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    http://www.theborneopost.com/2012/02/23/listen-to-your-teens-parents-advised/

    Listen to your teens, parents advisedPosted on February 23, 2012, Thursday KUCHING: Teenage runaway cases are making the news in the state. The

    teenagers are mostly females with relationships with so-called boyfriends.The problem is best tackled at home through healthy positive relationships withparents, according to Welfare, Women and Family Development Minister DatukFatimah Abdullah.Fatimah advised parents and guardians not to neglect their childrens emotionalneeds but spend quality time with them.If we study the profile and background of teenage runaways, often they bel ongto the vulnerable group that craves love and attention, she said. The minister said teenage relationship with peers must be monitored by theirfamilies to ensure they cultivate friendships which were healthy, positive andconducted with respect.

    First look at the type of relationship these teenagers are having with their peers.Parents and family must monitor it closely and intervene when something is notright, she said. We need to make the partners of runaway teenagers accountable for whathappened. It is obvious they have no respect for the relationship, their partnersand parents if they have the capacity to talk their so-called girlfriends orboyfriends into running away, she said. PKR women vice-president Voon Shiak Ni also believes the issue could besolved through education and awareness at home and in school.She said schools need to conduct moral education and parents strive to be betterlisteners for their children at home.One of the most important contributing factors to eloping is lack of cohesivenessin the family, and the advent of internet services which provide the opportunity forunhealthy relationships to flourish among teenagers. She said lonely young people had the tendency to seek solace through theInternet and Facebook due to lack of emotional nurturing by working parents anda hectic lifestyle.My advice to parents is to allocate quality time to listen to their children for thehome is a place to contain their emotional needs, Voon said. This month alone newspapers are featuring stories on missing individuals, mostlyyoung teenagers aged 13 to 15 years old.On Feb 10 and 11, photos of Form 1 student Shandy Mikai from Sibu and IvyEvaniee Andrew, 15, from SMK Penrissen No.1 appeared in the papers with theirdistraught parents pleading for them to come home.Emily Celestine, 13, went missing the second time this year, the first time on Jan15 to elope with her boyfriend.Rachael Moh, 14, from RPR Batu Kawa failed to return home on Monday.Rachaels friends told her father that she was driven away in a grey PeroduaKancil by her boyfriend, surnamed Chen.Some teenagers risk their lives and limbs just for a night out with so-called lovers.

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    On Jan 28 was a story of a 16-year-old girl who leaped from the balcony of herparents thi rd floor flat to meet her boyfriend for a night out.The teenager was abetted by her 14-year-old sister to sneak out of their flat atJalan Ban Hock without their parents knowledge.

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    http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2012/3/23/nation/10971721&sec=nation

    Friday March 23, 2012

    Another missing girl found with herboyfriend

    JERANTUT: Yet another teenage girl was feared to have gone missing only to be discovered with her

    boyfriend.

    Nornabila Mat Yaacob, 15, of Taman Koperasi here, was found by her family at about 10pm on

    Wednesday.

    They spotted her at a sundry shop in Taman Tas, Kuantan before bringing her home.

    OCPD Supt Azid Ismail said initial investigations revealed that the girl had voluntarily followed her

    boyfriend to Kuantan the second time the girl had run away from home.

    Based on our information, her boyfriend, in his mid -20s, is already married, he said .

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    Her mother Norazlina Osman, 47, said she was thankful that nothing untoward had happened to her

    daughter.

    On Wednesday, Norazlina sought help to trace the whereabouts of Nornabila who had gone to a shop

    nearby to buy a top-up card for her mobile phone. She failed to return.

    In a similar case, 15-year-old Siti Nur Fatihah Mahadi went missing on the same day as Nornabila. Siti

    Nur Fatihah was allegedly abducted in Taman Tas the same area where Nornabila was found while on

    her way to top up her mobile phone credit.

    Police later found out that she had actually run away to be with her boyfriend, aged 26, in Kampung

    Merchong, Pekan.

    The Star/Asia News Network

    Saturday, Jun 02, 2012

    http://www.asiaone.com/News/AsiaOne%2BNews/Malaysia/Story/A1Story20120602-350073.html

    A man named "Boy" not only convinced his teenage girlfriend to run away from home butalso tricked her family into believing that he did not know her whereabouts.

    He even offered to help them find her, reported Harian Metro.

    Businesswoman Sri Astutik, 43, said her 15-year-old daughter Yenny Nurjanaj Abdullah lefttheir home in Taman Kempas Baru, Johor Baru, last month after sending her mother a textmessage asking if she could join a dance class.

    "I felt uneasy about allowing her to join the class as she had been behaving in a peculiarmanner lately," Astutik said.

    "So, I replied saying that I will decide after discussing the matter with her father," she said.

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    "Yenny was at home that morning when I went to the market. But when I returned, she haddisappeared.

    "She took along her identification card and handphone.

    "A motorcycle and a black Honda EX5 with the licence number JHB 835 are also missing."

    "We asked Boy if he knew where she was and he pretended not to know that she had runaway," a worried Astutik said.

    However, "Boy" had begun to reject her calls, leading Astutik to believe that he hassomething to do with her daughter's disappearance.

    Astutik said Yenny, a Form Three student at SMK Sri Rahmat Tampoi, had been behaving

    strangely ever since she befriended "Boy", who lives in Taman Universiti.

    Astutik, who lodged a police report on Thursday, is asking anyone with information onYenny's whereabouts to contact her at 010-6633863 or 016-7616944.

    Make teens aware that running off is risky

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    I BELIEVE the reason many teenagers run away from home is that they dislike their home

    environment ( Another missing girl found with her boyfriend The Star , March 23).

    They leave home for what they think are greener pastures. There was also a report of a boy who

    strayed from home. He thought his home was boring, which led him to explore outside on his own.

    As they reach puberty, teens become more rebellious and yearn for freedom. They wander outside

    seeking freedom and may end up meeting unscrupulous people.

    They are then conned by the sweet words of people who in reality are wolves in sheeps clothing.

    These people also use social networking sites to trick naive teenagers, who can end up being victims

    of human trafficking syndicates.

    Some of these teenagers will be used as drug mules and things will turn ugly if they are caught.

    Teenage girls can end up in the sex industry.

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    Most are unaware of the trouble and hurt they cause their families in their bid for freedom.

    Teenagers lie and concoct stories to escape from home. Those who come from broken families have a

    stronger tendency to leave home.

    Parents who are busy earning a living do not have time to monitor their children, leaving them to

    harbour thoughts of straying in the belief that their parents do not love and care for them.

    They will then turn to outsiders for comfort. Encouraged by strangers, they will leave home and will be

    cheated by them. Some teenagers even extorted money from their parents, pretending to have been

    kidnapped.

    I believed the authorities can prevent such cases from happening by providing proper education in

    schools to spread awareness.

    Family Day is also a good way to foster ties between the parents and their children and to ensure

    harmony within the family.

    Society can lend a helping hand by nurturing teenagers so that they will understand the serious

    consequences of running away from home.

    Prevention is better than cure, so start by educating them from young to erase any thoughts of straying.

    YANG CHIEN FEI,

    Ampang, Selangor.

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    Old problem which needs new approach View Workflow

    Runaway teens

    WEDNESDAY, APRIL 11, 2012 - 14:40

    by Faizal Nor Izham

    WONG: Working parents have little time tomonitor children

    PETALING JAYA: The problem of teensrebelling and running away from home is anage-old one, but one that is increasing inMalaysia.From a passing phenomenon, it has sinceevolved into a worrying problem, one that isenough to raise alarm bells within the policeforce.

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    Since 2008, the figures have been steadily rising;with an average of two people reported missingeveryday.

    Federal CID director Comm Datuk Seri MohdBakri Zinin was recently quoted as saying thatfrom 2008 to 2011, 3,226 of the 7,662 reportedwere teens aged between 14 to 17 years.

    From this number, 1,202 were girls.

    Amid the number of reasons given by the teensfor their runaway acts, two stand out: Runningaway with their lovers; as well as escapingrestrictive parents.

    Family-based NGOs and parenting

    psychologists believe that the problems, thoughnot new, require a more modern solution.

    Protect and Save The Children directorMadeleine Yong said teen problems will alwaysexist and so prevention is the best solution.

    "If parents do not create healthy relationships bylistening or building a rapport with them from ayoung age, they are likely to rebel by seekingattention elsewhere," she said.

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    "It is a retaliation response, which usually stemsfrom long-term family problems. Therefore, ifparents only approach them during adolescence,

    it is often too late."

    She said teenagers today are alreadyexperimenting with sex, regardless of whetherthe older generation accepts this fact or not.

    "Kids nowadays have their own minds," she said.

    "Many are intelligent and well-read, and oftenend up doing their own thing if they are notoffered guidance. Simply sending them tomotivational camps just doesn't work."

    Parental neglect may additionally result inemotionally dysfunctional relationships for theirchildren and even physical abuse, she said.

    "The changes needed in approaching teensdepends on everyone else around them," shesaid. "If parents continue to condemn theirbehaviour with rigid punishments and withoutproper education, the situation will worsen.

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    YONG: Teen problem always exist, so

    prevention is the solution"They need accessible information andcounselling. I feel schools should collaboratemore with NGOs in this regard."

    Childline Malaysia project director P.H. Wong

    said broken families are a major contributingfactor.

    "In most families nowadays, both parents areworking and therefore have little time to monitortheir children," she told The Malay Mail.

    "In fact, Childline often receives calls fromchildren who claim to be lonely and have no-oneto talk to," she said. "Divorce rates have alsobeen on the rise since 2001, with about 300,000

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    reported. This is about 20 per cent of Malaysianmarriages altogether."

    She said this leaves teenagers vulnerable, asthey often find school difficult and cannot findthe right kind of support to cope. As a result,they often look to other means of receivingguidance, such as through the Internet or themedia.

    Wong stressed that parents ought to play a roleby regulating their online activities, as well asintegrating their children with school andcommunity activities from a young age.

    Meanwhile, Malaysian Association ofPsychotherapy president Dr. Edward Chan saidteenagers often react this way because theyhave an emotional need to be independent.

    "This kind of rebellion is actually healthy, as itdemonstrates emotional maturity," he said.

    "If they are not given the opportunity to make

    their own life decisions, they cannot hope tobuild healthy relationships with others."

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    He said this often explains why their adultrelationships fail later on, as they have not beenallowed to be their own person and grow.

    "Parents should learn not to control teenagersthe way they do when they're children," he said."They need to learn how to influence them ratherthan use force.

    "By doing so, they will learn to comply with their

    parents purely out of respect, which needs to beearned beforehand."

    Cases of missing teens reported since 2008

    FLASHBACK: Our report on the missing Shah Alam teenage girl last month

    IN mid-August 2008, five teenagers from Johor Baru were reported to have run away from home beforebeing reunited with their parents a week later.

    Xiu Mei, 18, together with her friends Li Zhen, 16, and Wan Jing, 14, returned to their Johor Baru homesafter they had gone to Kuala Lumpur with two others, known only as Yu, 16, and Wen Li.

    They parted ways later on - three of them made their way to Malacca, while the other two to Penang.

    While Yu, Wen Li, Li Zhen and Wan Jing went straight home upon reaching Johor Baru, Xiu Mei spent thenight at Li Zhens ho use, as she was afraid of being reprimanded by her family.

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    With only RM300 altogether during their trip, they resorted to selling off Li Zhens mobile phone for RM450 torent a room in Malacca.

    Xiu Mei said she had run away because she resented her stepfather for not approving of her friends.

    In Kuala Lumpur, fifteen-year-old Wong Seng Wei ran away from home for two weeks, telling his family heleft because he has lost interest in his studies.

    He had gone missing on July 10, 2010, and had allegedly worked at a restaurant where he was givenlodging and RM15 in daily wages.

    He worked there for 12 days before the restaurant owner read about his case in newspaper reports. Heproceeded to alert MCA public complaints and service department chief Datuk Seri Michael Chong.

    After he left home, a security guard had found Seng Wei sleeping at a bus stop outside Kota Raya mall. He

    later told him that he was looking for a job.

    The guard brought the boy to the restaurant nearby, where the boy lied to the owner that he fled from homebecause loan sharks were after the family.

    In late September 2010, three runaway 14-year-old girls from Perak were found in a flat in Paya Terubong,Penang after being reported missing since Sept 11.

    They were found with two youths, aged 19 and 20, who were said to be boyfriends of two of the girls.

    Police believed the three girls a pair of twins and their friend could have been raped. The boys weredetained by police and the case was investigated under Section 376 of the Penal Code for statutory rape.

    It was learnt that the girls had admitted to having sex with their boyfriends even before visiting Penang.

    It was previously reported that the three girls had failed to return home after visiting friends on the secondday of Hari Raya that year. They had left their Kampar homes at 11am.

    Investigations showed that the five had boarded an express bus to Penang on Sept 14 and had stayed at abudget hotel in Jalan Pintal Tali for three nights before moving to the flat, which belong to one of their friends.

    On March 11 this year, a 14-year-old Shah Alam girl, reported missing by her family in Section 18 since Jan30, was rescued by Thai police at a train station in Bangkok.

    The girl then contacted her mother on March 12, informing her that she and five Myanmar nationals hadbeen abducted by a group of people and sent to Thailand for an international prostitution syndicate.

    However, they managed to escape, which resulted in their rescue at the train station.

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    The case was investigated by Thai police, with assistance from the Malaysian Embassy in Bangkok, underkidnapping with the intention of prostitution. The girl had told Shah Alam police she was abducted in a whitevan from Section 9.

    Meanwhile, the embassy planned to investigate how the group succeeded in bringing a minor past the

    international border.

    Kuala Lumpur Social Development, Crime Prevention and Anti-Drug Voluntary Organisation presidentJeevan S. Ramamurthy said parents should play a role by monitoring their children's safety, as they may belured by syndicates offering lucrative job offers that are actually traps for them to become prostitutes.

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    Teen Runaways are onthe increase. Many

    teens think that thegrass is greener on theother side.

    They are confused andfollowing the crowd of peers making

    poor choices. Teens want to escape the"rules of a household" and we asparents, become their number oneenemy. They feel that they are fearlessand can prove they can survive without

    their parents and our rules. Rules areput in place for a reason; we love ourchildren and want them to grow up withdignity and respect we try to instill inthem. Their flight plan, in some ways,is a cry for attention. Many timesrunaways are back home shortly,however there are other situations thatcan be more serious. This is not to say

    The information that you provideto us is kept confidential.

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    any child that runs away is not serious,but when this becomes a habit and is

    their way of rebelling, a parent needs tointervene.

    So many times we hear how "theirfriend's parents" allow a much latercurfew or are more lenient, and you are

    the worst parents in the world. This isvery common and the parent feelshelpless, hopeless and alone. It is allpart of the manipulation the teens putus through. With their unappreciative

    thoughts of us, they will turn to thisdestructive behavior, which, at times,results in them leaving the home.

    Some teens go to a friend's house orrelative they believe they can trust and

    make up stories about their home life.This is very common, a parent has tosuffer the pain and humiliation that itcauses to compound it with the need to

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    get your child help that they need. Ifyou fear your child is at risk of running,

    the lines of communication have to beopen. We understand this can bedifficult, however if possible needs to beapproached in a positive manner. Teenhelp starts with communication.

    If you feel this has escalated to whereyou cannot control them, it may be timefor placement and possibly having yourchild escorted. Please know that theescorts (transports) are all licensed and

    very well trained in removing childrenfrom their home into safe programs.These escorts are also trainedcounselors that will talk to your child allthe way, and your child will end his/hertrip with a new friend and a betterunderstanding of why their parents hadto resort to this measure.

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    Helpful Hint if your child has runawayand you are using all your local

    resources - offer a cash reward to theirfriends privately, of course promisingtheir anonymity and hopefully someonewill know your child's whereabouts.

    Having a teen runaway is very

    frightening and it can bring you to yourwits end. Try to remain positive andhopeful and do all you can to helpunderstand why your child is acting outthis way. These are times when parents

    need to seek help for themselves. Don'tbe ashamed to reach out to others. Weare all about parents helping parents.

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