Post on 28-Jan-2023
FACULTY OF EDUCATION AND LANGUAGE
OUMH 1303
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A) Written Assignment
Good morning ladies and gentlemen. I am………………., The founder
of the Brainy Montessori. I am deeply honoured to be given the
opportunity to talk about what it takes to be a good parent. I
will be focusing on the characteristics of a good parent.
Being a good parent is one of the toughest jobs in the
world. It can be one of the most rewarding and fulfilling
experiences of your life, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy.
Children nowadays are exposed to modern technology which provides
them with unlimited information. They are easily influenced by
the behaviour of the people they see such as artists or friends
and family members and often try to imitate them. This is the
reason why parents needs to demonstrate good characteristic
because parents are the closest person to the children while they
are growing up and what the children learns from watching them
will last a lifetime. Although parenting tactics change from
person to person, some essential characteristics remain.
What makes a good parent? What qualities should they have?
What would they say to their children? What do they do to be a
good parent? These are the questions we will be asking ourselves
when someone ask us “what makes a good parents?” Here I will
lists a few characteristics that a good parent should have. These
characteristics are essential to parents in order to be a good
parent to their children.
Loving is one of the most important characteristic of a good
parent. Providing a child with a loving and secure environment is
the main goal of all parents. Children need to know they are
loved, no matter what the circumstances. Good parents demonstrate
unconditional love by addressing the behaviour and not the
character of the child when applying correction. However, they
express forgiveness when their child shows remorse for a misdeed
and this reflects good character. As the child grows up, the
child develops these traits and build a solid core, thus it
reflects the love and kindness within the home.
Respect is another characteristic of a good parent. It is
essential for parents to show respect to their child even while
disciplining them. Good parents know that it is possible for them
to be respectful and also firm at the same time. For instance
when children make mistakes, parents should punish them but they
make sure that it’s not in front of the child’s friends as this
will humiliate the child and shows that the parent doesn’t
respect the child’s feeling. Parents might find it very difficult
to control their emotion and not let their anger out on the child
right away but all the effort from the parents will be worthy of
the result. This is because children learn from watching their
parent’s behavior. Parents that show respect to their children
will help to instill a healthy self respect behavior in their
children. The child will grow up to be a respectful person
towards others and also to their parent.
As a good parent, being empathy is one of the most crucial
characteristic. Children need someone who listens to them,
someone who understand their situations and also their feelings.
Being empathy allows the parent to have open communications with
their children. The children are able to share their thought,
their problem and also their feelings with their parent. Parent
should put themselves in their children situation and try to
guide them through their problem instead of trying to solve it
without even understanding their child feelings. The ability of
being an empathic listener to their children helps to build a
strong relationship between parent and children. A good parent
treats their child with kindness and respect, giving praise and
encouragement when they have the opportunity. They are able to
express interest in their children and involve themselves in
their life. They create an atmosphere in which their children
come to them with a problem, however large or small.
Trust is a characteristic that a good parent has. A good
parent knows when to trust their children to make choices. Parent
instills a level of trust to allow children to make their own
decision and take consequences from the decision that they make.
By trusting a child to make an age appropriate decision, parent
empowers the child and helps the child to become responsible. It
provides the children with opportunity to make their own decision
and take responsibility for the choices they’ve made. As the
children grow up they gain experience from the choices they make
and become more mature in making decision.
An experienced parent knows when their children are old
enough to make decisions for themselves; they encourage them to
make the decisions. For instance, they allowed their children to
choose which extra - curricular activities they want to do or
what friends they want to play with. Unless the parent thinks the
activity is very dangerous, or the playmate is a very bad
influence, good parents trust their children to figure things out
themselves. By trusting the children to make decisions for them
they are able to learn that their actions have consequences that
are good or bad. This helps them to become a good decision makers
and problem solvers so that they are prepared for independence
and adulthood.
A good parent has good leadership characteristic. Parents
play the role of a leader in a family. A child usually modeled
the leadership shown by the parent. This is why it is very
important for the parents to have good leadership quality so the
children can learn from them. It keeps them healthy and safe.
Parent shows leadership by being firm when it is necessary and
instilling rules to be obeyed by the children even when they
don’t agree with it. An experienced parent does not back off
their decision even when they are emotionally threatened by the
child.
Good parents with leadership characteristic convey the
importance of these traits everyday in their life. The fairness
and equality displayed reveal consistency and reliability. As
their child matures, the child surrounds themselves with the
traits and values that they’ve learned in their youth. Therefore
it develops a solid core within the child so they can relate to
these qualities during their adolescence and become a balanced
and realistic adult.
The next characteristic is courageous. Good parent shows
courage when they instill values, rules and limits to their
children. The decision that the parent make might not be agreed
on by the children but still the parent stand by their decision
and the children has to obey it. This is what courage is all
about. Good parent also show their courage when they allow their
children to make choices and take consequences from the choices
they’ve made. A courageous parent allows their children to try
their choices and face the consequences as this is the process
for the children to learn to grow.
Gratitude is another characteristic of a good parent. They
show it by praising their child for their accomplishment. Good
parent appreciate their child as they are and accept the present
moment with open minds. By showing gratitude towards the
children, parents help to build the child’s strength. Parents
have more positive influence in their child’s life. Being
gratitude makes the parents more approachable to the children. A
good parent that shows gratitude towards their children gives the
children self - confidence, it empowered the children to be
independent in life and adventurous to be out in the world on
their own.
Gratitude also helps to build up child’s self esteem. It is
another essential characteristic of being a good parent. Poor
self esteem leads to problem behaviours and difficulties with the
child’s relationship. Good parents raise confident children, by
avoiding solely focusing on their negative behaviours. If a child
is behaving in a positive way, they praise their child. They
boost their child self - image by making a big deal when their
child accomplishes a task.
A good parent is also an understanding parent. This
characteristic is the hardest to develop in parent. But a parent
who has them is generally a good parent. It is the most difficult
characteristic in parent due to the fact that parent has to
embrace their parenting job with enthusiasm, compassion, a sense
of humour and a clear memory of what it’s like to be a child. A
good parent spends time to understand their child’s personality.
Even with a hectic work schedule, a good parent does everything
to be there for the important moments in their children’s lives,
from their birthdays to their graduation day. Good parents
understand that children grow fast and that they’ll be on their
own before they know it. Good parents are there in the important
days of their children lives.
They spend time with their children and careful not to make
them feel as if they are forced to spend time with their parents.
Good parents spend time with each of their child individually.
They divide their time equally if they have more than one child.
They also listen to their children and respect what they want to
do with their life. They attend their children school functions
or do homework with them and attend parental meeting to
understand how their children are doing in school from their
teacher.
Fair is another characteristic of a good parent. They
understand that each child is individual and unique. Good parent
accept the differences in each child and instill the desire to
pursue their interests and dreams. They never compare their
children with others especially siblings as this gives them the
idea that they are never good enough in their parents eyes.
Parents are able to help their children improve their behaviour,
by talking about meeting their goals on their own terms instead
of telling them to act like their sister or neighbor.
Good parent never compare one child to another as it will
cause a child to develop a rivalry with his or her sibling. Good
parents know how to nurture a loving relationship between their
children and not a competitive one. Good parent also avoid
favouritism. When their children are quarrelling, they don’t
choose sides, they stand to be fair and neutral.
A healthy lifestyle is also one of the characteristic of a
good parent. They encourage positive and healthy behaviour to
their children without harping on it too much or making it seem
like they are forcing their children to eat or act in a certain
way. They let the children come to these conclusions on their own
while helping them see the meaning and importance of a healthy
life. One way parents should encourage the children to exercise
as a healthy lifestyle is by getting them to play sport early on
life, so they find a passion which is also healthy.
A parent who likes to give candies as rewards to their
children may create a bad habit to the child. This is because
once they get older; some may feel they should reward themselves
with candies which can lead to obesity. Good parents start them
out with healthier snacks while they are young. Instead of
candies, a good parent gives their children fruits or biscuits.
A good parent knows that the eating habits that their
children learn as they are younger are the ones they continue to
have so they would never make their child finish their plate if
they say they are not hungry as this can continue throughout
their lives, causing them to finish no matter what portion are on
their plate.
As a conclusion, raising children is not always easy. Parent
sometimes tends to overreact. They sometimes forget that their
children are in the process of growing. As the children grow,
communication tends to break down, rules are not carefully and
consistently enforced, and parents wonder if they’re going to
make it as a family.
Good parents acquire characteristics such as loving,
respect, empathy, trust, leadership, courage, gratitude,
understanding, fair and healthy lifestyle. These characteristic
helps to improve the relationship between parents and children,
as many problems will continue to exist during the time when the
children are growing up. When applied correctly, these
characteristic will help parents and children get along better by
creating a happier environment at home or wherever parents and
children are together; and should difficulties arise, the chances
are great that problems will be handled in a positive,
appropriate way.
Parents should accept the fact that risks are involved in
raising children, and these risks increase with age. When working
with infants and children, the risks tend to be low while the
probabilities for success are high. Instead of being discouraged
by this, parents must be ready for it and be prepared to adapt
their parenting behaviors accordingly. As time goes by, parents
should learn to use a better way to understand and interact with
their children. When that is done, parents and their children
will get along much better.
By applying the characteristic we discussed here, good
parents are able to create a "proactive" environment in the home.
A proactive environment is a positive, supportive, reinforcing
environment that is under parental control. Parents can't expect
their home to be pleasant if they are unpleasant and out of
control. Creating a happy mood in the home is a responsibility of
good parents. By first controlling the parents’ behaviors, then
by effectively applying selected characteristic, parents can have
a remarkable effect on improving the quality of life at home.
Raising children is one of the difficult at the same time
most rewarding jobs in the world while some parents claim to be
ready to face the challenges of parenting; many also find out
that no precautionary measures can completely prepare anyone for
parenthood. There are many things that are still to be learned as
parents guide their child into adulthood. There are many
parenting skills and characteristics that can be learned from
online resources but most of the time, parents have to learn it
themselves to prove if these things could really be applicable to
their situation with their kids.
The characteristics discussed in here are all intended to
help parents to create a kind of proactive environment in the
home, and to learn what the characteristics of a good parent are.
If these characteristics are applied correctly and used
consistently and effectively, that is exactly what will happen.
Their children might not behave in every respect and in every
situation exactly as the parents want them to, but at least the
environment in their home will be under the parents "proactive
control", and parent will learned a better way, a wonderful way,
to raise children. Parents will acquire valuable parenting
skills.
Power Point Slides
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