Texting.Sexting.Chatting.: Managing Technology in LGB Relationships_Blumer
Transcript of Texting.Sexting.Chatting.: Managing Technology in LGB Relationships_Blumer
Lesbian, gay, and bisexual-identifying (LGB) individuals and couples have a longer and more involved history of Internet-based technological engagement when compared to their heterosexual-identifying counterparts. For instance, LGB folks tend to meet partners online more frequently, and make purchases online more often. Yet how to manage technologies in one’s relationships is rarely addressed. The presenter will share recent theoretical and research-based information regarding how best to manage technology in one’s relationship, how to attend to individual and couple visibility management in online environments, and provide relevant case examples and resources to participants.
Lesbian, gay, & bisexual (LGB)-identifying
folks have history that is longer & of more
varied use than heterosexual
counterparts
LGB more use of Internet for shopping,
dating, and forming relationships (Riese,
2010)
In samples, between 61-70% of same-gender couples report meeting online, whereas 22-30% of different-gender couples (Rosenfeld & Thomas, 2010)
For both different- and same-gender couples, who identify as interreligious, more likely to have met online (22% of couples) than same-religion counterparts (15% of couples) (Rosenfeld & Thomas, 2010)
Interracial relationship frequency data comparing same- and different-gender couples shows interraciality is more common in same-gender couplings, because meet more frequently online and via more diverse avenues (Patterson, 2005)
Ways to connect like never before
Long distance relationships easier to
maintain (Hertlein, 2008)
Builds intimacy in relationships more quickly
(Hertlein & Blumer, 2013)
Relationships develop based on common
interests rather than appearance (Henline &
Harris, 2006)
Availability of partners (Patterson, 2005)
Visibility management (Blumer, Bergdall, &
Ullman, 2014)
Time
Accountability
Communication difficulties
Distance-promoting
Work-life spillover
Suspicion & jealousy
Internet addiction
Internet infidelity
Problematic online gaming
Any element related to technology that influences the structure and process of relationships are considered
Each element can leave our relationships vulnerable to technological harm if left unaddressed
If adequately addressed, the elements can help foster technological exchanges that are characterized by mutual respect, care, and ethical exchanges
• Daily and unlimited access/opportunity from many locations–homes, workplaces, restaurants, hospitals, and smartphones (Cooper, 2002)
• Work/School-life spillover (Campbell & Ling, 2009; Chelsey, 2005)
61 LGB college participants on
technological accessibility:
• 30% = very accessible
• 60% = pretty accessible
• 13% = not very accessible
• 0% = not at all accessible
61 LGB college participants on
smartphone affordability:
• 33% = very affordable
• 58% = affordable
• 8% = unaffordable
• 0% = very unaffordable
• “Enhances one’s
ability to promote
any chosen identity.”
(Hertlein & Sendak,
2007, p. 4)
• Problems when the
user decides to hide
pertinent aspects of
self in a relationship
(Cooper, 2002)
• People accept & participate in use for various functions, places, & points in time once deemed inappropriate in society (i.e. cell phone use at the dinner table) (King, 1999)
How acceptable is sexting your
partner?
How acceptable is it to send
graphic self-imagery to a partner?
To someone who is not your
partner?
Acceptability
of…
Not at all Low degree Somewhat High degree
sexting within
relationship
15% 13% 30% 41%
sending
graphic image
of self to
partner
9% 15% 24% 50%
sending
graphic image
to non-partner
43% 33% 15% 7%
showing a non-
partner a
graphic image
33% 32% 24% 9%
• Internet approximates or
simulates offline, real-world
situations (i.e. showing support
and comfort via Facebook
comments instead of through
in-person interactions) (Ross &
Kauth, 2002; Tikkanen & Ross,
2003)
• Internet provides greater opportunity for
one to act a certain way in “real time”
but have a different persona when it
comes to online behavior and activities
(Hertlein & Stevenson, 2010)
• Difficulty of defining online behaviors as problematic
• Definitions, interpretations, contracts (Hertlein & Stevenson, 2010)
Increase awareness and mindfulness around
technology
Think of technology as if it were a member of
one’s relationship(s)
If you can’t talk about technology with
someone, you probably shouldn’t be using it with
them
Talk about and address the ecological elements
Contracting (and re-contracting) in relationships
around technology
Establish clear definitions, rules, roles, &
boundaries around what is problematic
and acceptable technology use
Attend to factors that influence technology
usage (e.g., gender, age, generation,
sexual orientation, race, ethnic
background, able-bodiedness, economics,
nationality, etc.)
Model by Papalia et al. (2007), which
synthesizes Cass (1979), Coleman (1972), &
Troiden (1989) models of identity
development in L/G folks
Stage Focus Ages
First Awareness of same-sex
attraction
8-11
Second Same-sex sexual
behaviors
12-14
Third Identification as L/G 15-18
Fourth Disclosure to others 17-19
Fifth Development of same-
sex romantic
relationships
18-20
• Involves the experience of the:
Individuals
Couple formation
Couple Maintenance
Couple Conclusion
All of which exists in dominant societal
context & not necessarily uni-directional
When LBG folks meet & form, they move from individual visibility management to couple visibility management (Iwasaki & Ristock, 2007)
Visibility management refers to the degree to which the individual &/or couple is “out” in varied contexts
LGB-identifying folks may use different terminology (e.g., hiding, passing, being discrete, not being out, etc.)
Involves the who, what, when, where, why & how in terms of couple’s level of public visibility
Visibility management is affected by the individual participants, as well as the larger dominant societal context
Invisibility management refers to the degree to which society (& individuals within it) validates, recognizes, acknowledges, accepts, etc. LGB individuals & couples
If in a place where there is a high degree of invisibility being practiced, it forces LGB folks to engage in ongoing visibility management
If a society (& individuals within it) practices less invisibility management individuals & couples able to be more free, visible, supported and encourages meeting, formation, etc. of relationships (Blumer & Green, 2011; Green & Blumer, 2013)
When the LGB person is non-partnered, people can say they are supportive without having to see the sexual orientation of the person
Sexual orientation becomes more visible through coupling
Invisibility management shields people from seeing LGB couples and that places couples in a position to have to practice visibility management
The practicing of invisibility and visibility management vary over time and space
How is visibility management
different/similar for lesbian, gay, and/or
bisexual individuals and/or couples?
How are invisibility management
practices by dominant majority
different/similar towards lesbian, gay,
and/or bisexual individuals and/or
couples? What about invisibility
management practices from within the
LGB communities?
Sample:
• 61 total participants
• Bisexual-identifying (n = 33, 54%), & same-sex oriented-identifying (n = 28, 46%)
• Female-identifying (n = 38, 62%), male-identifying (n = 23, 38%), & transgender-identifying (n = 0, 0%)
• Age range of 18-41, mean of 24.67 years
• Caucasian (n = 34, 55.7%), Hispanic (n = 16, 26.2%), Black (n = 7, 11.5%), American Indian/Alaskan Native (n = 2, 3.3%), Chinese (n = 2, 3.3%), Filipino (n = 6, 9.8%), Japanese (n = 2, 3.3%), Hawaiian (n = 1, 1.6%), Samoan (n = 1, 1.16%), & multi (n = 3, 4.8%)
• Relationship with 1 person (n = 34, 55.73%, relationship with more than 1 person (n = 5, 8.1%), & not in a relationship (n = 22, 36%)
Procedure:
• Institutional Review Board (IRB) approval obtained
• Convenience sample of undergraduate students in large, metropolitan university setting in southwestern United States
• Participants completed an online survey hosted by Qualtrics
Measures:
• Survey divided into 5 sections: 1) demographics, 2) Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Identity Scale (Mohr & Fassinger, 2000), 3) Ecological Elements Questionnaire (Hertlein & Blumer, 2013), 4) Family Adaptability and Cohesion Scale-IV (Olson, 2011), and 4) Same-Sexting Practices Questionnaire (Blumer, 2013).
• Being reported: demographics, same-sexting practices with quantitative items on 6-point Likert scale where 1 = very infrequently & 6 = very frequently
Results:
• Most identify sexual orientation online (n = 32, 62.75%) & most frequently on Facebook (n = 23, 37.7%)
• Majority have infrequent (n = 33, 70.21%) negative reactions or harassment based on sexual or gender orientation minority status from people interact with online
• Facebook most frequent site identified being out about partnered relationship status (n = 21, 34.4%)
• Most reported in terms of e-visibility management in people they partner with—their being out online or offline was extremely unimportant (n = 23, 48.94% & n = 21, 44.68%, respectively)
• Importance of knowing a person’s sexual orientation when online, bulk reported either very unimportant (n = 18, 39.13%) or very important (n = 13, 28.26%)
• Importance of knowing a person’s gender orientation when online, bulk reported either very unimportant (n = 16, 34.78%) or very important (n = 13, 28.26%)
Discussion:
• LGB individuals negotiate process of being “out” offline; with greater use of online mediums it has become increasingly important to understand how navigate levels of “outness” online
• Individuals practicing e-visibility management in selves, yet mixed results in terms of knowing/caring about partners or strangers e-visibility management
• Reportedly more important for partners to be “out” offline than online
• Individuals in relationship may be in different places in LGB identity development & thus management of visibility (Blumer & Green, 2011)
• Research shows increased frequency of cyberbullying for LGB individuals (Blumenfeld & Cooper, 2010), yet results indicate extremely low levels of negative interactions—possible with current social media structures & control, LGB folks avoiding negative interactions by selectively choosing who is a part of their online community
Smartphone applications can be
used in:
• meeting people/dating
• negotiating ecological
elements/strengthening
relationships
• managing visibility & e-
visibility/support-focused
SNSs (Gudelunas, 2012), cyber
community support groups (Gauthier &
Chaudoir, 2004), apps, & websites aimed
at empowering and mobilizing LGB folks
have helped people feel more
supported, socially connected &
satisfied, & have provided opportunities
for safe places to explore one’s sexual
and gender orientations (Elderton &
Jones, 2011)
Sample of 7,184 gay & bisexual-identifying men in LA LGBT Center tested for sexually transmitted infections (STIs) between 2011-2013 (Beymer et al., 2014)
Grindr and SCRUFF linked to increased risk for some STIs:
• those who used to meet up were 25% more likely to have gonorrhea, & 37% more likely to have chlamydia than those who first met partners in person
• no difference in rate of HIV or syphilis
LGB use and history with technology
and new media
Ecological elements to consider in
managing technology in relationships
Attention to individual and couple
visibility & e-visibility management
App resources available
University of Wisconsin-Stout
Professional Development Grant:
Just In Time Faculty-Student Grant
Julie A. Miller, MSW, LGBTQ
Program Coordinator
Megan VandenBosch, MFT MS
Student & Graduate Assistant
Dr. Markie L. C. Blumer:
https://uwstout.academia.edu/MarkieBlumer
• @Markie_Blumer