six months pregnant,which emphasises the importance of continuedsocial distancing measures in the later stages ofpregnancy. Following the current guidance aboutcareful social distancing will help preventinfection.ʼ

Edward Morris, President of the Royal Collegeof Obstetricians and Gynaecologists and anauthor on the study, said, ʻAdmission withinfection in pregnancy is also associated witholder maternal age, overweight and obesity, and

the presence of pre-existingmedical conditions.Awareness of these factors isimportant for both women andtheir doctors and midwives tohelp ensure women receiveappropriate advice aboutprevention and complicationsof COVID-19 are recognisedearly. Detailed advice andguidance for women isavailable on the RCOGwebsite.ʼ

Gill Walton, Chief Executiveof the Royal College ofMidwives, said, ʻDuring this

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IT ISCONCERNINGTHAT MOREPREGNANTWOMEN FROMBLACK ANDMINORITYETHNICGROUPS AREADMITTED WITHCOVID-19 INPREGNANCYAND THISNEEDS URGENTINVESTIGATION.

current crisis, pregnancies have continued, babieshave been born, and, throughout it all, midwiveshave been at their side, supporting and caring forthem. Itʼs absolutely vital that women continue toattend antenatal appointments to ensure that theyand their babies are well. Staying in touch withtheir maternity services team will help put anyconcerns at ease and enable them to act quicklywhen necessary.ʼ

Information for the study was collected using aresearch system called the UK ObstetricSurveillance System (UKOSS). The study wasfunded by the National Institute for HealthResearch in 2012 in preparation for the possibilityof a pandemic, to ensure we could collect accurateinformation to advise pregnant women, theirmidwives and doctors. It was activated in Marchand the information has been being used to guidethe ongoing response. This study is one of anumber of COVID-19 studies that have been givenurgent public health research status by the ChiefMedical Officer/ Deputy Chief Medical Officer forEngland.

The head of the World Health Organization(WHO) has said that as the outbreak of the coronavirus global epidemic in developing countriesincreases, officials are particularly concernedabout the inconsistent effects of the infection oncertain populations. These include women whoare “at increased risk” of dying during childbirth.

Secretary-General Tedros Adhanom Gebreyessaid in a press conference on Friday that the WHOis particularly concerned about the impact “onthose who struggle to access health services ..such as women, children and adolescents.”

Taderos said the global epidemic has severelyaffected health systems in many countries andcautioned that many women may have anincreased risk of dying during childbirth.

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STAYING INTOUCH WITHTHEIRMATERNITYSERVICESTEAM WILLHELP PUTANYCONCERNSAT EASE ANDENABLE THEMTO ACTQUICKLYWHENNECESSARY.ʼ

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Iam in the ninth month of my first pregnancy.My problem is that both my nipples are

retracted. This will cause difficulty in breastfeeding my baby. Is there any way by which Ican improve the situation before delivery?

You could begin by catching the nipplebetween your thumb and forefinger and rolling itgently forwards. Repeat this exercise daily.Alternatively there is a small plastic cupavailable that has to be put between the nippleand the bra with the mouth of the cup on thenipple.

The negative pressure so created helps drawthe nipple out in some cases. If this too fails, anipple shield can be used to breast feet yourchild. You will be taught how to sterilise and useit after delivery.

I am two months pregnant. Please tell me whatare the danger signals I have to look out for.

You will have to visit your obstetrician regularlyfor antenatal check-ups. Besides this you shouldcome to the hospital if you have:

✿ Bleeding

✿ Pain in abdomen

✿ Excessive vomiting

✿ Swelling

✿ Vaginal discharge

✿ Falls

✿ Urinary tract infection

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✿ Severe headache and visual disturbances

✿ Baby is not moving

✿ Watery fluid comes out of the vagina

✿ When you are in labour

Can I have an X-ray done during pregnancy?Though X-rays are best avoided during

pregnancy, a lot depends upon why it is neededand how beneficial it is to you at this point oftime.

The further the area to be X-rayed is from yourbaby the less likely is it to cause harm. In anycase the abdomen is protected by a lead shieldto avoid exposure of the baby to the rays.

Iam in the 8th month of my pregnancy. Mydoctor has asked me to perform Kegelʼs

exercises. How are they done and what is theuse?

Kegelʼs exercises make the pelvic floor moreelastic and strong so that the child can passthrough it comfortably.

This is that part of the body that holds thepelvic organs in place and is perforated by theurinary, vaginal and anal orifices. It is made ofmuscle and fibrous tissue,

Lie on the back with knees bent and feet flaton the floor. Squeeze the two buttock musclestogether.

While doing this press the thighs firmlytogether and pull up as though preventing thepassage of stool and urine. Count slowly fromone to 10. Relax to the same number of counts.Do this 10 time each three times a day.

You can do this exercise daily, even in thestanding position – while cooking, washing,standing in queues etc.

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Iam three months pregnant and the elders inmy family insist that I eat for two. As it is, it is

becoming difficult to eat for one on account ofthe dyspepsia and the nausea. Please tell mewhat I should do.

One needs only 300 calories extra per dayduring pregnancy (equivalent to two-and-a-halfcups of toned milk), so the question of eating fortwo does not arise, especially if the secondʻpersonʼ is microscopic to begin with and growsto a maximum size of 3-4 kilograms.

Iam one and half months pregnant. I am veryfond of gardening. It is in fact my passion and

has a calming effect on my stressed nerves.Even the nausea of pregnancy decreases whenI sit in my garden and breathe in the fresh, cleanair. Please tell me if it is advisable to continuegardening during pregnancy.

The first trimester of pregnancy is not a goodtime to indulge in your passion for gardening.Studies have shown that weed killers may causedevelopmental problems. If you are really keento continue wear rubber gloves while gardeningin areas where pesticides have been used.

Iam two months pregnant but the ultrasoundrevealed just a fluid filled sac with no baby

inside. What does this mean? Am I pregnant ornot? What should be done?

You are pregnant alright but all is not well withthe pregnancy. In all probability you have ablighted ovum. You should get the ultrasoundrepeated after two week. If no fetal node hasappeared by then the conceptus has to beaborted as it is defective. Your doctor may sendthe products of conception for karyotyping todetect chromosomal abnormalities if any.

– Dr Amrinder Kaur Bajaj, MD.

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Evolution of wellness

Wellness is a word opposite to illness.Wellness means being good in healthboth physically and mentally. People

have been concerned about their wellness fromancient times. In the past people used tobalance well with physical, mental and spiritualwellness while todayʼs trend is centred mostly onphysical wellness.

DEFINING WELLNESSThere might be different views on wellness. It

is a conscious self- directed evolving process toachieve our ultimate potential. It is a multi-directional process of wellbeing consisting oflifestyle, mental, physical and environmentalwellness. It is a positive and active processthrough which we can be aware of and makegood choices of successful existence.

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IN THE PASTPEOPLE USEDTO BALANCEWELL WITHPHYSICAL,MENTAL ANDSPIRITUALWELLNESSWHILE TODAYʼSTREND ISCENTREDMOSTLY ONPHYSICALWELLNESS.

Itʼs primordeal. By Shree Prakash

Evolution of wellness: In different eras andcultures wellness might have been seen indifferent ways.

Ayurveda wellness (3000-1500) BC: Taught abalance between body, mind and spirit.

Chinese tradition (3000-2000 BC): This is alsoone of the oldest systems consisting of wellnessby herbal, acupuncture, acupressure, gi going,Tai chi etc.

Greek system (500 BC): This was possibly thefirst system by Greek physician Hippocrates whofocussed on prevention of disease rather thantreating it.

Roman system 50 BC: This also was like theGreek system focused on the prevention ofsickness by proper diet and lifestyle.

1790 Homoeopathy: Medicineʼs made fromnatural things to treat diseases.

1860 Hydropathy: Treatment with water.

1890 Chiropractic: Spinal manipulation to treatvertebral problems.

18th-19th century: Modernwellness thought evolved in Europeand the USA and a number ofhealthcare systems grew withalternative methods likehomoeopathy, naturopathy,osteopathy, Chiropathy etc.Around 1790s German physicianHahnemann developed homoeo-pathic medicines from natural

THIS ALSOWAS LIKETHE GREEKSYSTEMFOCUSEDON THEPREVENTIONOF SICKNESSBY PROPERDIET ANDLIFESTYLE.

things for the body's self-healing.

Allopathic: The present mostcommon system, allopath,was given by Hahnemannmeaning other than disease.This was also seen as heroicmedicines due to application ofextreme measures. This isknown as Western medicine,biomedicine, evidence-basedmedicines. Medicines for manydiseases were found andcomplicated surgeries done.

20th century: This era saw a huge spread ofwellness. Medicines for many diseases werefound and surgery done by improvedtechniques.

WELLNESS GOES GLOBALU.S doctors Travis, Ardell and Hettler created

a comprehensive model of wellness anddeveloped new assessment tools. They arecalled fathers of modern wellness and theyestablished first wellness center of the world.

By 1980 wellness was not confined to onlytreatment of diseases but it started focusing onother things also – wellness at workplace,wellness at home, wellness in sports. As a resulta lot of wellness programmes were born -fitness, spa, sauna, gyms, celebrity wellness etc– thus bringing wellness to the mainstream andwellness idea spread globally.

21st century - The turning point: The conceptof wellness became global. The approach tofitness, diet, well-being migrated worldwide and

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THIS ERASAW A HUGESPREAD OFWELLNESS.MEDICINESFOR MANYDISEASESWERE FOUNDANDSURGERYDONE BYIMPROVEDTECHNIQUES.

in this process dramatic changes took place inevery industry-food, beverages, travel, sports,entertainment.

OTHER MEANS OF WELLNESSThere are also faith or religion- based wellness

feeling like Reiki and Christian faith healingwhich has no scientific proof but still somepeople believe and follow. Some might havefaith in supernatural electromagnetic therapytoo. Naturopathy believes in naturopathicmedicines which say the body can heal itselfusing supernatural vital energy. Major employersare adopting and promoting wellnessprogrammes at the workplace. Medical and self-help wellness promoters like Deepak Chopraand Andrew Weil became known to millions.Wellness has become a subject talked about athome, in media, at medical institutions and thegovernment level.

APPLICATION OF WELLNESSBy application of wellness a person may be

aware of how he can contribute to healthy livingof not only himself but to the environment and

society too. He learns a systemof belief and values and merits ofphysical activities, healthyhabits, vitality, self esteem, selfcontrol and also how to takeself-care when there is amedical need. Application ofwellness is useful in mosthuman endeavour – at home, insports, at the workplace. It is aguide to optimal living.Workplace wellness: Severalorganisations are promoting

NATUROPATHY BELIEVES INNATUROPATHIC MEDICINESWHICH SAYTHE BODYCAN HEALITSELF USINGSUPERNATURAL VITALENERGY.

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wellness amongst their employees bypromoting wellness measures like dailyworkouts for a few minutes and periodicallyholding workshops/seminars on wellnesstechniques including nutritious diet, meditation,exercises etc.

Obesity: Every department, organisation,insurer, government is concerned with it as it isthe main source of many chronic diseases.

Alcohol and smoking: Smoking and alcoholalso contribute or/and aggravate many diseases. Wellness is taking care of it too and cessationof smoking / tobacco in any form or drinking isshowing results.

Size of global wellness industry: As a result ofrising trend in wellness global wellness industriesclaim to be work $ 3.4 trillions – almost threetimes that of pharmaceutical industries. We

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Q A&Child Challenges

My one-and a-half-year-old daughter is saidto have delayed milestones by her doctor.

For example she never crawled and is justbeginning to walk with help. Besides, there wasa delay in the eruption of her teeth and she hasjust now begun to speak words like ʻmammaʼand ʻpapaʼ. I am a case of hypothyroidism butmy daughter has been tested negative.

Kindly let me know from the data given abovewhether my daughter is growing normally or not.If not, what measures, if any need to be taken?

Your daughter is certainly lagging behindnormal children in her milestones.Hypothyroidism could be one major reason,amenable to treatment but, as you say, herthyroid status is normal so that is one causethat has been ruled out. Other causes could beadvanced maternal age resulting in the DownʼsSyndrome which is a form of cerebral palsyleading to varying degrees of delayedmilestones; difficult/complicated delivery thatcould lead to decreased oxygen supply anddamage to the brain. Severe infections in themother during pregnancy or to the babyimmediately after delivery can also lead toretarded milestones. Nutritional deficienciescould also be a cause.

It is very important to get your daughterevaluated thoroughly as regards herdevelopmental status and slot the degree ofimpairment that could vary from mild to severe.Follow the doctorʼs instructions carefully andtake her for regular follow-ups so that

SEVEREINFECTIONS INTHE MOTHERDURINGPREGNANCYOR TO THEBABYIMMEDIATELYAFTERDELIVERY CANALSO LEAD TORETARDEDMILESTONES.

appropriate measures can be taken at the righttime.

Ihave a three-years-old son. I am unable todecide whether to go for another child or not.

The recent trend is to go for only a single child.Generally I have observed that non-workingwomen go in for a second child while workingwomen opt for only one child. Please let meknow if being an only child will affect his mentaldevelopment, though he does have a fewcousins. Please give me the merits and demeritsof each situation and guide me as you think fit.

Having no children, one child or two is purely amatter of individual choice. Each has its meritsand demerits. It is generally believed that anonly child tends to become self centered anddoes not learn the art of sharing – love, toys andeven his parents. Parents tend to give in to thedemands of an only child as they have themeans and inclination to do so, not having tosave for another. Not having known negativefeelings like rejection, sibling rivalry, not havingto work hard or fight for anything in life, he is ill-equipped to deal with the ups and downs ofadulthood. After all, how long can parents form aprotective cover around their loved one? Also,an only child, specially of working parents in anuclear family tends to be lonely and could growup to be an introvert. On the other hand if youare living in a joint family, cousins, uncles, auntsand grandparents more than make up for theabsence of siblings.

Another thing to remember is that it is good tohave brothers and sisters when one is grown upand oneʼs parents are dead and gone. One canshare oneʼs problems with siblings. They areever ready with advice, emotional/financialsupport in times of difficulties for, all said and

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done, blood is thicker than water. On the otherhand we have seen brothers fighting court casesover ancestral properties and their families noteven on speaking terms with each other.

Financial constraints should not be the onlydeciding factor. The lower middle class and thepoor have the maximum number of children.Moreover giving a child love, care, attention andtime is more important that all the materialcomforts you can give to him. If you are aworking woman climbing aggressively up to thepinnacle of your career; if you think you cannotdevote enough time to your child, if youʼre not upto the ordeal of another delivery, do not rush intohaving another child just because everyone elseis advising you to do so. After all, you are theone who will have to bring him up. Moreover notall single child family children grow up to beoverbearing selfish adults used to having theirown way.

My seven years old daughter is very smartbut does not want to study. If I scold her

she takes it lightly. She gets good marks but Ifeel that she could do better. She says that shewants to stand first in class but makes no effortto do so. How should I tackle her?

You daughter is intelligent, that is why she getsgood marks without trying too hard. Do not forceher to study against her wishes. Do not imposeyour expectations on her. Let her do the bestshe can and encourage her when she does well.Donʼt make an issue out of her standing first forit will put her under unnecessary pressure andundermine her confidence. She is still too youngto be fiercely competitive. Just be firm enough tosee that she puts in regular hours of study anddoes not neglect her homework.

– Dr Amrinder Bajaj, MD.

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DO NOTMPOSE YOUREXPECTATIONSON HER. LETHER DO THEBEST SHE CANANDENCOURAGEHER WHEN SHEDOES WELL.

How to ProtectYour Skin this SummerAs it heals up. By Pushpa Bhatia

The skin is the first to bear the brunt of thesummer heat, leading to problems like suntan, sun burn, skin sensitivity, rashes and

eruptions. Try these home remedies, that can helpyou save your skin:

✿ For removing sun tan, scrub your face with thispack. Add a tea spoon of milk to two spoons ofoatmeal and add two tablespoons of tomato juice,some orange pulp and a few pinches of poppyseeds. Blend the mixture together so that it forms athick density like a face pack. Apply it all over yourface and neck, leave till it dries and scrub it offwhile rinsing. The tomato and orange extracts willbrighten your skin tone, while the milk will add glow.

✿ To give glowing effect to tired skin, milk maskdoes the trick. Just apply milk mixed with glycerinall over your face. Relax for 15 minutes and rinse

TO GIVEGLOWINGEFFECT TOTIRED SKIN,MILK MASKDOES THETRICK. JUSTAPPLY MILKMIXED WITHGLYCERIN ALLOVER YOURFACE.

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APPLYBUTTER MILKAFTER A LOTOF SUNEXPOSURE.THIS WILL NOTONLYPROVIDERELIEF TOTHE BURNINGSKIN, BUTWILL LIGHTENTHE TAN ASCURD HASNATURALBLEACHINGPROPERTIES.

with water. The treatment softens, rejuvenates andrestores a natural PH balance, thus protecting theskin from the negative effect of the sun.

✿ Apply butter milk after a lot of sun exposure. Thiswill not only provide relief to the burning skin, but willlighten the tan as curd has natural bleachingproperties.

✿ Neem leaves are also a great ingredient. Simmer ahandful of Neem leaves on a very low fire in four cupsof water for one hour. leave it overnight. Next morning,strain the water and make a paste of the leaves. Thewater can be used to rinse the face. Neem containsorganic sulphur compounds, with versatile healingactions that are of particular benefit to the skin.

✿ Application of fresh aloe Vera gel to the skinhelps to soothe the heal sunburn. Aloe vera containszinc, which is actually anti-inflammatory.

✿ Watermelon juice is also a good skin toner andrelieves summer dryness and softens the skin.

✿ Papaya pulp can be applied on the skin like amask, washing it off after 20 minutes. Papaya containsenzymes and helps to remove dead skin cells. Addcurd or lemon juice to the pulp to remove tan.

✿ Fruits like banana, apple, papaya, orange can bemixed together and applied on the face. Keep it onfor 20 to 30-minutes. Papaya helps to cleanse deadskin cells. Banana tightens the skin.

✿ Mix eight drops of lemon juice with two tablespoonsof aloe vera juice. Apply all over the neck and backbefore bed. Aloe vera is an antiseptic and soothingskin balm. Lemon juice opens the sweat glands and isa natural anti-bacterial.

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TRY THESE NATURAL SUMMER SOOTHERS:As the weather gets hotter and the environment

more parched, your liver begins to heat up. Thisalong with excessive perspiration, blocks yoursweat glands and clogs your pores with oil anddust. The problem worsens if you wear tight clothesor synthetic fabric. Once you're attacked withprickly heat, life can become hell. So here are afew home remedies that will help you keep yourbody cool in summer.

✿ Avoid eggs, chicken, fish, red meats, garlic,garam masala, fried foods and over-spiced foodssuch as chole bhature and bhajiya.

✿ Drink juice made of aloe -vera, wheat grass,bottle gourd, mint & am la. eat rice, barley andcurd. Drink chach as well as coconut water. It willcool you down.

✿ Consume rose-based foods – such as gulkandand rose sherbets – as rose is known to have heat-reducing properties.

✿ Avoid using petroleum jelly, heavy creamsand foundation because your sweat glands arealready clogged. Instead apply a cooling pack witha paste of sandalwood, khuskhus seeds and rosewater. This will reduce the itchiness and sootheyour skin.

✿ Consume herbs such as shatavari and triphala.(About 1/3 of a teaspoon to be consumed twice aday in powder form). Shatavari reduces stress.Triphala removes excess pitta via the colon.

CONSUMEROSE-BASEDFOODS –SUCH ASGULKAND ANDROSESHERBETS –AS ROSE ISKNOWN TOHAVE HEAT-REDUCINGPROPERTIES.

Iattempted suicide three times within the spanof less than two weeks. It all happened

because of my mother. It was my mumʼs birthdaywhen my brothers and I didnʼt respond to agroup text my sister sent out the previous nightabout what to do in celebration of her birthday.We all had reasons for not replying back, (work,was asleep, hated group texts, etc.) But thisdidnʼt go well with my mom. She spent hoursyelling at me and ONLY me about how hurt shefelt, how betrayed she was, how none of us trulyloved her. When my brothers would enter theroom she would speak to them calmly, but thencontinued acting as if I was the scum of theearth! She eventually calmed down (notapologizing AT ALL) for her behavior and got asurprise party (that I was forced to go to by mydad, who told her about the text in the firstplace). Even now, this hurts deeply. She mademe feel worthless, ungrateful, and like a burdento her. I wish I could tell her about this incidentso much, to show her that her constant childishoverreactions (yes, this WASNʼT an isolatedincident) almost ended the life of her youngestdaughter. And still continues to haunt saiddaughter half a year later.

The best way to deal with it is to communicatewith your mother. Have a conversation with herand tell her how you feel about her and thethings she say. Your mother is your well-wisherand so she would not do anything that may hurtyou.

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Q A&My Family, My Friends and Me...

Istole money from my dad last year. Around`30000. He was visiting as he lives abroad. He

regularly asked me to buy things for him onlineto take home with him. Fair enough. Anyonewho knows him knows he has a favourite child,my older sibling. Itʼs not something he keptsecret so I grew up being used to it.

One night I heard him talking to someone onthe phone. He was telling them how my siblingwas his favourite and how he loved him more,would do anything for him no matter what thecost. He explained how he gives them anythingthey want, mostly money, and is always there tohelp them.

Something snapped. I thought about all theyears I had struggled and asked him for helponly to be told that he didnʼt have the money orcouldnʼt help me. Iʼd done nothing but love himthe way a child should. Iʼd shunned my ownmother for years because of the lies he told meabout her. He retired and went abroad when Iwas 10. He never helped my mother financiallyonce heʼd pissed off. (My mother and I have onlyrecently managed to start having a decentrelationship and she has told me the truth abouteverything!)..anyway, after the few onlinepurchases Iʼd made for him, his card detailswere stored on my PayPal and that was that.Once heʼd gone back home, I started buyinganything and everything I could. It started out aslittle cheap things, food, clothes. Then bigger,more expensive things for my home. It was easy– and I was so angry. After a few months, thecard payments kept getting declined so Istopped. A couple weeks later, he phoned measking if I knew anything about it. I denied it.Then I didnʼt hear from him again. Instead Iheard from the favourite child who startedthreatening me with the police and such. I never

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ONE NIGHT IHEARD HIMTALKING TOSOMEONE ONTHE PHONE.HE WASTELLINGTHEM HOWMY SIBLINGWAS HISFAVOURITEAND HOW HELOVED HIMMORE,WOULD DOANYTHINGFOR HIM NOMATTERWHAT THECOST.

admitted it or denied it. Just agreed to pay it backmonthly. Which I did/am doing. Do I feel bad?No. Which is awful. I just feel like he deserved it.I feel shitty in general for stealing because I knowthat is not who I am! Iʼve still got around Rs10000to pay back. I quit paying a couple months agoas money is tight. I heard today that heʼs back inthe country. I guess thatʼs why this is at theforefront of my mind. I might get the book handedto me soon knowing him and my sibling. My onlyregret would be if this messed up my life now. Ihave a kid and things have been going prettygreat recently. I have no idea what to do.

What you did was definitely wrong. First youneed to pay off all the taken money and then donot repeat this stealing. Your kid looks upon youand you will not want him to learn such thingsfrom you.

Iʼm 30, still living with my parents for economicreasons. We have a good relationship. All my

life they have been supportive and loving, withthe ups and downs. We arenʼt perfect, we argueand squabble and make up and move on.

It is absolutely aright if you are living with yourparents. Every family has ups and downs butdealing with it and moving on is what a perfectfamily is. It is normal to have issues in life. Justgo with the flow.

I am depressed. I hate being a mom. I also hatebeing a stay at home mom too!

It is natural to feel that way. Basically, youdonʼt hate your kid, its just that you get boreddoing the same thing every day. Indulge yourselfin a hobby or join a club. Do what makes youhappy and liberated. When your kid will grow upa little, join a job and you will feel blessed forbeing a working woman.

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An apt definition. By Ritu Kamra Kumar

Home is Wherethe Heart is

Standing in the twilight of life, memories crowdupon us a like tide, of the home with woodenbeam ceiling, rough stone floor and their green

fences, where we stayed together, embracing oneanother in all the weathers. Yes, the home was inNilokheri, a nondescript place in Haryana, rented ona princely sum where my father was a professor inthe Government Polytechnic and my mother, aheadmistress in school. But my story is not aboutʻhouseʼ but ʻhomeʼ where we were at home. Threesides of a triangle we sisters were, always on anadventurous spree. Now I feel, how time flies withoutdecree! Then from Nilokheri, we shifted to Ambala. InAmbala, we moved from our rented house toanother, till we had our own home, an emblem of ouridentity. Moving from one house to another wasalways a miserable affair.

Then I got married and travelled back and forthbetween parental home and marital home which isalways a wrench in a womanʼs life. So graduallydefinition of home got expanded. ʻIn-laws homeʼ, ʻmyhomeʼ and then ʻour homeʼ in Yamuna Nagar. Ithought finally, I have arrived at a place where Iʼll restas long as I live. It was ʻour homeʼ. But how wrong Iwas! Because, soon, my son went for higher studies,then to join his job in another city. The definition of

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THREESIDES OF ATRIANGLE WESISTERSWERE,ALWAYS ONANADVENTUROUS SPREE.NOW I FEEL,HOW TIMEFLIESWITHOUTDECREE!

home expanded beyond my city and I wanted to beeverywhere soon. They say home is where the heartis – but now I realise my heart is in not in one place.What does home mean for me now? Is home theplace in Nilokheri where I was born? Is it Ambalawhere I studied and spaces teemed with our heartfeltwhoops, fun and frolic? Is it Yamuna Nagar where Ihave settled peacefully? Is it Delhi where my sonlives? Is it where I am happiest or where I am mostemotionally connected? Does home means beingwith people whom I love most, can depend on most?

Now I have an epiphany ʻhomeʼ that keeps onexpanding and is a comprehensive term to include allwe love and care for. We leave bits of our hearts withall those we touch with love and passion. So beingʻat homeʼ is more a metaphor than a physicalconstruct. Home is where you feel safe, secure,happy in harmony with the ambience and dear oneswith no fear of rejection or being judged. So you canfeel ʻat homeʼ or ʻhomelessʼ irrespective of where youare physically. Being at home is being connected tothe place and people, aura and audacity, love andlaughter – i.e. to be mindful. Maya Angelou rightlysaid, ʻThe ache for a home lives in all of us, the saferplace where we can go as we are and not to bequestioned.” That is why I am at home when I am inmy college where I have been teaching since 1987,just as a painter is at home with brush in hand, or awriter with pen and pad. Parents are at home withtheir children residing in foreign lands. The differencebetween a ʻhouseʼ and ʻhomeʼ can be best explainedby an anecdote my father once told me. He saidwhen they came to India from Pakistan afterpartition, they did not have a place to call home butas a kid whenever someone sympathised with themʻfor not having homeʼ he used to reply naively “Wejust donʼt have a house to put it into!” Well, saidRober Frost “Home is the place where when youhave to go there, they have to take you in.”

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HOME ISWHERE YOUFEEL SAFE,SECURE,HAPPY INHARMONYWITH THEAMBIENCEAND DEARONES WITHNO FEAR OFREJECTIONOR BEINGJUDGED.

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Maximise health by minimising salt, is thecall of the modern health conscious

generation. Please tell us how we can reducethe consumption of salt in our daily life?

It is true that we find the tastes such as sweetand salty highly attractive. At the same time thisis also true that the new era is of mindful eating.Reduced intake of salt, sugar and fat is the needof the hour.

Salt is the main source of sodium in our diet.Reduce salt quantity in cooking. From lesser toleast; enjoy salads, cut fruits, cooked vegetablesor curd in their natural taste; use of soy sauce,salad dressings, ketchup, pickles and papadsmoderately; baking soda, baking powder alsocontain sodium; avoid adding salt whenpreparing chapatti or rice.

Hypertension or high blood pressure is one ofthe leading health problems caused byexcessive consumption of salt- sodium. Tata saltlite is refined, iodised and potassium enriched,and also proven to be effective in providing 15per cent lower sodium than normal salt.

Is there a particular time to eat various typesof foods?

Yes, all types of foods if eaten at a particulartime give us the maximum benefits. Forexample, food items containing carbohydratesare relaxing, so should be eaten preferably inthe evening. To remain alert throughout the day,

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eat protein-rich food items during lunch. Alwaystry to have an early dinner. The most importantthing is to eat little and eat often.

What are the advantages of nut butters over thedairy based butter?

The advantage with nut butters is that theyʼrepacked with protein, and the fat content isusually the good kind.

The options for nut butters are many: soy nutbutter; almond butter; cashew butter; hazelnutbutter; pistachio butter and peanut butter. Eachvariety offers something a little different, and allare beneficial in their own way.

Youʼre much better off eating nut buttersandwiches vs something like a prime rib steak.Although nut butters are very nutritious,moderation is crucial. One should consume nutbutters as one would regular butter, but though itis a healthy alternative, but is still a fatty food.

What is almond butter, and can it be made athome?

Almond butter is a food paste made fromgrinding almonds into a nut butter. It is packedwith magnesium.

Almond butter may be either raw or roastedand “crunchy” or “smooth”. Homemade almondbutter is healthy, affordable and even moredelicious than store bought.

Almond butter needs just one ingredient –almonds. Thereʼs no added oil required for thisrecipe, as the almonds will release their naturaloils when crushed.

Use sparingly – nuts, even in raw form, areonly to be had a handful a day. Almond butter isbest enjoyed with fruits, as a dessert, or in asmoothie.

– Savita Bhargava.

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Is It Love OrJust Sex?Here’s How to KnowThe big question. By Mallika Chugh

The phase of attraction is alwaysconfusing whether the man you lovereally loves you back and if he does

whether he just wants to have a casualfling with you. For different couples ittakes a different time period to name their“relationship”.

There are a few tips which can helpguide you better for the roller- coaster ride

of your relationship:Body language:

People in love tend totouch each other. Themain thing is that one hasto observe the way thepartner is touching. Aperson can express hisadmiration toward youwithout always trying totouch you intimately.

One can even see if theperson is bending or justtouching your lower back.This can be assumed asa sense of support andlove from your partner.

However, there is a redalert if your partner only tries to be close to youintimately because then he is definitely there forsex only.

You enjoy things together: The best way fora successful relationship is mental compatibility.You both will have similar interests and wouldenjoy similar things like going out together,watching movies and partying. This wouldreduce the effort intake and would allow you tohave fun naturally and casually.

However, if you feel your partner is justobliging you with events even when does notreally enjoy them that could raise a little alarmthat he is there for sexual pleasures only as hedoesnʼt want to disappoint you which would stopthe sexual desires from being fulfilled.

His family and friends know about you: Thefact that his family and friends know about youmake it a serious relationship as no one would

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THE BESTWAY FOR ASUCCESSFULRELATIONSHIPIS MENTALCOMPATIBILITY.YOU BOTHWILL HAVESIMILARINTERESTSAND WOULDENJOY SIMILARTHINGS LIKEGOING OUTTOGETHER.

like to create a mess within theirfamily and friends circle abouttheir partner till the time they areserious about you. He will onlymake you meet family andfriends if he truly loves you andplans a future with you becausehe wants you to be comfortablewith the family and friends.

Staying over does not meansex: Initially all couples areinvolved physically to exploretheir physical compatibility witheach other. Later, once therelationship is more matured anddeveloped, staying together doesnot necessarily mean sex forboth of you. However, if yourpartner tends to just stay over forsex then there is somethinggrossly wrong with yourrelationship and once should seethe bleak future.

Plan your future as “we”: When couples tendto be serious they tend to plan their future as wellrather than having individualistic future goals. Notto confuse this with the fact that if one partner hashis own personal ambitions towards his career iswrong. However, he should be consideratetowards your goals and desires as well.

He or she takes time out for you: If anindividual takes out time especially for you thendefinitely he does love you a lot. He has aspecial place for you in his heart and that can beone of the major determinants as well if he islooking for a serious relationship with you.

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